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How do narcissists behave in the courtroom · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  What is going on beautiful people?
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  Welcome to another episode of the Narcissist Code.
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  I'm your favorite selfaware narcissist, Mr. Lee Hammock
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  better known as mental illness across all social media
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  platforms. This is the first time I see my
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  face or hear my lovely voice. I'm a clinically diagnosed
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  narcissist and I use my platform on social media to raise
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  awareness for NPD, get more people in the therapy like
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  myself, and also validate the victim.
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  Survivors and thrivers of said disorder said toxic people said
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  toxic traits. Today's episode is going to be
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  about how do narcissists behave in court, how do narcissists act
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  in the courtroom when the charges are pressed or when you
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  family court and things like that.
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  Y'all. So before we hop in today's
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  that I do. But yeah, narcissist in court.
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  But yeah, so this right here, y'all, there's going to be a few
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  different ways that a narcissistic person can can
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  behave in court, in the in the court of law.
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  So there's going to be a difference between how some
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  narcissistic people react because in the court of law, in
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  the actual court for criminal charges versus how they act in
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  like family court where you can. I think family courts are a
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  little bit different when it comes to like perjury and things
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  of that nature. But you know than than actual
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  criminal courts are because narcissists for overall Y'all
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  this might be true for both courtrooms, narcissist like
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  courts or Showtime. It's like the courtroom is that
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  narcissistic person's stage to become whoever they feel like
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  they want to be in this courtroom right now is like your
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  honor action. It's like seriously, they're
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  going to put on an an act, you know what I mean?
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  And that's why I tell people like if you're dealing with a
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  narcissist, like this is how they're going to do right here.
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  They're going to, it's going to be, it's going to be an act.
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  Very rarely are you going to have an honest narcissist or a
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  toxic person come into court and tell the truth about what went
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  on in the relationship. Family court or Criminal Court,
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  civil court, whatever, whatever the name of it is, Y'all like.
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  Very rarely are they going to act any type of way.
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  They're going to try to get the audience, the jurors, the judge,
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  your family and friends, or whoever's in the whoever's
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  sitting around to on their side. That's the goal.
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  The goal is to get people on my side and against you.
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  You see what I'm saying? So I'm going to put on an act,
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  and a lot of times narcissistic people will absolutely come in
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  there and become somebody that they're not.
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  Like the person that you knew in this relationship dynamic,
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  whatever the relationship dynamic, whatever the
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  relationship dynamic was or is, they're going to not be that
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  person in court. I promise you.
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  They're going to be coming there.
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  Be manipulative. Be like if they were yell loud
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  yelling and screaming at you all the time, they're going to be
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  coming in court and act quiet and diminutive like meek, timid.
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  You know what the hell is going on right here.
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  Of course you're going to try to be charming and things like
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  that. Everybody can be different, of
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  course, but like a lot of them are going to be coming and try
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  to be charming people to make to I want the judge and the jury or
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  whoever's watching me. I want them to think that you
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  are out of your mind for pressing charges on me here.
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  Out of your mind for how we got here or or or if they press
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  charges on you. They want to make people.
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  They're going to make people think that you are the that you
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  are absolutely the villain here. Y'all and like Willie, how do
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  they how will they press charges on us.
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  I'm telling y'all right here. And this goes for the courtroom
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  too. Your greatest power in the
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  courtroom a lot of times is going to be able going to be
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  controlling your reactions. Because if you can't control how
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  you react in the courtroom, they're going to take advantage
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  of you. They're going to literally
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  emotionally and mentally and sometimes physically beat you
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  down within the courtroom, not put their hands on you, but
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  you're going to be physically exhausted.
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  Controlling your reactions in the courtroom is it's it's at
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  the top of the list of things that you need to do because
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  they're going to try to get you to react.
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  Y'all because a lot of times the a narcissist, if you react to a
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  narcissistic person's abuse right they'll sometimes the
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  police get caught, they'll press charges on you, they'll file
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  restraining orders on you, they'll take you to court.
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  Y'all they'll try to ruin your life in the court systems.
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  They absolutely will. And a lot of times this is what
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  happens. Like you'll be reacting to
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  something that they did to you and you'll get in trouble for
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  and they will absolutely press charges of you.
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  They'll take you to court. I got a woman in my a woman in
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  my inbox right now that I did a Zoom coaching call with y'all.
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  I told her. I said, I said, look, your
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  partner, your husband, whatever, he's going to try to get a
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  reaction out of you like he has nothing right now, like you have
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  everything to lose. So his goal is probably to get a
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  reaction out of you. She met, this is a couple months
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  ago. She messaged me right and said,
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  Yep, I reacted to him. He pressed charges.
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  Now I'm updating now that the judge is threatening to take
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  custody kids away. And that's what I tell you y'all
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  controlling your reactions is absolutely a superpower and it
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  is a necessity in these relationship spaces.
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  You have to be able to control your reaction.
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  You have y'all you have to. You have to because like I said,
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  the courtroom is theater. The courtroom is the, the is the
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  acting stage. It's like the cameras are all on
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  a narcissistic person. They're going to put on an act.
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  They're going to put on. They'll become whoever they they
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  feel like they're going to. They're going to morph into
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  whoever they feel like they need to be in this courtroom to win
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  this case, to beat to to beat you, to beat you with each.
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  Whatever charges these are, if they if they press charges on
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  you, they want to win that way. Or if they get charges pressed
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  on them, they want the charges to get dropped.
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  Like I said, they they might bring.
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  If they if the narcissistic person has a new supply, they
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  might bring the new supply in there and sit there front row.
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  Sit by bringing the new supply in there and sit there front row
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  to intimidate you, to make you react.
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  That's what I'm telling y'all prepare for this stuff right
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  here. Y'all prepare.
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  It might not happen, but it you'd rather have it and not
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  need it than to need it and not have it prepare for it.
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  You might. You you want to be prepared just
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  in case they bring their new girlfriend or new wife that they
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  met or moved into your house two weeks after the relationship
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  ended. They might bring their new
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  husband who they who who they got around your kids or they're
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  not a husband. They might bring their new boy
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  for who they met at the bar a couple weeks ago.
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  They they have around your kids already and trying to get them
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  to call the kids dad or trying to get your kids to call them
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  dad after only knowing them for a couple of weeks or something
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  like that. Yeah, they're going to try to
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  agitate you. They want those reactions.
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  Because if you can't control your reactions, it looks bad in
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  court. Just be realistic, girl.
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  If you can't control your reactions, you look bad in
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  court. I see a TikTok video one time.
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  This is back in cover time. But this woman was doing zoom
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  court with her abusive exhusband and the woman just kept
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  interrupting because the dude was in there lying.
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  She said no, you're not. He's lying.
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  And they was like, look, ma'am, you have to be quiet and let him
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  finish. If he's lying, we're going to
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  get to the bottom of it. But you have to let him finish
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  talking. So you can't.
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  You had your chance. You have to let him finish
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  talking, you know. And she just kept interrupting.
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  And then she lost the case. Y'all they awarded her the
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  custody of the kids to the to the abusive parent because she
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  wouldn't be quiet. The judge like, boom.
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  And she's like, Oh my God, you do my kids away from me.
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  Wow, wow. They're like, ma'am, you've been
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  warned several times and her lawyer was like, y'all I'm
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  telling y'all, you have to control your reaction.
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  They want you to react. They're going to light their
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  asses off, You know what I mean? They'll lie.
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  Yeah, they'll lie in Criminal Court too, even though sometimes
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  they they risk getting the the the charge of perjury or
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  whatever. You know, I think, you know
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  family court, I don't think perjury exists.
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  So you need to document stuff. Y'all need you need to protect
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  your you need to have documentation of what happened.
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  You need to have proof of what's going on.
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  There's what I said write stuff down, document stuff, Record
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  situations if it's allowed. Whatever state you're in, like I
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  said, it's not legal advice, but whatever state you're in, you
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  know, I would suggest that you might record, look at the, look
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  at the laws, of course one party recorded state or two party
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  state. Look at the laws.
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  So you know, if you can record somebody safely and protect
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  yourself, you know what I mean? Because they're going to, like
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  say, in court, they're going to try to lock, especially the kids
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  are involved, custody, the kids are involved.
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  They'll be in the line, their asses off.
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  They just, oh, I'm just saying they can lie.
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  They can feel like they can lie is not what you know, is what
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  you can prove. Type Denzel from training day
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  type stuff. It's not what you know, it's
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  what you can prove. If you can't prove anything,
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  y'all it's going to be your words versus theirs.
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  And I'm telling you if it's your word versus their word, you
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  controlling your reactions, you can go a long way to help you
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  out. You're not yelling and screaming
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  or getting trying to fight their new person.
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  Like if you're trying to fight their new.
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  If you're trying to fight the new supply in court, your pretty
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  much your goose is cooked. You look violent.
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  Now they're going to put on the show.
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  They're going to want to try to get your reaction.
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  They might look, they might be cool, calm and collected.
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  They might not even look at you y'all.
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  They might be stone faced and looking for it the whole time.
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  Or they might be peeing at you the whole time trying to
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  intimidate you. In courtroom they might try to
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  intimidate you. They might look at you the whole
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  time trying to intimidate you, staring up you go.
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  If you sitting in court, you sitting in the court across from
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  them and you feel something hot on your neck, like it's like you
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  know how like a how people you take those magnifying glasses
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  and catch the sun and focus the sunbeam and heat stuff up.
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  That's how they're going to do. That's how you're going to feel
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  in your neck. You can feel like somebody
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  taking the sun and the magnifying glass and it focuses
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  it, focusing it right here on your neck, the side of your
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  face. Why the side of my face so damn
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  hot. You look over there, they
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  staring at you. They're peeking at you the whole
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  time. They want to intimidate you or
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  or or they want to make you feel sorry for them.
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  Y'all. They might come to court and try
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  to play the victim. They want you to feel sorry for
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  them. So you would drop the charges?
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  I, Your Honor, I was. I didn't mean to do that.
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  I just don't have anything enough.
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  I'm going to take my own life. I'm going to end it up because I
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  have nothing left. And then what happens then?
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  Y'all, What happens then? When they keep saying they have
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  nothing left to lose And then the court rules how to make you
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  feel guilty. Do you drop the charges?
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  And then the mask comes back off.
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  They might come to court and play the victim.
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  You know what I mean? To try to get you to drop the
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  charges, you got to try to get the judge or the jury or whoever
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  is in this case to absolve them. They might come in and try to
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  play the victim and try to get people on their side crying and
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  begging and pleading for another chance.
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  You know, they might just confess their love to you in the
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  courtroom to try to get you to give them another chance to drop
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  the charges. Just be prepared.
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  Look, be prepared to pivot. You know what I said?
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  Be prepared to pivot. BPP, be prepared to pivot and
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  change your plan if you need to. Y'all.
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  It's always one part of changing your plan.
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  Always control those reactions. Always.
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  If they're a better line, Y'all If they're a better line and you
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  have proof, let the proof speak for yourself.
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  You don't have to scream and yell it, I promise you don't.
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  You don't have to interrupt them and then you're out.
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  And that's a lot. They know they're lying.
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  Don't do. I'm just telling y'all this type
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  of stuff can help you out. This type of the stuff can save
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  you. So be prepared to pivot.
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  You make it the narcissistic person.
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  They won't control everything. Y'all finances.
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  They will control everything. So protect your peace.
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  Protect yourself in these courtroom situations.
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  Y'all because they want those reactions that a lot of
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  narcissists thrive on. Your reactions in the courtroom
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  if it likes. I know I don't think you can
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  record stuff in the courtroom, but just be prepared.
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