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So this is Inspirations for Your Life, guys.
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Our master topic for the week is how
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to let go and level up in series
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five, show 27, and how to let go
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and understand to release those past power moments.
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Series five, show 27, episode number two.
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So welcome, everyone, to Inspirations for Your Life.
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So congratulations on your opening there in Hawthorne.
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So welcome to Inspirations for Your Life.
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Who am I?
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Oh, I'm John C.
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Morley.
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I'm a serial entrepreneur, engineer, marketing specialist, video
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producer, podcast host, coach, keynote speaker, graduate student
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at Montclair State University, a passionate lifelong learner,
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and so grateful now to be a published
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author.
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That's right.
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So today, I continue the journey into letting
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go.
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Not an easy thing for people because many
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people, myself included, when I was younger, you
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always wanted to hold on things tight because
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you thought letting go meant you were losing
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control.
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You actually gain more control when you let
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go.
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But this time, we're going to go even
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deeper if you're ready because letting go is
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not just about removing things from your life,
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guys.
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Nope.
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It is about removing emotional weight and barriers
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from your mind that precludes you from doing
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what you want.
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And that weight is often tied to the
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past.
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Oh, by the way, guys, if you're thirsty
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or hungry, feel free to go grab yourself
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something.
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I have an RO water here with some
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fresh lemon.
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It is yummy.
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Right.
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But you can get something healthy or not.
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That's totally up to you.
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And come on back.
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So our core message today, which is important,
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the past is extremely powerful.
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Not because it defines you, but because it
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influences you when you are not aware of
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it.
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Many people are not stuck in their present
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moment.
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They are stuck in emotional loops from their
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past.
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They don't even know they are.
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And those loops silently shape decisions, reactions, and
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identity.
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So letting go is the process of breaking
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those loops.
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And I know that's hard for a lot
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of people to understand.
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So let's get right into some points that
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I think will help you resonate with all
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this.
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Number one, you cannot move forward while constantly
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looking backward.
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No, you can't do that, guys.
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Direction requires attention, not memory.
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Number two, the past is a chapter, not
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the entire story.
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It is information, not identity.
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Number three, letting go is essential when something
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no longer supports your own growth.
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Retention without purpose creates stagnation.
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Number four, nostalgia can distort reality and slow
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progress down.
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Memory is not always truth.
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We have to remember that.
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Number five, you do not owe your past
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unlimited emotional loyalty.
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Growth requires separation from outdated patterns.
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Number six, forgiveness is mental release, not approval
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of behavior.
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It frees energy without rewriting history.
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Number seven, replaying old moments drains present capacity.
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Attention becomes trapped in repetition.
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Number eight, you are allowed to outgrow previous
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versions of yourself.
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Identity is not fixed.
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Closure is often a decision.
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Number nine, not a conversation.
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You do not always receive external resolution, unfortunately.
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Number 10, learning and dwelling are not the
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same thing.
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One creates growth, the other creates loops.
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Sometimes those loops, we get stuck into them
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infinitely, and we don't even know how we
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got started or we got hooked on them.
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Number 11, old arguments do not deserve new
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emotional energy.
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I know a lot of people that think
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they do, and they wonder why things aren't
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working right.
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Repetition of conflict delays healing.
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And people think it's okay to delay stuff.
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I'm here to tell you if you delay,
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you're going to miss a lot of stuff.
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You're going to be upset because things aren't
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going the right way.
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And that is a very, very big problem
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for a lot of people to actually understand
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what's actually happening.
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So yeah, that's a very, very big one,
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guys, that hopefully you'll pay attention to.
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Number 12, you are allowed to stop explaining
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your past to yourself.
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I know some people are trying to figure
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out why they did something.
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Forget about it.
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Just move on.
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And when you move on, you will be
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a lot better.
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You will be a lot better.
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Overanalysis creates a paralysis, but it also creates
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what I like to say is a delay.
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And that delay seems to fester, seems to
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get worse.
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And it causes us to just not want
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to do anything, not want to change.
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And that's a very, very big problem, guys,
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a very, very big problem, and one that
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I think a lot of people don't realize
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exists.
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But it's a poison that actually basically keeps
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us back from achieving our goals.
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Number 13, guys, resentment acts like a constant
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emotional tax.
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It reduces available mental energy.
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That's number one.
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And when you reduce energy, well, the party
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is basically over, right?
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The party is over.
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And I think that's a problem that many
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people, like, they just don't get.
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They don't understand why that is or why
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that's happening.
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And I want to say it's important to
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understand that, right?
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And know what it means and where it's
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taking you or where it's holding you back
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from.
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Because, see, a lot of the things in
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our life, we don't do, but we don't
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realize why we're not doing it.
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We don't understand the price of something.
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We had somebody speaking today, and he was
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talking about a guy who had gotten a
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very huge award at a large publicly traded
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company.
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And now he's about to step down and
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retire.
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And there are a lot of younger people
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that were up for his position.
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And he says, if you want this position,
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you can have it.
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But I'm going to share the price with
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you that you're going to have to pay
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to get it.
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You're going to have to not learn your
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family's favorite color or their favorite book or
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even their first friend.
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You may miss many firsts, but that's a
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choice you're going to have to make if
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you want this position.
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Because this position is something you need to
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be at all the time.
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A lot of people don't realize the price
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something costs, and it's not a dollar cost.
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It's an experience cost, and that's priceless.
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Number 14, releasing the past creates space for
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the future.
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Letting go, guys, is expansion.
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And when we let go, well, we're able
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to breathe.
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And that breathing allows us to see that
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everything was always there in the past.
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We just never really paid attention to it.
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We never paid attention to it at all.
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And that might sound sad, but I think
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it's because some people don't live a life
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of awareness until they fall into almost a
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burnout.
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Number 15, you are not betraying your history
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by moving forward.
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A lot of people think, oh, well, if
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I don't do this anymore, then my history
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is being sacrificed.
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Nope.
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Evolution is not rejection.
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And I know a lot of people are
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like, well, if I do it this way,
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does that mean I'm disrespecting my grandparents or
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parents or something?
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No, it doesn't.
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So I think when we get into a
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loop of doing things, we're like, well, why
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am I doing it this way, or why
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am I not doing it this way?
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That's an important piece.
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Number 16, some people are meant to remain
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memories, not current roles in your life.
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Not all connections scale forward.
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And that's not something to be sad about.
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Some people will come into your life, and
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they'll stay there forever.
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Some people will come in for a day.
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Some people will come in for a week,
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a month, a year, or more, and leave.
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I think if you understand those things, you're
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going to be like, oh, now I actually
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get it.
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Now I know why this is this way.
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And that's a problem.
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That's a problem.
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And I think there are people out there
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that go seek the ego, because they think
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that's what it's about.
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And they don't realize that by seeking your
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ego, they're actually circumventing trust.
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They're manipulating people in a way that seems
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logical and it seems fair.
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But it's actually an unfair advantage.
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Number 17, guys, your standards can evolve even
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if others do not.
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Growth changes expectations.
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And you've got to learn that up front.
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If you don't understand that, then you're going
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to be very fearful of growing.
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Very fearful of growing.
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And I want to tell you that growing
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can be scary.
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Because one of the biggest things most people
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have a fear of is that they're not
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going to be able to handle it.
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They're not going to be enough.
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You know what the other fear is?
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That they're going to be too much for
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success.
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That they won't be able to handle it.
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So one is that they're not enough for
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it.
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And one is that they're too much.
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And that it won't work with them.
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Number 18, letting go is freedom.
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It's not loss.
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It increases emotional capacity every day.
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And when I ask them to let go,
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they're like, they'd rather do a million other
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things, but they don't want to let go.
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They don't want to let go.
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And I think that's a point that many
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people today don't understand that concept.
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They don't understand why that is happening.
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And that happens, guys, because you're in a
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certain state.
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And that state actually changes how you operate
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in life.
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It's an evolution.
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It's a perception.
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And this comes through a culmination of the
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inputs.
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Things you see, you hear, you touch, you
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taste, you smell.
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Everything creates your perception.
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And your perception, ladies and gentlemen, they create
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reality.
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Number 19, you can keep lessons without keeping
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emotional weight.
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Learning does not require attachment.
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Now, number 20, stop carrying stories that reduce
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your identity and your worth.
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Narratives will shape your behavior every day.
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So if you're hanging on a story and
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the story's not working for you, maybe it's
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time to ditch that story, right?
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And if you can't ditch the story, then
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maybe you've got to change your way.
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And that way might just keep you from
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all the things you've ever wanted in your
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life.
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And that might sound sad, but it really
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makes a difference.
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And that difference is the difference between you
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becoming successful and you not becoming successful.
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It happens by your perceptions, and then your
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perceptions will actually interconnect with your actions that
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you're going to take, your inspired actions, which
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are going to come from your inspired thoughts.
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That's an important thing to understand.
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But many people today don't understand that.
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And I'll say they don't understand it because
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they get scared.
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They get scared of what's happening in their
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life.
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They get scared of the potential that could
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be going on in their life.
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And for whatever reason, they just don't know
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why something is a certain way, right?
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I think that's a hard thing for a
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lot of people to understand.
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They go one way, and then they try
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to change, but then they don't realize what
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got them across the threshold, what got them
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to change their perception in life.
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And until they make that realization, they're never
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going to change.
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They're never going to grow.
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Number 21, the past can guide you, but
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it should not lead you.
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Direction belongs to the present, not the past.
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Number 22, today, release one thought that pulls
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you backward.
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Awareness begins with small actions, micro steps.
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When you start to release things, your life
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gets easier.
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You actually get more control when you release
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things.
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That's a pretty important thing, guys.
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And that means something to a lot of
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people.
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But they don't always understand it day one.
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They go into a loop once, and they
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think they're done.
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But they keep looping.
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It reminds me, if you ever, being an
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Eagle Scout, and I remember when I was
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a Cub Scout, even a Weeblow, we would
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follow the older Scouts, and we'd go around
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a tree.
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And we'd come back a half hour, an
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hour later.
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I think we're at the same tree.
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No, no, no, no, no, no.
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That's a different tree.
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We come back again 20, 30 minutes later.
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That's the same tree.
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No, that's a different tree.
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I said, I have an idea.
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What are you doing?
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I'm tying my scarf around the tree because
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I have a strange hunch this is the
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same tree or a rope.
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So I tied it.
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I think it was a rope I tied
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around the tree.
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I said, well, why are you doing that?
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That's stupid.
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We'll just do it.
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So we came back.
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No, that's a different tree.
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No, that's the same tree.
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I tied a rope around it.
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Oh, I guess we should go this way
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then.
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So you don't realize that your perceptions are
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shaping your direction until you become aware, like
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we did with wasting several hours going around
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that tree.
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Number 23, stop justifying patterns that no longer
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serve you.
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Explanation often delays change, and humans love to
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procrastinate.
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They think it's an easier way, but really,
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guys, it's not easier.
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It becomes harder.
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And I think that's something that a lot
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of people, they don't understand, that it's about
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who you are and what you can become.
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That means a lot, guys.
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That means a lot.
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And I can tell you guys that these
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are things that maybe won't resonate with you
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immediately.
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But I want to tell you that they
20:30
have the potential to change who you are
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and even the people you interact with.
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Number 24, you do not need to win
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old emotional battles.
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Nope.
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Closure is not victory.
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You might think it is.
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It's not victory.
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Number 25, your present life cannot grow inside
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old emotional environments.
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As much as you try, you're going to
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burn a lot of energy, but you're not
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actually going to get anywhere.
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Does that make sense?
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And I can say that it's a little
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bit crazy that people don't understand this.
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They just kind of go a certain way,
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and they don't realize why something is being
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a certain way.
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And that happens because we get comfortable in
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a certain state, and we don't bother to
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explore outside that circle or that state.
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So we figure, let's just stay comfortable, right?
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Let's do what we need to do because
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humans like to stay comfortable.
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And I've told you before that growth does
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not lie in comfortability.
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It lies in discomfort.
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Context matters, guys.
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Number 26, moving lighter allows you to move
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further.
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Less weight increases distance.
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Number 27, you're allowed to restart any time
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in your life or any point in your
22:21
life.
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Reinvention is always available.
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You can hit reset.
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You don't just have to do it on
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Monday or on January 1st.
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That's a myth, okay?
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Or on the first of the month.
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You can reset any time you want.
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Just like you can reset your mileage counter
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in your car any time you want.
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You don't have to reset it at the
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beginning of a trip.
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It makes sense, but you can reset it
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any time you're driving.
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Number 28, letting go is a skill that
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strengthens with practice.
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The first time I was jumping, I had
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to let go.
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It was like, oh my gosh.
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What am I doing?
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Am I killing myself?
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No.
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It feels strange, but when you go with
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it and you realize you get more control,
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it's like, oh wow, I actually get this.
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Emotional discipline is trainable.
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But again, it doesn't happen overnight.
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Number 29, every release is a vote for
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yourself.
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Choices define direction, okay?
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That takes people their entire life sometimes to
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even understand what that even means.
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Number 30, letting go is step one of
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leveling up.
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And that's step two, release creates the path
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forward.
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So many people hold on to things and
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they just don't release them.
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They can, but they don't.
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Before we close out the show, again, I
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want to give that reach out to, it's
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Mama T's in Hawthorne, New Jersey.
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So again, it is a brand new opening.
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In fact, it formerly was a place called
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Iggy's.
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It's at 191 Diamond Bridge Avenue in Hawthorne,
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New Jersey.
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So yeah, you can check it out.
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They have things like Nana Pie.
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They have, well, just fresh mozzarella, plum tomato,
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roasted garlic, fresh basil, looks really good.
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Summer salad, fresh arugula, strawberries, cherry, tomatoes, hot
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honey, roasted pecans.
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They have Seth's Best Sub, which is a
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chicken cutlet, caramelized onions, sauteed jalapenos, and cheddar
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cheese.
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That looks delicious too.
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Then they have things like Dinner on Demand,
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a home-cooked meal.
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Without the hassle, you can pick and basically
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build your own meal, which is kind of
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neat.
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They have things like game day deals, like
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the championship combo, the fam favorite fest, and
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the ultimate watch party pack.
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They have a Mama T's Championship Feast, which
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is three 18-inch plain pizzas, 50 wings,
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12 garlic knots, 25 mozzarella sticks, and 2
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liter sodas for $178.95. Of course, they
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have pizza.
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They have margarita pizza.
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They have gluten-free pizza.
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They have Sicilian pie.
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They have the Gregg, which is a house
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favorite.
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It's plum tomato, mozzarella, pepperoni, and the ricotta
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cheese.
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They have specialty pies like Super Supreme Pizza,
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pepperoni, sausage, peppers, onions, mushrooms, and, of course,
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olives.
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They have a bruschetta pizza, which I'm sure
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you know.
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They have the carne amore pizza, pepperoni, sausage,
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ham, bacon, dipping drizzle sauce, which you can
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get.
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You have Victor's Hawaiian pizza, ham, bacon, pineapple,
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mozzarella.
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They got a Molto Formaggio pizza, a white
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pizza, bianca, no red sauce, ricotta cheese, mozzarella,
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provolone, Romano cheese, which, as they say, is
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recommended, barbecue chicken pizza.
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They have buffalo pizza.
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They have a drunken carbonara pizza.
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They have a drunken paesan.
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They have a make it scampi.
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They have a straight shooter, pepperoni, jalapenos, mozzarella,
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vodka sauce, and dipping sauce, Mamma T's veggies.
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They have a stripped Sicilian, which is Sicilian
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with vodka, pesto, and tomato sauce.
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They have a chicken on the ranch pizza,
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chicken, bacon, ranch pie.
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They have a penne drunken pie, penne vodka
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pizza.
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They have gluten-free available with that, chicken
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parm pie.
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They have appetizers.
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They have a lot of food here, guys.
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I definitely would check it out, and I
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hope that you guys will visit jasonecademy.com,
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fill out the form, and invite us to
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come to your location to do a live
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show.
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So, ladies and gentlemen, here is the truth.
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The past does not disappear on its own.
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Sorry.
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You have to release it.
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You need to choose it.
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You decide when it stops leading your life.
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If you don't decide, it keeps leading, and
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it keeps controlling it.
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And every time you let go of something
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that no longer belongs, you make room for
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something that does.
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Ladies and gentlemen, I am John Seymour, a
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leisure entrepreneur, and this has been Inspirations for
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Your Life, and this is where letting go
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becomes leveling up.
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Now, don't give yourself a hard time if
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you can't let go right away.
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It takes time, right?
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Like when you start swimming, don't expect to
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be a diver overnight or be a great
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breaststroke swimmer overnight or even do the crawl
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stroke overnight.
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Things take time, right?
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You first got to learn how to breathe.
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You got to learn how to crawl before
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you can walk.
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You got to learn how to walk before
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you can run.
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So letting go might be a little of
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a process.
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So I tell you to not get frustrated,
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but enjoy that process.
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Disassociate with things, and when you do, they
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won't have control of you.
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Have yourself a great rest of your day
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or evening.
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I'll catch you guys in another show real
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soon.
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Check out BelieveMeAchieve.com for more of my
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amazing, inspiring creations.
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Be well, everyone.
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Take care.