Latest / The Inspired Speaker Network / The Secret To Having A Great Day

Transcript

The Secret To Having A Great Day · The Inspired Speaker Network

• 0:00
  Hey, everybody.
• 0:01
  Are you having a great day?
• 0:02
  Yes.
• 0:03
  Oh, no, you're not?
• 0:05
  It's okay.
• 0:05
  I got you.
• 0:07
  I'm Tif Loeffler.
• 0:08
  Welcome to Positively Yours.
• 0:10
  I'm going to share Tif's tips, techniques, and a little bit of magic
• 0:13
  to help you up level and have a great day every day.
• 0:18
  Are you ready to get started?
• 0:20
  Yeah!
• 0:21
  Oh, you're not?
• 0:22
  That's okay.
• 0:23
  I still got you.
• 0:24
  Let's go.
• 0:27
  When people meet me a lot of times, I'm very flattered.
• 0:31
  I hear, oh my gosh, you're so bubbly and positive all the time.
• 0:34
  How do you do it?
• 0:35
  And I like to say to them, that's just who I am.
• 0:38
  And I think in a sense it is.
• 0:40
  That's just who I am.
• 0:41
  I love being bubbly and positive.
• 0:45
  I love complimenting people.
• 0:46
  I love life.
• 0:48
  I love fun and playtime.
• 0:51
  And up until a few years ago, even in spite of huge financial setbacks,
• 0:57
  not knowing what I'm doing in life.
• 0:59
  I thought, you know, I still have this underlying bubbly.
• 1:03
  Everything's going to work out.
• 1:04
  You know why?
• 1:05
  Because my family is safe.
• 1:07
  We're healthy.
• 1:08
  Everything's fine.
• 1:09
  That was my go-to.
• 1:10
  That was my default for my whole life.
• 1:15
  Until the morning of March 28th, 2024, when we got a call that my younger
• 1:22
  brother, Court, had fallen and was taken to the hospital.
• 1:26
  And two hours later, he was gone.
• 1:29
  He had died of a sudden massive heart attack at the age of 48.
• 1:35
  And oh, it is amazing saying that takes me back to that day to a great
• 1:41
  extent that my world shattered into so many pieces.
• 1:49
  It seemed impossible to make it through that day.
• 1:54
  I have five people in my family, my mom, my dad, myself, my younger brother
• 2:00
  Court, and my youngest brother Theron.
• 2:03
  And I adore my family and we are so close.
• 2:07
  And I understand that with great closeness could create great grief
• 2:14
  should anything happen.
• 2:17
  I was not prepared.
• 2:19
  I don't think anybody is.
• 2:20
  And it has forever altered my view of that positivity.
• 2:27
  And I will tell you, I certainly can understand when people get annoyed at
• 2:31
  that whole toxic positivity.
• 2:33
  No, just say everything's fine.
• 2:35
  The sky is falling, but your feet are on the ground.
• 2:39
  You're fine.
• 2:40
  And I think that ties into that internal mindset we have.
• 2:45
  Like, I just have to get through the day.
• 2:47
  If I can just survive the day and our brain is more than happy to help us.
• 2:52
  And the challenge with that is at the end of the day, your brain says,
• 2:57
  see, you're alive.
• 3:00
  Problem is so many times you feel like you just got run over by a freight
• 3:05
  train and your brain says, yeah, but you're alive.
• 3:07
  So it's in my job.
• 3:09
  Good job.
• 3:09
  Gave me and you're thinking really?
• 3:14
  So up until truly that moment, I was just bubbly happy all the time and I
• 3:22
  would put on a false positivity just because I was powering through.
• 3:26
  And it's interesting now because when people get to know me, I'm still that
• 3:31
  bubbly positive.
• 3:33
  And then they get to know me more.
• 3:36
  And now I hear several people say, wow, I thought that you just everything was
• 3:42
  so perfect in your world.
• 3:44
  And now I've heard some things that you have gone through and wow, then they
• 3:49
  ask, okay, how do you stay positive now?
• 3:53
  Like I get before, but now how are you staying positive?
• 3:58
  And I wish I had an answer that would be helpful.
• 4:03
  I feel to people except I can say that you do wake up every day and you do have
• 4:15
  choices and you may not like the choices in front of you and that's okay.
• 4:20
  I mean, it is okay to say even in a day.
• 4:23
  Wow.
• 4:23
  I think this day is this day could really suck and yet I also get to say, you
• 4:31
  know what?
• 4:32
  I'm gonna do my best.
• 4:33
  And that's what I'm trying to make sure that I model for myself that I wake up
• 4:41
  in the morning.
• 4:43
  And I'm also going to add that this is is something that I like to put grief
• 4:51
  grieving outside of this.
• 4:53
  So I want to take any grief that you have and I want you to put that to the side
• 4:57
  because that's a very deep subject and I don't want that.
• 5:02
  That's its own honor and I'm talking about you wake up in the day.
• 5:06
  Okay, maybe things are going quite quite right, but I love I heard this somewhere
• 5:10
  and someone said he wakes up in the morning.
• 5:12
  He says I am a genius.
• 5:16
  This is exactly the way that I've planned it.
• 5:19
  Look, it's exactly the way I wanted it.
• 5:21
  And now I get to make choices on how I want it to look going forward and I
• 5:25
  appreciate that so much because we can always look at our day and start to
• 5:30
  nitpick and say I have to go to work or I have to deal with so-and-so or I'm not
• 5:35
  going to have enough time.
• 5:36
  We could just go there right away, but instead what if and maybe this is one
• 5:41
  of tips tips to have a great day is to be as obnoxiously silly in the morning
• 5:45
  when you wake up before you even get out of bed.
• 5:47
  Just wake up and go.
• 5:48
  Oh my God, I woke up.
• 5:52
  Yes, I did it.
• 5:54
  Thank you.
• 5:55
  This could be an incredible day or I woke up.
• 5:59
  I am a freaking genius because I look around and it's just exactly the way I
• 6:04
  left it last night.
• 6:05
  This is great.
• 6:06
  Awesome.
• 6:07
  No sleepwalking for me or waking up like I get to eat breakfast scar.
• 6:16
  This is going to be the greatest day of my life.
• 6:18
  And you know your brain might be saying are you insane?
• 6:22
  Yes in a good way.
• 6:23
  In a very good way because I am making conscious commands that today is going
• 6:28
  to be a great day.
• 6:29
  So no matter what day I'm having I do get to make choices.
• 6:34
  Yes, I'm naturally bubbly.
• 6:36
  I like to think that in fact my boyfriend has said I wonder if you are adopted
• 6:41
  not that everyone in my family is sad, but he just said you're particularly
• 6:44
  bubbly and I said thanks and it hasn't seemed to change as I've aged which I'm
• 6:50
  very grateful for because on another note as we get older we have more life
• 6:56
  experiences and it can be very easy to slide down into the weight of things
• 7:02
  that haven't gone.
• 7:04
  Well, it would keep you from having a great day and I totally understand that
• 7:10
  and there's where the choice is more important than ever that at any given
• 7:15
  moment of the day and this this device could be your greatest distractor but
• 7:19
  also be a very nice friend.
• 7:20
  You can even set a timer for yourself and just check in just check in time
• 7:25
  just check in for a moment.
• 7:26
  Just you can make it the same time scattered around and with that ding ding
• 7:31
  ding and just like I go, huh, just check it with myself.
• 7:35
  How am I doing?
• 7:36
  Am I doing?
• 7:36
  Okay.
• 7:37
  All right.
• 7:37
  I am cool.
• 7:39
  And if I'm not going to make a little tweak and if I am you know what it's
• 7:43
  also wonderful to celebrate.
• 7:47
  We don't celebrate enough.
• 7:49
  Oh my gosh.
• 7:50
  I am so spoiled.
• 7:52
  I have such a large family growing up there were so many celebrations major
• 7:57
  holidays birthdays weddings graduations baby showers.
• 8:02
  Oh my gosh.
• 8:02
  Now we've gone through a few iterations of baby shower graduation getting
• 8:10
  married baby shower graduation getting married and now it's baby shower again
• 8:17
  and I think whoa that is so cool.
• 8:21
  It's cool to have those moments and also there's so many days I am the day
• 8:28
  and I think what did I end up doing today?
• 8:31
  What kind of happened and I do that for a week and for a month and I want to
• 8:36
  remind us that celebrate we're here on the planet to celebrate I am telling
• 8:40
  you now once in a while things happen where we go through a little bit of
• 8:43
  suffering for a vast majority suffering is optional.
• 8:47
  Yes, there is some angst in the world, but there's also so much beauty and
• 8:52
  joy and reasons to celebrate and if you can't think of any come talk to me
• 8:58
  and I'll find a huge list and I could list some right now having breakfast
• 9:01
  being able to open my eyes being able to use my feet being able to use my
• 9:06
  hands being able to get dressed.
• 9:08
  I can walk outside.
• 9:09
  I actually can smell food.
• 9:11
  I can talk to people I can offer compliments.
• 9:14
  I can hear what they have to say.
• 9:16
  I could tell someone I love you.
• 9:19
  I can breathe.
• 9:24
  And so I just feel it's in our hearts are our sovereign.
• 9:37
  I want to say job, but it's our it's our mission.
• 9:40
  It's our vocation in life to have as much fun as possible and to bring
• 9:45
  people along for that celebration because what is our life?
• 9:51
  We could not take anything with us except the energy of the love and the
• 9:57
  celebration that we had with people throughout our whole lives.
• 10:00
  And yeah, there's there's probably going to be some other stuff that
• 10:04
  comes along the way and guess what sustains us and guess what's the
• 10:07
  most important the most important is love and I want you to just love
• 10:14
  on yourself every day by celebrating as much as you can have as much
• 10:18
  fun as you can find the fun is it's a challenge at times.
• 10:23
  If you're at work doing some boring things or talking to someone
• 10:25
  and they're droning on and on and yet.
• 10:28
  There's always that spark that little bit of when I get done with
• 10:31
  this task.
• 10:31
  I'm going to celebrate.
• 10:32
  You know what?
• 10:33
  I'm going to lovingly interrupt this person and compliment them and
• 10:35
  then I'm going to go on with my day and I'm going to celebrate that
• 10:37
  too.
• 10:38
  It doesn't matter.
• 10:40
  It really doesn't.
• 10:41
  What's important is that you know in your heart you are here for a
• 10:47
  reason the best reason of all and the reason is that of the trillions
• 10:51
  of elements that congealed at one moment how it was you and you
• 10:57
  arrived into the world and you're amazing and you have talents and
• 11:02
  you have an energy unlike anybody else.
• 11:07
  So why would we have anything other than a great day when it all
• 11:11
  possible?
• 11:12
  I think it's absolutely possible.
• 11:13
  And that's why I like to share with people truly how to have a great
• 11:18
  day and to build on that because it's simple.
• 11:24
  Maybe not easy at times.
• 11:26
  That's okay.
• 11:27
  It is fun to have that powerful brain of yours create that moment
• 11:34
  that is unique in this moment only to you and I think that's what I
• 11:40
  want to end this segment with is on the power of the present moment
• 11:46
  because right here right now I could be thinking of a million different
• 11:49
  things and yet I'm so excited that right now I'm here talking with
• 11:55
  you in this podcast and you know what that's really all I'm thinking
• 11:58
  about.
• 11:58
  I'm really not thinking about much what to say next.
• 12:01
  I'll just let it flow.
• 12:03
  I am enjoying the moment taking a breath once in a while and realizing
• 12:10
  this is where the power is.
• 12:12
  It's in the present moment at any given time.
• 12:15
  If I could offer you one piece of wisdom, that's not mine, but I'm happy
• 12:22
  to share it.
• 12:23
  The power of the present moment is where it's at at every given time
• 12:30
  and you have that power always.
• 12:34
  Please don't let anyone ever even for a moment try to take that from
• 12:39
  you and say, nope, you don't have that power.
• 12:42
  Oh, you have that power.
• 12:44
  And I am so passionate about lifting people up to make sure that they
• 12:50
  know that they are in their power because that power is always good.
• 12:55
  It is always good.
• 12:57
  And when you truly know that you have that power, you are unstoppable
• 13:02
  in the best way possible.
• 13:04
  So I want you to know that you have got the power in you at every moment
• 13:09
  to have a great day and it just starts with the moment and it can start
• 13:13
  with something as simple as just taking a breath.