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When is It OkTo Stay With A Friend Who Just Had A Baby - If Ever · The Erica Show

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  Now no backs to the Erica Show on G one oh five, Erica and
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  Trevor with a listener dilemma. This is about a new baby, So she
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  wrote us. Her name's Diane. She said, my cousin and my best
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  friend, our whole lives, just had their second baby. Their first baby
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  is two years old with special needs. So they've got their hands full.
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  And I want to go and help her and her husband because I know that
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  she would never ask for help, but I know that she's gonna need it.
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  My kids are a little bit older, and I have the time.
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  What is the proper amount of time to stay? And how soon should I
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  go to their house? Or if go at all? Help? So nine
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  one nine eight six zero one oh five to one. If you're like me,
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  I got kids, I didn't want people at my house right away.
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  I wanted some time to adjust because you're exhausted, you're working on a se
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  It's just a lot where some people, like my neighbor, they had both
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  moms from the husband and the wife stay at their house for like the first
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  two months. To me, that's a lot. I don't think anybody wants
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  that. Some people do, So what would you prefer? So we'll get
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  a gauged for Diane because she's trying to figure out when should she go and
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  help her cousin is also her best friend. Yeah, what's the etiquette?
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  And do you stay at See that's the part I'm like, are you you're
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  inviting your I know you're inviting yourself to help, but you're inviting yourself to
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  stay at their house? Which is helpful? Like if you got a baby
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  that's waking up and allows the mom to sleep some through the night, you
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  can get up and help. If it's a bottle fed situation, or if
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  she's got pumped milk, I think I should get that, she should get
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  a hotel. So it just depends what do you think I would say?
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  Is stant to your own house? I made everybody wait for a couple months
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  before I had visitors nine one, nine eight six, one oh five to
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  one or leave us a talkback message on our free iHeartRadio app. Do you
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  want to advive? It's Erica and Trevor. Diane wrote us she needs some
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  help. Her cousin, who is also her lifelong best friend, just had
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  their second baby, her and her husband and they have a two year old
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  that has special needs. So Diane wants to fly to her cousin's house,
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  stay there and help her with their baby. She knows that her cousin will
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  never ask for help, but she doesn't know if that's the proper way to
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  do it or if it's too invasive to bust up at her cousin's house.
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  Do they want the company right now? Yeah? So what do you think
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  is the proper etiquette we have? Andrew on the phone, what do you
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  think about all this? Yeah, her cousin. Yes, a long difference,
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  long difference cousin. Yeah, so I would just offer, hey,
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  look, whenever you need and let me know. I'm on the first thing
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  smoking just offer the help and and and to me, believe it or not,
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  people know when you when you have their best interest, you know,
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  that's all you have to do. Just offer it, that's all. It's
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  like, if I had a new baby and had a lot going on,
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  I would want help, but I don't know if i'd want people staying in
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  my house as I was trying to adjust too to a new Yeah. No,
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  no, no, no, you're you're my long this is cousin.
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  I love you, thank you, but you know, let us let us
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  just get the baby home, and then I'll let you know, we'll talk
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  with FaceTime and you know, if I need to cry, we can cry
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  over the phone whatever. Then we'll just go for advice. And then if
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  I want you to appreciate that, and then if I want you to come
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  visit and help with the baby, you can get a hotel help exactly.
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  Yeah, yeah, I mean, you know, hey, we can meet
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  up for dinner maybe and then hey, come by and you know, but
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  yeah, don't I don't really need a bunch of company right now at the
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  house, especially like you know, such that she's married with a husband.
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  I mean, not trying to go there, but you know, hey,
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  oh you did go there though, You're like, he's gonna be thinking about
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  the cousin. No, come on, Andrew, Guys are that bad?
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  Are they? Do? You know? If I say Erica Show live on
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  the iHeartRadio app where you can weigh in on the topics, just leave us
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  a talk back message. So we had Diane who wrote us she wants to
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  go and visit her cousin that just had a new baby. Her and her
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  husband. She wants to help, right, she wants to help, but
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  they have a two year old with special needs, so she knows her hands
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  are gonna be full, and she also knows that her cousin never ask for
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  help, so she wants to proactively go and stay and help them. I
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  don't know if that's a great idea to go stay with them like that.
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  Seems like I'm a little intrusive at this point. I don't really love people
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  well other than my in laws. I love them to visit, but I
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  like to have space, so I don't like a bunch of people piled up
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  at my house. Ever. Danielle left us a talkback message on our iHeartRadio
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  app HI. My husband and I have had two kids, and after each
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  of our kids was born, we did have visitors right away to come see
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  the babies for short since and anyone who's coming from out of town. They
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  got their own place, which was great because we didn't have to host or
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  make sure, you know, we had to cater to them, so they
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  really helped us out great. Highly recommend that