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How do narcissists go about getting narcissistic supply? · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  What is going on, Beautiful people?
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  Today we're talking about how do narcissists get their supply?
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  If you're new here, my name is Lee Hammock.
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  I'm a clinically diagnosed narcissist and welcome to
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  another episode of the Narcissist Code.
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  So welcome back, folks. Welcome back, Welcome back.
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  Yes, yes, yes. How do narcissistic people get
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  their supply? I know a lot of people see the
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  word narcissistic supply. That's everywhere.
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  It's probably one of the most searched terms, one of the most
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  sought after terms in the like in the world of narcissistic
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  abuse, toxic abuse, narcissism or whatever.
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  So if you don't know what narcissistic supply is it, it
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  really is just validation. It's a narcissistic person's
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  need for validation, for their need to matter and whatnot is
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  their need to damn near be alive.
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  It keeps, it keeps narcissistic people alive.
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  It's like a battery. It's like a a energy source
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  pretty much for narcissistic people.
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  Now the way it's funny to me but not to somebody.
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  It's funny to me but not to other narcissists that that see
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  it. But the way a lot of people talk
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  about narcissists, they make it seem like narcissists are like
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  vampires feeding on the necks of empaths.
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  You know because people they typing about comment section,
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  they'll be like narcissists have to feed.
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  They get supply like they're, you know, like they're like a a
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  fruit bat or a bat or something like that, just lapping up the
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  the supply blood of a narcissist, of a of an empath or
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  somebody around them. But to me, that's funny how
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  people talk about it, but, you know, I can see how other people
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  would take it as as disrespectful and whatnot, but
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  how do they get that? How do they get that validation?
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  How do they get that? How do they get it?
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  Where does it come from? And whatnot.
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  So it really, it really just depends to me, just to me, as a
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  diagnosed nurses, there are different forms of supply.
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  There are. I mean supply could be
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  recognition, Supply could be fame, it could be supply could
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  be infamy. Supply doesn't have to be good
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  stuff, it could be bad stuff too.
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  Y'all, as long as a narcissistic person feels like they matter
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  and they're leaving some type, some type of legacy around.
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  Supply could be some bad stuff. Supply could be infamy.
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  Supply. Supply could be committing a
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  crime. Supply could be financial.
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  Supply could be getting validation for how they look.
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  Supply could be, you know, just having somebody around.
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  Just proof that I'm proof that I matter by having kids that you
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  can. The kids can be supplied, the
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  job can be supplied. I know people typically refer to
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  supply as being a person, but it doesn't have to be a person, you
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  know? It can be.
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  The new supply could be a job. The new supply could be a hobby.
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  The new supply could be, you know, a career choice or
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  something along those lines. It doesn't necessarily have to
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  be a person, but how do they go about doing it?
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  Some narcissists get supply through, You know, some
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  narcissists get their supply by being mean.
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  You mean sometimes they take it, they take the supply, They don't
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  earn it. They take it.
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  You know when I said earlier some narcissistic people get
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  their supply through bad deeds, through, you know, criminalistic
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  behaviors, through acting up, through being bad people,
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  through scamming, through being a con artist and things of that
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  nature. If y'all you know this, not this
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  channel, is not to get political.
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  But there are a whole bunch of political narcissists around
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  like politicians that are narcissistic people.
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  You you see them popping up when they get committed or they get
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  convicted of crimes when they get impeached or they get not
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  impeached, but when they get, what do you call it indicted and
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  things like that. Like, you see your boy Menendez,
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  the Democrat dude, and then you just see Santos, the Republican
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  dude, like Santos boy. But you see he get his Santos
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  guy, his supply from just being on TV.
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  He definitely was lying. He knew he was lying.
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  He knew he knew he was lying to the world.
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  That's why he had that little sly smile on his face.
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  Anytime he'd be on TV, he's like, well, I lied and I got
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  hurt. So what are you going to do
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  about it? I'm not.
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  I'm not resigning. So it's right there.
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  If it's not, they get political, Don't hop in the conversation
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  and being like, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.
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  The Democrats, the public, this is not, they get political.
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  This is just to show you an example of it, how some people
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  can use bad things to get supply.
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  The dude getting gold bars from Egypt or whatever, allegedly.
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  And then you got other good over here just lying his ass off on
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  his resume and lying about achievements and accomplishments
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  to get to plot, to smile on TV, to be in the notoriety.
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  You know when you see people say there's no such no such thing as
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  bad press, Any attention is good attention.
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  That's narcissist. They talk about narcissistic
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  people because like if you're getting bad attention and you
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  like it, you crave it. That's narcissism.
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  That's narcissistic right there, especially if it's a person.
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  A company is different. There can be, there can be
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  company narcissism around, but but people are going to be
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  different in that space right there.
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  You know, because like you get a a person like that who goes
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  after infamy regardless through any means necessary.
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  You get people who commit these mass, you know, unallivings that
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  want to live in infamy, they want their name to be
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  remembered. You know, they go do something
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  to at a school and they because they want to be remembered and
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  things like that, that's supply for them.
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  That's weird, that type of toxic dynamic, but that's supply.
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  They get it through by taking it.
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  They get supply through force, you know, they force it.
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  So supply can be through force, You know, they really absolutely
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  can take their supply through forcing it, through stealing,
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  through, through manipulation, through, you know, being
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  conniving, being gaslighting, manipulating, lying.
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  You know they get supplied through love bombing you and
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  tricking you. Some narcissistic people don't
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  do good things to get supply out.
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  They can do bad things. They can lie and manipulate
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  their way to the top and then become, you know, the whole time
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  they're getting supply, even if they get in trouble for you
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  know, the trouble sometimes is, is the supply.
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  You see, thank you. Whatever supply they're after,
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  fame, infamy, money, whatever it is, love, whatever it is,
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  emotional connection, legacy, legacy supply, whatever it is,
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  they can get it. They can get that through bad
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  deeds as well. Y'all.
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  They don't have to be good. They don't have to go through
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  good deeds to do that type of stuff.
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  But on the other side of things, some narcissists get their
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  supply through doing good stuff, through good doing, through
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  doing good deeds, through just being conventionally attractive.
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  You know, you can be, sometimes you don't even have to work hard
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  to get supply. You can just be conventionally
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  attractive. You can be just be, you know
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  what? You can just be have a nice
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  body, have a nice face. You know, whatever it is.
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  You can get supply through being attractive people.
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  Oh, you look so you're so you're so beautiful look at you, you
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  know, that's supply, you know, that's narcissistic supply right
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  there. That's validation.
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  You see people can give you money for looking good, you know
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  in the in that space right there.
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  So you like you can get a financial supply and adoration,
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  the adoration supply right there in that space just from being
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  born a certain type, being born with a certain type of look.
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  They you didn't have to work, you didn't have to work hard to
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  get your genetics maybe on a cellular level.
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  You had to work hard to get your genetic code like the way it is
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  to look good. But you didn't have to work hard
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  as an adult a lot of times. I mean I know eating right and
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  working hard, working out is not easy to do.
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  So I understand that space. But yeah, other you were born
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  with this look you know what I mean With the genetics you have.
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  You know you don't have to work hard to get that.
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  You know, some people get supply through being charismatic,
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  through being funny, you know, and I say when I say charismatic
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  and funny, people automatically think it's just like, oh, that's
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  good, a good form of supply. No being charismatic and funny.
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  You can poke fun at people. You can juggle on people, You
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  can make other people laugh at some another person person's
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  expense and that's bad to that person.
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  But you're still getting supply from that.
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  You know, you can be charismatic and funny in a good way and
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  still get supply, but sometimes you can be charismatic, funny
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  and and evil, you know, and still get supply from that.
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  That that's just the way it works sometimes.
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  A lot of times in these spaces, like there's no, there's no end
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  or just one way that narcissists, narcissists get
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  supply out. It can be supplied in different
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  forms, in different formats and things of that nature.
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  So you just got to be wary and be on the lookout for the type
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  of stuff because they will go through any means possible to
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  get their supply. You know, like I said, they they
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  they just do all this type of stuff like that.
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  Like sometimes they can just be charming to get supply, just be
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  charming, just be being nice. Y'all can get supply.
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  Oh, you're such a nice person. You have so you so well
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  mattered. You have such good manners.
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  That's getting supplied. That's getting validation.
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  If you consistently doing that, you know, it's just different
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  ways to go about doing it. Like you can get, you can get
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  supply through just having money.
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  Yeah, some people don't have to work hard to get money again.
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  Sometimes you get you get bored with what they call it a silver
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  or gold or platinum spoon in your mouth.
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  So you didn't have to work hard to get money.
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  So you already got money. You just use your money to get
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  supply. And sometimes again y'all you
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  can do that in a bad way. You can use your money to get
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  people hurt. You use your money.
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  You use your money to get to control people.
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  You can use your your, your position of power to control
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  people, which is because you have money.
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  Sometimes you do have to work for you know, that happens right
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  there all the time. Like control is a form of supply
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  as well. So if you are that, you know you
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  can get supply through being the head of a company, through being
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  the head of a household. This is it doesn't have to be
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  head of a company to get that control supply, You'd be just
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  head of a household. You can just control your your
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  family members, your family dynamic, you can control them
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  going in and outside the house, you can control them doing that
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  type of stuff right there. It that's control as well.
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  That's a controlling form of supply too.
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  Y'all so that it goes. It kind of crosses that line
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  into that space right there, where that's a form of supply
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  too. So narcissistic people there,
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  it's it's unlimited ways to get supply.
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  But if you think about it, supply is validation.
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  And I'll end the video with this right here in order to get a
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  narcissistic person to leave you alone a lot of the time it
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  doesn't work all the time. Figure out what type of supply
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  that they are getting from you and cut that off.
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  I might do a longer video about this.
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  You made it this far. You want me to do a longer video
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  on cutting off the supply? Just put a little hand raised
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  emoji in or just do a hand in the comment section.
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  Let me know if you want me to do a longer video.
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  But yeah, because they, like I said, just cut whatever supply
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  that they're getting from you, be it adoration, be it control,
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  financial, whatever it is, whatever form of supply that
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  they're getting from you, figure out a way to cut that off or
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  remove that. And that can help you
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  breakthrough that space right there.
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  You know, they can help you get through that dynamic right
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  there. They can help you get this
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  person possibly to leave you alone.
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  Like I said, it's not a guarantee.
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  It's not a guarantee, but but it's possible.
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