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#153| How To Rewire Your Brain To Feel At Ease With Money & Reduce Overwhelm With Your Finances · Overwhelmed Working Woman: Boost Productivity, Master Time Management, Overcome Overwhelm & Stop People Pleasing

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  Michelle Gauthier: If you feel overwhelmed every time you think about finances, it probably isn't because you're bad with money.
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  Michelle Gauthier: It's because your brain is running on some old programming.
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  Michelle Gauthier: You're listening to Overwhelmed Working Woman, the podcast that helps you be more calm and more productive by doing less.
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  Michelle Gauthier: I'm your host, Michelle Gauthier, a former overwhelmed working woman and current life coach.
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  Michelle Gauthier: On this show, we unpack the stress and pressure that today's working woman experiences and in each episode you'll get a strategy to bring more calm, ease and relaxation to your life.
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  Michelle Gauthier: Hi, friend, thanks for joining today.
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  Michelle Gauthier: Today's episode is a quick one, but it could seriously change your relationship with money.
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  Michelle Gauthier: On episode 152, we talked about ways to make managing our money easier and more efficient, and today we're going to talk about how to rewire your brain around money, because if you feel overwhelmed or avoidant or anxious every time you think about finances, it probably isn't because you're bad with money.
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  Michelle Gauthier: It's because your brain is running on some old programming and maybe having unconscious thoughts about money.
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  Michelle Gauthier: When you listen to today's episode, I'm going to teach you how to interrupt and replace those money thoughts that you had before and how to create safety around money conversations.
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  Michelle Gauthier: It sounds funny, maybe, to say safety, but sometimes it feels almost dangerous to talk about or think about money, then I'm going to help you learn how to visualize money flowing in with ease.
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  Michelle Gauthier: A little bit of extra woo-woo for you today.
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  Michelle Gauthier: Laugh if you want, but the woo-woo works.
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  Michelle Gauthier: I'm telling you.
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  Michelle Gauthier: Okay, let's jump right in.
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  Michelle Gauthier: So the thoughts that you think even if those thoughts are unconscious, because, remember, our thoughts are coming into our mind.
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  Michelle Gauthier: We don't choose which ones come into our mind, but we get to choose whether we believe them or not.
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  Michelle Gauthier: So you have thoughts coming into your head and repeating themselves over and over until they become a belief, and they do not necessarily need to be true.
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  Michelle Gauthier: In fact, what I find is they are very often not true.
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  Michelle Gauthier: So if you catch yourself thinking something about money like I will never have enough, I'm bad with money.
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  Michelle Gauthier: I can't check my bank balance because I'm afraid to see the numbers.
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  Michelle Gauthier: Making more money means more stress.
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  Michelle Gauthier: You know, if you've been a podcast listener for a while, and just in case you haven't been, I'm going to tell you that the way that we think changes the way that we feel, and the way that we feel changes the actions that we take, and the actions that we take create the results that we get in life.
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  Michelle Gauthier: So if you start off thinking I'm bad with money, it's going to make you feel what Like crap, or depressed or frustrated.
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  Michelle Gauthier: And then, when you're frustrated, what kind of action are you going to make you feel what like crap, or depressed or frustrated?
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  Michelle Gauthier: And then, when you're frustrated, what kind of action are you going to take?
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  Michelle Gauthier: From the place of frustration?
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  Michelle Gauthier: You're going to ignore money, spend money that you don't have, not check your bank balance, and when you do that, the result that you get is that you're not handling your money in a mature and resourceful way, and it just reinforces that I'm bad with money.
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  Michelle Gauthier: And then you go around the circle and the cycle again.
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  Michelle Gauthier: So let's talk about how to break that thought cycle.
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  Michelle Gauthier: The first thing is noticing what your thoughts about money are that are causing you to feel so anxious or worried about money.
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  Michelle Gauthier: Often, this can go back to childhood.
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  Michelle Gauthier: So a good exercise to do is to think about what did your parents say about money when you were a kid.
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  Michelle Gauthier: A lot of times that we will learn at an early age that money is stressful or that there's not enough or that we shouldn't spend too much.
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  Michelle Gauthier: So think about what your parents said, and then think about the thoughts that are in your head.
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  Michelle Gauthier: Just try to notice them when you think about money.
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  Michelle Gauthier: When you notice what they are, you can ask yourself is this really true?
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  Michelle Gauthier: Is there any evidence to the contrary?
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  Michelle Gauthier: So, for example, if I'm thinking I'm bad with money and I would say, is this true?
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  Michelle Gauthier: Is there any evidence to the contrary?
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  Michelle Gauthier: Well, I own a house, so I can't always be bad about money.
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  Michelle Gauthier: Or I have had a steady job for 20 years, or whatever it is that gives evidence to the fact that you aren't bad with money.
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  Michelle Gauthier: And then replace the thought of I'm bad with money with something new and believable.
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  Michelle Gauthier: Don't go toxic positivity.
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  Michelle Gauthier: Reach for something that's just one notch better than the thought you were thinking before.
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  Michelle Gauthier: So maybe something like better than the thought you were thinking before, so maybe something like I'm learning to handle money with more confidence.
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  Michelle Gauthier: Or having some money is still money and it adds up.
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  Michelle Gauthier: Come up with a thought that feels like a good replacement.
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  Michelle Gauthier: If even thinking about money or talking about money makes your chest tight or gives you a stomachache, you're not alone.
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  Michelle Gauthier: A lot of women associate money with fear or shame or pressure, and to rewire this you need to make your.
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  Michelle Gauthier: You're not alone.
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  Michelle Gauthier: A lot of women associate money with fear or shame or pressure, and to rewire this, you need to make your money feel safe again.
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  Michelle Gauthier: So before you check your bank account or talk about a budget if that's the kind of thing that makes you feel really anxious or nervous try saying something like it's safe for me to look at my bank account.
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  Michelle Gauthier: I can handle whatever I say, it's just numbers and then do something calming like take a deep breath, unclench your jaw, soften your shoulders, and that signals to your brain we're okay, this isn't a threat, it's not actually dangerous, and that alone starts to shift how your nervous system responds to money and conversations about money.
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  Michelle Gauthier: And then the last thing is visualize money flowing in with ease.
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  Michelle Gauthier: I said this is your little extra dose of woo woo, but when you visualize something, your brain thinks that it's actually happening.
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  Michelle Gauthier: So instead of spending time imagining what will happen when you run out of money and you can't pay all your bills bills and you're super stressed about it spend time imagining what would happen when you open your bank app and you feel calm and you see a number in there that makes you feel super happy.
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  Michelle Gauthier: Or picture yourself making a money decision with clarity or paying a big bill and thinking I'm so grateful I can afford this, and just imagining yourself doing that over and over every day will start to create money flowing in with ease.
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  Michelle Gauthier: I could go on and on this topic, but I promise you it works.
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  Michelle Gauthier: So if you have any kind of stress around money, try these three tips.
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  Michelle Gauthier: Number one find out what it is that you're thinking about money that's causing the anxiety.
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  Michelle Gauthier: Tips Number one find out what it is that you're thinking about money that's causing the anxiety.
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  Michelle Gauthier: Replace it with a better thought.
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  Michelle Gauthier: Remind yourself when you look at your actual dollars and cents in your bank account that you are safe.
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  Michelle Gauthier: You can look at it.
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  Michelle Gauthier: It's just numbers.
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  Michelle Gauthier: You can handle whatever you see and then work on visualizing money flowing in with ease and I promise you your relationship to money will begin to change in a way that is super positive.
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  Michelle Gauthier: Okay, that's it for Quick Hit Thursday.
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  Michelle Gauthier: I hope you have a fantastic week.
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  Michelle Gauthier: If this episode was helpful to you, or any episode in this podcast, I would love if you would take the time to leave a review or even just a rating.
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  Michelle Gauthier: It is super helpful and I would really appreciate it.
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  Michelle Gauthier: Have a great week.
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  Michelle Gauthier: Thank you for listening to the Overwhelmed Working Woman podcast.
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  Michelle Gauthier: If you want to learn more about my work, head over to my website at michellegauthier.
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  Michelle Gauthier: com.
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  Michelle Gauthier: See you next week.