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From Widowhood to Love Again: Renee Rouleau on Dating Smarter After Loss · The Iconic Midlife with Roxy Manning

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  We
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  all
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  have
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  to
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  learn
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  lessons,
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  right?
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  And
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  I
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  just
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  happen
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  to
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  learn
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  a
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  ton
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  of
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  lessons
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  in
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  a
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  short
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  period
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  of
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  time.
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  When
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  did
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  you
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  know
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  it
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  was
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  right
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  to
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  date
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  again?
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  Like,
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  what
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  was
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  the
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  thing
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  that
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  set
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  you
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  on
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  that
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  path?
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  I
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  believe
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  the
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  love
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  of
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  your
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  life
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  is
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  either
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  currently
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  in
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  your
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  contacts
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  or
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  somebody
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  in
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  your
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  contacts
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  knows
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  the
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  love
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  of
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  your
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  life.
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  Use
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  your
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  network.
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  Use
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  your
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  network.
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  This
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  is
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  like
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  a
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  breaking
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  story.
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  She
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  has
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  never
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  talked
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  about
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  this
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  on
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  a
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  podcast
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  before
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  any
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  in
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  any
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  media.
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  So
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  we.
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  We're
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  getting
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  it
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  first,
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  y'.
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  All.
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  So
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  it's
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  really
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  a
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  special
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  treat.
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  Just
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  like
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  I
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  did
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  with
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  my
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  dating
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  life.
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  I
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  got
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  on
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  YouTube
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  and
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  I
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  studied,
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  I
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  studied,
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  I
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  became
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  an
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  expert
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  at
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  it
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  and
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  I
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  got
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  a
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  return
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  on
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  that
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  investment.
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  We're
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  going
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  to
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  talk
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  about
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  some
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  personal
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  stuff
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  because
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  she
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  has
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  led
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  just
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  as
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  full
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  of
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  a
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  life
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  not
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  in
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  the
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  office
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  as
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  in
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  the
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  office.
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  If
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  I
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  had
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  seen
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  him
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  on
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  a
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  dating
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  app,
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  I
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  would
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  have
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  been
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  like,
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  no,
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  thanks.
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  And
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  we
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  were
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  together
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  22
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  years.
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  And
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  so
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  you
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  have
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  to
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  give
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  people
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  an
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  opportunity.
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  You
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  get
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  so
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  caught
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  up
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  with,
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  like,
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  what
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  is
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  that
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  person
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  gonna
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  think?
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  Move
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  on.
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  Like,
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  go
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  like,
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  have
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  fun.
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  You
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  know,
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  with
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  death,
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  you
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  always
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  have
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  to
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  remember
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  that
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  you
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  honor
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  them
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  by
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  keep
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  going.
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  It's
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  a
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  new
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  chapter.
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  Have
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  a
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  happy
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  life.
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  Go
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  date
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  again.
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  Go
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  do
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  all
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  the
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  things.
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  Like,
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  that's
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  how
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  you
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  honor
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  them.
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  What
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  happens
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  when
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  a
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  skincare
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  mogul
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  who's
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  built
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  a
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  multi
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  million
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  dollar
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  business
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  and
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  transform
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  the
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  faces
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  of
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  celebrities
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  finds
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  herself
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  single
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  after
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  losing
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  the
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  love
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  of
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  her
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  life?
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  Today,
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  Rene
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  Rouleau
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  returns
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  to
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  share
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  her
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  deeply
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  personal
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  and
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  unbelievably
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  wild
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  journey
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  through
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  grief,
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  betrayal
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  and
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  reinvention.
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  She
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  opens
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  up
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  about
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  losing
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  her
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  husband,
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  dating
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  again
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  after
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  22
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  years
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  and
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  all
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  the
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  ups
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  and
• 1:41
  downs
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  of
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  the
• 1:42
  dating
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  world.
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  But
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  this
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  isn't
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  a
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  story
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  of
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  defeat.
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  It
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  a
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  story
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  of
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  strategy.
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  Because
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  Renee
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  treated
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  dating
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  like
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  a
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  business
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  and
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  it
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  worked.
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  Welcome
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  back
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  to
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  the
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  iconic
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  midlife.
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  Renee,
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  how's
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  it
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  going?
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  Hello.
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  I'm
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  great.
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  How
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  are
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  you?
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  I
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  am
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  great.
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  I
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  am
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  so
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  excited
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  that
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  we
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  are
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  doing
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  a
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  part
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  two,
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  because
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  I
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  know
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  there's
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  been
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  so
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  much
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  going
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  on
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  in
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  your
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  life
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  and
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  I
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  want
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  all
• 2:08
  the
• 2:08
  listeners
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  to
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  know
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  and
• 2:09
  the
• 2:09
  viewers.
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  Renee
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  is
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  actually.
• 2:11
  This
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  is
• 2:11
  like
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  a
• 2:12
  breaking
• 2:12
  story.
• 2:12
  She
• 2:13
  has
• 2:13
  never
• 2:13
  talked
• 2:13
  about
• 2:13
  this
• 2:14
  on
• 2:14
  a
• 2:14
  podcast
• 2:14
  before
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  any
• 2:15
  in
• 2:15
  any
• 2:16
  media.
• 2:16
  So
• 2:17
  we're
• 2:17
  getting
• 2:17
  it
• 2:17
  first,
• 2:17
  y'.
• 2:18
  All.
• 2:18
  Also,
• 2:18
  it's
• 2:19
  really
• 2:19
  a
• 2:19
  special
• 2:19
  treat
• 2:21
  and
• 2:21
  if
• 2:21
  you.
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  Yeah.
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  So
• 2:22
  excited.
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  And
• 2:23
  if
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  you
• 2:23
  haven't
• 2:24
  listened
• 2:24
  to
• 2:24
  the
• 2:24
  first
• 2:24
  episode
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  that
• 2:25
  Renee
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  did,
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  go
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  back
• 2:26
  and
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  listen
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  to
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  her
• 2:27
  first
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  episode,
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  which
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  was
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  last
• 2:29
  week,
• 2:29
  where
• 2:29
  she
• 2:30
  talks
• 2:30
  about
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  so
• 2:31
  Much
• 2:31
  great
• 2:32
  stuff
• 2:32
  about
• 2:32
  skin
• 2:33
  care.
• 2:33
  She
• 2:33
  is
• 2:33
  a
• 2:33
  skincare
• 2:34
  guru,
• 2:34
  as
• 2:35
  most
• 2:35
  of
• 2:35
  you
• 2:35
  know.
• 2:36
  So
• 2:37
  she
• 2:37
  gave
• 2:37
  us
• 2:37
  the
• 2:37
  best
• 2:38
  skincare
• 2:38
  tips.
• 2:38
  And
• 2:39
  now
• 2:39
  we're
• 2:39
  talking
• 2:40
  about
• 2:40
  some
• 2:40
  personal
• 2:41
  stuff
• 2:41
  because
• 2:42
  she
• 2:42
  has
• 2:43
  led
• 2:43
  just
• 2:43
  as
• 2:43
  full
• 2:43
  of
• 2:44
  a
• 2:44
  life
• 2:44
  not
• 2:44
  in
• 2:45
  the
• 2:45
  office
• 2:45
  as
• 2:46
  in
• 2:46
  the
• 2:46
  office.
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  So,
• 2:47
  Renee,
• 2:48
  last
• 2:48
  week,
• 2:48
  you
• 2:49
  know,
• 2:49
  we
• 2:49
  touched
• 2:49
  a
• 2:49
  little,
• 2:50
  little
• 2:50
  bit
• 2:50
  on
• 2:51
  your
• 2:51
  sweet
• 2:52
  late
• 2:52
  husband,
• 2:53
  Florian,
• 2:53
  who
• 2:54
  I
• 2:54
  know
• 2:55
  you
• 2:55
  were
• 2:56
  very,
• 2:56
  you
• 2:56
  know,
• 2:56
  open
• 2:57
  about
• 2:57
  sharing,
• 2:57
  you
• 2:58
  know,
• 2:58
  what
• 2:58
  you
• 2:58
  guys
• 2:58
  were
• 2:58
  going
• 2:59
  through
• 2:59
  at
• 2:59
  the
• 2:59
  time,
• 2:59
  which
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  he
• 3:00
  was
• 3:01
  diagnosed
• 3:02
  with,
• 3:03
  was
• 3:03
  aggressive
• 3:04
  cancer.
• 3:05
  Correct?
• 3:06
  Yeah.
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  So
• 3:07
  it's
• 3:07
  a
• 3:07
  bile
• 3:08
  duct
• 3:08
  cancer,
• 3:09
  which
• 3:09
  is
• 3:09
  a
• 3:10
  lesser
• 3:10
  known,
• 3:11
  basically
• 3:11
  pancreatic
• 3:12
  cancer.
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  And
• 3:13
  for
• 3:13
  those
• 3:13
  of
• 3:13
  you
• 3:14
  familiar
• 3:14
  with
• 3:14
  that,
• 3:15
  by
• 3:15
  the
• 3:15
  time
• 3:16
  you
• 3:16
  have
• 3:16
  symptoms,
• 3:17
  you're
• 3:17
  already
• 3:17
  in
• 3:17
  stage
• 3:18
  four.
• 3:19
  And
• 3:20
  so
• 3:20
  it's
• 3:20
  just
• 3:20
  a
• 3:21
  matter
• 3:21
  of
• 3:21
  how
• 3:21
  quickly,
• 3:23
  you
• 3:23
  know,
• 3:23
  it's
• 3:23
  gonna
• 3:24
  kind
• 3:24
  of
• 3:24
  take
• 3:24
  you
• 3:25
  down.
• 3:25
  Very
• 3:25
  few
• 3:25
  people
• 3:27
  will
• 3:27
  survive
• 3:28
  it
• 3:28
  after
• 3:28
  a
• 3:29
  year.
• 3:29
  So
• 3:30
  in
• 3:30
  his
• 3:30
  case,
• 3:30
  it
• 3:31
  was
• 3:32
  six
• 3:32
  months.
• 3:33
  Oh,
• 3:33
  gosh.
• 3:34
  Really
• 3:34
  fast.
• 3:35
  Yeah.
• 3:35
  How
• 3:35
  do
• 3:35
  you
• 3:36
  even,
• 3:36
  like,
• 3:36
  process
• 3:36
  that?
• 3:37
  Because
• 3:37
  I
• 3:37
  would
• 3:37
  imagine,
• 3:38
  you
• 3:38
  know,
• 3:38
  you're
• 3:38
  just
• 3:38
  getting
• 3:39
  hit
• 3:39
  with
• 3:39
  this
• 3:39
  information,
• 3:40
  like,
• 3:40
  but
• 3:41
  at
• 3:41
  the
• 3:41
  same
• 3:41
  time,
• 3:41
  you're
• 3:41
  having
• 3:41
  to,
• 3:42
  like,
• 3:42
  caregive
• 3:42
  and
• 3:43
  do
• 3:43
  all
• 3:44
  the
• 3:44
  things
• 3:44
  and
• 3:44
  run
• 3:45
  the
• 3:45
  business.
• 3:46
  Yeah.
• 3:46
  He
• 3:47
  was
• 3:47
  the
• 3:47
  COO
• 3:47
  of
• 3:48
  my
• 3:48
  company
• 3:48
  as
• 3:48
  well.
• 3:49
  I
• 3:49
  mean,
• 3:49
  life
• 3:49
  just
• 3:50
  can't
• 3:51
  plant,
• 3:52
  you
• 3:52
  know,
• 3:52
  just
• 3:52
  prepare
• 3:53
  you
• 3:53
  for
• 3:53
  one
• 3:54
  day.
• 3:54
  He
• 3:54
  has,
• 3:54
  you
• 3:55
  know,
• 3:55
  a
• 3:55
  sharp
• 3:55
  pain
• 3:56
  in
• 3:56
  his
• 3:56
  stomach,
• 3:57
  and
• 3:57
  within
• 3:58
  five
• 3:58
  days,
• 3:59
  it
• 3:59
  was
• 3:59
  unbearable.
• 4:01
  Go
• 4:01
  to
• 4:01
  the
• 4:01
  hospital,
• 4:01
  you
• 4:02
  know,
• 4:02
  go
• 4:02
  to
• 4:02
  the
• 4:02
  emergency
• 4:03
  room,
• 4:04
  run
• 4:04
  all
• 4:04
  the
• 4:04
  tests
• 4:05
  to
• 4:05
  find
• 4:05
  out
• 4:05
  a
• 4:06
  week
• 4:06
  later
• 4:06
  that,
• 4:07
  pack
• 4:07
  your
• 4:07
  bags,
• 4:07
  you
• 4:08
  have
• 4:08
  six
• 4:08
  months
• 4:08
  to
• 4:08
  live.
• 4:09
  So,
• 4:10
  I
• 4:10
  mean,
• 4:10
  it's
• 4:10
  just
• 4:11
  like.
• 4:11
  I
• 4:11
  mean,
• 4:12
  it
• 4:12
  just.
• 4:12
  I.
• 4:13
  I
• 4:13
  don't
• 4:13
  even
• 4:13
  know.
• 4:14
  I
• 4:14
  don't
• 4:14
  even
• 4:14
  know
• 4:16
  how
• 4:16
  we
• 4:17
  did
• 4:17
  it,
• 4:17
  but.
• 4:18
  But
• 4:18
  we
• 4:18
  did.
• 4:19
  And.
• 4:19
  And
• 4:21
  it
• 4:21
  was.
• 4:22
  You
• 4:22
  know,
• 4:22
  but
• 4:23
  in
• 4:23
  being
• 4:23
  part
• 4:23
  of
• 4:24
  his
• 4:25
  death
• 4:25
  and
• 4:26
  dying
• 4:26
  experiences,
• 4:27
  you
• 4:27
  know,
• 4:27
  experience
• 4:28
  was
• 4:28
  both
• 4:28
  beautiful
• 4:29
  and
• 4:29
  tragic,
• 4:30
  you
• 4:30
  know,
• 4:30
  and.
• 4:31
  And
• 4:31
  I
• 4:31
  say
• 4:31
  beautiful
• 4:32
  just
• 4:33
  because
• 4:33
  of
• 4:33
  the
• 4:33
  way
• 4:33
  he
• 4:33
  handled
• 4:34
  it.
• 4:34
  And
• 4:34
  if
• 4:34
  anyone
• 4:35
  goes
• 4:35
  back
• 4:35
  to
• 4:35
  my
• 4:35
  Instagram
• 4:36
  from
• 4:37
  2018,
• 4:38
  2019,
• 4:39
  you
• 4:39
  know,
• 4:39
  I
• 4:40
  document
• 4:40
  kind
• 4:40
  of
• 4:41
  a
• 4:41
  lot
• 4:41
  of
• 4:41
  it,
• 4:41
  but
• 4:41
  really
• 4:41
  what
• 4:42
  I
• 4:42
  wanted
• 4:42
  to
• 4:43
  document
• 4:43
  was
• 4:44
  the
• 4:45
  death
• 4:45
  and
• 4:45
  dying
• 4:45
  experience.
• 4:46
  You
• 4:47
  know,
• 4:47
  watching
• 4:48
  someone
• 4:48
  die
• 4:50
  and
• 4:51
  the
• 4:52
  incredible
• 4:52
  things
• 4:53
  that
• 4:53
  happened
• 4:54
  to
• 4:54
  his
• 4:54
  body.
• 4:55
  Some
• 4:55
  things
• 4:55
  that
• 4:55
  are.
• 4:56
  That
• 4:56
  were
• 4:56
  just.
• 4:57
  I
• 4:57
  mean,
• 4:57
  like.
• 4:58
  I
• 4:58
  don't
• 4:58
  mean
• 4:58
  like
• 4:58
  the
• 4:59
  body
• 4:59
  falling
• 4:59
  apart,
• 5:00
  but
• 5:00
  really
• 5:00
  beautiful
• 5:01
  stories
• 5:01
  of
• 5:02
  some
• 5:02
  things
• 5:02
  that
• 5:02
  were
• 5:02
  occurring
• 5:03
  and
• 5:05
  that
• 5:05
  were,
• 5:05
  like,
• 5:06
  just
• 5:07
  really
• 5:08
  beautiful
• 5:08
  about
• 5:09
  how
• 5:09
  the
• 5:09
  body
• 5:09
  prepares
• 5:10
  you
• 5:10
  for
• 5:10
  the
• 5:11
  next
• 5:11
  life.
• 5:11
  And
• 5:12
  anyway,
• 5:13
  and
• 5:13
  just
• 5:13
  how
• 5:13
  he
• 5:13
  chose
• 5:14
  to
• 5:14
  live
• 5:14
  his
• 5:14
  life.
• 5:14
  You
• 5:15
  know,
• 5:15
  the
• 5:15
  things
• 5:15
  he
• 5:15
  wanted
• 5:16
  to
• 5:16
  do
• 5:16
  and
• 5:18
  just
• 5:18
  his
• 5:18
  wisdom
• 5:19
  and,
• 5:21
  you
• 5:21
  know,
• 5:21
  I
• 5:22
  just
• 5:22
  get
• 5:22
  a
• 5:22
  little
• 5:22
  Tear
• 5:23
  eyed
• 5:23
  thinking
• 5:23
  about
• 5:23
  it.
• 5:23
  But
• 5:24
  so,
• 5:24
  yeah,
• 5:24
  really,
• 5:25
  really
• 5:25
  beautiful.
• 5:25
  But
• 5:26
  he
• 5:26
  had
• 5:26
  his.
• 5:28
  I
• 5:28
  had
• 5:29
  his
• 5:29
  ashes
• 5:30
  made
• 5:30
  into
• 5:30
  a
• 5:31
  diamond
• 5:32
  because
• 5:32
  that
• 5:32
  was
• 5:32
  his
• 5:32
  dying
• 5:33
  wish.
• 5:33
  And
• 5:34
  he
• 5:34
  said
• 5:34
  take
• 5:34
  me
• 5:35
  on
• 5:35
  your
• 5:35
  adventures
• 5:35
  with
• 5:36
  you.
• 5:36
  And.
• 5:37
  And
• 5:37
  so
• 5:37
  I
• 5:37
  do.
• 5:38
  So
• 5:38
  I
• 5:38
  do.
• 5:38
  Oh,
• 5:38
  that's
• 5:39
  beautiful.
• 5:39
  That's
• 5:39
  really,
• 5:40
  really
• 5:40
  lovely.
• 5:41
  And
• 5:42
  you
• 5:42
  mentioned.
• 5:42
  Yes,
• 5:43
  absolutely,
• 5:43
  you
• 5:44
  mentioned
• 5:44
  before
• 5:45
  that
• 5:45
  he
• 5:45
  actually
• 5:46
  said
• 5:46
  it
• 5:46
  would
• 5:46
  be
• 5:47
  okay
• 5:47
  if
• 5:47
  you
• 5:47
  dated.
• 5:47
  Like
• 5:48
  he
• 5:48
  would
• 5:48
  be
• 5:48
  okay
• 5:48
  with
• 5:49
  that.
• 5:49
  Is
• 5:49
  that
• 5:49
  right?
• 5:49
  Like
• 5:50
  he
• 5:50
  encouraged
• 5:50
  you
• 5:51
  to
• 5:51
  kind
• 5:51
  of.
• 5:51
  Yeah,
• 5:52
  of
• 5:52
  course
• 5:52
  everyone
• 5:53
  wants
• 5:53
  to.
• 5:54
  You
• 5:54
  know
• 5:54
  that.
• 5:54
  He
• 5:55
  always
• 5:55
  promised
• 5:55
  me
• 5:55
  he'd
• 5:56
  live
• 5:56
  to
• 5:56
  100
• 5:56
  and
• 5:57
  unfortunately
• 5:57
  that
• 5:58
  didn't
• 5:58
  happen.
• 5:58
  But
• 5:59
  you
• 5:59
  know,
• 5:59
  when
• 6:00
  you
• 6:00
  love
• 6:00
  someone,
• 6:01
  of
• 6:01
  course
• 6:01
  you
• 6:01
  want
• 6:01
  them
• 6:02
  to,
• 6:02
  to
• 6:03
  be
• 6:03
  happy
• 6:03
  and,
• 6:04
  and
• 6:04
  continue,
• 6:05
  you
• 6:05
  know,
• 6:05
  thrive
• 6:06
  without
• 6:06
  you.
• 6:06
  And
• 6:07
  no
• 6:07
  one
• 6:07
  wants
• 6:07
  anyone
• 6:07
  to
• 6:08
  be
• 6:08
  sad.
• 6:08
  And
• 6:08
  I
• 6:09
  think
• 6:09
  that's
• 6:09
  for
• 6:09
  anyone
• 6:10
  that's
• 6:11
  dealt,
• 6:11
  you
• 6:12
  know,
• 6:12
  with
• 6:12
  death.
• 6:13
  You
• 6:13
  always
• 6:13
  have
• 6:13
  to
• 6:14
  remember
• 6:14
  that
• 6:14
  you
• 6:15
  honor,
• 6:16
  you
• 6:16
  know,
• 6:17
  you
• 6:17
  honor
• 6:18
  them
• 6:19
  by
• 6:20
  keep,
• 6:21
  you
• 6:21
  know,
• 6:21
  keep
• 6:22
  going.
• 6:22
  Right?
• 6:23
  Like
• 6:23
  no
• 6:23
  one,
• 6:24
  you
• 6:25
  know,
• 6:25
  they,
• 6:25
  they
• 6:25
  don't
• 6:25
  want
• 6:25
  you
• 6:26
  to
• 6:26
  be
• 6:26
  sad.
• 6:26
  And
• 6:27
  again,
• 6:27
  you
• 6:27
  know,
• 6:27
  I
• 6:28
  mean,
• 6:28
  I
• 6:28
  mean
• 6:28
  you
• 6:28
  have
• 6:28
  to
• 6:28
  go
• 6:29
  through
• 6:29
  your
• 6:29
  grieving
• 6:29
  period,
• 6:30
  but
• 6:31
  they,
• 6:31
  that's
• 6:32
  how
• 6:32
  you
• 6:32
  honor
• 6:32
  them
• 6:32
  is.
• 6:33
  And,
• 6:33
  and
• 6:34
  you
• 6:34
  know,
• 6:34
  it's
• 6:34
  not
• 6:34
  like
• 6:35
  being
• 6:35
  a
• 6:36
  tough
• 6:36
  cookie.
• 6:36
  And
• 6:36
  don't
• 6:37
  cry.
• 6:37
  It
• 6:38
  just
• 6:38
  means,
• 6:39
  it
• 6:39
  just
• 6:39
  means
• 6:40
  it's
• 6:41
  a
• 6:41
  new
• 6:41
  chapter.
• 6:42
  You
• 6:42
  know,
• 6:42
  go,
• 6:43
  you
• 6:43
  know,
• 6:43
  have
• 6:44
  a
• 6:44
  happy
• 6:44
  life.
• 6:45
  Go
• 6:45
  date
• 6:45
  again.
• 6:45
  Go
• 6:46
  do
• 6:46
  all
• 6:46
  the
• 6:47
  things.
• 6:47
  Like
• 6:47
  that's
• 6:48
  how
• 6:48
  you
• 6:48
  honor
• 6:48
  them
• 6:48
  is
• 6:49
  by
• 6:49
  picking
• 6:50
  up
• 6:50
  and,
• 6:51
  and
• 6:51
  keep
• 6:52
  on
• 6:52
  going
• 6:52
  and
• 6:52
  not
• 6:53
  letting
• 6:53
  it
• 6:53
  take
• 6:54
  you
• 6:54
  down.
• 6:55
  And
• 6:55
  so,
• 6:56
  yeah,
• 6:56
  so
• 6:56
  I,
• 6:56
  I
• 6:57
  honor
• 6:57
  him
• 6:57
  by
• 6:58
  being
• 6:58
  happy
• 6:59
  because
• 6:59
  that's.
• 6:59
  I
• 7:00
  know
• 7:00
  what
• 7:00
  he
• 7:00
  wanted.
• 7:01
  Yeah,
• 7:01
  and
• 7:01
  that's
• 7:01
  such
• 7:01
  a
• 7:02
  good
• 7:02
  point
• 7:02
  too.
• 7:02
  It's
• 7:02
  like
• 7:02
  you
• 7:02
  honor
• 7:03
  them
• 7:03
  also
• 7:03
  the
• 7:04
  way
• 7:04
  they
• 7:04
  lived.
• 7:04
  Right.
• 7:05
  And
• 7:05
  he
• 7:05
  seemed
• 7:05
  like
• 7:05
  such
• 7:05
  a
• 7:06
  vivacious,
• 7:07
  like.
• 7:07
  Right.
• 7:08
  Like,
• 7:08
  because
• 7:08
  I
• 7:09
  would
• 7:09
  see
• 7:09
  the
• 7:09
  posts
• 7:09
  that
• 7:09
  you
• 7:10
  would
• 7:10
  post
• 7:10
  about
• 7:10
  him
• 7:10
  and
• 7:11
  he
• 7:11
  was
• 7:11
  like,
• 7:12
  like
• 7:12
  a
• 7:12
  comedian.
• 7:12
  Like,
• 7:13
  he
• 7:13
  was
• 7:13
  like
• 7:13
  funny
• 7:14
  and
• 7:14
  like.
• 7:14
  Right.
• 7:15
  No,
• 7:15
  he
• 7:15
  was.
• 7:16
  Yeah,
• 7:16
  he
• 7:16
  looked
• 7:16
  like
• 7:17
  Robin
• 7:17
  Williams.
• 7:17
  He
• 7:18
  kind
• 7:18
  of
• 7:18
  act
• 7:18
  like
• 7:18
  Robin
• 7:19
  Williams.
• 7:19
  And
• 7:20
  I
• 7:21
  mean
• 7:21
  he
• 7:21
  was
• 7:21
  a
• 7:22
  sniper
• 7:22
  in
• 7:22
  the
• 7:22
  French
• 7:22
  army.
• 7:23
  He
• 7:23
  was
• 7:23
  a
• 7:24
  radio
• 7:24
  dj,
• 7:24
  he
• 7:25
  was
• 7:25
  a
• 7:25
  race
• 7:25
  car
• 7:25
  driver,
• 7:26
  photographer.
• 7:27
  I
• 7:27
  mean,
• 7:27
  they're
• 7:28
  just
• 7:28
  so
• 7:28
  like
• 7:28
  chef.
• 7:29
  Like
• 7:29
  there
• 7:29
  just
• 7:29
  wasn't
• 7:29
  anything
• 7:30
  he
• 7:30
  couldn't
• 7:30
  do.
• 7:30
  And
• 7:31
  so,
• 7:31
  yeah,
• 7:31
  life
• 7:32
  was
• 7:32
  definitely
• 7:33
  not
• 7:33
  boring
• 7:34
  with
• 7:34
  him,
• 7:34
  I'll
• 7:34
  tell
• 7:34
  you
• 7:34
  that.
• 7:35
  Yeah.
• 7:35
  How
• 7:36
  did
• 7:36
  you
• 7:36
  guys
• 7:36
  meet?
• 7:36
  I
• 7:36
  don't
• 7:37
  think
• 7:37
  I
• 7:37
  know
• 7:37
  this.
• 7:37
  How
• 7:37
  did
• 7:38
  you
• 7:38
  guys
• 7:38
  meet?
• 7:38
  In
• 7:38
  Dallas
• 7:39
  when
• 7:39
  I
• 7:40
  opened
• 7:40
  up
• 7:40
  my
• 7:40
  first
• 7:41
  skincare
• 7:41
  spa.
• 7:42
  Renee
• 7:42
  Rouleau.
• 7:43
  He
• 7:43
  managed
• 7:44
  a
• 7:44
  French
• 7:44
  restaurant
• 7:44
  a
• 7:45
  couple
• 7:45
  doors
• 7:45
  down
• 7:46
  because
• 7:46
  he
• 7:46
  was,
• 7:46
  he
• 7:47
  was
• 7:47
  French.
• 7:47
  So.
• 7:48
  Yeah.
• 7:48
  We
• 7:48
  met
• 7:48
  in.
• 7:49
  In
• 7:49
  Dallas,
• 7:50
  and
• 7:50
  we
• 7:50
  were
• 7:50
  friends
• 7:51
  first.
• 7:51
  And,
• 7:52
  um.
• 7:53
  And
• 7:53
  that's
• 7:53
  my
• 7:54
  first
• 7:54
  advice
• 7:54
  also
• 7:55
  about
• 7:55
  dating
• 7:55
  as
• 7:55
  we
• 7:56
  get
• 7:56
  into
• 7:56
  it,
• 7:56
  is
• 7:57
  if
• 7:57
  I
• 7:57
  had
• 7:58
  seen
• 7:58
  him
• 7:58
  on
• 7:58
  a
• 7:58
  dating
• 7:59
  app,
• 7:59
  I
• 7:59
  would
• 7:59
  have
• 8:00
  been
• 8:00
  like,
• 8:00
  nope.
• 8:01
  And
• 8:01
  I
• 8:01
  don't
• 8:02
  know
• 8:02
  which
• 8:02
  way
• 8:02
  you
• 8:02
  swipe.
• 8:02
  I've
• 8:03
  never
• 8:03
  done
• 8:03
  those
• 8:03
  dating
• 8:03
  apps,
• 8:04
  but
• 8:04
  whatever
• 8:04
  way
• 8:05
  the
• 8:05
  no
• 8:05
  is,
• 8:05
  like,
• 8:06
  I
• 8:06
  would
• 8:06
  have
• 8:06
  been
• 8:06
  like,
• 8:06
  no,
• 8:07
  thanks.
• 8:07
  And
• 8:08
  we
• 8:08
  were
• 8:08
  together
• 8:08
  22
• 8:09
  years,
• 8:09
  and
• 8:09
  so
• 8:10
  my
• 8:10
  first
• 8:11
  advice
• 8:12
  is,
• 8:13
  you
• 8:14
  have
• 8:14
  to
• 8:14
  give
• 8:14
  people
• 8:15
  an
• 8:15
  opportunity,
• 8:15
  Go
• 8:16
  out
• 8:16
  with
• 8:16
  them
• 8:16
  for
• 8:17
  sure
• 8:17
  twice.
• 8:17
  But
• 8:18
  this
• 8:18
  is
• 8:18
  the
• 8:18
  way
• 8:18
  I
• 8:18
  looked
• 8:18
  at
• 8:19
  it.
• 8:20
  Prior
• 8:20
  to
• 8:20
  meeting
• 8:21
  him,
• 8:22
  I
• 8:22
  was
• 8:22
  living
• 8:22
  in
• 8:23
  Boston
• 8:23
  and
• 8:23
  then
• 8:23
  moved
• 8:23
  to
• 8:24
  Dallas.
• 8:24
  But
• 8:25
  the
• 8:25
  last
• 8:25
  six
• 8:25
  boyfriends,
• 8:26
  ever
• 8:26
  since
• 8:26
  high
• 8:27
  school,
• 8:27
  were
• 8:27
  all
• 8:27
  my
• 8:28
  type,
• 8:28
  right?
• 8:28
  We
• 8:28
  all
• 8:28
  have
• 8:29
  a
• 8:29
  type.
• 8:29
  If
• 8:29
  I
• 8:29
  said
• 8:29
  to
• 8:29
  you,
• 8:29
  roxy,
• 8:30
  what's
• 8:30
  the
• 8:30
  type?
• 8:30
  Like,
• 8:31
  we're
• 8:31
  all
• 8:31
  like,
• 8:31
  da,
• 8:32
  da,
• 8:32
  da,
• 8:32
  da,
• 8:32
  da,
• 8:32
  da.
• 8:32
  Well,
• 8:33
  usually
• 8:33
  when
• 8:33
  we
• 8:34
  describe
• 8:34
  our
• 8:34
  type,
• 8:34
  what
• 8:35
  we're
• 8:35
  actually
• 8:35
  doing
• 8:35
  is
• 8:36
  describing
• 8:36
  ourselves,
• 8:37
  right?
• 8:37
  Because
• 8:38
  why
• 8:38
  would.
• 8:38
  If
• 8:39
  someone's.
• 8:39
  You're
• 8:39
  really
• 8:39
  outgoing,
• 8:40
  are
• 8:40
  you
• 8:40
  going
• 8:40
  to
• 8:41
  say,
• 8:41
  oh,
• 8:41
  my
• 8:41
  type
• 8:42
  is
• 8:42
  someone
• 8:42
  super
• 8:43
  introverted
• 8:44
  and
• 8:44
  quiet?
• 8:46
  No,
• 8:46
  you're
• 8:46
  going
• 8:46
  to
• 8:46
  be
• 8:46
  like,
• 8:46
  I
• 8:47
  want
• 8:47
  them
• 8:47
  fun.
• 8:47
  I
• 8:47
  want
• 8:47
  them,
• 8:48
  you
• 8:48
  know,
• 8:48
  et
• 8:48
  cetera.
• 8:49
  And.
• 8:50
  But
• 8:50
  what
• 8:50
  makes
• 8:51
  life
• 8:51
  interesting
• 8:52
  is
• 8:52
  actually
• 8:52
  being
• 8:52
  with
• 8:53
  someone
• 8:53
  who's
• 8:53
  not
• 8:53
  just
• 8:54
  like
• 8:54
  you,
• 8:54
  Right?
• 8:55
  Like,
• 8:55
  that's
• 8:56
  what's
• 8:56
  interesting.
• 8:56
  I
• 8:57
  mean,
• 8:57
  if.
• 8:57
  If
• 8:58
  you're
• 8:58
  just
• 8:58
  with
• 8:58
  someone
• 8:59
  like
• 8:59
  you,
• 8:59
  they're
• 8:59
  Then
• 9:00
  they're
• 9:00
  like
• 9:00
  your
• 9:00
  sibling,
• 9:01
  you
• 9:01
  know,
• 9:01
  you're
• 9:01
  just
• 9:02
  too
• 9:02
  similar.
• 9:02
  And
• 9:03
  so.
• 9:03
  So,
• 9:04
  yeah,
• 9:04
  so,
• 9:05
  you
• 9:05
  know,
• 9:06
  I
• 9:06
  basically
• 9:06
  said
• 9:07
  one
• 9:07
  day,
• 9:07
  you
• 9:08
  know,
• 9:08
  someone
• 9:08
  was
• 9:08
  like,
• 9:08
  you
• 9:09
  know,
• 9:09
  we
• 9:09
  were
• 9:09
  friends
• 9:09
  first.
• 9:10
  I'd
• 9:10
  go
• 9:10
  into
• 9:10
  the
• 9:10
  restaurant
• 9:11
  and
• 9:11
  have
• 9:11
  dinner
• 9:11
  every
• 9:11
  night
• 9:12
  after
• 9:12
  work,
• 9:12
  and
• 9:13
  someone
• 9:13
  said,
• 9:13
  I
• 9:14
  think
• 9:14
  he
• 9:14
  has
• 9:14
  a
• 9:14
  crush
• 9:15
  on
• 9:15
  you.
• 9:15
  And
• 9:15
  I
• 9:15
  was
• 9:15
  like,
• 9:17
  and
• 9:17
  I'm
• 9:17
  almost
• 9:17
  five
• 9:17
  nine.
• 9:18
  And
• 9:18
  I
• 9:18
  was
• 9:18
  like,
• 9:18
  the
• 9:19
  five
• 9:19
  foot
• 9:19
  six
• 9:20
  guy
• 9:20
  who's
• 9:21
  friends
• 9:21
  with
• 9:21
  a
• 9:21
  mustache.
• 9:22
  I'm
• 9:22
  like,
• 9:23
  who's
• 9:23
  11
• 9:23
  years
• 9:23
  older
• 9:24
  than
• 9:24
  me?
• 9:24
  I'm
• 9:24
  like,
• 9:25
  no,
• 9:25
  thanks.
• 9:26
  And
• 9:28
  anyway,
• 9:28
  and
• 9:29
  we
• 9:29
  were
• 9:29
  together
• 9:29
  22
• 9:30
  years,
• 9:30
  so
• 9:30
  I
• 9:30
  think
• 9:31
  it's
• 9:31
  really
• 9:31
  important
• 9:31
  for
• 9:32
  us
• 9:32
  not
• 9:32
  to
• 9:32
  get
• 9:32
  stuck
• 9:33
  on.
• 9:33
  And
• 9:33
  it's.
• 9:33
  Oh,
• 9:34
  and
• 9:34
  that's
• 9:34
  my
• 9:34
  other
• 9:34
  second
• 9:35
  thing,
• 9:35
  My
• 9:35
  second
• 9:36
  advice.
• 9:36
  So
• 9:36
  sorry.
• 9:37
  First
• 9:37
  advice
• 9:38
  is
• 9:38
  don't
• 9:39
  think
• 9:39
  you
• 9:39
  know
• 9:39
  your
• 9:39
  type.
• 9:40
  I
• 9:40
  mean,
• 9:41
  you
• 9:41
  know,
• 9:41
  don't.
• 9:42
  Oh,
• 9:42
  he's
• 9:42
  different
• 9:43
  than
• 9:43
  me.
• 9:43
  But
• 9:43
  that's
• 9:44
  the
• 9:44
  beauty
• 9:44
  of
• 9:44
  it,
• 9:44
  because
• 9:45
  you
• 9:46
  learn
• 9:46
  from
• 9:46
  each
• 9:46
  other.
• 9:46
  Whatnot.
• 9:47
  And
• 9:47
  then
• 9:47
  my
• 9:47
  second
• 9:47
  thing
• 9:48
  is,
• 9:49
  do
• 9:49
  not,
• 9:50
  ladies.
• 9:50
  Do
• 9:51
  not
• 9:51
  get
• 9:51
  caught
• 9:52
  up.
• 9:52
  And
• 9:52
  he's
• 9:52
  got
• 9:53
  to
• 9:53
  be
• 9:53
  at
• 9:53
  least
• 9:53
  6
• 9:54
  foot
• 9:54
  tall.
• 9:55
  Like,
• 9:55
  so
• 9:55
  many
• 9:55
  women
• 9:56
  are
• 9:56
  like,
• 9:56
  oh,
• 9:57
  tall,
• 9:57
  dark
• 9:57
  and
• 9:58
  handsome.
• 9:59
  Guess
• 10:00
  what?
• 10:00
  When
• 10:00
  a
• 10:00
  guy
• 10:01
  is
• 10:01
  really
• 10:01
  Tall.
• 10:02
  He's
• 10:02
  already
• 10:02
  got
• 10:03
  that.
• 10:03
  Check
• 10:03
  that
• 10:04
  box
• 10:04
  checked.
• 10:05
  And
• 10:05
  he
• 10:05
  doesn't
• 10:05
  have
• 10:06
  to
• 10:06
  work
• 10:06
  that
• 10:06
  much
• 10:06
  on
• 10:06
  his
• 10:06
  personality.
• 10:08
  So
• 10:08
  it's
• 10:08
  like
• 10:09
  those
• 10:09
  guys
• 10:10
  that
• 10:10
  are
• 10:10
  under
• 10:11
  6ft
• 10:12
  or
• 10:12
  under
• 10:13
  5,
• 10:13
  8,
• 10:14
  they
• 10:14
  have
• 10:14
  to
• 10:14
  pack
• 10:15
  so
• 10:15
  much
• 10:15
  personality
• 10:16
  in
• 10:16
  there
• 10:17
  because
• 10:18
  they
• 10:18
  have
• 10:18
  to
• 10:18
  make
• 10:19
  up
• 10:19
  because
• 10:19
  they
• 10:19
  don't
• 10:20
  have
• 10:20
  it
• 10:20
  easy.
• 10:20
  Right?
• 10:20
  Because
• 10:21
  everyone
• 10:21
  wants
• 10:22
  a
• 10:22
  guy
• 10:22
  who's
• 10:23
  tall,
• 10:23
  a
• 10:23
  girl
• 10:24
  who's.
• 10:24
  I
• 10:24
  mean,
• 10:24
  a
• 10:24
  guy.
• 10:25
  Every
• 10:25
  girl
• 10:25
  wants
• 10:25
  a
• 10:25
  guy
• 10:26
  who's
• 10:26
  tall.
• 10:27
  And.
• 10:27
  But
• 10:28
  yeah,
• 10:28
  they,
• 10:29
  they
• 10:29
  have
• 10:29
  a
• 10:29
  ton
• 10:29
  of
• 10:29
  life
• 10:30
  in
• 10:30
  there.
• 10:30
  And
• 10:30
  my
• 10:31
  husband
• 10:31
  was
• 10:31
  five
• 10:31
  foot
• 10:32
  six.
• 10:32
  Again,
• 10:32
  like,
• 10:33
  I'm
• 10:33
  almost
• 10:33
  five
• 10:34
  nine.
• 10:34
  He
• 10:34
  was
• 10:35
  like
• 10:35
  a
• 10:35
  shoulder
• 10:35
  rest
• 10:36
  for
• 10:36
  me,
• 10:36
  but
• 10:37
  he
• 10:37
  was
• 10:37
  so
• 10:38
  fun
• 10:38
  and
• 10:39
  he
• 10:39
  packs
• 10:39
  so
• 10:39
  much
• 10:39
  personality
• 10:40
  into
• 10:40
  that
• 10:41
  and
• 10:41
  life
• 10:41
  was
• 10:42
  so
• 10:42
  exciting.
• 10:43
  And
• 10:44
  so,
• 10:44
  yeah,
• 10:45
  I'm
• 10:45
  like,
• 10:45
  almost
• 10:45
  anti
• 10:46
  af,
• 10:46
  you
• 10:47
  know,
• 10:47
  anything
• 10:48
  higher,
• 10:48
  you
• 10:48
  know,
• 10:49
  six
• 10:49
  feet
• 10:49
  or
• 10:49
  under,
• 10:50
  I'm
• 10:50
  like,
• 10:50
  oh,
• 10:50
  boring.
• 10:51
  I'm
• 10:51
  like,
• 10:52
  no,
• 10:52
  My
• 10:53
  requirement
• 10:53
  is
• 10:54
  6ft
• 10:54
  or
• 10:54
  under.
• 10:55
  I'm
• 10:55
  like,
• 10:55
  no,
• 10:56
  they've
• 10:56
  gotta,
• 10:57
  they've
• 10:57
  gotta
• 10:57
  have
• 10:57
  personality.
• 10:58
  That's
• 10:58
  the
• 10:58
  requirement.
• 10:59
  A
• 10:59
  short
• 10:59
  king,
• 11:00
  as
• 11:00
  they
• 11:00
  call
• 11:00
  it.
• 11:02
  Exactly.
• 11:03
  Right.
• 11:05
  So
• 11:06
  don't
• 11:06
  like,
• 11:06
  unprofessional.
• 11:07
  I
• 11:07
  think
• 11:07
  on
• 11:07
  apps
• 11:08
  or
• 11:08
  something,
• 11:08
  you
• 11:08
  could
• 11:08
  put
• 11:09
  like
• 11:09
  maybe
• 11:09
  a
• 11:09
  height.
• 11:10
  I
• 11:10
  don't
• 11:10
  even
• 11:10
  know.
• 11:10
  But,
• 11:10
  like,
• 11:11
  do
• 11:12
  not
• 11:12
  rule
• 11:12
  out
• 11:12
  someone
• 11:13
  who's.
• 11:14
  Who's,
• 11:14
  you
• 11:14
  know,
• 11:15
  is
• 11:15
  not.
• 11:16
  Is
• 11:17
  not
• 11:17
  super
• 11:18
  tall.
• 11:18
  Okay,
• 11:19
  That's
• 11:19
  a
• 11:19
  good
• 11:19
  point.
• 11:20
  Now,
• 11:21
  after
• 11:21
  Florian
• 11:22
  passed,
• 11:22
  like,
• 11:23
  you
• 11:23
  know,
• 11:23
  I
• 11:23
  would
• 11:24
  imagine
• 11:24
  there
• 11:24
  was
• 11:24
  some
• 11:24
  time
• 11:25
  that
• 11:25
  also
• 11:25
  passed.
• 11:26
  When
• 11:26
  did
• 11:27
  you
• 11:27
  know
• 11:27
  it
• 11:27
  was
• 11:28
  right
• 11:28
  to
• 11:28
  date
• 11:28
  again?
• 11:28
  Like,
• 11:29
  what
• 11:29
  was
• 11:29
  the
• 11:30
  thing
• 11:30
  that
• 11:30
  kind
• 11:30
  of
• 11:31
  set
• 11:31
  you
• 11:31
  on
• 11:32
  the
• 11:32
  path?
• 11:33
  Yeah,
• 11:34
  I
• 11:34
  think
• 11:34
  I
• 11:35
  didn't
• 11:36
  go
• 11:36
  out
• 11:36
  and
• 11:37
  look
• 11:38
  because
• 11:38
  I
• 11:38
  just
• 11:39
  figured
• 11:39
  that
• 11:39
  at
• 11:39
  some
• 11:39
  point
• 11:40
  when
• 11:40
  I'm
• 11:40
  ready,
• 11:40
  I'm
• 11:40
  ready.
• 11:41
  Right?
• 11:41
  We
• 11:41
  all
• 11:41
  know
• 11:41
  at
• 11:42
  some
• 11:42
  point
• 11:42
  when
• 11:42
  you're
• 11:42
  ready
• 11:43
  for
• 11:43
  something,
• 11:43
  you'll
• 11:44
  do
• 11:44
  it.
• 11:45
  So
• 11:45
  I
• 11:45
  wasn't.
• 11:47
  I
• 11:48
  never
• 11:48
  was
• 11:48
  like,
• 11:50
  well,
• 11:51
  so
• 11:51
  what
• 11:52
  happened
• 11:52
  was,
• 11:53
  in
• 11:53
  theory,
• 11:55
  if
• 11:56
  I
• 11:56
  was
• 11:56
  ready,
• 11:57
  I
• 11:57
  would
• 11:57
  have
• 11:57
  known
• 11:58
  it.
• 11:58
  So
• 11:58
  I
• 11:58
  wasn't
• 11:58
  ready.
• 11:59
  But
• 11:59
  then
• 12:00
  someone
• 12:00
  sought
• 12:00
  out
• 12:01
  me.
• 12:02
  And
• 12:02
  I
• 12:03
  guess,
• 12:03
  let
• 12:03
  me
• 12:03
  just
• 12:04
  say
• 12:05
  that
• 12:07
  certain
• 12:07
  individuals
• 12:08
  prey
• 12:08
  on
• 12:08
  the
• 12:09
  weak,
• 12:09
  and
• 12:09
  if
• 12:10
  they
• 12:10
  happen
• 12:10
  to
• 12:10
  be
• 12:11
  con
• 12:11
  artists,
• 12:12
  they
• 12:13
  pray
• 12:13
  on
• 12:13
  the
• 12:13
  weak.
• 12:14
  So
• 12:14
  unfortunately,
• 12:15
  I
• 12:15
  had
• 12:15
  a
• 12:15
  really
• 12:16
  bad
• 12:16
  situation
• 12:17
  where
• 12:17
  someone
• 12:19
  pursued
• 12:19
  me.
• 12:21
  An
• 12:22
  ulterior
• 12:23
  motive.
• 12:23
  And
• 12:24
  I.
• 12:26
  I
• 12:26
  think
• 12:26
  I
• 12:26
  just.
• 12:27
  I
• 12:27
  was
• 12:27
  in
• 12:27
  a
• 12:27
  weak
• 12:28
  state.
• 12:28
  I
• 12:28
  was
• 12:28
  a
• 12:28
  grieving
• 12:29
  widow,
• 12:30
  and
• 12:30
  I
• 12:31
  learned
• 12:32
  a
• 12:32
  lot
• 12:32
  of
• 12:32
  life
• 12:33
  lessons.
• 12:33
  Let's
• 12:33
  just
• 12:33
  say
• 12:34
  that
• 12:34
  ladies
• 12:36
  and
• 12:37
  I,
• 12:40
  money,
• 12:40
  embezzlement,
• 12:41
  and
• 12:41
  all
• 12:41
  sorts
• 12:41
  of
• 12:42
  crazy
• 12:42
  things.
• 12:42
  So
• 12:43
  anyway.
• 12:43
  But
• 12:45
  I
• 12:45
  was
• 12:45
  naive
• 12:46
  and
• 12:46
  grieving
• 12:47
  and.
• 12:47
  But
• 12:48
  that
• 12:48
  makes
• 12:48
  you
• 12:49
  a
• 12:49
  target.
• 12:49
  And
• 12:50
  I
• 12:50
  was
• 12:50
  a
• 12:50
  target.
• 12:50
  And
• 12:51
  I
• 12:51
  could
• 12:51
  probably
• 12:51
  have
• 12:52
  a
• 12:52
  Netflix
• 12:52
  show
• 12:53
  on
• 12:53
  this,
• 12:53
  but
• 12:53
  I
• 12:54
  won't
• 12:54
  get
• 12:54
  into
• 12:54
  all
• 12:54
  the
• 12:54
  drama
• 12:55
  of
• 12:55
  it,
• 12:55
  but
• 12:56
  let's
• 12:56
  just
• 12:57
  say
• 12:57
  my,
• 12:58
  my
• 12:58
  friend
• 12:58
  Nick
• 12:58
  said
• 12:59
  the
• 12:59
  best
• 12:59
  thing
• 12:59
  to
• 12:59
  me.
• 13:00
  My
• 13:00
  friend
• 13:00
  said
• 13:00
  to
• 13:00
  me,
• 13:01
  renee,
• 13:02
  you
• 13:03
  made
• 13:03
  it.
• 13:03
  I
• 13:03
  mean,
• 13:04
  you're
• 13:04
  in
• 13:04
  business.
• 13:04
  Business
• 13:05
  is
• 13:05
  hard.
• 13:06
  I
• 13:06
  mean,
• 13:06
  it's
• 13:06
  cutthroat.
• 13:07
  And
• 13:07
  he
• 13:08
  goes,
• 13:08
  and
• 13:08
  you've
• 13:08
  dealt
• 13:08
  with
• 13:09
  a
• 13:09
  lot
• 13:09
  of
• 13:09
  people
• 13:09
  in
• 13:09
  your
• 13:09
  life.
• 13:10
  He
• 13:10
  goes,
• 13:10
  the
• 13:10
  fact
• 13:10
  that
• 13:11
  you
• 13:11
  made
• 13:11
  it
• 13:11
  to
• 13:11
  50
• 13:12
  and
• 13:12
  you
• 13:13
  never
• 13:13
  got
• 13:13
  cheated
• 13:14
  on,
• 13:14
  never
• 13:15
  gotten
• 13:15
  backstabbed,
• 13:16
  never
• 13:16
  gotten
• 13:17
  effed
• 13:18
  over,
• 13:18
  never
• 13:18
  gotten
• 13:19
  money
• 13:19
  stolen
• 13:19
  from
• 13:20
  you.
• 13:20
  He's
• 13:21
  like,
• 13:21
  I
• 13:21
  think
• 13:22
  you're
• 13:22
  doing
• 13:22
  pretty
• 13:23
  well
• 13:23
  in
• 13:23
  this
• 13:23
  life.
• 13:23
  And
• 13:24
  I
• 13:24
  thought
• 13:24
  to
• 13:24
  myself,
• 13:25
  you're
• 13:25
  right.
• 13:26
  Like,
• 13:26
  I've
• 13:27
  been
• 13:27
  kind
• 13:27
  of.
• 13:27
  I
• 13:28
  haven't
• 13:28
  had
• 13:28
  a
• 13:28
  lot
• 13:28
  of
• 13:29
  hardships
• 13:29
  and
• 13:29
  I
• 13:30
  got
• 13:30
  a
• 13:30
  one
• 13:31
  stop
• 13:31
  shop
• 13:32
  and
• 13:32
  I
• 13:32
  got
• 13:32
  all
• 13:32
  those
• 13:33
  lessons
• 13:33
  taken
• 13:34
  care
• 13:34
  of.
• 13:35
  And
• 13:35
  I
• 13:35
  was
• 13:35
  like,
• 13:36
  I
• 13:36
  needed
• 13:37
  to
• 13:37
  learn
• 13:37
  those
• 13:37
  lessons.
• 13:38
  Luckily,
• 13:38
  I
• 13:39
  got
• 13:39
  it
• 13:39
  in,
• 13:39
  in
• 13:40
  one
• 13:40
  little
• 13:41
  situation.
• 13:42
  And
• 13:42
  I
• 13:42
  will
• 13:42
  never
• 13:43
  make
• 13:43
  any
• 13:43
  of
• 13:44
  those
• 13:44
  mistakes
• 13:44
  again.
• 13:45
  And
• 13:46
  basically
• 13:47
  the
• 13:47
  headline
• 13:48
  there
• 13:48
  is
• 13:50
  always
• 13:50
  trust
• 13:50
  your
• 13:51
  gut.
• 13:51
  A
• 13:51
  woman's
• 13:52
  intuition
• 13:53
  is
• 13:53
  so
• 13:53
  strong.
• 13:54
  And
• 13:55
  there
• 13:55
  were
• 13:55
  things
• 13:56
  that
• 13:56
  weren't
• 13:57
  great,
• 13:57
  but
• 13:57
  I,
• 13:58
  I
• 13:58
  was
• 13:58
  so
• 13:58
  trusting
• 13:59
  because
• 13:59
  I
• 13:59
  had
• 14:00
  never
• 14:00
  had
• 14:01
  bad
• 14:01
  experiences
• 14:02
  in
• 14:02
  my
• 14:02
  life
• 14:02
  like
• 14:03
  that.
• 14:04
  So
• 14:04
  I
• 14:04
  just
• 14:05
  never
• 14:05
  thought
• 14:05
  anyone
• 14:06
  could
• 14:07
  be
• 14:07
  anything
• 14:08
  but,
• 14:08
  you
• 14:08
  know,
• 14:09
  good
• 14:09
  intentions.
• 14:10
  And
• 14:10
  so,
• 14:11
  yeah,
• 14:12
  trust,
• 14:12
  Trust
• 14:13
  your
• 14:13
  gut.
• 14:13
  And
• 14:14
  so,
• 14:15
  yeah,
• 14:15
  I
• 14:15
  had
• 14:16
  to
• 14:16
  learn
• 14:16
  a
• 14:16
  lot
• 14:17
  of
• 14:17
  lessons
• 14:17
  there.
• 14:18
  So
• 14:18
  do
• 14:18
  you
• 14:19
  remember,
• 14:20
  like,
• 14:20
  specific
• 14:21
  things
• 14:21
  that
• 14:21
  you
• 14:22
  ignored,
• 14:22
  like,
• 14:23
  kind
• 14:23
  of
• 14:23
  red
• 14:23
  flags,
• 14:24
  I
• 14:24
  guess.
• 14:24
  Like,
• 14:25
  Woody,
• 14:26
  was
• 14:26
  there
• 14:26
  just
• 14:27
  like
• 14:27
  a
• 14:27
  vagueness
• 14:27
  with
• 14:28
  him?
• 14:28
  Was
• 14:28
  he
• 14:29
  not?
• 14:29
  So,
• 14:29
  like,
• 14:30
  was
• 14:30
  it.
• 14:30
  Yeah,
• 14:31
  it
• 14:31
  was
• 14:31
  just.
• 14:32
  Just
• 14:32
  things
• 14:32
  weren't.
• 14:32
  Just
• 14:33
  things
• 14:33
  weren't
• 14:33
  adding
• 14:33
  up.
• 14:34
  Right.
• 14:34
  One
• 14:34
  plus
• 14:35
  one
• 14:35
  equals
• 14:35
  two,
• 14:36
  and
• 14:37
  things
• 14:37
  weren't
• 14:37
  adding
• 14:38
  up.
• 14:38
  And
• 14:38
  then
• 14:38
  I
• 14:39
  would
• 14:39
  just
• 14:39
  be
• 14:39
  like,
• 14:40
  well,
• 14:41
  that's
• 14:41
  weird
• 14:42
  because
• 14:42
  he
• 14:42
  said
• 14:43
  last
• 14:43
  week
• 14:43
  he
• 14:43
  did
• 14:44
  this
• 14:44
  and
• 14:44
  I
• 14:44
  was
• 14:44
  like,
• 14:44
  oh,
• 14:45
  you
• 14:46
  know,
• 14:46
  and
• 14:46
  then,
• 14:47
  and
• 14:47
  then
• 14:47
  there
• 14:48
  were
• 14:48
  some
• 14:48
  times
• 14:48
  when
• 14:48
  I
• 14:49
  would
• 14:49
  inquire
• 14:49
  and
• 14:50
  be
• 14:50
  like,
• 14:50
  hey.
• 14:51
  And
• 14:52
  then.
• 14:52
  But
• 14:53
  people
• 14:53
  who
• 14:53
  are
• 14:53
  really
• 14:54
  good
• 14:54
  at
• 14:55
  being
• 14:56
  cons,
• 14:56
  they
• 14:57
  have
• 14:57
  great
• 14:57
  answers
• 14:58
  for
• 14:58
  it.
• 14:58
  And
• 14:59
  so
• 15:00
  when
• 15:00
  they
• 15:00
  give
• 15:01
  a
• 15:01
  good
• 15:01
  answer,
• 15:01
  I
• 15:01
  went,
• 15:02
  oh,
• 15:02
  okay,
• 15:03
  that
• 15:03
  seems
• 15:03
  logical.
• 15:04
  And
• 15:04
  then
• 15:04
  you
• 15:04
  don't
• 15:05
  question
• 15:05
  it.
• 15:05
  But
• 15:06
  some
• 15:06
  people
• 15:06
  are
• 15:07
  really,
• 15:07
  really
• 15:07
  good.
• 15:08
  And
• 15:09
  when
• 15:09
  it
• 15:09
  was
• 15:09
  all
• 15:09
  said
• 15:10
  and
• 15:10
  done,
• 15:11
  I
• 15:11
  ended
• 15:11
  up
• 15:12
  doing
• 15:12
  a
• 15:12
  background
• 15:12
  check
• 15:13
  to
• 15:13
  be
• 15:13
  like,
• 15:14
  what
• 15:14
  was
• 15:14
  this?
• 15:15
  And
• 15:15
  the
• 15:16
  criminal
• 15:16
  record
• 15:16
  was
• 15:17
  a
• 15:17
  mile
• 15:17
  long.
• 15:18
  So.
• 15:18
  So
• 15:19
  I
• 15:19
  mean,
• 15:19
  this
• 15:20
  is
• 15:20
  a
• 15:20
  rare
• 15:20
  thing.
• 15:20
  I
• 15:21
  don't.
• 15:21
  Most
• 15:21
  people
• 15:21
  aren't
• 15:22
  dealing
• 15:22
  with
• 15:22
  con
• 15:23
  people
• 15:23
  in
• 15:23
  their
• 15:24
  true
• 15:24
  life.
• 15:24
  I
• 15:24
  mean,
• 15:24
  that's,
• 15:25
  you
• 15:25
  know,
• 15:26
  there's
• 15:26
  again,
• 15:26
  there's
• 15:27
  documentaries
• 15:28
  on
• 15:28
  Netflix
• 15:29
  about
• 15:29
  it,
• 15:29
  but
• 15:29
  I
• 15:29
  mean,
• 15:29
  those
• 15:30
  stories
• 15:30
  aren't
• 15:30
  Rare.
• 15:30
  I
• 15:31
  mean,
• 15:31
  at
• 15:31
  the
• 15:31
  end
• 15:31
  of
• 15:31
  the
• 15:31
  day,
• 15:32
  I
• 15:32
  inherently
• 15:33
  believe
• 15:33
  humans
• 15:34
  are
• 15:34
  so
• 15:34
  good.
• 15:35
  And
• 15:36
  I
• 15:36
  was
• 15:37
  very.
• 15:38
  And
• 15:38
  this
• 15:38
  is,
• 15:39
  this
• 15:39
  is
• 15:39
  also
• 15:39
  what
• 15:40
  I.
• 15:40
  You
• 15:40
  know
• 15:41
  what
• 15:41
  I
• 15:41
  also
• 15:42
  also
• 15:42
  encourage
• 15:43
  my
• 15:43
  girlfriends
• 15:44
  is
• 15:45
  just
• 15:45
  because
• 15:45
  you
• 15:45
  may
• 15:45
  have
• 15:45
  had
• 15:46
  a
• 15:46
  bad
• 15:46
  experience
• 15:46
  with
• 15:47
  someone,
• 15:47
  don't
• 15:48
  rule
• 15:49
  all
• 15:49
  men
• 15:50
  out.
• 15:50
  And
• 15:50
  it
• 15:50
  can
• 15:50
  be
• 15:51
  same
• 15:51
  way
• 15:52
  for
• 15:52
  men,
• 15:52
  not
• 15:52
  ruling
• 15:53
  women
• 15:53
  out.
• 15:53
  Like,
• 15:53
  it's
• 15:54
  just,
• 15:54
  you
• 15:55
  know,
• 15:55
  everyone
• 15:56
  inherently
• 15:57
  wants
• 15:57
  to
• 15:58
  be
• 15:58
  good,
• 15:58
  wants
• 15:58
  to
• 15:58
  find
• 15:59
  love.
• 15:59
  And
• 16:00
  I
• 16:01
  made
• 16:01
  a
• 16:01
  very
• 16:02
  conscious
• 16:02
  effort
• 16:02
  that
• 16:03
  I
• 16:03
  was
• 16:03
  not
• 16:03
  going
• 16:03
  to
• 16:04
  punish
• 16:04
  anyone
• 16:05
  moving
• 16:05
  forward
• 16:06
  who
• 16:06
  I
• 16:06
  dated
• 16:07
  for
• 16:07
  fear
• 16:08
  that
• 16:08
  they'd
• 16:08
  be,
• 16:09
  you
• 16:09
  know,
• 16:09
  like
• 16:09
  the
• 16:10
  last
• 16:10
  person.
• 16:11
  And
• 16:11
  I
• 16:12
  did
• 16:12
  not
• 16:12
  bring
• 16:12
  that
• 16:13
  baggage
• 16:13
  with
• 16:13
  me
• 16:13
  into
• 16:14
  future.
• 16:15
  Into
• 16:15
  future
• 16:16
  dating
• 16:17
  because
• 16:17
  I
• 16:17
  was
• 16:17
  like,
• 16:17
  you
• 16:17
  know
• 16:18
  what,
• 16:18
  Renee?
• 16:18
  Like,
• 16:19
  you
• 16:19
  know,
• 16:20
  you
• 16:20
  knew
• 16:20
  things
• 16:21
  weren't
• 16:21
  right.
• 16:21
  You
• 16:22
  didn't
• 16:22
  question
• 16:22
  it,
• 16:22
  but
• 16:22
  you
• 16:22
  needed
• 16:23
  to
• 16:23
  learn
• 16:23
  that.
• 16:23
  And
• 16:23
  so
• 16:24
  now,
• 16:24
  you
• 16:24
  know,
• 16:25
  I
• 16:25
  would.
• 16:25
  Now
• 16:26
  I
• 16:26
  just
• 16:26
  trust
• 16:26
  my
• 16:26
  gut.
• 16:27
  And
• 16:27
  if
• 16:27
  something
• 16:27
  isn't
• 16:28
  right,
• 16:28
  then.
• 16:28
  Then
• 16:29
  I
• 16:29
  figure
• 16:29
  that
• 16:30
  out.
• 16:30
  But
• 16:30
  I
• 16:31
  just
• 16:31
  was
• 16:31
  not
• 16:31
  going
• 16:31
  to
• 16:32
  be
• 16:32
  the
• 16:32
  disgruntled,
• 16:33
  angry,
• 16:34
  bitter
• 16:34
  woman
• 16:35
  going
• 16:35
  into
• 16:35
  future
• 16:36
  dating.
• 16:36
  Yeah,
• 16:37
  no,
• 16:37
  that's
• 16:37
  a,
• 16:37
  That's
• 16:37
  a
• 16:37
  really
• 16:38
  good
• 16:38
  point.
• 16:38
  Because
• 16:38
  people
• 16:38
  are
• 16:38
  different,
• 16:39
  right?
• 16:40
  What
• 16:40
  goes
• 16:40
  on
• 16:40
  with
• 16:41
  one
• 16:41
  relationship
• 16:41
  doesn't
• 16:42
  go
• 16:42
  on.
• 16:42
  Exactly.
• 16:43
  Exactly.
• 16:44
  Exactly.
• 16:45
  But
• 16:45
  I
• 16:45
  mean,
• 16:46
  I
• 16:46
  would
• 16:46
  imagine
• 16:47
  it
• 16:47
  definitely
• 16:48
  threw
• 16:49
  you
• 16:49
  for
• 16:49
  a
• 16:49
  loop
• 16:50
  in
• 16:50
  some
• 16:50
  ways.
• 16:50
  You
• 16:51
  probably
• 16:51
  felt
• 16:51
  maybe
• 16:52
  vulnerable
• 16:52
  and
• 16:52
  very,
• 16:53
  you
• 16:53
  know,
• 16:53
  taken
• 16:53
  advantage
• 16:54
  of.
• 16:55
  Because
• 16:55
  I
• 16:56
  was
• 16:56
  like,
• 16:56
  I'm
• 16:57
  a
• 16:57
  smart
• 16:57
  woman.
• 16:58
  Like,
• 16:58
  I
• 16:58
  built
• 16:59
  this
• 16:59
  multimillion
• 17:00
  dollar
• 17:00
  company
• 17:01
  and
• 17:01
  I
• 17:01
  was
• 17:01
  like,
• 17:02
  I've
• 17:02
  made
• 17:02
  really
• 17:03
  good
• 17:03
  decisions
• 17:04
  in
• 17:04
  my
• 17:04
  life.
• 17:04
  Right.
• 17:05
  Like,
• 17:05
  I'm
• 17:05
  not.
• 17:06
  I
• 17:06
  mean,
• 17:06
  I
• 17:06
  consider
• 17:07
  myself
• 17:07
  someone
• 17:08
  really
• 17:08
  smart.
• 17:09
  And
• 17:09
  I
• 17:09
  was
• 17:09
  like,
• 17:10
  how
• 17:10
  could
• 17:10
  I
• 17:10
  have
• 17:11
  done
• 17:11
  that?
• 17:11
  But
• 17:11
  I.
• 17:11
  But
• 17:12
  you
• 17:12
  only
• 17:12
  know
• 17:12
  what
• 17:12
  you
• 17:13
  know.
• 17:13
  Right.
• 17:13
  And
• 17:14
  again,
• 17:14
  I
• 17:14
  was
• 17:15
  in
• 17:15
  a
• 17:15
  vulnerable
• 17:15
  state,
• 17:16
  having
• 17:16
  been
• 17:17
  a
• 17:17
  grieving
• 17:17
  widow.
• 17:18
  So,
• 17:18
  you
• 17:18
  know,
• 17:19
  I
• 17:20
  learned
• 17:20
  to
• 17:20
  give
• 17:21
  myself
• 17:21
  some
• 17:21
  grace.
• 17:22
  You
• 17:22
  know,
• 17:22
  we've
• 17:22
  all
• 17:22
  made
• 17:22
  mistakes,
• 17:23
  and
• 17:24
  this
• 17:24
  just
• 17:24
  was.
• 17:25
  Yeah.
• 17:26
  You
• 17:26
  know,
• 17:26
  it's
• 17:27
  just
• 17:27
  we
• 17:27
  all
• 17:27
  make
• 17:28
  mistakes
• 17:28
  and.
• 17:28
  But.
• 17:28
  But
• 17:29
  ultimately
• 17:29
  we
• 17:30
  all
• 17:30
  have
• 17:30
  to
• 17:30
  learn
• 17:30
  lessons,
• 17:31
  right?
• 17:31
  And
• 17:31
  I
• 17:31
  just
• 17:31
  happen
• 17:31
  to
• 17:32
  learn
• 17:32
  a
• 17:32
  ton
• 17:32
  of
• 17:32
  lessons
• 17:33
  in
• 17:33
  a
• 17:33
  short
• 17:34
  period
• 17:34
  of
• 17:34
  time.
• 17:34
  Yeah,
• 17:35
  exactly.
• 17:35
  It's
• 17:36
  like
• 17:36
  all
• 17:36
  one
• 17:36
  after
• 17:36
  the
• 17:37
  other,
• 17:37
  one
• 17:37
  after
• 17:37
  the
• 17:37
  other.
• 17:38
  But
• 17:38
  I
• 17:38
  do
• 17:39
  love
• 17:39
  how
• 17:39
  you
• 17:40
  kind
• 17:40
  of
• 17:40
  turned
• 17:40
  it.
• 17:41
  You
• 17:41
  were
• 17:41
  like
• 17:41
  part
• 17:42
  private
• 17:42
  investigator,
• 17:43
  part,
• 17:43
  like,
• 17:43
  turning
• 17:44
  it
• 17:44
  into
• 17:44
  its
• 17:44
  own
• 17:45
  business
• 17:45
  almost,
• 17:45
  you
• 17:46
  know,
• 17:46
  like,
• 17:47
  really
• 17:47
  when
• 17:47
  dealing
• 17:48
  with
• 17:48
  this
• 17:48
  con
• 17:49
  artist
• 17:49
  guy,
• 17:50
  you
• 17:50
  know,
• 17:50
  I
• 17:50
  mean,
• 17:50
  you
• 17:51
  had
• 17:51
  the
• 17:51
  spreadsheets
• 17:52
  going.
• 17:52
  You
• 17:52
  were
• 17:52
  like,
• 17:53
  you
• 17:53
  know,
• 17:53
  figuring
• 17:54
  out
• 17:54
  what
• 17:54
  he
• 17:54
  was
• 17:54
  doing.
• 17:55
  And
• 17:56
  so
• 17:56
  can
• 17:56
  you
• 17:56
  kind
• 17:56
  of
• 17:57
  take
• 17:57
  us
• 17:57
  through
• 17:57
  that
• 17:57
  a
• 17:58
  little
• 17:58
  bit
• 17:58
  of
• 17:58
  like,
• 17:58
  how
• 17:58
  you
• 17:59
  really.
• 17:59
  You
• 18:00
  kind
• 18:00
  of
• 18:00
  turned
• 18:00
  it
• 18:00
  into
• 18:01
  your
• 18:01
  own
• 18:01
  sort
• 18:02
  of
• 18:02
  like
• 18:02
  business
• 18:03
  in
• 18:03
  a
• 18:03
  way.
• 18:03
  I
• 18:03
  mean,
• 18:03
  you
• 18:03
  really
• 18:04
  figured
• 18:04
  it
• 18:04
  out.
• 18:04
  Yeah.
• 18:05
  So
• 18:06
  how.
• 18:06
  What
• 18:06
  Rex
• 18:06
  was
• 18:07
  referring
• 18:07
  to
• 18:07
  is
• 18:08
  I
• 18:08
  said
• 18:08
  I
• 18:09
  built
• 18:09
  a
• 18:09
  multimillion
• 18:10
  dollar
• 18:11
  company
• 18:12
  and
• 18:12
  became
• 18:12
  successful
• 18:13
  in
• 18:13
  business,
• 18:14
  but
• 18:14
  I
• 18:14
  was
• 18:15
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• 18:15
  successful
• 18:16
  in
• 18:16
  love
• 18:17
  and
• 18:17
  dating
• 18:18
  because
• 18:18
  right
• 18:18
  out
• 18:18
  of
• 18:19
  the
• 18:19
  gate,
• 18:19
  I
• 18:19
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• 18:20
  just
• 18:20
  screwed
• 18:20
  the
• 18:20
  whole
• 18:20
  thing
• 18:21
  up.
• 18:21
  So
• 18:22
  I
• 18:22
  decided,
• 18:23
  well,
• 18:24
  what
• 18:24
  if
• 18:24
  I
• 18:24
  treat
• 18:24
  it
• 18:25
  like
• 18:25
  a
• 18:25
  business?
• 18:26
  And
• 18:27
  so,
• 18:29
  so
• 18:29
  what
• 18:29
  I
• 18:29
  did
• 18:30
  was,
• 18:32
  so.
• 18:32
  Yeah,
• 18:33
  so
• 18:33
  the,
• 18:33
  you
• 18:33
  know,
• 18:34
  doing
• 18:34
  the
• 18:34
  criminal
• 18:35
  background
• 18:35
  check,
• 18:35
  all
• 18:35
  of
• 18:36
  that,
• 18:36
  but
• 18:36
  it
• 18:36
  was
• 18:36
  just
• 18:36
  more
• 18:37
  like
• 18:37
  it
• 18:37
  had
• 18:37
  to
• 18:37
  validate
• 18:38
  that,
• 18:38
  like,
• 18:38
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• 18:38
  I
• 18:39
  was
• 18:39
  really
• 18:39
  with
• 18:39
  like,
• 18:40
  somebody
• 18:40
  who
• 18:40
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• 18:40
  wasn't
• 18:41
  a
• 18:41
  good
• 18:41
  human.
• 18:41
  Oh,
• 18:41
  and
• 18:42
  how
• 18:42
  long.
• 18:42
  How
• 18:42
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• 18:43
  How
• 18:43
  long
• 18:43
  was
• 18:43
  the
• 18:43
  relationship
• 18:44
  with
• 18:44
  the
• 18:44
  con
• 18:44
  man?
• 18:45
  Was
• 18:45
  it
• 18:45
  like
• 18:46
  a
• 18:46
  year
• 18:46
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• 18:46
  a
• 18:46
  half?
• 18:46
  A
• 18:47
  year
• 18:47
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• 18:47
  a
• 18:47
  half.
• 18:47
  Okay.
• 18:48
  So
• 18:48
  when
• 18:48
  I.
• 18:48
  When
• 18:49
  I
• 18:49
  made
• 18:49
  the
• 18:49
  decision
• 18:49
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• 18:50
  go
• 18:50
  back
• 18:50
  to
• 18:50
  dating,
• 18:51
  I
• 18:51
  was
• 18:52
  like,
• 18:52
  okay,
• 18:53
  again,
• 18:53
  I'll
• 18:54
  treat
• 18:54
  it
• 18:54
  like
• 18:54
  a
• 18:54
  business.
• 18:55
  And
• 18:55
  so
• 18:55
  when
• 18:55
  I
• 18:56
  say
• 18:56
  treat
• 18:56
  it
• 18:56
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• 18:56
  a
• 18:56
  business.
• 18:58
  So
• 18:58
  like
• 18:58
  the
• 18:59
  spreadsheets,
• 18:59
  for
• 18:59
  example,
• 19:01
  and
• 19:01
  I
• 19:01
  learned
• 19:01
  this
• 19:02
  from
• 19:02
  a
• 19:03
  really
• 19:03
  good
• 19:03
  book,
• 19:03
  ladies,
• 19:04
  is
• 19:06
  Logan
• 19:06
  Urie,
• 19:07
  how
• 19:07
  to
• 19:07
  Not
• 19:07
  Die
• 19:08
  Alone.
• 19:08
  That's
• 19:08
  a
• 19:08
  really
• 19:09
  good
• 19:09
  book.
• 19:09
  She's
• 19:09
  like
• 19:09
  a
• 19:10
  researcher,
• 19:10
  I
• 19:10
  think,
• 19:10
  for
• 19:11
  like
• 19:11
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• 19:11
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• 19:12
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• 19:12
  or
• 19:12
  something
• 19:12
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• 19:12
  that.
• 19:13
  But
• 19:13
  she
• 19:13
  puts
• 19:14
  a
• 19:14
  lot
• 19:14
  of
• 19:14
  data
• 19:14
  in
• 19:14
  her
• 19:15
  book.
• 19:15
  But
• 19:15
  one
• 19:15
  of
• 19:15
  the
• 19:15
  things
• 19:16
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• 19:16
  she
• 19:16
  said
• 19:16
  was
• 19:17
  create
• 19:17
  a
• 19:17
  spreadsheet.
• 19:18
  And
• 19:18
  you
• 19:18
  want
• 19:18
  to
• 19:18
  put
• 19:19
  every
• 19:19
  single
• 19:20
  guy
• 19:20
  you've
• 19:20
  ever
• 19:20
  dated,
• 19:21
  go
• 19:21
  back
• 19:21
  as
• 19:21
  far
• 19:21
  as
• 19:22
  you
• 19:22
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• 19:22
  pre
• 19:22
  marriage,
• 19:23
  all
• 19:23
  the
• 19:23
  things,
• 19:24
  whatever,
• 19:25
  and
• 19:25
  put
• 19:25
  their
• 19:26
  name,
• 19:26
  how
• 19:26
  you
• 19:26
  met,
• 19:28
  and
• 19:29
  what
• 19:29
  are
• 19:29
  words
• 19:30
  to
• 19:30
  describe
• 19:30
  them
• 19:31
  and
• 19:31
  how.
• 19:32
  What
• 19:32
  are
• 19:32
  the
• 19:32
  words
• 19:33
  to
• 19:33
  describe
• 19:33
  how
• 19:34
  they
• 19:34
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• 19:34
  you
• 19:34
  feel
• 19:35
  and
• 19:35
  because
• 19:36
  how
• 19:36
  someone
• 19:37
  makes
• 19:37
  you
• 19:37
  feel
• 19:38
  is
• 19:38
  who
• 19:38
  you're
• 19:38
  going
• 19:38
  to
• 19:38
  be
• 19:38
  in
• 19:39
  the
• 19:39
  relationship.
• 19:40
  So
• 19:40
  if
• 19:40
  they,
• 19:40
  if
• 19:41
  they
• 19:41
  make
• 19:41
  you
• 19:41
  feel.
• 19:41
  If
• 19:42
  you
• 19:42
  went
• 19:42
  out
• 19:42
  on
• 19:42
  a
• 19:42
  date
• 19:42
  with
• 19:43
  someone
• 19:43
  and
• 19:44
  they
• 19:44
  made
• 19:44
  you
• 19:44
  feel
• 19:44
  less
• 19:45
  than,
• 19:45
  well,
• 19:45
  you're
• 19:45
  always
• 19:46
  going
• 19:46
  to
• 19:46
  feel
• 19:46
  less
• 19:46
  than
• 19:47
  in
• 19:47
  that
• 19:47
  relationship.
• 19:48
  And
• 19:48
  so.
• 19:49
  But
• 19:49
  it's
• 19:49
  a
• 19:49
  really
• 19:49
  good
• 19:49
  thing
• 19:50
  once
• 19:50
  you
• 19:50
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• 19:51
  all
• 19:51
  of
• 19:51
  your
• 19:51
  dating
• 19:52
  history
• 19:53
  on
• 19:53
  there
• 19:54
  with
• 19:54
  these
• 19:54
  words
• 19:55
  to
• 19:55
  try
• 19:55
  to
• 19:55
  see
• 19:55
  patterns,
• 19:56
  like,
• 19:56
  oh,
• 19:56
  wait,
• 19:57
  I
• 19:57
  see
• 19:57
  a
• 19:57
  pattern.
• 19:58
  I
• 19:58
  keep
• 19:58
  dating
• 19:59
  the
• 19:59
  same
• 19:59
  type
• 19:59
  of
• 20:00
  person
• 20:00
  that
• 20:00
  makes
• 20:00
  me
• 20:00
  feel
• 20:01
  this
• 20:01
  way
• 20:01
  or,
• 20:02
  you
• 20:02
  know,
• 20:02
  whatever.
• 20:03
  So
• 20:03
  that's
• 20:03
  a
• 20:04
  good.
• 20:04
  A
• 20:04
  good
• 20:05
  thing
• 20:05
  that
• 20:05
  I
• 20:05
  did
• 20:05
  was
• 20:06
  every
• 20:06
  single
• 20:07
  date
• 20:07
  that
• 20:07
  I
• 20:07
  went
• 20:07
  on,
• 20:08
  I
• 20:08
  would
• 20:08
  document
• 20:09
  that,
• 20:09
  you
• 20:09
  know,
• 20:09
  good
• 20:09
  or
• 20:10
  bad,
• 20:10
  document
• 20:10
  that
• 20:11
  and
• 20:12
  that
• 20:12
  just
• 20:13
  really.
• 20:14
  Because
• 20:14
  what
• 20:14
  you
• 20:14
  want
• 20:14
  to
• 20:15
  do
• 20:15
  is,
• 20:15
  how
• 20:15
  does
• 20:15
  this
• 20:16
  person
• 20:16
  make
• 20:16
  me
• 20:17
  feel?
• 20:18
  It's
• 20:18
  not,
• 20:18
  what
• 20:18
  do
• 20:18
  I
• 20:18
  like
• 20:19
  in
• 20:19
  him?
• 20:19
  Oh,
• 20:19
  my
• 20:19
  God,
• 20:20
  he's
• 20:20
  so
• 20:20
  funny.
• 20:20
  He's
• 20:20
  so
• 20:20
  this.
• 20:21
  He's
• 20:21
  so
• 20:21
  that.
• 20:21
  That's
• 20:22
  all
• 20:22
  fine
• 20:22
  and
• 20:22
  good,
• 20:22
  but
• 20:23
  how
• 20:23
  Do
• 20:23
  I
• 20:23
  feel
• 20:24
  when
• 20:24
  I'm
• 20:24
  with
• 20:24
  him,
• 20:25
  do
• 20:25
  I
• 20:25
  feel
• 20:26
  celebrated?
• 20:27
  Do
• 20:27
  I
• 20:27
  feel
• 20:28
  confident?
• 20:28
  Do
• 20:28
  I
• 20:28
  feel
• 20:29
  sexy?
• 20:29
  Do
• 20:29
  I
• 20:29
  feel
• 20:29
  whatever
• 20:30
  the
• 20:30
  words
• 20:30
  are?
• 20:31
  And,
• 20:32
  you
• 20:32
  know,
• 20:33
  if
• 20:33
  you
• 20:33
  don't
• 20:33
  feel
• 20:34
  all
• 20:34
  those
• 20:34
  wonderful
• 20:35
  things,
• 20:35
  then
• 20:36
  that's
• 20:37
  maybe
• 20:37
  something
• 20:37
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• 20:38
  really
• 20:38
  think
• 20:38
  about.
• 20:39
  And.
• 20:42
  And
• 20:42
  then.
• 20:43
  So,
• 20:43
  okay,
• 20:44
  so
• 20:44
  that
• 20:44
  was
• 20:44
  that,
• 20:44
  the
• 20:44
  spreadsheet.
• 20:45
  So
• 20:45
  kind
• 20:45
  of
• 20:45
  treating
• 20:45
  like
• 20:46
  a
• 20:46
  business.
• 20:47
  Then
• 20:47
  I.
• 20:49
  Then
• 20:50
  doing
• 20:50
  research,
• 20:51
  right?
• 20:51
  Like,
• 20:51
  you
• 20:51
  have
• 20:52
  to
• 20:52
  learn
• 20:52
  if
• 20:52
  you
• 20:52
  want
• 20:52
  to
• 20:52
  start
• 20:53
  a
• 20:53
  business,
• 20:53
  you
• 20:53
  have
• 20:53
  to
• 20:54
  learn
• 20:54
  how
• 20:54
  to
• 20:54
  have
• 20:55
  a
• 20:55
  business,
• 20:55
  have
• 20:56
  a
• 20:56
  business,
• 20:56
  or
• 20:56
  whatever
• 20:57
  your
• 20:57
  skill.
• 20:57
  Skill
• 20:58
  is
• 20:58
  that
• 20:58
  you
• 20:58
  need
• 20:58
  to
• 20:58
  learn.
• 20:59
  Well,
• 20:59
  in
• 20:59
  dating,
• 20:59
  you
• 21:00
  have
• 21:00
  to
• 21:00
  learn
• 21:00
  as
• 21:00
  well,
• 21:00
  right?
• 21:01
  There's
• 21:01
  no
• 21:01
  skills.
• 21:02
  I
• 21:02
  mean,
• 21:02
  we.
• 21:03
  The
• 21:03
  only
• 21:03
  thing
• 21:04
  how
• 21:04
  we've
• 21:04
  learned
• 21:04
  about
• 21:05
  relationships
• 21:05
  is
• 21:06
  by
• 21:06
  what
• 21:06
  by
• 21:07
  default
• 21:07
  was
• 21:07
  given
• 21:08
  to
• 21:08
  us.
• 21:08
  Our
• 21:09
  mother,
• 21:09
  our
• 21:09
  father,
• 21:10
  our
• 21:10
  siblings,
• 21:11
  our
• 21:12
  friends
• 21:12
  growing
• 21:12
  up,
• 21:13
  high
• 21:13
  school,
• 21:14
  college.
• 21:14
  Like,
• 21:15
  they're
• 21:15
  just.
• 21:15
  These
• 21:16
  relationships
• 21:16
  are
• 21:16
  in
• 21:17
  our
• 21:17
  lives,
• 21:17
  but
• 21:18
  there's
• 21:18
  no
• 21:18
  tools
• 21:18
  we've
• 21:19
  ever
• 21:19
  been
• 21:19
  given
• 21:20
  to
• 21:20
  really
• 21:20
  learn
• 21:21
  how
• 21:21
  to.
• 21:22
  How
• 21:22
  to
• 21:22
  date
• 21:22
  or
• 21:23
  how
• 21:23
  to
• 21:23
  have
• 21:23
  healthy
• 21:24
  relationships.
• 21:25
  So
• 21:25
  I
• 21:26
  decided
• 21:27
  I
• 21:27
  had
• 21:27
  to
• 21:27
  learn.
• 21:28
  And
• 21:28
  guess
• 21:28
  what?
• 21:28
  There's
• 21:29
  millions
• 21:29
  of
• 21:29
  people
• 21:29
  on
• 21:29
  YouTube,
• 21:30
  right?
• 21:30
  So
• 21:30
  I
• 21:31
  got
• 21:31
  into
• 21:31
  YouTube.
• 21:31
  So
• 21:32
  this
• 21:32
  is
• 21:32
  five
• 21:32
  years
• 21:33
  ago,
• 21:33
  whatever
• 21:34
  got
• 21:34
  onto
• 21:34
  YouTube.
• 21:35
  And
• 21:35
  I
• 21:35
  just
• 21:36
  studied.
• 21:37
  Right
• 21:37
  Again,
• 21:38
  if
• 21:38
  you
• 21:38
  want
• 21:38
  to
• 21:39
  pass
• 21:39
  a
• 21:39
  test
• 21:39
  and
• 21:39
  be
• 21:40
  good
• 21:40
  at
• 21:40
  something,
• 21:40
  you
• 21:40
  have
• 21:40
  to
• 21:41
  study.
• 21:42
  So
• 21:42
  I
• 21:42
  studied
• 21:43
  all
• 21:43
  of
• 21:43
  these
• 21:43
  relationship
• 21:44
  experts.
• 21:45
  I
• 21:45
  wanted
• 21:45
  to
• 21:45
  hear
• 21:45
  what
• 21:45
  they
• 21:46
  all
• 21:46
  had
• 21:46
  to
• 21:46
  say
• 21:46
  because
• 21:46
  I
• 21:47
  was
• 21:47
  new
• 21:47
  to
• 21:47
  dating.
• 21:47
  I
• 21:48
  was
• 21:48
  new
• 21:48
  to
• 21:49
  that
• 21:49
  world.
• 21:49
  I
• 21:49
  haven't
• 21:50
  dated
• 21:50
  in
• 21:50
  22
• 21:51
  years.
• 21:51
  What
• 21:51
  is
• 21:51
  this
• 21:52
  world
• 21:52
  like?
• 21:52
  I
• 21:52
  don't
• 21:52
  know
• 21:52
  how
• 21:52
  to
• 21:53
  date.
• 21:54
  But
• 21:55
  really
• 21:55
  what
• 21:55
  I
• 21:56
  was
• 21:57
  looking
• 21:57
  for
• 21:57
  is
• 21:59
  back
• 21:59
  in
• 21:59
  the
• 21:59
  day,
• 21:59
  Roxy,
• 22:00
  you
• 22:00
  remember
• 22:01
  John
• 22:01
  Gray
• 22:01
  had
• 22:02
  that
• 22:02
  popular
• 22:02
  book,
• 22:02
  men
• 22:03
  are
• 22:03
  from
• 22:03
  Mars,
• 22:04
  Women
• 22:04
  are
• 22:04
  from
• 22:04
  Venus,
• 22:05
  right?
• 22:06
  Well,
• 22:06
  at
• 22:06
  the
• 22:06
  end
• 22:07
  of
• 22:07
  the
• 22:07
  day,
• 22:07
  men
• 22:08
  are
• 22:08
  still
• 22:08
  from
• 22:08
  Mars,
• 22:09
  women
• 22:09
  are
• 22:09
  still
• 22:09
  from
• 22:10
  Venus,
• 22:10
  and
• 22:11
  that
• 22:11
  will
• 22:11
  never
• 22:12
  change,
• 22:12
  right?
• 22:13
  And
• 22:14
  when
• 22:14
  I
• 22:14
  look
• 22:14
  at
• 22:15
  dating
• 22:16
  and
• 22:16
  relationships,
• 22:17
  it's
• 22:17
  how
• 22:18
  do
• 22:19
  these
• 22:20
  different
• 22:20
  species
• 22:21
  that
• 22:21
  come
• 22:21
  from,
• 22:22
  you
• 22:22
  know,
• 22:22
  Venus
• 22:23
  and
• 22:23
  Mars,
• 22:23
  how
• 22:24
  did
• 22:24
  these
• 22:24
  species
• 22:25
  try
• 22:25
  to
• 22:25
  coexist
• 22:26
  and
• 22:26
  thrive
• 22:27
  together?
• 22:28
  And
• 22:29
  it's.
• 22:30
  And
• 22:30
  what
• 22:30
  I
• 22:30
  determined
• 22:31
  is
• 22:32
  I
• 22:32
  need
• 22:32
  to
• 22:32
  learn
• 22:33
  that
• 22:33
  other
• 22:33
  species,
• 22:35
  and
• 22:35
  I
• 22:36
  share
• 22:36
  that.
• 22:36
  To
• 22:36
  say
• 22:37
  that
• 22:37
  when
• 22:37
  I
• 22:38
  was
• 22:38
  doing
• 22:38
  all
• 22:38
  the
• 22:38
  studying
• 22:39
  on
• 22:39
  YouTube,
• 22:40
  I
• 22:40
  learned
• 22:41
  that
• 22:41
  for
• 22:42
  the
• 22:42
  most
• 22:42
  part,
• 22:43
  there's
• 22:43
  exceptions
• 22:43
  to
• 22:44
  every
• 22:44
  rule.
• 22:44
  But
• 22:44
  for
• 22:44
  the
• 22:45
  most
• 22:45
  part,
• 22:46
  I
• 22:46
  only
• 22:46
  take
• 22:47
  dating
• 22:47
  and
• 22:47
  relationship
• 22:48
  advice
• 22:49
  from
• 22:49
  men.
• 22:50
  Why?
• 22:51
  Because
• 22:51
  I
• 22:52
  already
• 22:52
  know
• 22:52
  myself,
• 22:53
  right?
• 22:53
  I
• 22:53
  don't
• 22:53
  need
• 22:54
  to
• 22:54
  hear
• 22:54
  another
• 22:54
  woman
• 22:54
  talk.
• 22:55
  I
• 22:55
  already
• 22:55
  know
• 22:55
  who
• 22:56
  I
• 22:56
  am.
• 22:56
  I
• 22:56
  already
• 22:56
  know
• 22:57
  how
• 22:57
  I
• 22:57
  operate.
• 22:58
  Teach
• 22:58
  me
• 22:59
  about
• 22:59
  your
• 22:59
  species,
• 23:00
  right?
• 23:01
  You
• 23:02
  are
• 23:02
  different.
• 23:02
  And
• 23:03
  what
• 23:03
  better
• 23:03
  person
• 23:04
  to
• 23:04
  represent
• 23:05
  a
• 23:05
  man,
• 23:06
  but
• 23:06
  a
• 23:06
  man
• 23:06
  giving
• 23:07
  dating,
• 23:07
  dating
• 23:08
  advice,
• 23:08
  right?
• 23:09
  Like,
• 23:10
  help
• 23:10
  me
• 23:10
  learn
• 23:11
  you.
• 23:12
  I
• 23:12
  already
• 23:12
  know
• 23:13
  the
• 23:13
  needs
• 23:13
  I
• 23:13
  have
• 23:14
  as
• 23:14
  a
• 23:14
  woman.
• 23:15
  I
• 23:15
  need
• 23:15
  to
• 23:15
  learn
• 23:16
  what
• 23:16
  a
• 23:16
  man's
• 23:16
  needs
• 23:17
  are.
• 23:18
  And
• 23:18
  so
• 23:18
  a
• 23:19
  couple
• 23:19
  of
• 23:19
  the
• 23:19
  favorite
• 23:20
  guys
• 23:20
  that
• 23:20
  I
• 23:21
  follow
• 23:21
  and
• 23:21
  I've
• 23:22
  listened
• 23:22
  to
• 23:22
  all
• 23:22
  of
• 23:23
  them
• 23:23
  and
• 23:23
  I
• 23:23
  would
• 23:23
  say
• 23:24
  my
• 23:24
  two
• 23:24
  favorites
• 23:25
  are
• 23:26
  a
• 23:26
  guy
• 23:26
  by
• 23:26
  the
• 23:26
  name
• 23:26
  of
• 23:27
  Mark
• 23:27
  Rosenfeld.
• 23:28
  His
• 23:29
  Instagram
• 23:29
  is
• 23:29
  Make
• 23:30
  him
• 23:30
  yours.
• 23:32
  And
• 23:32
  he
• 23:32
  also
• 23:32
  has
• 23:33
  a
• 23:33
  great
• 23:33
  book
• 23:33
  on
• 23:34
  Spotify.
• 23:36
  And
• 23:36
  then
• 23:36
  Stephan
• 23:37
  speaks
• 23:38
  S
• 23:38
  T
• 23:38
  E
• 23:38
  P
• 23:39
  H
• 23:39
  A
• 23:39
  N
• 23:39
  speaks
• 23:40
  S
• 23:40
  P
• 23:41
  E
• 23:41
  A
• 23:41
  K
• 23:41
  S
• 23:41
  is
• 23:42
  his
• 23:42
  Instagram
• 23:42
  name.
• 23:43
  But
• 23:43
  I
• 23:43
  love
• 23:43
  his
• 23:44
  perspective
• 23:44
  as
• 23:45
  well.
• 23:46
  And
• 23:46
  ultimately
• 23:47
  you
• 23:47
  may
• 23:48
  not
• 23:48
  like
• 23:48
  what
• 23:48
  these
• 23:49
  men
• 23:49
  say,
• 23:50
  but
• 23:51
  they're
• 23:51
  telling
• 23:51
  the
• 23:52
  truth
• 23:52
  from
• 23:52
  a
• 23:52
  man's
• 23:53
  perspective.
• 23:54
  And
• 23:54
  it
• 23:54
  also
• 23:54
  depends
• 23:54
  on
• 23:55
  what
• 23:55
  type
• 23:55
  of
• 23:56
  man
• 23:56
  you
• 23:56
  want.
• 23:57
  Stefan
• 23:57
  speaks
• 23:58
  really
• 23:59
  speaks
• 23:59
  from
• 23:59
  the
• 23:59
  masculine
• 24:00
  man.
• 24:01
  So
• 24:01
  if
• 24:01
  you
• 24:01
  really
• 24:01
  want
• 24:02
  a
• 24:02
  strong
• 24:02
  alpha
• 24:03
  man,
• 24:04
  you
• 24:04
  know,
• 24:04
  which
• 24:04
  is
• 24:04
  what
• 24:05
  I
• 24:05
  want
• 24:05
  because
• 24:06
  I'm,
• 24:06
  I'm
• 24:06
  an
• 24:06
  alpha
• 24:07
  female
• 24:07
  during
• 24:07
  the
• 24:08
  day.
• 24:08
  But
• 24:08
  when
• 24:08
  I'm
• 24:09
  done,
• 24:09
  work,
• 24:10
  take
• 24:10
  care
• 24:10
  of
• 24:10
  me.
• 24:10
  I
• 24:11
  want
• 24:11
  to
• 24:11
  feel
• 24:11
  like
• 24:11
  a
• 24:11
  pretty
• 24:12
  lady.
• 24:12
  And
• 24:13
  so
• 24:14
  that
• 24:14
  whole
• 24:14
  like
• 24:14
  feminine
• 24:15
  energy
• 24:15
  and
• 24:15
  all
• 24:15
  that
• 24:15
  kind
• 24:16
  of
• 24:16
  stuff.
• 24:16
  But,
• 24:17
  but
• 24:17
  those
• 24:17
  were
• 24:17
  to
• 24:17
  my
• 24:18
  two
• 24:18
  of
• 24:18
  my
• 24:18
  favorites.
• 24:19
  There's
• 24:19
  a,
• 24:19
  there's
• 24:19
  Matthew
• 24:20
  Hussey,
• 24:20
  there's,
• 24:23
  there's
• 24:23
  John
• 24:23
  Gray,
• 24:23
  old
• 24:24
  school
• 24:24
  John
• 24:24
  Gray.
• 24:25
  He
• 24:26
  did
• 24:26
  write
• 24:26
  an
• 24:26
  updated
• 24:26
  book
• 24:27
  to
• 24:27
  Men
• 24:27
  are
• 24:27
  from
• 24:27
  Mars,
• 24:28
  Women
• 24:28
  are
• 24:29
  from
• 24:29
  Venus,
• 24:29
  which
• 24:29
  I
• 24:29
  thought
• 24:29
  was
• 24:30
  really
• 24:30
  good.
• 24:31
  But
• 24:31
  yeah,
• 24:32
  I
• 24:32
  love
• 24:33
  relationship
• 24:34
  advice
• 24:34
  for
• 24:34
  men.
• 24:35
  A
• 24:35
  lot
• 24:35
  of
• 24:35
  my
• 24:35
  guy
• 24:35
  friends,
• 24:36
  that's
• 24:36
  who
• 24:37
  I
• 24:37
  count
• 24:37
  on
• 24:37
  for
• 24:37
  advice.
• 24:38
  I
• 24:38
  don't
• 24:38
  call
• 24:38
  a
• 24:38
  girlfriend
• 24:39
  when
• 24:39
  I
• 24:39
  was
• 24:40
  dating
• 24:40
  because
• 24:40
  now
• 24:41
  I'm
• 24:41
  in
• 24:41
  a
• 24:41
  wonderful
• 24:41
  three
• 24:42
  year
• 24:42
  relationship
• 24:43
  with
• 24:43
  just
• 24:44
  the
• 24:44
  most
• 24:44
  amazing
• 24:45
  man
• 24:45
  ever.
• 24:46
  But
• 24:47
  when
• 24:47
  I
• 24:48
  wanted
• 24:48
  dating
• 24:48
  advice,
• 24:49
  I
• 24:49
  don't
• 24:49
  call
• 24:49
  my
• 24:49
  girlfriends.
• 24:50
  What
• 24:50
  do
• 24:50
  you
• 24:50
  think
• 24:50
  I
• 24:50
  should
• 24:50
  do?
• 24:51
  I
• 24:51
  call
• 24:51
  my
• 24:52
  guy
• 24:52
  friends.
• 24:53
  Because
• 24:53
  what
• 24:53
  I
• 24:53
  learned
• 24:54
  again
• 24:55
  was
• 24:55
  getting
• 24:55
  dating
• 24:56
  advice
• 24:56
  from
• 24:56
  girlfriends.
• 24:57
  It
• 24:57
  was
• 24:58
  like
• 24:59
  they're
• 24:59
  coming
• 24:59
  from
• 25:00
  a
• 25:00
  female
• 25:00
  perspective.
• 25:01
  I
• 25:01
  want
• 25:01
  to
• 25:01
  hear
• 25:01
  what,
• 25:02
  what
• 25:02
  a
• 25:02
  guy's
• 25:02
  perspective
• 25:03
  is
• 25:03
  like.
• 25:03
  Help
• 25:04
  me
• 25:04
  learn
• 25:04
  and
• 25:04
  understand
• 25:05
  you.
• 25:06
  And
• 25:06
  then
• 25:06
  my
• 25:06
  other
• 25:07
  rule
• 25:07
  that
• 25:07
  I
• 25:07
  also
• 25:07
  learned
• 25:08
  is
• 25:08
  kind
• 25:09
  of
• 25:09
  like
• 25:09
  in
• 25:09
  business,
• 25:10
  if
• 25:10
  I'm
• 25:10
  going
• 25:11
  to
• 25:11
  hire
• 25:11
  an
• 25:11
  employee,
• 25:13
  they
• 25:13
  come
• 25:14
  with
• 25:14
  a
• 25:14
  resume,
• 25:15
  right?
• 25:15
  And
• 25:15
  I'm
• 25:15
  going
• 25:15
  to
• 25:15
  look
• 25:16
  at
• 25:16
  the
• 25:16
  resume
• 25:17
  and
• 25:18
  are
• 25:18
  they
• 25:18
  qualified
• 25:18
  to
• 25:19
  do
• 25:19
  the
• 25:19
  job
• 25:19
  right?
• 25:20
  So
• 25:22
  what
• 25:23
  I
• 25:23
  learned
• 25:23
  is
• 25:25
  when
• 25:25
  I'm
• 25:26
  going
• 25:26
  to
• 25:26
  take
• 25:26
  dating
• 25:27
  advice
• 25:27
  from
• 25:27
  someone,
• 25:28
  I'm
• 25:28
  going
• 25:28
  to
• 25:28
  look
• 25:28
  at
• 25:28
  their
• 25:29
  resume.
• 25:29
  Are
• 25:29
  they
• 25:30
  qualified
• 25:30
  to
• 25:30
  give
• 25:30
  me
• 25:30
  dating
• 25:31
  advice?
• 25:32
  If
• 25:32
  they
• 25:32
  do
• 25:33
  not
• 25:33
  have
• 25:33
  a
• 25:33
  history,
• 25:34
  a
• 25:35
  good
• 25:35
  history
• 25:35
  of
• 25:36
  healthy
• 25:36
  dating
• 25:37
  relationships
• 25:38
  and
• 25:38
  health
• 25:38
  relationships,
• 25:39
  then
• 25:40
  why
• 25:40
  should
• 25:40
  I
• 25:40
  take
• 25:41
  advice
• 25:41
  from
• 25:41
  you?
• 25:43
  So
• 25:43
  I
• 25:43
  learned
• 25:44
  that
• 25:46
  I
• 25:46
  take
• 25:46
  dating
• 25:46
  advice
• 25:47
  and
• 25:47
  relationship
• 25:48
  advice
• 25:48
  from
• 25:48
  people
• 25:49
  who
• 25:49
  have
• 25:49
  shown
• 25:49
  that
• 25:50
  they've
• 25:50
  done
• 25:50
  it
• 25:50
  well
• 25:51
  and
• 25:51
  successful.
• 25:53
  So
• 25:53
  that's
• 25:53
  my
• 25:53
  other.
• 25:54
  That's
• 25:54
  my
• 25:54
  other
• 25:55
  little
• 25:55
  tip
• 25:55
  for
• 25:55
  everyone.
• 25:56
  So
• 25:56
  something
• 25:56
  to
• 25:57
  consider.
• 25:57
  Who
• 25:57
  are
• 25:58
  you
• 25:58
  taking
• 25:58
  dating
• 25:58
  advice
• 25:59
  from?
• 26:00
  People
• 26:00
  who
• 26:00
  do
• 26:00
  healthy
• 26:01
  relationships.
• 26:02
  You
• 26:02
  know,
• 26:02
  and
• 26:02
  it's
• 26:03
  a
• 26:03
  good
• 26:03
  point,
• 26:03
  too,
• 26:03
  because
• 26:04
  sometimes
• 26:04
  I
• 26:04
  think,
• 26:05
  like,
• 26:05
  as
• 26:05
  women
• 26:06
  and.
• 26:06
  And
• 26:07
  I
• 26:07
  do
• 26:07
  it
• 26:07
  too,
• 26:07
  like,
• 26:08
  when
• 26:08
  we
• 26:08
  get
• 26:08
  together
• 26:08
  with
• 26:08
  our
• 26:09
  girlfriends,
• 26:09
  it's
• 26:09
  like,
• 26:10
  you
• 26:10
  want
• 26:10
  to
• 26:11
  be
• 26:11
  like,
• 26:11
  you
• 26:11
  want
• 26:12
  to
• 26:12
  put
• 26:12
  your
• 26:12
  friend
• 26:12
  in
• 26:12
  the
• 26:13
  Right.
• 26:13
  Right.
• 26:13
  You
• 26:13
  want
• 26:14
  to
• 26:14
  be
• 26:14
  like,
• 26:14
  you
• 26:14
  know,
• 26:15
  you
• 26:15
  did
• 26:15
  great,
• 26:16
  you
• 26:16
  know,
• 26:16
  and
• 26:16
  you
• 26:17
  want
• 26:17
  to
• 26:17
  boost
• 26:17
  them
• 26:17
  up.
• 26:18
  Exactly.
• 26:19
  And
• 26:19
  sometimes
• 26:19
  that's
• 26:20
  not
• 26:20
  the
• 26:20
  right
• 26:20
  advice
• 26:21
  to
• 26:21
  get
• 26:21
  right.
• 26:22
  Right.
• 26:22
  Exactly.
• 26:23
  Exactly.
• 26:24
  Well,
• 26:24
  because
• 26:24
  also
• 26:24
  what
• 26:25
  I've
• 26:25
  learned
• 26:25
  is
• 26:25
  there's
• 26:25
  two
• 26:25
  sides
• 26:26
  to
• 26:26
  every
• 26:26
  store,
• 26:27
  every
• 26:27
  story.
• 26:28
  And
• 26:29
  the
• 26:29
  problem
• 26:29
  is,
• 26:30
  is
• 26:30
  women
• 26:30
  are
• 26:31
  much
• 26:31
  more
• 26:31
  vocal,
• 26:32
  and
• 26:32
  they're
• 26:32
  certainly
• 26:33
  much
• 26:33
  more
• 26:33
  vocal
• 26:33
  online.
• 26:34
  Guys
• 26:34
  kind
• 26:35
  of
• 26:35
  just
• 26:35
  take
• 26:36
  it.
• 26:36
  Take
• 26:37
  it
• 26:37
  on
• 26:37
  the
• 26:37
  chin,
• 26:37
  and
• 26:37
  they
• 26:38
  kind
• 26:38
  of
• 26:38
  just
• 26:38
  whatever.
• 26:39
  But
• 26:39
  it's
• 26:40
  like,
• 26:40
  the
• 26:41
  reality
• 26:41
  is,
• 26:42
  is
• 26:42
  if
• 26:43
  I
• 26:43
  sat
• 26:43
  a
• 26:43
  woman
• 26:44
  down
• 26:44
  in
• 26:44
  a
• 26:44
  room
• 26:44
  and
• 26:45
  a
• 26:45
  man
• 26:45
  down
• 26:45
  in
• 26:45
  a
• 26:45
  room,
• 26:45
  you
• 26:46
  know,
• 26:46
  and
• 26:46
  they.
• 26:47
  And
• 26:47
  they've
• 26:47
  broken
• 26:47
  up,
• 26:48
  like,
• 26:48
  both
• 26:49
  would
• 26:49
  have
• 26:50
  equally
• 26:50
  valid
• 26:51
  stories.
• 26:52
  As
• 26:52
  long
• 26:52
  as
• 26:52
  you're
• 26:53
  willing
• 26:53
  to
• 26:54
  accept
• 26:54
  that
• 26:54
  both
• 26:54
  people
• 26:55
  have
• 26:55
  their
• 26:55
  needs.
• 26:57
  And,
• 26:58
  you
• 26:58
  know,
• 26:58
  so
• 26:58
  that's
• 26:59
  the
• 26:59
  thing,
• 26:59
  is
• 27:00
  I
• 27:00
  know
• 27:00
  what
• 27:00
  my
• 27:00
  needs
• 27:01
  are.
• 27:01
  You
• 27:01
  know,
• 27:01
  I've
• 27:02
  done
• 27:02
  a
• 27:02
  lot
• 27:02
  of
• 27:02
  work
• 27:02
  to
• 27:03
  determine
• 27:03
  what
• 27:03
  it.
• 27:04
  What
• 27:04
  is
• 27:04
  it
• 27:04
  that
• 27:04
  I
• 27:04
  want
• 27:05
  in
• 27:05
  a
• 27:05
  relationship.
• 27:06
  And.
• 27:07
  But
• 27:07
  I
• 27:07
  also
• 27:08
  need
• 27:08
  to
• 27:08
  understand
• 27:09
  what.
• 27:09
  What
• 27:10
  a
• 27:10
  man's
• 27:10
  needs
• 27:10
  are.
• 27:11
  And.
• 27:12
  And
• 27:12
  I
• 27:12
  think
• 27:13
  that
• 27:13
  that's
• 27:14
  really
• 27:14
  what's
• 27:14
  missing
• 27:15
  is
• 27:16
  a
• 27:16
  lot
• 27:16
  of
• 27:16
  women,
• 27:17
  you
• 27:17
  know,
• 27:17
  we're.
• 27:18
  We're
• 27:18
  like,
• 27:18
  I
• 27:18
  want
• 27:19
  him
• 27:19
  to
• 27:19
  be
• 27:19
  like
• 27:19
  this.
• 27:19
  He's.
• 27:20
  He
• 27:20
  needs
• 27:20
  to
• 27:20
  look
• 27:20
  like
• 27:21
  this.
• 27:21
  He
• 27:21
  needs
• 27:21
  to
• 27:21
  be
• 27:21
  6ft
• 27:22
  tall.
• 27:22
  He
• 27:22
  needs
• 27:23
  to
• 27:23
  treat
• 27:23
  me
• 27:23
  this
• 27:23
  way.
• 27:23
  He
• 27:24
  needs
• 27:24
  to
• 27:24
  do
• 27:24
  all
• 27:24
  this.
• 27:24
  He
• 27:25
  needs
• 27:25
  to,
• 27:26
  you
• 27:26
  know,
• 27:26
  and
• 27:26
  it's
• 27:26
  like,
• 27:28
  great.
• 27:28
  Like,
• 27:29
  we
• 27:29
  love
• 27:29
  that
• 27:29
  we
• 27:30
  have
• 27:30
  our
• 27:30
  needs,
• 27:30
  but,
• 27:31
  like,
• 27:31
  how
• 27:32
  are
• 27:32
  we
• 27:33
  compromising
• 27:34
  a
• 27:34
  little
• 27:34
  bit
• 27:34
  to
• 27:34
  make
• 27:35
  sure
• 27:35
  that
• 27:35
  my
• 27:35
  guy's
• 27:36
  needs
• 27:36
  are
• 27:36
  met,
• 27:37
  too?
• 27:37
  And
• 27:37
  sometimes
• 27:38
  they're
• 27:39
  opposing
• 27:39
  needs,
• 27:40
  and
• 27:40
  so
• 27:41
  we
• 27:41
  have
• 27:41
  to
• 27:41
  meet
• 27:41
  in
• 27:41
  the
• 27:42
  middle
• 27:42
  somewhere.
• 27:43
  And,
• 27:45
  yeah,
• 27:45
  I
• 27:45
  think
• 27:45
  that
• 27:45
  that's
• 27:46
  just
• 27:46
  really
• 27:46
  what's.
• 27:47
  What's
• 27:47
  missing.
• 27:47
  Good
• 27:47
  communication
• 27:48
  and
• 27:50
  not
• 27:50
  just,
• 27:51
  like,
• 27:51
  my
• 27:51
  way
• 27:51
  or
• 27:51
  the
• 27:52
  highway.
• 27:53
  So
• 27:53
  you
• 27:53
  mentioned
• 27:53
  you
• 27:54
  weren't
• 27:54
  doing
• 27:54
  the
• 27:54
  apps.
• 27:55
  Where
• 27:55
  were
• 27:56
  you
• 27:56
  meeting
• 27:56
  these
• 27:57
  men?
• 27:57
  And
• 27:58
  did
• 27:58
  you
• 27:58
  have,
• 27:58
  like,
• 27:58
  a
• 27:58
  favorite
• 27:59
  place
• 27:59
  to
• 27:59
  go
• 27:59
  that
• 28:00
  you
• 28:00
  thought
• 28:00
  was,
• 28:00
  like,
• 28:00
  the
• 28:00
  best
• 28:01
  to
• 28:01
  meet
• 28:01
  men,
• 28:01
  or
• 28:02
  was
• 28:02
  it
• 28:02
  through
• 28:02
  friends
• 28:02
  or.
• 28:03
  Yeah,
• 28:04
  so
• 28:04
  I
• 28:04
  didn't
• 28:05
  do
• 28:05
  apps
• 28:06
  only.
• 28:07
  Well,
• 28:07
  I
• 28:07
  shouldn't
• 28:07
  say
• 28:07
  that.
• 28:08
  I.
• 28:08
  I
• 28:08
  did
• 28:08
  it
• 28:08
  for
• 28:08
  a
• 28:08
  hot
• 28:09
  minute.
• 28:09
  I
• 28:09
  think
• 28:09
  I
• 28:09
  did.
• 28:09
  Well,
• 28:09
  No,
• 28:10
  I
• 28:10
  did.
• 28:10
  I
• 28:10
  was
• 28:10
  on
• 28:10
  Raya
• 28:12
  and.
• 28:15
  And
• 28:16
  Hinge
• 28:16
  for,
• 28:16
  like,
• 28:16
  two
• 28:16
  seconds.
• 28:17
  But
• 28:17
  anyway.
• 28:17
  But
• 28:18
  I
• 28:18
  was
• 28:18
  like,
• 28:18
  this.
• 28:18
  I
• 28:19
  don't
• 28:19
  have
• 28:19
  time
• 28:19
  for
• 28:19
  this.
• 28:19
  This
• 28:20
  is
• 28:20
  like,
• 28:20
  no,
• 28:20
  I'm
• 28:21
  busy.
• 28:21
  So.
• 28:23
  So
• 28:23
  again,
• 28:24
  so
• 28:24
  treating
• 28:24
  it
• 28:24
  like
• 28:25
  a
• 28:25
  business,
• 28:27
  I.
• 28:28
  What's.
• 28:29
  What's
• 28:29
  the
• 28:30
  best
• 28:30
  way
• 28:30
  to
• 28:30
  get
• 28:30
  business
• 28:31
  referrals?
• 28:32
  Word
• 28:32
  of
• 28:32
  mouth.
• 28:34
  So
• 28:34
  what
• 28:35
  I
• 28:35
  did
• 28:35
  was
• 28:36
  I
• 28:36
  went
• 28:36
  through
• 28:36
  every
• 28:37
  contact
• 28:38
  in
• 28:38
  my
• 28:38
  phone
• 28:40
  or
• 28:40
  actually,
• 28:40
  let
• 28:40
  me
• 28:41
  back
• 28:41
  up.
• 28:41
  So
• 28:41
  hold
• 28:41
  on.
• 28:42
  Put
• 28:42
  that
• 28:42
  on
• 28:42
  pause
• 28:43
  for
• 28:43
  a
• 28:43
  second.
• 28:43
  I
• 28:44
  hired
• 28:44
  a
• 28:44
  matchmaker.
• 28:45
  I
• 28:45
  actually
• 28:45
  hired
• 28:45
  a
• 28:46
  matchmaker.
• 28:47
  So
• 28:47
  I
• 28:48
  was
• 28:48
  like,
• 28:48
  again,
• 28:49
  you
• 28:49
  know,
• 28:49
  I
• 28:50
  treated
• 28:50
  my
• 28:50
  dating
• 28:50
  life
• 28:51
  like
• 28:51
  a
• 28:51
  business.
• 28:52
  Well,
• 28:52
  in
• 28:52
  business,
• 28:53
  sometimes
• 28:53
  I
• 28:53
  hire
• 28:53
  consultants.
• 28:54
  These
• 28:55
  are
• 28:55
  experts
• 28:56
  that
• 28:57
  come
• 28:57
  into
• 28:57
  my
• 28:57
  company
• 28:58
  with,
• 28:59
  you
• 28:59
  know,
• 29:00
  a
• 29:00
  project,
• 29:01
  and
• 29:02
  I
• 29:02
  hire
• 29:02
  them
• 29:03
  for
• 29:03
  a
• 29:03
  project,
• 29:03
  and
• 29:04
  they're
• 29:04
  experts
• 29:05
  in
• 29:05
  what
• 29:05
  they
• 29:05
  do
• 29:05
  to
• 29:05
  help
• 29:06
  with
• 29:06
  the
• 29:06
  project
• 29:06
  so
• 29:06
  I
• 29:07
  don't
• 29:07
  have
• 29:07
  to
• 29:07
  sit
• 29:07
  and
• 29:08
  learn
• 29:08
  all
• 29:08
  about
• 29:08
  it.
• 29:09
  You
• 29:09
  bring
• 29:09
  in
• 29:09
  an
• 29:09
  expert.
• 29:10
  So
• 29:10
  I
• 29:11
  said
• 29:11
  to
• 29:11
  myself,
• 29:12
  okay,
• 29:13
  a
• 29:13
  matchmaker.
• 29:14
  They're
• 29:15
  like
• 29:15
  a
• 29:15
  consultant.
• 29:16
  So
• 29:16
  while
• 29:16
  I'm
• 29:16
  busy
• 29:16
  at
• 29:17
  work,
• 29:17
  I
• 29:17
  have
• 29:17
  this
• 29:18
  expert
• 29:18
  behind
• 29:19
  the
• 29:19
  scenes
• 29:19
  that's
• 29:20
  doing
• 29:20
  work
• 29:20
  on
• 29:20
  my
• 29:20
  behalf
• 29:21
  so
• 29:21
  I
• 29:21
  don't
• 29:21
  have
• 29:21
  to
• 29:21
  lift
• 29:22
  a
• 29:22
  finger.
• 29:23
  So
• 29:23
  I
• 29:23
  hired
• 29:23
  a
• 29:23
  matchmaker,
• 29:24
  and
• 29:25
  I
• 29:25
  highly
• 29:25
  recommend.
• 29:26
  I
• 29:26
  mean,
• 29:27
  I
• 29:27
  loved
• 29:28
  it.
• 29:28
  I
• 29:28
  had
• 29:28
  an
• 29:28
  amazing
• 29:29
  experience.
• 29:30
  If
• 29:30
  anyone
• 29:30
  wants
• 29:30
  to
• 29:31
  message
• 29:31
  me,
• 29:31
  I'm
• 29:31
  happy
• 29:31
  to
• 29:32
  tell
• 29:32
  you
• 29:32
  who
• 29:32
  I
• 29:32
  used,
• 29:33
  but
• 29:34
  I
• 29:34
  had
• 29:34
  an
• 29:35
  amazing
• 29:35
  experience.
• 29:36
  Now,
• 29:36
  ultimately,
• 29:38
  they
• 29:38
  didn't.
• 29:40
  Simultaneously,
• 29:41
  while
• 29:41
  I
• 29:41
  had
• 29:41
  the
• 29:41
  matchmaker,
• 29:42
  I
• 29:43
  was
• 29:43
  asking
• 29:43
  for
• 29:43
  referrals.
• 29:44
  I
• 29:44
  did
• 29:44
  both
• 29:44
  at
• 29:44
  the
• 29:45
  same
• 29:45
  time.
• 29:46
  And
• 29:48
  so
• 29:48
  what
• 29:49
  I
• 29:49
  did
• 29:49
  was
• 29:51
  I,
• 29:52
  again,
• 29:52
  word
• 29:52
  of
• 29:53
  mouth,
• 29:53
  you
• 29:54
  know,
• 29:54
  use
• 29:55
  your
• 29:55
  network.
• 29:55
  I
• 29:56
  went
• 29:56
  through
• 29:56
  every
• 29:57
  contact
• 29:57
  in
• 29:57
  my
• 29:58
  phone.
• 29:58
  Started
• 29:58
  with
• 29:59
  the
• 29:59
  A's.
• 29:59
  I
• 29:59
  mean,
• 29:59
  I
• 30:00
  don't
• 30:00
  know
• 30:00
  how
• 30:00
  many
• 30:00
  contacts
• 30:00
  I
• 30:00
  have.
• 30:01
  1500.
• 30:02
  And
• 30:02
  I
• 30:02
  strategically
• 30:03
  chose
• 30:04
  who
• 30:04
  I
• 30:04
  would
• 30:04
  ask
• 30:05
  for
• 30:05
  referrals.
• 30:05
  And
• 30:06
  I
• 30:06
  was
• 30:06
  very
• 30:06
  intentional
• 30:07
  about
• 30:07
  it.
• 30:07
  I
• 30:08
  didn't
• 30:08
  just
• 30:08
  say,
• 30:08
  hey,
• 30:08
  by
• 30:09
  the
• 30:09
  way,
• 30:09
  if
• 30:09
  you
• 30:09
  know
• 30:09
  any
• 30:09
  want
• 30:09
  to
• 30:10
  let
• 30:10
  me
• 30:10
  know.
• 30:10
  I
• 30:10
  was
• 30:11
  very
• 30:11
  thoughtful
• 30:12
  about
• 30:12
  the
• 30:12
  text
• 30:13
  message.
• 30:13
  I
• 30:13
  said,
• 30:14
  you're
• 30:14
  somebody
• 30:14
  who
• 30:14
  I
• 30:15
  trust.
• 30:18
  You've
• 30:18
  known
• 30:18
  me
• 30:18
  long
• 30:19
  enough
• 30:19
  that
• 30:19
  I
• 30:19
  think
• 30:19
  you
• 30:19
  know
• 30:20
  who
• 30:20
  I
• 30:20
  am.
• 30:21
  And
• 30:21
  would
• 30:21
  you
• 30:22
  be
• 30:22
  willing
• 30:22
  to
• 30:22
  think
• 30:22
  about
• 30:23
  anyone
• 30:24
  in
• 30:24
  your
• 30:24
  network?
• 30:25
  I
• 30:25
  asked
• 30:25
  a
• 30:26
  lot
• 30:26
  of
• 30:26
  guys.
• 30:27
  I
• 30:27
  asked
• 30:27
  a
• 30:27
  lot
• 30:28
  of
• 30:29
  friends
• 30:29
  that
• 30:30
  were
• 30:30
  married.
• 30:30
  Those.
• 30:31
  I
• 30:31
  got
• 30:31
  the
• 30:31
  best
• 30:32
  referrals
• 30:32
  off
• 30:32
  of
• 30:33
  that.
• 30:33
  Only
• 30:33
  because
• 30:34
  if
• 30:34
  you
• 30:34
  ask,
• 30:34
  like,
• 30:34
  a
• 30:35
  single
• 30:35
  girl,
• 30:35
  a
• 30:35
  lot
• 30:35
  of
• 30:35
  times
• 30:35
  they're
• 30:36
  like,
• 30:36
  girl,
• 30:36
  like,
• 30:36
  I'm
• 30:37
  having
• 30:37
  my
• 30:37
  own
• 30:37
  hard
• 30:38
  time.
• 30:38
  Like,
• 30:39
  you
• 30:39
  know,
• 30:39
  like,
• 30:39
  they're
• 30:39
  not.
• 30:39
  They
• 30:40
  weren't
• 30:40
  as
• 30:40
  likely
• 30:40
  to
• 30:41
  lend
• 30:41
  a
• 30:41
  hand,
• 30:41
  I
• 30:41
  felt
• 30:42
  like.
• 30:42
  But
• 30:42
  some
• 30:43
  were.
• 30:43
  But,
• 30:43
  you
• 30:44
  know,
• 30:45
  and
• 30:45
  so
• 30:45
  I
• 30:45
  went
• 30:45
  through
• 30:46
  every
• 30:46
  contact
• 30:47
  in
• 30:47
  my
• 30:47
  phone.
• 30:47
  And
• 30:47
  people
• 30:48
  took
• 30:48
  it
• 30:48
  so
• 30:48
  seriously.
• 30:49
  And
• 30:49
  people
• 30:49
  were
• 30:49
  like,
• 30:50
  oh,
• 30:50
  my
• 30:50
  God,
• 30:50
  Renee,
• 30:51
  like,
• 30:52
  thank
• 30:52
  you
• 30:52
  so
• 30:52
  much
• 30:53
  for,
• 30:53
  like,
• 30:53
  trusting
• 30:54
  me
• 30:54
  to
• 30:54
  help
• 30:54
  you
• 30:54
  find
• 30:55
  someone
• 30:55
  or
• 30:55
  whatever.
• 30:56
  So
• 30:56
  I
• 30:56
  got
• 30:56
  a
• 30:57
  lot
• 30:57
  of
• 30:57
  great
• 30:57
  referrals.
• 30:58
  But
• 30:59
  then
• 30:59
  as
• 31:00
  I
• 31:00
  worked
• 31:00
  towards
• 31:00
  the
• 31:00
  end
• 31:01
  of
• 31:01
  my
• 31:01
  phone,
• 31:01
  there
• 31:02
  was
• 31:02
  a
• 31:02
  guy
• 31:02
  in
• 31:02
  my
• 31:02
  phone
• 31:03
  that
• 31:03
  I've
• 31:03
  known
• 31:03
  for,
• 31:03
  like,
• 31:04
  16
• 31:04
  years.
• 31:04
  We
• 31:04
  were
• 31:05
  colleagues,
• 31:05
  and
• 31:06
  I
• 31:06
  hadn't
• 31:06
  spoken
• 31:07
  to
• 31:07
  him
• 31:07
  in
• 31:07
  a
• 31:07
  while,
• 31:07
  and
• 31:07
  I
• 31:07
  was
• 31:08
  like,
• 31:08
  oh,
• 31:08
  what's
• 31:08
  he
• 31:08
  up
• 31:09
  to?
• 31:09
  So
• 31:09
  I
• 31:09
  texted
• 31:10
  him
• 31:11
  and
• 31:12
  just
• 31:12
  to
• 31:13
  say
• 31:13
  hi,
• 31:13
  like,
• 31:14
  not
• 31:14
  thinking
• 31:14
  anything
• 31:15
  of
• 31:15
  it.
• 31:15
  And
• 31:16
  we've
• 31:16
  been
• 31:16
  together
• 31:16
  for
• 31:17
  three
• 31:17
  years.
• 31:18
  And
• 31:18
  so
• 31:18
  this
• 31:18
  is
• 31:19
  what
• 31:19
  I
• 31:19
  will
• 31:19
  always
• 31:20
  say.
• 31:21
  I
• 31:21
  believe
• 31:22
  the
• 31:22
  love
• 31:22
  of
• 31:23
  your
• 31:23
  life
• 31:23
  is
• 31:23
  either
• 31:24
  currently
• 31:24
  in
• 31:24
  your
• 31:25
  contacts,
• 31:25
  or
• 31:26
  somebody
• 31:26
  in
• 31:26
  your
• 31:26
  contacts
• 31:27
  knows
• 31:28
  the
• 31:28
  love
• 31:28
  of
• 31:28
  your
• 31:28
  life.
• 31:29
  Use
• 31:29
  your
• 31:30
  network.
• 31:30
  Use
• 31:31
  your
• 31:31
  network.
• 31:32
  I
• 31:32
  mean,
• 31:32
  I
• 31:32
  built
• 31:33
  a
• 31:33
  multimillion
• 31:33
  dollar
• 31:34
  skin
• 31:34
  care
• 31:34
  company.
• 31:35
  Word
• 31:35
  of
• 31:36
  mouth,
• 31:36
  right?
• 31:36
  I
• 31:37
  was
• 31:37
  a
• 31:37
  small
• 31:37
  brand.
• 31:38
  You
• 31:38
  just
• 31:39
  rely
• 31:39
  on
• 31:39
  referrals.
• 31:40
  Everything
• 31:40
  in
• 31:41
  this
• 31:41
  life,
• 31:41
  right?
• 31:42
  Who
• 31:42
  do
• 31:42
  you
• 31:42
  get
• 31:42
  your
• 31:42
  hair
• 31:43
  done
• 31:43
  from?
• 31:43
  Who
• 31:43
  do
• 31:43
  you
• 31:43
  get
• 31:44
  your
• 31:44
  nails?
• 31:44
  Well,
• 31:45
  it
• 31:45
  was
• 31:45
  a
• 31:45
  referral.
• 31:46
  You
• 31:46
  asked
• 31:46
  a
• 31:47
  girlfriend,
• 31:47
  right?
• 31:48
  So
• 31:48
  let's
• 31:48
  use
• 31:48
  this
• 31:48
  in
• 31:48
  our
• 31:49
  dating
• 31:49
  life.
• 31:49
  And
• 31:49
  that's
• 31:50
  what
• 31:50
  I
• 31:50
  did.
• 31:51
  And
• 31:51
  so
• 31:52
  while.
• 31:53
  So.
• 31:53
  So
• 31:54
  again,
• 31:54
  I
• 31:54
  hired
• 31:55
  a
• 31:55
  matchmaker.
• 31:55
  I
• 31:55
  was
• 31:56
  out
• 31:56
  in
• 31:56
  the
• 31:56
  world,
• 31:56
  you
• 31:56
  know,
• 31:57
  trying
• 31:57
  to
• 31:58
  do,
• 31:58
  you
• 31:58
  know,
• 31:58
  do
• 31:58
  the
• 31:59
  Lord's
• 31:59
  work
• 31:59
  for
• 32:00
  myself,
• 32:00
  trying
• 32:00
  to
• 32:00
  find,
• 32:01
  you
• 32:01
  know,
• 32:01
  a
• 32:02
  good
• 32:02
  partner
• 32:02
  in
• 32:02
  this
• 32:02
  life.
• 32:03
  And
• 32:03
  the
• 32:03
  whole
• 32:03
  time
• 32:04
  they
• 32:04
  were
• 32:04
  in
• 32:04
  my
• 32:04
  phone.
• 32:05
  So,
• 32:06
  anyway,
• 32:06
  so
• 32:06
  I
• 32:06
  love
• 32:07
  the
• 32:07
  matchmaker.
• 32:08
  I
• 32:08
  learned
• 32:08
  so
• 32:08
  much
• 32:09
  for
• 32:09
  them,
• 32:09
  and
• 32:10
  they
• 32:10
  sent
• 32:10
  me
• 32:10
  up
• 32:11
  with
• 32:11
  amazing
• 32:11
  dates.
• 32:12
  It
• 32:12
  wasn't
• 32:13
  quite
• 32:13
  the
• 32:13
  right
• 32:13
  match
• 32:14
  because,
• 32:14
  I
• 32:14
  mean,
• 32:14
  you
• 32:14
  know,
• 32:14
  it's
• 32:15
  throwing
• 32:15
  spaghetti
• 32:15
  at
• 32:15
  a
• 32:15
  wall.
• 32:16
  You
• 32:16
  got
• 32:16
  to
• 32:16
  see
• 32:16
  what
• 32:16
  sticks.
• 32:16
  But.
• 32:17
  But
• 32:17
  what
• 32:17
  I
• 32:17
  loved
• 32:18
  about
• 32:18
  the
• 32:18
  matchmaker
• 32:19
  is
• 32:19
  they
• 32:19
  really
• 32:19
  got
• 32:20
  to
• 32:20
  know
• 32:20
  me
• 32:20
  and
• 32:21
  help
• 32:21
  me
• 32:22
  really
• 32:22
  understand
• 32:23
  what
• 32:23
  I
• 32:24
  need
• 32:24
  in
• 32:24
  a
• 32:24
  relationship.
• 32:25
  So
• 32:25
  that
• 32:25
  when
• 32:26
  that
• 32:26
  person
• 32:26
  showed
• 32:27
  up,
• 32:27
  I
• 32:27
  knew
• 32:28
  it
• 32:28
  right
• 32:28
  away.
• 32:28
  I
• 32:29
  was
• 32:29
  like,
• 32:30
  so
• 32:30
  that
• 32:30
  was
• 32:30
  that.
• 32:31
  It
• 32:31
  was
• 32:31
  just
• 32:31
  super
• 32:31
  helpful.
• 32:32
  And
• 32:32
  that's
• 32:32
  why
• 32:32
  I
• 32:33
  really.
• 32:33
  I
• 32:34
  highly
• 32:34
  recommend
• 32:35
  a
• 32:35
  matchmaker.
• 32:35
  I'm
• 32:35
  sure
• 32:36
  they
• 32:36
  would
• 32:36
  have
• 32:36
  found
• 32:36
  me
• 32:36
  someone,
• 32:37
  but
• 32:37
  it
• 32:38
  was
• 32:38
  early
• 32:38
  on
• 32:38
  in
• 32:39
  the
• 32:39
  matchmaking
• 32:39
  that
• 32:40
  I
• 32:40
  was
• 32:40
  going
• 32:40
  through
• 32:40
  my
• 32:41
  phone.
• 32:41
  But,
• 32:42
  yeah,
• 32:42
  I
• 32:42
  see.
• 32:42
  So
• 32:43
  you
• 32:43
  literally
• 32:44
  texted
• 32:44
  him
• 32:44
  and
• 32:45
  you
• 32:45
  were
• 32:45
  like,
• 32:45
  hey,
• 32:46
  just
• 32:46
  wanted
• 32:46
  to,
• 32:46
  you
• 32:47
  know,
• 32:47
  kind
• 32:47
  of
• 32:48
  chat.
• 32:48
  Yeah,
• 32:48
  I
• 32:48
  never.
• 32:49
  I
• 32:49
  never
• 32:49
  thought
• 32:49
  of
• 32:50
  him
• 32:50
  that
• 32:50
  way
• 32:50
  because
• 32:50
  we
• 32:51
  were
• 32:51
  colleagues
• 32:51
  and
• 32:51
  I
• 32:51
  was
• 32:52
  married
• 32:52
  when
• 32:52
  I
• 32:52
  met
• 32:52
  him,
• 32:53
  and
• 32:53
  I
• 32:53
  just
• 32:53
  never
• 32:54
  thought
• 32:54
  of
• 32:54
  him
• 32:54
  that
• 32:54
  way.
• 32:54
  And
• 32:55
  so
• 32:55
  I
• 32:55
  reached
• 32:55
  out
• 32:55
  just
• 32:56
  simply
• 32:56
  to
• 32:56
  say
• 32:56
  hi,
• 32:57
  because
• 32:57
  I
• 32:57
  was
• 32:57
  like,
• 32:58
  oh,
• 32:58
  what
• 32:58
  is
• 32:58
  he
• 32:58
  up
• 32:58
  to?
• 32:59
  And
• 33:00
  anyway,
• 33:01
  we
• 33:01
  ended
• 33:01
  up
• 33:01
  getting
• 33:01
  on
• 33:02
  the
• 33:02
  phone.
• 33:02
  He's
• 33:02
  like,
• 33:02
  hey,
• 33:02
  are
• 33:03
  you
• 33:03
  free
• 33:03
  to
• 33:03
  talk
• 33:03
  right
• 33:03
  now?
• 33:03
  I
• 33:04
  would
• 33:04
  love
• 33:04
  to
• 33:04
  catch
• 33:04
  up.
• 33:04
  And
• 33:04
  I
• 33:05
  was
• 33:05
  like,
• 33:05
  actually,
• 33:05
  I
• 33:06
  am.
• 33:06
  So
• 33:07
  we
• 33:07
  got
• 33:07
  on
• 33:07
  the
• 33:07
  phone
• 33:08
  and
• 33:08
  then
• 33:09
  he
• 33:09
  knew
• 33:10
  about
• 33:10
  my
• 33:10
  husband
• 33:10
  passing
• 33:11
  away
• 33:11
  and
• 33:11
  he
• 33:12
  was
• 33:12
  like,
• 33:12
  so
• 33:12
  sorry,
• 33:13
  whatever.
• 33:13
  And
• 33:13
  then
• 33:13
  he
• 33:13
  was
• 33:14
  like,
• 33:14
  oh,
• 33:14
  are
• 33:14
  you,
• 33:15
  are
• 33:15
  you
• 33:15
  dating
• 33:15
  and.
• 33:17
  Or,
• 33:17
  you
• 33:17
  know,
• 33:18
  are
• 33:18
  you
• 33:18
  in
• 33:18
  a
• 33:18
  relationship?
• 33:18
  And
• 33:19
  I
• 33:19
  was
• 33:19
  like,
• 33:19
  I
• 33:19
  was
• 33:19
  like,
• 33:19
  no,
• 33:20
  actually,
• 33:20
  I'm
• 33:20
  single.
• 33:21
  And
• 33:21
  he
• 33:21
  was
• 33:21
  like,
• 33:21
  what?
• 33:22
  You're
• 33:22
  single?
• 33:24
  And.
• 33:25
  And
• 33:26
  so,
• 33:26
  yeah,
• 33:27
  he.
• 33:27
  We
• 33:28
  have
• 33:28
  a
• 33:28
  long
• 33:28
  distance
• 33:28
  relationship,
• 33:29
  which
• 33:29
  I
• 33:30
  love.
• 33:30
  It
• 33:30
  works
• 33:31
  really
• 33:31
  well
• 33:31
  for
• 33:31
  us
• 33:32
  because
• 33:33
  at
• 33:33
  this
• 33:33
  stage
• 33:33
  in
• 33:34
  the
• 33:34
  game,
• 33:34
  like,
• 33:34
  you
• 33:34
  know,
• 33:35
  I'm
• 33:35
  56.
• 33:35
  Like,
• 33:35
  it's
• 33:36
  not
• 33:36
  like
• 33:36
  I'm
• 33:36
  having
• 33:36
  kids.
• 33:37
  Like,
• 33:37
  we
• 33:37
  don't
• 33:37
  need
• 33:37
  the
• 33:37
  white
• 33:38
  picket
• 33:38
  fence,
• 33:39
  so.
• 33:39
  But
• 33:39
  we
• 33:39
  see
• 33:40
  each
• 33:40
  other
• 33:40
  a
• 33:40
  lot.
• 33:40
  We
• 33:40
  see
• 33:41
  each
• 33:41
  other
• 33:42
  every
• 33:43
  week
• 33:43
  and
• 33:43
  a
• 33:43
  half
• 33:43
  and
• 33:44
  he's
• 33:44
  a
• 33:44
  great
• 33:45
  communicator,
• 33:45
  so
• 33:46
  it
• 33:46
  really
• 33:46
  works
• 33:46
  for
• 33:46
  us.
• 33:47
  He's
• 33:47
  busy,
• 33:48
  I'm
• 33:48
  busy.
• 33:50
  But
• 33:50
  yeah,
• 33:51
  so
• 33:51
  that's
• 33:51
  how
• 33:51
  that
• 33:51
  happened.
• 33:52
  What
• 33:52
  was
• 33:52
  the
• 33:53
  first
• 33:53
  date
• 33:53
  like
• 33:53
  with
• 33:54
  him?
• 33:54
  Okay,
• 33:55
  well,
• 33:55
  so
• 33:55
  here's
• 33:55
  the
• 33:55
  funny
• 33:56
  story.
• 33:56
  So.
• 33:58
  So
• 33:58
  I'm
• 33:58
  in
• 33:58
  New
• 33:58
  York.
• 33:59
  So
• 33:59
  he
• 33:59
  was
• 34:00
  in
• 34:00
  New
• 34:00
  York
• 34:00
  at
• 34:00
  the
• 34:00
  time.
• 34:00
  He
• 34:01
  said,
• 34:01
  when
• 34:01
  are
• 34:01
  you
• 34:01
  coming
• 34:01
  to
• 34:01
  New
• 34:02
  York?
• 34:02
  He
• 34:03
  goes,
• 34:03
  I
• 34:03
  want
• 34:03
  to
• 34:03
  take
• 34:03
  you
• 34:03
  out
• 34:04
  on
• 34:04
  a
• 34:04
  date.
• 34:04
  I
• 34:04
  said,
• 34:04
  well,
• 34:05
  it
• 34:05
  just
• 34:05
  so
• 34:05
  happens
• 34:05
  I'll
• 34:05
  be
• 34:06
  there
• 34:06
  on
• 34:06
  Friday.
• 34:06
  And
• 34:07
  I
• 34:07
  was
• 34:07
  going
• 34:07
  to
• 34:07
  be
• 34:07
  there.
• 34:07
  We
• 34:08
  were
• 34:08
  launching
• 34:08
  a
• 34:08
  new
• 34:08
  skincare
• 34:09
  product
• 34:09
  and
• 34:09
  I
• 34:09
  was
• 34:10
  there
• 34:10
  for
• 34:10
  like
• 34:11
  five
• 34:11
  days
• 34:11
  for
• 34:11
  a
• 34:11
  precedent.
• 34:13
  Well,
• 34:14
  I
• 34:14
  actually
• 34:15
  had
• 34:15
  three
• 34:16
  dates
• 34:16
  planned.
• 34:17
  What,
• 34:17
  two
• 34:18
  dates
• 34:18
  and
• 34:18
  then
• 34:19
  now
• 34:19
  him.
• 34:20
  So
• 34:21
  I
• 34:21
  had
• 34:21
  a
• 34:21
  Raya
• 34:21
  date
• 34:22
  when
• 34:22
  I
• 34:22
  was
• 34:22
  there
• 34:23
  because
• 34:23
  I
• 34:24
  was
• 34:24
  like,
• 34:24
  oh,
• 34:24
  let
• 34:24
  me
• 34:24
  just
• 34:24
  try
• 34:24
  Uriah
• 34:25
  in
• 34:25
  New
• 34:25
  York.
• 34:25
  I'll
• 34:26
  just
• 34:26
  open
• 34:26
  up
• 34:26
  this
• 34:26
  app,
• 34:26
  whatever.
• 34:27
  So
• 34:27
  I
• 34:27
  had
• 34:27
  a
• 34:27
  Raya
• 34:28
  date.
• 34:28
  The
• 34:28
  matchmaker
• 34:29
  sent
• 34:29
  me
• 34:29
  up
• 34:30
  with.
• 34:30
  With
• 34:30
  somebody
• 34:31
  and
• 34:32
  the
• 34:32
  contact
• 34:33
  of
• 34:33
  my
• 34:33
  phone.
• 34:34
  So
• 34:34
  I
• 34:34
  think
• 34:34
  I
• 34:34
  was
• 34:35
  there
• 34:35
  six
• 34:35
  nights.
• 34:36
  So
• 34:36
  I
• 34:36
  was
• 34:36
  working
• 34:36
  during
• 34:37
  the
• 34:37
  day,
• 34:37
  but
• 34:37
  I
• 34:38
  was
• 34:38
  like,
• 34:38
  no,
• 34:38
  let
• 34:39
  me
• 34:39
  just
• 34:39
  have
• 34:39
  a
• 34:39
  couple
• 34:39
  dates
• 34:40
  at
• 34:40
  night
• 34:40
  while
• 34:40
  I'm
• 34:40
  here.
• 34:41
  And
• 34:42
  so
• 34:42
  I
• 34:42
  had
• 34:42
  three
• 34:43
  dates.
• 34:43
  And
• 34:44
  so
• 34:44
  in
• 34:44
  theory,
• 34:45
  it
• 34:45
  was
• 34:45
  like,
• 34:45
  at
• 34:45
  the
• 34:46
  end
• 34:46
  of
• 34:46
  the
• 34:46
  week,
• 34:46
  who's
• 34:46
  going
• 34:47
  to
• 34:47
  get
• 34:47
  the
• 34:47
  final
• 34:47
  rose?
• 34:48
  And
• 34:49
  so
• 34:49
  I
• 34:49
  went
• 34:49
  out
• 34:50
  with
• 34:50
  all
• 34:50
  three.
• 34:51
  But
• 34:52
  by.
• 34:53
  So
• 34:53
  by
• 34:53
  the
• 34:53
  end
• 34:53
  of
• 34:53
  the
• 34:54
  week,
• 34:54
  so
• 34:54
  the
• 34:54
  first
• 34:54
  night
• 34:55
  I
• 34:55
  went
• 34:55
  out
• 34:55
  with
• 34:55
  my
• 34:55
  current
• 34:56
  boyfriend.
• 34:57
  And
• 34:57
  then
• 34:58
  one
• 34:58
  or
• 34:58
  two
• 34:58
  nights
• 34:58
  later,
• 34:59
  matchmaker
• 35:00
  one
• 35:00
  night
• 35:01
  later
• 35:01
  or
• 35:01
  whatever,
• 35:01
  the
• 35:02
  riot
• 35:02
  date.
• 35:03
  And.
• 35:04
  But
• 35:04
  then
• 35:04
  I
• 35:04
  was
• 35:04
  working
• 35:05
  all
• 35:05
  day
• 35:05
  because
• 35:05
  I
• 35:05
  was
• 35:05
  launching
• 35:06
  a
• 35:06
  skincare
• 35:06
  product
• 35:06
  to
• 35:07
  the
• 35:07
  media
• 35:07
  and
• 35:08
  so
• 35:08
  I
• 35:08
  was
• 35:09
  exhausted.
• 35:09
  Well,
• 35:09
  I
• 35:09
  guess
• 35:10
  I
• 35:10
  overdid
• 35:10
  it.
• 35:11
  And
• 35:11
  I
• 35:11
  started
• 35:11
  getting
• 35:11
  really
• 35:12
  sick
• 35:12
  at
• 35:12
  the
• 35:12
  end.
• 35:13
  Like
• 35:13
  the
• 35:13
  last,
• 35:14
  the
• 35:14
  last
• 35:14
  day
• 35:14
  I
• 35:14
  Was
• 35:15
  there.
• 35:15
  I
• 35:15
  came
• 35:15
  down
• 35:15
  with
• 35:15
  something
• 35:16
  because
• 35:16
  I
• 35:16
  guess
• 35:16
  I
• 35:17
  between
• 35:17
  dating
• 35:18
  and
• 35:18
  working,
• 35:18
  like
• 35:18
  my
• 35:19
  little
• 35:19
  body
• 35:19
  was
• 35:19
  just
• 35:20
  like,
• 35:20
  renee,
• 35:20
  you've
• 35:20
  had
• 35:21
  too
• 35:21
  much.
• 35:21
  So
• 35:21
  I
• 35:22
  end
• 35:22
  up
• 35:22
  getting
• 35:22
  sick.
• 35:23
  So
• 35:23
  my
• 35:23
  now
• 35:24
  boyfriend,
• 35:25
  he
• 35:25
  said,
• 35:25
  I
• 35:26
  would
• 35:26
  love
• 35:26
  to
• 35:26
  see
• 35:26
  you
• 35:26
  before
• 35:27
  you
• 35:27
  go.
• 35:28
  And
• 35:28
  I
• 35:28
  was
• 35:28
  like,
• 35:29
  I
• 35:29
  would
• 35:29
  so
• 35:30
  love
• 35:30
  to
• 35:30
  see
• 35:30
  you,
• 35:30
  but
• 35:30
  I
• 35:31
  just
• 35:31
  feel
• 35:31
  awful.
• 35:32
  I
• 35:32
  just
• 35:32
  need
• 35:32
  to
• 35:33
  sleep.
• 35:33
  Like,
• 35:34
  I
• 35:34
  just
• 35:34
  feel
• 35:34
  horrible.
• 35:35
  And
• 35:36
  what
• 35:36
  did
• 35:36
  he
• 35:36
  say
• 35:36
  to
• 35:37
  me?
• 35:37
  He
• 35:38
  said,
• 35:38
  renee,
• 35:40
  I
• 35:40
  don't
• 35:40
  care
• 35:40
  that
• 35:41
  if
• 35:41
  I
• 35:41
  get
• 35:41
  sick.
• 35:42
  He
• 35:42
  goes,
• 35:42
  I'm
• 35:43
  going
• 35:43
  to
• 35:43
  come
• 35:43
  to
• 35:43
  your
• 35:43
  hotel
• 35:44
  room.
• 35:44
  He
• 35:44
  goes,
• 35:45
  I'm
• 35:45
  going
• 35:45
  to
• 35:45
  make
• 35:45
  you
• 35:46
  some.
• 35:46
  I'm
• 35:46
  going
• 35:46
  to
• 35:46
  bring
• 35:47
  you
• 35:47
  some
• 35:47
  chicken
• 35:47
  noodle
• 35:47
  soup.
• 35:48
  He
• 35:48
  goes,
• 35:49
  I'm
• 35:49
  going
• 35:49
  to
• 35:49
  tuck
• 35:49
  you
• 35:49
  into
• 35:50
  bed
• 35:50
  and
• 35:50
  kiss
• 35:51
  you
• 35:51
  on
• 35:51
  the
• 35:51
  forehead.
• 35:53
  Oh.
• 35:54
  And
• 35:54
  I
• 35:55
  was
• 35:55
  like,
• 35:56
  wow.
• 35:57
  And
• 35:58
  he
• 35:58
  got
• 35:58
  the
• 35:58
  final
• 35:59
  rose.
• 36:00
  That
• 36:00
  is
• 36:00
  so
• 36:01
  sweet.
• 36:01
  And
• 36:01
  he
• 36:01
  did
• 36:02
  that.
• 36:02
  He
• 36:02
  put
• 36:02
  you
• 36:02
  all
• 36:03
  into
• 36:03
  bed.
• 36:03
  He
• 36:03
  took
• 36:04
  care
• 36:04
  of
• 36:04
  you.
• 36:04
  I
• 36:05
  mean,
• 36:05
  that's
• 36:05
  what
• 36:05
  you
• 36:05
  wanted.
• 36:07
  Yes.
• 36:07
  And
• 36:07
  for,
• 36:08
  for,
• 36:08
  for,
• 36:09
  for
• 36:09
  women
• 36:09
  in
• 36:09
  general,
• 36:10
  I
• 36:10
  can't
• 36:10
  speak
• 36:10
  for
• 36:11
  every
• 36:11
  woman
• 36:11
  on
• 36:11
  the
• 36:11
  planet,
• 36:12
  but
• 36:13
  for
• 36:13
  a
• 36:13
  woman
• 36:13
  in
• 36:13
  general,
• 36:14
  but
• 36:14
  especially
• 36:15
  a
• 36:15
  very
• 36:15
  successful
• 36:16
  women,
• 36:17
  we're
• 36:17
  so
• 36:17
  busy
• 36:17
  taking
• 36:18
  care
• 36:18
  of
• 36:18
  everyone
• 36:18
  else
• 36:19
  and
• 36:19
  we
• 36:19
  don't
• 36:19
  receive
• 36:20
  very
• 36:20
  well.
• 36:21
  Right.
• 36:22
  And
• 36:22
  that's
• 36:22
  part
• 36:22
  of
• 36:22
  that
• 36:23
  feminine
• 36:23
  energy.
• 36:23
  Instead
• 36:24
  of
• 36:24
  being
• 36:24
  like,
• 36:24
  no,
• 36:24
  no,
• 36:25
  no,
• 36:25
  I
• 36:25
  got
• 36:25
  it.
• 36:25
  I'll
• 36:25
  get
• 36:25
  my
• 36:26
  own
• 36:26
  damn
• 36:26
  chicken
• 36:26
  noodle
• 36:27
  soup.
• 36:27
  Right.
• 36:27
  I
• 36:28
  can
• 36:28
  put
• 36:28
  myself
• 36:28
  in
• 36:28
  bed
• 36:29
  myself.
• 36:29
  Like,
• 36:30
  you
• 36:30
  know,
• 36:30
  it's
• 36:31
  about
• 36:31
  receiving.
• 36:32
  And
• 36:32
  that
• 36:32
  just
• 36:33
  felt
• 36:33
  so
• 36:33
  beautiful
• 36:34
  that
• 36:34
  it,
• 36:34
  that
• 36:35
  I
• 36:36
  was
• 36:37
  like,
• 36:37
  wow,
• 36:38
  no
• 36:38
  one's
• 36:38
  ever
• 36:38
  showed
• 36:39
  up
• 36:39
  like
• 36:39
  that
• 36:39
  for
• 36:39
  me,
• 36:40
  like
• 36:40
  really
• 36:41
  receiving.
• 36:42
  And,
• 36:42
  and
• 36:43
  to
• 36:43
  this
• 36:43
  day
• 36:44
  in
• 36:44
  our
• 36:44
  three
• 36:44
  year
• 36:44
  relationship,
• 36:45
  he,
• 36:46
  he
• 36:46
  just
• 36:48
  pours
• 36:48
  into
• 36:49
  me
• 36:49
  in
• 36:49
  a
• 36:50
  way
• 36:50
  that
• 36:50
  I
• 36:50
  haven't
• 36:50
  experienced
• 36:51
  before
• 36:51
  and
• 36:51
  it's
• 36:51
  beautiful.
• 36:52
  Oh,
• 36:53
  that's
• 36:53
  so
• 36:53
  nice.
• 36:54
  What
• 36:55
  do
• 36:55
  you
• 36:55
  think
• 36:55
  your
• 36:55
  late
• 36:56
  husband
• 36:56
  Florian
• 36:56
  would
• 36:57
  say
• 36:57
  about
• 36:57
  him?
• 37:36
  Yeah,
• 37:37
  so
• 37:37
  I
• 37:37
  get,
• 37:37
  oh,
• 37:38
  I
• 37:38
  get
• 37:38
  a
• 37:38
  little
• 37:39
  emotional.
• 37:40
  He
• 37:41
  would
• 37:41
  be.
• 37:42
  They're
• 37:43
  very
• 37:43
  different.
• 37:44
  They're
• 37:45
  very,
• 37:45
  very
• 37:45
  different.
• 37:50
  But
• 37:51
  I
• 37:51
  think
• 37:51
  my
• 37:51
  husband
• 37:52
  was
• 37:52
  an
• 37:52
  introvert
• 37:53
  and
• 37:54
  he
• 37:55
  was
• 37:57
  just
• 37:57
  like
• 37:57
  to
• 37:57
  be
• 37:58
  home
• 37:58
  a
• 37:58
  lot.
• 37:59
  And
• 37:59
  I
• 38:00
  was
• 38:00
  always
• 38:00
  someone
• 38:01
  that
• 38:01
  was
• 38:01
  kind
• 38:01
  of
• 38:02
  bigger
• 38:02
  than
• 38:02
  life
• 38:02
  and
• 38:02
  always
• 38:03
  very
• 38:04
  highly
• 38:04
  social
• 38:04
  like
• 38:05
  you,
• 38:05
  Roxy.
• 38:05
  Like
• 38:05
  we
• 38:05
  just,
• 38:06
  we
• 38:06
  love
• 38:06
  people,
• 38:07
  get
• 38:07
  energy
• 38:07
  by
• 38:07
  people
• 38:08
  and
• 38:08
  that
• 38:08
  wasn't
• 38:08
  my
• 38:08
  husband
• 38:09
  as
• 38:09
  so
• 38:09
  much.
• 38:09
  So
• 38:10
  much.
• 38:11
  Even
• 38:11
  though
• 38:11
  we
• 38:11
  had
• 38:12
  tons
• 38:12
  of
• 38:12
  adventures
• 38:12
  together
• 38:13
  and
• 38:13
  did
• 38:13
  a
• 38:13
  lot
• 38:13
  of
• 38:13
  fun
• 38:13
  things.
• 38:14
  You
• 38:14
  know,
• 38:14
  we
• 38:14
  rode
• 38:14
  motorcycles
• 38:15
  for
• 38:15
  years
• 38:15
  all
• 38:15
  around
• 38:16
  the
• 38:16
  world
• 38:17
  and
• 38:17
  anyway.
• 38:17
  But
• 38:18
  I'm
• 38:19
  with
• 38:19
  someone
• 38:19
  now
• 38:20
  and
• 38:20
  I
• 38:21
  think
• 38:21
  this
• 38:21
  is
• 38:21
  what
• 38:21
  I
• 38:21
  really
• 38:22
  need
• 38:22
  in
• 38:22
  this
• 38:22
  next
• 38:22
  chapter
• 38:23
  of
• 38:23
  my
• 38:23
  life.
• 38:23
  Somebody
• 38:24
  that
• 38:25
  really
• 38:26
  loves
• 38:26
  to
• 38:27
  live
• 38:27
  life
• 38:27
  even
• 38:28
  in
• 38:28
  a
• 38:28
  bigger
• 38:28
  way.
• 38:29
  And
• 38:29
  like
• 38:30
  Just
• 38:31
  gets
• 38:31
  more
• 38:31
  energy
• 38:32
  around
• 38:32
  people
• 38:33
  like
• 38:33
  I
• 38:33
  do.
• 38:34
  And
• 38:34
  me
• 38:35
  and
• 38:35
  my
• 38:35
  current
• 38:36
  boyfriend
• 38:36
  were
• 38:36
  opposite
• 38:37
  enough,
• 38:37
  which
• 38:38
  I
• 38:38
  love.
• 38:38
  We're
• 38:38
  very
• 38:39
  opposite
• 38:39
  in
• 38:39
  so
• 38:40
  many
• 38:40
  ways.
• 38:40
  So
• 38:40
  I
• 38:40
  learned
• 38:41
  so
• 38:41
  much
• 38:41
  from
• 38:41
  him.
• 38:41
  He
• 38:42
  learned
• 38:42
  so
• 38:42
  much
• 38:42
  from
• 38:42
  me.
• 38:43
  But
• 38:43
  I
• 38:44
  think
• 38:44
  my
• 38:44
  husband
• 38:45
  would.
• 38:47
  I
• 38:47
  mean,
• 38:47
  he
• 38:47
  said
• 38:47
  before
• 38:48
  he
• 38:48
  died,
• 38:49
  renee,
• 38:49
  you've
• 38:50
  been
• 38:50
  a
• 38:50
  tiger
• 38:50
  in
• 38:50
  a
• 38:50
  cage,
• 38:51
  and
• 38:51
  I've
• 38:51
  kept
• 38:51
  you
• 38:51
  trapped,
• 38:51
  and
• 38:52
  it's
• 38:52
  time
• 38:52
  to
• 38:52
  let
• 38:52
  you
• 38:52
  out.
• 38:53
  And
• 38:53
  he
• 38:54
  knew
• 38:54
  that
• 38:54
  in
• 38:54
  a
• 38:54
  lot
• 38:55
  of
• 38:55
  ways,
• 38:56
  he
• 38:56
  held
• 38:56
  me
• 38:56
  back
• 38:57
  from
• 38:57
  certain
• 38:57
  things.
• 38:57
  And
• 38:58
  even
• 38:58
  in
• 38:58
  business,
• 38:58
  he
• 38:59
  was
• 38:59
  always.
• 38:59
  I
• 38:59
  always
• 39:00
  wanted
• 39:00
  to
• 39:00
  grow
• 39:00
  the
• 39:01
  company,
• 39:01
  and
• 39:02
  he
• 39:02
  was
• 39:02
  always
• 39:03
  like,
• 39:04
  we
• 39:04
  can't
• 39:04
  afford
• 39:04
  it,
• 39:05
  and
• 39:05
  kind
• 39:06
  of
• 39:06
  cautious.
• 39:07
  Like,
• 39:07
  more
• 39:07
  cautious.
• 39:08
  Yeah.
• 39:09
  And.
• 39:10
  And
• 39:10
  so
• 39:10
  he
• 39:10
  recognized
• 39:11
  that.
• 39:11
  So
• 39:12
  I
• 39:12
  think
• 39:13
  my
• 39:13
  husband
• 39:14
  would
• 39:14
  be
• 39:14
  very
• 39:14
  proud
• 39:15
  of
• 39:15
  me.
• 39:16
  I
• 39:16
  know
• 39:16
  he's
• 39:17
  proud
• 39:17
  of
• 39:17
  me,
• 39:18
  both
• 39:18
  personally
• 39:18
  and
• 39:19
  professionally,
• 39:21
  because
• 39:22
  the
• 39:22
  tigers
• 39:23
  come
• 39:23
  out
• 39:23
  of
• 39:23
  the
• 39:23
  cage,
• 39:24
  and
• 39:24
  I'm
• 39:25
  really,
• 39:26
  really
• 39:28
  showing
• 39:28
  up
• 39:28
  as
• 39:30
  my
• 39:30
  best
• 39:30
  self
• 39:31
  in
• 39:31
  every
• 39:31
  area
• 39:31
  of
• 39:32
  my
• 39:32
  life.
• 39:32
  And
• 39:32
  that's
• 39:32
  a
• 39:33
  beautiful
• 39:33
  thing.
• 39:34
  That
• 39:34
  is
• 39:34
  beautiful.
• 39:35
  That
• 39:35
  is
• 39:35
  beautiful.
• 39:36
  How
• 39:36
  does
• 39:36
  your
• 39:37
  current
• 39:37
  boyfriend
• 39:37
  make
• 39:38
  you
• 39:38
  feel
• 39:38
  about
• 39:38
  yourself?
• 39:40
  Oh,
• 39:40
  my
• 39:40
  gosh.
• 39:42
  Confident,
• 39:43
  sexy,
• 39:45
  like
• 39:45
  a
• 39:46
  queen.
• 39:48
  Strong.
• 39:52
  Just
• 39:52
  loving,
• 39:53
  kind.
• 39:56
  Yeah.
• 39:57
  I
• 39:57
  mean,
• 39:58
  every
• 39:58
  day
• 39:58
  he
• 39:58
  writes,
• 39:59
  I'm
• 39:59
  trying
• 39:59
  to.
• 40:00
  I
• 40:00
  probably
• 40:00
  have
• 40:00
  one
• 40:00
  around.
• 40:00
  I
• 40:01
  have
• 40:01
  one
• 40:01
  on
• 40:01
  my
• 40:01
  computer.
• 40:01
  I
• 40:02
  mean,
• 40:02
  look
• 40:02
  at
• 40:02
  this
• 40:04
  right
• 40:04
  here.
• 40:04
  It
• 40:04
  says,
• 40:05
  you
• 40:05
  are
• 40:06
  amazing.
• 40:06
  Proud
• 40:06
  of
• 40:07
  you.
• 40:07
  You
• 40:07
  are
• 40:07
  absolutely
• 40:08
  beautiful.
• 40:08
  Keep
• 40:09
  going,
• 40:09
  my
• 40:09
  baby.
• 40:10
  Like,
• 40:11
  he
• 40:11
  writes
• 40:11
  notes
• 40:12
  for
• 40:12
  me
• 40:12
  all
• 40:12
  the
• 40:13
  time,
• 40:14
  and
• 40:14
  he's
• 40:15
  just
• 40:15
  like
• 40:15
  my
• 40:15
  biggest
• 40:16
  cheerleader.
• 40:17
  And.
• 40:17
  And
• 40:18
  that's
• 40:18
  another
• 40:18
  thing,
• 40:18
  too.
• 40:19
  Like,
• 40:19
  being
• 40:19
  successful,
• 40:20
  you
• 40:20
  know,
• 40:21
  like,
• 40:21
  you
• 40:21
  don't
• 40:21
  want
• 40:22
  someone
• 40:22
  to
• 40:22
  dim
• 40:22
  your
• 40:22
  light.
• 40:23
  And.
• 40:24
  And
• 40:24
  I.
• 40:25
  You
• 40:25
  know,
• 40:26
  that's
• 40:26
  hard
• 40:26
  for
• 40:27
  anyone
• 40:27
  who's
• 40:28
  successful.
• 40:29
  That's.
• 40:29
  They've
• 40:30
  experienced
• 40:30
  that,
• 40:31
  you
• 40:31
  know,
• 40:31
  and
• 40:31
  it
• 40:32
  takes
• 40:32
  a
• 40:32
  confident
• 40:33
  man
• 40:33
  to
• 40:34
  not
• 40:34
  dim
• 40:35
  a
• 40:35
  successful
• 40:35
  woman's
• 40:36
  light.
• 40:36
  And
• 40:36
  that's
• 40:37
  why.
• 40:38
  Why
• 40:38
  I
• 40:38
  got
• 40:38
  with
• 40:38
  a
• 40:38
  matchmaker,
• 40:39
  because
• 40:39
  they
• 40:40
  cater
• 40:40
  to.
• 40:41
  I've
• 40:42
  done
• 40:42
  two
• 40:42
  different
• 40:43
  matchmakers,
• 40:44
  and
• 40:44
  they
• 40:44
  both
• 40:44
  were
• 40:44
  great,
• 40:45
  but.
• 40:46
  But
• 40:46
  the
• 40:46
  second
• 40:47
  one
• 40:47
  was
• 40:49
  a
• 40:49
  matchmaker
• 40:50
  that
• 40:50
  really
• 40:51
  caters
• 40:51
  to
• 40:52
  successful
• 40:52
  women
• 40:53
  because
• 40:53
  we're
• 40:53
  a
• 40:53
  different
• 40:54
  breed,
• 40:54
  and.
• 40:55
  And
• 40:56
  we're
• 40:56
  not
• 40:56
  for
• 40:56
  everyone.
• 40:57
  And
• 40:58
  they
• 40:58
  really
• 40:58
  helped
• 40:59
  me
• 41:00
  see,
• 41:01
  you
• 41:01
  know,
• 41:01
  determine
• 41:02
  what
• 41:02
  I
• 41:02
  needed.
• 41:03
  And.
• 41:04
  And
• 41:04
  it
• 41:05
  worked.
• 41:05
  Yeah.
• 41:06
  He
• 41:06
  sounds
• 41:07
  extremely
• 41:07
  thoughtful.
• 41:08
  I
• 41:08
  mean,
• 41:08
  the
• 41:08
  chicken
• 41:09
  soup
• 41:09
  alone,
• 41:09
  you
• 41:10
  know,
• 41:10
  like,
• 41:10
  on
• 41:10
  the
• 41:10
  first
• 41:11
  week,
• 41:11
  I'm
• 41:11
  like,
• 41:13
  that's
• 41:13
  so
• 41:13
  sweet.
• 41:14
  But
• 41:14
  at
• 41:14
  the
• 41:14
  same
• 41:15
  time,
• 41:15
  he's
• 41:15
  also
• 41:16
  very
• 41:16
  strong.
• 41:17
  He's.
• 41:17
  He's
• 41:18
  a
• 41:18
  man.
• 41:18
  He's
• 41:18
  all
• 41:19
  man.
• 41:19
  And.
• 41:19
  But
• 41:20
  he
• 41:20
  has.
• 41:20
  He
• 41:21
  knows
• 41:21
  when,
• 41:22
  you
• 41:22
  know,
• 41:22
  to
• 41:22
  be
• 41:22
  soft,
• 41:23
  when
• 41:23
  I
• 41:23
  need
• 41:23
  him
• 41:23
  to
• 41:24
  be
• 41:24
  soft.
• 41:24
  But
• 41:25
  during
• 41:25
  the
• 41:25
  day
• 41:25
  in
• 41:26
  his
• 41:26
  career,
• 41:26
  I
• 41:26
  mean,
• 41:27
  he.
• 41:27
  He's
• 41:27
  A
• 41:28
  strong
• 41:28
  personality.
• 41:29
  So
• 41:29
  it's
• 41:30
  just,
• 41:30
  it's.
• 41:30
  I
• 41:30
  don't
• 41:31
  know,
• 41:31
  it's,
• 41:31
  it's
• 41:31
  just
• 41:31
  a
• 41:31
  beautiful
• 41:32
  balance
• 41:32
  and
• 41:32
  I,
• 41:33
  I
• 41:33
  couldn't
• 41:33
  be
• 41:33
  happier.
• 41:34
  That's,
• 41:35
  that's
• 41:35
  so
• 41:35
  wonderful.
• 41:36
  And
• 41:36
  you
• 41:36
  know,
• 41:36
  I
• 41:36
  feel
• 41:37
  like
• 41:37
  there
• 41:37
  are
• 41:37
  a
• 41:38
  lot
• 41:38
  of
• 41:38
  women
• 41:38
  that
• 41:39
  are
• 41:39
  probably
• 41:39
  even
• 41:40
  listening
• 41:40
  or
• 41:40
  watching
• 41:41
  now
• 41:42
  that
• 41:42
  perhaps,
• 41:43
  you
• 41:43
  know,
• 41:43
  were
• 41:44
  widowed
• 41:44
  or
• 41:44
  went
• 41:45
  through
• 41:45
  a
• 41:45
  divorce
• 41:46
  or
• 41:46
  a
• 41:46
  breakup
• 41:47
  or
• 41:47
  something.
• 41:47
  You
• 41:48
  know,
• 41:48
  like
• 41:48
  there's
• 41:48
  been
• 41:48
  some
• 41:49
  life
• 41:49
  changing
• 41:49
  things
• 41:50
  in
• 41:50
  their
• 41:50
  dating
• 41:51
  life.
• 41:51
  And
• 41:51
  maybe
• 41:52
  they
• 41:52
  feel
• 41:52
  stuck
• 41:53
  and
• 41:53
  scared
• 41:53
  and
• 41:53
  they
• 41:53
  don't
• 41:54
  want
• 41:54
  to
• 41:54
  put
• 41:55
  themselves
• 41:55
  out
• 41:55
  there
• 41:56
  or
• 41:56
  go
• 41:56
  about,
• 41:57
  you
• 41:57
  know,
• 41:57
  trying
• 41:58
  to
• 41:59
  find
• 41:59
  a
• 41:59
  partner
• 42:00
  or,
• 42:00
  you
• 42:01
  know,
• 42:01
  go
• 42:01
  on
• 42:01
  that
• 42:02
  sort
• 42:02
  of
• 42:02
  journey.
• 42:03
  What
• 42:03
  would
• 42:03
  you
• 42:04
  say
• 42:04
  to
• 42:04
  them
• 42:04
  if
• 42:05
  to
• 42:05
  get
• 42:05
  them
• 42:05
  unstuck,
• 42:06
  to
• 42:06
  get
• 42:06
  them
• 42:06
  to
• 42:07
  really
• 42:07
  kind
• 42:07
  of
• 42:07
  make
• 42:07
  that
• 42:08
  move?
• 42:09
  My
• 42:09
  head
• 42:09
  first
• 42:10
  goes
• 42:10
  here,
• 42:10
  which
• 42:10
  is,
• 42:11
  it's,
• 42:11
  it's
• 42:11
  a
• 42:11
  little
• 42:12
  bit
• 42:12
  different
• 42:12
  than
• 42:12
  what
• 42:12
  you're
• 42:12
  asking.
• 42:13
  Never
• 42:14
  forget
• 42:15
  that
• 42:15
  love
• 42:15
  is
• 42:16
  loaned.
• 42:17
  You're.
• 42:18
  It's
• 42:18
  either
• 42:18
  going
• 42:18
  to
• 42:19
  end
• 42:19
  because
• 42:19
  someone
• 42:19
  dies.
• 42:20
  Whether
• 42:20
  it's
• 42:21
  a
• 42:21
  family
• 42:21
  member,
• 42:22
  a
• 42:22
  friend,
• 42:23
  a
• 42:23
  romantic
• 42:23
  partner,
• 42:24
  whatever,
• 42:26
  someone
• 42:26
  will
• 42:26
  die.
• 42:27
  So
• 42:27
  it's
• 42:27
  going
• 42:27
  to
• 42:27
  end.
• 42:28
  But
• 42:28
  if
• 42:28
  it's
• 42:28
  a
• 42:29
  romantic
• 42:29
  partner,
• 42:30
  it
• 42:30
  will
• 42:30
  be
• 42:30
  either
• 42:31
  through
• 42:31
  divorce
• 42:32
  or
• 42:32
  death.
• 42:34
  As
• 42:34
  humans,
• 42:35
  we
• 42:36
  all
• 42:36
  crave
• 42:36
  love.
• 42:37
  We
• 42:37
  need
• 42:37
  it
• 42:37
  to
• 42:37
  thrive.
• 42:38
  We
• 42:38
  need
• 42:38
  it
• 42:39
  for
• 42:39
  our
• 42:39
  health,
• 42:39
  like
• 42:40
  human
• 42:40
  connection.
• 42:41
  And
• 42:42
  so
• 42:43
  that's
• 42:43
  why,
• 42:43
  you
• 42:44
  know,
• 42:44
  sometimes
• 42:44
  people
• 42:44
  get
• 42:45
  dogs
• 42:45
  because
• 42:45
  we
• 42:45
  need
• 42:46
  that
• 42:46
  kind
• 42:46
  of
• 42:46
  connection.
• 42:47
  We
• 42:47
  need
• 42:47
  to
• 42:47
  love
• 42:48
  on
• 42:48
  someone
• 42:48
  and
• 42:48
  we
• 42:48
  need
• 42:49
  someone
• 42:49
  to
• 42:49
  love
• 42:49
  us.
• 42:50
  And
• 42:51
  I
• 42:51
  think
• 42:51
  for
• 42:51
  anyone
• 42:51
  who's
• 42:53
  married
• 42:54
  or
• 42:54
  in
• 42:54
  a
• 42:54
  relationship,
• 42:55
  it's
• 42:55
  really
• 42:55
  easy
• 42:56
  to
• 42:56
  think
• 42:57
  that
• 42:57
  the
• 42:57
  grass
• 42:57
  is
• 42:57
  greener
• 42:58
  on
• 42:58
  the
• 42:58
  other
• 42:58
  side.
• 43:00
  And
• 43:01
  I
• 43:01
  think
• 43:02
  that
• 43:04
  people,
• 43:05
  I
• 43:06
  think
• 43:06
  it's,
• 43:06
  you
• 43:07
  know,
• 43:07
  the
• 43:07
  grass
• 43:07
  is
• 43:08
  greener
• 43:08
  where
• 43:08
  you
• 43:08
  water
• 43:09
  it
• 43:09
  and
• 43:09
  something.
• 43:09
  With
• 43:10
  my
• 43:10
  late
• 43:10
  husband,
• 43:11
  I
• 43:11
  can
• 43:11
  honestly
• 43:11
  say
• 43:12
  that
• 43:14
  we
• 43:14
  had
• 43:14
  a
• 43:14
  really
• 43:15
  happy,
• 43:15
  fulfilling
• 43:16
  relationship.
• 43:17
  And
• 43:17
  it's
• 43:17
  because
• 43:18
  I
• 43:18
  worked
• 43:18
  at
• 43:18
  it.
• 43:18
  I
• 43:19
  never
• 43:19
  took
• 43:19
  him
• 43:19
  for
• 43:19
  granted
• 43:20
  and
• 43:20
  he
• 43:20
  never
• 43:21
  took
• 43:21
  me
• 43:21
  for
• 43:21
  granted.
• 43:22
  And,
• 43:22
  and
• 43:23
  I
• 43:23
  was
• 43:23
  so
• 43:23
  happy
• 43:24
  that,
• 43:25
  you
• 43:25
  know,
• 43:25
  as
• 43:26
  he
• 43:26
  was
• 43:26
  dying,
• 43:26
  we
• 43:27
  had
• 43:27
  a
• 43:27
  good
• 43:27
  conversation
• 43:28
  and
• 43:28
  I
• 43:28
  said,
• 43:29
  do
• 43:29
  you
• 43:29
  have
• 43:29
  any
• 43:29
  regrets
• 43:30
  in
• 43:30
  our
• 43:30
  marriage?
• 43:32
  And
• 43:33
  he
• 43:33
  asked
• 43:34
  the
• 43:34
  same
• 43:34
  of
• 43:34
  me
• 43:35
  and
• 43:35
  we
• 43:35
  did
• 43:36
  it.
• 43:36
  We
• 43:37
  didn't
• 43:37
  have
• 43:37
  to
• 43:37
  apologize
• 43:38
  for
• 43:38
  anything.
• 43:39
  We
• 43:39
  didn't
• 43:40
  have
• 43:40
  to.
• 43:40
  I
• 43:40
  mean,
• 43:40
  we
• 43:41
  didn't.
• 43:41
  We
• 43:41
  conducted
• 43:42
  ourselves
• 43:43
  in
• 43:43
  a
• 43:43
  way
• 43:43
  that
• 43:43
  we
• 43:43
  both
• 43:44
  felt
• 43:44
  proud
• 43:44
  of,
• 43:45
  but
• 43:45
  I
• 43:45
  also
• 43:45
  think
• 43:46
  that
• 43:47
  we
• 43:47
  really
• 43:49
  cherished
• 43:50
  one
• 43:50
  another.
• 43:51
  And
• 43:51
  again,
• 43:51
  you
• 43:52
  know,
• 43:52
  it's
• 43:52
  just
• 43:52
  so
• 43:52
  easy
• 43:53
  to
• 43:54
  take,
• 43:54
  take
• 43:54
  people
• 43:55
  for
• 43:55
  granted.
• 43:55
  That's
• 43:56
  a
• 43:56
  human
• 43:57
  nature,
• 43:58
  you
• 43:58
  know,
• 43:59
  conduct
• 44:00
  that
• 44:00
  we
• 44:00
  all
• 44:00
  do
• 44:01
  and
• 44:02
  love
• 44:02
  on
• 44:02
  the
• 44:02
  one
• 44:03
  you're
• 44:03
  with,
• 44:03
  right?
• 44:04
  So
• 44:04
  if
• 44:04
  you're
• 44:04
  with
• 44:04
  somebody,
• 44:06
  you
• 44:06
  know,
• 44:06
  Being
• 44:07
  married
• 44:07
  for
• 44:07
  a
• 44:07
  long
• 44:08
  time
• 44:08
  or
• 44:08
  whatever.
• 44:09
  Yeah,
• 44:09
  it's.
• 44:09
  It's.
• 44:10
  It's
• 44:10
  different
• 44:10
  now
• 44:11
  than
• 44:11
  it
• 44:11
  was.
• 44:11
  But
• 44:12
  there's
• 44:12
  lots
• 44:13
  of
• 44:13
  things
• 44:13
  you
• 44:13
  can
• 44:13
  do
• 44:14
  to
• 44:15
  spice
• 44:15
  things
• 44:15
  up
• 44:16
  and
• 44:16
  bring
• 44:17
  that
• 44:17
  back
• 44:17
  again.
• 44:17
  You
• 44:18
  just
• 44:18
  have
• 44:18
  to
• 44:18
  decide
• 44:19
  you
• 44:19
  want
• 44:19
  to
• 44:19
  do
• 44:19
  that.
• 44:20
  Because
• 44:20
  I
• 44:21
  can't
• 44:21
  tell
• 44:21
  you
• 44:22
  how
• 44:23
  many
• 44:23
  people
• 44:24
  I
• 44:24
  know
• 44:25
  that
• 44:25
  thought
• 44:26
  the
• 44:26
  grass
• 44:26
  was
• 44:26
  greener
• 44:27
  on
• 44:27
  the
• 44:27
  other
• 44:27
  side,
• 44:28
  ended
• 44:29
  up
• 44:29
  divorcing,
• 44:30
  pursued,
• 44:30
  the
• 44:31
  grass
• 44:31
  is
• 44:31
  greener.
• 44:31
  Only
• 44:32
  to
• 44:32
  decide
• 44:32
  that
• 44:33
  they
• 44:33
  had
• 44:33
  a
• 44:33
  great
• 44:33
  thing.
• 44:34
  They
• 44:34
  just
• 44:35
  didn't
• 44:35
  put
• 44:35
  energy
• 44:35
  and
• 44:36
  effort
• 44:36
  into
• 44:36
  it.
• 44:37
  And
• 44:37
  I've
• 44:37
  heard
• 44:38
  that
• 44:38
  story
• 44:38
  so
• 44:39
  many
• 44:39
  times.
• 44:40
  And,
• 44:41
  you
• 44:41
  know,
• 44:41
  especially
• 44:41
  when
• 44:42
  children
• 44:42
  are
• 44:43
  involved
• 44:43
  right
• 44:43
  now,
• 44:44
  all
• 44:44
  of
• 44:44
  a
• 44:44
  sudden,
• 44:44
  kids
• 44:44
  are
• 44:45
  off
• 44:45
  at
• 44:45
  college
• 44:45
  or
• 44:46
  out
• 44:46
  of
• 44:46
  the
• 44:46
  house,
• 44:46
  and
• 44:47
  these
• 44:47
  two
• 44:47
  parents
• 44:47
  are
• 44:48
  looking
• 44:48
  at
• 44:48
  each
• 44:48
  other
• 44:48
  and
• 44:48
  being
• 44:49
  like,
• 44:49
  I'm
• 44:50
  sorry,
• 44:50
  who
• 44:50
  are
• 44:50
  you?
• 44:50
  Like,
• 44:51
  I
• 44:51
  don't
• 44:51
  even
• 44:51
  know
• 44:51
  you
• 44:51
  anymore.
• 44:52
  Well,
• 44:53
  take
• 44:53
  it
• 44:53
  as
• 44:53
  a
• 44:54
  new
• 44:54
  chapter,
• 44:54
  you
• 44:55
  know,
• 44:55
  and.
• 44:55
  But
• 44:56
  really
• 44:56
  work
• 44:56
  on
• 44:56
  it
• 44:57
  in
• 44:57
  anything
• 44:57
  in
• 44:58
  life.
• 44:58
  When
• 44:58
  you
• 44:59
  put.
• 44:59
  I
• 44:59
  mean,
• 45:00
  just
• 45:00
  like
• 45:00
  I
• 45:00
  did
• 45:00
  with
• 45:00
  my
• 45:01
  dating
• 45:01
  life,
• 45:01
  I
• 45:01
  got
• 45:02
  on
• 45:02
  YouTube
• 45:02
  and
• 45:02
  I
• 45:03
  studied.
• 45:03
  I
• 45:03
  studied
• 45:04
  and
• 45:05
  I
• 45:06
  became
• 45:06
  an
• 45:06
  expert
• 45:07
  at
• 45:07
  it,
• 45:07
  and
• 45:08
  I
• 45:08
  got,
• 45:09
  you
• 45:09
  know,
• 45:09
  I
• 45:09
  got
• 45:09
  a
• 45:10
  return
• 45:10
  on
• 45:10
  that
• 45:10
  investment.
• 45:11
  And
• 45:11
  I
• 45:11
  think
• 45:11
  in
• 45:12
  relationships,
• 45:13
  romantic
• 45:14
  relationships,
• 45:15
  it's
• 45:15
  too
• 45:15
  easy
• 45:15
  just
• 45:16
  to
• 45:16
  be
• 45:16
  an
• 45:17
  autopilot.
• 45:17
  And
• 45:18
  then
• 45:18
  all
• 45:18
  of
• 45:18
  a
• 45:18
  sudden,
• 45:19
  you
• 45:19
  somehow
• 45:20
  blame
• 45:20
  them
• 45:21
  and.
• 45:21
  Or
• 45:21
  they
• 45:21
  blame
• 45:22
  you,
• 45:22
  and
• 45:23
  it's
• 45:23
  just
• 45:23
  because
• 45:23
  you
• 45:24
  both
• 45:24
  stopped
• 45:24
  caring
• 45:24
  and
• 45:25
  trying.
• 45:25
  And
• 45:26
  so
• 45:26
  I
• 45:27
  really
• 45:28
  think
• 45:28
  that
• 45:28
  divorce
• 45:29
  should
• 45:30
  be
• 45:30
  the
• 45:30
  last
• 45:31
  option
• 45:32
  for
• 45:32
  people.
• 45:33
  Like,
• 45:33
  work
• 45:34
  your
• 45:34
  ass
• 45:35
  off
• 45:35
  to
• 45:35
  try
• 45:35
  to
• 45:36
  make
• 45:36
  that
• 45:36
  work.
• 45:37
  Like,
• 45:37
  of
• 45:38
  course,
• 45:38
  there's
• 45:38
  a
• 45:38
  million
• 45:39
  things
• 45:39
  you
• 45:39
  can
• 45:39
  do.
• 45:39
  You
• 45:39
  can
• 45:40
  get
• 45:40
  into
• 45:40
  therapy.
• 45:40
  You
• 45:41
  can
• 45:41
  go
• 45:41
  maybe
• 45:42
  downsize
• 45:42
  your
• 45:42
  house
• 45:43
  and
• 45:43
  go
• 45:43
  live
• 45:43
  in
• 45:43
  the
• 45:43
  city
• 45:44
  and
• 45:44
  have
• 45:44
  fun
• 45:44
  again.
• 45:45
  Or,
• 45:45
  I
• 45:45
  mean,
• 45:45
  there's
• 45:46
  a
• 45:46
  million
• 45:46
  things.
• 45:47
  But
• 45:48
  ultimately,
• 45:49
  every
• 45:49
  day,
• 45:52
  cherish
• 45:54
  your
• 45:54
  husband.
• 45:55
  Tell
• 45:56
  him
• 45:56
  how
• 45:56
  much
• 45:57
  you're
• 45:57
  grateful
• 45:57
  for
• 45:58
  him.
• 45:59
  And,
• 45:59
  you
• 46:00
  know,
• 46:00
  I
• 46:00
  lost
• 46:00
  my
• 46:00
  husband
• 46:01
  and
• 46:02
  what
• 46:02
  I
• 46:02
  wouldn't
• 46:02
  give
• 46:03
  to
• 46:04
  cherish
• 46:04
  him
• 46:05
  and
• 46:05
  tell
• 46:05
  him
• 46:05
  how
• 46:05
  grateful
• 46:06
  I
• 46:06
  am,
• 46:06
  and
• 46:06
  I
• 46:07
  love
• 46:07
  him.
• 46:07
  And
• 46:08
  I
• 46:08
  just
• 46:08
  think
• 46:09
  that
• 46:10
  we
• 46:10
  get
• 46:10
  so
• 46:11
  selfish,
• 46:11
  you
• 46:11
  know,
• 46:12
  and
• 46:12
  we're
• 46:12
  all
• 46:12
  like,
• 46:12
  what's
• 46:13
  in
• 46:13
  it
• 46:13
  for
• 46:13
  me?
• 46:13
  Or
• 46:14
  whatever.
• 46:14
  And
• 46:14
  it's
• 46:14
  just
• 46:15
  like,
• 46:16
  love
• 46:16
  on
• 46:17
  them
• 46:17
  hard,
• 46:17
  and
• 46:18
  they
• 46:18
  will
• 46:18
  love
• 46:18
  on
• 46:19
  you
• 46:19
  hard
• 46:19
  back,
• 46:19
  you
• 46:20
  know,
• 46:20
  it's
• 46:20
  kind
• 46:20
  of
• 46:20
  like
• 46:21
  I
• 46:21
  always
• 46:21
  sit
• 46:21
  with
• 46:21
  my
• 46:22
  clients.
• 46:23
  In
• 46:23
  the
• 46:23
  early
• 46:23
  years
• 46:24
  of
• 46:24
  starting
• 46:24
  Renee
• 46:25
  Rouleau,
• 46:25
  I
• 46:26
  didn't
• 46:26
  have
• 46:26
  many
• 46:26
  clients,
• 46:27
  but
• 46:27
  I
• 46:27
  said
• 46:28
  love
• 46:28
  on
• 46:28
  them
• 46:28
  better
• 46:29
  than
• 46:29
  anyone
• 46:29
  else,
• 46:29
  and
• 46:29
  they'll
• 46:30
  stay
• 46:30
  loyal
• 46:30
  to
• 46:30
  you.
• 46:31
  And
• 46:32
  so
• 46:32
  love
• 46:32
  on
• 46:33
  the
• 46:33
  relationships,
• 46:34
  whether
• 46:34
  it's
• 46:34
  romantic
• 46:35
  or
• 46:35
  your
• 46:35
  best
• 46:35
  friend
• 46:35
  or
• 46:36
  your
• 46:36
  mom
• 46:36
  or,
• 46:37
  you
• 46:37
  know,
• 46:37
  whatever,
• 46:38
  like,
• 46:38
  love
• 46:39
  on
• 46:39
  those
• 46:39
  people.
• 46:40
  You
• 46:40
  know,
• 46:40
  and.
• 46:41
  And.
• 46:42
  And
• 46:42
  it's
• 46:42
  just.
• 46:43
  Let's
• 46:43
  not
• 46:43
  take
• 46:44
  each
• 46:44
  other
• 46:44
  for
• 46:44
  granted
• 46:45
  because
• 46:45
  someday
• 46:45
  they're
• 46:45
  gone
• 46:46
  and
• 46:48
  shoulda,
• 46:48
  woulda,
• 46:48
  coulda.
• 46:49
  Right
• 46:49
  then
• 46:50
  it's
• 46:50
  that
• 46:50
  time.
• 46:50
  And
• 46:51
  thank
• 46:52
  goodness
• 46:52
  you
• 46:52
  guys
• 46:53
  carried
• 46:53
  yourselves
• 46:53
  in
• 46:53
  your
• 46:54
  marriage,
• 46:54
  you
• 46:55
  know,
• 46:55
  with
• 46:55
  such.
• 46:56
  Yeah.
• 46:56
  You
• 46:56
  know,
• 46:56
  respect
• 46:57
  and
• 46:57
  grace
• 46:58
  and
• 46:58
  everything.
• 46:59
  I
• 46:59
  mean,
• 46:59
  that.
• 46:59
  That.
• 46:59
  Yeah,
• 47:00
  I
• 47:00
  mean,
• 47:00
  I.
• 47:01
  I
• 47:01
  took
• 47:01
  my
• 47:01
  wedding
• 47:02
  vow
• 47:02
  seriously.
• 47:03
  You
• 47:03
  know,
• 47:03
  I.
• 47:04
  I
• 47:04
  was
• 47:04
  like,
• 47:05
  you
• 47:05
  know,
• 47:05
  let's.
• 47:06
  Let's.
• 47:07
  Let's
• 47:08
  make
• 47:08
  this
• 47:08
  work.
• 47:09
  You
• 47:09
  know,
• 47:09
  compel
• 47:10
  or
• 47:10
  high
• 47:10
  water,
• 47:10
  let's
• 47:11
  make
• 47:11
  this
• 47:11
  work.
• 47:11
  And
• 47:12
  not
• 47:12
  to
• 47:12
  say
• 47:12
  that,
• 47:12
  you
• 47:13
  know,
• 47:13
  we
• 47:13
  haven't
• 47:13
  had
• 47:13
  challenges
• 47:14
  through
• 47:14
  the
• 47:14
  years.
• 47:14
  Actually,
• 47:15
  lucky,
• 47:15
  not
• 47:15
  even
• 47:15
  that
• 47:15
  many,
• 47:16
  but
• 47:16
  it's
• 47:16
  just
• 47:17
  because
• 47:17
  we
• 47:17
  always
• 47:17
  just
• 47:18
  loved
• 47:18
  each
• 47:18
  other
• 47:18
  and
• 47:19
  respected
• 47:19
  each
• 47:19
  other
• 47:19
  and
• 47:20
  honored
• 47:20
  each
• 47:20
  other
• 47:21
  and
• 47:21
  appreciated
• 47:22
  each
• 47:22
  other.
• 47:23
  When
• 47:23
  was
• 47:23
  the
• 47:24
  last
• 47:24
  time,
• 47:24
  you
• 47:25
  know,
• 47:25
  somebody
• 47:25
  told
• 47:26
  somebody
• 47:26
  how
• 47:26
  much
• 47:26
  they
• 47:26
  appreciate,
• 47:27
  you
• 47:28
  know,
• 47:28
  somebody
• 47:28
  like,
• 47:29
  I.
• 47:29
  I
• 47:30
  always
• 47:30
  will.
• 47:30
  Text
• 47:31
  friends.
• 47:31
  Hey,
• 47:32
  I'm
• 47:32
  thinking
• 47:32
  about
• 47:32
  you
• 47:33
  today.
• 47:33
  I
• 47:33
  just
• 47:33
  want
• 47:34
  to
• 47:34
  let
• 47:34
  you
• 47:34
  know
• 47:34
  that
• 47:34
  I'm
• 47:34
  cheering
• 47:35
  for
• 47:35
  you.
• 47:35
  Whatever
• 47:35
  you're
• 47:36
  doing
• 47:36
  today,
• 47:36
  I'm
• 47:37
  thinking
• 47:37
  about
• 47:37
  you,
• 47:37
  cheering
• 47:38
  for
• 47:38
  you.
• 47:38
  Like,
• 47:38
  they
• 47:38
  love
• 47:38
  that.
• 47:39
  Like,
• 47:39
  I
• 47:39
  appreciate
• 47:40
  our
• 47:40
  friendship.
• 47:41
  I
• 47:41
  just
• 47:41
  want
• 47:41
  to.
• 47:41
  I
• 47:41
  just
• 47:42
  called
• 47:42
  it.
• 47:42
  It's
• 47:42
  the
• 47:43
  old
• 47:43
  Stevie
• 47:44
  Wonder
• 47:44
  song.
• 47:44
  I
• 47:44
  just
• 47:44
  called
• 47:45
  to
• 47:45
  say
• 47:45
  I
• 47:45
  love
• 47:45
  you.
• 47:46
  Like,
• 47:46
  how
• 47:46
  about
• 47:47
  that?
• 47:47
  And
• 47:48
  so.
• 47:48
  Yeah.
• 47:49
  So
• 47:49
  anyway,
• 47:49
  so
• 47:50
  went
• 47:50
  off
• 47:51
  on
• 47:51
  a
• 47:51
  little
• 47:51
  tangent
• 47:52
  there,
• 47:52
  but.
• 47:53
  But,
• 47:54
  yeah,
• 47:54
  so
• 47:54
  I
• 47:54
  just
• 47:54
  think
• 47:55
  anyone,
• 47:57
  you
• 47:57
  know,
• 47:58
  new
• 47:59
  to
• 47:59
  this,
• 47:59
  you
• 47:59
  know,
• 48:00
  new
• 48:00
  into
• 48:01
  dating,
• 48:01
  new
• 48:01
  into
• 48:02
  wanting
• 48:02
  to
• 48:02
  change
• 48:03
  up
• 48:03
  your
• 48:03
  life?
• 48:03
  Like,
• 48:04
  if
• 48:04
  you
• 48:04
  want
• 48:04
  to
• 48:05
  change,
• 48:05
  make
• 48:05
  a
• 48:05
  change.
• 48:06
  You
• 48:06
  know,
• 48:06
  move
• 48:07
  to
• 48:07
  a
• 48:07
  new
• 48:07
  city.
• 48:08
  If
• 48:08
  you're
• 48:08
  bored,
• 48:09
  do
• 48:09
  something
• 48:09
  else.
• 48:10
  Like,
• 48:11
  as
• 48:11
  I
• 48:11
  talked
• 48:11
  about
• 48:11
  it
• 48:12
  in
• 48:12
  the
• 48:12
  podcast
• 48:12
  last
• 48:12
  week,
• 48:13
  you
• 48:13
  know,
• 48:13
  like,
• 48:14
  change
• 48:14
  up
• 48:14
  your
• 48:14
  makeup,
• 48:15
  change
• 48:15
  up
• 48:15
  your
• 48:15
  hair,
• 48:16
  change
• 48:16
  up
• 48:16
  your
• 48:16
  clothes,
• 48:16
  change
• 48:17
  up
• 48:17
  your
• 48:17
  skincare
• 48:18
  routine,
• 48:18
  change
• 48:18
  up
• 48:18
  your
• 48:19
  life.
• 48:19
  Take
• 48:19
  on
• 48:20
  a
• 48:20
  new
• 48:20
  hobby.
• 48:20
  Like,
• 48:21
  you
• 48:22
  know,
• 48:22
  I
• 48:22
  think
• 48:22
  in,
• 48:22
  you
• 48:23
  know,
• 48:23
  midlife,
• 48:23
  we
• 48:23
  all
• 48:24
  just
• 48:24
  feel
• 48:24
  like,
• 48:24
  well,
• 48:24
  this
• 48:25
  is
• 48:25
  what
• 48:25
  it
• 48:25
  is.
• 48:26
  I
• 48:26
  mean,
• 48:27
  you
• 48:27
  know.
• 48:28
  No,
• 48:28
  like,
• 48:29
  you
• 48:29
  can
• 48:29
  change.
• 48:29
  You
• 48:30
  can
• 48:30
  make
• 48:30
  your
• 48:30
  life
• 48:30
  whatever
• 48:31
  you
• 48:31
  want
• 48:31
  to
• 48:31
  be.
• 48:32
  You
• 48:32
  can
• 48:32
  make
• 48:32
  this
• 48:32
  new
• 48:33
  chapter
• 48:33
  of
• 48:33
  your
• 48:33
  life
• 48:34
  even
• 48:34
  more
• 48:34
  incredible
• 48:35
  than
• 48:36
  the
• 48:36
  chapter
• 48:36
  before,
• 48:37
  because
• 48:37
  guess
• 48:37
  what?
• 48:38
  We're
• 48:38
  so
• 48:38
  much
• 48:38
  wiser
• 48:39
  now.
• 48:39
  We
• 48:39
  know
• 48:39
  better
• 48:40
  now.
• 48:41
  Create,
• 48:41
  you
• 48:41
  know,
• 48:42
  create
• 48:42
  whatever
• 48:42
  life
• 48:43
  you
• 48:43
  want.
• 48:43
  You
• 48:43
  can
• 48:43
  have
• 48:44
  it
• 48:44
  and.
• 48:45
  But
• 48:45
  don't
• 48:46
  just
• 48:47
  succumb
• 48:48
  to,
• 48:49
  well,
• 48:49
  you
• 48:50
  know,
• 48:50
  this
• 48:50
  is
• 48:50
  what
• 48:50
  it
• 48:51
  is
• 48:51
  now.
• 48:52
  Make
• 48:52
  it
• 48:52
  better.
• 48:53
  Like,
• 48:53
  make
• 48:53
  the
• 48:53
  change.
• 48:54
  Right,
• 48:54
  Exactly.
• 48:55
  I
• 48:55
  mean,
• 48:56
  just
• 48:56
  change
• 48:56
  it
• 48:56
  up
• 48:57
  and,
• 48:58
  you
• 48:58
  know,
• 48:59
  get
• 48:59
  out
• 48:59
  of
• 48:59
  the
• 48:59
  comfort
• 49:00
  zone.
• 49:00
  Whatever.
• 49:01
  Whatever
• 49:01
  that
• 49:01
  means
• 49:01
  for
• 49:02
  you.
• 49:02
  What
• 49:03
  has
• 49:03
  dating
• 49:03
  in
• 49:03
  midlife
• 49:04
  taught
• 49:04
  you
• 49:04
  about
• 49:05
  yourself?
• 49:06
  Dating
• 49:07
  in
• 49:07
  midlife
• 49:08
  has
• 49:08
  taught
• 49:09
  me.
• 49:12
  It's
• 49:12
  just
• 49:12
  really.
• 49:13
  It's
• 49:13
  really
• 49:14
  shined
• 49:14
  a
• 49:14
  spotlight
• 49:15
  on
• 49:15
  who
• 49:15
  I
• 49:15
  truly
• 49:16
  am.
• 49:17
  And.
• 49:18
  And
• 49:18
  that.
• 49:19
  And
• 49:19
  that's
• 49:19
  why
• 49:19
  I'm.
• 49:20
  I.
• 49:21
  I
• 49:21
  really
• 49:21
  learned
• 49:22
  that,
• 49:22
  like,
• 49:22
  this
• 49:23
  is
• 49:23
  who
• 49:23
  I
• 49:23
  am.
• 49:24
  These
• 49:24
  are
• 49:24
  all
• 49:25
  my
• 49:25
  quirks,
• 49:25
  my
• 49:25
  idiosyncrasies,
• 49:27
  all
• 49:27
  my
• 49:27
  greatest
• 49:28
  hits.
• 49:29
  And
• 49:30
  I'm
• 49:31
  much
• 49:31
  more
• 49:33
  accepting
• 49:33
  of
• 49:33
  who
• 49:33
  I
• 49:34
  am
• 49:34
  and
• 49:34
  even,
• 49:35
  you
• 49:35
  know,
• 49:36
  the
• 49:36
  other
• 49:37
  weaknesses,
• 49:38
  as
• 49:38
  one
• 49:38
  would
• 49:38
  say.
• 49:39
  And
• 49:40
  what
• 49:41
  I
• 49:41
  have
• 49:41
  learned
• 49:41
  is
• 49:42
  asking
• 49:42
  for
• 49:43
  my
• 49:43
  needs
• 49:43
  to
• 49:43
  be
• 49:44
  met.
• 49:44
  And
• 49:45
  this
• 49:45
  carries
• 49:45
  over
• 49:45
  in
• 49:46
  dating
• 49:46
  and
• 49:46
  in
• 49:46
  anything
• 49:47
  in
• 49:47
  my
• 49:47
  personal
• 49:47
  life.
• 49:48
  I'm
• 49:49
  much
• 49:49
  more.
• 49:51
  I'm
• 49:51
  much
• 49:51
  smarter
• 49:52
  about
• 49:52
  who
• 49:52
  I
• 49:52
  am
• 49:53
  as
• 49:53
  a
• 49:53
  woman
• 49:53
  and
• 49:54
  what
• 49:54
  my
• 49:55
  needs
• 49:55
  are,
• 49:55
  and
• 49:56
  I'm
• 49:56
  not
• 49:56
  afraid
• 49:56
  to
• 49:56
  ask
• 49:57
  for
• 49:57
  them.
• 49:57
  Where
• 49:57
  a
• 49:58
  lot
• 49:58
  of
• 49:58
  times
• 49:58
  I
• 49:59
  just
• 50:00
  don't
• 50:00
  want
• 50:00
  to.
• 50:00
  You
• 50:01
  know,
• 50:01
  I'm
• 50:02
  just
• 50:02
  like,
• 50:02
  I'm
• 50:02
  good.
• 50:02
  No,
• 50:02
  no,
• 50:03
  no,
• 50:03
  I'm
• 50:03
  good.
• 50:03
  And.
• 50:04
  But
• 50:05
  I'm.
• 50:06
  Yeah,
• 50:06
  dating
• 50:06
  is.
• 50:07
  I
• 50:07
  know
• 50:07
  what
• 50:07
  I
• 50:08
  want,
• 50:08
  I
• 50:09
  know
• 50:09
  what
• 50:09
  I
• 50:09
  need,
• 50:09
  I
• 50:10
  know
• 50:10
  what
• 50:10
  I
• 50:10
  desire,
• 50:12
  and
• 50:12
  I
• 50:12
  will
• 50:13
  say
• 50:13
  it.
• 50:13
  And.
• 50:14
  And
• 50:14
  that's.
• 50:15
  That's
• 50:16
  beautiful.
• 50:17
  So
• 50:17
  what
• 50:17
  would
• 50:18
  you
• 50:18
  say
• 50:18
  to
• 50:18
  a
• 50:18
  midlife
• 50:19
  woman
• 50:20
  who's
• 50:20
  kind
• 50:20
  of
• 50:21
  wading
• 50:21
  through
• 50:21
  the
• 50:21
  dating
• 50:22
  world
• 50:22
  right
• 50:22
  now?
• 50:23
  Maybe
• 50:23
  she's
• 50:24
  been
• 50:24
  on
• 50:25
  some
• 50:25
  dates.
• 50:25
  Maybe
• 50:25
  she's,
• 50:26
  you
• 50:26
  know,
• 50:26
  casually
• 50:27
  dating,
• 50:28
  or
• 50:28
  maybe
• 50:29
  she's
• 50:29
  having
• 50:29
  a
• 50:29
  really
• 50:29
  rough
• 50:29
  go
• 50:30
  at
• 50:30
  it.
• 50:30
  Like,
• 50:31
  what
• 50:31
  are,
• 50:31
  like,
• 50:32
  three
• 50:32
  tips,
• 50:33
  maybe
• 50:33
  that
• 50:33
  you
• 50:33
  would
• 50:33
  give
• 50:34
  to,
• 50:34
  like,
• 50:34
  a
• 50:34
  midlife
• 50:35
  woman,
• 50:35
  like,
• 50:35
  in
• 50:35
  the
• 50:36
  dating
• 50:36
  world
• 50:36
  right
• 50:36
  now
• 50:37
  to
• 50:37
  try
• 50:37
  to.
• 50:38
  Try
• 50:38
  to
• 50:38
  make
• 50:38
  it
• 50:38
  as,
• 50:39
  you
• 50:39
  know,
• 50:40
  good
• 50:40
  for
• 50:40
  her
• 50:41
  as
• 50:41
  possible.
• 50:42
  Well,
• 50:43
  I.
• 50:45
  Both
• 50:45
  sexes,
• 50:47
  they
• 50:47
  bitch
• 50:47
  about
• 50:47
  the
• 50:48
  other
• 50:48
  side,
• 50:49
  right?
• 50:50
  I
• 50:50
  can't
• 50:51
  tell
• 50:51
  you
• 50:51
  how
• 50:51
  many
• 50:51
  women
• 50:51
  are
• 50:52
  like,
• 50:52
  I
• 50:52
  went
• 50:53
  out
• 50:53
  with
• 50:53
  this
• 50:53
  one
• 50:54
  guy,
• 50:54
  and
• 50:54
  you'll
• 50:55
  never
• 50:55
  believe
• 50:55
  what
• 50:55
  he
• 50:56
  did.
• 50:56
  He.
• 50:57
  And
• 50:57
  I
• 50:57
  was
• 50:57
  like,
• 50:58
  oh.
• 50:58
  And
• 50:58
  so
• 50:59
  people
• 50:59
  throw
• 50:59
  him
• 50:59
  the
• 50:59
  towel.
• 51:00
  But
• 51:00
  if
• 51:00
  I
• 51:00
  talk
• 51:01
  to
• 51:01
  my
• 51:01
  guy
• 51:01
  friends,
• 51:01
  they
• 51:02
  will
• 51:02
  say
• 51:03
  something
• 51:03
  similar.
• 51:04
  Like,
• 51:04
  I
• 51:04
  went
• 51:04
  out
• 51:04
  with
• 51:05
  this
• 51:05
  girl.
• 51:05
  Oh,
• 51:05
  my
• 51:05
  God.
• 51:06
  Right?
• 51:06
  And
• 51:06
  so.
• 51:07
  But
• 51:07
  this
• 51:07
  is
• 51:08
  why
• 51:08
  I
• 51:08
  talked
• 51:09
  about.
• 51:09
  We
• 51:09
  need
• 51:09
  to
• 51:10
  understand
• 51:10
  the
• 51:11
  other
• 51:11
  side.
• 51:13
  Because
• 51:13
  also,
• 51:14
  like,
• 51:14
  in
• 51:14
  relationships,
• 51:16
  you
• 51:16
  know,
• 51:16
  we
• 51:16
  show
• 51:16
  up
• 51:17
  with
• 51:17
  a
• 51:17
  resume,
• 51:18
  and
• 51:18
  our
• 51:19
  resume
• 51:20
  is
• 51:21
  our
• 51:21
  relationship
• 51:22
  with
• 51:22
  our
• 51:22
  mother,
• 51:23
  our
• 51:23
  father,
• 51:23
  as
• 51:23
  I
• 51:24
  talked
• 51:24
  about
• 51:24
  earlier.
• 51:24
  But
• 51:24
  as
• 51:25
  you
• 51:25
  know,
• 51:25
  we
• 51:25
  show
• 51:25
  up
• 51:26
  with
• 51:26
  a
• 51:26
  resume
• 51:27
  of
• 51:27
  all
• 51:28
  the
• 51:28
  relationships
• 51:28
  we've
• 51:28
  had
• 51:29
  in
• 51:29
  the
• 51:29
  past.
• 51:29
  We
• 51:30
  didn't
• 51:30
  learn,
• 51:31
  you
• 51:31
  know,
• 51:31
  we
• 51:31
  didn't
• 51:32
  necessarily
• 51:33
  learn
• 51:33
  and
• 51:33
  work
• 51:33
  on
• 51:34
  ourselves.
• 51:34
  We
• 51:34
  just
• 51:34
  kind
• 51:34
  of
• 51:35
  got
• 51:35
  what
• 51:35
  was
• 51:35
  handed
• 51:35
  to
• 51:35
  us.
• 51:36
  And
• 51:36
  so
• 51:36
  somehow.
• 51:38
  And
• 51:38
  I
• 51:38
  find
• 51:38
  this
• 51:39
  more
• 51:39
  with
• 51:39
  women,
• 51:40
  they
• 51:40
  expect
• 51:40
  a
• 51:41
  man
• 51:41
  to
• 51:41
  show
• 51:41
  up
• 51:41
  being
• 51:42
  whatever
• 51:42
  their
• 51:43
  definition
• 51:43
  of
• 51:43
  perfect
• 51:44
  is,
• 51:46
  and
• 51:46
  then
• 51:46
  they
• 51:46
  get
• 51:46
  upset.
• 51:47
  Can
• 51:47
  you
• 51:47
  believe
• 51:47
  this
• 51:48
  guy
• 51:48
  did
• 51:48
  this
• 51:48
  thing?
• 51:48
  Well,
• 51:49
  guess
• 51:49
  what?
• 51:49
  If
• 51:49
  no
• 51:50
  one
• 51:50
  ever
• 51:50
  told
• 51:50
  them
• 51:51
  that
• 51:51
  that
• 51:51
  wasn't
• 51:52
  acceptable
• 51:52
  or
• 51:53
  right
• 51:54
  Then
• 51:54
  teach
• 51:54
  him.
• 51:55
  And
• 51:55
  you
• 51:55
  don't
• 51:56
  just
• 51:56
  write
• 51:56
  him
• 51:56
  off
• 51:56
  and
• 51:57
  expect
• 51:57
  him
• 51:57
  like,
• 51:57
  oh,
• 51:58
  he
• 51:58
  failed
• 51:58
  the
• 51:58
  test.
• 51:59
  Not
• 51:59
  going
• 52:00
  out
• 52:00
  with
• 52:00
  him
• 52:00
  again.
• 52:01
  Guess
• 52:01
  what?
• 52:02
  You
• 52:02
  say,
• 52:02
  hey,
• 52:04
  I
• 52:05
  would,
• 52:05
  you
• 52:05
  know,
• 52:05
  would
• 52:05
  you
• 52:05
  be
• 52:06
  open
• 52:06
  to
• 52:07
  doing
• 52:08
  this
• 52:08
  or
• 52:09
  showing
• 52:09
  up
• 52:09
  in
• 52:09
  this
• 52:10
  way
• 52:10
  for
• 52:10
  me?
• 52:11
  Tell
• 52:11
  them
• 52:11
  what
• 52:11
  you
• 52:12
  want.
• 52:13
  And
• 52:14
  they
• 52:14
  either
• 52:14
  can
• 52:14
  say
• 52:14
  yes
• 52:15
  or
• 52:15
  they
• 52:15
  can
• 52:15
  say
• 52:15
  no.
• 52:16
  But
• 52:17
  just
• 52:17
  because
• 52:17
  he
• 52:18
  didn't
• 52:18
  do
• 52:18
  something,
• 52:19
  it's
• 52:19
  maybe
• 52:19
  because
• 52:19
  he
• 52:20
  didn't
• 52:20
  know
• 52:20
  he
• 52:20
  was
• 52:21
  supposed
• 52:21
  to
• 52:21
  do
• 52:21
  that,
• 52:21
  because
• 52:22
  no
• 52:22
  one's
• 52:22
  ever
• 52:22
  told
• 52:23
  him.
• 52:23
  No
• 52:23
  one's
• 52:24
  a
• 52:24
  mind
• 52:24
  reader.
• 52:25
  Right.
• 52:25
  Men
• 52:26
  are
• 52:26
  not,
• 52:27
  you
• 52:27
  know,
• 52:28
  they're
• 52:28
  not
• 52:29
  mind
• 52:29
  readers.
• 52:30
  And
• 52:31
  so
• 52:31
  it's
• 52:31
  up
• 52:31
  to
• 52:32
  us
• 52:32
  as
• 52:32
  women,
• 52:32
  as
• 52:33
  women,
• 52:33
  to
• 52:33
  be
• 52:33
  confident
• 52:34
  and
• 52:34
  tell
• 52:34
  a
• 52:34
  man
• 52:35
  what
• 52:35
  we
• 52:35
  need
• 52:36
  or
• 52:36
  what's
• 52:36
  important
• 52:37
  to
• 52:37
  us.
• 52:37
  But
• 52:37
  you
• 52:38
  say
• 52:38
  it
• 52:38
  in
• 52:38
  a
• 52:38
  way
• 52:39
  that
• 52:39
  is
• 52:40
  loving
• 52:40
  and
• 52:40
  kind
• 52:41
  and
• 52:41
  open
• 52:41
  and
• 52:42
  being
• 52:42
  vulnerable.
• 52:43
  You
• 52:43
  don't
• 52:43
  make
• 52:43
  demands.
• 52:44
  Nobody,
• 52:45
  neither
• 52:45
  party
• 52:46
  wants
• 52:46
  people
• 52:47
  telling,
• 52:47
  you
• 52:47
  know,
• 52:47
  telling
• 52:48
  them
• 52:48
  what
• 52:48
  to
• 52:48
  do.
• 52:49
  But
• 52:49
  you
• 52:49
  share
• 52:50
  what
• 52:50
  your
• 52:50
  needs
• 52:50
  are,
• 52:51
  and
• 52:52
  that's.
• 52:53
  I
• 52:53
  have
• 52:53
  not
• 52:54
  had
• 52:54
  a
• 52:55
  history
• 52:56
  of.
• 52:56
  Of
• 52:57
  being
• 52:58
  able
• 52:58
  to
• 52:58
  share
• 52:58
  my
• 52:59
  needs
• 52:59
  very
• 52:59
  much.
• 53:00
  And
• 53:00
  I've
• 53:00
  learned
• 53:01
  in
• 53:01
  this
• 53:01
  chapter
• 53:01
  of
• 53:01
  my
• 53:02
  life
• 53:02
  that.
• 53:03
  That
• 53:03
  I
• 53:03
  share
• 53:04
  my
• 53:04
  needs.
• 53:04
  This
• 53:04
  is
• 53:04
  something
• 53:05
  that's
• 53:05
  important,
• 53:05
  important
• 53:05
  to
• 53:06
  me.
• 53:06
  And.
• 53:06
  And
• 53:07
  I've
• 53:07
  had
• 53:07
  great
• 53:08
  feedback
• 53:08
  with
• 53:08
  people
• 53:09
  going,
• 53:09
  great,
• 53:09
  I
• 53:09
  can
• 53:10
  do
• 53:10
  that
• 53:10
  for
• 53:10
  you.
• 53:11
  Yeah,
• 53:11
  that's
• 53:11
  something.
• 53:12
  I'll
• 53:12
  make
• 53:12
  note
• 53:12
  of
• 53:13
  that.
• 53:13
  I
• 53:13
  can
• 53:13
  do
• 53:13
  that
• 53:13
  for
• 53:14
  you.
• 53:14
  And
• 53:14
  that's
• 53:15
  in
• 53:15
  any
• 53:15
  relationship
• 53:16
  I
• 53:16
  have,
• 53:16
  romantic
• 53:17
  or
• 53:17
  not,
• 53:19
  even.
• 53:20
  Even
• 53:20
  with
• 53:20
  my
• 53:20
  own
• 53:20
  mother,
• 53:21
  you
• 53:21
  know,
• 53:22
  And.
• 53:22
  And
• 53:22
  part
• 53:22
  of
• 53:22
  it
• 53:23
  is
• 53:23
  setting
• 53:23
  boundaries,
• 53:24
  too.
• 53:24
  Hey,
• 53:25
  this
• 53:25
  isn't
• 53:26
  working
• 53:26
  for
• 53:26
  me.
• 53:27
  And
• 53:27
  I
• 53:27
  just
• 53:27
  want
• 53:27
  to
• 53:28
  let
• 53:28
  you
• 53:28
  know
• 53:28
  that
• 53:29
  this
• 53:29
  is
• 53:29
  a
• 53:29
  need
• 53:29
  I
• 53:30
  have,
• 53:30
  and
• 53:31
  can
• 53:31
  we
• 53:31
  work
• 53:32
  together
• 53:32
  on
• 53:32
  this?
• 53:33
  So
• 53:34
  asking
• 53:34
  for
• 53:34
  my
• 53:34
  needs
• 53:35
  to
• 53:35
  be
• 53:35
  met
• 53:35
  is
• 53:35
  really
• 53:35
  important,
• 53:36
  and
• 53:36
  I
• 53:36
  think
• 53:36
  that's
• 53:36
  important
• 53:37
  for
• 53:37
  women
• 53:37
  in
• 53:37
  dating.
• 53:38
  And
• 53:39
  I
• 53:39
  mean,
• 53:39
  I
• 53:40
  kind
• 53:40
  of.
• 53:40
  The
• 53:41
  other
• 53:41
  tips
• 53:41
  are
• 53:42
  things
• 53:42
  that
• 53:42
  I
• 53:42
  said
• 53:42
  earlier
• 53:42
  on
• 53:43
  the
• 53:43
  podcast.
• 53:43
  Right.
• 53:44
  You
• 53:44
  know,
• 53:45
  I
• 53:45
  would
• 53:45
  go
• 53:45
  out
• 53:45
  with
• 53:45
  someone
• 53:46
  twice.
• 53:46
  That's
• 53:47
  always
• 53:47
  a
• 53:47
  good
• 53:47
  one.
• 53:48
  Don't
• 53:48
  just,
• 53:49
  you
• 53:49
  know,
• 53:49
  one
• 53:50
  and
• 53:50
  done.
• 53:50
  And
• 53:50
  a
• 53:51
  lot
• 53:51
  of
• 53:51
  women
• 53:51
  are
• 53:51
  like,
• 53:51
  well,
• 53:51
  I
• 53:52
  don't
• 53:52
  want
• 53:52
  to
• 53:52
  waste
• 53:52
  my
• 53:53
  time
• 53:53
  going
• 53:53
  out
• 53:53
  with
• 53:53
  them
• 53:53
  a
• 53:53
  second
• 53:54
  time.
• 53:54
  I
• 53:54
  already
• 53:54
  know
• 53:54
  it's
• 53:55
  not
• 53:55
  a
• 53:55
  fit.
• 53:56
  No,
• 53:56
  you
• 53:56
  don't.
• 53:57
  No,
• 53:57
  you
• 53:57
  don't.
• 53:57
  Because
• 53:58
  sometimes
• 53:58
  people
• 53:58
  are
• 53:59
  nervous.
• 53:59
  Sometimes
• 53:59
  people
• 54:00
  are,
• 54:01
  you
• 54:01
  know,
• 54:01
  putting
• 54:01
  on
• 54:02
  a
• 54:02
  fr.
• 54:02
  Who
• 54:02
  knows?
• 54:03
  But
• 54:03
  give
• 54:03
  someone
• 54:03
  a
• 54:04
  second
• 54:04
  chance.
• 54:05
  That's
• 54:06
  true.
• 54:06
  That's
• 54:06
  a
• 54:06
  good
• 54:06
  point,
• 54:07
  too,
• 54:07
  because,
• 54:07
  like,
• 54:07
  yeah,
• 54:08
  the
• 54:08
  first
• 54:08
  date,
• 54:08
  of
• 54:08
  course
• 54:09
  you're
• 54:09
  going
• 54:09
  to
• 54:09
  be,
• 54:09
  like,
• 54:09
  nervous
• 54:10
  and,
• 54:10
  like,
• 54:10
  yeah,
• 54:11
  it's
• 54:11
  awkward.
• 54:12
  Like,
• 54:12
  oh.
• 54:12
  And
• 54:12
  then
• 54:12
  my
• 54:13
  third
• 54:13
  tip.
• 54:13
  My
• 54:14
  third
• 54:14
  tip
• 54:14
  is
• 54:15
  ladies
• 54:16
  this
• 54:16
  is
• 54:17
  not
• 54:17
  a
• 54:17
  job
• 54:17
  interview
• 54:18
  on
• 54:18
  the
• 54:18
  first
• 54:19
  date.
• 54:19
  Don't
• 54:20
  go
• 54:20
  into
• 54:20
  a
• 54:21
  date
• 54:21
  and
• 54:22
  interrogating
• 54:23
  someone,
• 54:24
  hey,
• 54:25
  what
• 54:25
  are
• 54:25
  all
• 54:25
  your
• 54:26
  last
• 54:26
  relationships?
• 54:27
  Do
• 54:27
  you
• 54:27
  have
• 54:27
  kids?
• 54:27
  You've
• 54:28
  been
• 54:28
  married?
• 54:28
  You.
• 54:29
  What's
• 54:29
  this
• 54:29
  and
• 54:30
  why?
• 54:31
  And
• 54:31
  I
• 54:31
  get
• 54:31
  it.
• 54:31
  You
• 54:32
  have
• 54:32
  that
• 54:32
  in
• 54:32
  common.
• 54:32
  You're
• 54:33
  both
• 54:33
  looking
• 54:33
  for
• 54:33
  love,
• 54:34
  so
• 54:34
  naturally,
• 54:35
  what's
• 54:35
  to
• 54:35
  talk
• 54:35
  about
• 54:36
  is,
• 54:36
  hey,
• 54:37
  how's
• 54:37
  dating
• 54:38
  been,
• 54:38
  you
• 54:38
  know,
• 54:38
  for
• 54:39
  you?
• 54:39
  Oh,
• 54:39
  what's
• 54:40
  your
• 54:40
  relationship
• 54:40
  with
• 54:40
  your.
• 54:41
  With
• 54:41
  your
• 54:41
  ex?
• 54:42
  Like,
• 54:42
  how
• 54:42
  did
• 54:42
  that
• 54:42
  work
• 54:43
  out?
• 54:43
  It's
• 54:44
  not
• 54:44
  a
• 54:45
  trauma
• 54:45
  dump.
• 54:46
  It's
• 54:46
  not
• 54:46
  an
• 54:46
  interrogation.
• 54:48
  What's
• 54:48
  your
• 54:48
  story?
• 54:48
  Tell
• 54:49
  me
• 54:49
  everything.
• 54:49
  Like,
• 54:50
  it's.
• 54:51
  The
• 54:51
  goal
• 54:52
  of
• 54:52
  a
• 54:52
  first
• 54:52
  date
• 54:53
  is
• 54:53
  three
• 54:54
  words.
• 54:55
  Light,
• 54:56
  fun,
• 54:56
  and
• 54:57
  easy.
• 54:58
  That's
• 54:58
  it.
• 54:59
  Light,
• 55:00
  fun,
• 55:00
  and
• 55:00
  easy.
• 55:01
  And
• 55:01
  actually,
• 55:01
  the
• 55:01
  matchmaker
• 55:02
  taught
• 55:02
  me,
• 55:02
  Taught
• 55:03
  me
• 55:03
  this
• 55:03
  trick,
• 55:03
  which
• 55:04
  is.
• 55:04
  Or
• 55:04
  this
• 55:05
  tip.
• 55:05
  She
• 55:05
  said
• 55:06
  if
• 55:06
  they
• 55:06
  ask
• 55:07
  you
• 55:08
  about
• 55:08
  past
• 55:09
  relationships,
• 55:10
  you
• 55:11
  just
• 55:11
  say,
• 55:12
  you
• 55:12
  know,
• 55:12
  if
• 55:12
  they're
• 55:12
  like,
• 55:12
  oh,
• 55:13
  have
• 55:13
  you.
• 55:14
  You
• 55:14
  know,
• 55:14
  how
• 55:14
  long
• 55:14
  have
• 55:14
  you
• 55:14
  dated?
• 55:15
  Or,
• 55:15
  you
• 55:15
  know,
• 55:15
  what's.
• 55:15
  What's
• 55:15
  it
• 55:16
  been
• 55:16
  like
• 55:16
  out
• 55:16
  there
• 55:16
  for
• 55:17
  you?
• 55:17
  And
• 55:17
  you
• 55:18
  just
• 55:18
  say.
• 55:18
  You
• 55:19
  just
• 55:19
  say,
• 55:19
  oh,
• 55:20
  it's
• 55:20
  been
• 55:20
  fine.
• 55:20
  But,
• 55:21
  you
• 55:21
  know,
• 55:21
  that's
• 55:22
  in
• 55:22
  the
• 55:22
  past.
• 55:22
  Today
• 55:22
  is
• 55:23
  today,
• 55:23
  or
• 55:23
  whatever.
• 55:23
  You.
• 55:24
  Basically,
• 55:24
  we're
• 55:25
  not
• 55:25
  here
• 55:25
  to
• 55:26
  rehash
• 55:27
  my
• 55:27
  last
• 55:27
  five
• 55:28
  dates,
• 55:28
  right?
• 55:28
  I'm
• 55:29
  not
• 55:29
  here
• 55:29
  to
• 55:29
  listen
• 55:30
  to
• 55:30
  you
• 55:30
  rehash
• 55:31
  all
• 55:31
  whatever
• 55:32
  went
• 55:32
  wrong
• 55:32
  or
• 55:33
  whatever.
• 55:34
  We're
• 55:34
  here
• 55:35
  to
• 55:35
  get
• 55:35
  to
• 55:35
  know
• 55:35
  one
• 55:36
  another.
• 55:36
  I
• 55:36
  mean,
• 55:36
  I
• 55:37
  didn't
• 55:37
  say.
• 55:37
  I
• 55:38
  don't
• 55:38
  say
• 55:38
  this,
• 55:38
  but
• 55:38
  the
• 55:39
  idea
• 55:39
  of
• 55:39
  a
• 55:39
  first
• 55:39
  date
• 55:40
  is,
• 55:40
  let's
• 55:41
  keep
• 55:41
  it
• 55:41
  light,
• 55:41
  fun,
• 55:41
  and
• 55:42
  easy.
• 55:42
  I'm
• 55:43
  here
• 55:43
  to
• 55:43
  just
• 55:43
  get
• 55:44
  to
• 55:44
  know
• 55:44
  you.
• 55:44
  What
• 55:45
  are
• 55:45
  your
• 55:45
  hobbies?
• 55:45
  What
• 55:46
  do
• 55:46
  you
• 55:46
  do?
• 55:46
  Like,
• 55:47
  what's
• 55:47
  your.
• 55:47
  Did
• 55:48
  you
• 55:48
  go
• 55:48
  to
• 55:48
  your
• 55:48
  high
• 55:48
  school
• 55:49
  prom?
• 55:49
  I
• 55:49
  always.
• 55:50
  They
• 55:50
  have
• 55:50
  those,
• 55:51
  like,
• 55:51
  I
• 55:52
  have
• 55:52
  a
• 55:52
  ton
• 55:52
  of
• 55:52
  them
• 55:52
  here
• 55:52
  at
• 55:53
  my
• 55:53
  house,
• 55:53
  but
• 55:53
  they
• 55:53
  have
• 55:54
  those,
• 55:54
  like,
• 55:55
  icebreaker
• 55:55
  questions,
• 55:56
  you
• 55:56
  know,
• 55:56
  those
• 55:56
  card
• 55:57
  games,
• 55:57
  whatever.
• 55:58
  So
• 55:58
  I
• 55:59
  use
• 55:59
  those
• 55:59
  in
• 55:59
  my
• 55:59
  company.
• 56:00
  We
• 56:00
  do
• 56:00
  icebreakers
• 56:01
  in
• 56:01
  every
• 56:01
  meeting.
• 56:01
  Hey,
• 56:02
  what
• 56:02
  was,
• 56:03
  you
• 56:03
  know,
• 56:03
  when
• 56:04
  the.
• 56:04
  When
• 56:05
  the
• 56:05
  ice
• 56:05
  cream
• 56:06
  truck
• 56:06
  came
• 56:06
  around
• 56:06
  back
• 56:07
  in
• 56:07
  the
• 56:07
  day,
• 56:07
  what
• 56:07
  was
• 56:08
  your
• 56:08
  go
• 56:08
  to
• 56:09
  treat
• 56:09
  that
• 56:09
  you
• 56:09
  were
• 56:10
  going
• 56:10
  to
• 56:10
  get
• 56:10
  whatever
• 56:10
  it
• 56:10
  is,
• 56:11
  right?
• 56:11
  And
• 56:12
  when
• 56:13
  I
• 56:13
  have
• 56:13
  friends
• 56:13
  over,
• 56:13
  when
• 56:14
  I
• 56:14
  have
• 56:14
  dinner
• 56:14
  parties,
• 56:15
  I'll
• 56:15
  pull
• 56:15
  those
• 56:15
  out.
• 56:16
  And
• 56:16
  it's
• 56:16
  so
• 56:17
  fun
• 56:17
  because
• 56:17
  all
• 56:17
  those
• 56:17
  questions
• 56:18
  are
• 56:18
  just
• 56:18
  like,
• 56:19
  wow,
• 56:19
  no
• 56:19
  one's
• 56:20
  ever
• 56:20
  asked
• 56:20
  me
• 56:20
  this.
• 56:20
  Or,
• 56:21
  oh,
• 56:21
  I
• 56:21
  haven't
• 56:21
  thought
• 56:21
  about
• 56:21
  that
• 56:22
  in
• 56:22
  years.
• 56:22
  Like,
• 56:23
  who
• 56:23
  was
• 56:23
  your
• 56:23
  high
• 56:24
  school
• 56:24
  heartthrob
• 56:25
  that
• 56:25
  you
• 56:25
  had
• 56:25
  posters
• 56:25
  all
• 56:26
  over
• 56:26
  your
• 56:26
  wall
• 56:26
  of?
• 56:26
  Or
• 56:27
  whatever
• 56:27
  the
• 56:27
  question
• 56:27
  is.
• 56:28
  And
• 56:29
  so
• 56:29
  I
• 56:29
  kind
• 56:29
  of
• 56:29
  bring
• 56:30
  some
• 56:30
  of
• 56:30
  those
• 56:30
  things
• 56:31
  to
• 56:31
  a
• 56:31
  first
• 56:32
  date.
• 56:32
  When
• 56:32
  I
• 56:32
  was
• 56:32
  dating,
• 56:33
  it
• 56:33
  was
• 56:33
  like,
• 56:34
  I'd
• 56:34
  ask
• 56:34
  them
• 56:35
  these
• 56:35
  and
• 56:35
  they
• 56:35
  kind
• 56:35
  of
• 56:35
  get
• 56:35
  caught
• 56:36
  off
• 56:36
  guard,
• 56:36
  but
• 56:36
  it
• 56:36
  kind
• 56:37
  of
• 56:37
  put
• 56:37
  them
• 56:37
  into
• 56:37
  like
• 56:37
  a
• 56:38
  playful
• 56:38
  mood
• 56:38
  instead
• 56:39
  of
• 56:39
  like,
• 56:40
  let's
• 56:40
  just
• 56:40
  talk
• 56:41
  about
• 56:41
  our
• 56:41
  horrible
• 56:42
  dating
• 56:42
  past.
• 56:43
  Like,
• 56:43
  no,
• 56:43
  we
• 56:44
  don't
• 56:44
  need
• 56:44
  that
• 56:44
  drama
• 56:44
  on
• 56:45
  the
• 56:45
  date.
• 56:45
  Let's
• 56:45
  just
• 56:45
  keep
• 56:46
  it
• 56:46
  fun
• 56:46
  and,
• 56:47
  and
• 56:47
  light
• 56:47
  and
• 56:48
  easy.
• 56:48
  So
• 56:49
  this
• 56:49
  is
• 56:49
  not
• 56:50
  an
• 56:50
  interrogation.
• 56:51
  We're
• 56:51
  not
• 56:51
  here
• 56:51
  to
• 56:52
  find
• 56:52
  out
• 56:52
  what's
• 56:53
  your
• 56:53
  story?
• 56:53
  What
• 56:53
  are
• 56:53
  you
• 56:54
  looking
• 56:54
  for?
• 56:54
  Are
• 56:55
  you
• 56:55
  looking
• 56:55
  for
• 56:55
  to
• 56:55
  get
• 56:56
  married?
• 56:56
  Are
• 56:56
  you,
• 56:56
  you
• 56:57
  know,
• 56:57
  like,
• 56:57
  no,
• 56:58
  this
• 56:58
  is
• 56:58
  light,
• 56:59
  fun
• 56:59
  and
• 56:59
  easy.
• 56:59
  This
• 56:59
  is
• 57:00
  day
• 57:00
  one
• 57:00
  one.
• 57:01
  Don't
• 57:01
  interrogate
• 57:02
  them
• 57:02
  and
• 57:02
  ask
• 57:02
  them
• 57:03
  questions,
• 57:03
  you
• 57:04
  know,
• 57:04
  six
• 57:04
  months
• 57:04
  from
• 57:05
  now,
• 57:05
  you
• 57:05
  know,
• 57:06
  I
• 57:06
  don't
• 57:06
  know.
• 57:06
  I
• 57:06
  mean,
• 57:06
  and
• 57:07
  I
• 57:07
  hate
• 57:07
  when
• 57:07
  people
• 57:07
  go,
• 57:08
  would
• 57:08
  you
• 57:08
  ever
• 57:08
  get
• 57:08
  married?
• 57:09
  Who
• 57:09
  has
• 57:10
  that
• 57:10
  answer?
• 57:10
  You
• 57:11
  know
• 57:11
  how
• 57:11
  many
• 57:11
  people
• 57:11
  out
• 57:12
  there
• 57:12
  who
• 57:12
  said,
• 57:12
  I'd
• 57:12
  never
• 57:13
  get
• 57:13
  married
• 57:13
  again
• 57:13
  and
• 57:13
  did
• 57:14
  and
• 57:14
  vice
• 57:15
  versa?
• 57:15
  Like,
• 57:15
  I
• 57:16
  don't
• 57:16
  know.
• 57:16
  I
• 57:16
  don't
• 57:17
  know
• 57:17
  what
• 57:17
  tomorrow
• 57:17
  will
• 57:17
  bring.
• 57:18
  We're
• 57:18
  just
• 57:18
  going
• 57:18
  to
• 57:18
  get
• 57:18
  through
• 57:19
  today,
• 57:19
  right?
• 57:20
  Let's
• 57:20
  just
• 57:20
  enjoy
• 57:21
  today.
• 57:21
  I'll
• 57:22
  worry
• 57:22
  about
• 57:22
  tomorrow.
• 57:22
  Tomorrow
• 57:23
  I'm
• 57:23
  not
• 57:23
  thinking,
• 57:24
  who
• 57:24
  knows?
• 57:25
  Life
• 57:25
  has
• 57:25
  so
• 57:25
  many
• 57:25
  twists
• 57:26
  and
• 57:26
  turns.
• 57:26
  There's
• 57:26
  so
• 57:26
  many
• 57:27
  things
• 57:27
  I
• 57:27
  said
• 57:27
  I
• 57:27
  wouldn't
• 57:28
  do
• 57:28
  that.
• 57:28
  I
• 57:28
  did
• 57:29
  that
• 57:29
  I
• 57:29
  would
• 57:29
  do
• 57:29
  that.
• 57:30
  I
• 57:30
  didn't,
• 57:30
  like,
• 57:31
  just
• 57:31
  go
• 57:32
  with
• 57:32
  it.
• 57:32
  Right?
• 57:33
  Try
• 57:33
  to
• 57:33
  stop
• 57:33
  trying
• 57:34
  to
• 57:34
  control
• 57:34
  the
• 57:34
  narrative
• 57:35
  of
• 57:35
  our
• 57:35
  lives.
• 57:36
  Like,
• 57:36
  just
• 57:37
  one
• 57:37
  day
• 57:37
  at
• 57:37
  a
• 57:38
  time.
• 57:38
  One
• 57:39
  day
• 57:39
  at
• 57:39
  a
• 57:39
  time
• 57:39
  in
• 57:39
  the
• 57:40
  moment.
• 57:40
  Like,
• 57:40
  live
• 57:40
  for
• 57:41
  right
• 57:41
  now.
• 57:41
  Right,
• 57:42
  Right,
• 57:42
  exactly.
• 57:43
  Let's
• 57:43
  not
• 57:43
  worry
• 57:44
  about
• 57:44
  tomorrow.
• 57:45
  Exactly.
• 57:45
  That
• 57:46
  just
• 57:46
  creates
• 57:46
  anxiety
• 57:47
  too,
• 57:47
  on
• 57:47
  top
• 57:48
  of
• 57:48
  it.
• 57:48
  I
• 57:48
  mean,
• 57:48
  it's
• 57:49
  exactly
• 57:49
  like
• 57:49
  I'm,
• 57:50
  I
• 57:50
  don't
• 57:50
  have
• 57:50
  a
• 57:50
  crystal
• 57:51
  ball.
• 57:51
  I
• 57:51
  have
• 57:52
  no
• 57:52
  idea
• 57:52
  what's
• 57:52
  gonna
• 57:52
  happen.
• 57:53
  Like,
• 57:53
  but
• 57:54
  life
• 57:54
  is
• 57:54
  figure
• 57:55
  it
• 57:55
  outable.
• 57:55
  So
• 57:55
  don't
• 57:56
  try
• 57:56
  to
• 57:56
  control
• 57:56
  it
• 57:57
  by
• 57:57
  already
• 57:57
  having
• 57:58
  him
• 57:59
  say
• 57:59
  what
• 58:00
  all
• 58:00
  the
• 58:00
  things
• 58:00
  are.
• 58:01
  We
• 58:01
  have
• 58:02
  no
• 58:02
  idea.
• 58:02
  We
• 58:03
  have
• 58:03
  no
• 58:03
  idea.
• 58:04
  Just
• 58:04
  one
• 58:04
  day
• 58:04
  at
• 58:04
  a
• 58:05
  time.
• 58:05
  And
• 58:06
  be
• 58:07
  open
• 58:07
  minded
• 58:08
  to
• 58:08
  whatever
• 58:09
  life
• 58:09
  brings
• 58:09
  your
• 58:10
  way.
• 58:10
  And
• 58:10
  when
• 58:10
  there's
• 58:11
  problems,
• 58:12
  it's
• 58:12
  all
• 58:12
  figure
• 58:13
  it
• 58:13
  out
• 58:13
  able.
• 58:14
  Right?
• 58:14
  Like,
• 58:15
  we
• 58:15
  try
• 58:15
  to
• 58:16
  control
• 58:16
  and
• 58:16
  prevent
• 58:16
  any
• 58:17
  problem
• 58:17
  from
• 58:17
  coming
• 58:17
  our
• 58:18
  way.
• 58:18
  But
• 58:18
  the
• 58:19
  reality
• 58:19
  is,
• 58:20
  is
• 58:21
  we'll
• 58:21
  figure
• 58:21
  it
• 58:22
  out
• 58:22
  once.
• 58:23
  Once
• 58:23
  it
• 58:23
  presents
• 58:24
  itself.
• 58:24
  As
• 58:24
  women,
• 58:24
  we
• 58:25
  are
• 58:25
  amazing
• 58:25
  problem
• 58:26
  solvers.
• 58:27
  We
• 58:27
  will
• 58:27
  figure
• 58:27
  it
• 58:28
  out.
• 58:28
  May
• 58:29
  not
• 58:29
  be
• 58:29
  easy,
• 58:29
  maybe
• 58:30
  we
• 58:31
  might
• 58:31
  have
• 58:31
  a
• 58:31
  lot
• 58:31
  of
• 58:31
  heartbreak
• 58:32
  in
• 58:32
  our
• 58:32
  life,
• 58:32
  but
• 58:33
  we
• 58:33
  figure
• 58:33
  it
• 58:33
  out
• 58:34
  and
• 58:34
  we
• 58:34
  pull
• 58:35
  ourselves
• 58:35
  back
• 58:35
  up
• 58:36
  and
• 58:36
  we
• 58:36
  keep
• 58:36
  on
• 58:36
  moving.
• 58:37
  That's
• 58:37
  what
• 58:37
  we,
• 58:37
  as
• 58:37
  women
• 58:37
  do.
• 58:38
  Yeah,
• 58:38
  absolutely.
• 58:39
  It's
• 58:39
  about
• 58:39
  being
• 58:39
  solution
• 58:40
  oriented.
• 58:41
  Right?
• 58:41
  You
• 58:41
  just
• 58:41
  kind
• 58:41
  of
• 58:42
  figure
• 58:42
  out
• 58:42
  what
• 58:42
  you
• 58:42
  need
• 58:43
  to
• 58:43
  figure
• 58:43
  out.
• 58:43
  Right.
• 58:43
  I
• 58:44
  mean,
• 58:44
  think
• 58:44
  about
• 58:44
  everything
• 58:44
  back
• 58:45
  in
• 58:45
  your
• 58:45
  life.
• 58:45
  That
• 58:45
  was
• 58:46
  so
• 58:46
  traumatic
• 58:46
  at
• 58:47
  the
• 58:47
  time,
• 58:47
  and
• 58:47
  you
• 58:47
  thought
• 58:47
  you
• 58:47
  would
• 58:48
  never
• 58:48
  get
• 58:48
  over
• 58:49
  that
• 58:49
  or
• 58:49
  whatever
• 58:50
  it
• 58:50
  was.
• 58:50
  And
• 58:51
  time
• 58:52
  heals
• 58:52
  and
• 58:53
  you
• 58:53
  learned
• 58:53
  a
• 58:53
  few
• 58:54
  lessons
• 58:54
  and
• 58:55
  you
• 58:55
  don't
• 58:55
  want
• 58:55
  to
• 58:55
  rinse
• 58:56
  and
• 58:56
  repeat,
• 58:56
  and
• 58:56
  that's
• 58:57
  the
• 58:57
  best
• 58:57
  thing
• 58:57
  we
• 58:57
  can
• 58:57
  do.
• 58:58
  Try
• 58:58
  not
• 58:58
  to
• 58:58
  make
• 58:58
  a
• 58:59
  mistake
• 58:59
  twice.
• 58:59
  Yes.
• 59:00
  And
• 59:00
  it's
• 59:00
  like
• 59:00
  giving
• 59:01
  fewer,
• 59:01
  too,
• 59:02
  because
• 59:02
  it's
• 59:02
  like,
• 59:03
  who
• 59:03
  cares?
• 59:04
  Right?
• 59:04
  Like,
• 59:05
  you
• 59:05
  get
• 59:05
  so
• 59:06
  caught
• 59:06
  up
• 59:06
  with,
• 59:06
  like,
• 59:06
  what
• 59:07
  is
• 59:07
  that
• 59:07
  person
• 59:07
  gonna
• 59:08
  think?
• 59:08
  What's
• 59:08
  this?
• 59:08
  You
• 59:08
  know?
• 59:09
  Like,
• 59:09
  it's
• 59:09
  just
• 59:10
  like,
• 59:10
  who
• 59:10
  cares?
• 59:10
  Like,
• 59:11
  move
• 59:11
  on.
• 59:12
  Like,
• 59:12
  go,
• 59:12
  like,
• 59:12
  do
• 59:12
  the.
• 59:13
  Have
• 59:13
  fun.
• 59:14
  Exactly.
• 59:15
  Right.
• 59:15
  Exactly.
• 59:17
  Well,
• 59:17
  Renee,
• 59:18
  thank
• 59:18
  you
• 59:18
  so
• 59:18
  much
• 59:18
  for
• 59:18
  your
• 59:19
  incredible
• 59:19
  honesty
• 59:20
  and
• 59:20
  just
• 59:20
  being
• 59:21
  so
• 59:21
  vulnerable
• 59:21
  and
• 59:22
  open,
• 59:23
  you
• 59:23
  know,
• 59:24
  talking
• 59:24
  about.
• 59:25
  Absolutely.
• 59:26
  I
• 59:26
  just.
• 59:26
  I
• 59:27
  really
• 59:27
  appreciate
• 59:28
  it,
• 59:28
  especially
• 59:28
  with,
• 59:28
  like,
• 59:29
  Florian
• 59:29
  and
• 59:30
  dating
• 59:30
  and
• 59:31
  no
• 59:31
  doubt
• 59:31
  this
• 59:31
  will
• 59:32
  help
• 59:32
  so
• 59:32
  many
• 59:32
  women,
• 59:33
  you
• 59:33
  know.
• 59:34
  Yes,
• 59:34
  I
• 59:34
  know
• 59:35
  it
• 59:35
  will.
• 59:35
  I
• 59:35
  hope
• 59:35
  it
• 59:35
  does.
• 59:36
  Yeah.
• 59:36
  And
• 59:36
  also,
• 59:36
  just,
• 59:37
  you
• 59:37
  know,
• 59:38
  this
• 59:38
  is
• 59:38
  just
• 59:38
  my
• 59:38
  opinion.
• 59:39
  This
• 59:39
  is
• 59:39
  just
• 59:39
  my
• 59:39
  experience.
• 59:40
  You
• 59:40
  know,
• 59:41
  I'm
• 59:41
  not
• 59:41
  acting
• 59:41
  like
• 59:41
  I
• 59:42
  have
• 59:42
  all
• 59:42
  the
• 59:42
  answers
• 59:43
  because.
• 59:43
  But
• 59:43
  this
• 59:43
  is
• 59:43
  what
• 59:43
  life
• 59:44
  has
• 59:44
  taught
• 59:44
  me.
• 59:45
  And
• 59:45
  I
• 59:46
  hope
• 59:46
  that
• 59:46
  it
• 59:46
  at
• 59:47
  least
• 59:47
  gets
• 59:47
  somebody
• 59:48
  to.
• 59:48
  To
• 59:48
  think
• 59:49
  about
• 59:49
  some
• 59:49
  things
• 59:50
  differently.
• 59:51
  But
• 59:51
  maybe
• 59:51
  you
• 59:52
  should
• 59:52
  think
• 59:52
  about
• 59:52
  doing
• 59:53
  a
• 59:53
  dating
• 59:54
  kind
• 59:54
  of,
• 59:54
  because
• 59:55
  you
• 59:55
  got
• 59:55
  some
• 59:55
  good,
• 59:55
  good
• 59:56
  tips,
• 59:56
  good
• 59:56
  advice.
• 59:57
  Yeah.
• 59:58
  It
• 59:58
  could
• 59:58
  be
• 59:58
  the
• 59:58
  second
• 59:58
  career.
• 59:59
  I
• 59:59
  mean,
• 1:00:00
  I
• 1:00:00
  know,
• 1:00:00
  right?
• 1:00:01
  But
• 1:00:01
  yeah,
• 1:00:02
  I
• 1:00:02
  mean,
• 1:00:02
  I
• 1:00:02
  definitely
• 1:00:03
  get
• 1:00:03
  hit
• 1:00:03
  up
• 1:00:03
  a
• 1:00:03
  lot,
• 1:00:04
  and
• 1:00:04
  people
• 1:00:04
  being
• 1:00:04
  like,
• 1:00:04
  renee,
• 1:00:05
  would
• 1:00:05
  you
• 1:00:05
  please
• 1:00:05
  talk
• 1:00:05
  to
• 1:00:05
  my
• 1:00:06
  girlfriend?
• 1:00:06
  She
• 1:00:06
  needs
• 1:00:06
  to
• 1:00:06
  talk
• 1:00:06
  to
• 1:00:06
  you.
• 1:00:07
  And
• 1:00:07
  I'm
• 1:00:07
  like,
• 1:00:08
  okay.
• 1:00:10
  Well,
• 1:00:10
  I
• 1:00:10
  mean,
• 1:00:10
  at
• 1:00:10
  the
• 1:00:10
  end
• 1:00:10
  of
• 1:00:11
  the
• 1:00:11
  day,
• 1:00:11
  being.
• 1:00:11
  Being
• 1:00:11
  in
• 1:00:12
  an
• 1:00:12
  esthetic,
• 1:00:12
  esthetician,
• 1:00:13
  I
• 1:00:13
  got
• 1:00:13
  into
• 1:00:14
  it
• 1:00:14
  by
• 1:00:14
  my
• 1:00:15
  love.
• 1:00:15
  By
• 1:00:16
  my
• 1:00:16
  love
• 1:00:16
  of,
• 1:00:17
  you
• 1:00:17
  know,
• 1:00:17
  helping
• 1:00:17
  others
• 1:00:18
  and
• 1:00:18
  serving
• 1:00:18
  others.
• 1:00:19
  I
• 1:00:19
  have
• 1:00:19
  a
• 1:00:19
  tattoo
• 1:00:19
  on
• 1:00:19
  my
• 1:00:20
  arm
• 1:00:20
  that
• 1:00:20
  says
• 1:00:20
  to
• 1:00:20
  serve.
• 1:00:21
  And
• 1:00:23
  so,
• 1:00:23
  you
• 1:00:24
  know,
• 1:00:24
  I'm
• 1:00:24
  happy
• 1:00:25
  to
• 1:00:25
  serve
• 1:00:26
  in
• 1:00:26
  any
• 1:00:26
  way
• 1:00:26
  I
• 1:00:26
  can.
• 1:00:27
  That
• 1:00:27
  helps
• 1:00:27
  us
• 1:00:28
  be
• 1:00:28
  happier
• 1:00:29
  and
• 1:00:30
  have
• 1:00:30
  better
• 1:00:30
  relationships.
• 1:00:31
  Because
• 1:00:31
  I
• 1:00:31
  know
• 1:00:32
  it's
• 1:00:32
  tough.
• 1:00:32
  It's
• 1:00:33
  tough
• 1:00:33
  out
• 1:00:33
  there.
• 1:00:33
  It
• 1:00:34
  is,
• 1:00:34
  it
• 1:00:34
  is.
• 1:00:34
  But
• 1:00:35
  with
• 1:00:35
  good
• 1:00:35
  advice
• 1:00:36
  and,
• 1:00:36
  you
• 1:00:37
  know,
• 1:00:37
  getting
• 1:00:37
  out
• 1:00:37
  of
• 1:00:38
  the
• 1:00:38
  comfort
• 1:00:38
  zone
• 1:00:38
  and
• 1:00:39
  kind
• 1:00:39
  of
• 1:00:39
  moving
• 1:00:39
  forward,
• 1:00:40
  forward,
• 1:00:40
  hopefully
• 1:00:40
  that'll
• 1:00:41
  be
• 1:00:41
  good
• 1:00:41
  for
• 1:00:42
  people,
• 1:00:42
  you
• 1:00:42
  know.
• 1:00:43
  Yeah,
• 1:00:43
  absolutely.
• 1:00:45
  And
• 1:00:45
  we're
• 1:00:45
  doing
• 1:00:46
  great
• 1:00:46
  in
• 1:00:46
  our
• 1:00:46
  midlife
• 1:00:47
  and,
• 1:00:48
  you
• 1:00:49
  know,
• 1:00:49
  this
• 1:00:49
  is.
• 1:00:50
  There's
• 1:00:50
  so
• 1:00:50
  much
• 1:00:51
  to
• 1:00:51
  look
• 1:00:51
  forward
• 1:00:51
  to.
• 1:00:52
  Just
• 1:00:52
  be
• 1:00:53
  open
• 1:00:53
  minded.
• 1:00:54
  Get
• 1:00:54
  out
• 1:00:54
  of
• 1:00:54
  your
• 1:00:54
  comfort
• 1:00:55
  zone
• 1:00:55
  and
• 1:00:55
  don't
• 1:00:56
  think,
• 1:00:56
  you
• 1:00:56
  know,
• 1:00:57
  that
• 1:00:57
  you
• 1:00:57
  got
• 1:00:57
  to
• 1:00:57
  hang
• 1:00:57
  it
• 1:00:57
  up
• 1:00:58
  because
• 1:00:58
  there's
• 1:00:58
  a
• 1:00:58
  lot
• 1:00:59
  of
• 1:00:59
  life
• 1:00:59
  to
• 1:00:59
  be
• 1:00:59
  lived
• 1:01:00
  and
• 1:01:01
  stay
• 1:01:01
  healthy
• 1:01:02
  and.
• 1:01:02
  And
• 1:01:03
  just
• 1:01:03
  always
• 1:01:04
  be
• 1:01:04
  learning
• 1:01:05
  and.
• 1:01:05
  And
• 1:01:05
  just
• 1:01:06
  be,
• 1:01:07
  you
• 1:01:07
  know,
• 1:01:07
  just
• 1:01:07
  open.
• 1:01:08
  Say
• 1:01:08
  yes.
• 1:01:08
  Say
• 1:01:09
  yes.
• 1:01:09
  More
• 1:01:09
  often.
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• 1:04:21
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• 1:04:22
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• 1:04:22
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• 1:04:23
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• 1:04:32
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• 1:04:33
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• 1:04:35
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• 1:04:37
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• 1:04:38
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• 1:04:38
  So
• 1:04:39
  that
• 1:04:39
  is
• 1:04:39
  good.
• 1:04:39
  That'll
• 1:04:39
  be
• 1:04:40
  on
• 1:04:40
  the
• 1:04:40
  list.
• 1:04:40
  But
• 1:04:41
  thank
• 1:04:42
  you,
• 1:04:42
  Renee.
• 1:04:42
  You're
• 1:04:43
  amazing.
• 1:04:44
  I
• 1:04:45
  appreciate
• 1:04:45
  you.
• 1:04:46
  You're
• 1:04:46
  such
• 1:04:46
  a
• 1:04:46
  rare
• 1:04:47
  sunshine.
• 1:04:47
  Oh.
• 1:04:48
  You're
• 1:04:48
  always
• 1:04:48
  smiling.
• 1:04:49
  And
• 1:04:49
  that's
• 1:04:49
  what
• 1:04:49
  I
• 1:04:50
  love
• 1:04:50
  about
• 1:04:50
  Roxy.
• 1:04:51
  Like,
• 1:04:51
  I
• 1:04:51
  don't
• 1:04:52
  think
• 1:04:52
  Roxy
• 1:04:52
  ever.
• 1:04:53
  She
• 1:04:53
  at
• 1:04:53
  least
• 1:04:53
  doesn't
• 1:04:53
  show
• 1:04:54
  like
• 1:04:54
  she
• 1:04:54
  has
• 1:04:54
  a
• 1:04:54
  better.
• 1:04:54
  A
• 1:04:55
  bad
• 1:04:55
  day.
• 1:04:55
  I
• 1:04:55
  know
• 1:04:55
  we're
• 1:04:56
  all
• 1:04:56
  humans,
• 1:04:56
  but
• 1:04:57
  you
• 1:04:57
  always
• 1:04:57
  just.
• 1:04:58
  You
• 1:04:58
  always
• 1:04:59
  just
• 1:04:59
  seem
• 1:04:59
  so
• 1:05:00
  energetic
• 1:05:00
  and
• 1:05:01
  so
• 1:05:01
  fun.
• 1:05:01
  You're
• 1:05:02
  so
• 1:05:02
  sweet.
• 1:05:02
  Thank
• 1:05:02
  you
• 1:05:02
  so
• 1:05:03
  much.
• 1:05:03
  And
• 1:05:03
  I
• 1:05:03
  appreciate
• 1:05:04
  you
• 1:05:04
  coming
• 1:05:04
  on
• 1:05:04
  and
• 1:05:05
  sharing
• 1:05:05
  so
• 1:05:05
  much.
• 1:05:06
  And
• 1:05:06
  I
• 1:05:07
  mean,
• 1:05:07
  you're
• 1:05:07
  going
• 1:05:07
  to
• 1:05:07
  help
• 1:05:08
  so
• 1:05:08
  many
• 1:05:08
  people,
• 1:05:08
  Renee.
• 1:05:09
  And
• 1:05:09
  it
• 1:05:10
  just.
• 1:05:10
  Yeah,
• 1:05:11
  absolutely.
• 1:05:12
  It
• 1:05:12
  just
• 1:05:12
  is
• 1:05:12
  so
• 1:05:13
  wonderful.
• 1:05:13
  And
• 1:05:13
  you're
• 1:05:14
  so
• 1:05:14
  well
• 1:05:14
  spoken
• 1:05:15
  and
• 1:05:15
  well
• 1:05:15
  researched.
• 1:05:17
  Oh,
• 1:05:18
  Lord
• 1:05:18
  knows
• 1:05:19
  I've
• 1:05:19
  done
• 1:05:19
  a
• 1:05:19
  lot
• 1:05:19
  of.
• 1:05:20
  Learned
• 1:05:20
  a
• 1:05:20
  lot
• 1:05:20
  of
• 1:05:20
  things
• 1:05:21
  in
• 1:05:21
  this
• 1:05:21
  life.
• 1:05:21
  Good,
• 1:05:22
  bad,
• 1:05:22
  or
• 1:05:22
  indifferent.
• 1:05:22
  So.
• 1:05:23
  Right.
• 1:05:23
  Exact.
• 1:05:24
  We
• 1:05:24
  have
• 1:05:24
  to.
• 1:05:24
  We
• 1:05:25
  have
• 1:05:25
  to.
• 1:05:25
  It's
• 1:05:25
  part
• 1:05:25
  of
• 1:05:25
  the
• 1:05:25
  fun,
• 1:05:26
  right?
• 1:05:26
  I
• 1:05:26
  know,
• 1:05:27
  right?
• 1:05:27
  Yeah.
• 1:05:28
  Yeah,
• 1:05:28
  that's
• 1:05:29
  so.
• 1:05:29
  I'm
• 1:05:29
  so
• 1:05:29
  glad
• 1:05:30
  that
• 1:05:30
  you
• 1:05:30
  are
• 1:05:30
  happy
• 1:05:31
  in
• 1:05:31
  love.
• 1:05:31
  And
• 1:05:32
  that's
• 1:05:32
  awesome.
• 1:05:33
  Yes.
• 1:05:34
  Thank
• 1:05:34
  you.
• 1:05:35
  Thank
• 1:05:35
  you.
• 1:05:35
  Could.
• 1:05:36
  Could
• 1:05:36
  be
• 1:05:36
  happier.
• 1:05:37
  Couldn't
• 1:05:37
  be
• 1:05:37
  happier.
• 1:05:37
  Yay.
• 1:05:39
  From
• 1:05:39
  heartbreak
• 1:05:40
  to
• 1:05:40
  spreadsheets
• 1:05:41
  to
• 1:05:41
  real
• 1:05:41
  love,
• 1:05:42
  Renee's
• 1:05:43
  story
• 1:05:43
  is
• 1:05:43
  the
• 1:05:43
  ultimate
• 1:05:44
  reminder
• 1:05:44
  that
• 1:05:44
  reinvention
• 1:05:45
  is
• 1:05:45
  always
• 1:05:46
  possible.
• 1:05:47
  If
• 1:05:47
  her
• 1:05:47
  honesty
• 1:05:48
  inspired
• 1:05:48
  you
• 1:05:48
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• 1:05:49
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• 1:05:49
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• 1:05:49
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• 1:05:50
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• 1:05:50
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• 1:05:51
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• 1:05:52
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• 1:05:54
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• 1:05:54
  who
• 1:05:54
  needs
• 1:05:55
  a
• 1:05:55
  reminder
• 1:05:56
  that
• 1:05:56
  it's
• 1:05:56
  never
• 1:05:56
  too
• 1:05:57
  late
• 1:05:57
  to
• 1:05:57
  start
• 1:05:57
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• 1:05:58
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• 1:05:58
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• 1:05:59
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• 1:06:01
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• 1:06:06
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