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EXACTLY What to Do When the Results aren’t Resulting (yet ;) ) · All In with Allie

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  I am responding to a listener request who asked a very powerful question. What
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  do we do when we have shifted our thoughts? We have changed our beliefs.
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  We're working on creating and establishing new habits and behaviors. We're doing all
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  of the things to create something new, to call in new results, but
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  the results aren't showing yet. The results aren't resulting. What do we do
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  in that weird void? How do we act? I've got just the thing.
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  Let's talk about it. Welcome to All In with Ali Podcasts, the
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  podcast for online business owners and entrepreneurs who are ready to create a life in
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  business of that dreams. I'm so happy you're here. Okay, this is
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  such a good question. So, first of all, the person who's submitted
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  this on my stories on Instagram. By the way, that's at Ali I
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  reeves if you want to go check out what we got going on over there.
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  We're always talking about interesting things. Anyway, I put a call to
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  action, Hey what do you want me to talk about on the podcast?
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  And this was one of those submissions, So you know who you are.
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  Thank you for this question. And like I said, I've got just the
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  thing. And when I say that I don't mean that I nail this by
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  any stretch of the imagination. What I'm about to share with you I consider
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  kind of a work of art. This is something that I feel like definitely
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  takes some practice, but with practice things become easier. But I know,
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  like I would bet everything on the fact that if you're not doing this,
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  or if you are not consciously doing this thing, then that's probably why you're
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  seeing such a gap in whatever it is that you're trying to call in that's
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  new. And when you make this change, everything's going to change. Okay,
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  So manifesting one oh one, you don't want to call it manifesting,
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  fine, praying one oh one, co creating one oh one. Here's what
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  we need to do. Three steps, right. We've all heard it,
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  ask, believe, receive. That's it's never been put simpler, it's never
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  been put more accurate. However, there's a lot that goes into each of
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  those words, and this is where we get a little lost in translation.
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  This is where we fall short sometimes and then we get frustrated because what we're
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  doing doesn't seem to be working, when actually, in all actuality, there's
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  a lot that's working. But we end up cutting ourselves off because we assume
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  that things aren't working, and it kind of creates this cycle. All right,
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  So let's break down the very simple formula when we're talking about co creating
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  something new our reality for results. Doesn't matter what it is, whether it's
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  a button or a brand new car or eight figure, nine figure, ten
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  figure business brand, whatever the thing is. We got to ask, we
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  got to believe, and we got to receive it. So let's break down
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  that very simple formula and get into the nuance here, because this is again,
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  this is important. So the ask is simple. Okay, that's the
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  part that we all get. Right. If you listen to Abraham Hicks,
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  they talk about how this is already done right, like your life, your
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  discomfort, the contrast in your life automatically creates the ask. So you've already
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  shot out into the universe. You've already energetically prayed, even if you haven't
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  actually prayed in your heart and soul, your life has already created the ask
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  portion. You know, like when you have a low year, then you
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  are sending out vibes that you're ready for a higher year. You know,
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  you're ready for higher level monetary results or higher levels of support. When you
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  are crying and frustrated over a partner that you guys aren't vibing together, you're
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  automatically asking for a partner that's more aligned or a change of behavior there.
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  And we can also double down on this and triple down and whatever. Right,
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  it doesn't hurt to continue to put in the order as long as we're
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  not making a mistake, which is that we're this Actually, Okay, as
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  I'm saying this, this is a little tricky because if you think about it,
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  you wouldn't continue praying for something that you already have, do you know
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  what I mean? Well, okay, let me back up again. You
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  can right there, there's a way to go about it. I guess it
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  is the best way to say it, right, Like, I can be
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  healthy and feel really good right now and still continue to pray for continued health.
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  Do you see what I'm saying. So there's a difference between praying and
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  quote unquote, you know, trying to manifest something that's not already there and
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  positioning your energy in that way of like God, please, you know,
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  Universe, whoever you pray to, please send this thing. I'm ready.
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  I'm you know, I'm ready for this thing I I'm whatever, like you're
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  perpetuating that it's on the outside of you. And this is a huge mistake.
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  Right If you're praying and you're asking in such a way that it's missing
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  from your life, then that's what you're perpetuating. And you get what you
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  ask for, You get what you are. What you put out comes back
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  as within so without so as we ask you again, depending on what it
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  is that you believe in who you talk to, people say this is already
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  done. You know, you don't need to ask, it's already out there.
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  Or you can ask in such a way that perpetuates that where you're at
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  is good and you want to continue to grow. You want to continue to
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  head and be on the trajectory of more of that thing, more health,
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  more wealth, more love, more, whatever it is that you're wanting to
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  call in. So that's the ask portion. Believe this is a biggie Okay.
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  This is where a lot of the work comes in. Believe. There's
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  a few steps here, right. Number one, there's the belief that you're
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  worthy of this thing. There's a belief that of course this is going to
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  happen. It's it's just a matter of time, right there's this belief of
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  this something better in perfect timing that you know. This is where the co
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  creator side kind of comes in. That you have a limited understanding of what
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  it is that you want because you're a human in three D reality, and
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  if you believe in a higher power, this energy source, God has a
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  much higher perspective of you and what you're capable of and what you're worthy of,
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  you know. So like this is where we kind of we believe,
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  we believe in our worth, but also we have this kind of well we'll
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  get to the surrender piece in just a second, you know, but yeah,
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  the worthy Like I'm asking for this because I know that, of course
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  I can have it. I know that I'm the type of person to have
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  this thing, you know, And I don't need to have excuses for it.
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  I don't really need to have reasons I'm worthy. Just be as I
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  am. You know. There's like that deep level of belief when you believe
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  on that level. There's also this vibe of that perfect timing that it's coming.
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  I may not see it right here in front of me right now.
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  The car may not be in my garage right now, the partner may not
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  be in the same house, in the bed right now. But I know
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  that he, she, it, whatever the thing is is right around the
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  corner. It's coming, and it's all in perfect divine timing. When you
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  have that level of belief, you're naturally going to act as if do you
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  know what I mean. So there's also this kind of preparation. Well,
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  that's the receiving Okay, let me not get too far ahead of myself.
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  With a certain level of belief, there's going to be a certain level of
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  action that comes with this. So a really good example of this is if
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  I believe that I am capable and worthy of creating the level of business that
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  I want to create and continue to grow into, I'm going to take action
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  toward that. Now. I'm not just going to sit and twiddle my thumbs
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  and take naps all day and not take action toward the thing because I think
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  it's just going to boof pop up, like there's action to this. That's
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  actually part of the receiving mode that we're going to get to. But your
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  belief leads to that, right, it's going to lead you into being somebody
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  that Okay, yes, I believe that I could be one of the top
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  podcasters on the planet. Therefore, I'm going to be consistent. Now I'm
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  going to start taking action as that person. Now, if you didn't have
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  the level of belief that's required in step two of this equation, then you
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  wouldn't be doing those things. Okay, so we already got a little ahead
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  of ourselves. But the step three of this is the receiving mode. This,
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  I think is probably where most people get confused and fall off a little
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  bit because we try and or it's very easy to try and control a little
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  bit too much. And what we don't realize is with our control and with
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  our hyper awareness of our current reality, we're perpetuating that the thing is outside
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  of us. We continue to perpetuate that this thing isn't here. So if
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  I'm acting as if this thing isn't here and this thing is far away from
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  me, then that's the vibe that I am, that's the frequency that I'm
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  at, and I'm going to continue to see that reflected back to me.
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  So to get in receiving mode, there's a few different nuances and things that
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  we can break down here. So number one, receiving mode, it simply
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  means you're ready to receive that thing you have this, Like, I've heard
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  people refer to this as as an excited anticipation. So one of the best
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  analogies that I've heard when people are trying to describe the receiving mode is like
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  when you are at a restaurant and you've put in an order for food.
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  When you've put in your order, you've asked. Now you fully believe that
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  that server is going to go put in your order, and the kitchen staff
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  is going to cook it and they're going to bring it to you within a
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  timely manner. And you're sitting there and your mouth is watering. You're so
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  excited. There's no part of you that's like, oh god, what if
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  it doesn't come. Oh gosh, what if it's wrong? What if I
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  get the wrong one? You know, like, what if it never shows
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  up and I die of hunger? What do I need to put in my
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  order again? Wait? Wait, call the server back over, hold on,
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  let me put in the order for you. I don't think you're doing
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  it right. I think like, let me take full control of this situation.
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  And you know, so like that's I think a very common tendency that
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  a lot of us dip into, which is simply scarcity mode. Right,
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  we try and control too much of this cocreative process. We forget that we're
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  not the sole creators here. We're not alone. We put the order in.
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  Our job is to simply believe and be in the position to receive.
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  So that excited anticipation times. Okay, So coupled with a level of surrender.
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  Okay, there's and this is the missing piece. So the question was
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  what do we do when we have shifted our thoughts and our beliefs and our
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  behaviors, but the results aren't showing up yet? What do we do?
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  This is the surrender piece that so many people forget or do for a very
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  short period of time, and then they get frustrated, right, they think
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  like it should be here by now, it's not happening, and they end
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  up again kind of dipping a little bit into self sabotage because then they start
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  acting more in a scarcity mode versus abundance versus belief that this thing is coming.
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  So this surrender. The best way that I can describe this is this
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  vibe of like, yes, I believe it's coming, I've put the order
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  in, but I'm good either way, right, Like if this order doesn't
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  come by a certain amount of time. I'm not going to starve. I'm
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  good, Like I can go to another restaurant, i can eat what's in
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  the kitchen. Right now. We're good until this thing comes. Do you
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  see what I'm saying. That's where it's like this healthy level of you know,
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  you hear people talk about like one foot in gratitude, one foot and
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  ambition, And that's the best way to put it, because when you're doing
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  that, then you're perpetuating that you're thankful for what it is that you have,
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  which means that you're not without. That's that's what you're perpetuating. You're
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  saying. Of course I want to grow. Of course I'm very excited and
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  I and I'm excitedly anticipating this thing coming. And of course I believe that
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  I'm worthy. But I am no less good, great, badass worthy.
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  I'm no less of a human, of a soul, of a whatever without
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  this thing, with this thing not here, Like, I'm good either way,
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  I'm thankful either way. That right there now you're in this that's like,
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  to me, the ultimate receiving mode. I'm taking action. I'm acting
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  as if I'm doing what I need to do on the path to receive that
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  thing. I fully believe that it's coming, and also I'm not overly concerned
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  with the timing. Also, this is the co creator piece. I have
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  a very limited perspective. My creator knows better than I do. Right,
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  So I may be wishing for this thing and that thing may be all wrong.
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  But if I just hang tight a little bit, or just remain in
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  this this you know, good receiving mode, then the better thing can come.
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  Like how many times have we cried over dudes and pray to God endlessly?
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  God, please please let Bobby love me? Please, God, please
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  just make Bobby Bobby Joel love me. He's so cute. I know he's
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  the one. God, He's he's my husband. I'm gonna have his babies.
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  Please let him love me. I like the way he dresses. He
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  wears cold, like so stupid. How many times have we shed tears and
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  prayed good strong prayers over a dude and you look back now now, I
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  want you to look back and imagine that you married this person? Can you
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  even like I shuddered to think, Thank God for unanswered prayers? Right when
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  I think of the guys I dated that like I thought I wanted to marry
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  once upon a time. I think, like, that's when I understand the
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  saying thank God for unanswered prayers. In that moment, I think that's what's
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  right for me. I think that's what I really want. I think that's
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  what's best for me, and God thank God is like though, calm down,
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  just chill, you will thank me one day. So there's got to
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  be this healthy level of Okay, yes, I've put in my order,
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  and I'm also open to be surprised and delighted with again this or something better
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  and perfect timing. If you can manage that balance, that half half gratitude,
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  half ambition, you know, the gear towards growth, but also contentment.
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  You know. Another way that I put this is like equal parts content,
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  equal parts growth. Minded you can be content and thankful for the life
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  that you have now and also be very excited for what's to come in the
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  next couple of years. That is absolutely possible. And the more that you
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  are able to do that, the more that you are a match for this
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  thing to come in. The more that you have now let down your energetic
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  walls that's trying to over control, and that's consistently perpetuating this vibe of lack
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  the sooner that these things can flow in. Okay, so this is such
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  a great time to have this conversation because is a new year. We've all
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  made our lists, We've all made our vision boards. You know, however
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  you like to call in the new in your life, You've already placed the
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  order. God knows, Source knows there, You know, the universe,
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  it knows, it knows what you want. You don't need to ask again.
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  All you need to do is work on your self worth and your your
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  level of belief that, of course that thing is coming to you. Of
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  course that or something similar is going to happen in your life, and then
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  get in the receiving mode as often as possible. How can you have gratitude
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  for where you are while also being equally excited for what is to come when
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  you nail this, When you nail this, everything changed for the better.
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