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That Gen-X Friend Vanity Sizes and Personalities · Military Broadcast Radio | MBR Talk

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grew up on static and midnight shows.
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MTV raised us. You already know, latchkey
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hearts and wild eyed dreams, feral minds tearing at the
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scene. You say it's too much to unpack
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but I'll see you wait and I've got
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Good morning. Welcome or welcome back to that
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Gen. X Friend podcast.
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So I've been up since 2:00. Welcome to, I guess, getting
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older, especially for women. So before I begin, I want to
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give a shout out to MB Radio. As always, thank you for this
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platform for me to share the musings of living today in
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modern times and also going through life as humanity has
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always gone through. But I'm sure we have different
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things to share. So let's get started.
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You know, I, I often share how I fitted a lot right before I
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like, you know, the intros playing and I'm like trying to
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fix my glasses. And like, now that I'm older,
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I've always worn glasses. I'm farsighted, really
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farsighted. So I've worn glasses since I was
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really, really young, like, I think toddler.
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But, you know, as I age, as most people age, I think they begin
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to feel the pain of having not just like, I used to wear just
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one lens, right. I didn't need it anything
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particular for reading. But now I have what is called
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transitions. Transitions.
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Yeah. That before the technology
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arrived, you will see the bifocals, but the transitions
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sort of blur the line so you don't see it, which is a sure
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sign of aging. I guess I'm grateful for it, but
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it doesn't really help the the things that we do as people who
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wear either bifocals or transitions.
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I think some people still wear the bifocals for some reason.
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I've seen them around. But I guess blurring the line
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you don't see it is sort of vanity, which sort of feeds into
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what I'm talking about today. So this morning I was like
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trying to fix my glasses. And sometimes now you may be
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able to see it. I'm, I'm lifting my head up a
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little bit more because my, the, my bifocals start here.
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They put it to where you're however, your eyesight is
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positioned right how you feel comfortable.
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So sometimes I'm doing this, which is because I can't see
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because I'm really, really close to not really close to the
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screen, but close to the screen enough where where I'm looking
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into the distance, which is like eye level to me.
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I can't really focus on the screen.
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Like things look very blurry. So I was trying to fix that and
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I was frankly trying to like clean my glasses.
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And also I, I try not to do that because I have to wear these
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things that hold my glasses to my head.
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Just another thing. So all part of aging and the
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things that we have to deal with, not everybody, but certain
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people, a large portion of the population.
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And I, I wanted to talk about this sort of topic today because
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aging, it's not like we're the first generation to go through
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it. Obviously not it, it has, it's
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our own show because obviously we are the, we are the main
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character and we're also the one that's watching because we watch
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ourselves in the mirror, we watch ourselves in during our
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daily lives. And it can be very heartbreaking
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and just hilariously funny in a ironic way.
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And I, I wanted to share it and kind kind of tie it into the, I
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don't know if you guys remember the show, the Wonder years.
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I love that show so much. But of course, it was written
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about coming of age youth, how they grew up during that time.
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I think it was in the 60s or 70s, which is also Gen.
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X. So I'm going to share a little
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bit of my show because I have the box seat and you know, it's,
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it's, it's funny to me sometimes like not in like funny, ha, ha.
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But like, you want to cry, you want to laugh.
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And I think the title, The Wonder Years, of course, I'm not
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going to, I'm not going to use it because they can't really
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copyright words. But this is my show.
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So it's my wonder years. And it's appropriate because I'm
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wondering about everything now I'm wondering, Oh my God, has it
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all been a lie? Like why did I do this?
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Why did I do that? You know, I gave, I gave some
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examples of of the things I wonder about.
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So you know, I have a rather I don't, I don't know, I have a
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unique sense of humor, right? But one of the things I do find
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hilariously funny is you tell a fart joke and I I'm done.
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I'm done. When I laugh like
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uncontrollably, I will also snort like the you know, I can't
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help it. I have a pug nose.
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It's OK, but I find myself, since you can see the Gray hair,
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and obviously it's not, it is very apparent to anybody who is
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within my vicinity that I am an older woman with Gray hair.
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But God help me if you tell a fart joke.
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If I hear a fart joke, if, if a dog farts near me, if a bird
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baby farts near me, I'm losing. It doesn't even have to be a
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joke. But when I'm in public, which is
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not often, and those things do happen, I find myself trying
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really, really, really hard, Like really really hard guys to
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subdue this. Like the need to burst out
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laughing and roll around on the floor kind of thing because,
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well, I guess it's a sign of immaturity.
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To be honest. I, I, I don't know if I've ever
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matured past at least my sense of humor, past military humor,
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which is very, very low grade and immature.
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But for the sake of decorum, I, I subdue myself in public,
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right? Which part of that I find funny
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because what I, I need to uphold this vision of me as an older
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person, but knowing who I am, I'm like, well, why can't I
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laugh and then just say just let's just go with this laughing
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at Fergus. Just say one time and I have
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burst out laughing before and and people, of course, they
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don't know what to do. Why is that woman laughing so
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hard at this? That isn't that's a little off
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putting or not off putting, but seems like it makes you go.
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I think that was a song too. Of course I noticed and I've
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given the side eye, which is my is my next example.
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Or even if I just give the side eye for whatever reason, and
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suddenly I find myself like flinching because there has been
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a nerve, a new discovery that it's never been done before,
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like inhumanity. And I'm like, I think I just
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discover a new nerve that's just been pinched in my body that's
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unrelated to my eyes moving from side to side given the side eye.
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Why does this happen? I think I can make episodes of
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this for my wonder years. I, I wonder about these things,
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you know, and then of course, being, being a woman, menopause
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happens. Stick with me, guys.
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I know you guys, not my, not all of my audience will understand
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what I'm talking about. But, you know, I think most
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people understand or have heard of these changes to a woman's
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body, right? And depending when I'm out,
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which is not often, right? I keep saying depending on what
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I'm wearing, the size that I'm wearing, how my personality will
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actually fluctuate. Like, how do I subdue myself it
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today? We'll go with a fart joke thing,
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right? Say, oh, I'm feeling cute today.
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I'm I'm wearing a size that I think I look good in.
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I might actually not subdue myself as much perhaps if
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somebody farted near me and I'm like, I feel cute today.
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So Oh yeah. So my personality will also
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fluctuate, but bringing it back to as women get older, our body
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will change. And I am a mother.
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And so there's, well, you know, you just pack weight
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differently. You just pack weight
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differently. And, and because I do notice it,
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'cause I'm the watcher, I am the, I am the sole viewership,
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the, the everyday. I am a dedicated fan of this my
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wonder years. I'm constantly watching.
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I'm judging the character. I'm judging what she's wearing,
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right? I'm always watching.
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So I do notice that now more and more, I'm becoming more aware
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that the size that I wear sort of dictates how my personality
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will come out right? And most of the time, even if
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I'm feeling cute today, I'm still silently judging myself
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for hours if not a whole day about I did right I I wish I was
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the status I thought I was when I was in high school.
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Which I was teeny. Like I was 100 and freaking 5
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lbs I think Max. I went to high school with 78
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lbs guys, so but I I still fat, felt fat then.
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So I spent an enormous time wishing that I was as fat as I
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thought I was when I was in high school.
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As part of this my show, I'm judging my wardrobe, I'm judging
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my hair, I'm judging everything about me.
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I'm wondering about different things that comes with aging, so
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much so that man, how much time am I wasting?
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I'm not saying all the questions I wonder about like, huh, I
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wonder if I should come out something with adulting.
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Oh yeah, let me set up life insurance.
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So just in case that's something that's actually useful, right?
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So not all the things I wonder about that comes with age and a
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certain level of maturity is a waste of time, but the majority
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of my time is wasted on irrelevant things as a main
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character. Like, well, does her hair look
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OK? Is she like, tilting her up too
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much because she can't see the screen?
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Does she look older? Well, I'm so thankful I don't
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have the, you know, the, the lines anymore that shows that I
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wear bifocals. But I'm wondering why I have to
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behave properly, right? Because of my Gray hair and my,
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I suppose, perceived level of maturity.
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You know, the title of today's podcast is kind of playful.
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I did it in a playful way. Vanity sizes and personalities.
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Because for me, a lot of it does come down to which is sad, which
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is really sad. What I'm wearing day-to-day, it
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dictates how I feel, what kind of personality I have.
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Like, am I walking around like Jabba the Hutt 'cause I, I, I
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feel uncomfortable about myself. And then am I also behaving as
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such to unsuspected unsuspecting people?
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Like if I'm talking to somebody, am I behaving badly because they
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don't see me? We're on the phone, but I'm in,
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let's just say a very loose stress because I feel like aging
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has taken away this. I don't know, just need to
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taking my away my right to feel beautiful.
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I don't know, I'm coming up with this as I go because today I'm
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feeling like Jabba the Hutt. It is just what it is.
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So my personality, not that it's subdued, but it's because I'm
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actually talking about it. So I'm sharing this, but I know
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that I'm going to act differently today and being the
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only everyday viewer of my My own Wonders ears show.
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And even if there's like infrequent viewers like we all
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have, right? Because we are our number one
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fans, because we are we're always with ourselves and there
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are people that come and go whether it doesn't matter like
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whether it's in public or family or whatever.
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These infrequent viewers that come into our that they're
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guests, they're guests on our show.
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Like I would, I actually modify my behaviour unconsciously or
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consciously because of how I feel that day.
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And it's largely due to my size and all the baggages that's tied
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to it burn wise from like, oh, I'm older.
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I used to wear a size 0. I used to wear kid sizes.
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But now you know, it's not so it's not so.
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But on different days when I'm I'm feeling really cute, I'm
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like, oh, I feel cute today. I do also notice the
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fluctuation. I may be a little bit more
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flamboyant in if I allow myself to say I go in public to laugh
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at certain things because I, I guess being a size that I like,
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perceive myself in the vanity size, like the the vanity size
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that makes me feel good. I then also allow myself, my
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personality to come out more, which is it makes me tilt my
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head like my fur baby does when I talk to him.
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Like we do have quite deep conversations.
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We do, I'm just saying they understand.
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OK, so but who? This is what's making me think
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because I've noticed it more and more as I get older as I'm doing
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this more just to read something like if I had a paper Infirmary
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I would have to tilt my head up to look at it because the
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bifocals start here. The.
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And the older I get the more I pay attention to my wonder years
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because each day brings with it not just a side eye.
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Like I pinch the nerve giving somebody the side eye.
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I can breathe wrong and my whole body will hurt.
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I don't know why. So now I'm paying more
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attention. But but why?
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But what perplexes me is the why I put so much.
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That's why I put myself as the character, right?
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Because we are our main characters in our own show.
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As my wonder years, I feel like I'm putting more attention,
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focusing more attention on my wardrobe, my hair as the like
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the gateway for me to be me. These vanity sizes that comes
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with vanity personalities because I feel cute, my cuter
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personality will come out or I feel like Jabba the Hutt and
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therefore I shall behave as Jabba the Hutt, which is, which
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is terrible, mean you know, you know, for all those Star Wars
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lovers. But why do I do this since I've
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already confirmed that I am the only viewer, dedicated viewer.
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I'm your #1 fan of my own show. And those infrequent viewers
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that cross my path who know me, they, they don't.
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They seldom pay attention to the things I'm paying attention to.
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But yet I left my wardrobe because I'm aging, because it's
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so painfully obvious as I look at myself.
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I left my aging and how I can how I can hide it or how it is
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shown outwardly play the navigator of how I am.
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I mean, society has a lot to do with it because we do judge.
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Ageism is real. And I'm not saying, I'm not
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saying start looking like the crazy cat lady from, you know,
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from The Simpsons or Peter from The Family Guy and, and, and not
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caring. But I am allowing myself to be
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like overwhelmed by things that I didn't let be so intrusive
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when I was younger now that I didn't care because it's a
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different type of sort of caring how you look when you're
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younger. And people have, we all have
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that sort of, I don't know, peer pressure to look a certain way.
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I'm not saying that it didn't happen when we were younger, but
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as I get older, it's the loss of that.
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Like, oh, man, I wish I was as fast as I thought I was when I
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was in high school. Like looking back, like, man,
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what was I doing? I was focusing like I was
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literally, I don't know, punishing myself for non
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existent things. And so today I'm also doing the
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same thing because I am punishing myself for not being
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able to fit into clothes that I could when I was pre baby right?
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Or wondering why when I do certain things my body hurts
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because I'm still holding myself to this weird standard that
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shouldn't be. That was applied when I was
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younger. And when I was younger I applied
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a whole different set of things that should have no control over
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me during that time. It is just like a cascading
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effect, but it's more painful. I've noticed as I've gotten
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older to allow these things because now I know better who I
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am. Sort of like I know.
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I don't think I would have admitted when I was younger that
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I find fart jokes hilariously funny.
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OK, I can't help it. There are other jokes that I
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find hilariously funny that probably should not be
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mentioned, but fart jokes. Like, I don't remember ever
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being able to divulge something like that.
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I mean, I probably laughed my head off within control, within
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control, right within the the situational appropriateness.
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If everybody else is laughing, I will probably like, Oh no, so
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funny. But today I find myself just
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like, belly achingly laughing. If you tell a good fart joke,
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you know when I'm by myself. But I know this now and I think
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it's, I think it's hilarious and I can say it out loud, even if I
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have to look up at you from the lens that I can actually see.
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But I know that's a part of me. I'm not so ashamed of saying it,
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but yet I'm still sort of unable to let myself be because I feel
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the need to fit into this image of this Gray hair woman.
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Like, oh, if you look like that you shouldn't do this.
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But perhaps if you thought you look cute today, you can give
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yourself some leeway. What a weird, cascading sort of
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web that we do to ourselves. Perhaps your wonder years have
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different questions. Perhaps.
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I'm pretty sure of it. You guys asked a lot deeper
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questions. And you know, may not like fart
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jokes like I do, but you can you share similar situations or
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similar thoughts like you let certain things like for me, it's
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the size I'm wearing it. It's true being being a female,
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it really does. It impacts me.
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It takes so much of my time. Even if I'm not going anywhere,
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it it still impacts my day. Perhaps it's different for you.
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Perhaps it's whatever it is that depending on how you feel the
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vanity size and you put on how your personality comes out for
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that day. My vanity size is literally the
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vanity size. Like, oh, I'm wearing a large
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moo moo today or I'm wearing some really cute shorts like and
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it's a small. It totally does impact how my
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personality comes out and I'm going back to it.
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I'm the only dedicated viewer of my show.
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Who am I performing for? My fur baby loves me no matter
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what. Doesn't matter what size I'm
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wearing. Doesn't matter if I'm wearing a
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moo moo or some like hip jeans. I'm not talking about the
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hipsters. I'm like, wow, that's a really
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old word. Hip, fashionable jeans, right?
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He wouldn't care. I guess he would be the only
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other dedicated viewer. Not that he cares about what I
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wear, but he's here. So what vanity sizes and
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personalities are we putting on ourselves on a daily basis for
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the sake of the non viewers or infrequent viewers who really
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aren't paying attention who have ADHD and also they have their
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own lives to pay attention to? And then if that's the case, why
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are we even doing what we're doing?
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Is it so bad if I if I'm wearing my oversized moo moo, let's just
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say and I go out, I go out shopping and like a baby farts
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and I just cannot control myself.
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Would it matter if I didn't feel cute that day and I felt like
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Jabba the hood that I laughed because it's my personality.
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And then I disregarded the vanity sizes and the
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personalities that these sizes came in with.
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Like if you were a size small, you can do this.
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If you're a size medium, you can do that.
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Would it matter? I think I would save myself a
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lot more time. Obviously, health and Wellness
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being always should always be a focus.
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We're not trying to be the crazy cat lady from Homer Simpson from
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The Simpsons, and we're not trying to be Peter from The
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Family Guy, right? But how much?
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How much on this journey of aging?
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Because our bodies are going to change, it's inevitable.
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How much time are we wasting being dictated by these sort of
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nebulous vanity sizes and personalities that comes with
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it? And it could be your job, right?
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The vanity size could be your job.
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Like, well, I used to be a lawyer, I used to be an officer,
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blah, blah, blah. Whatever rank.
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Those are also sizes that we try on, We put on like some people
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are too big for their bridges. Some people are too small for
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their bridges. Some people are wearing granny
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panties and well, they should be wearing a parachute.
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I, I don't know it, it just doesn't matter.
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The sizes are not physical sizes like it is for me, my dress
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size. It, it could be your job, it it
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could be achievements. It could be all these things
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that we try on for the vanity size and the personalities
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that's supposed to come with it, right?
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It's like you, you buy it off the shelf.
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This is the size these are this is the list of how you can
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behave dot dot dot dot, right? It it goes on.
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How often are we doing that to the point that we deny ourselves
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of who we truly are? Like the quirkiness.
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Your quirkiness is awesome, by the way.
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You don't have to laugh at fart jokes like I do.
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You can have a very unique quirkiness that makes you a
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stand out, right? And people are drawn to you for
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it. But how many of us are using
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these vanity sizes to subdue who we really are as people?
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I mean, one of, I guess one of the benefits of getting older is
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that you slowly but surely become the person who no longer
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has the filter. You're like, oh, I'm so
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exhausted. I, I just, I, I just can't play
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that game. I'm just going to be me, right?
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Slowly but surely. But how much energy is wasted
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before we realize that it's OK to be us, no matter whatever
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size that you currently have on, right?
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Whatever job, whatever dress size, and those vanity sizes
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shouldn't dictate how your personality comes out because
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they're also vanity. They are boxed within those
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vanity sizes. I don't know, I think the world
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wouldn't be so cookie cutter. It seems like to me like every
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influencer is trying to look a certain way.
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Oh, you, your hair has to be this way.
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You know you've seen like DeGeneres, right?
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All their pictures are like photoshopped to the point they
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have no pores. Like their skin is perfect.
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The mom just had a plastic surgery that makes her look like
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she's 30 something. Everybody's trying to look a
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certain way. The vanity sizes for them, it's
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their, it's how they look in a picture.
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Of course, it has a lot to do with clothing sizes.
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They Photoshop themselves, but every there's, there's no more
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uniqueness. I'm not saying I'm enjoying this
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aging process and that I find, you know, oh goodness, there's
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another. I don't know, pain that I never
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knew I could have or wow, looks like somebody marched across my
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face. There's lines everywhere, like
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I'm not saying I'm enjoying it, but at least I look like me.
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But when I put on these manatee sizes, I feel controlled of my
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own doing. Nobody's telling me to do this.
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Well, the largest society is saying, well, we don't accept
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you if you don't put on these different sizes of things that
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we want. We're accepting and these are
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the personalities that comes with it.
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And God forbid a Gray haired lady, obviously an older woman
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just cannot contain herself as snorting because she's laughing
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so hard because she hurt somebody fart.
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How appalling, right? God forbid that happens.
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But then when we allow that to happen, we spend energy on
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things that nobody really pays attention to.
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Really they don't because we are our own #1 fan.
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I'm your #1 fan. You know, you're we're the only
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one that's really actually always watching, always watching
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with this critical eye and we're self, I don't know, abridging,
36:15
subduing who we are that can add levity to the world like a
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light, because I think we are afraid to be unique anymore
36:31
because we don't fall in line with this and that we're
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cancelled vanity sizes, right. If you stand up for this and
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you're good. If you stand up for that, you're
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bad. And there's personalities that
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comes with it. We all know so, but why are we
36:48
doing that? I'm not saying if like there's
36:51
legit people who are crazy. Yeah, well, you know, have some
36:54
self-awareness, get some help. I'm getting help.
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So. But you know, always two ways to
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know Appropriate. But I'm saying within the
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boundaries of not being harmless.
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Like what does me laughing in a fart joke matter to anybody
37:13
else? You know, Or having Gray hair
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and laughing in a fart joke matter to anybody else?
37:21
It doesn't. It shouldn't.
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But I spent an enormous amount of time letting Disfanity
37:33
control me from the way I dress, from the way I comb my hair,
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from the way I try to hide the fact that I can't see anything
37:43
right now. So, and it's sad, and although
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we may be our biggest fans and biggest critics, we don't, I
38:07
don't think we should. That sounded really appreciate.
38:15
I just want to, I don't know, say be proud of your
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personality, right? Your quirkiness, these vanity
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sizes don't matter because really nobody's really watching.
38:29
Like even if you wore the same clothes twice in a row, I don't
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think people even notice. Right.
38:39
But yet we let it play such a big part of our lives or
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whatever job or what did you do yesterday?
38:47
Did you accomplish it? It's once it's gone, people
38:50
don't really notice. Yeah, there are guest stars on
38:54
our show like friends and family or Co workers.
38:58
But they also have their own show going on that they're being
39:02
the number one fans of of themselves.
39:06
That's it's nature. We pay attention more to
39:08
ourselves what's going on in our lives more than we do for
39:13
others, right? Unless the situation calls for
39:16
otherwise. So I share this because I find
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it funny as I age. Not that I wasn't neurotic
39:29
before, we've all been through it, the peer pressure of looking
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a certain way, needing to live a certain way.
39:35
But with social media and all this, it seems like we are now
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more and more under the spell of needing to be within these
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vanity sizes and personalities because it's become so out
39:56
there. Everybody's out there for
39:58
everybody to see, right? And anybody can say anything to
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you. Not like before, like I got
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picked on when I was younger, whatever, but I could come home
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and it was shielded like because everybody's on social media,
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there's always somebody saying something that really has.
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I mean, if the it's like watching it, it's like watching
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your show and somebody's like they clicked on your channel
40:22
like, Oh, I. Her hair is horrible.
40:25
Why is so, so Gray? Click, it's off.
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That was the only time they watched me.
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That was the only time they ever encountered my show.
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And all of a sudden, you know, they might have give me their
40:35
look. They might even have mutter
40:37
under their breath. God, what's going on with her,
40:40
right? And then I come home, I bring
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that stuff. And now I have more of a need to
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put on these vanity whatever, whatever, right to look a
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certain way and also have this personality to match it.
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And it's so sad. It is I am being judgy and it's
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so sad. And I just, I'm like I've said
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before, I share these things because I'm neurotic, but also
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to give myself the freedom to be me beyond the vanity sizes,
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right? To be who I am, my personality.
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Of course, we all also fluctuate.
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That's also normal. But not let these sizes put me
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into the box that came with like the personalities that came with
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these boxes. Like you're wearing a small
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today. You can behave this way, or you
41:44
know you, I don't know, you did something great today and now
41:50
you can't behave that way. All kinds of sizes for all kinds
41:53
of things, but they're all vanity.
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Because when, when, when we look into ourselves, who we really
42:00
are, if nobody was watching, will we behave that way?
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I know I'll be laughing hysterically at a fart joke if
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nobody was watching, right? Amongst other jokes.
42:20
But yeah, it's to give myself permission and, and share it,
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put it out there like, hey guys, I feel this way.
42:29
I'm living through this aging thing.
42:31
And it's, it's funny. Very, very funny sometimes, but
42:38
and sometimes so very painful to watch because I can see the
42:41
irony. I can see why it's like watching
42:46
the slow train wreck. You're like, no, don't do it.
42:49
And I in reality, I'm actually doing it the the slow train
42:55
wreck. I'm doing it just watching
42:58
myself fall all over the place, and I have no recourse because
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I'm so, so controlled by these arbitrary vanity sizes and
43:11
personalities. So I don't know.
43:17
I don't know who else feels like that or like this.
43:23
But you're not alone. And I'll continue to laugh
43:28
myself. And perhaps since I already
43:31
shared this and now you know that I have AI have a love for
43:34
lowbrow humor, perhaps regardless of how cute I think I
43:40
look today or not, if I go outside in the public and
43:47
somebody farts or has, you know, not in a mean way laughing, but
43:51
just like, wow, that was funny that I would not subdue myself
43:57
in my personality for the sake of needing to fit into a box
44:04
version of what I should be based on the dress size I wear
44:09
because that's what I'm controlled by.
44:11
And depending on what you're controlled by, perhaps you'll
44:15
give yourself permission to let your personality sign through
44:19
the quirkiness. You know, the little glimmer in
44:24
your eye when, I don't know, when you really want to just hug
44:31
a puppy, when you know if somebody you know has a puppy.
44:35
And usually you're very composed, like, no, no, I'm not
44:38
going to do that because I'm wearing this size.
44:41
And the personality says, no, maybe you become become so giddy
44:47
and they can see this, the little glimmer in your eye and
44:50
you're like, Oh my God, you're so cute.
44:53
And and do that or, or go up and tell somebody, Hey, you know, I
44:58
think you're really funny or I, I think you look great for
45:04
whatever and let that shine through.
45:09
We're so we're also unique in our own way.
45:13
It's a shame to let this arbitrary wardrobe of society
45:22
control what we do on our own show.
45:24
We are the producer, the director, the, you know, the set
45:29
production and all like costume designer, all that.
45:34
We can do our own thing. So I say, I think they used to
45:40
say let you freak flag fly. I I don't mean to say in that
45:45
way, like you can be a freak, but you know, let your
45:48
personality shine through. That's my and that's what I
45:54
wanted to share today and perhaps today.
45:56
I, despite the fact that I feel like Jabba the hood, I'm going
46:02
to give myself permission to be me and not let the size that I'm
46:09
wearing dictate how I can. I should behave like I should be
46:15
sullen because man, I feel like Jabba the hood today.
46:19
Maybe I'll be happy anyways. Maybe I'll be happy because you
46:24
know what, for whatever reason, and I'm not going to let this
46:29
size control what my personality should be.
46:33
We'll see how it goes, guys. So anyways, that's my ramblings
46:41
for today. Vanity sizes and personalities.
46:45
Meh. We are the directors of our own
46:48
show. Let your personality sign
46:53
through. That's that's how.
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That's how to be a stand out right?
47:02
To be you. And that is enough.
47:06
Anyways, I'm sorry. Oh man, that was a It took me a
47:12
long time to write this today because I've been up since 2.
47:16
Obviously I think you could tell.
47:19
So that concludes my ramblings for today.
47:22
Go be you, forget about the sizes, do your own thing, be the
47:29
number one fan of your own show and be happy about it or be sad,
47:33
whatever situational appropriate.
47:35
And two weeks from now, I, I hope not to be up at 2:00 in the
47:40
morning and maybe I'll make some more sense or start making
47:44
sense. Anyways, I think about you guys
47:47
all the time and I do pray for you guys all the time.
47:51
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47:57
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