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Bullying with a Capital “B” Part 2 · 5–Minute Parenting: Tips to Help You Raise Competent, Godly Kids.

• 0:31
  SPEAKER_00: Welcome to another episode of 5-Minute Parenting.
• 0:36
  SPEAKER_00: Today we're going to continue the topic we began last week, bullying with a capital B, What Parents Can Do, Part 2.
• 0:46
  SPEAKER_00: Last week I gave a lot of statistics about bullying so that we could get an overview of what bullying is and how extensive it is in our kids' lives.
• 0:56
  SPEAKER_00: We defined what bullying was and looked at four types of bullying.
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  SPEAKER_00: We also gave a few ways you can help your child if they tell you they are being bullied.
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  SPEAKER_00: This week we're going to continue to look at some traits of kids who are bullied and give some more parental ideas for helping your child.
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  SPEAKER_00: First, let's look at some common traits of children who are bullied.
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  SPEAKER_00: One, they give in easily to the aggressor's demands.
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  SPEAKER_00: Two, they lack self-confidence and have low self-esteem.
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  SPEAKER_00: Three, they are unable to project an air of indifference to verbal abuse.
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  SPEAKER_00: Four, they are anxious and fearful.
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  SPEAKER_00: Five they exhibit an extreme emotional response to abuse.
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  SPEAKER_00: Six they lack the skills needed to turn a situation around with humor or other verbal strategies.
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  SPEAKER_00: Seven, they have few friends.
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  SPEAKER_00: Eight they are ineffective at rebuffing a bully in the first encounter, encouraging repeated attacks.
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  SPEAKER_00: So here are some things parents can do.
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  SPEAKER_00: First, create a safe and non-judgmental environment for your child to talk about their bullying.
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  SPEAKER_00: Encourage them to share what's happening and how it makes them feel.
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  SPEAKER_00: Offer support.
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  SPEAKER_00: Show empathy and reassure your child.
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  SPEAKER_00: Let them know you are there for them.
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  SPEAKER_00: Number three, remind your child to pray and ask God to help them.
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  SPEAKER_00: Remind them that bullies are the ones who usually have low self-esteem and they use bullying to make themselves feel more important.
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  SPEAKER_00: Four, encourage your child to keep a record of bullying incidents, including dates, times, locations, and descriptions of what happened.
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  SPEAKER_00: This can be very helpful if the situation escalates and you need to report it to someone.
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  SPEAKER_00: Five, reach out to your child's school if the bullying continues.
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  SPEAKER_00: Provide them with the documented incidents and request that they take action.
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  SPEAKER_00: 6.
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  SPEAKER_00: Teach your child assertiveness.
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  SPEAKER_00: Help your child develop those assertive skills to stand up for themselves calmly and confidently.
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  SPEAKER_00: Role-playing can be a useful tool for practicing these skills.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you don't feel comfortable doing this, perhaps a school counselor could help.
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  SPEAKER_00: 7.
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  SPEAKER_00: Foster your child's self-confidence and self-worth by engaging them in activities they excel in and by emphasizing their positive qualities.
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  SPEAKER_00: 8.
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  SPEAKER_00: Encourage friendships.
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  SPEAKER_00: Support your child in forming healthy friendships outside of school.
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  SPEAKER_00: 9.
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  SPEAKER_00: If your child is experiencing severe emotional distress or the bullying persists, consider involving a therapist or a counselor to help them cope.
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  SPEAKER_00: 1.
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  SPEAKER_00: Monitor online activity.
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  SPEAKER_00: Be aware of your child's online presence and encourage responsible Internet use.
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  SPEAKER_00: 11.
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  SPEAKER_00: Involve authorities if necessary.
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  SPEAKER_00: In extreme cases or when physical harm is involved, consider involving law enforcement.
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  SPEAKER_00: Even if your child is not being bullied, it's likely he or she knows someone who is.
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  SPEAKER_00: We should teach our children to be defenders and not to be afraid to protect other people.
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  SPEAKER_00: Research has shown that more than half of the time, when children intervene and play the role of defender, bullying stops within 10 seconds.
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  SPEAKER_00: Some basic rules to teach your child about bullying.
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  SPEAKER_00: One, I will not bully others.
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  SPEAKER_00: Two, I will try to help other children who are being bullied.
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  SPEAKER_00: I will pray both for those who are being bullied and those who are bullying others.
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  SPEAKER_00: Be sure to check out the resources at the end of this podcast.