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Ep 26 "What Do Women Want" · We Talk Back

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Speaker 1: We're just too unapologetically black women with an opinion who
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Speaker 1: talked back. Hey guys, damn man and it's a j
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Speaker 1: Welcome to a new episode of We Talked Back. And
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Speaker 1: we really appreciate you guys tuning in every Thursday. I
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Speaker 1: missed y'all, man, I missed yallole. You know. Look, So
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Speaker 1: a couple of weeks ago, we had some nice gentlemen
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Speaker 1: on this show, right, and we were trying to figure
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Speaker 1: out what it is that men really want, right um
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Speaker 1: and it's it's only right that we understand what women want.
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Speaker 1: We really didn't get a lot of clarity out of
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Speaker 1: those two guys, like they did tell us for the
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Speaker 1: most part, right, a little bit, a little bit. I'm
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Speaker 1: still look ship vary from Nigga and Nigga because that's
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Speaker 1: the way to guy like you. They want one thing
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Speaker 1: today and something else tomorrow. So who knows. You just
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Speaker 1: have to be real mutable and flexible for these niggas.
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Speaker 1: But excuse me, these men, these niggles. So today we
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Speaker 1: have two beautiful successful black women on this um uture
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Speaker 1: feel of the Okay. I'm Lexi um. I am an investor.
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Speaker 1: I was born in Columbia, South Carolina, raised here in
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Speaker 1: Charlotte seven okay, okay, and I am Mecca. I am
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Speaker 1: um industry of hospitality. I own my own event company,
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Speaker 1: and I also am a lone officer for a company
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Speaker 1: called Better Um. Been in Charlotte for ten years. This
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Speaker 1: is my city, um, queen city all day. UM. Love
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Speaker 1: to travel, but excited to be here on the show
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Speaker 1: with my girls. And yeah listen, So these are two
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Speaker 1: baddies to y'all exactly. So we're gonna get a lot
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Speaker 1: of good input this show. So I wanted to start
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Speaker 1: off with something I had posted online, just my observation
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Speaker 1: in regards to men and women. So do you guys
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Speaker 1: think this is true or not? Men feel good when
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Speaker 1: they're doing well. Women do well when they feel good. Yeah,
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Speaker 1: I mean I feel good when I'm doing well, bitch.
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Speaker 1: I like when I got money on our pocket, I
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Speaker 1: feel good. I do agree. I think it goes both
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Speaker 1: ways for females too. Yeah, but I also feel I
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Speaker 1: don't know, but well, you don't feel good sometimes that
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Speaker 1: motivates you to do better. So true, So I mean
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Speaker 1: you can go both ways. But what's so I think?
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Speaker 1: More so like when I when I posted that it
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Speaker 1: was in regards really just thinking about relationships and when
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Speaker 1: you win a relationship with somebody, like women, you know
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Speaker 1: they always say happy life, happy, happy wife, the life right.
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Speaker 1: So automatically, when you pour into a woman, she's going
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Speaker 1: to automatically produce for the most part. You know, when
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Speaker 1: you're making her feel good, it's gonna be easy for
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Speaker 1: her to produce, easy for her to make major moves
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Speaker 1: because she's feeling like loved. Men have a to me,
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Speaker 1: men have a hard time of they aren't where they
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Speaker 1: think they're supposed to be. They're not gonna make it
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Speaker 1: easy for you to even love them so that they
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Speaker 1: can do well. So they have to already be doing
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Speaker 1: well themselves, and then you come into the picture. You'll
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Speaker 1: agree with that. Sometimes I excel because I just want
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Speaker 1: to level up, because that goes for the single women
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Speaker 1: who I really don't have. I know a lot of
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Speaker 1: single successful women that are not supported and loved and relationships.
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Speaker 1: They just do it with themselves. For my instance, that's
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Speaker 1: been my case for the past four years, loving on
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Speaker 1: myself because I haven't been in a consistent relationship. So
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Speaker 1: it's at this point in my life like, hey, you
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Speaker 1: want to level up, got do the work, stop up
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Speaker 1: the tears, like you know, let go of whatever you
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Speaker 1: got going on, and you know, keep moving. That's a fact.
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Speaker 1: But ain't nothing. But like when you break up with
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Speaker 1: somebody and you want to get in shape, you want
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Speaker 1: to earn more money, you just want to take pictures
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Speaker 1: and let him follow you and see he saw that ship.
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Speaker 1: You know, like women do well when they feel good.
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Speaker 1: You see what I'm saying, Well, that's what do we
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Speaker 1: need to make us feel good specifically in a relationship?
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Speaker 1: What do you guys mean that at question? And look
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Speaker 1: that's what the guy said too. That's a loaded questions, right.
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Speaker 1: I mean, my most important thing when it comes to
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Speaker 1: relationship is being in one with my best friend. You
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Speaker 1: have to be my best friend, and I have to
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Speaker 1: be able to talk to you. I have to be able.
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Speaker 1: You have to be able to listen because me, I'm
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Speaker 1: gonna chop it up, I'm gonna talk all that. So
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Speaker 1: you know, you gotta be able to listen. You gotta
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Speaker 1: be able to comfort, love, reassure. I mean, they're so
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Speaker 1: there's just so much thing, so many things that you
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Speaker 1: can do to make somebody feel good. Um, in a
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Speaker 1: world full of beautiful women to sure your girl shoot
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Speaker 1: them prettiest woman in the world. You know you look
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Speaker 1: over your shoulder, somebody like that girl look good but
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Speaker 1: cost right. But you got somebody that's constantly letting you
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Speaker 1: know how good you look, how good you are, how
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Speaker 1: good you are to him, how you make how you
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Speaker 1: mak him feel, making want to be better. That's a
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Speaker 1: big thing too. But um, all those things make you
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Speaker 1: feel good. Somebody say that's personally, I'm making it a weight.
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Speaker 1: So to he get anything from me, my man had
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Speaker 1: to wait months, and that's what separated me from pretty
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Speaker 1: much every other woman he'd been around. So you know,
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Speaker 1: you should have that foundation before you even got to
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Speaker 1: know about the dick. So here's the day y'all waited
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Speaker 1: for months. Was the dick was trash, but you like
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Speaker 1: h him as a person though like everything stated, the
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Speaker 1: dick is trash. You got state. Luckily, lucky I had
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Speaker 1: to find out. I don't know what all it did.
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Speaker 1: I don't know, And I don't think that that's a
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Speaker 1: deal breaker. I think that you got me. You can
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Speaker 1: have sex the first night and end up with the
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Speaker 1: love of your life. That's not a terminal factor. But
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Speaker 1: I mean if the dick was trash. You know, we're
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Speaker 1: gonna have to talk about it. We're gonna have that
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Speaker 1: was the best man you ever met in your life.
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Speaker 1: He the best man with trash dick, but he could
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Speaker 1: have excelled in every other way. See if he excelled
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Speaker 1: every other way, we can have we can have conversations
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Speaker 1: about sex. You gotta we have to time unless unless
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Speaker 1: it's no like no size, no girth, no nothing, nothing.
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Speaker 1: That's two different things. Like there's there's dick and then
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Speaker 1: there's bad sex. And I feel like, if you don't
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Speaker 1: have no dick, what can we work on? Ain't to
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Speaker 1: work on? Trying stuff is making me chafe and get
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Speaker 1: out of here. Yeah, I know what Lexi said. Honestly
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Speaker 1: is the biggest thing I've been I think it's a
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Speaker 1: challenge I faced being a single. Dating is having someone
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Speaker 1: who could be really upfront with you. And that's the
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Speaker 1: biggest turn on for me is where a guy can
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Speaker 1: comes to me. He was like, hook, Hey, I am
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Speaker 1: attracted to you sexually, mentally and physically, but I'm not
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Speaker 1: ready to settle down. I'm not gonna lead you on.
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Speaker 1: I'm not gonna do all this stuff. But it's I'm
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Speaker 1: not gonna say it's rare, but it's not as common
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Speaker 1: for men to be upfront with what they really got
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Speaker 1: going on, which leads us, which takes us, you know,
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Speaker 1: takes our option away of either dating, fucking, you know,
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Speaker 1: whatever we want to do with this person, you know,
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Speaker 1: if we're misled. So that's my biggest me too, because
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Speaker 1: the next nick that played with me, I'm taking this sledge.
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Speaker 1: I'm I'm sick of me. Try it. If you're listening, bait,
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Speaker 1: don't play with me, Okay, cut it off. But look,
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Speaker 1: that's you know often well, this is a perfect example
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Speaker 1: to him, Like so you know, sometimes people act like
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Speaker 1: you're not supposed to wait to have things all go ahead,
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Speaker 1: and funk I saw some sh online that was basically
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Speaker 1: telling women you might as well fucking and get him
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Speaker 1: out the way. No, if you make a nigga, weeight
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Speaker 1: nine times out of tend he gonna talk or do
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Speaker 1: do something that's gonna talk yourself out the pussy anyway.
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Speaker 1: That's importance to making somebody wait anyway, But it ain't
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Speaker 1: nothing worse than making a nigga weight you fuck them.
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Speaker 1: Realize the other nigga was his representative and now you
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Speaker 1: still get played right now, now, Romeo really must die
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Speaker 1: the fuck and hand. That's where it's communication, because like
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Speaker 1: I had, dude, I'm doing right now. We had sex
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Speaker 1: and I toys. I came doing shy and said, what
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Speaker 1: is your expectations now? No? No, no, no no no, that's
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Speaker 1: I'm sorry to interrupt your nigger. We need to put
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Speaker 1: our expectations on the table before sex. If it's money,
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Speaker 1: you won't say that. If it's a relationship, you want
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Speaker 1: to say that. If you want marriage, you need to
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Speaker 1: say that before you give your pussy. I'm not you
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Speaker 1: don't want nothing though, then then then you sucking and
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Speaker 1: you won't have these questions. Dick. So good, now you
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Speaker 1: haven't expected talk. You girls like the dick made you
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Speaker 1: want to have expectations and me, you know what, and
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Speaker 1: we have that conversation. Before I always asked them what
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Speaker 1: do you want to do? What do you what do
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Speaker 1: you want? What do you want? Before anything? Before it
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Speaker 1: were so good. Nike was like, hey, church, just open
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Speaker 1: back up and I want to receive. If you wanted
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Speaker 1: to go this sun no, but it was just like okay,
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Speaker 1: when we know the energy is their energy is high.
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Speaker 1: So we were just like, okay, so what were on?
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Speaker 1: What were on? And I told him I want somebody
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Speaker 1: can communicate with through this process. So if you feel
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Speaker 1: like you need to still have sex with other girls,
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Speaker 1: let me know if you if you're having sex with me,
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Speaker 1: and vice versa, and then we communicate through the process.
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Speaker 1: But a lot of men, just like you know, I
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Speaker 1: don't even want to have that conversation, don't even know
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Speaker 1: how to have. Those are called little boys. They are
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Speaker 1: you know, those are grown boys. Those are adult boys.
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Speaker 1: We talk about grown men. Yeah, So I guess you know,
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Speaker 1: all men want is somebody that could be vulnerable with, right,
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Speaker 1: but they still till he's half truths oftentimes. So what
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Speaker 1: I'm hearing is that women, we really want honesty day one.
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Speaker 1: Because you don't know me. You don't know me, so
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Speaker 1: you can tell me anything and all I can do
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Speaker 1: is accepted by being honest. You let me decide what
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Speaker 1: I want to expose myself to. Don't put my life
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Speaker 1: in your hands. So rule number one, we want honesty
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Speaker 1: rights not just from our relationships with men. That's from everybody, right,
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Speaker 1: that's best friend, a friend, everybody you know, honestly tell
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Speaker 1: the truth. But is it how is it easy to
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Speaker 1: tell a truth? It's not always easy to tell truth.
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Speaker 1: But I mean, well, and the Bible say life for
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Speaker 1: peace sake, and do say that chapter. That must be
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Speaker 1: the Queen James version. That's my version, the Lebron James version.
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Speaker 1: I'm about to find it because that's ship crazy. No, honestly,
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Speaker 1: is definitely number one, number one. I think sex is
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Speaker 1: number two. Okay, what's the presented? What's the percentage y'all
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Speaker 1: think sex is in a relationship? I say sex is
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Speaker 1: like sixty. I would agree with you. I would say,
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Speaker 1: early on on that's the percentage. But as you grow,
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Speaker 1: sex is not. Yeah, when I'm sixty, am I pussy
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Speaker 1: and working on more? But prior to I don't even
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Speaker 1: say sixty because I'm gonna be still sucking at sixty. Fact,
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Speaker 1: I don't know. I don't know. I don't know if
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Speaker 1: it's that, it's not, it's not. And I was joking sick. Yeah, Well,
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Speaker 1: to me, like sex, sex should not be the only
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Speaker 1: way you and your mate communicate. But I believe it
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Speaker 1: definitely is a form of communication. And if you disconnected
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Speaker 1: in that way, it's gonna it's gonna be problems like Okay, sex, money,
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Speaker 1: What are other reasons why people get divorced or get
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Speaker 1: cheated on? Kids and outside? Right? Financial number one and
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Speaker 1: then losing desire for that partner why people are cheating?
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Speaker 1: So okay, y'all, Maybe the Bible don't say this where
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Speaker 1: I gotta I don't know where I came for me.
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Speaker 1: I told you it was the Queen James version. Look,
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Speaker 1: we're gonna make a whole segment out of that ship.
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Speaker 1: Some ship the Bible don't say, but does say, let
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Speaker 1: me check the check a Buddha two and get back
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Speaker 1: with us. But then next girl, you are stupid. Look
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Speaker 1: before we move on to the next segment, let's have
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Speaker 1: a word for our sponsors. Sorry, if we made a
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Speaker 1: total list of your perfect mate, what qualities would you
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Speaker 1: put on that list? Physically and everything? Everything? Okay? Period,
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Speaker 1: I got one. So after LEXI I'm gonna read my list.
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Speaker 1: I'm gonna go with I'm not in a little I'm
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Speaker 1: not a little tiny girl, So I need my man
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Speaker 1: to be tall. You know, he need to have me, say,
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Speaker 1: he need house some arms so he could pick me up. Um,
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Speaker 1: you know, good hair, nice smile, That's the first thing
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Speaker 1: I'm looking at. Your teeth, your smile. That's the first thing. Baby,
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Speaker 1: he's the prototype. He got a house style. Um, but
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Speaker 1: when it goes past physical, uh, I just you know,
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Speaker 1: you gotta be honest. Tell me everything straight up. Perfect
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Speaker 1: man is honest period. Like if I ask you a question,
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Speaker 1: give it to me. I don't care straight, I don't
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Speaker 1: care if it's gonna not um loyal of course, funny.
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Speaker 1: I can't deal with you if you can't many laugh.
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Speaker 1: If we're sitting in the room and we're not keikinging
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Speaker 1: the whole time, we ain't it. That's what you're not
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Speaker 1: the one. I'm real silly. I was trying to date
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Speaker 1: this guy from Baltimore one time and he was just
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Speaker 1: so so just there, just waste of space. He waste space.
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Speaker 1: It's very serious all the time. You like, Yo, I'm
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Speaker 1: for boltible. So that's a waste. That's It's like sad
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Speaker 1: in Baltimore. They are actually are you guys listen? Are
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Speaker 1: you guys Baltimore? Are y'all blue? No? I have a
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Speaker 1: whole full love list I created January thirty one, and
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Speaker 1: did you finish your list? I mean, I feel like
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Speaker 1: there's so many things you can name in a perfect
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Speaker 1: man it is. I just feel like it. Oh you
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Speaker 1: got a lonely right the should say lights Siracha on
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Speaker 1: his ead detailed because you know I was taught you
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Speaker 1: gotta pray for details. You know you want something, you
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Speaker 1: got to pray for it all A man that prays.
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Speaker 1: You have to be a believer. That's my number one.
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Speaker 1: I believe you gotta believe in something. You know we
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Speaker 1: might not believe in the same things, but higher our
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Speaker 1: But um, yeah, Mom, that starts. It's very simple like committed, fun, compassionate,
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Speaker 1: for giving, always family, man and a husband mm hmmm,
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Speaker 1: constantly growing, mentally healthy. UM loves to travel the world,
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Speaker 1: makes me feel confident, entertains my weirdness, supports my mom
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Speaker 1: and sister. UM loves God, defends me no matter what,
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Speaker 1: allows me to be who I am. UM and loves
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Speaker 1: to help others. And then I put foreign and tall
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Speaker 1: so no so no black Americans, y'all. Yeah, I don't
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Speaker 1: like black American. Damn y'all. You don't want to let
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Speaker 1: me tell you ain't nothing wrong with that. I said
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Speaker 1: this before. One of my best friends, she's white and
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Speaker 1: she has only ever dated black men. She has two kids,
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Speaker 1: one from a Biracier, got other Haitian and she's done
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Speaker 1: with Black American men, So ain't in us because she's
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Speaker 1: white and she's six. This bu be going to the
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Speaker 1: Dominican Republic for a current nigger. It's just the morals
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Speaker 1: in America and you knowed the Black American men are
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Speaker 1: completely different when it comes to overseas people. It's just different.
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Speaker 1: It's a different mindset. And I could be biased, but
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Speaker 1: being raised in a Nigerian American household, there's different qualities
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Speaker 1: with foreigners versus Black Americans. Is that a deal breaker
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Speaker 1: for you? Like, it's not a breaker man a black man,
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Speaker 1: that's everything else that you described putting on for him.
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Speaker 1: Oh no, absolutely, if he's if he's you know, if
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Speaker 1: somebody that really really truly am liking digging re Vibe
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Speaker 1: embodies that list is a good list girl, So yeah,
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Speaker 1: that can't be the worry off. The only thing I
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Speaker 1: had a question about. I need that that's important because
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Speaker 1: all those things that you say are important to me
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Speaker 1: as well. However, sex is very it's very important. It
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Speaker 1: is you know, that's not on this list, but it's
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Speaker 1: definitely in my journal. Like okay, like, how are you
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Speaker 1: going to know that right off the back. We're not
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Speaker 1: gonna know none of that ship right off the bed.
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Speaker 1: It's gonna take time to learn all that stuff. So
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Speaker 1: what about the part about supporting your mom and sister?
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Speaker 1: What's that about? Because that's my only family, Like, I
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Speaker 1: don't have grandparents uncles, So when it comes down to
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Speaker 1: like my family, family, that's all I got. So they
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Speaker 1: have to be a part of the whole situation as well.
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Speaker 1: About support, I sorry, support meaning like um, you know,
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Speaker 1: making sure they're good, asking about them. So he gotta
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Speaker 1: be their nigga too. No, not even those, but just
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Speaker 1: he's got to know that because sometimes family is a
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Speaker 1: reason why people don't work out too And so when
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Speaker 1: when people have different sides and feelings about people's families,
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Speaker 1: you know, like that canter marriages and relationships, and that's
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Speaker 1: not going to be an option for me and my man,
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Speaker 1: Like my family is your family and vice versa. Like
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Speaker 1: I thought Nigerian's head like always had big families because
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Speaker 1: everybody was tea and there y'all don't really be relating. Um,
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Speaker 1: so I do have a big feeling. But a lot
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Speaker 1: of my uncle's aunts are passed away. My dad had
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Speaker 1: nine brothers and sisters, there's only like three of them left,
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Speaker 1: three or four of them left. That's okay, No, but
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Speaker 1: most of them do come from big families, and yes,
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Speaker 1: that is true. A lot of us, say Auntie cousin,
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Speaker 1: just based off from the same tribe and we just
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Speaker 1: really really the parents might be up at the same
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Speaker 1: school together or something like that. Okay, so y'all learn something.
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Speaker 1: Y'all want to hear my list? So hi, So how
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Speaker 1: this list was compiled? Because you know, my little stock
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Speaker 1: should I be doing? Tim one of the ladies on there,
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Speaker 1: we were just talking on Zoom one day and I
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Speaker 1: was telling her different stuff. She was like, you know,
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Speaker 1: she's one of those I AM people like putting out
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Speaker 1: in the universe. You're not trying either doing or you're
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Speaker 1: not doing type people. So she compile the list for me,
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Speaker 1: bitch while I was talking and then sent it to
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Speaker 1: me on Instagram. So here's my list, and it starts
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Speaker 1: with I now have a and that is mentally clear, spiritual,
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Speaker 1: A choosy lover loves me for me, monogamous, good with
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Speaker 1: his hands, fit, nice body, with a broad back. I
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Speaker 1: love a black man's back. That's my favorite part. Of
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Speaker 1: a black man. That's how I know God is real.
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Speaker 1: Attractive to me between the ages of thirty five and fifty,
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Speaker 1: can have kids between five and twenty. A dog, lover, grateful, secure, confident,
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Speaker 1: reformed whore. Yes good, we're ship even though we're reformed
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Speaker 1: hood nigga. I love those hood niggas who made it.
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Speaker 1: Um A good provider, respectful, and a protector. That's that's
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Speaker 1: my list? Is that a Yes, it's high maintenance. It
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Speaker 1: was just like if we could have the perfect person,
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Speaker 1: you have the perfect everybody's anny, you're gonna get you
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Speaker 1: want to get, you'd be grateful to get. That's real,
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Speaker 1: Are you right? No, that's fine. What if he got
21:14
Speaker 1: all that ship but a little back? First of all,
21:18
Speaker 1: I don't fun tadpoles or sperm, no, everything else, but
21:24
Speaker 1: his back ain't strong. You ain't gonna you're gonna talk, sorry,
21:27
Speaker 1: because if that if that strong, you know that know
21:31
Speaker 1: that's that's real. I believe my man coming is gonna happen.
21:37
Speaker 1: I believe so. He may not be everything on the list,
21:40
Speaker 1: but it's gonna be a majority. I think everything on
21:42
Speaker 1: your list is absolutely a trouble. Um. It's only long
21:46
Speaker 1: because you had the time to sit down and write
21:48
Speaker 1: it down. But you find out You're find out man. Yeah,
21:51
Speaker 1: I agree, but listen some of that your list though,
21:55
Speaker 1: persisted money, money, and did got to create a living.
22:02
Speaker 1: Money and dick. That's why you're gonna get what the
22:04
Speaker 1: fun you want because money and dick that's the top.
22:09
Speaker 1: Want other things like that. Okay, I need all right?
22:13
Speaker 1: So I would like a man who has some type
22:16
Speaker 1: of spirituality. He needs to have some type of relationship
22:19
Speaker 1: with God and be growing in that. He don't have
22:22
Speaker 1: to be on the quiet or nothing like that. You
22:25
Speaker 1: need to have something. I mean, he can't be I
22:28
Speaker 1: don't know. Do past the smoke weed? Imagine being the
22:34
Speaker 1: first lady you don't have to go to. I'd be
22:37
Speaker 1: the first lady of the church. No, it's a church
22:38
Speaker 1: in New Orleans where they smoke weed and they praise
22:41
Speaker 1: God while they smoke a weed. I could be the
22:42
Speaker 1: first lady there. How high make sense? My friends go
22:47
Speaker 1: to that church and maybe outside maybe songs and smoking.
22:51
Speaker 1: God did not Jesus and God whoever, he didn't say
22:53
Speaker 1: nothing about weed being bad. So I don't see why not.
22:58
Speaker 1: But most of the decaus I know, don't you smoking.
23:00
Speaker 1: They don't. They don't smoke at church, they definitely smoke
23:02
Speaker 1: at the house. A lot of money and sex definitely matters.
23:07
Speaker 1: That's why a lot of females are staying single because
23:09
Speaker 1: if they're not getting that, I don't need so if
23:11
Speaker 1: you you what else? I like some swag um, someone
23:20
Speaker 1: who's not too flashy. I hate a flashy if you
23:23
Speaker 1: got a seventeen chains around your neck too much, and
23:26
Speaker 1: that ship could all be real chunky ass bracelets up
23:30
Speaker 1: two watches. I would like niggers like that because yourself, Yeah,
23:36
Speaker 1: because it's kind of like that. I can't stand. I mean,
23:39
Speaker 1: be confident, but if you're too cocky with it. And
23:43
Speaker 1: I just feel like men who have on all that
23:45
Speaker 1: ship is sure making up for something they're lacking. Right,
23:50
Speaker 1: they can and you could tell like most of them
23:52
Speaker 1: ain't came from Like is this new to you? Most
23:56
Speaker 1: of us? If we had a party, why are you
23:59
Speaker 1: doing all that? If we had a party where it
24:01
Speaker 1: was like a no jewelry party, it would be no
24:03
Speaker 1: niggers dead like that. Say we've naked without his bracelet,
24:13
Speaker 1: my black asshole, I'm not going to No, No, we've party. Now,
24:22
Speaker 1: y'all go to head rocking the natural puffs I still have.
24:31
Speaker 1: I'll come with him, a we've that look natural. I'm
24:35
Speaker 1: like Samson now he is from the Bible. Men are
24:41
Speaker 1: getting so caught up in is the physical pants of females.
24:44
Speaker 1: If I can't have like if you want me to
24:46
Speaker 1: correct anything in my body, like I had a guy
24:48
Speaker 1: something the other day, like, only you had a tummy tuck,
24:50
Speaker 1: you put that all in your like you can put
24:54
Speaker 1: all that in your trip have he has he seen?
24:56
Speaker 1: He said, if you only had a tummy tull. He
24:58
Speaker 1: was like, you know, you can move all this to
24:59
Speaker 1: the But that's what he said to me. This is
25:04
Speaker 1: a homie. It's just a friend. Nothing else. This is
25:06
Speaker 1: a friend. But don't be like, well look you, let's
25:11
Speaker 1: see if we can put somebody out of your dad. Right,
25:13
Speaker 1: I don't know him, we're just on friends. If he
25:16
Speaker 1: said that to you, then you can tell him like,
25:18
Speaker 1: well let me see you, dick, let's see what we
25:19
Speaker 1: can do something about that. But I'm just saying that
25:21
Speaker 1: was rude. But men are visual creatures, right, very visual.
25:26
Speaker 1: But then it'd be a nigger shaped like a fucking spongeball.
25:30
Speaker 1: Wrris A. Walren covered them back me McDonald's ice cream,
25:37
Speaker 1: calling down his back and sucking little legs, no calf myself.
25:47
Speaker 1: You need to tell me to like, come on now,
25:50
Speaker 1: men are way more shallow than women. I don't give
25:52
Speaker 1: a god damn when none of them saying if you're
25:55
Speaker 1: not going to catch a fine ass dude with some
25:57
Speaker 1: basic bitch, but you can always catch a shine as
26:00
Speaker 1: woman with some nigger you just described with the check basically.
26:07
Speaker 1: So so does that make us more shallow or them?
26:11
Speaker 1: I guess we're both shallow. Their shallow as far as aesthetics, because,
26:16
Speaker 1: like they say, all women think they're attending what all
26:18
Speaker 1: men think, they deserve it in and happy y'all don't
26:21
Speaker 1: deserve its in. You deserve the bitches that you couldn't.
26:27
Speaker 1: I remember I was working. This was when I was
26:29
Speaker 1: in London, and this nigga was talking about his wife
26:31
Speaker 1: and they got divorced, not soon like very soon after that.
26:36
Speaker 1: He said his wife was not a bit ley, she
26:39
Speaker 1: was more like a reliable Honda in front of her
26:43
Speaker 1: with everybody at the table, and she was just sitting there.
26:46
Speaker 1: He looked like and he looked like a motherfucking pinto. Okay,
26:51
Speaker 1: he was that man looking too bold with with looks
26:55
Speaker 1: and what they expect a reliable Honda is what he
26:58
Speaker 1: compared his wife too. And then he said, that's grounds
27:02
Speaker 1: for divorce. That's grounds for divorce. That's the fact. I'm
27:07
Speaker 1: so every man. She feels like he deserved it in
27:09
Speaker 1: and every woman that he did in his eyes. That's
27:13
Speaker 1: why on my list, I said, um, you know that
27:16
Speaker 1: they look good to me. I don't really care about
27:18
Speaker 1: how anybody else feel about them, but um, girl, that
27:22
Speaker 1: has definitely grounds for divorce. I wish you, nigga might be.
27:24
Speaker 1: You know a lot of women put up with abuse
27:26
Speaker 1: like that. They do from some basic guys nigga who
27:30
Speaker 1: don't control nothing outside his home. He just control whoever,
27:33
Speaker 1: like the kids and the wife that's in the house.
27:35
Speaker 1: You go to work, you don't run it over there.
27:37
Speaker 1: Your family, your outside family, don't run it over there.
27:40
Speaker 1: So these are constant people you could, girl, I would
27:43
Speaker 1: beat his ass up on site, said the same things
27:48
Speaker 1: out talking to listen, yeah out here talking about violence.
27:56
Speaker 1: We don't promote violence, girl, Yes the funk we do nothing.
27:59
Speaker 1: If you suck, girl, I just definitely stand out. I
28:02
Speaker 1: want to hit the nigg with a sledge we don't
28:05
Speaker 1: promote violence. That's one that's funny. I never t is
28:11
Speaker 1: domestic violence. That's one thing that I will always look away.
28:14
Speaker 1: I don't see how women really do it. I know
28:16
Speaker 1: it's easier said than done, but I physically, physically or mentally,
28:20
Speaker 1: I couldn't do it. Mental is worse, you know what
28:22
Speaker 1: I'm saying, Because it takes a person wave even longer,
28:25
Speaker 1: you gonna have Stockholm syndrome. Like this is just okay,
28:29
Speaker 1: it's just normal living and this is just in my life.
28:32
Speaker 1: And people get stuck. So you will never understand those
28:34
Speaker 1: situations until you get in them. I would never the fuck,
28:39
Speaker 1: if anything, I'm the abuser. Oh, I'll hit you. I
28:45
Speaker 1: think I'm not gonna like a physical fight. I'm probably
28:50
Speaker 1: gonna lose a little rat poison. I don't know. I
28:56
Speaker 1: have to come out with you to cook me up.
29:00
Speaker 1: So hey, look, let me tell you the only reason
29:02
Speaker 1: why I went and killing niggas because it's tough getting
29:04
Speaker 1: rid of a body. That's it. That's the only reason why. Yes, Like,
29:10
Speaker 1: what are you gonna do? You're gonna be in Nick
29:11
Speaker 1: cutting this heavy ass man up by yourself. Like now
29:13
Speaker 1: I got to bring a dead body like how what
29:18
Speaker 1: I'll call it all y'all. First of all, need to
29:24
Speaker 1: be like y'all to help you mean, she didn't call
29:28
Speaker 1: your mom and your sisters up? Yeah, I just could
29:32
Speaker 1: not take it no more that I just read that
29:34
Speaker 1: better be there for me, y'all read about that. I
29:36
Speaker 1: will come. I will put money on your books. Y'all
29:39
Speaker 1: read about that woman that killed her husband with a
29:41
Speaker 1: pot of boiling because she and I said, free that
29:48
Speaker 1: woman her whole hero. Listen, nicker, you better call your
29:54
Speaker 1: mom and your sister nickers. My mom will be there now.
29:58
Speaker 1: Mom gonna be there, but don't be there for sure?
30:02
Speaker 1: If I don't know how, how would? Why are we
30:05
Speaker 1: talking about discarding the body? What we want? We definitely?
30:12
Speaker 1: I have a question for y'all, how okay. I had
30:15
Speaker 1: a conversation with the guy and I was like, what
30:17
Speaker 1: is your expectations when you are in relationship and with sex?
30:22
Speaker 1: How many times do you expect to have sex throughout
30:25
Speaker 1: the week? What the minimum? And what do you say?
30:31
Speaker 1: He said? Once a day is a minimum I deserve?
30:34
Speaker 1: Like that's what unless you're on your you know here
30:37
Speaker 1: you go once every day? That ain't so? First of all,
30:42
Speaker 1: I like the reaction my pussy because I feel like,
30:44
Speaker 1: if you're giving it to him too much, you got
30:47
Speaker 1: to work towards. Huh what does he have to work towards? Right?
30:53
Speaker 1: I like that. That's what's a day is a lot,
30:55
Speaker 1: Like we're in a commit relationship. I'm only with you,
30:58
Speaker 1: only with me, Like if we funking every day, we're
31:01
Speaker 1: not gonna be with only each other. After some time,
31:03
Speaker 1: it's gonna be bored. I would I would get bored. Yeah,
31:08
Speaker 1: same old stroke every day, every day. Do you think
31:10
Speaker 1: that's sex? I think variety. I think they like new pussy.
31:18
Speaker 1: And that's one of the things that the nigger should
31:20
Speaker 1: have said on that list, Like men do like variety
31:22
Speaker 1: and it, but they also above a variety, they like
31:25
Speaker 1: new pussy, Like you're the same old steak dinner. We
31:28
Speaker 1: said that, damn the same way about though, That's what
31:32
Speaker 1: I'm saying, Like we do too, But don't mean I'm
31:34
Speaker 1: going to step out on your score, right you know Whoever,
31:37
Speaker 1: women have a little bit more discernment when it comes
31:39
Speaker 1: to that type of ship, Like, yeah, I might be
31:41
Speaker 1: sick of it, but you don't really have to really
31:44
Speaker 1: do some ship. Women need a reason men need the
31:45
Speaker 1: time and a place for the most part man, so
31:50
Speaker 1: women do too. But a woman that's happy in her
31:54
Speaker 1: relationship is not about to just go out and smash
31:57
Speaker 1: somebody else unless that's something that you know your made
31:59
Speaker 1: have going on, Like y'all communicate that I have phone
32:03
Speaker 1: sex with you or something like that. But I'm not
32:04
Speaker 1: about to be going out and smashing nobody. I'm happy with,
32:08
Speaker 1: you know, my relationship. And I think sometimes I think
32:12
Speaker 1: sometimes men like if they're used to having capping whatever,
32:21
Speaker 1: because I don't mention vaciations with their home girls and
32:25
Speaker 1: get fuck because no, n I feel like women, I
32:36
Speaker 1: mean and men ship, they're gonna step out at some point. Na,
32:42
Speaker 1: I feel like, just switch it up a little bit.
32:44
Speaker 1: I don't know that's right. Bring some type of toys,
32:49
Speaker 1: all type of wing we watch. Then I have personally
32:53
Speaker 1: never been in a situation where I've had other people
32:55
Speaker 1: in my sexual life, but I'm open to it because
32:58
Speaker 1: I know that it's something that I'm curious about personally.
33:02
Speaker 1: And then also I know like men love that ship.
33:07
Speaker 1: I like that I love that ship. Men love having
33:10
Speaker 1: two women at the same time. Mostly y'all growing in
33:14
Speaker 1: me seeing the two women period. That's good with nobody else,
33:17
Speaker 1: y'all y'all grown, y'are too grown from me? Now what
33:21
Speaker 1: y'all saying? Now, so y'all gotta have a nigked that
33:23
Speaker 1: y'all could do three sins with. That's what you're saying.
33:25
Speaker 1: I've never I'm not saying that. I'm saying I'm open
33:28
Speaker 1: to more time out of the country in Jamaica. But
33:32
Speaker 1: that's the thing. If you do it out the country,
33:34
Speaker 1: how are you how how are you gonna do that
33:36
Speaker 1: because you don't what You're just gonna wear call them
33:38
Speaker 1: with you and her because we're not just gonna be
33:39
Speaker 1: out here messy. Yeah, no, I know. Like that's the thing.
33:43
Speaker 1: That's where it gets tricky in my mind. I'm like, yeah,
33:46
Speaker 1: that's how it works because I can't see myself sucking
33:49
Speaker 1: any of my friends. Yeah, y'all nasty. I am so
33:59
Speaker 1: child that when he got that. Y'all just too grown
34:01
Speaker 1: from meat. Yeah, I'll funk all three y'all of it
34:06
Speaker 1: right now. See this. Women have sex with women too,
34:20
Speaker 1: Keep it fun, whatever it's fun. I just don't want
34:22
Speaker 1: to ever be in a relationship where we're just going
34:24
Speaker 1: through emotions over and over it's a lot of relationships though.
34:28
Speaker 1: That is especially marriage. That marriage. Yeah, it's sad. I
34:33
Speaker 1: don't want to be there. No, I want to have fun.
34:35
Speaker 1: We're having fun, so tam. So you're saying if it's
34:39
Speaker 1: if it's too normal, you're gonna suck the relationship up.
34:43
Speaker 1: And that's the biggest thing. I think it's fun when
34:45
Speaker 1: you are able to have open communication about everything, like
34:48
Speaker 1: if your man can come to you like babe, I'm
34:50
Speaker 1: bored and sex like I'm bored with you, I'm bored
34:52
Speaker 1: with pussy everything like right. I think that's what we
34:55
Speaker 1: need to hear. Also, I think oftentimes the men step out.
34:58
Speaker 1: They don't tell their woman what the problem is so
35:00
Speaker 1: that she can correct it. They just go outside their relationship.
35:04
Speaker 1: They go outside the relationship to complete their happiness instead
35:07
Speaker 1: of talking to the person you with so that they
35:10
Speaker 1: can have the opportunity to fix whatever it is. You
35:13
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying, You just got that pussy and
35:15
Speaker 1: he's been used to it. He's used to it. You
35:18
Speaker 1: don't that's not fixable. But that's so you're saying, no
35:21
Speaker 1: men can be um. You don't think any man could
35:24
Speaker 1: be faithful. I don't I don't think any male really
35:28
Speaker 1: wants just want one woman for their entire life. I
35:32
Speaker 1: don't believe that. I don't agree with that. I think
35:35
Speaker 1: there's somebody here that truly just are about one woman
35:38
Speaker 1: for the rest, like after a certain phase in life,
35:41
Speaker 1: like yo, I don't want nobody else. Be a mutual
35:45
Speaker 1: agreement sometimes, but other than I believe that men and
35:49
Speaker 1: like women, one woman for it's a mutual agreement and
35:53
Speaker 1: it's not one woman, no more no. But I'm saying
35:54
Speaker 1: there's times where it's like, okay, bab, let's make it excited.
35:57
Speaker 1: Let's do this, like like she said, if it's fun,
35:58
Speaker 1: it flows, and you know, you want to do something
36:00
Speaker 1: that's like you know, yeah, but there's no longer one woman. Okay.
36:05
Speaker 1: But as far as, like you said, stepping out on
36:07
Speaker 1: the relationship, okay, So we're just saying in general, you
36:10
Speaker 1: might want to bring somebody else in your relationship. Right.
36:13
Speaker 1: So that's why I like a man to be experience.
36:18
Speaker 1: I want you to have been with every woman possible.
36:20
Speaker 1: I want you to have had your three sims. I
36:22
Speaker 1: want you to have done all that stuff before you
36:24
Speaker 1: even meet me, Like and if you're not, if you
36:26
Speaker 1: feel like you are experienced everything, and we start talking,
36:28
Speaker 1: let me know that, keep doing what you're doing. And
36:31
Speaker 1: then look, but so you want a forty seven year
36:33
Speaker 1: olds with I don't care how hold he is. So
36:39
Speaker 1: that's why I put man. I should have been with
36:41
Speaker 1: a good amount of women, really, So that's why I
36:47
Speaker 1: put on my list were formed whole because I like
36:49
Speaker 1: men who can get bitches, and I like a man
36:51
Speaker 1: who knows how to fund me and can read my
36:53
Speaker 1: body and that type of stuff. But yeah, I don't
36:55
Speaker 1: want you to still be out head chase a pussy
36:56
Speaker 1: because how you getting money and pussy at the same time.
36:59
Speaker 1: I just you're not. You're not. I was the one
37:03
Speaker 1: that I need to chase pu see with And look,
37:08
Speaker 1: your man, it's gonna be hard for you because that's
37:13
Speaker 1: every man's stream. Let's slow down together, baby, like with
37:20
Speaker 1: that mindset, because he's got me thinking about the Okay, okay, okay, girl,
37:29
Speaker 1: by got it. This is don't pay me exactly because
37:34
Speaker 1: we talked about it's for enter team of purposes only,
37:37
Speaker 1: especially when Tam talking bit the ship. I've been here
37:41
Speaker 1: crying over there. I don't got no niggers, I don't
37:48
Speaker 1: got no bitches. Girl. What you just don't follow me up? Y'all? Alright,
37:58
Speaker 1: look so and that no, let's take a second Capades
38:01
Speaker 1: bills and we're back to you guys. And guess what.
38:08
Speaker 1: We have a dumb bach story. Dumb bitch stories. So,
38:15
Speaker 1: because we've all been a dumb bitch at least once
38:17
Speaker 1: or twice, we have two dumb bitches on the show
38:22
Speaker 1: with us today. And I like dumb bitches. In a
38:27
Speaker 1: moment I listened, I shared my dumb bing stories. A
38:31
Speaker 1: j has shared her dumb bing stories. Do y'all know
38:33
Speaker 1: what it is? That's what I wanted to give me
38:35
Speaker 1: an example so I can kind of like a time
38:37
Speaker 1: you got played a time where all right, let me
38:39
Speaker 1: give you an example with me. Is this guy I've
38:41
Speaker 1: been dealing with and he went to prison. Yeah, he
38:45
Speaker 1: was giving me a lot of money before he went
38:47
Speaker 1: to prison. He can't. He went to jail, and I
38:49
Speaker 1: hadn't bossed up, so by the time he got home,
38:51
Speaker 1: I had my own little bag. So I was living
38:55
Speaker 1: in Europe a food back home when he got out
38:57
Speaker 1: of jail, took him shop and bought him some shoes,
39:00
Speaker 1: use and all that ship. And then I flew back
39:02
Speaker 1: to Europe, And once I got off the flight, I
39:05
Speaker 1: checked Facebook and he was hugged up with a bit
39:08
Speaker 1: in the sneak because I bought him in a picture
39:10
Speaker 1: on Facebook, and I was ready to get back on
39:13
Speaker 1: the plane and come back to the United States. I
39:15
Speaker 1: never played like that, not like you've been played in
39:19
Speaker 1: a way before. Absolutely. My biggest thing is I've been ghosted.
39:23
Speaker 1: So it's like, Okay, what was, what will happened? What happens?
39:28
Speaker 1: How many times have you have you been like, um
39:32
Speaker 1: ghosted habitually? I've been ghosted out of my years of
39:37
Speaker 1: dating a lot um. I've been ghosted that actually hurt me,
39:42
Speaker 1: probably three times that actually like And most of the
39:45
Speaker 1: time it's because this man has a whole situation going on,
39:49
Speaker 1: and the feelings got strong, got caught up, and now
39:53
Speaker 1: it's like, oh, I gotta choose my girl over you.
39:54
Speaker 1: You just somebody I'm just having sex with. You're not
39:58
Speaker 1: nobody that I can really know or I can be
40:01
Speaker 1: with because I got this going on, and so yeah,
40:06
Speaker 1: I don't have anything, Like, I don't have anything exciting.
40:08
Speaker 1: Do you like? She fail? I mean I wish I did.
40:13
Speaker 1: I got stood up at a date. I don't have
40:16
Speaker 1: no excess first of all. But no, um, you don't
40:19
Speaker 1: have no excess, no time to one and only. I
40:24
Speaker 1: just don't clean nobody. Hey, look if if you ain't coming,
40:28
Speaker 1: it ain't count. You know, we met when we were twenties,
40:31
Speaker 1: so we've been in a relationship for a long time. Um,
40:35
Speaker 1: I'm looking with a relationship almost seven years next month.
40:39
Speaker 1: I can't wait for the wedding. You know what I
40:41
Speaker 1: was with my first boyfriend from I was seventeen years old,
40:47
Speaker 1: and I didn't leave him alone till I was twenty
40:49
Speaker 1: seven years old. M and then I was a hole
40:53
Speaker 1: for sho after turn on the lights, turn off the
41:00
Speaker 1: lights on? It ain't funny for real. I had a
41:06
Speaker 1: boyfriend in high school. Hey, he wan't really my boyfriend,
41:09
Speaker 1: but he was my boyfriend for real. Um, and it
41:14
Speaker 1: was like what junior senior year, I don't know. It
41:17
Speaker 1: was embarrassing, But the whole time to this day, I
41:20
Speaker 1: think he likes this girl, right, that was his best
41:22
Speaker 1: friend at the time. He promised her that he would
41:26
Speaker 1: take her to prom. So I had to go with
41:28
Speaker 1: one of my friends boyfriends friends who I did not
41:33
Speaker 1: know clearly, Yeah, I honestly have no idea. What his name?
41:39
Speaker 1: I'm sorry to this man. My man took another girl
41:42
Speaker 1: from the same prom to the same prom. Oh that's
41:46
Speaker 1: a listen. That is definitely an adolescent story. I look
41:53
Speaker 1: after that. I was not playing with these niggas. I
41:55
Speaker 1: don't you learn your lesson right there? What girl? And
41:58
Speaker 1: then I did a tripper. I don't even know. I
42:03
Speaker 1: don't even really remember the poem. I spoke too much
42:06
Speaker 1: of my memory is coming. But oh yeah, that man
42:11
Speaker 1: for sure. But um we went to the I had
42:15
Speaker 1: a hotel room. Afterwards, they went to a party and
42:17
Speaker 1: everything ch'all. And I was in there looking like a
42:19
Speaker 1: dumb bit. So you are really good. He was in
42:24
Speaker 1: the hotel about yourself. I had my friends, they're like
42:27
Speaker 1: some of them and their man's and I told my
42:29
Speaker 1: problem day to go to because I and then yeah,
42:35
Speaker 1: so who was the prom this today? I have a story?
42:42
Speaker 1: Mine was mine was I got played hard on this one.
42:44
Speaker 1: Because he was a longtime friend. We went to college together.
42:49
Speaker 1: Always been cool. We've you know, like, I went to
42:53
Speaker 1: him for advice, job opportunities, just a great resource as
42:56
Speaker 1: a friend. We all went on to Miami for my
42:59
Speaker 1: birthday last year. He was there for there for work
43:02
Speaker 1: and had like six girls with me, and he, you know,
43:05
Speaker 1: saw all the girls I was hanging out with. And
43:07
Speaker 1: then all of a sudden, I get a phone call,
43:11
Speaker 1: maybe like later on two months after my birthday from
43:15
Speaker 1: him saying, hey, you know, I don't know what's up
43:17
Speaker 1: with your girl, but she's she's super whack. And I'm like,
43:20
Speaker 1: where's this coming from? This is one the girl who
43:22
Speaker 1: want to triple me. I'm like, where's this coming from?
43:23
Speaker 1: What you're talking about? So I did, you know, found
43:25
Speaker 1: out the story, you know, try to dig into us hee,
43:28
Speaker 1: what's going on? And then when I confronted her, I
43:30
Speaker 1: was like, because I told her some personal stuff about
43:32
Speaker 1: him because she knows my girls. So I told him like,
43:34
Speaker 1: you know, hey, he's got a kid, he takes care
43:35
Speaker 1: of his kid. Nobody really knows he has a kid. Whatever,
43:38
Speaker 1: But he took a personal because she confront of him
43:40
Speaker 1: about it. But I was like, why would she confront
43:42
Speaker 1: you about it? Where did this come from? And how
43:44
Speaker 1: did they know each other? They met my birthday and
43:47
Speaker 1: he followed all my friends after that after my birthday,
43:51
Speaker 1: So this guy made him been intimate again. We're good friends,
43:55
Speaker 1: you know, and I sat down with my girl was like, yo,
43:57
Speaker 1: what's going on? This is what he's telling me. What happened?
43:59
Speaker 1: So she pulls up her phone goes to I G
44:01
Speaker 1: and this man going in, I want to fly you out,
44:05
Speaker 1: take you shopping. I only want you. Me and me
44:08
Speaker 1: and neck are nothing like we're just you know, we're
44:11
Speaker 1: just cool. We're just cool. I was just intimate with
44:13
Speaker 1: him a month before my birthday, two weeks for my birthday,
44:17
Speaker 1: and went in on all this stuff like I'll buy
44:20
Speaker 1: whatever you want to buy, Like just going in. I'm
44:21
Speaker 1: just like, this is one and this is one of
44:27
Speaker 1: my friends. What's your friend? But look you see my
44:32
Speaker 1: face and like see you on We on the same page. Listen.
44:35
Speaker 1: So I compared her. I was like, why didn't you
44:37
Speaker 1: tell me he was in your ends? She was ignoring
44:40
Speaker 1: everything he was saying, but at the same time I
44:42
Speaker 1: had to confirm her, like, YO, look, when any of
44:45
Speaker 1: my dudes, any of my name is coming in your dams,
44:48
Speaker 1: come to you in a proper you come to me
44:49
Speaker 1: immediately as a friend, You let me know immediately. And
44:53
Speaker 1: he of course, men're gonna lie. But I didn't think
44:55
Speaker 1: because this is my homie for over ten plus years,
44:57
Speaker 1: he's gonna lie to me like that, but he did.
45:00
Speaker 1: But as my girl don't ever you know girl colde
45:03
Speaker 1: like yeah, yeah, because they have you looking at the
45:07
Speaker 1: girls away. He came to you first about her because
45:13
Speaker 1: he thought it was okay. But wait, why did he
45:15
Speaker 1: even think that was okay? And that's the thing, but
45:19
Speaker 1: you know what's when men get money and they have
45:22
Speaker 1: access to things, they feel like they can do whatever.
45:24
Speaker 1: They have this ego about him that's just like you know,
45:27
Speaker 1: he felt like, oh I can get her and I
45:28
Speaker 1: can still keep neck in my back pocket because you know,
45:31
Speaker 1: I'm you know, like you've been the constant over the years.
45:34
Speaker 1: Yeah right, that's why you gotta do the same thing
45:36
Speaker 1: on there as get money, get fine because look I'm
45:40
Speaker 1: a blessing too, right No and me and it was
45:43
Speaker 1: just cool like he had a whole situation which just cool.
45:45
Speaker 1: But it was this disrespect for me because the day
45:47
Speaker 1: you could have just told me on me like what again,
45:49
Speaker 1: the honesty, I'm digging your girls? I want her, can
45:54
Speaker 1: I you know, can I get her number? More likely
45:56
Speaker 1: I would have give her a number like what I
45:58
Speaker 1: wounderstand you know what response about giving but he just
46:01
Speaker 1: took the right for me to even like present the situation.
46:04
Speaker 1: She didn't want him, She definitely didn't want him, but
46:07
Speaker 1: it was just like, dang, post me my homie, homie, Like,
46:10
Speaker 1: there's not no dude, I'm just having sex with this
46:12
Speaker 1: is like a friend, so a real friend, So yeah,
46:16
Speaker 1: are you? I thought, at least that was heart breaking.
46:20
Speaker 1: I'm gonna like that was a little hurtful girl. The
46:23
Speaker 1: nigger and I don't know about your friend. Well she
46:25
Speaker 1: didn't wait how okay, wait wait wait? So you said
46:29
Speaker 1: he was upset because you had told her stuff about him,
46:32
Speaker 1: and she relaid the stuff back to him. So they
46:33
Speaker 1: had to have had a conversation because she was getting
46:37
Speaker 1: tired of him contacting her, like he was going on
46:40
Speaker 1: Instagram and she was just like, don't you have like
46:43
Speaker 1: a biby mom? Why are you on my ship? That
46:48
Speaker 1: was so okay, friend, you are right for friend, But
46:54
Speaker 1: it was still I had to find out because I
46:56
Speaker 1: had to set her down. It was never her coming
46:57
Speaker 1: to me like yo oh dudes and my d m
46:59
Speaker 1: s and this was, um November, we don't even November.
47:02
Speaker 1: All the way until January, there was constant communication between
47:06
Speaker 1: them two, And I mean because I'm telling, telling, I'm
47:16
Speaker 1: telling if it was funny, I'm telling, I'm telling right away. Yeah, absolutely, dude,
47:26
Speaker 1: is this your king? So what I'm hearing is Lexie
47:33
Speaker 1: would like a man with good hair, and Nickel wants honesty. Money,
47:43
Speaker 1: we want taking money now, we want money. We want
47:45
Speaker 1: all want good sex and money. Everybody wants that look.
47:48
Speaker 1: And if you don't eat this pussy, you don't like me,
47:50
Speaker 1: Like you don't like me, You're not just to do
47:54
Speaker 1: your face, don't look like a hot Crispy kreem. Don't
47:56
Speaker 1: know what you're doing because it ain't mean all right
48:04
Speaker 1: it looks So what I'm hearing is crazy. We ain't
48:08
Speaker 1: no representations one in relationship. One has been single for
48:17
Speaker 1: years and you know, like like what we like? Alright,
48:24
Speaker 1: So I'm on fact retriever dot Com trying to find
48:28
Speaker 1: us a good random sex fact. It says couples usually
48:34
Speaker 1: wait six to eight days before they're willing to enter
48:37
Speaker 1: into an exclusive relationship. What the fun Why don't you believe?
48:43
Speaker 1: What's what's funny about? I mean, like, what's six or
48:47
Speaker 1: eight dates? Dates? Yeah? To say that your elusive, that's
48:54
Speaker 1: a lot, not not enough how many would you and
48:57
Speaker 1: I have before? Y'all we probably were together for like
49:00
Speaker 1: six months before we were exclusive. You had a conversation
49:03
Speaker 1: and said we together. Young people do that, just like
49:08
Speaker 1: younger people do that adults for something like I know
49:11
Speaker 1: you said y'all man when you were twenty, right you
49:13
Speaker 1: Now you could be thirty years old dating the man.
49:16
Speaker 1: Like these guys don't want to sit down and kin
49:18
Speaker 1: up a conversation and say, hey, today we together going forward.
49:21
Speaker 1: It doesn't happen like it happens when we're young, but
49:24
Speaker 1: not as grown people. Everybody want to keep this little
49:27
Speaker 1: like little gray area so that if they do funk up,
49:30
Speaker 1: there's no accountability. It gets really messy. And accountability is
49:33
Speaker 1: a huge one that is on my list too, Like you, okay,
49:36
Speaker 1: you gotta be you gotta be accountable for your own actions.
49:40
Speaker 1: Like and also the lack of communication. If you're not
49:43
Speaker 1: talking to me every day, I don't feel like I'm
49:45
Speaker 1: important to you. I don't even need every day because
49:48
Speaker 1: at least saying every day. But people act like when
49:50
Speaker 1: you're talking to dating, somebody is supposed to text all day.
49:53
Speaker 1: I'm not texting nobody all fucking day. I'm not talking
49:56
Speaker 1: nobody all day, but I do expect good morning, have
49:58
Speaker 1: a great day, and I'm doing at least you have
50:00
Speaker 1: a good night. You know what I hate every day?
50:06
Speaker 1: I ain't want to nigga. I ain't want a nigga
50:08
Speaker 1: text you good night, but you ain't talk to them
50:10
Speaker 1: the whole day, Like what, I don't know anything that
50:16
Speaker 1: you really don't like that's putting in all that effort
50:18
Speaker 1: and be like good morning, beautiful, good morning, this good
50:20
Speaker 1: mor and that. Like now you're pissing me off. So
50:22
Speaker 1: do y'all let him, you know him into him? Like
50:25
Speaker 1: after do you let a man know that you're not
50:28
Speaker 1: into them as the first date? Oh? Yeah, I will,
50:33
Speaker 1: but I wan't say. So what do you say? You're
50:36
Speaker 1: just working on things in my life right now and
50:38
Speaker 1: I just see you can't do that. Um. It probably
50:44
Speaker 1: would be either I'm real direct because I really really
50:47
Speaker 1: don't like you, or if I kind of like you
50:49
Speaker 1: and I don't want to like maybe maybe save you
50:52
Speaker 1: for later type ship. I might um give an excuse
50:55
Speaker 1: like that, like oh I'm busy, or this week was crazy,
50:58
Speaker 1: this and the third but that's that. That'd be the bullshit.
51:02
Speaker 1: If you don't like somebody, you need to let them know.
51:04
Speaker 1: I don't that part right. What you're gonna say, Hey,
51:10
Speaker 1: I just really don't like how sharp your teeth are,
51:12
Speaker 1: and I don't want to with you. No, you say, hey,
51:15
Speaker 1: thank you for the date, but I don't feel like
51:20
Speaker 1: we're compatible. We're compatible. My energy wasn't there tonight, or
51:24
Speaker 1: I'm just not as attractive I thought I was gonna be. Yeah,
51:26
Speaker 1: that might hurt somebody's feelings, but I wish I don't
51:29
Speaker 1: say ship like that. I'll just be like I put
51:30
Speaker 1: it on me like I don't either. I go go.
51:35
Speaker 1: That's a good way to do it to him. You
51:37
Speaker 1: kind of put it on put it on you instead
51:40
Speaker 1: of because then they get kind of like on a
51:41
Speaker 1: defense kind of. Nobody likes rejection, but men especially do
51:46
Speaker 1: not like to be rejected. No females do. We can
51:52
Speaker 1: handle it better. We handle everything better, no more. I
51:57
Speaker 1: think men can handle it. I think men can handle it,
51:59
Speaker 1: just as the candle half the ship we can handle
52:01
Speaker 1: Because I like nibe, you might be they can handle it.
52:07
Speaker 1: Text me, he don't like me, Okay, I didn't know
52:09
Speaker 1: you was gay. Okay, that parts is wrong with you.
52:18
Speaker 1: That's a whole time to listen. We want to have
52:23
Speaker 1: these lovely guests back on because even with this episode,
52:26
Speaker 1: did we really well? Actually we gave three lists, didn't
52:29
Speaker 1: we look? Oh yeah, in impossible impossible. Look guys, you'll
52:40
Speaker 1: have a little bit of insight now into what women want.
52:43
Speaker 1: So if you're that guy, hit nake up right, nicky,
52:45
Speaker 1: you're looking. I'm not really looking for nothing. I'm looking
52:48
Speaker 1: like I'm looking for my damn self right now. I
52:51
Speaker 1: don't say I'm looking, but my options are open. My
52:53
Speaker 1: doors are open. If you want to walk in and
52:54
Speaker 1: talk to me, let's have a conversation. If you plug yourself,
52:57
Speaker 1: go ahead and plug yourself naked. Oh I guess the
52:59
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53:03
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53:09
Speaker 1: I do have an event Um company. We do events
53:12
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53:15
Speaker 1: business to restaurants, bars, lounges. Um. The hospitality industry took
53:20
Speaker 1: a big hit during COVID, so we come in to
53:23
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54:08
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