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I went to SURPRISE my boyfriend… he'd already left with another girl! -r/BestofRedditorUpdates | Reddit Stories | EP3053 · ok storytime

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  Speaker 1: Hey, this is Riley. And this is Keon, your favorite
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  Speaker 3: I went to surprise my boyfriend. He'd already left with
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  Speaker 3: another girl.
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  Speaker 1: Surprise!
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  Speaker 3: So this event is going on as we speak. I,
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  Speaker 3: 19 female, need help so I don't do something really
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  Speaker 3: dumb and freak out. So it's me and my boyfriend's
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  Speaker 3: first year away at school. We are both from Flagstaff,
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  Speaker 3: but I went to school of U of A. He
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  Speaker 3: went to ASU. About two hours apart, and so far
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  Speaker 3: we've both made the drive many times, and it's worked
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  Speaker 3: out great. My class was canceled tomorrow, so I decided
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  Speaker 3: it would be fun to.
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  Speaker 4: Go to Victoria's Secret to get.
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  Speaker 3: Some candles and massage lotion and surprise him the night.
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  Speaker 3: I got to his dorm and saw that his car
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  Speaker 3: was in the parking lot and figured I had some
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  Speaker 3: time to get it cleared with his roommate and surprise
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  Speaker 3: my boyfriend. I texted his roommate and asked if I
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  Speaker 3: could let myself in and he said of course, but
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  Speaker 3: my boyfriend had gone to San Diego for the rest
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  Speaker 3: of the week.
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  Speaker 4: I was like, what?
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  Speaker 3: His parents have a house in Imperial Beach, but he
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  Speaker 3: always wants me to go with him. So I called
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  Speaker 3: him and he said that Yes, he was going to IB,
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  Speaker 3: but he was still in Tempe getting some stuff together.
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  Speaker 3: I asked him if I could come with him.
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  Speaker 4: Capital H-M. He said, no, it was just a boy's trip.
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  Speaker 3: I told him that I was actually in his dorm
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  Speaker 3: parking lot and wanted to surprise him. He gave me
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  Speaker 3: this very condescending, oh, that's nice. I asked could he
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  Speaker 3: at least please come by and see me or could
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  Speaker 3: we meet up since I went through a lot of
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  Speaker 3: work to put this together. He just dismissively said, no,
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  Speaker 3: I can't. We are already on I-10. He then said
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  Speaker 3: that maybe he could come to Tucson next weekend, but
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  Speaker 3: I should either just drive on to Flag or go
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  Speaker 3: back to Tucson and basically hung up. By the way,
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  Speaker 3: this comes from Throwaway Surprise ASU, and if you want
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  Speaker 3: OK Storytime subreddit.
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  Speaker 4: I'm Savannah.
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  Speaker 1: I'm Dakota. I'm U of A Class 2019 Wildcat Alumni Keon.
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  Speaker 3: We're here to give some good advice in a little
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  Speaker 3: goofy way, but we don't have all the answers. We
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  Speaker 3: can only tell you what we would do, but let
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  Speaker 3: us know what you would do down in the comments.
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  Speaker 3: As OP says, I looked at him on Find My Friends,
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  Speaker 3: and it turns out he was literally passing by his
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  Speaker 3: dorm as we were talking and not on the highway.
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  Speaker 3: He could have easily stopped by and said hello, and
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  Speaker 3: this really hurt. Maybe it was stupid, but I called
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  Speaker 3: his friends, and they said that yes, he was on
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  Speaker 3: his way to IB.
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  Speaker 4: The thing that's so sus.
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  Speaker 3: is that none of them are going and it's some
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  Speaker 3: random friend he's going with that none of them have
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  Speaker 3: ever met, but that I shouldn't be suspicious. It's like
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  Speaker 3: all of them were coached into saying the right thing
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  Speaker 3: in short notice because they all said the same thing.
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  Speaker 3: I mean, I guess I could look at it like
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  Speaker 3: they all said the same thing because it's the truth, right?
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  Speaker 3: But every one of my alarm bells is going off.
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  Speaker 3: This is so unlike him. Even if he were going
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  Speaker 3: to IB, he would tell me first. This is the
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  Speaker 3: first time he's ever gone without telling me or without
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  Speaker 3: inviting me. Maybe I'm being the young, dumb, paranoid girlfriend,
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  Speaker 3: but my instincts are telling me something is up. I'm
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  Speaker 3: so lost and hurt. What should I do here? Um, well,
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  Speaker 3: I mean, I think you should call him out. Or
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  Speaker 3: you should just let yourself in your boyfriend's place.
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  Speaker 5: I hate that there's like the young, dumb, like, paranoid
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  Speaker 5: girlfriend trope when it's really just your like gut is
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  Speaker 5: screaming like none of this feels right yeah oh but
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  Speaker 5: i guess i'm a dumb stupid little girl so i'm
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  Speaker 5: i'm i guess everything's fine it's like i hate that
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  Speaker 5: that's a thing yeah um no your gut your gut
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  Speaker 5: knows better your gut knows best your gut knows.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah i i mean i would i would take a
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  Speaker 3: screenshot of his location and then send it to him
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  Speaker 3: be like that's funny i would just say haha.
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  Speaker 1: You're like your phone's glitching am i.
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  Speaker 3: My phone must be broken because it says you're right here.
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  Speaker 6: Edit.
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  Speaker 3: I took some of my friend's Xanax to help me sleep,
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  Speaker 3: and this totally blew up overnight. Since people are still posting,
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  Speaker 3: I guess I should update. He never answered any of
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  Speaker 3: my calls. I think I called him three times. He
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  Speaker 3: did text me goodnight and told me he loved me
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  Speaker 3: and he wants to spend the day surfing, but IB
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  Speaker 3: is shut down for wastewater, so he's going to be
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  Speaker 3: in the car and may not be able to talk.
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  Speaker 3: I guess maybe those are good signs and I'm being paranoid.
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  Speaker 4: I don't know.
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  Speaker 3: My gut is still telling me something is so messed up.
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  Speaker 3: I'm just going to sit around and cry and try
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  Speaker 3: not to let my head explode by watching TikToks. Girl, no,
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  Speaker 3: don't do that. There are some relevant comments. Deleted says,
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  Speaker 3: I keep saying this. You don't need to catch him
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  Speaker 3: deep inside someone to know he's cheating. The evidence is there.
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  Speaker 3: He lied about where he was. His friends were sketched
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  Speaker 3: and he ditched you when he could have stopped by
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  Speaker 3: to say hi. Also, his general behavior was sketch. You
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  Speaker 3: don't owe him a reason.
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  Speaker 4: Just dump him.
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  Speaker 3: Opie responds, I wish it were that easy.
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  Speaker 1: Oh, your wish came true.
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  Speaker 3: I do love him and can't imagine him not being
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  Speaker 3: in my life.
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  Speaker 1: Oh, boy, that's called codependency.
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  Speaker 3: I'm not without pride, though, and it sucks having driven
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  Speaker 3: four hours and put a lot of effort into surprising him,
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  Speaker 3: and now he won't answer his phone.
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  Speaker 5: Sunk cost fallacy. You can break up with him, even
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  Speaker 5: though all three of those things are a thing.
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  Speaker 3: The leader says, do you really believe your boyfriend is
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  Speaker 3: the kind of person to tell all his friends to
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  Speaker 3: lie on his behalf to go where? To cheat on you?
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  Speaker 3: What exactly are you worried about? OP responds, we sort
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  Speaker 3: of did have tentative plans to go hiking this weekend,
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  Speaker 3: but he said he was going to call me when
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  Speaker 3: he got to IB. I guess that everyone having the
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  Speaker 3: exact story, a friend I've never met, and that he
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  Speaker 3: was actually close by and not willing to say hello
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  Speaker 3: makes me feel so sus. Frustrated SRB says, girl, block
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  Speaker 3: his number and never contact him again.
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  Speaker 4: Thank you.
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  Speaker 1: Someone has some sense.
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  Speaker 3: OP responds, I wish it were that easy.
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  Speaker 1: It is. Girl, it is.
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  Speaker 3: Our older sisters are like inseparable best friends. Our little
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  Speaker 3: brothers are on a mountain bike team together. My parents
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  Speaker 3: are good friends with his. This is one of those
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  Speaker 3: relationships where we will always know each other. As an aside,
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  Speaker 3: I did call his older sister and she didn't know
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  Speaker 3: he was going to their IB house either. And she
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  Speaker 3: says he should have asked their parents first.
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  Speaker 4: Even shadier.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah. You know, you're not forced to marry this guy.
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  Speaker 1: I take back what I said.
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  Speaker 5: About the dumb girlfriend who doesn't know anything.
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  Speaker 1: I'm sorry. What do you think?
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  Speaker 5: You're in a forever contract to stay connected to this family?
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  Speaker 5: If you break up, it's like our entire families will
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  Speaker 5: be ruined. If I break up with this guy who's
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  Speaker 5: cheating on me, clearly our families will.
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  Speaker 1: Guess what?
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  Speaker 5: Their brothers will still be friends. Your sisters will still
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  Speaker 5: be friends. Your parents will still be friends. They'll just
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  Speaker 5: be like, yeah, remember when Chad did that terrible thing?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah. Anyway, let's go down to the golf course. Yeah. Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Come on. They live in Arizona. Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: Well, there is an update here.
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  Speaker 4: Two days later.
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  Speaker 3: Was exactly 48 hours old because after everything I found out,
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  Speaker 3: I feel like I'm going to burst. I've cried more
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  Speaker 3: than I ever thought I could.
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  Speaker 1: Oh, I'm sorry.
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  Speaker 3: I've spent hours on the phone with my mom, his mom,
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  Speaker 3: my sister, his sister, my friends, and on and on
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  Speaker 3: and on. Nothing helps. Maybe writing this will. Well, for sure,
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  Speaker 3: he had another girl with him. He was caught red-handed
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  Speaker 3: by our sisters who have been best friends for their
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  Speaker 3: entire lives. They decided they needed a trip to the
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  Speaker 3: beach house just as much as he did, so they
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  Speaker 3: drove out yesterday morning. They popped in and sure enough,
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  Speaker 3: it was he and another girl in the house. They
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  Speaker 3: were sleeping in separate beds and he told them, and
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  Speaker 3: me now a million times, that they were just friends
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  Speaker 3: who liked to surf together. I truly don't know if
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  Speaker 3: he slept with this girl. He says he would never,
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  Speaker 3: but I do know that he lied to me when
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  Speaker 3: he's never been like this before. He said he didn't
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  Speaker 3: tell me he was going with the girl because he
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  Speaker 3: knew I would freak out. Cool, so I just won't
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  Speaker 3: tell you, and then when you find out, that'll be better.
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  Speaker 1: Guess what? I found out. Now I'm freaking out. I've
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  Speaker 1: been freaking out this entire time.
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  Speaker 5: Your Honor, I didn't admit to the crime because that
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  Speaker 5: would make me guilty.
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  Speaker 3: I guess the thing is, he's right. I would have
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  Speaker 3: become jealous. I would have yelled. I would have gotten
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  Speaker 3: upset and acted like a brat, and he would have
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  Speaker 3: given in to me. I don't deserve to be lied to,
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  Speaker 3: and he doesn't deserve for me to act like that anymore.
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  Speaker 3: So I broke up with him, for both our sakes.
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  Speaker 3: We've known each other forever. His family is like my family.
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  Speaker 3: We've been together since we were 14. I love him
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  Speaker 3: with everything that I am, but this episode proves we
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  Speaker 3: have sunk into an unhealthy dynamic. He feels the need
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  Speaker 3: to lie to me, and that's horrible. My gut tells
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  Speaker 3: me he did sleep with that girl, and though he
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  Speaker 3: promises he's not going to date her now, But I
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  Speaker 3: guess that's not my business anymore.
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  Speaker 5: Why would that even have to be a promise if
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  Speaker 5: there's nothing there?
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  Speaker 1: I promise I won't date her now that we broke up.
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  Speaker 1: It's like, why would you? You just said you're just friends, idiot. Well,
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  Speaker 1: there's only one thing you can do.
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  Speaker 6: What?
• 9:23
  Speaker 1: Just go have fun in college. Throw him into the ocean.
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  Speaker 3: Dang it, he just gave you the golden ticket to
• 9:28
  Speaker 3: go be single in college.
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  Speaker 4: Oh no, that's the worst.
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  Speaker 3: We'll never be out of each other's lives, so I'll
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  Speaker 3: know everything he does, and I feel like I want
• 9:37
  Speaker 3: to barf at the thought of him being with another
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  Speaker 3: girl and sick that I'll hear about.
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  Speaker 5: I hate all of this, and I like it, but
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  Speaker 5: I hate that you had to be like, I'm breaking
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  Speaker 5: up for both of us.
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  Speaker 1: It's like, no. She's 19.
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  Speaker 5: Also, but it's like, if you were gonna just like
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  Speaker 5: scream and yell about it, and he would have just
• 9:54
  Speaker 5: been like, okay, babe.
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  Speaker 1: You guys shouldn't be dating. You're right. But I hate
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  Speaker 1: that he.
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  Speaker 5: clearly is the one who was wrong, and then you
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  Speaker 5: came up with, we're both wrong. And for that reason,
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  Speaker 5: we should break up.
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  Speaker 1: But whatever. Again, she's 19. She's a freshman in college.
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  Speaker 1: She's going to be fine. She can't see that this
• 10:13
  Speaker 1: guy did something bad. It's hard to go from....
• 10:19
  Speaker 3: Being, like, in a high school relationship and then being
• 10:22
  Speaker 3: in a college relationship, like, the same relationship with the
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  Speaker 3: same person. I feel like you both, that is such
• 10:28
  Speaker 3: a pivotal moment in, like, everyone's lives.
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  Speaker 4: So, I don't know.
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  Speaker 3: I feel like it would just be really hard to adjust.
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  Speaker 1: All right.
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  Speaker 3: Back to the freaking story.
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  Speaker 4: Let's see.
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  Speaker 3: I'm hurting like I never thought was possible, but I.
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  Speaker 4: Know this is the right decision.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: Maybe if we both mature, we can try again after college.
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  Speaker 1: No. Again, this is all fresh. She's 19. Just give
• 10:52
  Speaker 1: it time. Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: But right now, it's just time for me to cry
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  Speaker 3: for a while, then move on as best I can.
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  Speaker 3: Lots of people wanted an update, so here it is.
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  Speaker 3: Final comments. Angelina Patina says, Surely your sister told the
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  Speaker 3: girl that your boyfriend had a girlfriend after spotting her, right?
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  Speaker 3: I mean, I would hope so. OP responds, They just
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  Speaker 3: said she sat there silent, not sure what to say.
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  Speaker 3: They didn't want to involve her, so they were polite
• 11:17
  Speaker 3: to her, but didn't really talk to her. Angelina Patina responds, dang,
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  Speaker 3: she should know that he's a office cleaner too.
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  Speaker 5: Dang, she should know that he's a D-bag.
• 11:29
  Speaker 1: That's an orifice cleaner.
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  Speaker 3: Opie responds, I'm wondering what she did while we were
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  Speaker 3: having the breakup talk. I feel bad for her. He
• 11:36
  Speaker 3: was in tears, so it had to be very awkward.
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  Speaker 1: She's like, I just wanted to serve.
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  Speaker 4: Wait, she was there?
• 11:41
  Speaker 1: Yeah, she was there. Oh, so she called and broke
• 11:44
  Speaker 1: up with him on the phone. It was probably a
• 11:46
  Speaker 1: girl from college that he drove with. Hence why he's like,
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  Speaker 1: I can't talk to you right now. It's a bro's trip. OP,
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  Speaker 1: you're going to be fine. What you're going to need
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  Speaker 1: to do is you're going to have a lot of
• 12:00
  Speaker 1: fun down there in Tucson, Arizona. And that's the end
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  Speaker 1: of this story. We're going to go on to the
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  Speaker 1: next one.
• 12:08
  Speaker 5: My partner refused to lock our door, then a stranger
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  Speaker 5: walked into our building.
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  Speaker 4: Whoa, buddy, you don't live here.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, very simple.
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  Speaker 5: The people in this story are me, 25 female, and
• 12:19
  Speaker 5: my partner, 27 male. We've been living together since January
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  Speaker 5: of this year, but this issue started once he started
• 12:26
  Speaker 5: spending a lot of time at my place two years ago.
• 12:29
  Speaker 5: I live in an apartment complex in a pretty safe area.
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  Speaker 5: To get to my place, you have to open the
• 12:35
  Speaker 5: front door of the building with a code or key,
• 12:37
  Speaker 5: pass a secondary door with the same code, and then
• 12:39
  Speaker 5: take the stairs to my front door.
• 12:41
  Speaker 1: We both have the keys to all the doors.
• 12:45
  Speaker 5: I have a neighbor on the first floor, ground level,
• 12:47
  Speaker 5: and a neighbor above me. Since my partner has been
• 12:50
  Speaker 5: with me, he often forgets to lock the door. It
• 12:53
  Speaker 5: happens on a regular basis and only when I am
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  Speaker 5: still home or when we are both home at night.
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  Speaker 5: He always locks it when the place is empty.
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  Speaker 4: A.k.a.
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  Speaker 5: I have never come home to a door unlocked, at least,
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  Speaker 5: I have expressed multiple times my concerns about having the
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  Speaker 5: door unlocked without me knowing while I'm inside.
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  Speaker 1: To me, it feels not prudent and puts me at risk.
• 13:16
  Speaker 1: By the way, this comes from user Kiratis. Kiratis.
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  Speaker 5: And if you want to submit your own stories, go
• 13:22
  Speaker 5: to the r slash ok story time subreddit.
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  Speaker 4: I'm Dakota. I'm Savannah.
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  Speaker 1: I'm Keon.
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  Speaker 5: We're going to read this here story, and you are
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  Speaker 5: going to make comments about this here story. down in
• 13:31
  Speaker 5: the comments below and hope he says while I don't
• 13:35
  Speaker 5: actually believe something bad will happen I also believe you
• 13:37
  Speaker 5: only need for it to happen once to be a
• 13:39
  Speaker 5: problem make up your mind it's not that I believe
• 13:44
  Speaker 5: something bad will happen it's that I believe it only
• 13:46
  Speaker 5: takes one time for something bad to happen what if
• 13:49
  Speaker 5: a weirdo manages to get into the building and walks
• 13:51
  Speaker 5: into my apartment while I'm showering what if someone comes
• 13:54
  Speaker 5: and steals things while I'm watching a show or we're
• 13:56
  Speaker 5: sleeping and the insurance does not cover it because technically
• 13:59
  Speaker 5: the door was open I always end up noticing it
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  Speaker 5: about 45 minutes after he leaves or in the morning
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  Speaker 5: after he comes home late, and I am always upset
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  Speaker 5: about it. When we argue about it, he always says
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  Speaker 5: something along the lines of, we're in a safe area
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  Speaker 5: and at least one of us is home, which to
• 14:14
  Speaker 5: me is besides the point. After I complain, he does
• 14:17
  Speaker 5: better for a while, and then after two weeks or
• 14:20
  Speaker 5: a month, it will be.
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  Speaker 1: Business as usual. It is so frustrating. He knows how
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  Speaker 1: a lock works. He does it all the time.
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  Speaker 5: Why us or me being here stops him from locking.
• 14:31
  Speaker 1: The door, I do not know.
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  Speaker 5: It's something that has been happening more and more, and
• 14:34
  Speaker 5: I'm absolutely frustrated. I've decided that I'm putting my foot
• 14:38
  Speaker 5: down and will not be relenting on this issue, although
• 14:42
  Speaker 5: I do not know yet how to enforce locking the
• 14:46
  Speaker 5: door without putting a strain on.
• 14:47
  Speaker 1: Other good aspects of our relationship.
• 14:50
  Speaker 5: I feel I am being reasonable, but am I wrong? Yeah,
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  Speaker 5: you shouldn't even have doors. All doors are forms of oppression.
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  Speaker 5: All doors are a form of oppression that prevent the
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  Speaker 5: safe passage of others into a space.
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  Speaker 4: Well, then why do you keep closing that door?
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  Speaker 1: Because I'm an oppressor.
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  Speaker 4: I hate you.
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  Speaker 1: Listen, I've been raised. I don't care how safe it is,
• 15:14
  Speaker 1: what it is. You lock the door. You lock the door.
• 15:17
  Speaker 1: I mean, unless if you're like, you're going to be
• 15:20
  Speaker 1: back very quickly. But even then, lock the door. Consensus. Consensus.
• 15:25
  Speaker 5: Some people say to get a digital lock and lock
• 15:27
  Speaker 5: the door behind him with her phone, while others say
• 15:29
  Speaker 5: they would be pissed to have to do that instead
• 15:31
  Speaker 5: of him just locking the freaking door. Others tell stories
• 15:35
  Speaker 5: of people just coming into their home, and that's how
• 15:37
  Speaker 5: they learned to lock the door. And there's an update.
• 15:39
  Speaker 5: Thank you so much for everyone who commented and gave advice.
• 15:44
  Speaker 5: I feel very heard and valid. But y'all scared me
• 15:47
  Speaker 5: with some of your stories and references to murderers.
• 15:50
  Speaker 1: So you're like, yes, this is what I needed. Now
• 15:55
  Speaker 1: I'm never going outside ever again.
• 15:56
  Speaker 4: Yeah, now I have agoraphobia.
• 15:59
  Speaker 5: At least now I'm more set than ever. I had
• 16:01
  Speaker 5: a very serious talk with my partner. He was defensive
• 16:04
  Speaker 5: at first, but heard my point. He mentioned that he
• 16:07
  Speaker 5: really lost the habit after living six months with an
• 16:10
  Speaker 5: automatic lock where he just had to close the door.
• 16:13
  Speaker 5: I offered that we get one of those, as many
• 16:15
  Speaker 5: of you suggested, but he refused, saying that he actually
• 16:19
  Speaker 5: didn't like that system at all due to being locked
• 16:21
  Speaker 5: out repeatedly. He confirmed that he rather would work on
• 16:25
  Speaker 5: his habits and that he would make an effort, but
• 16:27
  Speaker 5: to be patient as habits are slow to build.
• 16:30
  Speaker 1: Shut the hell up.
• 16:31
  Speaker 5: Oh, be patient with me. I'm too stupid to know
• 16:34
  Speaker 5: how to lock a door. Be patient with me. I'd
• 16:38
  Speaker 5: be like, buddy, on principle, if you're too thick to
• 16:41
  Speaker 5: lock the door, I don't want to date you. Because
• 16:44
  Speaker 5: you're thick as a big flabby butt cheek. I told
• 16:49
  Speaker 5: him that's fine, but that I was really expecting him
• 16:52
  Speaker 5: to work on it. He said he will. I decided
• 16:55
  Speaker 5: to give him the chance to show me. However, I'm
• 16:57
  Speaker 5: giving him exactly one month. After that period of time,
• 17:00
  Speaker 5: if nothing has changed, automatic lock.
• 17:02
  Speaker 1: Thank you again, everyone. I read all your comments, and
• 17:05
  Speaker 1: I really appreciate all of your inputs. Update two says,
• 17:09
  Speaker 1: two years ago, I posted asking. Two years?
• 17:14
  Speaker 5: I'm going to say she stayed with this idiot for
• 17:16
  Speaker 5: two years. And this is an update saying, I really
• 17:20
  Speaker 5: wish I would have listened to all the people telling
• 17:21
  Speaker 5: me to break up with him.
• 17:23
  Speaker 3: I hope that he just learned how to do it
• 17:27
  Speaker 3: in a day. Maybe even an hour.
• 17:30
  Speaker 1: Savannah, have you not heard the saying, Rome was not
• 17:32
  Speaker 1: built in a day. This guy's better than Rome. Hey, whoa.
• 17:36
  Speaker 5: Pump the brakes there, sweetie. Sweetie pie, you think I
• 17:40
  Speaker 5: can learn how to lock a door in a day?
• 17:42
  Speaker 1: What is this, rocket science? Whoa, give me some time.
• 17:45
  Speaker 1: I got a lot of things going on in my brain.
• 17:48
  Speaker 1: I'm thinking about, whoa, putting one foot in front of
• 17:50
  Speaker 1: the other. They call that one walking, okay?
• 17:53
  Speaker 4: They call that one walking.
• 17:54
  Speaker 1: That's why they call me Christopher. Connecting one word to another,
• 17:57
  Speaker 1: they call that talking, okay?
• 18:00
  Speaker 5: And I don't know what they call that thing where
• 18:01
  Speaker 5: you do with your finger and you.
• 18:03
  Speaker 1: Flip the thing. Locking. They call that locking. Locking. I'll
• 18:06
  Speaker 1: get there. Give me 30 days. Update number two.
• 18:10
  Speaker 5: Two years ago, I posted asking here if it was
• 18:13
  Speaker 5: unreasonable of me to be super duper strict with my
• 18:15
  Speaker 5: boyfriend about locking the door. Now, my boyfriend has been
• 18:18
  Speaker 5: better at locking the door since then.
• 18:20
  Speaker 1: Not perfect, but better.
• 18:22
  Speaker 3: Well, he's showing improvement. That's the first sign of improvement.
• 18:26
  Speaker 1: Okay, they've been together for two years. It's wonderful. Now
• 18:29
  Speaker 1: on to the story.
• 18:29
  Speaker 3: Two years and he still can't lock the door.
• 18:32
  Speaker 1: I was not there for it. But my boyfriend was.
• 18:35
  Speaker 5: Apparently eight months ago now, my 27 female boyfriend, 29 male,
• 18:41
  Speaker 5: was alone at home with the door, thankfully locked, when
• 18:44
  Speaker 5: he said that he heard something shatter. He first thought
• 18:47
  Speaker 5: our cats were acting up, but after checking the living room,
• 18:50
  Speaker 5: he got confused what was broken and decided to check outside.
• 18:53
  Speaker 5: He came out of the apartment just in time to
• 18:55
  Speaker 5: notice that the downstairs neighbor, 50-ish male, was also outside
• 19:00
  Speaker 5: as he also heard the noise. They briefly talked before
• 19:05
  Speaker 5: noticing that one of the downstairs door's glass panel was broken.
• 19:09
  Speaker 5: They got worried and decided to check the basement just
• 19:12
  Speaker 5: in case. They found nothing, so they just assumed it
• 19:16
  Speaker 5: was someone who came in and then left. Then my
• 19:19
  Speaker 5: boyfriend remembered that our upstairs neighbors are also bad at
• 19:23
  Speaker 5: locking their door. Like, guys, they are so terrible at it,
• 19:26
  Speaker 5: it's almost ridiculous. One time they lost their key for
• 19:28
  Speaker 5: a whole month and just lived with the door unlocked
• 19:30
  Speaker 5: for the entire time.
• 19:32
  Speaker 1: Wild.
• 19:33
  Speaker 5: Anyway, so both my boyfriend and neighbor decided that it
• 19:36
  Speaker 5: was worth knocking and checking the upstairs door just in case.
• 19:39
  Speaker 5: They go upstairs, but before they can even knock, they
• 19:42
  Speaker 5: hear wrestling from the inside. They barge in to be
• 19:46
  Speaker 5: met with our upstairs neighbor, 27 ish male in a
• 19:50
  Speaker 5: full grapple with a head that had just walked into
• 19:53
  Speaker 5: his apartment. Thankfully, my upstairs neighbor was definitely overpowering the guy.
• 19:58
  Speaker 5: He then explained that, yeah, he was working in his
• 20:01
  Speaker 5: office when he heard the door open. He immediately recognized
• 20:05
  Speaker 5: that it was not his girlfriend's steps and So he
• 20:07
  Speaker 5: started filming and went to check the noise all the
• 20:09
  Speaker 5: way to the bathroom. He walked in just to be
• 20:11
  Speaker 5: met with this random man asking him casually if he
• 20:13
  Speaker 5: wanted any illicit substances.
• 20:18
  Speaker 1: I'm literally crying, guys. My upstairs neighbor immediately was like, uh, what?
• 20:23
  Speaker 1: Get out. And the guy was just like, yeah, man,
• 20:26
  Speaker 1: but don't you want to smoke, man? Come on, man,
• 20:31
  Speaker 1: don't you want to smoke, man?
• 20:33
  Speaker 4: I rolled this for you. I made this for.
• 20:36
  Speaker 1: You, man.
• 20:37
  Speaker 5: And then my upstairs neighbor just grabbed him to throw
• 20:40
  Speaker 5: him out. So the guy started struggling, begging, please don't
• 20:43
  Speaker 5: hurt me.
• 20:44
  Speaker 4: Oh, that's pathetic.
• 20:44
  Speaker 5: Finally, my boyfriend and the two neighbors brought the man
• 20:47
  Speaker 5: to the staircase and called the police. Tell you what,
• 20:50
  Speaker 5: if that cacklehead wasn't too busy with his crackle, he
• 20:54
  Speaker 5: could have been listening to OK Storytime and he would
• 20:56
  Speaker 5: have known I should not break into someone's house.
• 20:59
  Speaker 4: But I'm still going to do this.
• 21:00
  Speaker 1: And ask them to smoke crackle with me. You know
• 21:03
  Speaker 1: the best place to find... Crackle? Crackle? Is just... By
• 21:07
  Speaker 1: going to Spotify app. Baltimore, Maryland. Ooh.
• 21:10
  Speaker 6: What?
• 21:11
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 21:12
  Speaker 3: How do you know that?
• 21:13
  Speaker 1: That's just real.
• 21:14
  Speaker 3: Cracklehead. Cracklehead.
• 21:18
  Speaker 5: Anyway, we have a little more story here. Lock your doors, folks.
• 21:23
  Speaker 1: Ladies and gents.
• 21:24
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 21:25
  Speaker 1: Lock them up.
• 21:26
  Speaker 3: Moral of the story. If you don't want Crackleheads coming,
• 21:31
  Speaker 3: you better do something about it. Which means, lock your doors.
• 21:36
  Speaker 3: Take care of your well-being. Be safe.
• 21:40
  Speaker 5: Yeah, and know how to throw like a strong straight
• 21:42
  Speaker 5: jab and a right hook.
• 21:44
  Speaker 3: Yeah, go to like self-defense class and learn how to
• 21:46
  Speaker 3: boogie down.
• 21:47
  Speaker 1: So crazy that he's like, don't hurt me. It's like, dude,
• 21:50
  Speaker 1: you walked into my apartment. Get out. I'm afraid you're
• 21:53
  Speaker 1: going to hurt me.
• 21:54
  Speaker 5: Anyway, literally the guy tried to smoke crackle on the
• 21:58
  Speaker 5: staircase because the situation was, and I quote, stressing him.
• 22:02
  Speaker 5: They had to stop him from smoking right there. Finally,
• 22:05
  Speaker 5: the police arrived and just arrested the guy. Guys, the
• 22:09
  Speaker 5: moment my boyfriend told me this story was the most
• 22:11
  Speaker 5: I told you so moment I've ever had in my life.
• 22:15
  Speaker 5: I felt so right about locking the door thing. He's
• 22:19
  Speaker 5: been so good at it since then. This could have
• 22:21
  Speaker 5: gone so wrong on so many levels. Like if it
• 22:25
  Speaker 5: had been my neighbor's girlfriend in the apartment instead of him. Genuinely,
• 22:29
  Speaker 5: she is super sweet, but I would have been so
• 22:30
  Speaker 5: scared for her. She has also now much more insisted
• 22:34
  Speaker 5: on locking the door, but the neighbors are still terrible
• 22:36
  Speaker 5: at it. How?
• 22:38
  Speaker 1: Honestly, Darwin Award for them.
• 22:40
  Speaker 5: Strange crackle-headed man comes into your apartment because you don't
• 22:43
  Speaker 5: lock your door and you still don't lock your door?
• 22:46
  Speaker 5: I hope Thor, son of Odin, shows up and demands
• 22:51
  Speaker 5: blood retribution for some sort of misunderstanding.
• 22:54
  Speaker 1: But because your doors were unlocked, you couldn't stop him.
• 22:58
  Speaker 6: Okay?
• 22:59
  Speaker 1: That's what I hope happens. Okay.
• 23:02
  Speaker 3: Um, yeah, moral of the story, lock your doors.
• 23:04
  Speaker 4: I don't know. Play it safe. Why not?
• 23:06
  Speaker 2: Yes.
• 23:07
  Speaker 3: Or you're going to end up with a fistful of
• 23:09
  Speaker 3: crackle in your head.
• 23:12
  Speaker 4: That's right.
• 23:13
  Speaker 3: But that's the end of that story, and we got
• 23:14
  Speaker 3: another one coming right up. My girlfriend made my cat
• 23:18
  Speaker 3: disappear to punish me for having coffee.
• 23:21
  Speaker 4: She's just a magician, guys.
• 23:23
  Speaker 3: My girlfriend, 24 female, and I, 26 male, have been
• 23:28
  Speaker 3: dating for four years already.
• 23:30
  Speaker 4: Living together for two years. It wasn't always easy.
• 23:33
  Speaker 3: She does have some kind of anger issues, especially when
• 23:36
  Speaker 3: we fight.
• 23:37
  Speaker 1: She has a.
• 23:38
  Speaker 4: Pattern of throwing stuff.
• 23:40
  Speaker 3: After some time, she has been diagnosed with bipolar and
• 23:42
  Speaker 3: anger issues, which makes sense, but she has been seeing
• 23:45
  Speaker 3: a therapist and taking meds. I have had a cat
• 23:48
  Speaker 3: since I was 22 that is living with us. For
• 23:51
  Speaker 3: this story, I will call her Mel. Mel is four
• 23:54
  Speaker 3: years old and an extremely anxious kitty that never leaves
• 23:56
  Speaker 3: our house. Yesterday, we had a huge fight that was
• 23:59
  Speaker 3: connected to me and my female friend that I saw
• 24:01
  Speaker 3: a day before that and had an unexpected coffee meeting.
• 24:05
  Speaker 4: I didn't plan it.
• 24:06
  Speaker 3: We just ran into each other in this shop and
• 24:09
  Speaker 3: decided to have a coffee to update each other's lives.
• 24:12
  Speaker 3: I came back home and told my girlfriend that I
• 24:13
  Speaker 3: saw my friends and she got extremely mad and started
• 24:16
  Speaker 3: accusing me of cheating.
• 24:18
  Speaker 4: By the way, this comes from throwaway4989.
• 24:19
  Speaker 3: And if you want to send me your own stories,
• 24:22
  Speaker 3: go to the r slash okay story time subreddit.
• 24:24
  Speaker 4: I'm Savannah. I'm Sophia.
• 24:26
  Speaker 1: I'm Keon.
• 24:27
  Speaker 3: And we're here to give some good advice and maybe
• 24:29
  Speaker 3: a goofy way. I hope I can make you laugh
• 24:31
  Speaker 3: and maybe make you cry.
• 24:33
  Speaker 1: Who knows?
• 24:34
  Speaker 3: But all I know is I'm going to be here
• 24:36
  Speaker 3: all night.
• 24:37
  Speaker 4: But guess what? We don't have all the answers.
• 24:40
  Speaker 3: We'd only tell you what we would do in this situation,
• 24:41
  Speaker 3: but let us know what you would do.
• 24:42
  Speaker 4: Down in the comments.
• 24:44
  Speaker 3: As Opie says, I always update her about stuff, but
• 24:48
  Speaker 3: since it wasn't planned, I didn't have time to do so,
• 24:51
  Speaker 3: which she treated like I lied to her and cheated.
• 24:54
  Speaker 4: The fight got heated.
• 24:56
  Speaker 3: And I got upset as well, especially seeing she is
• 24:58
  Speaker 3: not willing to listen to me. So I told her
• 25:01
  Speaker 3: I'm going to just sleep at my male friend's house.
• 25:03
  Speaker 4: So I did just that.
• 25:05
  Speaker 3: Today I came back home to talk to her calmly,
• 25:07
  Speaker 3: but since I came back very early, I assumed she
• 25:10
  Speaker 3: was sleeping and wanted to feed my cat first. But
• 25:13
  Speaker 3: I couldn't find Mel, even in her regular spots. Panicked,
• 25:17
  Speaker 3: I woke up my girlfriend asking where Mel is, but
• 25:19
  Speaker 3: she shrugged it off saying that she doesn't know, showing
• 25:22
  Speaker 3: me that she is still mad at me like she
• 25:23
  Speaker 3: was yesterday. I know it might sound rare, but for
• 25:26
  Speaker 3: people that have a beloved animal, I truly love my
• 25:29
  Speaker 3: cat and see her as part of the family. That
• 25:31
  Speaker 3: should be every single person on Earth. Why is that rare?
• 25:34
  Speaker 4: I know it's crazy, but I like my pet. I'm
• 25:38
  Speaker 4: a little quirky like that.
• 25:40
  Speaker 3: I feel bad even thinking about my girlfriend doing something
• 25:43
  Speaker 3: to my cat, but I can't help but wonder, especially
• 25:45
  Speaker 3: seeing her whatever behavior and denying everything. I also do
• 25:49
  Speaker 3: remember that Mel was laying on a couch when I
• 25:51
  Speaker 3: left because I pet her while leaving. Our house also
• 25:54
  Speaker 3: doesn't allow her to just run away. She's too anxious
• 25:57
  Speaker 3: to do anyway. So this girlfriend literally took your cat.
• 26:00
  Speaker 4: I think she took your cat. I think she took
• 26:03
  Speaker 4: your cat. Where did she take your cat? And the
• 26:04
  Speaker 4: cat's so anxious.
• 26:06
  Speaker 6: The cat's like, where am I?
• 26:09
  Speaker 4: Oh my God.
• 26:10
  Speaker 3: That's so scary.
• 26:11
  Speaker 4: That's terrible. Break up with your girlfriend.
• 26:13
  Speaker 3: I have no idea what to do. I called animal
• 26:16
  Speaker 3: shelters in our neighborhood asking if they found a kitty,
• 26:18
  Speaker 3: but no clear answer to that. Also, my girlfriend isn't
• 26:22
  Speaker 3: willing to talk about it with me, so I feel
• 26:23
  Speaker 3: very uncomfortable. I feel awful for suspecting my girlfriend, but
• 26:27
  Speaker 3: how can I approach it?
• 26:28
  Speaker 4: I mean, genuinely, it's your girlfriend.
• 26:32
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 26:32
  Speaker 6: I don't think it's suspecting if you say, hey, where's
• 26:35
  Speaker 6: the cat? And your girlfriend goes, I don't know.
• 26:38
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 26:39
  Speaker 4: She comes out and she's like, I don't know.
• 26:41
  Speaker 1: It's like your cat, not my cat.
• 26:44
  Speaker 4: Comments.
• 26:45
  Speaker 3: Fluffy Cat Belly says, if you think your girlfriend can
• 26:47
  Speaker 3: do something to your cat, You need to break up
• 26:50
  Speaker 3: with her. I do hope you find your cat and
• 26:52
  Speaker 3: she's okay, but this relationship clearly isn't working. OP responds,
• 26:56
  Speaker 3: I feel extremely awful thinking about her in this way,
• 26:58
  Speaker 3: but can't help and see it as punishment for seeing
• 27:01
  Speaker 3: my friend. Pineapple character 15 says, no one, and I
• 27:06
  Speaker 3: mean no one, needs this kind of grief in their life.
• 27:10
  Speaker 3: Please get rid of this psycho. OP responds, I can't
• 27:14
  Speaker 3: seem to process that my cat might be gone and
• 27:16
  Speaker 3: also my girlfriend. The whole thing makes me nauseous. GlitteringFishing932 says, Well,
• 27:22
  Speaker 3: if she did something to your cat because she was
• 27:24
  Speaker 3: angry with you, will you ever truly feel safe down
• 27:27
  Speaker 3: in your inmost being? Even if you feel safe, do
• 27:30
  Speaker 3: you still want to sign up for a relationship full
• 27:32
  Speaker 3: of her? Opie responds, To be honest, just seeing her
• 27:36
  Speaker 3: so unbothered about it makes me so mad. I spent
• 27:40
  Speaker 3: three hours going around my neighborhood asking people and looking
• 27:43
  Speaker 3: around various places. I'm so tired. She didn't even bother
• 27:46
  Speaker 3: to contact me or anything. Like, I should be the
• 27:48
  Speaker 3: one trying to comfort her now?
• 27:50
  Speaker 1: That's crazy.
• 27:51
  Speaker 3: This whole thing makes me unwell. I feel like I'm
• 27:53
  Speaker 3: going epping crazy.
• 27:54
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 27:55
  Speaker 6: Genuinely, even if she didn't do anything to your cat,
• 27:59
  Speaker 6: just the fact that she's not helping you find your cat.
• 28:01
  Speaker 1: And she's acting very, like, nonchalant.
• 28:04
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 28:05
  Speaker 1: But I would be like, why are you acting like
• 28:08
  Speaker 1: nothing's happened?
• 28:09
  Speaker 6: Yeah.
• 28:10
  Speaker 4: Like, if I lost Ava and my boyfriend was just like, whatever.
• 28:14
  Speaker 1: That's your fault.
• 28:14
  Speaker 4: Who cares? I'd be like.
• 28:17
  Speaker 1: Yeah. If that happened with my dog.
• 28:21
  Speaker 3: Yeah, hit him with a shovel.
• 28:23
  Speaker 1: Yeah, if that happened with my dog. But my boyfriend
• 28:24
  Speaker 1: would never do that. He's not good.
• 28:26
  Speaker 3: There is an edit. We talked over the phone and
• 28:29
  Speaker 3: she started crying, admitting she punted my cat out of
• 28:32
  Speaker 3: the house because she was angry with me. I'm completely heartbroken.
• 28:37
  Speaker 3: There's an update.
• 28:38
  Speaker 4: Wait, so she admitted it? She admitted to doing it.
• 28:40
  Speaker 1: So I go, find my cat. I'm not mad.
• 28:44
  Speaker 4: I'm not mad.
• 28:45
  Speaker 1: Find my cat.
• 28:45
  Speaker 4: That's what I do. I pick up girlfriend. I go, whew, whew.
• 28:50
  Speaker 4: You gotta go.
• 28:51
  Speaker 3: You already know what I'm doing.
• 28:52
  Speaker 4: You gotta go.
• 28:53
  Speaker 1: No, you can't do that yet.
• 28:54
  Speaker 4: Put two and two together.
• 28:54
  Speaker 1: You can't do that yet because you need to find
• 28:56
  Speaker 1: the cat first.
• 28:57
  Speaker 4: It's true. It's true. Update one day later.
• 28:59
  Speaker 3: I have great news.
• 29:01
  Speaker 1: Mel was found. Yay! Knew it. Knew it.
• 29:03
  Speaker 4: Never any doubt.
• 29:05
  Speaker 3: Now you can take that shovel and bury the girlfriend.
• 29:07
  Speaker 3: My neighbor found her hiding under his car and called
• 29:10
  Speaker 3: me immediately and let me tell you, rushed to his place.
• 29:14
  Speaker 1: Nice.
• 29:15
  Speaker 3: Thankfully, my cat is doing okay. She just seems scared
• 29:17
  Speaker 3: and anxious, but right now she is resting. That is
• 29:20
  Speaker 3: so sad to do.
• 29:21
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 29:21
  Speaker 3: Like, to get back at someone else by, like, hurting
• 29:25
  Speaker 3: an animal?
• 29:26
  Speaker 6: Yeah, by doing something to a defenseless creature?
• 29:29
  Speaker 4: Why would you have to do that?
• 29:31
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm mad at you, so I'm gonna get to
• 29:34
  Speaker 1: your pet.
• 29:35
  Speaker 6: I mean, to be clear, or to be fair, or
• 29:37
  Speaker 6: not even fair, but just like, obviously this woman has
• 29:40
  Speaker 6: a lot of different issues that she's being treated for.
• 29:43
  Speaker 4: And, you know, I do want to acknowledge that, but
• 29:46
  Speaker 4: that doesn't mean you have to date her.
• 29:48
  Speaker 1: No, I mean, yeah, truly. I mean, things were working
• 29:51
  Speaker 1: until this.
• 29:53
  Speaker 3: Imagine being inside your entire life and then all of
• 29:56
  Speaker 3: a sudden just getting thrown.
• 29:57
  Speaker 4: To the streets.
• 29:59
  Speaker 1: No, but also just someone thinking that.
• 30:00
  Speaker 4: I like to think that the cat had an adventure.
• 30:02
  Speaker 3: I hope.
• 30:04
  Speaker 1: Some cats like outside. The most anxious-induced cat.
• 30:08
  Speaker 6: Yeah, the anxiety-induced cat was like, oh my gosh, there's
• 30:11
  Speaker 6: a whole world out here that I wasn't even exploring.
• 30:14
  Speaker 3: Now I don't have to be anxious anymore.
• 30:16
  Speaker 4: I'm not afraid.
• 30:17
  Speaker 3: But when it comes to my girlfriend, I just don't
• 30:20
  Speaker 3: know what to do.
• 30:21
  Speaker 1: Oh, yeah.
• 30:23
  Speaker 4: What do you mean you don't know what to do?
• 30:24
  Speaker 3: She admitted to punting my cat out of the house
• 30:27
  Speaker 3: because she was mad at me.
• 30:28
  Speaker 4: So what do you mean you don't know what to do?
• 30:30
  Speaker 3: She actually came to my house when I texted her
• 30:33
  Speaker 3: to say I'd found Mel. I know I shouldn't do that,
• 30:35
  Speaker 3: but I texted to update not to invite her. She
• 30:38
  Speaker 3: basically started crying, saying that she didn't mean to, that
• 30:41
  Speaker 3: her mental sickness had a big part in her behavior.
• 30:44
  Speaker 1: Don't care. Not an excuse. I get it. Go get help.
• 30:48
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 30:48
  Speaker 1: I hope you get help.
• 30:50
  Speaker 4: But away from me and my cat.
• 30:52
  Speaker 1: You knew this entire time. Yeah, no, no, no, no.
• 30:55
  Speaker 1: You knew what you did was wrong.
• 30:56
  Speaker 3: I tried to comfort her, but honestly, I feel completely numb.
• 30:59
  Speaker 3: I told her that I want to be left alone
• 31:01
  Speaker 3: for now. And after some time and collecting some of
• 31:03
  Speaker 3: her stuff, she left. To be honest, I can't imagine
• 31:06
  Speaker 3: having her here again. I think it finally clicked in
• 31:09
  Speaker 3: my head that there were times before that she mistreated
• 31:11
  Speaker 3: me and I just let it slide because she had
• 31:14
  Speaker 3: me wrapped around her finger.
• 31:15
  Speaker 4: What are we doing with the girlfriend?
• 31:17
  Speaker 1: Gumping her.
• 31:17
  Speaker 4: Tossing her out of the house. Yeah.
• 31:21
  Speaker 6: And then when she's out of the house, you say,
• 31:23
  Speaker 6: I'm breaking up with you. But you have a sign
• 31:26
  Speaker 6: because she's very far away at this point.
• 31:28
  Speaker 4: Yeah. Sign says, I'm breaking up with you. She's very far.
• 31:32
  Speaker 3: I just couldn't imagine having to deal with that.
• 31:36
  Speaker 4: I'd be like, you need to go.
• 31:37
  Speaker 6: And then still comforting her and not knowing what to do.
• 31:41
  Speaker 4: Yeah. How long have they been together?
• 31:44
  Speaker 1: Four years. I'm pretty sure it was like four years.
• 31:46
  Speaker 1: Am I crazy?
• 31:47
  Speaker 4: Four years makes sense. Four years does make sense. I, like.
• 31:52
  Speaker 1: Yeah, wow. Good memory.
• 31:53
  Speaker 3: There is a specific point, I feel, where you cannot
• 31:56
  Speaker 3: blame your illness on doing something like that.
• 32:02
  Speaker 6: Well, I think there's a difference between your illness explaining
• 32:05
  Speaker 6: your behavior and your illness.
• 32:08
  Speaker 4: Excusing your behavior. Yes, yes. And I think she's trying
• 32:12
  Speaker 4: to excuse her behavior, which is unexcusable.
• 32:15
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 32:16
  Speaker 4: It's explainable.
• 32:18
  Speaker 3: It definitely is explainable.
• 32:19
  Speaker 4: We know why she did it.
• 32:20
  Speaker 6: Yeah.
• 32:21
  Speaker 1: Yeah. I like that.
• 32:23
  Speaker 4: Thanks.
• 32:24
  Speaker 1: I would say break up with her, but then also
• 32:28
  Speaker 1: increase security. Yes.
• 32:30
  Speaker 4: Camera. Camera. Camera. One of those little headlamps. GoPro.
• 32:37
  Speaker 1: Put it on Mel, too. Put a little camera.
• 32:40
  Speaker 4: Oh, Mel gets one. Oh, PV, POV, Mel POV. We
• 32:45
  Speaker 4: should have had one in the first place so we
• 32:46
  Speaker 4: could have captured her exploration.
• 32:52
  Speaker 3: I feel I would go insane if she stayed in
• 32:54
  Speaker 3: my house, especially if I wasn't around to see what
• 32:56
  Speaker 3: she was up to. For now, I'm just so extremely
• 32:59
  Speaker 3: happy that Mel is back with me. And at the
• 33:01
  Speaker 3: same time, I need to make sense of my relationship ending.
• 33:05
  Speaker 3: I truly feel conflicted. It feels like I'm too attached
• 33:08
  Speaker 3: to her. But at the same time, I know that
• 33:10
  Speaker 3: I would struggle to trust her knowing that she is
• 33:13
  Speaker 3: likely to have another breakdown sooner or later. Any tips
• 33:17
  Speaker 3: on how to manage heartbreak? It would be appreciated.
• 33:20
  Speaker 1: Go to Mel. Go to Mel. Mel will love you. Mel.
• 33:23
  Speaker 4: Mel, hold Mel.
• 33:26
  Speaker 3: She was my first love and I planned on proposing
• 33:29
  Speaker 3: to her in a month.
• 33:30
  Speaker 4: Thank God you waited.
• 33:32
  Speaker 3: But given the situation, I guess it's not happening.
• 33:35
  Speaker 1: No.
• 33:36
  Speaker 3: There are some comments.
• 33:38
  Speaker 4: Sam Chan says, chip the cat. Chip the cat.
• 33:41
  Speaker 1: Oh, yeah, chip the cat.
• 33:43
  Speaker 3: ZBT Horton says, it's honestly such an effed up thing
• 33:46
  Speaker 3: to do. Way, way, way up there on the crazy
• 33:48
  Speaker 3: red flag scale. OP responds, oh, let me tell you,
• 33:52
  Speaker 3: my friends were speechless when I told them. Telling them
• 33:55
  Speaker 3: about it out loud made it even worse. I plan
• 33:58
  Speaker 3: on changing locks to my doors in the coming days.
• 34:01
  Speaker 3: All because she has a spare key and she didn't
• 34:04
  Speaker 3: give it back.
• 34:06
  Speaker 6: Oh, yeah.
• 34:07
  Speaker 4: Change all of your locks immediately.
• 34:09
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 34:09
  Speaker 4: And don't leave Mel alone until you do so.
• 34:11
  Speaker 3: This girl's crazy. You have to just let her go.
• 34:15
  Speaker 3: Take the lost OP. Anyway, you can justify it in
• 34:18
  Speaker 3: your head whether, you know, like it's her fault, your fault, whatever, blah, blah, blah.
• 34:22
  Speaker 3: You just got to leave. Although it is not your fault.
• 34:24
  Speaker 3: But justify it in your head to make sure you
• 34:27
  Speaker 3: get out of there.
• 34:28
  Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah.
• 34:29
  Speaker 4: No, this is a little scary. No, I would.
• 34:33
  Speaker 3: If I had a boyfriend and I came home, he'd
• 34:36
  Speaker 3: be like, oh, yeah, I poured the fish out.
• 34:39
  Speaker 4: He's like, I thought you wanted fish for dinner.
• 34:41
  Speaker 1: I took the fish for a walk.
• 34:44
  Speaker 4: I would be.
• 34:45
  Speaker 3: I think I would attack him, truthfully. I think I
• 34:48
  Speaker 3: would have to go after him with something.
• 34:50
  Speaker 4: For the fish?
• 34:51
  Speaker 1: Like a shovel?
• 34:52
  Speaker 3: Yeah, and I'd be like, show me where they are.
• 34:55
  Speaker 4: Don't say that. Let me see where they are.
• 34:56
  Speaker 1: The fish are sleeping with the fishes.
• 34:58
  Speaker 4: Don't touch... Savannah's pets. That's the moral of this story.
• 35:03
  Speaker 1: And that's the end of this story. We're gonna go
• 35:05
  Speaker 1: on to the next one. Hey, this is Riley, the
• 35:07
  Speaker 1: new Californian here. We're gonna get back to these stories,
• 35:10
  Speaker 1: but here's three minutes of ads from our sponsors. My
• 35:13
  Speaker 1: in-laws banned me from my own honeymoon. Now they want
• 35:16
  Speaker 1: a do-over. How did they do that? We'll find out.
• 35:19
  Speaker 1: My wife and I have been married for two years,
• 35:21
  Speaker 1: together for six. Her family has always been aggressive and rude,
• 35:24
  Speaker 1: and unfortunately, that has included their behavior towards me. Yikes.
• 35:30
  Speaker 1: They have told me I am unwelcome, talked about planning
• 35:34
  Speaker 1: to take my children away from me, and said that
• 35:36
  Speaker 1: me marrying their daughter is the worst thing to ever
• 35:39
  Speaker 1: happen to them. Oh my gosh. Things built up slowly,
• 35:44
  Speaker 1: but recently a few major events sparked a bigger fire
• 35:47
  Speaker 1: and made me blow up. Firstly, our honeymoon. My wife
• 35:51
  Speaker 1: was born in Montreal and raised there until she was eight,
• 35:54
  Speaker 1: when her mother left her father over his booze problem
• 35:57
  Speaker 1: and took the children. My wife wanted us to honeymoon
• 36:00
  Speaker 1: in Montreal, where she can walk me through her memories
• 36:02
  Speaker 1: and show me where she grew up. Aw, that's actually
• 36:04
  Speaker 1: kind of cute. I love this. When we told her
• 36:06
  Speaker 1: family about the idea, they invited themselves! What? This is
• 36:11
  Speaker 1: called a honeymoon, not a family moon. Oh, look, this
• 36:14
  Speaker 1: is where we procreated your wife, on this area. Gross.
• 36:18
  Speaker 1: We told them we wanted it to be our time alone,
• 36:20
  Speaker 1: as we were pregnant with our first and wanted a
• 36:23
  Speaker 1: last vacation together before the baby. They could not respect
• 36:27
  Speaker 1: the decision. How? I'm confused.
• 36:31
  Speaker 4: What?
• 36:32
  Speaker 1: I don't like them. And, by the way, this comes
• 36:34
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• 36:38
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• 36:41
  Speaker 1: I'm Riley.
• 36:42
  Speaker 4: I'm Sophia.
• 36:43
  Speaker 1: And we're here to give good advice goofily. We don't
• 36:45
  Speaker 1: know everything. We only know what we do. So let
• 36:47
  Speaker 1: us know what you do in the comments down below, please.
• 36:50
  Speaker 1: As Opie says, What? And you look at your wife
• 36:53
  Speaker 1: and you say, What's your answer?
• 37:05
  Speaker 2: Yeah, what's your answer? Also, are you guys in the
• 37:08
  Speaker 2: same place? Don't you have like a separate, you know,
• 37:11
  Speaker 2: B & B? What is happening here?
• 37:14
  Speaker 1: Well... After days of guilt tripping her, she asked me
• 37:18
  Speaker 1: to stay home and ended up going without me. Bro,
• 37:22
  Speaker 1: you don't have a wife. That is not your wife.
• 37:24
  Speaker 1: We were booked a separate just us trip for a
• 37:26
  Speaker 1: month later. When they found out about it, they got
• 37:28
  Speaker 1: very offended and wouldn't let us hear the end of it.
• 37:31
  Speaker 1: I never fully got over it. I'm not even over
• 37:34
  Speaker 1: it and I don't even know you people. But I
• 37:35
  Speaker 1: decided to let it go and make sure it wouldn't
• 37:37
  Speaker 1: happen again. That brings us to this Easter. We were
• 37:40
  Speaker 1: at her family's to celebrate our daughter's first Easter, and
• 37:43
  Speaker 1: the entire time they kept throwing comments about how unfair
• 37:45
  Speaker 1: it is that we don't make more time for them
• 37:48
  Speaker 1: and don't put in enough effort to see them. Oh,
• 37:51
  Speaker 1: we probably would if you would enjoy seeing both of us.
• 37:54
  Speaker 1: If we liked seeing you guys, maybe we would.
• 37:56
  Speaker 2: So weird.
• 37:57
  Speaker 1: We were originally staying for four nights, but I got
• 37:59
  Speaker 1: called into work and had to leave at night early.
• 38:02
  Speaker 1: When I told them, they blew up because I was
• 38:04
  Speaker 1: just trying to keep their daughter away from them. I
• 38:07
  Speaker 1: explained that I have a job I need to keep
• 38:09
  Speaker 1: and they settled down. Then they asked if we had
• 38:11
  Speaker 1: any other crap we wanted to dump on them. Jeez, dude,
• 38:14
  Speaker 1: these people are... What is happening? What is your wife doing?
• 38:16
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I would love to see a family picture. I
• 38:19
  Speaker 2: feel like that would help a lot.
• 38:20
  Speaker 1: I'm looking at my wife and being like, you're allowing
• 38:23
  Speaker 1: this to happen. Why are they talking to me like this?
• 38:25
  Speaker 1: I've stood up to them. Why are we still in
• 38:27
  Speaker 1: contact with them? Yeah. What do they have over you?
• 38:29
  Speaker 5: Exactly.
• 38:31
  Speaker 1: Having already opened up, I told them I was hurt
• 38:33
  Speaker 1: by how often they brought up our lack of effort.
• 38:36
  Speaker 1: This made my mother-in-law explode. She called me a see
• 38:39
  Speaker 1: you next Tuesday, a piece of crap, and a dirty
• 38:41
  Speaker 1: liar trying to steal her daughter. I couldn't deal with
• 38:43
  Speaker 1: the name calling, so I got my wife and told
• 38:46
  Speaker 1: her we are leaving. After we left, her mother started
• 38:53
  Speaker 1: contacting the family and telling them I was a mistreater
• 38:56
  Speaker 1: who had manipulated and controlled her daughter into leaving. Then
• 38:59
  Speaker 1: she sent 15 texts to my wife about surviving mistreatment
• 39:02
  Speaker 1: and how she needed to escape from me. She said
• 39:04
  Speaker 1: I was no longer welcome in their home. Good. I'm
• 39:06
  Speaker 1: not coming back. I didn't argue and figured I just
• 39:09
  Speaker 1: wouldn't be there anymore. To tie this all up very nicely,
• 39:13
  Speaker 1: today my wife got a text from her mother out
• 39:15
  Speaker 1: of the blue. She wants my wife to stay with
• 39:17
  Speaker 1: her for a week with our daughter. She said we
• 39:20
  Speaker 1: can just forget anything ever happened and treat her like
• 39:22
  Speaker 1: we used to. She also said, this is the way
• 39:25
  Speaker 1: I am. You cannot change me. You will have to
• 39:28
  Speaker 1: learn to accept me eventually. Oh, Then, proceeded to lecture
• 39:36
  Speaker 1: my wife about learning to take accountability. This is where
• 39:40
  Speaker 1: I blew up. Why are you blowing up now?
• 39:42
  Speaker 2: Well, we're dealing with someone that doesn't have the highest EQ.
• 39:48
  Speaker 1: EQ or IQ? EQ. Emotional intelligence.
• 39:51
  Speaker 2: So they're thinking things need to look like this. Then
• 39:53
  Speaker 2: they go about this way, blah, blah, blah, blah. I'm
• 39:56
  Speaker 2: not going to change. You can't change me.
• 39:58
  Speaker 1: Either you deal with it or you don't deal with it.
• 40:00
  Speaker 1: And pick a lane.
• 40:02
  Speaker 2: You have every single right in the book to draw
• 40:04
  Speaker 2: a boundary. Good for you for doing that. I really
• 40:07
  Speaker 2: would love to see this woman. I think she's at
• 40:09
  Speaker 2: targets just at this moment. making every single employee at
• 40:13
  Speaker 2: that target miserable just trying to figure out where the where.
• 40:17
  Speaker 1: She avocado oil is and she made the mistake where
• 40:20
  Speaker 1: she's like no that's not my fault it's your fault.
• 40:22
  Speaker 2: Yeah i i or i got avocado oil why is
• 40:25
  Speaker 2: this olive oil this is your fault i hate you
• 40:28
  Speaker 2: she probably yells at like ants dude.
• 40:30
  Speaker 1: Everyone in her family probably doesn't like her ants like
• 40:33
  Speaker 1: ant like bugs like bugs on the ground like bugs
• 40:35
  Speaker 1: on the ground yelling at them.
• 40:36
  Speaker 2: For uh someone likes getting in her way Just make
• 40:40
  Speaker 2: a fuss out of anything she can. Truly.
• 40:42
  Speaker 1: Goodness gracious. Again, this is where I blew up. I
• 40:45
  Speaker 1: told my wife, your family is so manipulative and evil.
• 40:48
  Speaker 1: I will not be taking part in any of their
• 40:50
  Speaker 1: holidays or vacations. And I don't plan on repairing relationships
• 40:53
  Speaker 1: with them or ever seeing them again. And your wife said, honey,
• 40:57
  Speaker 1: you're right. They are crazy. And we shouldn't talk to them.
• 41:01
  Speaker 1: This is our now family. That's it. Yeah, agreed. What
• 41:04
  Speaker 1: does she say? I've never heard her say anything yet. Well,
• 41:08
  Speaker 1: that's what I think your wife should say and agree
• 41:10
  Speaker 1: with you. But Opie says, My wife got upset because
• 41:13
  Speaker 1: she wants us to be amicable since I am her
• 41:16
  Speaker 1: husband and her mother is her mother. Her mother is
• 41:18
  Speaker 1: using that as leverage. I can't let her past actions
• 41:21
  Speaker 1: go without an apology or accountability. And my wife desperately
• 41:25
  Speaker 1: wants me to. On top of that... Our daughter is
• 41:28
  Speaker 1: barely three months old, and my wife has had bad postpartum.
• 41:31
  Speaker 1: Her family's not supportive, so a week with them would
• 41:34
  Speaker 1: be very hard on her with the baby. If I
• 41:37
  Speaker 1: were there, I could support her and look after our daughter,
• 41:40
  Speaker 1: which leaves me torn between protecting them and not putting
• 41:42
  Speaker 1: myself in a position to be disrespected. So, am I
• 41:46
  Speaker 1: the a-hole?
• 41:47
  Speaker 2: This is what I really see here. They're not on
• 41:49
  Speaker 2: the same team. Your wife is on her family's side,
• 41:52
  Speaker 2: and she's got to make a choice of, is she
• 41:54
  Speaker 2: going to stay on her family's side or be on
• 41:55
  Speaker 2: your side? Because it would be easy if you guys
• 41:57
  Speaker 2: were on the same boat, no contact, distance yourself, boundaries,
• 42:00
  Speaker 2: and then just live your own life. Because these people
• 42:02
  Speaker 2: just want to control her for some reason. And they're projecting.
• 42:05
  Speaker 2: This is all projection.
• 42:06
  Speaker 1: Truly. And I'm, again, where does your wife stand with
• 42:09
  Speaker 1: all the bad talk about you straight to your face?
• 42:13
  Speaker 1: All that BS that they say, and you say your
• 42:17
  Speaker 1: lack of effort. Is your wife just saying, that's good,
• 42:20
  Speaker 1: I like that? Dude, is she a go-with-the-flow kind of person? 100%
• 42:23
  Speaker 1: a go-with-the-flow. Oh, no.
• 42:25
  Speaker 2: Did she even want to get married to you, or
• 42:26
  Speaker 2: is she just like, oh, I guess it's time, I
• 42:28
  Speaker 2: should do it?
• 42:28
  Speaker 1: Obviously, your wife is a CPP. She likes to please...
• 42:33
  Speaker 1: whatever especially her mom yeah but i think you're going
• 42:36
  Speaker 1: with it too i i would have put my foot
• 42:38
  Speaker 1: down immediately you guys were going supposed to go on
• 42:41
  Speaker 1: a honeymoon together and then she your wife changed her
• 42:44
  Speaker 1: mind because her mom said so i what are we
• 42:46
  Speaker 1: doing i would shake my wife and go what are
• 42:49
  Speaker 1: we doing why we have an edit some more clarity
• 42:52
  Speaker 1: honeymoon was november 2025 we married may 2024 and we
• 42:56
  Speaker 1: found out about the pregnancy in June 2025. My wife
• 42:59
  Speaker 1: has promised to stand up for me, and I always
• 43:01
  Speaker 1: tried to believe her. We went through a rough patch
• 43:03
  Speaker 1: when the honeymoon thing happened, where I told her that
• 43:06
  Speaker 1: if she couldn't figure out how to stand up, divorce
• 43:08
  Speaker 1: would be involved. Oh, yeah. What happened to that? Okay,
• 43:12
  Speaker 1: that's more, okay. Everyone around me, friends and family, told
• 43:15
  Speaker 1: me not to make a huge deal out of the
• 43:16
  Speaker 1: honeymoon since I could just plan another one. She started
• 43:19
  Speaker 1: standing up for me for a few months, and things
• 43:21
  Speaker 1: were nice. Sounds like it. Then she fell back into
• 43:24
  Speaker 1: the old habit. She always says, This is normal. This
• 43:27
  Speaker 1: is who they are and how they behave. I know
• 43:30
  Speaker 1: she was brainwashed for 18 years and has only been
• 43:33
  Speaker 1: away from it for four. She says she is starting
• 43:35
  Speaker 1: to see it, but she is still too scared to
• 43:37
  Speaker 1: stand up. When we had to tell her family we
• 43:39
  Speaker 1: were leaving early, she broke down crying, which is why
• 43:42
  Speaker 1: I had to be the one to tell them. We
• 43:44
  Speaker 1: have an update.
• 43:45
  Speaker 2: Oh, dude, this is just the product of emotional harassment
• 43:49
  Speaker 2: and just mental harassment.
• 43:51
  Speaker 1: Your wife needs therapy. Yeah, agreed.
• 43:54
  Speaker 2: Agreed.
• 43:54
  Speaker 1: We have an update, and I hope it's a good one. Alright,
• 43:57
  Speaker 1: I saw a lot of advice. First off, to those
• 43:59
  Speaker 1: asking how I didn't divorce her immediately, I want to
• 44:02
  Speaker 1: address that. When we met, she was living with her
• 44:04
  Speaker 1: uncle across the street from her mother, and we were
• 44:07
  Speaker 1: long distance, about four hours apart. I did not meet
• 44:10
  Speaker 1: her mom more than a dozen times before marriage because
• 44:12
  Speaker 1: my wife didn't spend time around her. I would stay
• 44:16
  Speaker 1: with her for a week, and we wouldn't even encounter
• 44:18
  Speaker 1: her mother in that time. Her mother didn't like her independence,
• 44:21
  Speaker 1: so she went low contact and told my wife she
• 44:23
  Speaker 1: felt abandoned. My wife internalized that. We got married at 19.
• 44:28
  Speaker 1: and she moved from her uncle's into an apartment with me.
• 44:30
  Speaker 1: At that point, I only knew her grandmother didn't like me,
• 44:33
  Speaker 1: and even she wasn't saying truly crazy things until after
• 44:36
  Speaker 1: the wedding. After getting some courage from you guys, I
• 44:39
  Speaker 1: sat my wife down. I usually only share my feelings
• 44:45
  Speaker 1: when the weight got too much, but because I had
• 44:48
  Speaker 1: been told they were manipulative and controlling. This time, I
• 44:51
  Speaker 1: got to share before a blow up and it was
• 44:53
  Speaker 1: much more conducive. Many of you suggested therapy. I gave
• 44:57
  Speaker 1: her the option of therapy and counseling or divorce. I
• 45:02
  Speaker 1: wouldn't do. I wouldn't put that on the table yet.
• 45:04
  Speaker 1: I would have been like, Hey, let's do marriage. Let's
• 45:06
  Speaker 1: do therapy and counseling. See if that works. See if
• 45:08
  Speaker 1: that helps. And if that doesn't work and we're going
• 45:10
  Speaker 1: with this, then divorce. I told her I don't want
• 45:14
  Speaker 1: to divorce her, but her enabling her family has driven
• 45:17
  Speaker 1: a wedge between us. And if she went away for
• 45:19
  Speaker 1: a week, she would come home. To divorce papers. Dang, dude.
• 45:23
  Speaker 2: That is manipulative. You still sound manipulative.
• 45:26
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 45:26
  Speaker 1: You're not making this easier for your wife. Now you're
• 45:31
  Speaker 1: playing the game of what her mom does, pretty much.
• 45:33
  Speaker 2: Dude, if we had the wife's point of view, it
• 45:36
  Speaker 2: would be a completely different story.
• 45:38
  Speaker 1: My mom hates... My mom is controlling and is insane.
• 45:41
  Speaker 1: My husband doesn't know how to handle it. I'm lost.
• 45:44
  Speaker 1: But I only like doing what my mom says. Yeah.
• 45:46
  Speaker 1: But now my husband wants to divorce me. This is crazy, dude.
• 45:49
  Speaker 1: So my wife is not going for a week. She
• 45:52
  Speaker 1: and I are going together for two days, arriving Friday
• 45:55
  Speaker 1: night and leaving Sunday morning. I will be with her
• 45:57
  Speaker 1: the whole time. I am not going to pretend to
• 45:59
  Speaker 1: be friendly with her family or talk to them at all.
• 46:01
  Speaker 1: As far as I am concerned, I am there with
• 46:04
  Speaker 1: my daughter as her protector and my wife agreed to this.
• 46:07
  Speaker 1: I told her we need a real plan with some
• 46:09
  Speaker 1: follow through within a month. I take my parental leave
• 46:12
  Speaker 1: in July and I want it stress free so I
• 46:15
  Speaker 1: can enjoy my baby and And my spouse. I already
• 46:18
  Speaker 1: have a therapist and I am referring her to him
• 46:20
  Speaker 1: and have emailed him for recommendations on couples counselors. Nice.
• 46:24
  Speaker 1: I gathered screenshots from my wife's phone and mine. And
• 46:27
  Speaker 1: I got some from her sister as well, who is
• 46:29
  Speaker 1: on my side to an extent. Hopefully this isn't just
• 46:31
  Speaker 1: a yes sir in the moment followed by more of
• 46:33
  Speaker 1: the same pattern. If it is, I will follow through
• 46:37
  Speaker 1: with divorce. Thank you for your comments. I will update
• 46:40
  Speaker 1: as therapy goes on and definitely update after our weekend.
• 46:43
  Speaker 6: Oh, no.
• 46:44
  Speaker 1: Which is the first weekend of June.
• 46:45
  Speaker 4: Oh, no.
• 46:46
  Speaker 1: Update two.
• 46:47
  Speaker 2: Update two.
• 46:48
  Speaker 1: It's around June 4th.
• 46:49
  Speaker 2: Keon, you're either going to have to be nice to me,
• 46:52
  Speaker 2: starting now, or you're out of here and you can
• 46:54
  Speaker 2: never return.
• 46:55
  Speaker 1: That's what it sounds like. I don't want to. I
• 46:58
  Speaker 1: don't really feel like it. I don't feel like it. Yeah,
• 47:00
  Speaker 1: you know. I don't feel like it. Update Dose After
• 47:04
  Speaker 1: responses to the first update, I realized I was still
• 47:07
  Speaker 1: not fully advocating for my daughter or myself, and was
• 47:10
  Speaker 1: just compromising to avoid real conflict. So I sat with
• 47:13
  Speaker 1: my wife again for a further discussion. I read the
• 47:16
  Speaker 1: Don't Rock the Boat post to her and compared it
• 47:18
  Speaker 1: to her family dynamic, with her mother rocking the boat
• 47:21
  Speaker 1: and her sisters expecting us to steady it so they
• 47:23
  Speaker 1: can ride along in peace. I brought up the health
• 47:25
  Speaker 1: and safety concerns of a three-month-old being surrounded by that
• 47:28
  Speaker 1: stress for a full weekend. I also pointed out that
• 47:31
  Speaker 1: bringing our daughter wasn't for her benefit, since she has
• 47:34
  Speaker 1: no memory of any of this yet, and our home
• 47:36
  Speaker 1: is healthier for her. We had a funny little moment
• 47:39
  Speaker 1: where she asked if I expected her to go without
• 47:42
  Speaker 1: our daughter, and said she would never leave for days
• 47:45
  Speaker 1: without her. I asked why she would expect the same
• 47:47
  Speaker 1: of me. She quickly said she saw what I meant,
• 47:50
  Speaker 1: and that in that case, she would not go and
• 47:52
  Speaker 1: would stay home with our daughter forever. and with me.
• 47:55
  Speaker 1: We also talked more about her going no contact or
• 47:58
  Speaker 1: at least low contact with her mother and grandmother while
• 48:01
  Speaker 1: still seeing her sisters and her uncle and letting them
• 48:04
  Speaker 1: know they would have to visit us to see us.
• 48:07
  Speaker 1: I like this. I like this. I like this too.
• 48:09
  Speaker 1: It's productive. But she needs to stick with it. She
• 48:11
  Speaker 1: has this recurring thing of staying with it for a
• 48:14
  Speaker 1: couple of months, going right back to it. That's a
• 48:16
  Speaker 1: good point. That's a good point. I brought up that
• 48:18
  Speaker 1: over our six years, we have visited them nearly once
• 48:21
  Speaker 1: a month, while they have been to our house only
• 48:24
  Speaker 1: eight times. This is good.
• 48:25
  Speaker 2: This is progressive. I'm glad he's doing it before he
• 48:28
  Speaker 2: blows up.
• 48:29
  Speaker 1: I mean, he's used to blowing up, but he's blowing
• 48:31
  Speaker 1: up like after so many things happened. So this is good.
• 48:33
  Speaker 1: You're actually having full-on discussions on how you feel, and
• 48:36
  Speaker 1: your wife's listening. No one preps you for this, and
• 48:39
  Speaker 1: this is what she's been used to for her entire life.
• 48:41
  Speaker 1: So she's getting used to it, but you need to
• 48:43
  Speaker 1: really shake her and open her eyes and see, like,
• 48:46
  Speaker 1: this is not okay. And I think she's getting it now.
• 48:48
  Speaker 2: Yes.
• 48:49
  Speaker 1: Thank goodness.
• 48:50
  Speaker 5: Okay.
• 48:51
  Speaker 1: There's a little bit left. We're going to go ahead
• 48:52
  Speaker 1: and finish this up. Yay! Hopefully your wife sticks to
• 48:56
  Speaker 1: the plan. Woo! Stick to the plan. To do it
• 48:59
  Speaker 1: for her, to do it for you, but to do
• 49:01
  Speaker 1: it for your daughter. Honestly. Opie continues with, I reminded
• 49:05
  Speaker 1: her that when her mother came down for the birth
• 49:07
  Speaker 1: of our daughter and said she was staying a week,
• 49:09
  Speaker 1: she left four days early citing homesickness. Yet, she holds
• 49:13
  Speaker 1: us to a standard of visiting for more than three
• 49:15
  Speaker 1: days at a time even though she's retired with no
• 49:18
  Speaker 1: young children while we have a three month old and
• 49:20
  Speaker 1: I work full time and I also go to school.
• 49:24
  Speaker 1: My wife understands there's nothing positive to gain from continuing
• 49:27
  Speaker 1: to speak to her mother right now and is just
• 49:29
  Speaker 1: trying to figure out how to tell her sister she
• 49:31
  Speaker 1: won't be attending the next family gathering. I suggested inviting
• 49:35
  Speaker 1: just her sister down so we can celebrate her birthday
• 49:37
  Speaker 1: with her cake and all so she doesn't have to
• 49:40
  Speaker 1: give up celebrating with her sister, and we don't have
• 49:42
  Speaker 1: to give up the health of our daughter and our
• 49:44
  Speaker 1: own mental health. Golly, that was exhausting. It was. Hopefully
• 49:48
  Speaker 1: you guys turn it around. Hopefully everything's all right. Turn around.
• 49:52
  Speaker 1: Every now and then I fall apart.
• 49:55
  Speaker 3: And I need you more and more.
• 49:58
  Speaker 1: And that's the end of this story. We're good to
• 50:00
  Speaker 1: go on to the next one. Hey, Keon here. We're
• 50:03
  Speaker 1: going to get back to the stories, but here's three
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• 50:07
  Speaker 2: My husband got defensive over a package, so I went digging.
• 50:11
  Speaker 1: What's in the box?
• 50:13
  Speaker 2: I need an outside perspective because I genuinely can't tell
• 50:16
  Speaker 2: anymore if my instincts are off or if I'm being
• 50:19
  Speaker 2: gaslit into thinking they are. A package arrived at our
• 50:22
  Speaker 2: house recently. Right address, wrong name. A woman I've never
• 50:26
  Speaker 2: heard of. I looked up the return address out of curiosity.
• 50:30
  Speaker 2: It's Adam and Eve.
• 50:31
  Speaker 1: Uh-oh. An adult toy company. Uh-oh.
• 50:34
  Speaker 2: I brought it into my husband calmly. No accusations, no yelling.
• 50:38
  Speaker 2: Just showed him and asked him if he knew anything
• 50:40
  Speaker 2: about it. His response was immediate and defensive. Instead of
• 50:44
  Speaker 2: being confused or trying to figure it out with me,
• 50:46
  Speaker 2: he turned it on me. Started questioning me about why
• 50:49
  Speaker 2: something like that would show up here. I was so
• 50:52
  Speaker 2: caught off guard, I almost started apologizing.
• 50:55
  Speaker 1: What's in the box? Is it a thing for him?
• 50:58
  Speaker 1: Or is it a thing for you? Or is it
• 50:59
  Speaker 1: a thing for thou?
• 51:01
  Speaker 2: Here's where it gets harder to dismiss as a coincidence.
• 51:05
  Speaker 2: I looked up the name on the package. She works
• 51:07
  Speaker 2: in the same professional world as my husband. In the
• 51:09
  Speaker 2: same area he frequents. Same field. Specific enough that I
• 51:14
  Speaker 2: went to see it. My stomach dropped.
• 51:17
  Speaker 4: Oh no.
• 51:18
  Speaker 1: It wasn't for you. It was for somebody else. Not
• 51:22
  Speaker 1: your husband.
• 51:23
  Speaker 2: He has a history of being dishonest when confronted about
• 51:27
  Speaker 2: things that are hurtful. This wasn't the first time I
• 51:30
  Speaker 2: felt like I was being made to feel crazy for
• 51:32
  Speaker 2: asking a reasonable question. By the way, this comes from FairMood1558.
• 51:36
  Speaker 2: And if you want to send me your own stories,
• 51:38
  Speaker 2: go to the rslicerokstories.com subreddit.
• 51:39
  Speaker 1: I'm Riley. I'm Keon. You do that so fast. Thank you.
• 51:42
  Speaker 2: If you guys have anything else you'd like to add,
• 51:43
  Speaker 2: please add it down below. So I'm asking strangers on
• 51:46
  Speaker 2: the internet, is this nothing? Is there some totally logical
• 51:50
  Speaker 2: explanation I'm missing? Because from where I'm standing... It feels
• 51:54
  Speaker 2: like a lot of dots are connecting in one direction.
• 51:57
  Speaker 2: Am I overreacting? I love the comments.
• 51:59
  Speaker 1: Comment number one.
• 52:00
  Speaker 2: You're not overreacting. Your cheating moron of a husband ordered
• 52:04
  Speaker 2: adult items for him and his girlfriend and auto-filled his
• 52:07
  Speaker 2: own address. Mail them to her. Say, these were delivered
• 52:11
  Speaker 2: to mine and my husband's home and see what happens
• 52:13
  Speaker 2: after that. Hope he says, I like your thought. Maybe
• 52:16
  Speaker 2: I'll take it to her at work and give it
• 52:18
  Speaker 2: to her. I'm considering sending her an email. Due to
• 52:21
  Speaker 2: her field of the info is public.
• 52:23
  Speaker 1: I want to know what's in the box.
• 52:26
  Speaker 2: I'm pissed at him for his choices. I decay what
• 52:28
  Speaker 2: she knows or what he told her. I don't want
• 52:31
  Speaker 2: to ruin her life, but I want to know how
• 52:33
  Speaker 2: long it's been going on. I feel like we need
• 52:34
  Speaker 2: more evidence before we just like start blazing through this.
• 52:38
  Speaker 1: Well, it's hard when the evidence has been repeated before
• 52:41
  Speaker 1: with your husband. You know, your husband has a past
• 52:44
  Speaker 1: of doing stuff like this or being a little shady. Um, one. Two,
• 52:49
  Speaker 1: if you guys don't, if your husband hasn't brought it
• 52:51
  Speaker 1: up to you and he got defensive, he's hiding something. Yeah.
• 52:54
  Speaker 1: He could have played us off so, so well by
• 52:57
  Speaker 1: being like, that's for us. That's for you and me. Like,
• 53:01
  Speaker 1: I wanted to surprise you with something new.
• 53:03
  Speaker 4: I agree.
• 53:03
  Speaker 6: I agree.
• 53:04
  Speaker 1: That's a good point. So. I don't know.
• 53:06
  Speaker 2: I'm just maybe talk to her in private instead of
• 53:09
  Speaker 2: like going all crazy, crazy, crazy.
• 53:11
  Speaker 1: I mean, yeah. If you want to really find out
• 53:13
  Speaker 1: the truth, the best way is not to be discreet
• 53:17
  Speaker 1: about it. Not like go like head on amazingly, like aggressively,
• 53:21
  Speaker 1: not amazingly, aggressively. And then your husband's going to find out.
• 53:25
  Speaker 2: Commenter two, is he messaging anyone that you know of?
• 53:28
  Speaker 2: Does he spend lots of time on his phone? Hope
• 53:30
  Speaker 2: he says nothing I can find. I believe he may
• 53:33
  Speaker 2: have a burner phone because I get ads on my
• 53:35
  Speaker 2: social media all the time from a carrier that is
• 53:38
  Speaker 2: not ours. I've searched a bit, but he's typically home
• 53:41
  Speaker 2: when I am.
• 53:42
  Speaker 1: Oh. I don't know if that has anything to do
• 53:43
  Speaker 1: with it.
• 53:44
  Speaker 6: Maybe.
• 53:44
  Speaker 1: I don't know. Carrier that's not, what? Why would you
• 53:48
  Speaker 1: be getting messages from another carrier, though? Is it under
• 53:50
  Speaker 1: your email or his email? It is under social media. Oh.
• 53:54
  Speaker 1: Social media is different. If it's emails, it's different. Their
• 53:56
  Speaker 1: ad campaigns are very different. Keon, it's a spicy toy.
• 53:58
  Speaker 1: I know it's a spicy toy. I want to know
• 54:00
  Speaker 1: what kind of spicy toy. Comment three.
• 54:02
  Speaker 2: Why don't you let him gaslight you? The woman works
• 54:05
  Speaker 2: with him. How is this just a coincidence? Your choice
• 54:08
  Speaker 2: on what to do. Be treated like this or move on.
• 54:11
  Speaker 2: He says they don't really work together. They're in a
• 54:13
  Speaker 2: similar field and he frequents the area she works. Commenter
• 54:17
  Speaker 2: four says, not overreacting if he immediately gets defensive and
• 54:20
  Speaker 2: has a history of being dishonest. Does she work or
• 54:23
  Speaker 2: live in a town he travels to? He said it's
• 54:25
  Speaker 2: about 30 to 40 minutes away from where we live.
• 54:28
  Speaker 2: Commenter five, not overreacting. Do you want a divorce? Do
• 54:32
  Speaker 2: you need proof of infidelity then? So maybe you want
• 54:35
  Speaker 2: to gather data in that case before confronting the other woman.
• 54:38
  Speaker 1: I agree with that. Yeah.
• 54:40
  Speaker 2: Do you want to address any infidelity and see if
• 54:43
  Speaker 2: you can forgive him? That would need a different response.
• 54:46
  Speaker 2: Or are you just mad at him for gaslighting you
• 54:49
  Speaker 2: and you want to vent? That's fine too.
• 54:51
  Speaker 1: Or is she just upset that he didn't get her
• 54:53
  Speaker 1: a gift? Just think before you react. I wanted that toy.
• 54:56
  Speaker 7: I wanted that toy. That looks fun. Obi says, these
• 54:59
  Speaker 7: are all great questions. Cheating is a deal breaker. If
• 55:03
  Speaker 7: he chooses to cheat, he can do it all he wants.
• 55:06
  Speaker 7: But I'm not going to stick around.
• 55:07
  Speaker 1: Pause. If that's a deal breaker and he has a
• 55:10
  Speaker 1: history of being dishonest, why haven't we just broke up
• 55:13
  Speaker 1: with him already?
• 55:15
  Speaker 6: Yeah.
• 55:16
  Speaker 1: If that's your rule, why aren't you following your rule?
• 55:19
  Speaker 2: That's a good point. Number six, it could be a setup.
• 55:22
  Speaker 2: Someone trying to drive a wedge or cause problems in
• 55:24
  Speaker 2: your lives. He says, I don't know who would do that.
• 55:27
  Speaker 2: My husband's ex, he cheated on her. He cheated on her? Bro,
• 55:31
  Speaker 2: that's good context to know. They've been divorced for many
• 55:34
  Speaker 2: years and she lives across the country. She doesn't even
• 55:36
  Speaker 2: know where we live. Number seven, how long have you
• 55:38
  Speaker 2: lived at your address? Is it possible that someone forgot
• 55:41
  Speaker 2: to update their address on that website? Upi says, we've
• 55:45
  Speaker 2: been here several years. If it has been going on
• 55:47
  Speaker 2: a while, people make stupid mistakes.
• 55:49
  Speaker 1: Yeah, like cheating on you. Pretty dumb. Honestly.
• 55:52
  Speaker 2: Commenter A, not overreacting. I guess he wouldn't mind at
• 55:56
  Speaker 2: all if you threw it away then. It's a shame
• 55:58
  Speaker 2: since adult toys can be pretty expensive, but surely it's
• 56:01
  Speaker 2: not for anyone in the house.
• 56:02
  Speaker 1: So into the trash it goes. Opie says, I can
• 56:05
  Speaker 1: no longer find the package. Yeah, this guy went literally like,
• 56:08
  Speaker 1: this is garbage. Who would, this is a mistake. Throw
• 56:12
  Speaker 1: it away. I got home from work and it's gone.
• 56:15
  Speaker 1: I can't ask for it now, can I? Can we
• 56:17
  Speaker 1: check to be like, hey, could I just see your,
• 56:22
  Speaker 1: you know, like receipts or like your emails, like confirmation
• 56:25
  Speaker 1: emails and stuff? Can you check his stuff?
• 56:28
  Speaker 2: That's a great idea, but he has multiple accounts and
• 56:30
  Speaker 2: I don't have access to all of them. I've also
• 56:32
  Speaker 2: asked to sit down to go through financials and he says, okay,
• 56:36
  Speaker 2: but it never happens. Someone says it's a Darvo attack.
• 56:39
  Speaker 2: When I looked up the sender's address, I was met with,
• 56:42
  Speaker 2: why would I send that here if I was going
• 56:45
  Speaker 2: to do that?
• 56:46
  Speaker 1: Total Darvo.
• 56:47
  Speaker 2: He tried so hard to show it wasn't him by
• 56:50
  Speaker 2: reaching out to customer support. The chat bot provided nothing.
• 56:53
  Speaker 2: I pretended to believe him, and I am pretending nothing
• 56:56
  Speaker 2: is wrong for now. I want to get more evidence
• 56:58
  Speaker 2: that he can't gaslight his way out of. We have
• 57:00
  Speaker 2: an update.
• 57:00
  Speaker 1: He was probably telling the chatbot, uh, hey, my wife,
• 57:05
  Speaker 1: I'm cheating on my wife. How do I lie to her?
• 57:07
  Speaker 1: Just lie to her for me and just say, I
• 57:09
  Speaker 1: received a package that I didn't want. What do I
• 57:12
  Speaker 1: do with it? Oh, it's yours. Do whatever you want
• 57:14
  Speaker 1: with it. See, honey? It says it's not mine. I
• 57:16
  Speaker 1: don't have to deal with it. Dude, yikes. This is OP.
• 57:19
  Speaker 1: I don't know. Do you really need the concrete evidence,
• 57:22
  Speaker 1: especially the way he handles everything?
• 57:24
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 57:25
  Speaker 1: How hot is this guy?
• 57:26
  Speaker 2: I think you do because you're married. If it was
• 57:28
  Speaker 2: a boyfriend, you don't. But since you're married, there's a
• 57:32
  Speaker 2: lot more complications that go into it. So let's check
• 57:35
  Speaker 2: it out before we execute on it.
• 57:37
  Speaker 3: Okay. Update.
• 57:39
  Speaker 2: Four days later, as it turns out, I put two
• 57:43
  Speaker 2: and two together and I was wrong. I had a
• 57:45
  Speaker 2: burner email and reached out to her.
• 57:48
  Speaker 1: I had receipts.
• 57:49
  Speaker 2: Metaphorically, she emailed me back. She's been staying at her
• 57:53
  Speaker 2: mom's house down the street and fat fingered the address.
• 57:58
  Speaker 2: It was one number off. She lives down the street
• 58:00
  Speaker 2: from you?
• 58:00
  Speaker 1: That's... What? What?
• 58:02
  Speaker 2: I don't... Dude, I don't know if I believe this.
• 58:04
  Speaker 2: The package was for her and her husband that they're reconciling.
• 58:07
  Speaker 2: I had essentially asked an innocent woman if she was
• 58:10
  Speaker 2: sleeping with my husband via a carefully crafted email from
• 58:14
  Speaker 2: a secret account while she was out here just trying
• 58:17
  Speaker 2: to spice things up with her spouse.
• 58:19
  Speaker 1: She apologized. I told her it wasn't necessary. I apologized.
• 58:23
  Speaker 2: I have invited her for coffee because I clearly have
• 58:26
  Speaker 2: no survival instincts. My husband was defensive just because that's
• 58:30
  Speaker 2: who he is, which is its own fun problem.
• 58:33
  Speaker 1: So am I overreacting? Technically, yes.
• 58:36
  Speaker 2: But A to Z, our marriage needs work. So maybe
• 58:39
  Speaker 2: a stranger's typo was the universe's way of handling me.
• 58:43
  Speaker 2: A wake up call wrapped in a very awkward package.
• 58:46
  Speaker 1: Literally.
• 58:47
  Speaker 6: What?
• 58:48
  Speaker 1: Believe what you want to believe.
• 58:49
  Speaker 2: I mean, that's one hell of a lie if it
• 58:51
  Speaker 2: is one. Um, lives down the street from you?
• 58:53
  Speaker 1: I don't know. Why did your husband get so defensive
• 58:56
  Speaker 1: about the package then? It's just the way he is.
• 58:59
  Speaker 1: That makes zero sense. This is weird. I would be like, okay,
• 59:03
  Speaker 1: let's say the package doesn't have anyone's name on it.
• 59:08
  Speaker 1: It's from website, whatever. But it's to your address. You
• 59:11
  Speaker 1: both go, I didn't order this. I didn't order this.
• 59:14
  Speaker 1: I would, I don't know, show my partner proof that
• 59:17
  Speaker 1: I had no receipts of ordering this. But then, what? Oh, man.
• 59:22
  Speaker 1: Believe what you want to believe.
• 59:23
  Speaker 2: Yeah, honestly.
• 59:25
  Speaker 1: And that's the end of this story.