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This Moment Matters: A Journey Through Memory with Gary Dean · Eye Opener Society

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  Hello everyone, welcome back to Eye Opener Society. My name is Gary Dean,
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  I'm the host, and I wanted to bring you another bonus episode from here.
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  I wanted to mention that being in the present moment is what matters.
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  That's it, nothing else, just the present moment.
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  But what does that mean? So here, let me explain it.
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  I recall as a very young child, my very first toys.
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  I remember some of my very first emotions.
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  I can remember being comforted by parents, my grandmother.
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  And as life moved on, I can remember moving on through life and trying to understand it.
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  Prior to being a teenager, I remember again more toys that I had,
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  the things I used to do, games I used to play.
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  They're all still vivid memories.
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  Moving on into my teenage years
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  I can recall going to
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  school I still remember the school
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  I remember the schoolyard I remember the layout I remember where the exits are
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  And this is all elementary school I still recall some of the teachers I still
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  remember some of the projects that I've done I recall some of the.
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  Things I've written in school I remember some of the bad things I've done And
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  got caught I remember some of the bad things I've done And didn't get caught I remember,
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  The area that I lived in I remember the building I remember it very very vividly
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  I remember every single street I remember every single alleyway I remember the
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  pizza shops And I remember which ones I preferred over others,
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  I remember all the stores that were in the area at the time I could probably even name them,
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  I remember the train that was right outside on the main road The elevated train
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  from New York City I remember how often the trains passed by I still recall
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  the sound of steel wheels on the steel tracks.
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  I can recall still summer vacations, places I've gone, things I've done,
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  places my parents have taken, my brother and I.
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  Again, it's all vivid, vivid memories.
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  I recall moving on to middle school, the first junior high school.
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  I still remember the first day.
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  I recall a lot of friends.
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  I recall a lot of people that I interacted with.
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  I can still recall assignments from that school. I recall a lot of the bad stuff that I'd done.
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  I recall many, many fond memories of cutting out of school, going different
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  places with my friends, learning things in my own way on the streets.
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  I remember first kiss, second kiss, third kiss, first loves,
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  second loves, I recall all the people that were close to me at the time.
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  I can remember cars I've ridden in. I remember their friends' cars, their parents' cars.
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  I remember going to all the places I went to during that middle school years.
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  I remember all the good times I had. I recall all the bad times I had.
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  I can still recall all the emotions.
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  I can remember being at my most happiest And I can remember being at my lowest.
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  In high school I still recall Going in on the first day of high school,
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  I still recall the teachers there I recall the ones that were good I recall
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  the ones that were bad Again, I recall Friends that I had during that time I recall,
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  People that Crossed my life at that time
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  I still remember images of me being
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  in some of those classrooms I still recall learning some things I recall all
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  of the times that I was with my friends Hanging out different places I remember
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  all of the girlfriends that I've had And all of the wonderful,
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  wonderful times that we all shared,
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  I recall just a wonderful state of being, and I also remember all of the down
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  times too during that time as well in high school.
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  I recall the last day of high school.
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  I recall my graduation. I recall every moment of that day.
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  I recall the things that I've done immediately after.
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  I recall the jobs I've had, jobs I've had for a day, jobs I've had for a year or more.
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  I remember becoming more of an adult, experiencing more things,
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  learning more things about life.
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  I recall getting my driver's license. I recall my first car.
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  I recall my second car, my third car.
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  I can remember all the jobs. I can remember all the people that I worked with.
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  I can recall getting the paychecks. I can recall All the way down to the desks
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  That I sat in in these jobs And I could recall the memories From each one of them.
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  I can recall moving on from there. I can recall my first marriage.
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  I can recall every place that I lived.
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  I can recall the addresses. I can recall all of the ways that the apartments
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  look like that I lived in.
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  The decorations. The carpeting.
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  The people I rented from. I remember all of it.
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  I remember my first divorce Everything
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  that went wrong with it I remember
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  moving on from that I remember the people that
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  were there for the support I recall all
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  the stronger friendships I made later on in life I recall my first house I recall
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  selling the first house I recall moving into all the different places I've lived
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  I recall moving out of state I recall the states that I was in I still remember
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  the apartments and the colors that they were and the rooms.
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  It's all just memories that have been retained.
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  I remember my second wife. I remember all the people that I knew during that
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  period of my second marriage.
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  I can recall the places that we lived there.
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  I remember the things we used to do and all the wildness and all of the just
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  incredible things that I've experienced,
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  I recall jobs that, you know, I've seen things that most people would never
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  see ever I recall all of the brutality of life and I recall the beauty of life too as well.
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  I can recall meeting my third wife, who I'm with now.
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  I recall every moment of that, how we met, where we met, the place we met in.
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  I recall the weather.
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  I can recall the places that her and I lived, the different places,
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  the different addresses, the different states.
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  There is a lot. And it's all inside of my mind as memories. And they're very clear still to this day.
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  All of the places I've traveled through, all the little things that I have seen during those times.
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  People I've encountered, conversations that I've had.
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  So, what does all of that have to do with the present moment?
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  Well, after all of these years, gathering up all of those memories.
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  And having them as golden memories,
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  as wonderful, wonderful memories that helped me become who I am today,
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  I will have to say that bringing myself right here, right now, to this very moment,
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  they matter. They mean something.
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  And they'll always be there. We can't change that past.
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  This very moment right now is the one I'm most proud of because of all of the
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  things that has happened in
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  the past that got me here make me proud to be right here in this moment.
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  And no matter how many years you have memories with, no matter how many years
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  that brought you to this moment, you're the wiser. You have more wisdom.
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  And with each passing second, there's going to be more wisdom.
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  You don't have to worry about changing anything, no matter what point you are in life.
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  You made it here.
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  So, this moment is the only one that needs to be celebrated. We celebrated our past.
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  We remember them. We recall them. We store them.
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  Sometimes we have pictures. We journal things. So, they're still there.
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  But remember, all of that is what brought us to this moment.
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  So, do we have to fear anything that's upcoming?
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  We don't, because it's not here yet. Only this moment matters.
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  It's the only moment we should be living in.
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  But know this, my friends, for certain, we're going to continue on.
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  And we could continue this journey, doing whatever it is we want.
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  And no matter how long we've been on the same path,
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  no matter what your age is, should you want to change and switch to a different road,
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  whether it be a faster highway or a slower back road, know damn well that you can.
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  Because the future has not happened yet. It's all being shaped by this moment,
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  right now, that you are in.
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  And you're going to take all of the knowledge that you have from the past and
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  you're going to apply it as you move on your journey.
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  Your journey is going to continue on. It's not going to stop.
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  Even when you're long said and done, your soul is going to carry on.
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  So everything right now, right
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  here, everything that built up to this very moment, all of it matters.
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  But the present moment that you're in is the one we celebrate.
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  It's what made us whom we are. and it's going to keep us as who we are.
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  But like I said, should you want
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  to change? Should there be something else that you want to do in life?
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  Know this. Do it. You're extremely capable of doing it.
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  And when you look back at all those times you've had, all the crossroads that you had come to,
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  you will realize you've made choices, right or wrong, you made choices.
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  And those choices led to a different path, a different route of knowledge, new wisdom.
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  You made corrections along the way, you made failures along the way,
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  but you're still here in this moment, now, presently.
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  Because of everything you've done, you're still here.
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  So, never give up. Never say it's over.
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  Always know that it's going to continue on, and you can fight any battle that
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  may be thrown at you, and you can follow any path that you want.
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  You like where you're at, and you want to continue, that's fine too.
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  Know this, I have confidence in you. I know that you're going to be fine.
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  Even with the struggles that you're going to encounter, you're still going to be fine.
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  Just use the past as a tool, a tool to get you through your future endeavors.
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  And always remain focused on
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  the present moment because the more you realize where you are right now,
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  alive, well, and able to conquer things that you've done in the past,
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  that's all you need to know.
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  And once you know that and you're comfortable with that, then you know your
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  future is going to be fine.
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  The future is not something to fear because it is not yet here.
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  I wish you all well, my friends. I wish you all of the best in your present
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  moment, and I wish you all the best of luck in your future.
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  My name is Gary Dean with EyeOpener Society. Thank you again for joining me
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  on this little bonus episode.
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  Don't forget to tune in to our regular episodes every Monday with my co-creator Lizzie.
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  And don't forget to tune in to my Wednesday night guided meditation series,
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  where I can take you on journeys through meditation.
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  I thank you again. I think you're a wonderful audience.
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  Be well, and I'll see you soon.