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Dear Banya: Quite The Kerfluckle · Scrubbing In with Becca Tilley & Tanya Rad

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  Speaker 1: Scrubbing In with Becca Tilly and Tanya rap An iHeartRadio podcast.
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  Speaker 2: Hello, everybody, we are scrubbing in.
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  Speaker 1: Grub a dub dumb the very oily today.
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  Speaker 2: You don't look oily in real life, so I think something.
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  Speaker 2: Maybe your light's given too much.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, it's giving, it's giving too much of what it
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  Speaker 1: needs to be given.
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  Speaker 2: Too much reflection.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, very oily.
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  Speaker 2: No, you're not looking oily.
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  Speaker 1: Thanks. But you know what the difference between a grape
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  Speaker 1: and a raisin is, Well, they say water, but in
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  Speaker 1: this case, I'm gonna go oil. My skin is oily.
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  Speaker 1: Bring it on, baby.
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  Speaker 3: Wow.
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  Speaker 2: Wow, that was impactable. It wasn't right, It wasn't a
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  Speaker 2: right scientific factor, but it makes it.
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  Speaker 1: It makes a powerful punch.
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  Speaker 2: Mm hmmm. A grape and literally the.
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  Speaker 1: Only difference between a juicy, luscious grape and a raisin
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  Speaker 1: is water. Water.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, hydration. That's why our skin can even look like
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  Speaker 2: a raisin or hydrated and plump exactly and juicy exactly.
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  Speaker 3: You know, if you're in southe of California, make sure
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  Speaker 3: you're hydrating because it is hot.
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  Speaker 1: So my biggest sick in the news when I'm watching
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  Speaker 1: the news and They're like, make sure you're drinking your water,
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  Speaker 1: and I'm like, I know.
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  Speaker 2: I can't help it though, Like both Haley and I
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  Speaker 2: do this to each other. We're like one of us
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  Speaker 2: won't be feeling well. It's like, have you drink water,
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  Speaker 2: and we both do it to each other.
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  Speaker 1: Different. That's different. Hot outside and the news man saying,
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  Speaker 1: please bring your water jug.
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  Speaker 2: If I'm not feeling well, there's probably another reason other
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  Speaker 2: than I haven't had enough water.
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  Speaker 1: You know. My new thing that's gonna that I'm gonna
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  Speaker 1: make this this winter.
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  Speaker 2: Look.
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  Speaker 1: So I'm gonna take garlic clothes and I'm gonna put
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  Speaker 1: them in a mason jar and I'm gonna fill it
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  Speaker 1: up with honey. And a pair only has a lot
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  Speaker 1: of medicinal benefits if you're feeling sick.
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  Speaker 3: To like she's an episode of the Tanya Show.
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  Speaker 4: She's in her witch cauldron era.
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  Speaker 1: That's right, That's how my friend gives me. Yeah, you
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  Speaker 1: like take like a spoonful of it if you're feeling sick,
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  Speaker 1: or you can like put it you you just use
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  Speaker 1: it as a honey. But it has it's been like
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  Speaker 1: soaking in the garlic. Since I'm going to do it now.
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  Speaker 3: Tanya said to me earlier. She says, you know, Robbie's
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  Speaker 3: done a lot of stuff for me that you know,
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  Speaker 3: he didn't really want to do necessarily. And I'm like
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  Speaker 3: everything he does, the family meetings, the journals, the taping
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  Speaker 3: your mouth shut that there's a hundred things.
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  Speaker 5: I had to remind her of this, so I you know,
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  Speaker 5: I'm glad we're bringing this up because he likes those
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  Speaker 5: things I was referencing, like a concert here or there
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  Speaker 5: that he doesn't necessarily want to go to, but he
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  Speaker 5: knows I want to that type of stuff.
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  Speaker 1: I'm taping his mouth stud He is happy as a
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  Speaker 1: clam taping.
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  Speaker 3: He never would have done that if not for you.
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  Speaker 1: Thank God for me, because he never eyes. I don't
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  Speaker 1: force him. I don't say here's my mouth tape, take.
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  Speaker 3: Yours in some of these things.
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  Speaker 2: I don't think so I think that he does. He
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  Speaker 2: would have never done it without you, But I think
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  Speaker 2: after doing it, he does enjoy it. Yeah, but I
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  Speaker 2: do think he, Uh, Tanya, finds himself for you and
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  Speaker 2: then he like likes it.
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  Speaker 1: He's thanking God every day on his knees.
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  Speaker 3: He walks in the house and you're and you know,
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  Speaker 3: there's got it like I don't know, your fridge is empty,
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  Speaker 3: there's piles of stuff everywhere, and he's just like, oh boy,
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  Speaker 3: what is it this week? What are we getting into now?
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  Speaker 3: I bet there's got to be a moment of him
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  Speaker 3: be like, okay, I gotta gear up for this.
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  Speaker 1: Man like making that stuff for forty eight hours. He
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  Speaker 1: is me in male form.
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  Speaker 2: I have has made me. I do feel there's been
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  Speaker 2: a switch.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, he's me in a man's body.
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  Speaker 2: No all the way.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, not all emotionally, not all the way now, I
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  Speaker 1: would say one hundred percent, but he's like eighty percent there. Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, y'all are a great match. Yeah. I was laughing
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  Speaker 2: today because so Haley and I now that we're living together,
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  Speaker 2: it's like okay, like who's doing what you know, and
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  Speaker 2: the chores whatnot. And I was thinking about how she
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  Speaker 2: goes it's okay, like today when she was like, it's okay,
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  Speaker 2: it's okay, don't worry, We're gonna get into a routine,
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  Speaker 2: and I was like, yeah, it's hard because not I
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  Speaker 2: feel like typically there's a person in a relationship that's
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  Speaker 2: like the clean, organized person and like that's like their thing.
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  Speaker 2: But neither of us are that.
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  Speaker 6: Way, so it's like, oh, it's chaos, but we have
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  Speaker 6: to be really intentional about it otherwise because like, and
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  Speaker 6: I'm actually grateful because I think if there was one
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  Speaker 6: person who was like more that way, there would be resentment.
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  Speaker 2: You know, we're both just like, oh, you're messy.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, whatever will you do that?
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  Speaker 2: It's like just out in the open. But I feel
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  Speaker 2: like Alison, well, I feel like you're clean, but I
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  Speaker 2: noticed Allison was very.
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  Speaker 4: Allison's much cleaner. Yeah, yeah, and thank god for that.
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  Speaker 2: I'm sorry, but I did. I wanted to make sure
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  Speaker 2: you're alive.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, you have to vacate the room feels bad.
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  Speaker 2: Mark was having a coffee Deack.
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  Speaker 1: And he's still not back yet.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, he's not back. He took his water though.
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  Speaker 1: I think you guys should just divving up the chores.
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  Speaker 1: I'm in charge of this, you're in charge of that, right.
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  Speaker 2: So So what happened was we were leaving for something
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  Speaker 2: over the weekend and I was like, oh my gosh,
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  Speaker 2: hold I have to feed Phoebe because I'm always the
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  Speaker 2: one that feeds Phoebe. And she goes babe, and I'm like,
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  Speaker 2: did you think of Phoebe. Would Phoebe have eaten if
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  Speaker 2: I didn't feed Phoebe? And she's like, okay, So from
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  Speaker 2: now on, I'll do Phoebe's food in the morning. But
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  Speaker 2: this morning it's such a habit for me that I
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  Speaker 2: made Phoebe's food and then she made it again. She
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  Speaker 2: was about to leave and she goes, wait, I gotta
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  Speaker 2: feed Phoebe, and I go I already fed Phoebe and
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  Speaker 2: she's like, that's my chour. It's gonna take some adjustment,
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  Speaker 2: but I'm glad. Everyone's eager, you know, everyone's eager to participate.
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  Speaker 2: That's all I needed.
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  Speaker 1: That's the best thing.
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  Speaker 2: Mark's returned.
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  Speaker 3: I try to be so mindful and demure and just
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  Speaker 3: step out for a moment.
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  Speaker 2: Yea hacking and like it looks like.
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  Speaker 3: A little tickle.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: Well, we couldn't start Dear Bonnie without because we're just
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  Speaker 2: killing the chores, the chores, my chores with my girlfriend
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  Speaker 2: living together. Yeah, it's not great, but I did want.
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  Speaker 1: The way we feed Sonny is like whoever, whoever during
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  Speaker 1: the week when I obviously leave in the morning, so
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  Speaker 1: Robbie does it when I'm not there, and then it's
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  Speaker 1: just whoever wakes up first and goes downstairs feed Sonny.
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  Speaker 2: Well, Phoebe's not an instant, like she doesn't.
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  Speaker 1: Don't they take her time in the morning. Sonny is
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  Speaker 1: like chomping at the bitch.
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  Speaker 2: Just let her like kind of when she walks over
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  Speaker 2: to that area, I'm like, okay, I'll feed her. So
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  Speaker 2: I never have like a specific time, so that's why
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  Speaker 2: I've always just it. But now she Hailey's like, that's
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  Speaker 2: my chore now. So I was like, okay, good luck Phoebe.
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  Speaker 1: Hope you eat eat.
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  Speaker 2: So yeah, but today's episode is a dear bizybanya and uh,
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  Speaker 2: we're so excited because we got some got some some
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  Speaker 2: good stuff in here.
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  Speaker 1: Some good stuff, good good stuff.
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  Speaker 2: I'm good advice emails people seeking advice.
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  Speaker 1: So mark without further redation, Oh, thank you so much.
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  Speaker 3: This is from an anonymous mom to be help. I'm
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  Speaker 3: looking for ideas to make my husband's fortieth birthday special.
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  Speaker 3: At home. We're expecting our first baby two weeks before
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  Speaker 3: his birthday, so I'm not thinking I'll be in any
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  Speaker 3: condition to go out. We'll have a surprise birthday dinner
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  Speaker 3: with the family before the baby comes, but I want
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  Speaker 3: to make sure he feels super special on the actual day.
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  Speaker 3: He's a low key guy and he mostly geeks out
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  Speaker 3: on movies and actors, astronomy and really good coffee. When
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  Speaker 3: I started thinking about what to do for him, I
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  Speaker 3: thought about, how this is right up Tanya's Ali. I'd
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  Speaker 3: love a man's perspective of Mark and Easton too. Thank
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  Speaker 3: you so much for making me, helping me make this
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  Speaker 3: super special for him.
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  Speaker 1: You know what's so interesting. I was just talking to
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  Speaker 1: a friend of mine. Her daughter was born, like I think,
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  Speaker 1: maybe a few days before her birthday, and she's like,
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  Speaker 1: my birthday is no longer existent. It's like all about
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  Speaker 1: the kid, you know. And I was like, that's so.
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  Speaker 1: I guess you don't really care when you're a parent.
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  Speaker 1: It's just like whatever, everything is about the kid. But
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  Speaker 1: I was like, oh, Like I like made a mental note.
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  Speaker 1: I was like, I don't want you know, like, I
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  Speaker 1: want your birthday to still be your birthday. So I
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  Speaker 1: feel like you should make him feel special. The fact
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  Speaker 1: that you said that he's a low key guy, I
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  Speaker 1: feel like he'll like this idea because I've done I
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  Speaker 1: feel like I've done this for Becca, I've done it
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  Speaker 1: for Robbie, and it's always a hit. Where you get
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  Speaker 1: the forty balloons and you write down something that you like,
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  Speaker 1: one thing you love about that person on each balloon,
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  Speaker 1: and you put him in a room so they like
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  Speaker 1: look really cool and cute and they're like sentimental, so
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  Speaker 1: it makes them feel good.
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  Speaker 3: That would make him feel special, no question.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, that's it. That's all.
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  Speaker 2: Oh I have an idea. She said, he loves astronomy.
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  Speaker 2: That's stars, right, Yes, yeah, okay, I was thinking, what
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  Speaker 2: if you got those glow in the dark stars and
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  Speaker 2: you put them all over the ceiling and then you
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  Speaker 2: did a movie night where you watch one of his
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  Speaker 2: favorite movies and had like popcorn and cant like made
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  Speaker 2: it like the stars. Yeah, under the stage.
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  Speaker 1: Each star you could write down your favorite thing about him.
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  Speaker 3: Put their glow in the dark.
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  Speaker 1: Oh, it's just Nick straight out, I love you, you know,
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  Speaker 1: just spitballing here. Yeah, I know.
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  Speaker 2: Well that could be the morning, like yeah, he comes
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  Speaker 2: down and then.
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  Speaker 1: No, no, no, no, okay. The balloons have the glow up
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  Speaker 1: stars on them with the writings on them, so he
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  Speaker 1: reads them all in the morning and then she takes
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  Speaker 1: all the stars, she puts them on the ceiling for
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  Speaker 1: a movie night that night, or they just.
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  Speaker 2: Hang in the air and they glow in the dark
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  Speaker 2: on the blue.
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  Speaker 1: See, these are.
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  Speaker 3: All great ideas. I think they will all make him
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  Speaker 3: feel very special and very very very thoughtful, very thought through.
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  Speaker 3: I was just gonna say, I'm just I'm a simple guy,
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  Speaker 3: and I don't need much. And a lot of times
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  Speaker 3: my wife thinks, oh, he doesn't need any more Brewers
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  Speaker 3: and Packers stuff because he has a million things. That's
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  Speaker 3: all I need, that's all I want, that's all I
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  Speaker 3: care about. I can't get too much of that stuff
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  Speaker 3: because that's what I'm obsessed with. So just whatever his
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  Speaker 3: obsessions are, you might think, oh, he doesn't need another
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  Speaker 3: astronomy thing, get it. He'll love it absolutely. Yes, whatever
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  Speaker 3: he's obsessed with, lean into it.
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  Speaker 1: Woh.
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  Speaker 2: I like, that's that's good to know.
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  Speaker 4: I went to Mark's fiftieth birthday party, and I've never
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  Speaker 4: felt less stress about buying a gift.
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  Speaker 3: For someone so simple.
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  Speaker 4: I was like, this is easy, man.
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  Speaker 3: He got me baseball cards, like a book of cards.
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  Speaker 4: I got you the program for the Brewers game that
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  Speaker 4: was the day you were born.
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  Speaker 3: I think I was not exactly it is nice that's
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  Speaker 3: not exactly why. No, it was like it was like
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  Speaker 3: a it was a bunch of It was a little
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  Speaker 3: book on the players from the seventy one Brewers team. Yes, yes, yes,
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  Speaker 3: that was very nice.
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  Speaker 4: They would have given it out on the game the
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  Speaker 4: day he was born. Oh, it's the game that they
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  Speaker 4: celebrated Mark's birth.
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  Speaker 1: Wow, that's so thoughtful.
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  Speaker 3: It was very thoughtful.
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  Speaker 2: Yes, it was very thought Yeah, that's a great idea
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  Speaker 2: if you want to get him.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, maybe you can find the DVD of the movie
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  Speaker 1: that he were What if you bought him a store, Yes,
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  Speaker 1: you can do that.
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  Speaker 3: You can't do that.
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  Speaker 1: Forty so it's easy.
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  Speaker 3: It's throwing away your money. Like I don't I think
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  Speaker 3: he has an astronomer would know that you don't actually
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  Speaker 3: name you're not actually naming your.
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  Speaker 1: You get the coordinates and everything.
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  Speaker 3: You can name the drop in the ocean, you can
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  Speaker 3: name a grain saying on the beach. It's the same thing.
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  Speaker 3: It's just a certificate. It's just taking your money because.
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  Speaker 2: He's an astronomer. She said, he loves a.
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  Speaker 1: Strong Yeah, oh my gosh, if I have a star
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  Speaker 1: in this sky that was named after me that I'm
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  Speaker 1: not even astronomer.
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  Speaker 4: What about get him a snapshot of what the stars
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  Speaker 4: looked like the night.
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  Speaker 2: He was bad or the day they all met.
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  Speaker 1: Yes, and we're really pushing the astronomy. And and like
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  Speaker 1: the fact that he likes good coffee.
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  Speaker 2: Get him a good cup of coffee.
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  Speaker 1: Oh, my gosh, makes some homemade milk or or almond milk.
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  Speaker 3: Whatever.
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  Speaker 1: His milk.
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  Speaker 2: She's gonna be way too pregnant.
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  Speaker 3: Milk real soon.
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  Speaker 2: Different he can't have that.
• 12:38
  Speaker 1: Can Actually is that breast milk like very healing?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, it's like it's like that's why they encourage you
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  Speaker 2: to if you are stuff. Oh, I don't know, I
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  Speaker 2: think it is.
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  Speaker 1: I think that's like a lot of healing property.
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  Speaker 2: I thought about Robbie wrapping his burn and his own
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  Speaker 2: skin way too many times. It's the podcast. I gotta
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  Speaker 2: be honest.
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  Speaker 4: I had Blissfulee gotten that.
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  Speaker 2: Thinking about a NonStop he had.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, so he burned. He was making me soup and
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  Speaker 1: he went to go pour it into the bowl and
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  Speaker 1: he went all over his hands. So he got a
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  Speaker 1: second degree burned on.
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  Speaker 3: His finger, like hot fingers. Se I was.
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  Speaker 1: Like, but it was a huge blister that like appeared
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  Speaker 1: on his finger like so like on top right, like
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  Speaker 1: a big giant one. So he uh, he got it drained,
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  Speaker 1: the blister drained, and then you leave the skin. You
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  Speaker 1: don't like peel the skin off. You see that skin
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  Speaker 1: as its own band aid. That's what he did. It's
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  Speaker 1: not as gross.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, I thought you were. Actually he caught his skin
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  Speaker 2: and then wrapped it around there. I loved it.
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  Speaker 1: He loved his skin on, and then it was starting
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  Speaker 1: to peel up, and then he had to kind of
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  Speaker 1: peel it back down.
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  Speaker 2: And I don't need more details.
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  Speaker 1: Skin. Skin makes the best band aid for your skin.
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  Speaker 1: So if you're ever out there and you're wondering what's
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  Speaker 1: the best band they.
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  Speaker 3: Take off that skin. It's just super red and raw.
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  Speaker 1: Correct, so you can get a band aid, like you're saying,
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  Speaker 1: right right, yeah, fair enough is the best band aid.
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  Speaker 3: Shall we move on to another one?
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  Speaker 2: Options? Yeah, maybe wake him up with his favorite couple
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  Speaker 2: of jobby well that or his favorite and then his
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  Speaker 2: favorite couple.
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  Speaker 3: Something sexual is never not going to be.
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  Speaker 2: Two weeks before giving birth. I just can't imagine. Her
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  Speaker 2: gag reflex is off the charts.
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  Speaker 1: Your gag reflex is that bad and that pregnant.
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  Speaker 2: I imagine everything is gaggy when you're that pregnant.
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  Speaker 4: Shall have had the kid for two weeks.
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  Speaker 2: Thoughts before, two weeks before, we're.
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  Speaker 4: Expecting two weeks before his birthday. Kid in one hand.
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  Speaker 2: This. We're gonna have to ask for some help for
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  Speaker 2: some of these ideas we've given. Yeah, we need a
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  Speaker 2: friend or a parent to come over. Yeah, there are
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  Speaker 2: some good, good options in there. And congratulations, we're so
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  Speaker 2: happy for you.
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  Speaker 3: We didn't take a break after. I'm not going to
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  Speaker 3: have you do me like you did on Monday.
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  Speaker 1: So let's take a break scrubbing.
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  Speaker 3: Sorry, wrong button, Sorry, all.
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  Speaker 2: Right, we're back. Break one, done, done, Moving on to
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  Speaker 2: anonymous number two.
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  Speaker 3: Here we go, Everyone's and no, I'm you know I
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  Speaker 3: put these on there because everyone's anonymous nowadays.
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  Speaker 2: Not true.
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  Speaker 1: We're going to get to Aaron at the end.
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  Speaker 3: Hi, Becca and Tanya parenthetically and Marcaniston. That's us, easty
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  Speaker 3: were the parentheticals?
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  Speaker 4: All right, we made it.
• 15:46
  Speaker 3: I've been a scrubber since day one. Thanks for bringing
• 15:48
  Speaker 3: sunshine to so many people's days and for showing up
• 15:51
  Speaker 3: every week to provide us with episodes. My husband and
• 15:53
  Speaker 3: I have these friends we'll call them Derek and Meredith.
• 15:56
  Speaker 3: A few years ago, they came to our friends giving
• 15:58
  Speaker 3: and hit it off with another couple we invited. A
• 16:01
  Speaker 3: week later, I saw on Instagram that they hung out
• 16:03
  Speaker 3: with that other couple without us, And then over the
• 16:06
  Speaker 3: next few months, Derek and Mereth seemed to steal every
• 16:09
  Speaker 3: friend we introduced them to and excluded us from events.
• 16:13
  Speaker 3: This pattern happened with three other couples we knew, and
• 16:17
  Speaker 3: it really started to upset us. A few months ago,
• 16:20
  Speaker 3: I talked to Meredith about it, and she apologized said
• 16:22
  Speaker 3: it wasn't their intention to hurt us. Despite this, the
• 16:24
  Speaker 3: pattern continues with excuses like it was a dog's birthday
• 16:28
  Speaker 3: party and you don't have a dog, or oh, I
• 16:30
  Speaker 3: thought you were out of town. Eventually, I decided to
• 16:34
  Speaker 3: pull myself out of these uncomfortable situations. Meredith noticed the
• 16:37
  Speaker 3: distance and said, what's wrong. I shared my feelings and
• 16:39
  Speaker 3: she ended up crying. I told her I'd be happy
• 16:41
  Speaker 3: to stay friends, but I no longer feel comfortable being
• 16:44
  Speaker 3: part of the larger friend group. My question is, am
• 16:47
  Speaker 3: I weird to feel this way? I'm not sure how
• 16:49
  Speaker 3: to move forward with his friendship. But it also puts
• 16:51
  Speaker 3: me in a weird spot with the other couples. Since
• 16:53
  Speaker 3: now it comes off as I'm causing drama, how would
• 16:56
  Speaker 3: you move forward with it? Any advice would be so appreciated.
• 16:59
  Speaker 3: Thank you all.
• 17:02
  Speaker 2: So she's basically just saying she's fine to stay friends
• 17:04
  Speaker 2: with Meredith, but that doesn't need to be friends with
• 17:06
  Speaker 2: all the other people as a group.
• 17:09
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm confused on the question.
• 17:12
  Speaker 2: She doesn't want to feel she said, The question.
• 17:14
  Speaker 1: Is am I weird to feel this way? The question is, no,
• 17:18
  Speaker 1: You're not weird because you feel that type of way,
• 17:20
  Speaker 1: so your feelings are always valid. However, I'm not really
• 17:25
  Speaker 1: sure how to get you out of this curm fluckle
• 17:28
  Speaker 1: because quite the curf fluckle, because at the end of
• 17:33
  Speaker 1: the day, you were just a kerfuffle.
• 17:35
  Speaker 2: It's a curve fuckle.
• 17:36
  Speaker 1: It's her. Is that the word is kerfluffle?
• 17:38
  Speaker 2: Her?
• 17:39
  Speaker 1: What is it?
• 17:40
  Speaker 2: Isn't it kerfluffle?
• 17:42
  Speaker 3: K is a very.
• 17:48
  Speaker 1: It's it's an interesting one. And I think that at
• 17:51
  Speaker 1: the end of the day, you have to take people
• 17:54
  Speaker 1: as they are. And I feel like Derek and Meredith
• 18:00
  Speaker 1: this might just be maybe they wanted to hang out
• 18:02
  Speaker 1: with couples, you know. Two on two they like doing
• 18:06
  Speaker 1: the double day thing. They don't want to do bigger things.
• 18:09
  Speaker 1: Maybe they don't obviously they're not seeing that it's like
• 18:12
  Speaker 1: hurting your feelings. I just think you have to take
• 18:14
  Speaker 1: people as they are. I feel like it's going to
• 18:17
  Speaker 1: help you feel more settled in yourself and it's going
• 18:20
  Speaker 1: to help you feel more settled in this situation because
• 18:22
  Speaker 1: I think at the end of the day, like we
• 18:24
  Speaker 1: all try to control other people circumstances, situations, outcomes, and
• 18:29
  Speaker 1: you just can't. You just can't.
• 18:32
  Speaker 2: I also think sometimes especially when you're in a group
• 18:34
  Speaker 2: setting and you're married and there's like couples, people will
• 18:38
  Speaker 2: connect and have interest outside of what you connected with
• 18:43
  Speaker 2: them on, you know what I'm saying. So like, right,
• 18:45
  Speaker 2: they came to your friends giving and there was another
• 18:47
  Speaker 2: couple there that maybe they were like, oh my gosh,
• 18:49
  Speaker 2: like we are literally the same people and we have
• 18:51
  Speaker 2: the same interests and we should do something together. And
• 18:53
  Speaker 2: then it happens, and it like sucks because it sucks
• 18:57
  Speaker 2: to see people that you introduced hanging out without you
• 19:01
  Speaker 2: as the connector. But I also think it's okay for
• 19:04
  Speaker 2: people to want to do that, and I think you're
• 19:06
  Speaker 2: valid to like want to exclude yourself, and I don't
• 19:08
  Speaker 2: think you're having drama. I think you can just be like, yeah,
• 19:11
  Speaker 2: I just I do better one on one.
• 19:13
  Speaker 1: And I don't like the big way I'm making It's
• 19:15
  Speaker 1: making me feel.
• 19:16
  Speaker 2: The big group settings are just like not my thing.
• 19:19
  Speaker 1: But I also think too when you said, like the
• 19:21
  Speaker 1: excuses it's a dog party and you don't have a dog,
• 19:24
  Speaker 1: like I would. I would never think to invite a
• 19:26
  Speaker 1: friend that didn't have a dog to my dog's party, right, So,
• 19:31
  Speaker 1: like I understand the Meredith and Derek's I know, I know,
• 19:35
  Speaker 1: but that was the one she chose, which to me
• 19:37
  Speaker 1: seems valid, like I just would never, like I just
• 19:41
  Speaker 1: would never think to do that, you know what I mean?
• 19:44
  Speaker 2: But I think Meredith might be totally aloof because it
• 19:47
  Speaker 2: seems she noticed when you were more distant, like she
• 19:50
  Speaker 2: picked up on it. She would she didn't ignore your
• 19:52
  Speaker 2: distance and asked you about it and then listen to
• 19:56
  Speaker 2: you and she cried. So I mean, to me, I
• 19:58
  Speaker 2: feel like Meredith isn't like a villain or trying to
• 20:01
  Speaker 2: be malicious. I think it's just maybe just being a
• 20:04
  Speaker 2: little like aloof about your feelings, right, And I think
• 20:09
  Speaker 2: that if you feel better not being a part of
• 20:12
  Speaker 2: the group settings or putting yourself in that situation. Again,
• 20:14
  Speaker 2: that's totally valid and you're fine. You're not dramatic for that. Yo.
• 20:20
  Speaker 2: Y'all have like a couple of friends, right like people
• 20:23
  Speaker 2: that have have you introduced, people that have hung out
• 20:25
  Speaker 2: without you or had that experience.
• 20:27
  Speaker 1: I know, I was trying to put myself in this
• 20:28
  Speaker 1: situation and I can't.
• 20:31
  Speaker 3: I've had like solo friends that I've that have met
• 20:34
  Speaker 3: through me and then they hang out together, and I
• 20:36
  Speaker 3: think that's neat. I think that's kind of Yeah. I
• 20:37
  Speaker 3: always like, oh, I'm the reason that those two are
• 20:39
  Speaker 3: together right now.
• 20:41
  Speaker 4: And Spider Man teaming up.
• 20:42
  Speaker 1: Yeah exactly, it's like Wolverine and Deadpool.
• 20:45
  Speaker 4: Yes exactly. It's like, yeah, it's fun. I like that
• 20:48
  Speaker 4: soot Yeah, so impressed. I feel like I've been this
• 20:53
  Speaker 4: person before, like where like I've met someone through a
• 20:56
  Speaker 4: different friend that we end up hanging out with those
• 20:58
  Speaker 4: friends a lot and not the person and introduced us,
• 21:01
  Speaker 4: and uh, sometimes I feel bad, but also uh like like,
• 21:05
  Speaker 4: for example, we had some friends named Trish and Dylan.
• 21:08
  Speaker 4: They introduced me to David. David rides bikes. He got
• 21:11
  Speaker 4: me and riding bikes. I ride back to him all
• 21:12
  Speaker 4: the time. We don't hang out with the other people
• 21:14
  Speaker 4: as much because they were my neighbors. Now they moved away.
• 21:17
  Speaker 4: No one's there. I don't know, like it's not weird.
• 21:19
  Speaker 4: No one's ever like said anything. I don't know. It's
• 21:23
  Speaker 4: just how it's just how things go sometimes. I guess.
• 21:25
  Speaker 5: I don't know.
• 21:26
  Speaker 4: It's not really good advice. But but if.
• 21:28
  Speaker 3: You feel like you're being excluded and that sucks, yeah, no.
• 21:30
  Speaker 1: Feelings are valid.
• 21:31
  Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, yeah.
• 21:33
  Speaker 1: What were you going to say speaking of Sunny's birthday
• 21:35
  Speaker 1: parties November?
• 21:36
  Speaker 2: No, thank you.
• 21:39
  Speaker 3: It's a long time from now.
• 21:40
  Speaker 1: It's a Sunday.
• 21:42
  Speaker 3: I mean just coming up, all right, next one. I
• 21:46
  Speaker 3: don't know if we answered that one or not, but
• 21:48
  Speaker 3: here we go from anonymous. I've been with my boyfriend
• 21:50
  Speaker 3: a little over four years. Wait, where are the softball one? Okay,
• 21:55
  Speaker 3: spoiler alert. We live together and have a dog together.
• 21:58
  Speaker 3: Every summer, he plays in a softball league to four
• 22:00
  Speaker 3: nights a week. These evenings include one to two games
• 22:02
  Speaker 3: and then hanging out for hours after the game is
• 22:04
  Speaker 3: drinking beers with friends. About a month ago, everyone went
• 22:07
  Speaker 3: to the bar after one of the games, but I
• 22:09
  Speaker 3: didn't know about that until about a week later when
• 22:11
  Speaker 3: one of the wives told me they all went to
• 22:13
  Speaker 3: the bar.
• 22:13
  Speaker 1: Oh.
• 22:14
  Speaker 3: So I was frustrated and said, I didn't know this
• 22:15
  Speaker 3: information and my boyfriend didn't tell me. I made it
• 22:18
  Speaker 3: clear that I want to know this information at the moment,
• 22:20
  Speaker 3: even if I already went to bed. Last night, same
• 22:23
  Speaker 3: thing happened. He went to the game, went to the bar,
• 22:26
  Speaker 3: didn't tell me until eleven PM when I asked him
• 22:28
  Speaker 3: where he could possibly be. It's not being at the
• 22:31
  Speaker 3: bar that bothers me. It's the not telling me what's
• 22:33
  Speaker 3: going on when he's out and about. He came home
• 22:36
  Speaker 3: drunk and said that he gets nervous telling me things
• 22:39
  Speaker 3: because he knows I'm going to be mad regardless of
• 22:41
  Speaker 3: if he tells me or if he doesn't tells me.
• 22:43
  Speaker 3: Tell me. I tried to make it clear that I
• 22:45
  Speaker 3: wouldn't be mad if he just told me, but I
• 22:47
  Speaker 3: don't think he gets it. How do I set a
• 22:49
  Speaker 3: clear boundary and stick to it. I don't want to
• 22:51
  Speaker 3: be a naggy girlfriend, but I won't continue a relationship
• 22:54
  Speaker 3: like this.
• 22:56
  Speaker 2: I this is so. This is a very difference to suation.
• 23:00
  Speaker 2: But Haley and I had this time in our relationship
• 23:03
  Speaker 2: where she would not tell me things that she didn't
• 23:09
  Speaker 2: find important out of fear that maybe I would have
• 23:13
  Speaker 2: a reaction to it, And so we would go in
• 23:16
  Speaker 2: the circle because I'd be like, why didn't you just
• 23:19
  Speaker 2: tell me? Because now I'm more upset that you didn't
• 23:21
  Speaker 2: just tell me and I wouldn't have been upset, and
• 23:24
  Speaker 2: She's like, but I was scared that you would be upset.
• 23:26
  Speaker 2: So we had to like set this boundary of being safe,
• 23:29
  Speaker 2: a safe space for both of us because she had
• 23:32
  Speaker 2: to make me feel safe by being upfront and honest
• 23:35
  Speaker 2: with me and letting me know certain things, especially if
• 23:38
  Speaker 2: it was like a sensitive time, and then I had
• 23:41
  Speaker 2: to give her the benefit of the doubt of not
• 23:44
  Speaker 2: being upset if she told me. So I think it's
• 23:47
  Speaker 2: setting the boundary of like, hey, I will work on
• 23:51
  Speaker 2: I don't want to be the naggy girlfriend, but that
• 23:53
  Speaker 2: is a boundary that's important to me. If you're gonna
• 23:55
  Speaker 2: go out and drink, I would just as your girlfriend
• 23:57
  Speaker 2: and someone who wants to know that you're safe, so
• 24:00
  Speaker 2: that I know what you're are where you are. I
• 24:02
  Speaker 2: don't care if you go without me. I don't care
• 24:04
  Speaker 2: what you're doing. I just want to know. And I
• 24:06
  Speaker 2: think that's out of respect and being in a relationship.
• 24:10
  Speaker 1: It is the approach to it because I will say, like,
• 24:14
  Speaker 1: I feel like, maybe, Anonymous, you aren't really telling us
• 24:18
  Speaker 1: how exactly you are reacting to the situation. And I
• 24:21
  Speaker 1: give you full credit to do so because I do
• 24:24
  Speaker 1: the same thing. I can sometimes my sentiment is is good,
• 24:30
  Speaker 1: and like my feelings and everything that I'm saying is valid.
• 24:33
  Speaker 1: My approach to it is can come off very naggy
• 24:37
  Speaker 1: or like annoying or it's it's always in the approach.
• 24:41
  Speaker 1: So and like I've learned this through my therapist because
• 24:43
  Speaker 1: she's like, the the sentiment and the things and your
• 24:47
  Speaker 1: ideas and what you want is very totally normal. It's
• 24:51
  Speaker 1: the way that you approach it that makes people that
• 24:54
  Speaker 1: makes him feel like attacked. And so I would kind
• 24:58
  Speaker 1: of like, look at how you you are communicating these
• 25:03
  Speaker 1: things to him, because again, what you're saying is totally
• 25:05
  Speaker 1: valid and totally he should be respecting you. And if
• 25:09
  Speaker 1: all you want is to keep you in the loop,
• 25:11
  Speaker 1: like it's very easy to do. But there's he had
• 25:13
  Speaker 1: He's saying there's a reason why he's not doing that,
• 25:16
  Speaker 1: So I would kind of maybe try and approach it
• 25:18
  Speaker 1: in a different in a different way, say it in
• 25:21
  Speaker 1: a different manner.
• 25:22
  Speaker 2: You're so right. If it's coming across a tackie, he's
• 25:25
  Speaker 2: never gonna feel safe to tell you.
• 25:27
  Speaker 3: He's probably right. And why aren't you going to the
• 25:29
  Speaker 3: softball games? Because I think it's the same group of
• 25:31
  Speaker 3: people at the games. Are then moving to the bar?
• 25:33
  Speaker 1: Right, And if she don't want to go to a
• 25:35
  Speaker 1: week I don't want to go either. I like buy
• 25:38
  Speaker 1: have fun, but I would like to know when you're
• 25:41
  Speaker 1: coming home or like, you know, just kind of update
• 25:43
  Speaker 1: me and then I'll text you, hey, I'm going to sleep.
• 25:45
  Speaker 1: And then by that came good.
• 25:47
  Speaker 2: Night, Yeah yeah.
• 25:49
  Speaker 1: Samuel kissy emoji, and we're all good funny.
• 25:55
  Speaker 2: I would give anything to be in bed with you,
• 25:57
  Speaker 2: caressing your face as you drift into a dreamland. This
• 26:00
  Speaker 2: is what Tanya would want to hear. I would give
• 26:02
  Speaker 2: anything to be there, but instead I'm at this gross
• 26:05
  Speaker 2: dingy bar.
• 26:06
  Speaker 1: This morning, he said, you're the air and my lugs
• 26:11
  Speaker 1: because he saw this like TikTok, and it was like,
• 26:14
  Speaker 1: what what I want? What my partner says to me,
• 26:18
  Speaker 1: and it's like, hey, babe, I'm gonna get my old
• 26:20
  Speaker 1: change be back in thirty or whatever. This is what
• 26:22
  Speaker 1: she wants me to say. Hey, babe, I really hate
• 26:25
  Speaker 1: to leave you, and I don't want to leave. You know.
• 26:27
  Speaker 1: If somebody could change my ol for me like I
• 26:29
  Speaker 1: would want, I would welcome it. But I have to go.
• 26:32
  Speaker 1: And since I have to go, I'm gonna be thinking
• 26:34
  Speaker 1: about you every minute of every second that I'm gone.
• 26:37
  Speaker 1: I cannot wait to come back and see you again.
• 26:39
  Speaker 1: I was like, yeah, there we.
• 26:41
  Speaker 2: Go, Yeah, yeah, step it.
• 26:44
  Speaker 1: Up, which is actually so dark because he's wonderful.
• 26:50
  Speaker 2: Yeah, no, I think that's just I was laughing. Hey,
• 26:53
  Speaker 2: I was laughing because I was like, this is so sick.
• 26:55
  Speaker 2: That's that is like.
• 26:56
  Speaker 1: How And then and then just to top it off,
• 26:59
  Speaker 1: to to put some salt in the wound that night,
• 27:02
  Speaker 1: I'm going to sleep, right. It was like I was
• 27:04
  Speaker 1: in bed and she was facetiming Haley in the kitchen
• 27:06
  Speaker 1: and I hear Haley say like, Babe, you're my best
• 27:09
  Speaker 1: friend and I'm and I miss you so much, I know,
• 27:14
  Speaker 1: and I'm like, this is what I was for.
• 27:17
  Speaker 2: I was trying. There's this trend on TikTok whets like
• 27:20
  Speaker 2: I'm going to say everything twice, like you repeat everything
• 27:23
  Speaker 2: twice that you say and see if your friend or
• 27:25
  Speaker 2: partner notices. So we were in bed and I was
• 27:28
  Speaker 2: doing it and you can just see my face, and
• 27:30
  Speaker 2: so I'm like starting, I'm like saying things twice and
• 27:34
  Speaker 2: she goes into this rant. She was like, Babe, I'm
• 27:37
  Speaker 2: just beaming with love for you. I love you so much.
• 27:40
  Speaker 2: You're my favorite person. It's the cutest thing ever. Because
• 27:43
  Speaker 2: I got her like I'm trying to do this brank
• 27:45
  Speaker 2: and I'm like dying a lot. She's not catching on
• 27:49
  Speaker 2: to everything I'm saying. And I was like, Tanya would
• 27:51
  Speaker 2: love this. This is literally the dream. I love it too.
• 27:56
  Speaker 2: It's shocking. I love it.
• 27:57
  Speaker 1: Yeah, it's just so, it's so it only from Haley
• 28:00
  Speaker 1: because when I'm texting you.
• 28:02
  Speaker 2: Yeah, it does have its limits. Yeah, well then.
• 28:10
  Speaker 1: Shall we do erin?
• 28:11
  Speaker 3: Not yet?
• 28:12
  Speaker 2: Oh yeah, we need one more. We need one more
• 28:14
  Speaker 2: before aaron.
• 28:15
  Speaker 3: Another break to Oh my god, here we go. That's
• 28:36
  Speaker 3: a cute. Anonymous Dear Banya high scrubbing in gang. First
• 28:40
  Speaker 3: of all, love all of you. Just came back from
• 28:42
  Speaker 3: a trip and bingaged the podcast on my thirteen hour flight,
• 28:46
  Speaker 3: and it made the flight easier to get through. Wow,
• 28:48
  Speaker 3: there's a lot of scrubbing in right there. Really simple
• 28:51
  Speaker 3: ask of a question for advice, How do I have
• 28:55
  Speaker 3: just a great makeout session? I sometimes just want a healthy,
• 29:00
  Speaker 3: long make out session with my boyfriend, But five minutes in,
• 29:04
  Speaker 3: he always wants to do more, he says, as you
• 29:06
  Speaker 3: take that as a compliment that I turn him on.
• 29:08
  Speaker 3: But for me, I'm good with just the kissing sometimes.
• 29:11
  Speaker 3: Thanks for keeping me company on my plane ride.
• 29:16
  Speaker 1: You know, one man's pie is another man's pleasure. Because
• 29:21
  Speaker 1: it's like someone out there might be saying, how can
• 29:24
  Speaker 1: I get my guy to boink me more? You know?
• 29:27
  Speaker 4: Sure?
• 29:27
  Speaker 1: Yeah, so it's so interesting, it's so interesting. Life is
• 29:32
  Speaker 1: so interesting, right.
• 29:33
  Speaker 2: But what's what's your advice? Just to her?
• 29:36
  Speaker 3: Why?
• 29:36
  Speaker 1: I mean, to me, the more the merrier, So I'd
• 29:38
  Speaker 1: be like, welcome.
• 29:40
  Speaker 3: You're like the escalation.
• 29:41
  Speaker 1: Yeah, like I'm I'm I am her boyfriend in this
• 29:45
  Speaker 1: Yeah you are, yeah, taking any time any place. But yeah,
• 29:51
  Speaker 1: I don't know. I don't know how to answer that.
• 29:53
  Speaker 7: Well.
• 29:53
  Speaker 2: I feel like maybe the guys can answer, because I
• 29:55
  Speaker 2: feel like I think that they're well. I was gonna
• 29:58
  Speaker 2: say different for guys, because like you know, if they
• 30:03
  Speaker 2: get turned on there, like.
• 30:04
  Speaker 1: Right, their wand wands can't.
• 30:06
  Speaker 2: Just collapse their mental wand.
• 30:08
  Speaker 1: Magic wand Oh can't just collapse.
• 30:11
  Speaker 2: I mean it can it will.
• 30:13
  Speaker 1: Isn't that painful?
• 30:14
  Speaker 3: No, that's not it. That's a myth.
• 30:15
  Speaker 1: Oh my god, I thought it was painful.
• 30:17
  Speaker 3: No, it comes, it goes by the way. By the
• 30:19
  Speaker 3: way it comes, It goes randomly. It comes, it goes
• 30:22
  Speaker 3: for no particular reasons, such a fascinating thing with the
• 30:29
  Speaker 3: wand in the morning. It doesn't mean we were dreaming
• 30:31
  Speaker 3: about sex.
• 30:32
  Speaker 1: That's that's what you Okay, Yeah, it does. I mean
• 30:36
  Speaker 1: something was going on that head.
• 30:37
  Speaker 3: It means absolutely nothing.
• 30:39
  Speaker 4: It's a it's a it's function that involves blood flow.
• 30:42
  Speaker 4: That's what.
• 30:43
  Speaker 3: It's a circuity.
• 30:44
  Speaker 1: I thought that it hurt if you if the magic
• 30:46
  Speaker 1: wand it's like, let's say the umbrella opened. I always
• 30:50
  Speaker 1: thought if it didn't, if the umbrella didn't.
• 30:52
  Speaker 2: Uh, I don't think you're gonna get it.
• 30:56
  Speaker 1: If the umbrella didn't shelter you from the rain and
• 31:00
  Speaker 1: you just put it back down. That I thought it
• 31:03
  Speaker 1: was hurt.
• 31:03
  Speaker 3: You know that the blue balls thing is a myth
• 31:06
  Speaker 3: that guys have used to guilt you with having sex
• 31:09
  Speaker 3: with them.
• 31:09
  Speaker 1: That's so gross.
• 31:11
  Speaker 4: Yeah, there was a post in the Facebook group about
• 31:13
  Speaker 4: blue balls and it made me so mad.
• 31:15
  Speaker 2: Because he was comparing to period.
• 31:23
  Speaker 3: Yeah, not only is it not comparable, that doesn't hurt,
• 31:26
  Speaker 3: there's no pain whatsoever.
• 31:28
  Speaker 2: And they're so nice, girls are like, well you know
• 31:30
  Speaker 2: his feeling. Can we not for a day?
• 31:37
  Speaker 1: You'd be crying like a baby in pain.
• 31:40
  Speaker 4: Yeah, Like it makes me so sorry. That sets me up.
• 31:45
  Speaker 2: I just feel like there should be like, I guess
• 31:47
  Speaker 2: what what wohen it hurts your feelings that that? Like
• 31:50
  Speaker 2: if Alice was like I just want to make out
• 31:52
  Speaker 2: nothing more, what could she say that didn't make you
• 31:55
  Speaker 2: feel rejected? I guess.
• 31:59
  Speaker 4: I'm trying to think because I don't know. I do
• 32:02
  Speaker 4: TM I here, but uh, there was a period in
• 32:04
  Speaker 4: my life where I was like this dude, you know,
• 32:06
  Speaker 4: like it started making out and it's like, oh yeah,
• 32:08
  Speaker 4: you there's a goal here, right, But then something just
• 32:12
  Speaker 4: clicked and I like prefer making out to the other
• 32:16
  Speaker 4: stuff often like it's it's it's to me. They're very
• 32:20
  Speaker 4: different experiences and I don't know, I don't know how
• 32:25
  Speaker 4: to make that like I don't know how to say
• 32:26
  Speaker 4: that too, you know, like like because.
• 32:32
  Speaker 1: I don't know.
• 32:32
  Speaker 4: If someone said to me, like I just want to
• 32:33
  Speaker 4: make out like I I like to think that I
• 32:35
  Speaker 4: would interpret it as like, oh, well, we just want
• 32:37
  Speaker 4: to You just want to enjoy this longer, you know,
• 32:39
  Speaker 4: like you just want to have that type of connection
• 32:43
  Speaker 4: on a different level. But like I think if I
• 32:44
  Speaker 4: was a younger man of bick, oh man, it's just
• 32:47
  Speaker 4: like me, you know, That's what I would think.
• 32:48
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't think I feel rejected because the fact
• 32:51
  Speaker 3: that she wants to make out with me is a
• 32:53
  Speaker 3: compliment in itself, Like I would feel wanted by that,
• 32:56
  Speaker 3: so I feel rejected. I think my best advice for
• 32:59
  Speaker 3: her in this situation with this guy who clearly wants
• 33:01
  Speaker 3: descilate things is to find situations where you don't have
• 33:04
  Speaker 3: a choice, Like perhaps the first day of your period,
• 33:09
  Speaker 3: and you have a rule that nothing happens on the
• 33:10
  Speaker 3: first day of your period, Maybe that's the day to
• 33:13
  Speaker 3: make out.
• 33:14
  Speaker 1: One day a month, I mean, better than zero.
• 33:17
  Speaker 2: Days having a conversation of like I love yeah, pretty
• 33:21
  Speaker 2: part of this relationship sometimes, Like I know, I take
• 33:26
  Speaker 2: it as a compliment that you always want to move
• 33:28
  Speaker 2: forward after we make out. But sometimes for me, I
• 33:31
  Speaker 2: just want it to be a makeout and then cuddle
• 33:34
  Speaker 2: or you know, and not be it. And it doesn't
• 33:37
  Speaker 2: mean that I don't want you. It's just it's just
• 33:39
  Speaker 2: what I need. And I would hope.
• 33:41
  Speaker 1: That's very valid. I think like a lot of times
• 33:43
  Speaker 1: too in relationships, somebody wants to have sex more than
• 33:46
  Speaker 1: the other person and you just meet in the middle.
• 33:48
  Speaker 2: That's what I'm saying. I think it's just like how again,
• 33:50
  Speaker 2: it's the approach of like not making him feel because
• 33:52
  Speaker 2: he's going to be sensitive about it, and let him
• 33:55
  Speaker 2: know that you feel so wanted and it's flattering to
• 33:58
  Speaker 2: you that he wants it to go beyond. But sometimes
• 34:01
  Speaker 2: you just want a good old fashioned makeout and nothing more.
• 34:03
  Speaker 3: It'll say great, I agree, that sounds great, and then
• 34:06
  Speaker 3: when it happens he's going to change his mind.
• 34:09
  Speaker 1: Well we can cross that bridge.
• 34:10
  Speaker 2: Well remember our talk.
• 34:13
  Speaker 3: I mean, yeah, guys need to be trained.
• 34:14
  Speaker 2: Yeah that's true, But you would hope that he would
• 34:18
  Speaker 2: get to a point where he would, you know, get
• 34:20
  Speaker 2: to a point where it's like he could feel comfortable,
• 34:24
  Speaker 2: they could feel comfortable being like, how are you feeling like?
• 34:26
  Speaker 2: Is this just a makeout night? Maybe there's a code wordies,
• 34:29
  Speaker 2: you know.
• 34:30
  Speaker 4: Like a safe word.
• 34:31
  Speaker 2: I don't know.
• 34:33
  Speaker 3: All right, let's get to Aaron. These are good questions.
• 34:36
  Speaker 3: I'm not try to answer these questions, but they're very good. Okay,
• 34:39
  Speaker 3: maybe go work it out together. Hi, Banya and friends.
• 34:42
  Speaker 3: Random fun question idea for the pod and she does
• 34:46
  Speaker 3: all four of us, but we'll do them one at
• 34:47
  Speaker 3: a time. Becca markne easton, what's the most Tanya thing
• 34:51
  Speaker 3: You've done lately?
• 34:55
  Speaker 2: Oh, the most Tanya thing I've done lately is Haley
• 35:01
  Speaker 2: and I have been getting up and going on walks
• 35:03
  Speaker 2: together in the morning as like our quality time to
• 35:06
  Speaker 2: start the day, and it feels very Tanya.
• 35:10
  Speaker 3: M most Tanya thing I've done lately is I she
• 35:17
  Speaker 3: a pudding wo because she eats it regularly and I'm
• 35:20
  Speaker 3: always curious what it tastes like. So I got some
• 35:22
  Speaker 3: over the weekend and it was delicious, and all I
• 35:25
  Speaker 3: thought about all lading was Tanya's onto something here.
• 35:28
  Speaker 1: Thank you. I wish you would feel that way about everything.
• 35:31
  Speaker 3: I don't.
• 35:32
  Speaker 1: Okay, you'll get.
• 35:33
  Speaker 3: There, we'll see Yes, thumbs up.
• 35:37
  Speaker 4: My mine's also food related. We made a hard pivot
• 35:39
  Speaker 4: to see it.
• 35:40
  Speaker 1: Chips nice nice, nice, nice nice.
• 35:43
  Speaker 2: Wow, I do eat chips on the regular. That is
• 35:47
  Speaker 2: something I do.
• 35:48
  Speaker 3: Thank you, Tanya Easton Mark. What's the most Becka thing
• 35:52
  Speaker 3: you've done lately?
• 35:54
  Speaker 1: I binged five episodes of a show in one day.
• 35:58
  Speaker 2: That feels more like you at this point. No, yeah,
• 36:02
  Speaker 2: I don't really binge a lot of.
• 36:04
  Speaker 1: TV shows more so than me.
• 36:07
  Speaker 2: I don't think you watched Survive like you'd binge a lot.
• 36:09
  Speaker 1: Don't binge I watched one episode a day. There's a difference,
• 36:14
  Speaker 1: do you think I.
• 36:16
  Speaker 2: Definitely think you watched way more TV than I do.
• 36:19
  Speaker 2: I don't really binge a lot of shows, but I
• 36:23
  Speaker 2: guess I did in my past.
• 36:24
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 36:26
  Speaker 3: I think that's our image of you, whether you're sitting
• 36:28
  Speaker 3: on the couch a lot of TV time.
• 36:31
  Speaker 2: That's so interesting. Yeah, No, I don't do a lot
• 36:33
  Speaker 2: of TV time.
• 36:34
  Speaker 3: So what do you do? Because we've established this week.
• 36:37
  Speaker 4: You don't so interesting?
• 36:38
  Speaker 1: Because after hours, like way up to bedtime.
• 36:43
  Speaker 2: I was literally thinking about that after the last episode,
• 36:45
  Speaker 2: I was like, what do I do all day?
• 36:50
  Speaker 1: Because last I saw you were binging just Josie Doanes
• 36:53
  Speaker 1: in the sixth j Jones six, So I'm not that
• 36:58
  Speaker 1: far off.
• 36:59
  Speaker 2: No, but that's it's very rare, like I very rarely
• 37:02
  Speaker 2: find a show that I love that much to binge,
• 37:04
  Speaker 2: but I did. I was obsessed with Daisy Jones.
• 37:07
  Speaker 1: So I'm just saying my my Becca thing is not
• 37:11
  Speaker 1: off kilter. No, walk us through a day non podcast day.
• 37:15
  Speaker 2: Oh god, I mean the podcast is like my busiest day.
• 37:19
  Speaker 2: I wake up, now we go on to walk together.
• 37:23
  Speaker 2: That's around eight eight thirty. I make breakfast, the healthy
• 37:29
  Speaker 2: oatmeal waffles, put those in, do the dishes. Then I'll
• 37:34
  Speaker 2: get ready for the day, make my bed, do my
• 37:38
  Speaker 2: hair and makeup, pick out an outfit, and then typically
• 37:41
  Speaker 2: I have stuff to film for like word, like Instagram
• 37:43
  Speaker 2: stuff like stuff I have to film and I can
• 37:46
  Speaker 2: take that actually can take a long time if I'm
• 37:49
  Speaker 2: doing like reels and stuff, that can really take a
• 37:51
  Speaker 2: long time because I have to edit and everything. I
• 37:52
  Speaker 2: edit all my own stuff. So I do have some
• 37:54
  Speaker 2: stuff to do during the day if I'm busy.
• 37:56
  Speaker 1: Even shooting those bad Boys.
• 37:58
  Speaker 2: Yeah, it's a lot and one woman show. Yeah, I
• 38:04
  Speaker 2: literally don't know. I don't do things like I'm not
• 38:07
  Speaker 2: like I like to a shop. I go like, I
• 38:12
  Speaker 2: literally don't know what I do think about it?
• 38:14
  Speaker 1: So like let's even say that that the shooting the
• 38:16
  Speaker 1: videos and editing them takes you four hours after breakfast.
• 38:20
  Speaker 1: That's like that takes you like one pm. What do
• 38:23
  Speaker 1: I do?
• 38:24
  Speaker 2: I don't I do? Like lately, I've been trying to
• 38:27
  Speaker 2: go in like a like an afternoon walk again.
• 38:29
  Speaker 3: Okay, that's it now it's too hot now, isn't it.
• 38:33
  Speaker 2: Just this past week down? And then Haley gets home
• 38:38
  Speaker 2: like five or six, and then we have dinner and
• 38:41
  Speaker 2: stuff together. So like there's a chunk of time where
• 38:43
  Speaker 2: I don't really know.
• 38:44
  Speaker 1: Right, there's like a two or three window.
• 38:45
  Speaker 2: But it changes every day, Like I'm not doing the
• 38:47
  Speaker 2: same thing every day, Like I'm not in like a routine,
• 38:49
  Speaker 2: so it does like change up. But yeah, I was
• 38:52
  Speaker 2: thinking after the last episode of like what do I
• 38:54
  Speaker 2: spend my time doing for so many hours of the day.
• 38:56
  Speaker 2: You know?
• 38:57
  Speaker 1: What's interesting what I found with myself is like the
• 39:00
  Speaker 1: days where I have a crazy jam pack schedule, I
• 39:03
  Speaker 1: will be more efficient and get more done when I
• 39:05
  Speaker 1: have so much going on in my day than I do.
• 39:07
  Speaker 1: Like on Labor Day, I was like this is my
• 39:10
  Speaker 1: day to this is my g get done day, Like
• 39:12
  Speaker 1: this was the day that we just We're gonna sit
• 39:15
  Speaker 1: and just get stuff done. And I had a list
• 39:18
  Speaker 1: of like twenty things, and I'd say I got to
• 39:20
  Speaker 1: like seven of them, okay, and I had the whole day,
• 39:24
  Speaker 1: Like what did I do with this day? I only
• 39:26
  Speaker 1: did seven of my twenty things?
• 39:28
  Speaker 2: Yeah?
• 39:29
  Speaker 1: Yeah, but I think it was because I had no
• 39:31
  Speaker 1: structure to.
• 39:32
  Speaker 2: My day, right, it makes sense.
• 39:34
  Speaker 1: Yeah, So I can see where because I was like
• 39:37
  Speaker 1: it came six pm, and I was like, we gotta
• 39:39
  Speaker 1: watch our show and go to bed.
• 39:42
  Speaker 2: Yeah what show?
• 39:43
  Speaker 3: Americans?
• 39:45
  Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, I'll I'll be more aware of what I'm
• 39:49
  Speaker 2: doing on those days so I can report back way tomorrow.
• 39:51
  Speaker 1: This will be a fun game tomorrow. Why don't you
• 39:53
  Speaker 1: make all tomorrow of.
• 39:54
  Speaker 2: A busy day? Tomorrow a busy day. Well, okay, so
• 39:57
  Speaker 2: I didn't talk about this, but I did something to
• 39:59
  Speaker 2: my back where like it hurts so bad to turn
• 40:01
  Speaker 2: my neck, like I have to turn like my body
• 40:03
  Speaker 2: like this or like setting pain. But I Haley goes
• 40:07
  Speaker 2: to acupuncture all the time, and she's like, will you
• 40:09
  Speaker 2: please go see my acupuncture? So I went this morning,
• 40:11
  Speaker 2: and she's like, come tomorrow and then Friday. So tomorrow
• 40:15
  Speaker 2: I have acupuncture, I have the dentist, which is my nightmare,
• 40:19
  Speaker 2: and then Laura comes into town.
• 40:22
  Speaker 1: Okay, so tomorrow is a bad, bad example.
• 40:24
  Speaker 2: Tomorrow is gonna be busy. Yeah, actually the rest of
• 40:26
  Speaker 2: the week because Laura's in town. So I'm gonna be
• 40:28
  Speaker 2: hostess with the mistess.
• 40:30
  Speaker 1: Okay, so maybe next week we revisit this.
• 40:32
  Speaker 3: Yeah, well I have my answer. I'm the most Becca
• 40:35
  Speaker 3: thing I've inmationally. A Saturday night, I had a burger
• 40:37
  Speaker 3: and fries.
• 40:39
  Speaker 2: Wow.
• 40:39
  Speaker 3: It was an impossible burger, but still it felt very decadent.
• 40:42
  Speaker 4: And where was it from?
• 40:45
  Speaker 3: That's uh, we're up in OHI all right, Yeah it
• 40:47
  Speaker 3: was really good.
• 40:48
  Speaker 2: Yeah, very and I Becca with the impossible burger burger
• 40:51
  Speaker 2: fries is as good as it's gonna get.
• 40:54
  Speaker 3: I think. So I slept with a woman. Does that count?
• 40:57
  Speaker 2: What? Yeah?
• 40:58
  Speaker 3: Okay, great, there we go, there we go.
• 41:03
  Speaker 2: Wow, that's the most thing.
• 41:07
  Speaker 4: I'm sorry to make this about fast food again, but uh,
• 41:10
  Speaker 4: when I got home from d C, I landed late
• 41:14
  Speaker 4: at night and I was sexting Alison. I'm like, which
• 41:16
  Speaker 4: did you eat? Like, I'm good and I'm like, all right,
• 41:18
  Speaker 4: I'm starving. I went through the Taco Bell drive through.
• 41:21
  Speaker 4: I got a crunch trap with three cheese and stead
• 41:23
  Speaker 4: nota cha cheese, and I got cheeseygordy to crunch and
• 41:25
  Speaker 4: I got a large pepsi down. It was so good.
• 41:31
  Speaker 4: But I never I don't go to Taco Bell almost
• 41:33
  Speaker 4: ever anymore because Elison has never been to Taco Bell.
• 41:36
  Speaker 4: Allison has never had it, So it's not part of
• 41:39
  Speaker 4: our routine.
• 41:40
  Speaker 2: Is that like a thing that she's anti?
• 41:42
  Speaker 4: She just it's just never come up. It's never come
• 41:44
  Speaker 4: across her desk.
• 41:44
  Speaker 2: I don't know how how do I make it come
• 41:47
  Speaker 2: across us.
• 41:48
  Speaker 4: She would do it for you if you wanted to
• 41:49
  Speaker 4: go talk about with her, she would do that. Yeah,
• 41:52
  Speaker 4: but uh, I crave it a lot, and I feel
• 41:55
  Speaker 4: like I have like a mistress, like when Alison's like
• 41:56
  Speaker 4: out of town or something like myll.
• 41:59
  Speaker 1: Is damn good, so good. So it is really good.
• 42:02
  Speaker 4: Of all the major chains, I think they're the most
• 42:04
  Speaker 4: consistently good.
• 42:05
  Speaker 2: Especially when it just hits hits no matter what, sober, drunk, high, whatever.
• 42:11
  Speaker 1: Yeah, it hits. Yeah, alright, that's very.
• 42:15
  Speaker 3: Beck, Tanya, Beca and Mark what's the most Eastern thing
• 42:18
  Speaker 3: you've done lately. I haven't been a Chooesta factory in
• 42:22
  Speaker 3: a while, So I.
• 42:23
  Speaker 1: Have two things. One of them's food related. I ordered
• 42:28
  Speaker 1: these like very decadent donuts that had all these different
• 42:31
  Speaker 1: designs on them. Yeah, and I ate one felt very Eastern.
• 42:38
  Speaker 1: And my crocs, the crocs that I wear often, they
• 42:40
  Speaker 1: that feels like Eastern to me.
• 42:43
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I would say. I was gonna say my buying
• 42:45
  Speaker 2: crocs for my ziplining excursion was a very east like.
• 42:49
  Speaker 2: I thought about Eastern the whole time, and I was like,
• 42:52
  Speaker 2: for some reason, they don't. I never am like, wow,
• 42:55
  Speaker 2: those are so ugly when I see Eastern war them.
• 42:58
  Speaker 2: But when I put them.
• 42:59
  Speaker 6: On, I was like, I've never felt worse about myself.
• 43:02
  Speaker 2: I know.
• 43:04
  Speaker 1: It's a weird thing because you feel so bad about
• 43:06
  Speaker 1: yourself and yet so comfortable at the same time. So
• 43:09
  Speaker 1: really is like this thing that tugs it.
• 43:10
  Speaker 2: It's like that there's something about Easton in them that
• 43:13
  Speaker 2: doesn't like I'm not like even Hailey was like.
• 43:17
  Speaker 1: The gibbets, you need gibbets.
• 43:19
  Speaker 2: Yeah, gibbet don't know. Hailey was like, I thought I
• 43:23
  Speaker 2: was gonna feel like people make them look so cool,
• 43:26
  Speaker 2: and they looked so ugly on me. But I did
• 43:31
  Speaker 2: get them.
• 43:31
  Speaker 4: I'm sure you're comfortable.
• 43:33
  Speaker 2: I did not, but they were so comfortable. So there
• 43:37
  Speaker 2: was I ate something too that I thought, Oh, I
• 43:40
  Speaker 2: did the trend where you line I don't know if
• 43:43
  Speaker 2: you would actually do this, but I feel like you'd
• 43:45
  Speaker 2: be interested in trying it, where you line the cup
• 43:47
  Speaker 2: with marshmallow fluff and then you you don't drink, Do
• 43:50
  Speaker 2: you drink? You drink?
• 43:52
  Speaker 4: I drink.
• 43:52
  Speaker 2: So I tried the Doctor Shepper and pickles. That was
• 43:57
  Speaker 2: the most easting thing I've ever done. Yeah, is Doctor
• 44:00
  Speaker 2: Pepper died Doctor Prepper with pickle bits and juice in it.
• 44:04
  Speaker 2: And I don't really anything with doctor Pepper good enough.
• 44:11
  Speaker 2: I love Doctor Pepper.
• 44:15
  Speaker 1: I can't tell you the last time I had it.
• 44:17
  Speaker 2: I can't When in Palm Springs, my sonic dirty Doctor Pepper,
• 44:21
  Speaker 2: Dirty Doctor Pepper, which is coconut cream, lime and doctor Pepper. Wow,
• 44:26
  Speaker 2: she kept reaching for it and I was like, don't
• 44:28
  Speaker 2: drink all that please?
• 44:29
  Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, that's what they say.
• 44:33
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 44:34
  Speaker 3: I don't have a good answer for this. I'm sorry.
• 44:36
  Speaker 3: I I My best answer is that I engineered my
• 44:39
  Speaker 3: own audio last week when Eastern was gone processing. Notice
• 44:45
  Speaker 3: this sound a little more low end.
• 44:47
  Speaker 4: On the Listen to wind out Jane Kramer this week.
• 44:50
  Speaker 4: See how he did.
• 44:50
  Speaker 3: You know what's funny?
• 44:51
  Speaker 2: Though?
• 44:52
  Speaker 4: What's it?
• 44:53
  Speaker 3: One of our producers emailed like, this sounds different than usual.
• 44:57
  Speaker 3: I think we can do to fix them. I don't know.
• 45:01
  Speaker 2: What you get.
• 45:02
  Speaker 3: It sounds different because Eastern's going, but I don't know
• 45:04
  Speaker 3: what else to do. So I did it poorly, but
• 45:06
  Speaker 3: I did part of it.
• 45:08
  Speaker 7: Wow.
• 45:09
  Speaker 3: And finally telling you back in Easton, what's the most
• 45:11
  Speaker 3: mark thing you've done lately?
• 45:14
  Speaker 1: Ah? I tried to. I have been trying to convince
• 45:20
  Speaker 1: Robbie that we should have dedicated days of the week
• 45:23
  Speaker 1: with our food.
• 45:24
  Speaker 3: I think it makes life simpler.
• 45:25
  Speaker 1: I think so too, That is what I'm trying to say.
• 45:28
  Speaker 1: I'm like, we'll go to the grocery store once a week.
• 45:31
  Speaker 1: We'll get us through, you know, Monday through Friday, and
• 45:33
  Speaker 1: then have a little fun on the weekends. Yes, but
• 45:35
  Speaker 1: every day has its meal.
• 45:37
  Speaker 3: The other day you mentioned that with Ryan the other
• 45:39
  Speaker 3: day and Sis and he said, oh, I could never
• 45:40
  Speaker 3: do that. My life too hectic, And I was like, no,
• 45:42
  Speaker 3: that's the point makes it.
• 45:44
  Speaker 1: Yeah, you don't have to choose what do I feel like?
• 45:47
  Speaker 3: You don't that's so much?
• 45:48
  Speaker 1: And what do I have in the fridge? It's just there?
• 45:51
  Speaker 3: So that's the that's good.
• 45:53
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean that.
• 45:54
  Speaker 2: How do you beat that?
• 45:59
  Speaker 4: I have any more time?
• 46:02
  Speaker 1: Uh?
• 46:03
  Speaker 4: The most? Oh okay, well well I'm going now, Yeah,
• 46:07
  Speaker 4: I have the floor. When we were we were in
• 46:09
  Speaker 4: Denver this weekend and we're driving around and I was like,
• 46:14
  Speaker 4: we got to go check out Course Field. We gotta go.
• 46:17
  Speaker 4: It was nighttime, there was a game going on actually
• 46:20
  Speaker 4: they were playing. It was a Friday night, and uh,
• 46:23
  Speaker 4: I was like, I'm not a big baseball guy, but
• 46:26
  Speaker 4: Mark is making me a baseball guy. And I'm like,
• 46:28
  Speaker 4: I just got to go see Course Field. So we
• 46:29
  Speaker 4: like went over there and checked it out. It's a
• 46:31
  Speaker 4: beautiful facility and it's a great we did.
• 46:34
  Speaker 3: We were there for Ryan a few years ago. We
• 46:35
  Speaker 3: did the same thing for no reason. There was no game.
• 46:37
  Speaker 3: I think it wasn't even baseball season. We just went
• 46:39
  Speaker 3: up there and walked around that stadium because I love
• 46:41
  Speaker 3: baseball stadium. Thank you.
• 46:43
  Speaker 4: They're playing the Orioles that night, and I.
• 46:44
  Speaker 3: Saw a lot of oils. I got there there, but
• 46:47
  Speaker 3: they got beat.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, so anyway, I thought of you.
• 46:52
  Speaker 3: That's really good.
• 46:54
  Speaker 2: I went on a hike on a trail like your dogs. Yes, yeah, okay,
• 47:00
  Speaker 2: you know, I expected to be more.
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  Speaker 3: Insulted by these responses that you guys should be doing
• 47:04
  Speaker 3: boring things and drinking water and stupid.
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  Speaker 2: I drink water with one of my meals. I literally
• 47:09
  Speaker 2: never drink like I always have some sort of like
• 47:12
  Speaker 2: fizzy drink with my meals, like oh my gosh, And
• 47:15
  Speaker 2: I almost said I drink water.
• 47:17
  Speaker 1: Like fizzy drinks make me so unwell like physically yeah,
• 47:24
  Speaker 1: like not even like just soda like like sparkling water
• 47:28
  Speaker 1: your stomach acid. Yeah it does. I'm with you, Bubbly drinks,
• 47:32
  Speaker 1: no bueno for me, although give me an operol sprits and.
• 47:38
  Speaker 2: Yeah, oh that was fun.
• 47:41
  Speaker 3: That was a really fun one.
• 47:42
  Speaker 1: Yeah, that's fun.
• 47:43
  Speaker 7: One erin not anonymous, and thank you all of the people,
• 47:48
  Speaker 7: even the anonymous, thank you for submitting your ask Banya questions.
• 47:54
  Speaker 2: But we have to go.
• 47:56
  Speaker 1: It is time. They time.
• 47:57
  Speaker 2: However, if you have something that you need advice on
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• 48:11
  Speaker 2: Good job, Becca, thank you so much. Just a reminder
• 48:14
  Speaker 2: we're here for you always. We are here, We're here,
• 48:20
  Speaker 2: and uh that's all for now. So a week are.
• 48:24
  Speaker 1: Here and we hear you, and we here are to go.
• 48:33
  Speaker 2: Bye bye