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90 Day Fiancé 1215 “It's Better to Bend Than Break” Part 2 · Vanity Farah with Chris Farah

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Speaker 1: Welcome back to part two of my recap of Ninety
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Speaker 1: Day Fiance Season twelve, Episode fifteen. It's better to bend
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Speaker 1: than break, Honey. This is Vanity Faarra and my name
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Speaker 1: is Chris Fara. You know what you're doing. You're listening
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Speaker 1: to me breakdown. Episodes also talk about any sort of
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Speaker 1: like stream of conscious hopefully pop culture things that are
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Speaker 1: happening now or aught nineties, that situation. However, at the
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Speaker 1: same time, much thanks for listening. I appreciate you, guys.
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Speaker 1: Let's get in Mito and Debbie. Look what I'm starting with.
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Speaker 1: Are you so excited? Me too? So, honey. He's sitting
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Speaker 1: at her vanity. You know, I've seen this vanity and
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Speaker 1: talked about it a billion times, and he's off. I'm sorry,
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Speaker 1: he's awfully familiar with the vanity. He's sprayed himself down
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Speaker 1: with a do or perfume right now, And I mean,
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Speaker 1: I found this interesting and I'll just bring it up
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Speaker 1: because I took so many pictures. He is tweezing who's
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Speaker 1: beard with what looks like Tweezerman tweezers just going in
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Speaker 1: micro garnishing, no pruning, primping. Uh yeah, that must that
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Speaker 1: must hurt, thick ass beard hair, just have to pull
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Speaker 1: it out. I don't mind feel like, but I've got
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Speaker 1: mind laserds. They don't hurt this much. Okay, So, honey,
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Speaker 1: he is in his full nighttime routine. It's a full
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Speaker 1: ten step. It's like eight o'clock. I see on his watch, Okay,
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Speaker 1: he does his pluck in and then we see like
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Speaker 1: on her vanity that she has a bottle of that
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Speaker 1: that pixie glow stuff that we were you know, remember
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Speaker 1: that he gets a pad, he sprays it with a
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Speaker 1: pixie glow. Honey. He just fitishhs himself down. Honey. He
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Speaker 1: just has to make sure it's all looking right, it's
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Speaker 1: all looking good, and then maybe there it is final step.
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Speaker 1: Everyone's doing it. Why not Meto get those eye patches on.
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Speaker 1: Make sure that he is very top underneath those eyes. Honey,
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Speaker 1: that is a star. You gotta keep that skin moisturized,
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Speaker 1: baby skin. He's ageless, honey. He could play a seventeen
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Speaker 1: year old easily. He's he's cast him pilot season. That
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Speaker 1: doesn't exist anymore anyway. So he is just like living
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Speaker 1: his best life at the vanity, honey, which we're like
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Speaker 1: clocking and we're like, yeah, I get it. And then
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Speaker 1: she comes in. She's packing all of the Louise honey,
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Speaker 1: she bought them all. She like, you know, wet and
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Speaker 1: got all the luggages. She has her purse, she has
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Speaker 1: the Duffle bag, she has what looks like an organizer
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Speaker 1: a makeup bag, like you know, kind of satchel, And
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Speaker 1: I'm so happy for her that Lisa. She's like, I
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Speaker 1: want to be fancy. I've lived on God's green earth
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Speaker 1: long enough that if i want to be fancy, I've
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Speaker 1: decided I want to be fancy. I'm going to be fancy,
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Speaker 1: and I love le Baton and I'm going to buy
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Speaker 1: all my things with the monogram. So you know, uh,
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Speaker 1: you know, great, Listen, if you are going to buy
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Speaker 1: luggage that you don't check and you want to do
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Speaker 1: that for yourself or anything else designer that you enjoy, fine.
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Speaker 1: She talks a lot of people into unnecessary coverage options
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Speaker 1: for their insurance so she could hit the quotas if
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Speaker 1: not succeed, if not exceed them, and get the bonuses
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Speaker 1: for those elvis. So she works for them. That's what
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Speaker 1: I'm saying by sort of fucking over other people, surely
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Speaker 1: I'm not saying that they don't need the insurance, but
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Speaker 1: you can really like fear, you know, use fear to
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Speaker 1: like upsell someone for like stuff like that. You know. Okay, so,
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Speaker 1: but at the same time, maybe you need to be
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Speaker 1: covered all the time, like I would. I would be
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Speaker 1: like if I had the money, like cover me for everything. Honey.
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Speaker 1: I mean, I'm in California right now, fire, earthquake, all
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Speaker 1: of it. What do I I have no precious person. Okay.
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Speaker 1: He asks how hanging with her friends was, and she's like, oh, really, well,
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Speaker 1: let's be honest, horrible because they hate you, my friends
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Speaker 1: they hate you. How is that bad? They hate you?
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Speaker 1: You know what, I've been great if you had wanted
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Speaker 1: to talk to them. He's like, no, it's okay. I'll
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Speaker 1: never talk to them. So that's fine. They're no longer
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Speaker 1: your friends. I will never see them again. You do
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Speaker 1: whatever you want, not be friends with them. I'm your husband.
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Speaker 1: Like that's low key what he's saying. But we're getting
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Speaker 1: a whole different Meato like Mito, like I took some
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Speaker 1: sort of chill pill in the craziest way between like
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Speaker 1: the last two episodes in like the whole other early
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Speaker 1: part of the season because he now seemingly obviously wants
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Speaker 1: to get married. I don't know if it was just
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Speaker 1: like he'd tried to do like a manipulation technique where
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Speaker 1: he's always wanted to get married to her because he,
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Speaker 1: of course wants to live in America, you know, to
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Speaker 1: be a star, and he thought that he had to
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Speaker 1: be sort of, you know, avoidant about his commitment with
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Speaker 1: not saying I love you and sort of being like,
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Speaker 1: I'm going to leave at any time. Like maybe that
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Speaker 1: was his tactic to get her to like always be
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Speaker 1: on her toes, wishing, hoping, praying that he is kind
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Speaker 1: in the next moment to her you know what I'm saying,
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Speaker 1: Like it's and now he is so much so that
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Speaker 1: now they're talking about sex and he's like, can't wait
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Speaker 1: for it. She's like, I know, I know that you're
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Speaker 1: so excited for the marriage now because finally havings. He's like, yes,
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Speaker 1: we're like what like the face that she makes when
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Speaker 1: they talk about sex. He's like, oh, are you ready?
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Speaker 1: She's like, yes, are you ready? I forgot that there
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Speaker 1: was a possibility because I didn't think they were going
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Speaker 1: to make it down the aisle and then the once
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Speaker 1: realized on the streets that yes they do, until this
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Speaker 1: moment that we were going to have the after sex
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Speaker 1: morning recap producer conversation like that means Debbie's going to
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Speaker 1: be like the morning after with that hair that she's
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Speaker 1: constantly touching her hair, honey, constantly adjusting. You just gonna
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Speaker 1: be like, you know, like some of messed up. She
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Speaker 1: just like come out of the Saint Vincent Hotel on
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Speaker 1: Magazine Street being like he feckted me real good, or
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Speaker 1: he couldn't get it up or some it was an
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Speaker 1: interesting thing night. You know, I don't know what her
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Speaker 1: demeanor demeanor is gonna be, but I cannot fucking wait. Okay,
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Speaker 1: let's get back to it. So at this point, though,
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Speaker 1: she's really upset because Kayden, you know, God Bless said
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Speaker 1: that he is going to have to work, and she
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Speaker 1: says to Mito that she will not get married without Caden,
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Speaker 1: and Mito's like, yes you will, bitch, shut up, and
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Speaker 1: we're like, yeah, yeah she will. But you know, God Bless,
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Speaker 1: he looks in the mirror and he's like, I do
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Speaker 1: or I do not. That is the problem. Just kidding,
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Speaker 1: get it, Get it, Shakespeare, I know Shakespeare so well
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Speaker 1: I do. You're just like, oh my god, oh my god,
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Speaker 1: he loves looking at himself in the mirror, acting to himself. Okay,
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Speaker 1: I'm just gonna be like a hundo person, honest. You know,
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Speaker 1: I will be over with in my life. And you
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Speaker 1: know that I'm annoyed with myself that I want to
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Speaker 1: be in actor or I'm an actor like I felt.
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Speaker 1: I'm just saying, like, it's annoying to me to be
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Speaker 1: a theater kid. It's annoying to me to be you know,
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Speaker 1: like in the pursuit of acting at any given time.
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Speaker 1: Why Because I think it's like a self indulgent very
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Speaker 1: like you know, like kind of look at me act. Okay,
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Speaker 1: I know that. And I didn't even know I want
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Speaker 1: to be an actor because I thought for an actor
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Speaker 1: for so long was just someone who wanted to be
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Speaker 1: in a red carpet until I realized that like an
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Speaker 1: actor was someone who played like adelaide and guys and
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Speaker 1: dolls at someone who could just you know, get paid
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Speaker 1: to go through a rehearsal process for like eight weeks
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Speaker 1: in play with a bunch of fun people and like
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Speaker 1: learn choreography and get to make fun voices and just
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Speaker 1: like you know, all of that, Like that's crazy to me,
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Speaker 1: and that's what I wanted to do any way, So
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Speaker 1: why I'm still in pursuit of that and you know,
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Speaker 1: God bless why my graundmix now probably even though at
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Speaker 1: this moment happened to me at fifteen moving on, I
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Speaker 1: wish I wasn't this way because I think it's like
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Speaker 1: so cringey. And at the same time, look, Mito wants
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Speaker 1: to be an actor, how cringey, and I want to
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Speaker 1: be open and honest, honest with all the cringey should
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Speaker 1: I do. But I'm going to tell you this right now.
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Speaker 1: I don't look into the mirror into my own eyes
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Speaker 1: and act with myself. Now. What I do do is
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Speaker 1: I make up monologues or scenes where I just eat
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Speaker 1: joom in my head or out loud. But I'm not
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Speaker 1: looking at myself. I'm just moving around and or I sing.
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Speaker 1: Sometimes I sing in the mirror, but it's not so
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Speaker 1: much like emoting and looking at myself. It's more so
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Speaker 1: that if you're going to sing, usually bathrooms have good acoustics,
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Speaker 1: and bathrooms have lots of mirrors. But also, like you know,
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Speaker 1: Harbord floor is not well. Maybe Harbor, but like tile,
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Speaker 1: you know, marble, and so obviously it's good to sing,
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Speaker 1: and so sometimes I just say I look at myself
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Speaker 1: because I'm like, well, there I am. I can't imagine
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Speaker 1: just like looking in my my own eyes and trying
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Speaker 1: to act. I think it's so weird you can't look
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Speaker 1: into both your eyes though, you just pick one anyway.
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Speaker 1: So basically, at some point her son is now in.
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Speaker 1: So it is the most anti climactic whatever thing that
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Speaker 1: didn't have to happen, and we get a lot of
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Speaker 1: weird moments that happened. Two highly questionable, mysterious moments happen. Okay,
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Speaker 1: In the car with Devon, when it's revealed that Kayden
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Speaker 1: is going to in fact make it to the wedding,
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Speaker 1: Debbie says, I'm so happy he's going to be here,
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Speaker 1: because it's not often that we're all together, and then
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Speaker 1: Devon's like, I know, and then it's pitch silent for
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Speaker 1: what feels like a beat, if not longer, of people
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Speaker 1: just being like no, cut to confessional to tell us
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Speaker 1: why Cayden from my knowledge, because I just got back
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Speaker 1: from New Orleans, this is what I think it is. Okay,
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Speaker 1: this is what I did I flew into central Louisiana.
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Speaker 1: But I told you the scuplass rented a car right
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Speaker 1: drove from Alexandria Lake Charles Kinder area through Baton Rouge
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Speaker 1: where LSU is to New Orleans. That is a four
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Speaker 1: hour trip. Baton Rouge is like somewhere in the middle.
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Speaker 1: So Cayden works and lives somewhere between two to four
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Speaker 1: hours away. Now there can be traffic coming in and
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Speaker 1: how annoying that can be. But you know what I'm saying,
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Speaker 1: fill us in on why you don't meet up a lot,
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Speaker 1: because then she says this, Debbie says, I just can't
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Speaker 1: believe my son, you know, is just meeting him now,
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Speaker 1: and I want to be like, yeah, either we Oh,
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Speaker 1: if only someone can fill us in on why that's
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Speaker 1: here right now? It's you? Why? Okay? This is what
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Speaker 1: I was like, Caen, I'm assuming just didn't want to
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Speaker 1: be on camera, and I wish that she could have
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Speaker 1: been like, you know, my son, Kayden just works a
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Speaker 1: lot and he doesn't really want to be on camera
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Speaker 1: and have you know, everyone go up there. So that's
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Speaker 1: why it's not happening. But if Kanen was in Baton Rouge,
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Speaker 1: because he's working, you know, at the college or whatever.
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Speaker 1: Remember how they were like he has some bullshit college
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Speaker 1: job that like isn't that important. That's why it's like
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Speaker 1: weird that he seemingly is like, ah, I have to
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Speaker 1: work or calling me in when it's like, well you
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Speaker 1: can be like my mom's getting married or whatever or
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Speaker 1: fuck this work. Okay, So that's one thing, but also,
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Speaker 1: b so is it a college job and the college,
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Speaker 1: you know is lsu is Is that what it is
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Speaker 1: or something else? Why wouldn't production go to where he
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Speaker 1: was to have them meet like in a park or
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Speaker 1: something like that and give a another opportunity to have
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Speaker 1: like something happen. And also to set that up. Why
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Speaker 1: are we like going back and forth of us seeing
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Speaker 1: him or not now because it's not like it's not interesting,
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Speaker 1: it's not that important. And yeah, of course he's going
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Speaker 1: to be there. He comes in like in a weird suit.
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Speaker 1: Before though we realize yes, they're staying at the Saint
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Speaker 1: Vincent on Magazine Street. It's a lovely, very boutique kind
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Speaker 1: of eclectic hotel. Looks gorgeous and very happy for them.
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Speaker 1: They have the three bedroom sweet honey for that wedding
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Speaker 1: and what looks like a very comfy bed, and he
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Speaker 1: is so excited about that bed. He One thing about
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Speaker 1: Mito is he loves to lay around and be comfortable,
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Speaker 1: and he doesn't want to talk to anyone. And so
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Speaker 1: guess what, he's on a reality show. I'm about to
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Speaker 1: get married and stuck with a you know, batty old
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Speaker 1: lady in his and her well, her daughter and now
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Speaker 1: her son that he has to appease, and that's not
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Speaker 1: what he wants to do. But the end goal, honey
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Speaker 1: is Hollywood, Hollywood. So now she's nervous to have sex
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Speaker 1: with him, even though the bed looks comfy. It's two
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Speaker 1: hours before the wedding and she's gotten some room service. Honey,
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Speaker 1: Oh my god, what a good choice. One thing about
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Speaker 1: Debbie is she knows how to live. She gets a
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Speaker 1: bunch of fruit, a club sandwich, some fries. Honey. I
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Speaker 1: love a club sandwich. I get the second I get
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Speaker 1: that middle bread usually like taken out if possible, and
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Speaker 1: I don't. It's because, yeah, it's too much bread, and
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Speaker 1: also it's hard to eat. It's hard to put my
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Speaker 1: mouth around it. I'm not a small mouth. Sometimes hard
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Speaker 1: to eat like big at sandwiches, Like, how do you
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Speaker 1: go to Deli's? You ever go to Deli's and have
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Speaker 1: to like take out half of the meat they put
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Speaker 1: in it if there's no sometimes there's no middle piece
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Speaker 1: of bread, you just have to take up meat because
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Speaker 1: it's like I cannot open my mouth that big I
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Speaker 1: gonna give me lockjaw. So, yeah, her son comes in.
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Speaker 1: He is dressed now. He feels very like Michael J.
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Speaker 1: Fox and family ties, like you know, like he's like
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Speaker 1: proper very like you know, buy the book you're He
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Speaker 1: keeps saying absolutely, absolutely. Yeah, He's like, nice to meet you.
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Speaker 1: Mito's like, nice to meet you. It's a pleasure. He's like, yeah, absolutely,
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Speaker 1: is this some like weird script from the manisphere? They
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Speaker 1: absolutely just threw me off. So uh, you know, it
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Speaker 1: is like why why why didn't you meet him? And
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Speaker 1: he's like, you know, I do have some grievance since
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Speaker 1: I do have some questions, And so the girls leave
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Speaker 1: and he asks Mito what he wants to do for
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Speaker 1: a job and meet It's like, oh acting, He's like yeah, no,
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Speaker 1: It's like that's a once in a million, one in
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Speaker 1: a million shot. But it's a lot of situation. What
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Speaker 1: are you going to do to pay the bills? And
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Speaker 1: Mito is like, fuck, this guy, hate this line of questioning.
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Speaker 1: How dare he asks me, I only want to do
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Speaker 1: what I love acting. However, I do have a plan
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Speaker 1: b if acting doesn't work out for the money, just
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Speaker 1: because I know I have to make money and I
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Speaker 1: need I need something practical. You say, something practice that
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Speaker 1: isn't just you know, like a hope and a dream,
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Speaker 1: but something I can do surely to make money, but
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Speaker 1: based on my skills. Okay, I got something for you, Yes, Kayden,
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Speaker 1: make music video. I can be a musical video star
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Speaker 1: slash singer on YouTube. I just really want to like
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Speaker 1: entertain create. He's what he says. This is why I'm like,
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Speaker 1: so this is okay? Well who First of all, who
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Speaker 1: are you? Who do you think you are? Mito? Do
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Speaker 1: you think you're like some like four year old child
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Speaker 1: auditioning for Disney shows that's either gonna be a Disney
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Speaker 1: child actor or I don't know, a singer. What are
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Speaker 1: you plucking Sabrina Carpenter and or Ariana Grande and or
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Speaker 1: Selena Gomez and or Zendia. I can't. I just yeah,
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Speaker 1: like it makes me mad to be an actor because
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Speaker 1: this person sounds absolutely delusional. So then I'm like, oh,
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Speaker 1: oh no, that guy is like okay, because I just
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Speaker 1: don't want my mom to be married to a slouch
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Speaker 1: on the couch. That kind of reminds me of Geek
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Speaker 1: in the Pink, remember that anyway? And I was like, no, no, no,
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Speaker 1: I would hate that. No, yes, Now you are my
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Speaker 1: brother best friend. I know no one here, no other
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Speaker 1: men are here. Please help me, please help me, please
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Speaker 1: be my friend. How come you just got here? Kateen,
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Speaker 1: where are you? There's no other I have to deal
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Speaker 1: with her seletti friend with the weird hair. I hate
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Speaker 1: that girl. And this your sister barely talks, she stits
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Speaker 1: on the couch. Help me. You know You're just like,
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Speaker 1: oh my god, okay. So that just tickled me from
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Speaker 1: ear to ear. I loved every second of that whole sequence.
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Speaker 1: I really did. I'm just like, so, what's going to happen?
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Speaker 1: I forgot about the sex for some reason. That's like
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Speaker 1: the like, that's the part of me that I'm like,
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Speaker 1: oh my god, I forgot about the sex. Got about
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Speaker 1: the sex. We get a deal with the sex. The
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Speaker 1: sex is still going to happen. Sex is still happening.
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Speaker 1: I forgot about it because so many things happened. Also
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Speaker 1: because it's just so crazy that he's even still there.
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Speaker 1: But like I'm like, oh my god. That means if A,
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Speaker 1: then B then you know, Okay, Shay and Annabel they
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Speaker 1: are packing honey because they're going to go to the
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Speaker 1: Smoky Mountains for their weddings. Smoky Mountains, just like where
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Speaker 1: Dolly's from. Smoky Mountains, Smoky Mountain chocolate factory, very Yimmy Chocolates,
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Speaker 1: Smoky Mountains. I don't know a lot about the Smoky
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Speaker 1: Mountains except for honestly, the two things I just said.
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Speaker 1: And if I've ever talked about it, if I'm ever
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Speaker 1: going to talk about it again, I will not be like, oh,
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Speaker 1: the place that Shane Annabel went and got married will
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Speaker 1: be my third thing. So anyway, he's like, you know,
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Speaker 1: for a Catholic girl, you you sure fuck? I think
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Speaker 1: that's true. I mean, you know, listen, historically, I guess
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Speaker 1: Catholics make a lot of babies, So that's true. Okay.
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Speaker 1: They go over a very important delineation between hillbilly and redneck,
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Speaker 1: and he describes hillbilly's as being like kind of like
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Speaker 1: solo weed farmers in the mountains, they don't really want
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Speaker 1: to talk to people and how and rednecks though are hunters,
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Speaker 1: you know, they like to like do cattle stuff and
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Speaker 1: they love beer. So the big difference is one beer,
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Speaker 1: one weed. I was like, that's the difference. I never
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Speaker 1: knew that. But they drive up the Smoky mountains and
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Speaker 1: it's really beautiful, and I'm like, oh, I want to
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Speaker 1: know about more about these mountains I've been thinking about.
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Speaker 1: I love mountains, you know, you know me, even when
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Speaker 1: I went to New York I found the fucking waterfall.
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Speaker 1: I sometimes look at pictures of Glacial Lake and Olympia Lake, sorry,
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Speaker 1: Olympia National Force and Glacial National Forest to ease my mind.
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Speaker 1: And also sometimes pictures of the Alps. Just like pure
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Speaker 1: unadultered nature, just like screaming in your face when you
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Speaker 1: can do nothing, but just like be completely engulfed by
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Speaker 1: a beautiful natural landscape is overwhelming to me. So like, yes,
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Speaker 1: that kind of thing. Also I've talked about like going
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Speaker 1: to my Noah Falls and oh and like Hawaii Anawahu,
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Speaker 1: same sort of feeling. So he's wearing a camel jacket.
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Speaker 1: He loves it. She's wearing one of those like poof
20:47
Speaker 1: beanie hats. I'm happy about that. She looks cute. Now
20:50
Speaker 1: she's nervous to meet Madison, who's Nicole's daughter. Now, obviously
20:54
Speaker 1: we didn't get like the fun to Coal Annabel breakdown
20:57
Speaker 1: because Annabel hates Nicole. But we did get like Shay
21:01
Speaker 1: making Nicole sell her stuff. Okay, but Annabel thinks that
21:07
Speaker 1: Nichole has told her daughter a bunch of bad things,
21:10
Speaker 1: and therefore Madison will treat her Annabel poorly because she
21:17
Speaker 1: has prejudice against her. Now here's the unspoken thing. Nichole's
21:25
Speaker 1: had some issues. Nicole doesn't have like a pristine past,
21:30
Speaker 1: which I mean Madison has dealt with her mom long
21:34
Speaker 1: enough to know that her mom's opinion about all the
21:39
Speaker 1: things in her mom's life is skewed. That's the problem.
21:45
Speaker 1: Sometimes women who oh God, people men sometimes because it
21:52
Speaker 1: really is a new woman. But this is just unfortunately
21:53
Speaker 1: a woman I'm talking about, but it really could be men. Sometimes,
21:56
Speaker 1: people who have a negative viewpoint and they feel like
22:02
Speaker 1: fucked up things happen to them enough that they get resentful,
22:07
Speaker 1: angry or petty about things cannot be trusted when telling
22:11
Speaker 1: you about their life, because upon listening to them, certain
22:16
Speaker 1: things don't add up, and questions start to arise, and
22:19
Speaker 1: you realize that they're giving you their version of what
22:22
Speaker 1: is their perception of what happened, and it's not real,
22:28
Speaker 1: it's not truthful. And other people be like, no, I
22:31
Speaker 1: was there that person crazy? You know what I'm saying,
22:33
Speaker 1: Like you can tell when that's happening, And I feel
22:36
Speaker 1: like Nicole might be one of those people. So Madison,
22:38
Speaker 1: knowing that about her own mom, is like, Yeah, I'm
22:41
Speaker 1: my own person. So I moved through this world making
22:43
Speaker 1: my own decisions, and what my mom's tells me goes
22:45
Speaker 1: in one air and out the other. And I love
22:47
Speaker 1: my dad. All of Shay's daughters look alike, Madison, Nicole,
22:52
Speaker 1: They're gonna mean, We're gonna be number one, Abbey. They
22:54
Speaker 1: all look alike. They're really beautiful ladies. I think they're
22:58
Speaker 1: really pretty. But I say that because, like you know,
23:01
Speaker 1: Abby and Alison are full blood sisters and Madison is
23:08
Speaker 1: a half sister. And so obviously we've met Nicole. We
23:11
Speaker 1: haven't met Shaye's first baby mama. But they all look alike,
23:15
Speaker 1: so I don't they just favor Shay Shase that's Shay's face.
23:18
Speaker 1: Who knows, But you know, they go to this beautiful airbnb.
23:23
Speaker 1: It's really lovely decorated, and I'm like, oh, you know,
23:25
Speaker 1: maybe I should go to this airbnb hunting and see
23:28
Speaker 1: what my smoking mountain life is. Alison shows up first
23:33
Speaker 1: with her boyfriend Jonathan, and then some niece who's like
23:35
Speaker 1: the Patty just got here. We're like, oh my god.
23:37
Speaker 1: It runs in the family, just like a bunch of
23:39
Speaker 1: fucking carty nonstoppers, honey, just alcoholics in this family just
23:43
Speaker 1: like runs deep. You know, like, what is this niece?
23:46
Speaker 1: What is she twenty two? Why is she coming in
23:49
Speaker 1: like that for a wedding? That's so funny? Okay, So
23:55
Speaker 1: then it gets real awkward. Then everyone sits down and
23:59
Speaker 1: Abby's like, yeah, nice to meet you, quicker cool. So
24:03
Speaker 1: here I just had to ask you, dad, like, what's
24:06
Speaker 1: gonna happen with your will? Like when you die? We
24:08
Speaker 1: hate the thought of you dying. We don't want it
24:11
Speaker 1: to happen. We've not been like what's gonna happen or
24:13
Speaker 1: counting it before it happened. But now that she's here,
24:16
Speaker 1: she just said, you have kids that have been here
24:17
Speaker 1: the whole time, and like you've just been Annabelle. And
24:19
Speaker 1: also like your kids who have been here the whole time,
24:21
Speaker 1: who you made, who didn't have a choice to come here,
24:23
Speaker 1: who you made. Therefore you like have to like take
24:26
Speaker 1: care of they decided to also, like you know, have kids,
24:29
Speaker 1: so do you have to take care of their kids
24:30
Speaker 1: as kids because their kids, it's kids didn't decide to
24:33
Speaker 1: be here either, Dad, right Allison. And Allison's like, yeah,
24:38
Speaker 1: thanks sis, thanks for coming in. I forgot to bring
24:41
Speaker 1: that up. I was so busy with the other drama.
24:43
Speaker 1: You're just like, oh my god. Annabel's like She's like, well,
24:49
Speaker 1: I think that's really a business between me and Annabelle.
24:54
Speaker 1: That's so messy because what I want to say is truthfully,
25:00
Speaker 1: and I mean this truthfully, and I'm not so far
25:05
Speaker 1: away from this situation that I could be like, wouldn't
25:08
Speaker 1: Madison have had this conversation with her dad over the phone,
25:11
Speaker 1: like the minute that she's like realizing the Annabel's going
25:14
Speaker 1: to come and get married, Like why would you just
25:15
Speaker 1: book a ticket and decide just to finally have this
25:17
Speaker 1: conversation right now? It's a great conversation to have on camera, surely,
25:22
Speaker 1: but it can't be the first time. That's how I feel.
25:28
Speaker 1: But you have to talk about the will or talk
25:29
Speaker 1: about you know, like who gets the money, you know,
25:31
Speaker 1: like they just basically want like they want Shay to
25:33
Speaker 1: be like well, upon my death, Annabelle will then move
25:35
Speaker 1: back to the Philippines where she came from, with like
25:41
Speaker 1: a cool five hundred dollars and those dumb platform shoes
25:44
Speaker 1: that I bought her that Alison decided to put her
25:47
Speaker 1: foot in. Okay, one deer head, she gets one deer
25:53
Speaker 1: head upon my death, you all get a deer head.
25:57
Speaker 1: I know. It's the most important thing. That's what the
25:59
Speaker 1: will is heads. Okay, So Mallory and Rashid. So guess
26:04
Speaker 1: what Mallory's like. I feel bad for him, you know,
26:07
Speaker 1: so I'm gonna let him have his favorite thing in
26:08
Speaker 1: the world, the boats. Let's get on this boat, honey.
26:12
Speaker 1: He sees that boat, He's like, oh, it's too small.
26:14
Speaker 1: It's like, I can't. I'm sorry, I'm not fucking Besos
26:18
Speaker 1: with a liner and con Okay, she says it's not
26:24
Speaker 1: been great between them, but she knows, she knows that
26:27
Speaker 1: he again loves the boats, and he gets in front
26:29
Speaker 1: of that boat, honey, and the guy's like, let me
26:31
Speaker 1: give you the old information and you know where. She's like,
26:36
Speaker 1: shut up, bitch, I know it all. I can tell
26:38
Speaker 1: you what's up. And he gets a little captain's hat
26:41
Speaker 1: so he feels like a strong man. He's like dropping
26:46
Speaker 1: this boat. Never says thank you to her, which I
26:49
Speaker 1: thought was interesting. He's like, I can't even enjoy it,
26:53
Speaker 1: and we're like why because of the baby conversation. He's like,
26:55
Speaker 1: I just missed turkey, I missed boats. Were like, you're
26:58
Speaker 1: on a fucking boat right now, asshole. Look around. Only
27:03
Speaker 1: because not a lot of Americans do things for the
27:06
Speaker 1: other person like this, So enjoy it. Then they have
27:13
Speaker 1: the baby talk again, which is he wants to have
27:16
Speaker 1: kids and she doesn't want to, or doesn't know she
27:18
Speaker 1: wants to, or wants more time with it, and she
27:21
Speaker 1: here's the thing. Very early on, and there's a lot
27:23
Speaker 1: of clips of him being like, I love you so much.
27:24
Speaker 1: There's nothing I could do to leave you. I don't
27:26
Speaker 1: know what would happen if you die. You what everything I
27:28
Speaker 1: was meant to be here? And then now he's like, oh,
27:30
Speaker 1: you won't have baby for me? Yeah, and she can't
27:33
Speaker 1: believe that he would cast her aside so fast, so
27:36
Speaker 1: like flippantly, because she is used to him like love
27:38
Speaker 1: bombing her. So she's so weird out buy it. And
27:40
Speaker 1: he's like, you know what, I will break up right
27:43
Speaker 1: now and I will go back to Turkey. And she's like, well,
27:47
Speaker 1: you're my everything and I don't want to leave you,
27:50
Speaker 1: so I just want two years. Okay, fine, I'll have
27:54
Speaker 1: your kid. I just want two years, give me two
27:55
Speaker 1: years to travel. And not only that, you don't have
27:59
Speaker 1: to sign the prenups, like, no sign. She's like, no,
28:01
Speaker 1: you don't have to sign. No, I won't make you sign,
28:05
Speaker 1: which is not anything. He was even saying. All you
28:09
Speaker 1: had to do was be like I'll give you a baby,
28:11
Speaker 1: which you basically did. Is all you said is give
28:13
Speaker 1: her give yourself two years. Easy. Oh god, I used
28:18
Speaker 1: to say this, but like, if you're the woman, aren't
28:21
Speaker 1: you kind of like in charge of one? That would
28:22
Speaker 1: happen anyway. I don't know what her you know, sexual
28:29
Speaker 1: history is or what her like you know, feminine fertility
28:34
Speaker 1: information isn't I'm not asking, but she can kind of
28:38
Speaker 1: like pick and choose. At some point when they start
28:41
Speaker 1: to have sex and he's full blast loading in her
28:45
Speaker 1: and you know, like around certain areas of the month.
28:49
Speaker 1: You know, so two years is not that long when
28:54
Speaker 1: you're young like that, she didn't have to be like
28:58
Speaker 1: no to the prenup. And also, the prenip is just
29:02
Speaker 1: a it could be literally anything. It's just a contract.
29:05
Speaker 1: It could just literally be like after you know, like
29:10
Speaker 1: if we get divorced in five years, you get nothing,
29:13
Speaker 1: but after five years you get everything, which is like
29:16
Speaker 1: be a kind of a lovely prenup, you know what
29:18
Speaker 1: I'm saying. If there was just a buffer like that,
29:23
Speaker 1: like for the first five years, if we break up, no,
29:27
Speaker 1: everyone just leaves with what they have, But if we
29:31
Speaker 1: have kids and or if we hold proper together and
29:35
Speaker 1: or after five years you start to get things. I
29:37
Speaker 1: don't know. It's just it could be whatever it wants
29:39
Speaker 1: to be. That's what a prenip is. So I never
29:40
Speaker 1: understand why people are so upset about it. They make
29:45
Speaker 1: it seem like a prenup is always you never have
29:48
Speaker 1: any money. You can walk in with any money, you'll
29:50
Speaker 1: never leave with any money. If we break up. Everything
29:53
Speaker 1: of mine that's mine is mine and will continue to
29:55
Speaker 1: be mine. But that's not necessarily what it says if
29:59
Speaker 1: you want it to say something else else. You know.
30:02
Speaker 1: I think it's personal, like reasonable for her to want
30:05
Speaker 1: to travel, but I don't understand why, Like they are
30:09
Speaker 1: seemingly not communicating on what they actually want. And if
30:12
Speaker 1: she doesn't want to have kids, she shouldn't acquiesce on that,
30:15
Speaker 1: And it's weird that she acquiesces on not only that,
30:17
Speaker 1: but the prenup at the same time seems like a
30:20
Speaker 1: wild blow. It's like, I wonder if that is like
30:24
Speaker 1: a manipulation tactic that he used, like I love you,
30:27
Speaker 1: I love you, I love you. In the minute that
30:28
Speaker 1: he's like, no, I don't love you, I'm gonna leave you,
30:31
Speaker 1: she's like to get the dopamine hit back. She's like,
30:33
Speaker 1: I'll do whatever it takes. Here's everything you've ever wanted
30:36
Speaker 1: and more you're not even asking for. Oh my god.
30:45
Speaker 1: I was just talking to my cousin the other day
30:46
Speaker 1: about how it's funny because you know, love bombing is
30:49
Speaker 1: a thing, right, and like, you know, people can be
30:51
Speaker 1: swayed by, you know. And at the same time, she
30:54
Speaker 1: she's like that better not ever happen to you. And
30:56
Speaker 1: I'm like, I won't. I won't let She's like, I
30:57
Speaker 1: won't let it happen. I'm like, okay, good, But I
30:59
Speaker 1: also like, I wonder why the idea of me being
31:04
Speaker 1: able to love bomb, slash manipulate someone into doing something
31:11
Speaker 1: for my will is not ever a skill that I
31:14
Speaker 1: a have had or will ever have or can do. Like,
31:19
Speaker 1: for instance, if I was ever to love bomb someone,
31:22
Speaker 1: which means very early in relationships, or to be like
31:25
Speaker 1: I love you or whatever, like in a really meaningful way,
31:29
Speaker 1: I think most people that I've dated would be like
31:32
Speaker 1: what I'm getting the fuck out of here? You would
31:35
Speaker 1: literally scare people off, But like there must be some
31:38
Speaker 1: sort of sixth sense for the people that wouldn't be
31:41
Speaker 1: scared off by that. I would be scared off if
31:44
Speaker 1: someone was like immediately in love with me. However, if
31:46
Speaker 1: you know, unfortunately, if they did their time well and
31:48
Speaker 1: really played it out, and then suddenly like six months later,
31:51
Speaker 1: like you know, they did a long game, I could
31:53
Speaker 1: see it happening. Don't do that to me, though. Don't worry.
31:56
Speaker 1: My cousin's looking out for me, all right, My babes,
32:00
Speaker 1: Oh my god, I really hope that you've enjoyed this
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33:17
Speaker 1: just how Marissa was doing at that dinner with Edward,
33:20
Speaker 1: which is trying to ground ourselves so we don't fly
33:23
Speaker 1: the fuck off because we're really angry. Okay, that was
33:32
Speaker 1: a fake breath. That was an angry breath. We're just
33:34
Speaker 1: we're gonna do our real breaths though. Okay, let it
33:36
Speaker 1: out in twice because you get two times to do it.
33:39
Speaker 1: Just trying to clear your mind, bring yourself into this
33:42
Speaker 1: very present moment we are all here together. Don't think
33:44
Speaker 1: about the past, don't plan for the future. Make your
33:49
Speaker 1: breath or the sound in my voice or something you're
33:52
Speaker 1: touching be your anchor into this very real, what's happening
33:59
Speaker 1: right now, present moment. Okay, let's do it all right,
34:31
Speaker 1: my babes, take care of yourselves and one another, stand
34:34
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