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  Speaker 1: I'm not really one for drama. I don't slam doors,
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  Speaker 1: I don't make scenes. I don't shout across dinner tables
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  Speaker 1: or storm out of rooms. That's just never been me.
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  Speaker 1: I'm more of a silent, leave the group chat kind
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  Speaker 1: of guy. My name's Nathan, I'm thirty five, and I
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  Speaker 1: used to think being the quiet one in a big,
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  Speaker 1: loud family was a good thing. You stay out of trouble,
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  Speaker 1: you don't rock the boat, and in return people leave
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  Speaker 1: you alone. Right, well, not exactly. My family's always been
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  Speaker 1: the holiday togetherness type. Think matching sweaters, group photos, nobody
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  Speaker 1: wants to take long winded prayers before carving the turkey.
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  Speaker 1: My mom has three siblings, two sisters and a brother,
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  Speaker 1: and they all live within an hour of each other
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  Speaker 1: in this sleepy, little Connecticut town where everyone knows everyone
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  Speaker 1: and nobody ever moves away except me. I moved out
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  Speaker 1: to Boston in my twenties for work, met my girlfriend Kate,
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  Speaker 1: and eventually settled in a quieter suburb just outside the city.
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  Speaker 1: We bought a little fixer upper last year, and since
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  Speaker 1: then I've been trying to juggle the whole adulting thing, work, renovations,
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  Speaker 1: trying and failing to eat better and keeping some kind
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  Speaker 1: of connection to my extended family. Most years, I made
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  Speaker 1: it a point to show up for Thanksgiving, even when
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  Speaker 1: I was drowning in deadlines or when Kate's family invited
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  Speaker 1: us instead, I made the trip. My family always made
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  Speaker 1: it seem like showing up meant something, like it was important,
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  Speaker 1: So I showed up. This year felt different, though. In
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  Speaker 1: the weeks leading up to Thanksgiving, the group chat, which
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  Speaker 1: had been started years ago and was typically flooded with recipes, swaps, memes,
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  Speaker 1: and Aunt Linda's cursed attempts at humor, went unusually quiet.
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  Speaker 1: I thought maybe people were just busy. I tried not
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  Speaker 1: to overthink it, but then Kate asked, Hey, are you
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  Speaker 1: sure they know we're coming this year? It was a
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  Speaker 1: good question. I had an RSVP'd, but I never had to.
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  Speaker 1: It was assumed I'd gone every year for the past decade. Still,
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  Speaker 1: I decided to be proactive. I texted my cousin Abby,
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  Speaker 1: She's the one who usually keeps things organized, and said, hey,
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  Speaker 1: bringing a bar of wine again? Anything else I should bring?
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  Speaker 1: She replied two hours later, all good, looking forward to
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  Speaker 1: seeing you guys. So we packed up early Thursday morning,
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  Speaker 1: wrapped a bottle of Cabernet in a dish towel, and
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  Speaker 1: made the drive two hours in light traffic, Spotify playlists
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  Speaker 1: and gas station coffee. Just like every year. I even
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  Speaker 1: wore the ugly sweater my mom got me last Christmas.
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  Speaker 1: I figured it tod get a laugh. When we finally
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  Speaker 1: pulled into the long gravel driveway, I remember thinking it
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  Speaker 1: looked dim. No cars, no laughter, no smell of stuffing
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  Speaker 1: or pies wafting out the windows, just quiet. I figured
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  Speaker 1: we must be early. Kate stayed in the car while
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  Speaker 1: I walked up to the front porch and rang the bell.
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  Speaker 1: A minute passed, then another. Finally the door opened. It
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  Speaker 1: was my aunt Marie. She looked surprised, not in the oh, wow,
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  Speaker 1: you're early kind of way, but in the what are
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  Speaker 1: you doing here kind of way? Sorry, she said, blinking
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  Speaker 1: at me. We thought you were still out of town.
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  Speaker 1: I stood there, holding the wind, trying to process what
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  Speaker 1: she'd just said. What didn't your mom tell you we
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  Speaker 1: moved Thanksgiving to my house this year. We thought you
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  Speaker 1: were staying in Boston. I looked over her shoulder. The
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  Speaker 1: house was dark, empty, no smell of turkey. No laughter,
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  Speaker 1: no kids running around. She didn't say anything. I said quietly.
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  Speaker 1: I texted Abby. She said she was looking forward to
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  Speaker 1: seeing us. Marie gave a weird smile, the kind you
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  Speaker 1: give when you know something's wrong but don't want to
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  Speaker 1: deal with it. Well, maybe next year. She said, Happy Thanksgiving, Nathan.
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  Speaker 1: Then she gently closed the door. I stood there for
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  Speaker 1: a second longer, wine bottle still in my hand. I
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  Speaker 1: felt cold, but not from the weather. Kate rolled down
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  Speaker 1: the window from the car. Everything okay. I didn't answer.
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  Speaker 1: I just got in the car, placed the wine bottle
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  Speaker 1: in the cup holder like it was fragile, and started
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  Speaker 1: the engine. On the drive back, I was quiet. Kate
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  Speaker 1: didn't push me, just let me think. My mind was racing,
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  Speaker 1: replaying every recent interaction with my family, trying to figure
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  Speaker 1: out what I missed, what I did, what I said.
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  Speaker 1: That night I didn't need I didn't even heat up leftovers.
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  Speaker 1: I sat on the couch, turned on the TV, and
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  Speaker 1: opened my laptop. I wasn't angry, not yet. I was hurt, deeply, weirdly,
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  Speaker 1: embarrassingly hurt because this wasn't just about Thanksgiving. It wasn't
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  Speaker 1: just about a dinner. It was about being erased, I
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  Speaker 1: opened my password manager and started scrolling. I'd been the
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  Speaker 1: tech savvy one in the family since forever. Anytime someone
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  Speaker 1: needed help setting up Netflix or Amazon Prime or Hulu,
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  Speaker 1: they came to me. Over the years, I created accounts,
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  Speaker 1: shared loggins, even set up smart TVs during holidays. My
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  Speaker 1: mom used my Disney Plus. My uncle streamed sports through
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  Speaker 1: my ESPN Plus because he didn't want to pay for it.
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  Speaker 1: My cousin Abby still used the grocery discount card I
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  Speaker 1: registered for when I worked at Whole Foods years ago.
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  Speaker 1: My aunt streamed my Spotify playlist for her yoga classes,
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  Speaker 1: and I let them. I let them because it made
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  Speaker 1: me feel connected, Because even when I was the one
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  Speaker 1: living far away, it made me feel like I still mattered.
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  Speaker 1: I started removing devices, logging people out, changing passwords one
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  Speaker 1: by one, quietly, calmly. They wouldn't notice right away, but
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  Speaker 1: over the next few days the text would come, Hey
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  Speaker 1: did Netflix kick me out? Is something wrong with Spotify?
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  Speaker 1: Can you check the Whole Foods app? And I wouldn't reply.
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  Speaker 1: Not yet. I wasn't done, because the next morning I
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  Speaker 1: woke up to a text for Abby short, simple, sorry,
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  Speaker 1: I thought you weren't coming this year. Aunt Marie said,
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  Speaker 1: you were busy. I stared at it for a long time.
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  Speaker 1: I didn't reply because while she was sending that text,
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  Speaker 1: someone else in the group chat sent a photo. It
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  Speaker 1: was the whole family sitting around a beautifully set table,
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  Speaker 1: wine glasses raised smiles wide, even my younger brother, who
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  Speaker 1: told me he was working Thanksgiving this year. No one
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  Speaker 1: had reached out, no one had asked where I was,
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  Speaker 1: not even a hey, are you coming? I'd been erased silently, efficiently,
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  Speaker 1: like a tab someone forgot to reopen, and suddenly the
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  Speaker 1: part of me that used to avoid conflict at all
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  Speaker 1: costs cracked. I opened the group chat typed a single message,
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  Speaker 1: hope the wine's good this year. Oh wait, you never
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  Speaker 1: opened the door I had sent. Then I muted the chat.
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  Speaker 1: I had a plan now, one that would take time,
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  Speaker 1: one that would be quiet, subtle, but oh they'd feel it,
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  Speaker 1: because if they could pretend I wasn't family, I could
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  Speaker 1: show them what that really meant. And I hadn't even
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  Speaker 1: gotten to the best part yet. I didn't expect a
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  Speaker 1: response to that message, but I got one anyway. Ten
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  Speaker 1: minutes after I sent it, Abby replied in the group
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  Speaker 1: chat with a week Wait what happened? Then from my
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  Speaker 1: mom Nathan, what's going on? Are you okay? Followed by
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  Speaker 1: my uncle Greg? Is this about yesterday? There's been a misunderstanding,
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  Speaker 1: a misunderstanding. That word hit me harder than I expected,
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  Speaker 1: like I'd tripped and fallen into the wrong movie script.
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  Speaker 1: How do you misunderstand someone standing on your doorstep with
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  Speaker 1: a bottle of wine being told we thought you were
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  Speaker 1: still out of town, and having the door shut on them.
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  Speaker 1: Kate looked over at me from the other end of
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  Speaker 1: the couch, one eyebrow raised, you okay. I showed her
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  Speaker 1: the messages. She didn't say anything for a second, then
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  Speaker 1: just shook her head. They're not sorry. They're just trying
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  Speaker 1: to patch it before it makes them look bad. She
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  Speaker 1: wasn't wrong. Still, I didn't respond. I wanted to wait,
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  Speaker 1: let the silence do its work. The next day I
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  Speaker 1: got the first text, Hey, it says your account is
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  Speaker 1: no longer active. Did something happen with Netflix? That was
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  Speaker 1: from my aunt Linda. A few hours later, my uncle
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  Speaker 1: Greg chimed in. Nate, ESPN plus booted me out? Can
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  Speaker 1: you rescind the login? I left them on? Read it
• 7:42
  Speaker 1: was like watching Domino's fall in slow motion, a gentle,
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  Speaker 1: passive sort of revenge, nothing loud or cruel, just consequences, boundaries,
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  Speaker 1: something I hadn't enforced in years. Three days later, my
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  Speaker 1: mom finally called. I didn't pick up. She left a voicemail,
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  Speaker 1: warm but brittle, Honey, we really need to talk. There's
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  Speaker 1: been a lot of confusion and I think you're hurt
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  Speaker 1: and I understand, but maybe we can just clear the air.
• 8:09
  Speaker 1: That same day, Kate and I were putting up Christmas
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  Speaker 1: lights a little early, but she wanted something cheerful around
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  Speaker 1: the house. While she wrapped garland around the banister, I
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  Speaker 1: went through the remaining shared accounts. Spotify gone, Amazon Prime revoked, Instacart,
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  Speaker 1: Family Plan canceled. I even logged into my cousin Zach's
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  Speaker 1: HBO Max profile and renamed it. Figure it out. It
• 8:32
  Speaker 1: sounds petty, I know, but it wasn't about the loggins.
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  Speaker 1: It was about everything they represented, all the little ways
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  Speaker 1: I'd kept myself tethered to a family that didn't even
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  Speaker 1: notice they'd left me out in the cold. Every time
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  Speaker 1: I'd set up an account or shared a service, it
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  Speaker 1: was me saying, hey, I'm still here. I'm still part
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  Speaker 1: of this, And every time they used those services without
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  Speaker 1: so much as a thank you, it reminded me I
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  Speaker 1: was just a utility to them, a silent background presence,
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  Speaker 1: the tech guy, the good son, the one they didn't
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  Speaker 1: have to worry about. But I was done being convenient.
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  Speaker 1: A few days later, things got even weirder. Kate came
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  Speaker 1: into the living room holding her phone, her expression somewhere
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  Speaker 1: between confused and amused. Your cousin just venmowed me eight
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  Speaker 1: dollars and ninety nine cents with the caption for Hulu.
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  Speaker 1: I blinked, you're kidding. She showed me the screen. Should
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  Speaker 1: I send him a refund? I grinned, nah, let him
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  Speaker 1: sit with that one. More calls started coming in, first
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  Speaker 1: from my mom again, then Abby, then Aunt Marie. None
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  Speaker 1: of them left voicemails after the first one. It was
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  Speaker 1: like they were hoping I'd eventually pick up if they
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  Speaker 1: just kept knocking. But I didn't. I waited because part
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  Speaker 1: of me wanted to see if any of them would
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  Speaker 1: say the actual words we hurt you, we left you out,
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  Speaker 1: We're sorry. But they never did. Instead, they sent more
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  Speaker 1: passive aggressive texts, stuff like hope everything's okay, we miss you.
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  Speaker 1: Don't let one weird holiday ruin everything. It was just
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  Speaker 1: a mix up. That last one got under my skin,
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  Speaker 1: just to mix up, as if forgetting I existed or
• 10:05
  Speaker 1: pretending to could be reduced to a technical error, a
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  Speaker 1: glitch in the group chat. I finally cracked a week
• 10:11
  Speaker 1: later when I got a long, overworded email from my mom,
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  Speaker 1: subject line trying to understand. It started with we love
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  Speaker 1: you so much and ended with we never meant to
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  Speaker 1: exclude you. But in the middle it was all excuses.
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  Speaker 1: She wrote about how Thanksgiving had gotten too complicated to
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  Speaker 1: organize this year, how Aunt Marie offered to host last minute,
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  Speaker 1: how they thought someone told me, how maybe I should
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  Speaker 1: have followed up more directly if I wasn't sure. She
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  Speaker 1: even said, you know how hard it is to coordinate everyone,
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  Speaker 1: maybe you could have called to check In that line
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  Speaker 1: right there, that subtle shift of blame, it flipped something
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  Speaker 1: in me. I stood up, walked into the kitchen and
• 10:51
  Speaker 1: just stared out the window at the quiet backyard for
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  Speaker 1: a long time. Then I went back to the couch,
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  Speaker 1: opened my laptop and typed a reply. I didn't send it,
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  Speaker 1: not yet, because part of me wanted to see just
• 11:02
  Speaker 1: how deep this rabbit hole would go, how long they'd
• 11:05
  Speaker 1: let things fester before admitting what this really was. A
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  Speaker 1: choice they chose to exclude me, and now I was
• 11:11
  Speaker 1: choosing what to do next. But that wasn't the last straw. No.
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  Speaker 1: That came a few days later, a cold Tuesday afternoon,
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  Speaker 1: when I got a letter in the mail, not a card,
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  Speaker 1: a letter in an actual envelope from my mom. Inside
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  Speaker 1: was a neatly typed note, a print out, not handwritten,
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  Speaker 1: that said, Nathan, we understand you're upset, but please don't
• 11:33
  Speaker 1: punish the whole family for one small mistake. Your cousins
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  Speaker 1: are struggling without access to their learning apps and entertainment services.
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  Speaker 1: This has affected the kids, not just the adults. Please
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  Speaker 1: be the bigger person. Please be the bigger person. I
• 11:47
  Speaker 1: laughed out loud alone in the kitchen, because here it
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  Speaker 1: was the thing I've been waiting for. Not an apology,
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  Speaker 1: not accountability, but a plea to stop the consequences, to
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  Speaker 1: stop making them uncomfortable. That's when I made my decision.
• 12:01
  Speaker 1: I pulled open the drawer where I kept the backup
• 12:04
  Speaker 1: hard drives and thumb drives year's worth of family photos, videos, projects, recipes,
• 12:10
  Speaker 1: shared docs, all things I'd helped organize, scan, store, and
• 12:15
  Speaker 1: maintain over the years. I had them all, all of
• 12:18
  Speaker 1: it because I'd always been the organizer, the digital archivist,
• 12:22
  Speaker 1: the one who kept track of birthdays, preserved Grandma's recipes,
• 12:26
  Speaker 1: digitize the old VHS tapes from the nineties. I stared
• 12:30
  Speaker 1: at the drawer and I started planning. Not something spiteful,
• 12:33
  Speaker 1: not something childish, but something permanent, Because if they wanted
• 12:37
  Speaker 1: to pretend I was never there, I was going to
• 12:39
  Speaker 1: show them what that actually looked like. I waited another week,
• 12:43
  Speaker 1: not because I had doubts, but because I wanted to
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  Speaker 1: be sure, sure that this wasn't just a flare of
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  Speaker 1: emotion or a wounded ego. I wanted to know deep
• 12:52
  Speaker 1: down that I wasn't overreacting, that this wasn't just one
• 12:56
  Speaker 1: bad Thanksgiving. So I tested it. I posted an old
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  Speaker 1: picture of me and Grandma from Christmas twenty eighteen in
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  Speaker 1: the group chat, just a simple memory, no caption, no response,
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  Speaker 1: no heart emoji from Mom. No I remember this for Mabby?
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  Speaker 1: No where was this taken from Aunt Marie? Nothing, not
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  Speaker 1: even seen. It was the final confirmation I didn't know
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  Speaker 1: I needed. They weren't just pretending I wasn't hurt. They
• 13:21
  Speaker 1: were pretending I wasn't there at all. So I got
• 13:24
  Speaker 1: to work first. I started with the family drive years ago,
• 13:28
  Speaker 1: when my grandparents passed away. I was the one who
• 13:31
  Speaker 1: volunteered to digitize everything. I scanned hundreds of photos, the
• 13:35
  Speaker 1: old kind, glossy and torn at the edges, some with
• 13:38
  Speaker 1: handwriting on the back and fading ink. I labeled every folder,
• 13:42
  Speaker 1: sorted them by year, created backups, then I uploaded them
• 13:46
  Speaker 1: to a shared Google drive, and gave everyone access. At
• 13:50
  Speaker 1: the time, they treated me like a hero. Nate, You're
• 13:53
  Speaker 1: a life saver, they'd said, I would have never gotten
• 13:56
  Speaker 1: around to this. They talked about making printed albums for
• 13:59
  Speaker 1: the grandkids, sending some to cousins overseas, even putting together
• 14:03
  Speaker 1: a slide show for Grandma's memorial. But over the years,
• 14:06
  Speaker 1: nobody else maintained it. Nobody backed up anything, nobody added
• 14:10
  Speaker 1: new photos. It was just me until it wasn't. I
• 14:14
  Speaker 1: opened the drive and reviewed the access locks. Seventeen people
• 14:18
  Speaker 1: still had viewing or editing access. Most hadn't opened the
• 14:21
  Speaker 1: folder in over a year, but a few had recently.
• 14:25
  Speaker 1: Aunt Marie had downloaded six albums just two weeks ago.
• 14:28
  Speaker 1: Abby had favored it a recipe folder three days prior,
• 14:32
  Speaker 1: Uncle Greg had bookmarked the whole thing, and I just
• 14:35
  Speaker 1: removed them one by one. I didn't delete the content,
• 14:38
  Speaker 1: not yet, but I made a clean copy, backed it up,
• 14:41
  Speaker 1: locally encrypted it, and locked it behind a private key.
• 14:45
  Speaker 1: The cloud version wiped, scrubbed clean, the shared links broken.
• 14:50
  Speaker 1: The drive was empty now. Then I sent a message
• 14:52
  Speaker 1: in the chat, Hey, heads up family drives under maintenance.
• 14:56
  Speaker 1: Might take a while. Still no replies. I smirked because
• 15:00
  Speaker 1: because they didn't realize what was happening yet, but they would.
• 15:03
  Speaker 1: Next was the family Tree. About five years ago, I
• 15:06
  Speaker 1: got really into ancestry stuff, built out this massive digital
• 15:10
  Speaker 1: family tree, paid for the premium account on the site,
• 15:13
  Speaker 1: even sent DNA kits to relatives. Everyone called me the historian.
• 15:18
  Speaker 1: I had files, charts, even scanned copies of marriage licenses
• 15:22
  Speaker 1: and birth certificates from the eighteen hundreds. I made a
• 15:25
  Speaker 1: full generational map, eight generations deep, and shared the link
• 15:29
  Speaker 1: with everyone. Guess what, Nobody ever updated it. Nobody even
• 15:33
  Speaker 1: logged in, except when they wanted to brag to coworkers
• 15:36
  Speaker 1: about being related to a Revolutionary War soldier or share
• 15:40
  Speaker 1: fun facts on Facebook. So I changed the privacy settings,
• 15:43
  Speaker 1: made the tree private, locked behind a password. Then I
• 15:47
  Speaker 1: renamed the project from Smith Jenkins Family Archive too archived,
• 15:52
  Speaker 1: no longer accepting contributions. Still no one noticed, not yet,
• 15:56
  Speaker 1: but I was just getting started because there was one
• 15:59
  Speaker 1: last thing they did didn't realize I still controlled the finances.
• 16:03
  Speaker 1: Years ago, when Grandma passed, she left a modest inheritance
• 16:07
  Speaker 1: that got split four ways my mom and her three siblings,
• 16:11
  Speaker 1: but she also left a smaller savings account for the grandkids,
• 16:14
  Speaker 1: just a little nest egg a few thousand each to
• 16:17
  Speaker 1: be distributed at a later time. The catch it was
• 16:20
  Speaker 1: in a joint custodial account, and for whatever reason, they
• 16:24
  Speaker 1: asked me to be one of the named custodians because
• 16:27
  Speaker 1: I was responsible and good with numbers. I didn't touch
• 16:30
  Speaker 1: the money. It was all recorded and visible to the others.
• 16:34
  Speaker 1: But what they didn't know was that I'd been keeping
• 16:36
  Speaker 1: meticulous records over the years, withdrawals had been made by
• 16:40
  Speaker 1: others on behalf of the grandkids, camp payments, school tablets,
• 16:44
  Speaker 1: even a Disney trip. Thing is not all grandkids were
• 16:48
  Speaker 1: treated equally. Abby's kids got three withdrawals in two years,
• 16:52
  Speaker 1: Zach's son two me zero. I never said anything until now.
• 16:57
  Speaker 1: I printed the statements, highlighted the discrepancies, annotated the dates,
• 17:02
  Speaker 1: made a spreadsheet with side by side breakdowns of what
• 17:05
  Speaker 1: each cousin's family had taken. Then I wrote a formal letter,
• 17:08
  Speaker 1: not angry, just factual. This account is no longer being
• 17:12
  Speaker 1: accessed equitably. I've flagged it for review and will be
• 17:15
  Speaker 1: submitting documentation to the family lawyer for clarity and reallocation
• 17:20
  Speaker 1: per Grandma's original wishes. I see seed everyone Still no
• 17:24
  Speaker 1: response in the group chat, but then the private messages started.
• 17:28
  Speaker 1: My mom, first, why are you stirring things up? Now?
• 17:32
  Speaker 1: Can't we just talk like adults? Aunt, Marie, Nathan, There's
• 17:36
  Speaker 1: no need to involve lawyers. We can resolve this peacefully. Abby. Seriously,
• 17:41
  Speaker 1: you're going to make this a thing. I didn't even
• 17:43
  Speaker 1: know we were using more than our share. Each message different,
• 17:46
  Speaker 1: but all with the same tone. Not we're sorry, but
• 17:50
  Speaker 1: how dare you make this reel? Kate watched me from
• 17:53
  Speaker 1: across the kitchen while I read the texts. You good,
• 17:56
  Speaker 1: I nodded, placing my phone face down. I'm better than good,
• 18:00
  Speaker 1: I said, I'm finally being seen, and that's when the
• 18:03
  Speaker 1: group chat lit up for the first time in two weeks.
• 18:06
  Speaker 1: It was Uncle Greg, can we please schedule a call
• 18:08
  Speaker 1: to clear the air? It feels like this is spiraling,
• 18:11
  Speaker 1: followed by Aunt Marie. I didn't mean to exclude you.
• 18:14
  Speaker 1: I was told you weren't coming. Can we talk then, Abby,
• 18:18
  Speaker 1: if this is about Thanksgiving? I really thought you knew.
• 18:21
  Speaker 1: I'm sorry it was happening not because they suddenly understood
• 18:24
  Speaker 1: how much they hurt me, but because they finally realized
• 18:27
  Speaker 1: they couldn't take my silence for granted anymore. Because when
• 18:30
  Speaker 1: I stopped being the quiet one, the one who fixed
• 18:33
  Speaker 1: tech and sent Google drive links and set up Spotify playlists,
• 18:37
  Speaker 1: the whole system cracked. They had built a house on
• 18:39
  Speaker 1: my generosity, and now the lights were flickering. But I
• 18:43
  Speaker 1: wasn't done yet. There was one last piece they'd forgotten.
• 18:46
  Speaker 1: I had the video archive Grandma's last Christmas, the one
• 18:50
  Speaker 1: where she sat all the grand kids down, looked each
• 18:53
  Speaker 1: of us in the eyes, and said what she loved
• 18:55
  Speaker 1: most about us, her final gifts, as she called them.
• 18:59
  Speaker 1: I still had that file, and they really didn't want
• 19:01
  Speaker 1: to hear what she said about me. I didn't respond
• 19:04
  Speaker 1: to the flurry of messages right away, not the ones
• 19:06
  Speaker 1: in the group chat, not the personal texts, not the sudden,
• 19:10
  Speaker 1: hey can we talk for five minutes voicemails. I wanted
• 19:14
  Speaker 1: them to sit in the quiet for once, in the
• 19:16
  Speaker 1: space they'd left me in for so long, forgotten, unacknowledged
• 19:20
  Speaker 1: until I finally became useful again. But they were starting
• 19:23
  Speaker 1: to remember now, and I was about to jog their
• 19:26
  Speaker 1: memories a little more. The video archive was something no
• 19:29
  Speaker 1: one asked me to make, Like most of the things
• 19:31
  Speaker 1: I did for this family. It was during Grandma's last Christmas,
• 19:35
  Speaker 1: two years before she passed. I had just gotten a
• 19:38
  Speaker 1: new DSLR and tripod and wanted to test it out.
• 19:41
  Speaker 1: She was already starting to slow down a little, sitting more,
• 19:44
  Speaker 1: walking less, but her mind was still sharp as ever.
• 19:47
  Speaker 1: That day, on her own, she asked if she could
• 19:50
  Speaker 1: record something for the grand kids. So I hit record.
• 19:54
  Speaker 1: She looked into the camera and said our names, one
• 19:56
  Speaker 1: by one. Started with Abby said she was spirited and outgoing,
• 20:01
  Speaker 1: then Zach, a good boy with a gentle soul. Then
• 20:04
  Speaker 1: the twins clever but need to learn patience, And then
• 20:07
  Speaker 1: she got to me, Nathan, she said, pausing, smiling like
• 20:12
  Speaker 1: only she ever did at me. You were the one
• 20:14
  Speaker 1: who always saw what nobody else did. You notice the
• 20:17
  Speaker 1: little things, helped without being asked, showed up even when
• 20:21
  Speaker 1: it was inconvenient. I just hope one day they appreciate
• 20:24
  Speaker 1: you like I do. That line used to sting, because
• 20:27
  Speaker 1: back then I still believe they might. Now I knew better,
• 20:30
  Speaker 1: So I uploaded the video just Grandma's message, trimmed perfectly,
• 20:35
  Speaker 1: with her voice soft and steady, and attached it in
• 20:38
  Speaker 1: a new message to the group chat. No caption, no explanation,
• 20:42
  Speaker 1: just the truth, her voice, her love, her clarity. And
• 20:46
  Speaker 1: then I logged out of the chat for good. A
• 20:48
  Speaker 1: few hours later, Kate came into the living room holding
• 20:51
  Speaker 1: her phone with a strange look on her face. Your
• 20:54
  Speaker 1: cousin just posted the video of Grandma on Facebook, she said,
• 20:58
  Speaker 1: and she wrote. We should have listened to him sooner.
• 21:01
  Speaker 1: I blinked, Abby. Kate nodded, and the comments are rolling in,
• 21:05
  Speaker 1: but I didn't check. I didn't need to. The next morning,
• 21:08
  Speaker 1: I woke up to an email from the family lawyer.
• 21:11
  Speaker 1: Nothing dramatic, just a short note saying the custodial account
• 21:14
  Speaker 1: was now frozen pending review, and I would be contacted
• 21:17
  Speaker 1: for a full statement. The other parties would be notified.
• 21:21
  Speaker 1: Then a card arrived in the mail, a real one,
• 21:24
  Speaker 1: this time from my mom. It wasn't fancy, just a
• 21:27
  Speaker 1: pale blue card with gold letters that said I'm sorry. Inside,
• 21:31
  Speaker 1: she'd written, I can't undo what happened, but I see
• 21:34
  Speaker 1: it now, all of it. You deserve better you always did.
• 21:38
  Speaker 1: It was signed love Mom. That night, I sat on
• 21:41
  Speaker 1: the back porch with Kate. We had mulled wine on
• 21:43
  Speaker 1: the stove, and the lights we'd hung a few weeks
• 21:46
  Speaker 1: earlier were glowing softly on the railing. She rested her
• 21:49
  Speaker 1: head on my shoulder and said, so, what happens now?
• 21:53
  Speaker 1: I thought for a long moment, nothing, I said. Finally
• 21:57
  Speaker 1: they can say their apologies, they can sort out their mess,
• 22:00
  Speaker 1: but I'm not going back to how things were. She
• 22:02
  Speaker 1: looked up at me, So this is it? No more
• 22:05
  Speaker 1: family stuff. I took a sip of wine and exhaled,
• 22:08
  Speaker 1: I'm not burning the bridge, but I'm not the one
• 22:10
  Speaker 1: rebuilding at this time. If they want me in their lives,
• 22:13
  Speaker 1: they can do the work. All I've ever done is
• 22:16
  Speaker 1: show up. She smiled, good it's about time. And with
• 22:20
  Speaker 1: that I closed the last folder on my computer, labeled family.
• 22:24
  Speaker 1: I didn't delete it, but I didn't back it up either, Because,
• 22:27
  Speaker 1: for once I wasn't the one responsible for holding the
• 22:30
  Speaker 1: pass together. I was finally free to start building something new,
• 22:34
  Speaker 1: not out of guilt or obligation, but out of choice,
• 22:37
  Speaker 1: my choice, and this time I came first.