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EP766: Kelly Resendez - The Frequency Of Abundance · The Thought Leader Revolution Podcast

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Kelly Resendez: I don't think that life needs to be
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Kelly Resendez: as challenging as we make it.
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Kelly Resendez: My belief is that when we tap into the frequency
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Kelly Resendez: and we really just see that there is this world out there,
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Kelly Resendez: whether you call it God--
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Kelly Resendez: some people might call it the universe--
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Kelly Resendez: there is this frequency that we can tap into.
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Kelly Resendez: And when we get there, we magnetize ourself for abundance.
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Nicky Billou: Welcome to another exciting episode of the podcast, The Thought Leader Revolution.
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Nicky Billou: I'm your host, Nicky Bouloud, and boy, do we have an exciting guest lined up for you
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Nicky Billou: today.
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Nicky Billou: Today's guest is a dear friend of a couple of past globally renowned thought leaders
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Nicky Billou: on the show.
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Nicky Billou: She is good friends with Marie Diamond and the great John Maxwell.
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Nicky Billou: I am speaking, of course, of none other than the one, the only,
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Nicky Billou: the legendary Kelly Resendez.
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Nicky Billou: Welcome to the show, Kelly.
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Nicky Billou: Hi there, Nikki. Great to be here.
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Nicky Billou: Good to be with you.
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Nicky Billou: So, Kelly, tell us your backstory.
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Nicky Billou: How'd you get to be the great Kelly Resendez?
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Kelly Resendez: Oh, my goodness. Where do I even start, Nikki?
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Kelly Resendez: So first of all, my goodness, I had no idea what a absolute
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Kelly Resendez: incredible, you know, introduction that was going to be. So thank you.
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Kelly Resendez: You know, I grew up in Northern California. I feel like I hit the jackpot on having parents
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Kelly Resendez: that really set me up for success. My dad, you know, was an entrepreneur. My mom was a real
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Kelly Resendez: estate investor. And they always told me I could do anything that I really wanted. And I would tell
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Kelly Resendez: you that that served me very well early on in my career. And I got into mortgage was a top 1%
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Kelly Resendez: originator, but what it also did was it set me up to just kind of live a very empty life
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Kelly Resendez: of success.
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Kelly Resendez: And although I had created, you know, a lot of worldly success, just, you know, earning
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Kelly Resendez: close to seven figures in my early 20s, I was pretty empty inside.
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Kelly Resendez: And I didn't realize it until 2002, when my mom got diagnosed with dementia.
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Kelly Resendez: And the one person who I was probably trying to impress and get the most validation from
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Kelly Resendez: care anymore.
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Kelly Resendez: And it really kind of set me down this new path of what I would say is consciousness
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Kelly Resendez: and finding a different way of being in the world.
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Kelly Resendez: And over a period of time, you know, I was able to share a lot of the lessons that I
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Kelly Resendez: had learned with other people and give them strategies to manage things like overthinking
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Kelly Resendez: and self-sabotage, and really, you know, how we manage triggers as well.
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Kelly Resendez: me super well in my speaking and my career and joined a company in 2011 that's now a
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Kelly Resendez: multi-billion dollar company.
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Kelly Resendez: We're the largest solar financing company in the US.
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Kelly Resendez: And through that, I was able to publish some books and I was able to continue to speak
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Kelly Resendez: and grow a women's mastermind.
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Kelly Resendez: And so for myself, where I am today is I actually went into women's FemTech recently, semi-retired.
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Kelly Resendez: I still do stuff at GoodLeap,
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Kelly Resendez: but really just trying to revolutionize women's healthcare
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Kelly Resendez: because it's really important to me that women step into,
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Kelly Resendez: you know, I would say their power,
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Kelly Resendez: but more importantly, like our presence.
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Kelly Resendez: And instead of, you know, giving up
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Kelly Resendez: and sacrificing our health, wellbeing, relationships,
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Kelly Resendez: you know, raising kids, et cetera,
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Kelly Resendez: that we find a different way to be leaders in the world.
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Kelly Resendez: - So what is FemTech?
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Kelly Resendez: - FemTech is basically female technology.
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Kelly Resendez: So we're growing a 50 state telemedicine company
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Kelly Resendez: to help women.
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Kelly Resendez: You know, only about 7% of women
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Kelly Resendez: are on hormone replacement therapy,
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Kelly Resendez: but we believe that most women should be.
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Kelly Resendez: Just, it is one of our body's greatest protection systems.
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Kelly Resendez: And we're also building a technology
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Kelly Resendez: for women to have personalized care just on their phones.
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Kelly Resendez: So that on a daily basis that we're helping them fine tune
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Kelly Resendez: how they really feel.
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Nicky Billou: - Talk more about hormone replacement.
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Kelly Resendez: Yeah, one of my favorite things to talk about, Nikki.
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Kelly Resendez: So hormone replacement therapy really takes hormones that decline over time and balance
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Kelly Resendez: them.
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Kelly Resendez: So people weren't living as long as we are today in just the early 1900s.
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Kelly Resendez: And as people are living longer, I would tell you that one of the areas that people don't
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Kelly Resendez: realize is that hormones protect our body from our brains to our heart to our bones
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Kelly Resendez: to pretty much every system within our body.
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Kelly Resendez: As those hormones naturally decline, most men, we see testosterone start to go down.
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Kelly Resendez: Women, we start to see progesterone, testosterone, DHEA start to go down.
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Kelly Resendez: Then, of course, estrogen drops off a cliff when our ovaries stop producing.
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Kelly Resendez: It makes a massive difference in women's health.
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Kelly Resendez: We know it's about a $30 billion challenge when women are getting unnecessary medical
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Kelly Resendez: care.
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Kelly Resendez: We also see a lot of women that struggle in the workplace because we end up kind of getting
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Kelly Resendez: a little bit off on how we feel.
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Kelly Resendez: I'm passionate about educating people on the benefits of hormone replacement therapy, not
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Kelly Resendez: just because they help with symptoms, but because they help with longevity and they
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Kelly Resendez: protect us from things like heart disease, osteoporosis, other things that we would normally
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Kelly Resendez: otherwise potentially have.
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Nicky Billou: Now, this morning I interviewed Dr. Tony Martin Sr. and he and his family founded the Martin
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Nicky Billou: Clinic over 100 years ago in Sudbury, Ontario.
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Nicky Billou: He just wrote this book called Rebuild Your Temple, a 30-day devotional to repair your
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Nicky Billou: body and ignite your faith with the sun, volume one.
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Nicky Billou: He's retired, but he likes to go. He has a podcast that has had millions of downloads and he runs
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Nicky Billou: He runs the communities
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Nicky Billou: But his son is the one doing the work and a big part of what he talks about in the book is around hormones
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Nicky Billou: But he he's a funny guy. He calls him horror mones
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Nicky Billou: He'd be an interesting fellow for you to have a chat with
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Nicky Billou: He doesn't bring guests on a show. It's just him talking. But yeah, if you
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Nicky Billou: if you ever wanted to have like a true pioneer in this space
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Nicky Billou: who's been talking about it for 50 plus years.
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Kelly Resendez: - I love it.
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Kelly Resendez: And you know, the conversations 50 years ago
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Kelly Resendez: were much different because, you know,
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Kelly Resendez: they were regularly just putting women
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Kelly Resendez: on hormone replacement therapy.
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Kelly Resendez: And the downside is that a study had been done,
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Kelly Resendez: well, it really been done on synthetic hormones,
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Kelly Resendez: not bioidentical hormones.
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Kelly Resendez: and they saw about a 1% difference in some of the,
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Kelly Resendez: you know, instances of disease.
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Kelly Resendez: And rather than really go the depths of studying it,
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Kelly Resendez: they just black boxed it.
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Kelly Resendez: And then all of a sudden women started suffering
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Kelly Resendez: at a much higher level.
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Kelly Resendez: You know, when you dig into the data of women,
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Kelly Resendez: not sleeping, feeling overwhelmed, having foggy brain,
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Kelly Resendez: you know, hot flashes,
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Kelly Resendez: and a lot of times anger and irritability,
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Kelly Resendez: it affects everyone.
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Nicky Billou: - Sure, like I'm 58, I'm dating a woman near my own age.
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Nicky Billou: That's all I'll say about that.
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Nicky Billou: (laughing)
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Nicky Billou: She has experienced a number of those symptoms.
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Nicky Billou: She's doing a few things about it,
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Nicky Billou: but man, libido just crashed.
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Nicky Billou: She went from a very vigorous and healthy love life
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Nicky Billou: to zero desire, like zero desire for it,
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Nicky Billou: which is rough on both of us.
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Nicky Billou: You know, and we've been working together to help her do some things and she's done a few things and there's some doctors in Toronto
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Nicky Billou: who where I live who who
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Nicky Billou: Specializing this sort of thing, but Tony Martin's been talking about these issues since the early 70s
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Nicky Billou: He was a lonely voice in the wilderness for decades. Yeah, a lot of people are coming along with him
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Nicky Billou: He's absolutely brilliant. His podcast is called the doctor is in you ought to have a listen sometime
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Nicky Billou: He's if this is an important area for you. He's a good resource to know him. Absolutely. Yeah, dr
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Nicky Billou: Tony Martin the doctor is in but this is this is good
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Nicky Billou: So tell me a little bit about
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Nicky Billou: Your
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Nicky Billou: Journey into the frequency of abundance. Yeah
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Kelly Resendez: Absolutely. So that is you know
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Kelly Resendez: It's probably my favorite thing to talk about because I think a lot of us have had to work
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Kelly Resendez: Incredibly hard for most of our lives to be able to get what we desire
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Kelly Resendez: and
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Kelly Resendez: my belief is that when we tap into the frequency and we really just kind of see that there is
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Kelly Resendez: This world out there whether you call it God for me. I'm very faith-based
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Kelly Resendez: So I'm gonna call it God or Jesus or whatnot
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Kelly Resendez: You know, yeah. Yeah, some people might call it the universe
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Kelly Resendez: you know, I just ignore the word that they say.
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Nicky Billou: - I don't call it the universe.
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Nicky Billou: I call it God.
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Kelly Resendez: - What I put in,
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Kelly Resendez: but that there is this frequency that we can tap into.
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Kelly Resendez: And when we get there, we magnetize ourself for abundance.
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Kelly Resendez: Like I'll give you a perfect John Maxwell story.
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Kelly Resendez: John just wrote the foreword to my book
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Kelly Resendez: that's gonna be coming out soon by that same name.
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Kelly Resendez: And I had been praying.
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Kelly Resendez: I had felt like I wanted to write another book.
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Kelly Resendez: I was praying.
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Kelly Resendez: I didn't know what I was going to write it on.
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Kelly Resendez: I had published two books already.
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Kelly Resendez: And just really, I handed it over to God.
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Kelly Resendez: And when I did that, you know, John and I show up at an event together, and we're both
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Kelly Resendez: speaking.
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Kelly Resendez: Well, John stayed in the audience to listen to my talk.
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Kelly Resendez: And we met afterwards.
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Kelly Resendez: And the first thing that he said to me was, "Kelly, you have to write a book on this topic,
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Kelly Resendez: and I'm going to help you."
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Kelly Resendez: And I was like, thank you, God, because the synchronicity of that, right, just created
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Kelly Resendez: this opportunity and clarity for myself.
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Kelly Resendez: And that has happened consistently in my life, whether it was Tony Robbins coming into my
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Kelly Resendez: world or, you know, just my first example was Scott Harris that works with Tony ended
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Kelly Resendez: up at my my beach house when I wanted to get physically healthy.
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Kelly Resendez: And I got trapped in a house with the guy that ran Tony's wellness program.
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Kelly Resendez: And by the time I left, I was full of knowledge and wisdom and I made a lot of life changes
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Kelly Resendez: that considerably changed my life.
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Kelly Resendez: And it's because I had this vision for how I wanted to feel and what I wanted to do.
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Kelly Resendez: I wrote it down.
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Kelly Resendez: And then I believe that we magnetize ourselves.
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Kelly Resendez: And I love sharing that with other people because I don't think that life needs to be
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Kelly Resendez: as challenging as we make it.
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Kelly Resendez: And when you look at the brain that we have, it's the same one, right, as our ancestors
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Kelly Resendez: had on the Serengeti.
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Kelly Resendez: It hasn't been upgraded.
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Kelly Resendez: And yet we've upgraded our cell phones, our computers, our TVs, everything's constantly
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Kelly Resendez: being upgraded to meet what the world really wants.
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Kelly Resendez: And so this is a formula.
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Kelly Resendez: I use three pillars to really upgrade our own operating system, to have better disciplines,
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Kelly Resendez: to improve the environment that we put ourselves into so that we can be in this frequency because
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Kelly Resendez: I truly believe the majority of success that happens in this world is because of who we
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Kelly Resendez: know is the connections with people.
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Kelly Resendez: It's everything and if we're not energetically in a place where people want to be around
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Kelly Resendez: us and support us and we're able to ask for help and do the things that we need to do,
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Kelly Resendez: Like life is hard and we become the lone wolf in trying to make things happen.
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Kelly Resendez: And so, you know, the book, the philosophy that I speak on is really about how do we
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Kelly Resendez: put ourselves into this frequency so that we can become just again, magnetized for opportunity
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Kelly Resendez: and for success.
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Kelly Resendez: Like another, like I'll give you a perfect glimpse of how this works in my world.
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Kelly Resendez: know, John and I had been working on something and, and I don't know if you know, Mark Cole,
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Kelly Resendez: his CEO was like, Hey, he's been on the show as well.
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Kelly Resendez: Love him to death. We were we were kind of waiting on some things and and I don't like
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Kelly Resendez: waiting very well, Mickey. I don't I don't have patience. Well, I can I can be a little
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Kelly Resendez: impatient. And so I had reached out and to the person I needed to talk to and I hadn't
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Kelly Resendez: heard back. And so I just prayed on it. I wrote on it and was
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Kelly Resendez: like, God, if this is what you want for me, like, please show
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Kelly Resendez: me like make this easy. Well, I get on an airplane two weeks
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Kelly Resendez: ago going from West Palm to Atlanta, and the very person
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Kelly Resendez: that I needed to respond to me was sitting next to me on the
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Kelly Resendez: plane. And those are the types of things that when we're in the
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Kelly Resendez: frequency, again, we had 90 minutes to work on what we
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Kelly Resendez: needed to, where I could have been waiting for a text and email other things.
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Kelly Resendez: And it just brings so much more clarity so much faster.
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Kelly Resendez: So I think God really, really shows us clarity in the external world on a regular basis.
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Kelly Resendez: But if we're not energetically there, like if we're anxious, if we're worried, if we're
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Kelly Resendez: in fear or doubt, any of these lower level vibrations, I think that we block a lot of
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Kelly Resendez: that because God wants us to be trusting.
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Nicky Billou: So can you see this?
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Kelly Resendez: Uh-uh.
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Nicky Billou: No.
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Nicky Billou: Well, that's John, and he said, "She's wonderful.
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Nicky Billou: You'll be pleased."
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Nicky Billou: Oh, that's awesome.
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Nicky Billou: Anyways, that's good.
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Nicky Billou: You know, it's interesting.
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Nicky Billou: I believe that we're here on this earth to live, to love, to grow, to learn, and to contribute.
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Nicky Billou: And the sooner we tap into that, the sooner we'll get to live life as the best version
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Nicky Billou: of ourselves.
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Nicky Billou: And connections, people, relationships are everything.
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Nicky Billou: My father used to tell me when I was a boy, eight years old, he said, "Son, life is about
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Nicky Billou: people.
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Nicky Billou: It's not about money."
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Nicky Billou: And I would say, "Yeah, okay, Dad."
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Nicky Billou: And then he'd say, "Son, even business is about people.
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Nicky Billou: It's not about money."
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Nicky Billou: Like I'm a smart aleck eight-year-old kid, right?
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Nicky Billou: Precocious and prodigous.
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Nicky Billou: And I go to him and I go, "Hey, Dad, what are you talking about?
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Nicky Billou: Don't you need money to do business?"
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Nicky Billou: And then he said, "You do, son.
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Nicky Billou: But the only reason you need money is because you're there to use money to help people."
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Nicky Billou: You know, I turned this into a Venn diagram many years later, but it was, God said this
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Nicky Billou: to me, he said, "All a business is, it's a vehicle to solve problems for people at a
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Nicky Billou: profit."
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Nicky Billou: Problems, people, profit.
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Nicky Billou: And when you put all, where they all intersect, that's purpose.
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Nicky Billou: The purpose of business is problems, people, and profit.
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Nicky Billou: So I think that when you focus on helping your fellow man and woman, and you're not
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Nicky Billou: focused on, "I wonder if they're going to like me, I wonder if they're going to do business
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Nicky Billou: with me."
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Nicky Billou: Well, excuse me, it's just like these calls I've been wanting to get are coming in right
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Nicky Billou: now while you and I are speaking.
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Nicky Billou: So it's just the timing is just terrible.
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Nicky Billou: But it's all right.
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Nicky Billou: We're talking about abundance, Nicky!
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Nicky Billou: Yeah, I know, man.
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Nicky Billou: These are two really good calls.
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Nicky Billou: I was excited to get but I'll call them back when we're finished.
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Nicky Billou: Hopefully they'll still be available.
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Nicky Billou: I'm sure we'll get to speak.
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Nicky Billou: But the more you focus on helping your fellow man and woman, the more you'll attract your
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Nicky Billou: best life.
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Nicky Billou: I totally agree with you.
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Nicky Billou: Many years ago, nine years ago, there was this woman who got introduced to me and she
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Nicky Billou: She was the country director for one of the oldest personal development corporations in
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Nicky Billou: the world.
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Nicky Billou: It's been around since the '60s.
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Nicky Billou: She doesn't want me to use the name because you can easily find out who she is and she
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Nicky Billou: doesn't want her name to go public with this, but she's given me permission to tell her
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Nicky Billou: story.
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Nicky Billou: She brought a man on board to help her run the company.
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Nicky Billou: I knew who this dude was.
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Nicky Billou: He didn't have the best reputation, but she saw the best in people.
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Nicky Billou: Anyways, you know, for a year, everything was great, right?
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Nicky Billou: But after a year, they kind of started to diverge in their visions for the future.
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Nicky Billou: And there was a board of directors, and they sided with him and they kicked her out of
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Nicky Billou: the company.
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Nicky Billou: I mean, she had started Canada, right?
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Nicky Billou: So this is like Steve Jobs in the 80s when he brought on John Scully.
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Nicky Billou: Remember that story?
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Nicky Billou: So she's like, lost, bereft for 18 months, kind of not knowing what she's doing.
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Nicky Billou: I don't know her at this stage.
17:56
Nicky Billou: I don't know who she is.
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Nicky Billou: But then someone introduced us and said to her,
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Nicky Billou: said, this Nicky fellow, he's a good guy.
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Nicky Billou: And I think you need the kind of help he delivers to people.
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Nicky Billou: And I knew who she was because I'd
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Nicky Billou: done the program with that organization.
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Nicky Billou: Everybody knew who she was.
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Nicky Billou: So she was like a smaller version of John Maxwell
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Nicky Billou: in that space.
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Nicky Billou: So she comes to me and she signs up
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Nicky Billou: for one of our thought leadership programs.
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Nicky Billou: And I run my company with my sweetheart, Teresa.
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Nicky Billou: And Teresa is like the sweetest,
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Nicky Billou: kindest woman in the world.
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Nicky Billou: Her nickname is Mother Teresa
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Nicky Billou: 'cause she's such a good human, right?
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Nicky Billou: So Teresa and I, we poured into this girl.
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Nicky Billou: We loved on her 'cause she was hurt.
18:49
Nicky Billou: She was a sparrow with a broken wing.
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Nicky Billou: So she needed to have that repaired.
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Nicky Billou: We helped her get the brain fog out of the way.
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Nicky Billou: We helped her get clear on what she wanted to do,
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Nicky Billou: who she wanted to do it for, why.
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Nicky Billou: And she did really well.
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Nicky Billou: She had not made money in a long time,
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Nicky Billou: so she kind of like had a $10,000 a month
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Nicky Billou: and a $12,000 a month and an $18,000 a month,
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Nicky Billou: and then she had a $62,000 a month.
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Nicky Billou: So it was like boom, boom, boom, boom, boom.
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Nicky Billou: It was like hockey sticking up in the right direction.
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Nicky Billou: And she lives in Ottawa.
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Nicky Billou: I live in Toronto.
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Nicky Billou: I don't know how much you know about Canada, but Ottawa is the capital city of Canada,
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Nicky Billou: and it's a five-hour drive from Toronto.
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Nicky Billou: And my oldest son was 12 at the time.
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Nicky Billou: He's 20 now.
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Nicky Billou: And he was playing in a soccer tournament in Ottawa.
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Nicky Billou: So I drove him to Ottawa.
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Nicky Billou: And anyways, long story short is, I call her up and I go, "Hey, listen, you got a son my
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Nicky Billou: son's age.
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Nicky Billou: We're playing in a tournament.
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Nicky Billou: Would you guys like to come, you know, watch him play in the finals and maybe have lunch
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Nicky Billou: after?"
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Nicky Billou: So she came by and we won the tournament, which was really great
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Nicky Billou: And and then we have lunch and the kids hit it off, which is good. And you know, she's my client my friend
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Nicky Billou: Blah blah blah. We've tried that to Toronto five hours. She drives home ten minutes
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Nicky Billou: so it was good and
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Nicky Billou: Three four weeks later. We have our quarterly thought leader immersion workshop. So we do these four times and
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Nicky Billou: You know how these events go you have an upsell, right?
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Nicky Billou: So we have a year-long mastermind at the time it was $40,000 a year and we had eight people in the room that were
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Nicky Billou: Prospects for it and the way I do the sale is I don't pitch I kind of ask my people
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Nicky Billou: I go tell them what you what you're doing. She's like right. It's brilliant strategy. It works really well
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Kelly Resendez: Okay, I know it's great. So um, normally normally I go
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Nicky Billou: Anybody want to share about their experience put up your hand and I did that but this lady I'm gonna call her Julie
20:47
Nicky Billou: It's not a real name.
20:48
Nicky Billou: She did not wait to be picked.
20:50
Nicky Billou: She bounded up on stage and almost she ran right at me.
20:55
Nicky Billou: It was like wild how much energy ship and I'm a fair sized man.
20:59
Nicky Billou: And she almost knocked me on my chest.
21:01
Nicky Billou: And she's like 105 pounds soaking wet.
21:04
Nicky Billou: Right.
21:04
Nicky Billou: So I'm almost twice her size at the time I was twice her size.
21:08
Nicky Billou: So I'm like, okay, all right, go for it.
21:11
Nicky Billou: So I lean back, sit, stand at the back of the stage and she's like
21:15
Nicky Billou: Standing their hands on her hips and this is an alpha woman, right? This is like a run like a national organization and her husband
21:23
Nicky Billou: I'm an artist so you know what I mean? Um, and but she's saying nothing and I'm like, okay
21:28
Nicky Billou: All right any moment now, right?
21:30
Nicky Billou: He started talking and then I see her shoulders go up like her hands are on her hips and she's well
21:35
Nicky Billou: What's going on? And then she's like I hear a sob I go in it. Is she crying?
21:39
Nicky Billou: What's your crying and then you know what men do when they see a woman cry in front of her?
21:45
Nicky Billou: We go to what did I do wrong?
21:50
Nicky Billou: Guaranteed so that I would I'm not showing this to everybody on stage, but inside I'm panicking
21:56
Nicky Billou: I'm freaking out but my girlfriend Teresa
21:59
Nicky Billou: She was calm as a cucumber because she kind of like noticed all this so she walks on stage with her beautiful
22:05
Nicky Billou: effervescent kindly energy
22:07
Nicky Billou: She brings her a box of tissues and she gratefully grabs about a half a dozen and starts blowing her nose
22:12
Nicky Billou: and I'm like, "Oh, crap, this is gonna be a disaster."
22:15
Nicky Billou: That's what I'm thinking.
22:16
Nicky Billou: -Right? -Oh, my goodness.
22:17
Nicky Billou: So she comes to me and puts her arm around me.
22:21
Nicky Billou: And I'm nervous still, but I'm trying to be cool.
22:23
Nicky Billou: And she says to me, in between sobs,
22:27
Nicky Billou: "Nikki, when you and your little son came to visit me
22:30
Nicky Billou: and my little son in my home city of Ottawa,
22:35
Nicky Billou: you know, my little boy was excited to be going out.
22:39
Nicky Billou: He's 12 and he's also, you know, curious.
22:42
Nicky Billou: He goes, "Mommy, mommy, mommy, mommy, who are we gonna go meet?"
22:45
Nicky Billou: God, big, big energy, right?
22:47
Nicky Billou: And she's like, "Oh my God, like, I'm gonna calm this kid down a little bit."
22:51
Nicky Billou: Right?
22:51
Nicky Billou: So she goes, "Oh, sweetie, we're gonna go meet Nicky Billou and his son."
22:54
Nicky Billou: And she said to me that for the first time ever, the kid got quiet, so quiet that she's
23:02
Nicky Billou: like looking in the backseat going, "Son, you okay, honey?"
23:05
Nicky Billou: Like he spoke with this little boy, soft voice and said, "Mommy, are we going to go meet
23:13
Nicky Billou: the man who saved our family?"
23:16
Nicky Billou: So listen, Kelly, you don't know me too well, but I think you got a sense that I'm not a
23:22
Nicky Billou: wuss, right?
23:22
Nicky Billou: I think you got a sense I'm a Persian man, not North American bred.
23:26
Nicky Billou: I was forged in fire, hon.
23:28
Nicky Billou: You know what I'm saying?
23:29
Nicky Billou: Don't usually cry in public.
23:32
Nicky Billou: cry in public at one of my events.
23:36
Nicky Billou: I started to bawl like a little girl.
23:40
Nicky Billou: I was just bawling.
23:42
Nicky Billou: I just...
23:43
Nicky Billou: She keeps talking while I'm bawling, right?
23:46
Nicky Billou: Like in front of everybody.
23:47
Nicky Billou: And she said, "Nikki, you didn't know this, but when I came to see you,
23:51
Nicky Billou: you know, several months ago, I had not worked in 18 months.
23:55
Nicky Billou: I am the breadwinner in the family.
23:56
Nicky Billou: My husband's an artist.
23:57
Nicky Billou: I mean, he makes money.
23:58
Nicky Billou: Don't get me wrong.
23:59
Nicky Billou: But I make the money that makes the household run.
24:03
Kelly Resendez: Now, she said, and I hadn't made any money in 18 months.
24:06
Nicky Billou: We hadn't paid the mortgage in at least half a year.
24:09
Nicky Billou: And the bank was just about to foreclose on our home.
24:14
Nicky Billou: And we my husband and I, we were fighting in front of our three young sons
24:20
Nicky Billou: every day like cats and dogs.
24:23
Nicky Billou: My sons were freaking out.
24:26
Nicky Billou: And they were thinking, Mom and Dad are going to get divorced.
24:28
Nicky Billou: They're going to break up the family.
24:30
Nicky Billou: Oh, my God.
24:31
Nicky Billou: And she said, I was freaking out that we were going to break up the family.
24:34
Nicky Billou: And then you came along and you loved me.
24:37
Nicky Billou: You and Teresa loved me.
24:38
Nicky Billou: And you and Teresa poured into me.
24:40
Nicky Billou: You and Teresa opened yourselves to me.
24:43
Nicky Billou: You and Teresa helped me win.
24:45
Nicky Billou: And we paid back all the arrears and the bank isn't foreclosing our home anymore.
24:50
Nicky Billou: And I told my sons, told my family that the person who helped me do this was a man named
24:56
Nicky Billou: to keep a loo. And then she said, and so you could hear Pendra. And I'm like, oh, I hugged
25:07
Nicky Billou: her. We're both still crying. Usually I call on three people minimum to share stories.
25:13
Nicky Billou: I made an executive decision that I was not going to do that this time. There was nobody
25:19
Nicky Billou: that was going to come close to that. So I look at Teresa, I go, Teresa, I think you
25:23
Nicky Billou: You should hand out the registration forms.
25:25
Kelly Resendez: - Yeah.
25:26
Nicky Billou: - There are eight people in the room.
25:27
Nicky Billou: Okay, so Kelly, it's a small audience of potential buyers,
25:33
Nicky Billou: but a high ticket item.
25:34
Nicky Billou: And these eight people normally,
25:38
Nicky Billou: let's say two to four would immediately sign up.
25:43
Nicky Billou: One or two would say no right away.
25:47
Nicky Billou: And then the rest would be, we gotta talk.
25:50
Nicky Billou: We gotta do the dance to see
25:52
Nicky Billou: whether they can get past whatever's getting in their way.
25:55
Nicky Billou: And two of the people in the room
25:57
Nicky Billou: had come to me beforehand,
25:58
Nicky Billou: and these were older, grizzled, successful veterans
26:02
Nicky Billou: of the business wars.
26:04
Nicky Billou: They'd come to me and, "Nikki, I need to talk to you
26:07
Nicky Billou: "at a break."
26:08
Nicky Billou: I'm like, "Sure, let me go to the bathroom.
26:10
Nicky Billou: "Let's see, I'll join you."
26:12
Nicky Billou: And then they said, "Listen, I know that you're about
26:14
Nicky Billou: "to have some sort of enrollment opportunity."
26:18
Nicky Billou: I'm like, "Yeah, yeah, you're right."
26:20
Nicky Billou: And I said, "I just don't want you to be disappointed
26:22
Nicky Billou: "or upset, but we're not gonna sign up for you
26:26
Nicky Billou: "and go to an opportunity.
26:27
Nicky Billou: "I hope you're not upset, but that's how it's gonna be."
26:31
Nicky Billou: I said, "All right."
26:32
Nicky Billou: I'm like, "Yeah, sure, whatever you say.
26:34
Nicky Billou: "I mean, it's free country, you do what's best for you."
26:37
Nicky Billou: These two guys were the first guys
26:38
Nicky Billou: to hand in their filled out forms, the first guys.
26:41
Nicky Billou: And they handed me the form and they said to me,
26:45
Nicky Billou: "You son of a bitch, you son of a bitch."
26:48
Nicky Billou: I'm like, "Why are you calling me a son of a bitch?"
26:50
Nicky Billou: Said, "'Cause I told you I wasn't gonna sign up
26:52
Nicky Billou: "for your damn enrollment opportunity."
26:54
Nicky Billou: And I said, "You did, I remember, in the bathroom, yeah.
26:58
Nicky Billou: "Why did you?"
26:59
Nicky Billou: And he said, "Well, let me be honest with you.
27:02
Nicky Billou: "I've signed up for all kinds of programs
27:04
Nicky Billou: "and I've had disappointment."
27:07
Nicky Billou: I'm like, "Yeah, I know, so have I."
27:09
Nicky Billou: (laughing)
27:09
Nicky Billou: That's one of the reasons I got into this
27:11
Nicky Billou: 'cause I was sick and tired of being disappointed
27:13
Nicky Billou: by people that promised the moon
27:15
Nicky Billou: and didn't deliver anything, right?
27:17
Nicky Billou: And he said, but I guess you're not completely full of crap.
27:21
Nicky Billou: And I do need some help.
27:23
Nicky Billou: All eight people signed up.
27:24
Nicky Billou: All people signed up without a conversation.
27:28
Nicky Billou: The forms were filled out, got a card paid, boom.
27:33
Nicky Billou: And I went and I just kind of like, when the event was over, we did a debrief
27:37
Nicky Billou: with our coach, um, who was Tony Robbins, his director of sales training and
27:41
Nicky Billou: coaching, by the way, for five years and top guy and all that, his name's Mark
27:45
Nicky Billou: on you, sir. If you've never met Mark, you got to meet Mark. The best, the greatest,
27:48
Nicky Billou: the most awesome, heart-driven sales expert on the planet. And I went to Mark, I go, "Mark,
27:53
Nicky Billou: what just happened?" Like, I mean, I don't know what happened. And he said, he said,
27:59
Nicky Billou: I said, "I was not good. I did everything wrong. Everybody bought." You want to just
28:06
Nicky Billou: explain to me what happened? He said, "It's simple." He said, "You recruited the world's
28:11
Nicky Billou: greatest salesperson, a 12 year old boy.
28:15
Nicky Billou: You didn't know you recruited him, but you did.
28:18
Nicky Billou: And he sang you praises in a way that you never could.
28:24
Nicky Billou: And he said to me, he said, "All you have to do," and this is when you're talking
28:27
Nicky Billou: about like relationships and people, "All you have to do in life is you have to say,
28:34
Nicky Billou: 'God, use me.
28:35
Nicky Billou: God, use me.'"
28:38
Nicky Billou: The late great Charlie Kirk said that just before he was shot, he would say, God, use
28:43
Nicky Billou: me, put me, put me to use out there in your will.
28:47
Nicky Billou: And he said, if you do that every single day, and you find yourself in front of people that
28:52
Nicky Billou: are hurting, that's going to go really, really well for you.
28:56
Nicky Billou: And I shared the story with you because of what you shared with me.
28:59
Kelly Resendez: Yeah.
29:00
Kelly Resendez: Well, and it's one of those that's definitely part of my daily is like just basically seeing
29:06
Kelly Resendez: like God speak through me, you know, love through me, and and live through me.
29:13
Kelly Resendez: And when I when I hand it over, that's when I'm, that's when I'm magnetized.
29:19
Kelly Resendez: When I'm trying to like use my own, you know, just strategy or whatnot, things do get a
29:26
Kelly Resendez: little bit off.
29:27
Kelly Resendez: And I would say one of the greatest challenges that we have as humans is trusting, like really
29:34
Kelly Resendez: embodying that everything always works out okay for us.
29:38
Kelly Resendez: And I'm sure, you know, whether it's Byron Katie or Tony Robbins, I think everybody wants
29:43
Kelly Resendez: to argue about who said this first, but this idea that life happens for you is truly, you
29:51
Kelly Resendez: know, it is truly there.
29:53
Kelly Resendez: You know, we face rejection and most people, most people internalize rejection as being
30:00
Kelly Resendez: a bad thing.
30:01
Kelly Resendez: And when we make that shift to like, no, it is God's redirection, like when we really
30:08
Kelly Resendez: embody that, and I think the greatest challenge that we have is true embodiment.
30:13
Kelly Resendez: I think a lot of us can like personal growth our way through certain things and maybe just
30:19
Kelly Resendez: talk to ourselves through it.
30:21
Kelly Resendez: But like, embodiment is really just like that inner knowing that this is the way that it's
30:28
Kelly Resendez: supposed to be.
30:29
Kelly Resendez: And I look at my life over the period of time
30:33
Kelly Resendez: that I've gone through this.
30:34
Kelly Resendez: I lost my mom.
30:35
Kelly Resendez: She was only 67.
30:37
Kelly Resendez: I have a sister in a mental institution.
30:40
Nicky Billou: I lost her niece a year and a half ago,
30:43
Kelly Resendez: or it was her daughter, my niece,
30:45
Kelly Resendez: that I took care of once my sister was unwell.
30:48
Kelly Resendez: And I look at all of the suffering.
30:52
Kelly Resendez: Like we can't, the frequency of abundance
30:55
Kelly Resendez: doesn't mean that we don't suffer.
30:56
Kelly Resendez: What it means is we suffer differently.
30:59
Kelly Resendez: It's that I know I'm one day closer to heaven.
31:02
Kelly Resendez: I know you're one day closer to heaven.
31:05
Kelly Resendez: There's no, you know, there's no like hierarchy
31:08
Kelly Resendez: of you've created this amount of success.
31:10
Kelly Resendez: Well, nobody's gonna not die because of it.
31:14
Kelly Resendez: And like you said, being of service to people.
31:17
Kelly Resendez: When I look at what we've done at GoodLeap
31:19
Kelly Resendez: in scaling to the level that we have,
31:23
Kelly Resendez: A big reason that I believe that existed is, number one,
31:28
Kelly Resendez: we wanted to do right by the environment.
31:30
Kelly Resendez: So we only really do green energy financing
31:33
Kelly Resendez: and solar and home improvement.
31:35
Kelly Resendez: The second major piece is that we always made a commitment
31:39
Kelly Resendez: to contribute at a really high level.
31:42
Kelly Resendez: So we have a nonprofit called givepower.org,
31:46
Kelly Resendez: and we've personally kind of funded it in the beginning,
31:49
Kelly Resendez: and now a lot of our home improvement contractors
31:51
Kelly Resendez: and solar contractors do it, but a million people a day
31:56
Kelly Resendez: have access to clean water now
31:58
Kelly Resendez: because of our water desalinization plants.
32:01
Kelly Resendez: We've put solar in places that didn't have any electricity
32:06
Kelly Resendez: over 2,700 times.
32:08
Kelly Resendez: Like we've changed these communities.
32:11
Kelly Resendez: And so because of the focus that we've had,
32:14
Kelly Resendez: we're a for-profit company,
32:16
Kelly Resendez: but we've never lost sight of how do we make a bigger impact
32:20
Kelly Resendez: in the world?
32:21
Kelly Resendez: And that's honestly like what keeps me going every single day.
32:26
Kelly Resendez: And that's why I'm, I'm, you know,
32:28
Kelly Resendez: just most recently in fem tech because I like,
32:31
Kelly Resendez: well I like working on really big problems, right?
32:34
Kelly Resendez: Like really big ones that are going to move the needle for millions of
32:39
Kelly Resendez: women, not just one or two. And we all have a different purpose.
32:43
Kelly Resendez: Like God uses us all different.
32:45
Kelly Resendez: Like why did he give me the voice that I have?
32:47
Kelly Resendez: I have never had a challenge speaking in front of people. You know,
32:51
Kelly Resendez: my TEDx just dropped, like I will get on stages,
32:54
Kelly Resendez: whether it's with John or Marie or whoever it is,
32:58
Kelly Resendez: he uses my voice, but he uses it in a way
33:01
Kelly Resendez: that's world positive and it's gonna be generational changes
33:06
Kelly Resendez: that are made and a lot of us just get to be
33:09
Kelly Resendez: on the forefront of that as thought leaders.
33:11
Kelly Resendez: And I think that, thank you for bringing more thought
33:14
Kelly Resendez: leaders voices into the world because we need to wake up
33:19
Kelly Resendez: the rest of society.
33:21
Nicky Billou: So Kelly, you're doing great work.
33:24
Nicky Billou: I want to ask you to do me a favor.
33:27
Nicky Billou: The women of Iran right now are being slaughtered in the streets for asking for basic human
33:33
Nicky Billou: rights and the bravery they're demonstrating in asking for those rights is the most astonishing
33:39
Speaker 2: thing I've ever seen in my life and the most astonishing thing you'll ever see in your
33:43
Nicky Billou: life.
33:44
Nicky Billou: But I want to just tell you quite frankly, there are dark forces that are not paying
33:48
Nicky Billou: any attention to this, not bringing any sunlight to trying to get this stopped.
33:55
Nicky Billou: There have been literally over 50,000 Iranians slaughtered by this regime, a good many of
34:01
Nicky Billou: them women and children.
34:01
Nicky Billou: The majority are under the age of 30, I would say 75% are under the age of 30.
34:08
Nicky Billou: People in this regime have a special hatred for women because according to their interpretation
34:15
Nicky Billou: of the law, virgins go to heaven.
34:16
Nicky Billou: So if a girl is young, they'll rape her before they execute her.
34:19
Nicky Billou: Just think about how screwed up and messed up that is.
34:23
Nicky Billou: They need strong women voices to speak for them because the internet there has been shut
34:31
Nicky Billou: off and has been stopped.
34:34
Nicky Billou: And if I can send you a collage of 500 pictures of beautiful young girls and women that have
34:40
Nicky Billou: been murdered in this fashion. It'll crush your heart. They need women like you to speak,
34:49
Nicky Billou: to go on, use their platforms and say, "No, this is wrong." There have been women that
34:54
Nicky Billou: are doing this that are high-level women, like Madonna has spoken up. J.K. Rowling,
34:59
Nicky Billou: who wrote the Harry Potter books, has spoken up. Will you speak up?
35:03
Kelly Resendez: 100 percent. And I will share it with my mastermind, Gobundance Women, as well, where I've got
35:08
Kelly Resendez: hundreds of women in there too. You know, and I mean, thank you for bringing this to light because
35:14
Kelly Resendez: part of, you know, the downside of the frequency of abundance that I've kind of stayed in is being
35:20
Kelly Resendez: news free for over 15 years. And sometimes I don't have this, you know, I've kept myself in a world
35:28
Kelly Resendez: where I really just focus on what I can really impact. And this is an area that absolutely,
35:34
Nicky Billou: You know impact. Yeah
35:37
Nicky Billou: Absolutely. Well if you ever bring in an outside speaker and you want someone who's in iranian
35:42
Nicky Billou: Who can speak to this with a lot of authority a lot of passion?
35:45
Nicky Billou: I can win a lot of stats and move people i'd be happy to come speak
35:48
Nicky Billou: I don't know if you do. I don't know if that's a possibility, but yeah
35:51
Nicky Billou: I'd love to we will definitely
35:54
Nicky Billou: Yep, and um, i've got some business things that I can share with you that I think will be valuable for you and your people
36:00
Nicky Billou: And I think we should definitely talk about that as well
36:02
Nicky Billou: and there could be a nice win-win there for everybody. But the women of Iran are the bravest
36:09
Nicky Billou: and the best. And I don't know, I'm going to send you, there's a meme of this young
36:15
Nicky Billou: girl who can't be any older than 20 and she's beautiful, just gorgeous. And she's got a
36:21
Nicky Billou: picture of the Ayatollah and she's got a cigarette and she's burning the picture with the cigarette
36:25
Nicky Billou: and then tossing it under her feet and smashing it. And that's who these gals are. Without
36:32
Nicky Billou: being slaughtered by military grade weapons.
36:34
Nicky Billou: So that's why.
36:35
Kelly Resendez: - That's terrible.
36:37
Kelly Resendez: And you know, I, one of my questions for God every day
36:40
Kelly Resendez: is like, you know, I was born into this family
36:43
Kelly Resendez: that gave me opportunity.
36:44
Kelly Resendez: I was born here that gave me opportunity.
36:48
Kelly Resendez: And one of the greatest challenges I think that we have
36:50
Kelly Resendez: is really staying in the gratitude and the impact
36:54
Kelly Resendez: that there are people all over the world,
36:56
Kelly Resendez: whether it's Africa, Iran, India, you know,
36:59
Kelly Resendez: we do a lot of work in Haiti, other places
37:02
Kelly Resendez: don't have like they weren't born into it. And I did nothing
37:07
Kelly Resendez: to be born into this first world. You won the lottery of
37:11
Kelly Resendez: life, darling. And that's, and that is why for me, you know,
37:15
Kelly Resendez: awakening more female leaders to know really, what a difference
37:20
Kelly Resendez: we could make. Because if we did that, if women use their voices,
37:24
Kelly Resendez: and yes, of course, I encourage men to as well. But if like
37:27
Kelly Resendez: women do with the amount of compassion and empathy we had,
37:31
Kelly Resendez: Like we can change the world just through subtle things that we do.
37:37
Kelly Resendez: You know, something as subtle as donating 10%.
37:41
Kelly Resendez: Like the Bible tells you to tithe.
37:43
Kelly Resendez: Most people don't.
37:45
Kelly Resendez: Most people hold on to their money and you know what, they have fear, anxiety, or worry.
37:50
Kelly Resendez: When you get to that place where you are trusting and you give and you find things that you
37:56
Kelly Resendez: can make an impact in.
37:58
Kelly Resendez: Just the reward of that contribution
38:01
Kelly Resendez: is a big piece of being in abundance.
38:04
Nicky Billou: - No, it's beautiful.
38:05
Nicky Billou: So Kelly, where do you want me to send people?
38:08
Kelly Resendez: - I would tell you that probably the greatest space
38:11
Kelly Resendez: that they can go to is just kellyrosendez.com.
38:14
Kelly Resendez: I have most of my things there.
38:17
Kelly Resendez: And my book that's coming out,
38:20
Kelly Resendez: "Frequency of Abundance" will be out there soon.
38:22
Kelly Resendez: My last book, "Big Voices" is still on Amazon.
38:25
Kelly Resendez: and helping a lot of women really find a way
38:28
Kelly Resendez: through self-suffering,
38:29
Kelly Resendez: like the target of that is really like,
38:32
Kelly Resendez: we have a lot of self-suffering, right?
38:34
Kelly Resendez: Of my programming, my trauma, whatever it might be.
38:38
Kelly Resendez: And so that would, definitely would appreciate that.
38:42
Kelly Resendez: And of course, I would say anybody that's passionate
38:46
Kelly Resendez: about revolutionizing healthcare in the United States,
38:50
Kelly Resendez: I would love to have a conversation with.
38:52
Kelly Resendez: Again, I believe we're a powerful enough force
38:55
Kelly Resendez: we can make some major changes in the world just through our voices.
39:00
Nicky Billou: So I'll connect you with a few people.
39:02
Nicky Billou: We can talk about that offline, but there's...
39:04
Speaker 2: I love it.
39:05
Nicky Billou: In that regard, I know lots of folks.
39:10
Nicky Billou: When your book is ready, when it's out and you got a date, you're coming close, get a
39:15
Nicky Billou: copy to me.
39:16
Nicky Billou: I'll read it.
39:17
Nicky Billou: I'll bring it.
39:17
Nicky Billou: Love it.
39:17
Nicky Billou: We'll have a...
39:18
Nicky Billou: That's what I did for Tony.
39:20
Nicky Billou: He sent me this.
39:21
Nicky Billou: Yeah.
39:23
Nicky Billou: We had a conversation about it today.
39:26
Nicky Billou: So I'll definitely connect you with Tony and a few of the other people I told you about
39:30
Nicky Billou: offline as well.
39:32
Kelly Resendez: I love it.
39:33
Kelly Resendez: And I definitely, you know, offline, we can have some conversations about what's going
39:39
Kelly Resendez: on in Iran as well, just some resources that I have access to that, you know, definitely
39:44
Kelly Resendez: want to see how we can support that.
39:47
Nicky Billou: thing you can do is get the message amplified of what's happening.
39:52
Nicky Billou: Because there is a concerted effort to silence it.
39:58
Nicky Billou: We can't let that happen.
39:59
Nicky Billou: And the Iranian diaspora is not letting it happen.
40:03
Nicky Billou: But we need non-Iranian voices with platforms.
40:06
Nicky Billou: And if you can use your own platform and bring it to the women you know, that is fantastic.
40:11
Nicky Billou: If you can get other non-Iranians with big platforms to say, "Look, this is the civil
40:17
Nicky Billou: rights issue of our time.
40:18
Nicky Billou: This is a Berlin Wall moment."
40:20
Nicky Billou: It really is.
40:22
Nicky Billou: This is a time where you can say, "No, no, no, I don't want to get involved."
40:25
Nicky Billou: This is a time when you can look back and be proud and say, "I was part of helping
40:28
Nicky Billou: bring freedom to the world's oldest continuous nation state, the oldest continuous civilization
40:36
Nicky Billou: on the planet, which has been under a Nazi-like occupation for 47 years, and the assault that
40:42
Nicky Billou: it has sustained against women in Iran should make every feminist get up angrily and righteously
40:53
Nicky Billou: and say, "This is wrong."
40:54
Nicky Billou: And it's not.
40:55
Nicky Billou: And that tells me a lot about that movement, but that's another conversation for another
40:59
Nicky Billou: day.
40:59
Nicky Billou: But for those who are truly champions for women, this is a time to stand up and be counted.
41:04
Nicky Billou: That's what I have to say.
41:05
Kelly Resendez: Yeah, absolutely, for sure. And I just think, you know, Nikki, in saying that, like, I'm
41:10
Kelly Resendez: a firm believer that world change comes from collaboration between men and women. You know,
41:17
Kelly Resendez: I wouldn't identify as a feminist, I would identify as somebody that like, was an us
41:23
Kelly Resendez: to movement that is really this is not about men versus women. This isn't about like, if
41:28
Kelly Resendez: win, I lose. This is truly like, this is how we change generations to come is that, you know,
41:36
Kelly Resendez: women have so much power in the household. And you've heard that happy wife, happy life. Well,
41:42
Kelly Resendez: it's almost impossible with the amount of things that women have taken on their shoulders,
41:46
Nicky Billou: then we need to learn a different way. I actually think happy wife, happy life is not a good
41:52
Kelly Resendez: statement. I don't love it either. I think when women are off, there are a lot of things that are
41:58
Nicky Billou: affected in a household? No question. But when a man, and sorry for being so blunt, but puts his
42:07
Nicky Billou: gonads in a nutsack and hands them over to his wife, she loses all respect for him.
42:13
Nicky Billou: She can't help it. And she doesn't respond well to that kind of man. I'm not saying that a man
42:21
Nicky Billou: should go around trying to make a woman unhappy, not at all.
42:25
Nicky Billou: -No. -But his primary focus in life
42:28
Nicky Billou: has to be, "I'm a man. I'm a man of honor.
42:31
Nicky Billou: I'm a man who's gonna keep my word.
42:33
Nicky Billou: I'm gonna protect my family. I'm gonna provide for my family.
42:35
Nicky Billou: I'm gonna provide leadership for my family."
42:38
Nicky Billou: And that is really what it's all about.
42:41
Nicky Billou: -And men who do that... -Completely.
42:44
Nicky Billou: ...have families that work.
42:47
Nicky Billou: -Men who cower... -Yes.
42:49
Nicky Billou: ...trying to win their woman's approval.
42:50
Nicky Billou: My god, it is the biggest problem that they have.
42:54
Nicky Billou: And honestly, so many of these dudes
42:57
Nicky Billou: who pretend they're feminists,
42:59
Nicky Billou: I'm sorry, they're just doing it
43:00
Nicky Billou: because they wanna get laid.
43:01
Nicky Billou: They think that's gonna get those women to like them
43:03
Nicky Billou: and have to go to bed with them.
43:04
Nicky Billou: And I got news for you, it's not.
43:06
Kelly Resendez: - Yeah, well, I believe joy is internal.
43:10
Kelly Resendez: - Yeah. - I believe that it's internal.
43:13
Kelly Resendez: - And you're not too happy, you can't make me happy.
43:14
Kelly Resendez: - That is my responsibility.
43:17
Kelly Resendez: And at the same time, women don't want another child
43:21
Kelly Resendez: in the man that they're with.
43:22
Kelly Resendez: - No.
43:22
Kelly Resendez: - And so there's a lot of things
43:24
Kelly Resendez: that we have to be able to speak up about.
43:28
Kelly Resendez: And, you know, a lot of women are, you know,
43:31
Kelly Resendez: people pleasers and they take too many things on
43:34
Kelly Resendez: without sharing their needs with their partner.
43:36
Kelly Resendez: And then all of a sudden they end their marriage
43:39
Kelly Resendez: because they never had that conversation with them.
43:42
Kelly Resendez: I mean, this is definitely about women feeling our power
43:45
Kelly Resendez: and working very well with men.
43:49
Nicky Billou: - There are quite a few thought leaders
43:51
Nicky Billou: I've interviewed in this arena
43:53
Nicky Billou: who've given a lot of thought to this, men and women.
43:57
Nicky Billou: And I'll tell you, it's a way more nuanced
43:59
Nicky Billou: and longer conversation we can have
44:01
Nicky Billou: in a future conversation with us.
44:02
Nicky Billou: But my experience at a personal level,
44:06
Nicky Billou: and also in studying from these folks
44:09
Nicky Billou: that have talked and thought and read about this,
44:12
Nicky Billou: is a man who is able to have a strong relationship
44:17
Nicky Billou: with his wife has, first of all,
44:21
Nicky Billou: come to an understanding of what their roles
44:23
Nicky Billou: are gonna be in their relationship, right?
44:24
Nicky Billou: Like who's gonna do what,
44:28
Nicky Billou: who's gonna be responsible for what?
44:30
Nicky Billou: And a man who doesn't take on the things
44:33
Nicky Billou: that are expected of him is gonna very quickly lose
44:37
Nicky Billou: the respect of his woman,
44:38
Nicky Billou: and is gonna very quickly see that relationship deteriorate
44:41
Nicky Billou: go to a bad place.
44:43
Nicky Billou: But you also, like you said,
44:45
Nicky Billou: you're not responsible for her happiness.
44:47
Nicky Billou: You're not.
44:48
Nicky Billou: She's responsible for her happiness.
44:50
Nicky Billou: And she's not responsible for your happiness.
44:53
Nicky Billou: What you are responsible for in the relationship
44:56
Nicky Billou: is showing up the best possible way that you can
45:00
Nicky Billou: and being somebody who says, "Okay, in this relationship,
45:05
Nicky Billou: what is it-- what is gonna make my--
45:07
Nicky Billou: as a man, what is gonna make my woman feel like,
45:09
Nicky Billou: "Okay, yeah, this relationship's working for me."
45:12
Nicky Billou: And honestly, for a lot of women,
45:15
Nicky Billou: feeling taken care of, feeling safe.
45:17
Nicky Billou: And feeling taken care of doesn't mean he pays for everything.
45:19
Nicky Billou: It doesn't mean that, depending on what you've got set up
45:22
Nicky Billou: with each other. But women want to feel safe.
45:26
Nicky Billou: Women feel good when they feel safe
45:28
Nicky Billou: inside the relationship bubble.
45:31
Nicky Billou: A man has to give her emotional and physical safety,
45:34
Nicky Billou: and that's when a woman blossoms and does all the things
45:37
Nicky Billou: that make a family be great. So that's on the man's side. On the woman's side, this is going
45:44
Nicky Billou: to be something that a lot of women don't want to hear. But this is the truth. We men, when we
45:51
Nicky Billou: commit to a woman and we're marrying and we're forsaking all other women, we kind of expect that
45:57
Nicky Billou: that means we're going to get frisky with you, and not once every three months, but on a fairly
46:03
Nicky Billou: regular basis. That's why we promised we wouldn't go with anybody else. So when a woman lets
46:08
Nicky Billou: herself get to the point where, "No, I don't think sex is that important," and it's hyper
46:12
Nicky Billou: important to a guy, you can't do that. That dog don't hunt, man. You can't say, "I'm going to
46:17
Nicky Billou: marry this guy," and then he doesn't ever get to have sex anymore. That's ridiculous. That's crazy.
46:21
Nicky Billou: You got to find a way to make the guy feel, because that's how we connect. I connect my
46:27
Nicky Billou: women through lovemaking. I don't connect with her through a conversation. I know that's how
46:33
Nicky Billou: If she comes and she talks to me for three hours,
46:35
Nicky Billou: I don't feel more connected to her.
46:37
Nicky Billou: He takes me to the bedroom and we make love for three hours,
46:40
Nicky Billou: I feel super connected to her.
46:42
Nicky Billou: You know what I'm saying?
46:43
Nicky Billou: - Totally.
46:43
Nicky Billou: Well, a lot of this is physiological.
46:46
Nicky Billou: - I get it.
46:46
Nicky Billou: - And most people don't realize it.
46:48
Nicky Billou: - But you understand that there's a lot of men
46:49
Nicky Billou: who don't get that women need to feel safe.
46:51
Nicky Billou: And there's a lot of women who don't get
46:53
Nicky Billou: that men need to have lovemaking.
46:55
Nicky Billou: - Yeah.
46:56
Nicky Billou: - These are things, and again, as I said,
46:58
Nicky Billou: this is another conversation for a future call,
47:00
Nicky Billou: for a future conversation,
47:01
Nicky Billou: 'cause we both need to wrap this up in a moment or two,
47:04
Nicky Billou: but this is really, really important for men and women
47:07
Nicky Billou: to start to really understand
47:10
Nicky Billou: what the heck the other person needs
47:13
Kelly Resendez: to feel good about being with you.
47:16
Kelly Resendez: - For sure.
47:17
Kelly Resendez: And there's intentionality.
47:18
Kelly Resendez: If you want a great relationship,
47:21
Kelly Resendez: you learn about your man's needs.
47:23
Kelly Resendez: You learn about your woman's needs.
47:25
Kelly Resendez: You know, I don't know if you've ever read
47:26
Kelly Resendez: female brain or male brain,
47:28
Kelly Resendez: but it really just goes through the differences
47:30
Kelly Resendez: between our brains and there are so many things.
47:33
Kelly Resendez: And I just, I just believe with parenting, leadership,
47:37
Kelly Resendez: you know, thought, leadership, you know, relationships,
47:40
Kelly Resendez: everything, when you don't bring intentionality into it,
47:45
Kelly Resendez: then it's gonna suffer.
47:46
Kelly Resendez: And I noticed that a lot of people focus on going
47:49
Kelly Resendez: to business events or that kind of thing,
47:51
Kelly Resendez: but they're not going to relationship events.
47:53
Kelly Resendez: They're not having conversations
47:55
Kelly Resendez: or doing research like this.
47:57
Kelly Resendez: And we would be better off if we did.
47:59
Nicky Billou: I run a men's group.
48:01
Kelly Resendez: That's amazing.
48:02
Nicky Billou: 22 men in it.
48:03
Nicky Billou: It's not about making money for me, although I charge for it, but I only charge 100 bucks
48:07
Nicky Billou: a month for a man to be a member of this.
48:09
Nicky Billou: We are looking for men who want to be better men and want to be part of a community to
48:13
Speaker 2: learn about relationships, about all this stuff.
48:16
Nicky Billou: So we can definitely chat about that.
48:18
Nicky Billou: I love that.
48:20
Nicky Billou: It's a very good group.
48:22
Nicky Billou: We have very high standards.
48:25
Nicky Billou: A lot of men don't cut the mustard and they leave after.
48:28
Nicky Billou: You have a three-month probationary period.
48:29
Nicky Billou: You come in for three months,
48:31
Nicky Billou: we're gonna decide whether we wanna keep you.
48:32
Nicky Billou: And if you're not showing up the way we need you to show up,
48:35
Nicky Billou: we'll gracefully exit you and vice versa.
48:37
Kelly Resendez: - Yeah, I love it.
48:39
Nicky Billou: - But it's super important, it's super needed and all that.
48:41
Nicky Billou: So listen, Kelly, we end every podcast episode
48:45
Nicky Billou: by asking you, our guest expert,
48:47
Nicky Billou: what are your top three expert action steps,
48:50
Nicky Billou: your best pieces of life, of success,
48:54
Nicky Billou: of consciousness advice,
48:56
Nicky Billou: to take my listener to the next level in bullet point form.
49:00
Nicky Billou: Go.
49:01
Kelly Resendez: - Yeah, first and foremost, you know,
49:03
Kelly Resendez: a lot of people do goals and I believe
49:06
Kelly Resendez: that we should start with a vision for how we wanna feel
49:09
Kelly Resendez: before we do our goals.
49:10
Kelly Resendez: So that would be number one, is really just sit down
49:13
Kelly Resendez: and look at every area of your life
49:15
Kelly Resendez: and write down how you wanna feel.
49:18
Kelly Resendez: And then I always say, and uplevel the language
49:20
Kelly Resendez: once you get it done.
49:21
Kelly Resendez: Like, I don't wanna feel good,
49:22
Kelly Resendez: I wanna feel fricking fantastic in my life
49:26
Kelly Resendez: feel radiant or connected or whatever that might be.
49:30
Kelly Resendez: You know, the second thing that I would say is have a morning ritual.
49:34
Kelly Resendez: The most successful people that I know and have been in proximity to all of us have a
49:40
Kelly Resendez: morning ritual.
49:41
Kelly Resendez: On my website, you'll find mine with my journal that you can buy and it pretty much is it
49:46
Kelly Resendez: goes through my exact morning ritual.
49:49
Kelly Resendez: You know, I read the Bible every day.
49:51
Kelly Resendez: I read a devotional.
49:52
Kelly Resendez: I look at how I want to feel.
49:54
Kelly Resendez: I look at my goals.
49:55
Kelly Resendez: I journal, I meditate, and I pretty much have never missed a day.
50:01
Kelly Resendez: And it is, I love it.
50:02
Kelly Resendez: I love it.
50:03
Kelly Resendez: It is what I believe sets me up that day to tell my brain the instructions that it needs
50:09
Kelly Resendez: to operate at the level that I would say.
50:13
Kelly Resendez: The third thing is do an abundance audit.
50:17
Kelly Resendez: What that means is look at everything that you do on a daily basis for a couple weeks,
50:23
Kelly Resendez: it a positive, a negative, or a neutral. That includes people, places, whatnot. And when
50:29
Kelly Resendez: you really start to audit your abundance and your energy level, you can start to replace
50:36
Kelly Resendez: some of the negatives, of course, with positive. I mean, I can't not go to a finance meeting.
50:42
Kelly Resendez: I don't love it. I would prefer not to do that, but I'm going to have to go. But I'm
50:47
Kelly Resendez: going to make sure I have conversations like this sprinkled throughout my day, because
50:51
Kelly Resendez: I'm going to come out feeling really positive, right?
50:53
Kelly Resendez: I made an impact.
50:54
Kelly Resendez: We had a really thought provoking conversation.
50:57
Kelly Resendez: And when you start to audit, you know,
50:59
Kelly Resendez: just with as short as life is,
51:01
Kelly Resendez: you'll be able to set better boundaries and standards
51:04
Kelly Resendez: for what you're really doing.
51:06
Kelly Resendez: And I can tell you for any business leader
51:08
Kelly Resendez: on the call out there,
51:09
Kelly Resendez: what I would say is that most of you
51:12
Kelly Resendez: aren't spending enough time on higher ROI activities.
51:16
Kelly Resendez: You're busy, but you're not really moving the needle
51:20
Kelly Resendez: on your businesses.
51:21
Nicky Billou: - This is a fantastic series of expert action stuff.
51:26
Nicky Billou: So, Kelly, I'm gonna end this
51:28
Nicky Billou: and I'm gonna ask a few things
51:30
Nicky Billou: that I think you and I can do together,
51:32
Nicky Billou: but I'm gonna ask this on the air.
51:34
Nicky Billou: How'd you like to actually create a scorecard
51:36
Nicky Billou: with an abundance audit with me?
51:37
Kelly Resendez: - Oh, I would love to.
51:39
Nicky Billou: - Okay, I'm gonna bring Teresa into this
51:40
Nicky Billou: 'cause she has a tool she uses that makes it awesome.
51:43
Nicky Billou: Let's set up a call.
51:43
Nicky Billou: And she should do an interview with you
51:45
Nicky Billou: and we'll post that on the show too
51:47
Nicky Billou: 'cause you'd love Teresa.
51:49
Nicky Billou: She's-- she's--
51:50
Speaker 2: I love it.
51:51
Nicky Billou: She's got three Guinness World Records
51:53
Nicky Billou: for running 12 hours on a treadmill.
51:55
Nicky Billou: She's empowered tens of thousands of women
51:57
Nicky Billou: to, like, go to the physical max.
52:01
Nicky Billou: She's around my age, as I said.
52:02
Nicky Billou: And I won't say any more than that.
52:04
Nicky Billou: And she looks 20 years younger and supermodel.
52:07
Nicky Billou: And the least impressive thing about her is how pretty she is.
52:10
Nicky Billou: And she's really pretty.
52:12
Kelly Resendez: Oh, my goodness.
52:13
Kelly Resendez: I can't wait to meet her.
52:14
Nicky Billou: No, she's great.
52:15
Nicky Billou: This is up her alley, this sort of thing,
52:17
Nicky Billou: creating these scorecards and audits.
52:19
Nicky Billou: And I think we could use this as a tool
52:21
Nicky Billou: to put into the world for everybody.
52:23
Nicky Billou: So I think this would be a really cool thing to do.
52:26
Nicky Billou: Awesome. - I love it.
52:28
Nicky Billou: - Kelly Resendez, I'm glad Angel Tussie got us connected.
52:33
Nicky Billou: I'm glad we had this conversation.
52:34
Nicky Billou: Looking forward to lots more great conversations with you.
52:38
Kelly Resendez: - Me too.
52:39
Kelly Resendez: Thanks for having me, Nicky.
52:40
Kelly Resendez: Bye everyone.
52:42
Nicky Billou: - You bet.
52:42
Nicky Billou: And that wraps up another exciting episode
52:44
Nicky Billou: of the podcast, "The Thought Leader Revolution."
52:45
Nicky Billou: Find out more about today's amazing guests.
52:47
Nicky Billou: Don't want to know it, Kelly Resendez.
52:49
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52:52
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52:54
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52:56
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53:02
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