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- There is a specific kind of silence that happens right after you ruin something beautiful on purpose. It’s not the silence of loss; it’s the silence of release. I want you to picture your hands for a moment. Not just any hands, but the ones that hold the brush, the pen, the chisel. The ones that have tried to capture a feeling and missed. Maybe they’re stiff from tension. Maybe they’re trembling because you’re afraid that this time, it won’t work out. I know that feeling in my bones. For years, I treated every sketch like a verdict on my worth. If the line was crooked, I was broken. If the color was muddy, I was a fraud. This mindset turned my studio into a courtroom where I was both the defendant and the harsh judge. I would stare at a canvas until my eyes watered, waiting for permission to be good enough. But here’s the truth I’m learning now, slowly, like ink spreading on rough paper: perfection is not the goal. Presence is. And sometimes, presence requires us to let go of the thing we think we need to keep. We all know the ugly middle. That phase where the initial excitement has faded, but the final polish is still miles away. It’s messy. It’s awkward. It feels like failure. In my old life, as a graphic designer, I spent hours trying to hide the ugly middle. I’d layer over mistakes, mask them with white paint, or digitally erase them until nothing remained but a sterile, safe surface. But sterility isn’t alive. Life is texture. Life is the grit under your fingernails and the smudge on your cheek. When I started working with clay, I learned that if you try to fix every crack too quickly, the pot collapses later. You have to let it dry. You have to accept its shape, flaws and all. A painting is no different. When a piece feels wrong, our instinct is to defend it. To say, 'It’s abstract,' or 'It’s expressive.' But often, it’s just bad. And admitting that? Admitting that this specific arrangement of pigment is not working? That admission is heavy. It sits in your chest like a stone. But carrying that stone around, pretending it’s a gem, exhausts you. So, what do we do with the stone? Do we carry it forever? Do we put it in a closet and pretend it’s not there? Or do we take it outside? Last week, I had a painting that I had been wrestling with for three weeks. It was supposed to be a landscape, but it looked like a bruised plum. Every time I looked at it, my stomach tightened. I felt trapped by my own inability to make it right. Instead of adding more paint, I did something radical. I took a palette knife and I scraped it off. Not gently. I scraped until the canvas was bare, until the wood frame showed through. The sound was sharp, almost violent. Scratch, scrape, tear. And as I watched the layers come away, I didn’t feel sad. I felt light. My shoulders dropped. The air in the room seemed to expand. There is a profound relief in destroying a failed creation. It is an act of reclaiming your space. It says, 'This does not define me. This is just matter. And I am free to move on.' It’s okay to be unfinished. It’s even better than okay to be unmade. Let’s look closer at that sensation. What’s the texture of that release? Is it like shedding a coat that’s too tight? Is it like taking off shoes after a long walk? For me, it feels like exhaling a breath I didn’t realize I was holding. When I destroy a painting, I am not destroying my creativity. I am clearing the path for it. Think about a garden. You don’t mourn the dead leaves when you rake them up. You see them as compost. You see them as necessary debris that makes room for new growth. Those failed paintings are your compost. They contain the nutrients of what you learned. You learned that blue doesn’t mix well with yellow in that lighting. You learned that your hand shakes when you’re anxious. You learned that you prefer soft edges over hard lines. These are not failures. They are data points. They are lessons written in pigment. By scraping them away, you aren’t erasing the lesson. You’re filing it away so you can use it next time. The painting itself is disposable. The knowledge remains. We live in a world that celebrates the highlight reel. We see the finished gallery piece, the published book, the sold sculpture. We rarely see the pile of scraps underneath. But I want to give you permission to fail loudly. I want you to create things that are intentionally bad. I want you to make messes that you plan to destroy. There is a freedom in knowing that your art doesn’t have to last. Some pieces are meant to exist only for the duration of their making. They are rituals. They are prayers. They are ways of getting the poison out of your system. When you remove the pressure for permanence, you open the door to play. Play is where the magic hides. Play is where you discover your true voice because you’re not performing for an audience. You’re just talking to yourself. And if you say something stupid, who cares? You can wipe it off the table. You can burn it. You can wash it down the drain. The act of destruction becomes a boundary setting. It tells your inner critic, 'You can shout all you want, but I am not keeping this noise.' So, here is an invitation for you. This week, I want you to find one thing you’ve made that you’re unhappy with. It doesn’t have to be a painting. It could be a paragraph you wrote that feels clunky. It could be a song you recorded that sounds hollow. Look at it. Really look at it. Don’t judge it. Just observe it. Ask yourself: what is the story here? Then, decide to let it go. Tear the page. Delete the file. Pour turpentine on the canvas. Make a show of it. Let yourself feel the weight lift. Notice how your body responds. Does your jaw unclench? Do your feet feel lighter? This ritual is not about giving up. It’s about curating your energy. It’s about choosing what stays in your life and what gets recycled. You are the curator of your creative spirit. You get to decide what deserves space. And most days, a failed painting does not deserve space. It deserves to be gone. So let it go. Let it scatter to the winds. Let it become part of the earth again. You are still here. Your hands are still ready. And the next mark you make will be freer because of this. Take care of your hands today. Be gentle with them. And if you need to break something to feel whole again, I hope you have the courage to do it. I’ll be listening for your stories. Until then, keep making, keep breaking, keep breathing. Goodnight.