Conversation 1 — Your Shame Story

Conversation With Nikki · Sep 21, 2026 · 7m

Welcome to Conversation With Nikki.

Before we talk about becoming self-led, I want to talk about something that can be uncomfortable.

Your story.

Not the polished version.

Not the version you tell when you’re trying to make everybody understand why you are the way you are.

I’m talking about the story you have told so many times that you know exactly where to pause, what happened next, who hurt you, and why you became the way you became.

I used to call this your shame story.

And I don’t call it that because I think you should be ashamed.

Quite the opposite.

I call it that because shame has a…