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46. 5 Retreat Reflections with Business Owners + Corporate Leaders · WOC and Allies: Business and Career Realtalk with Elaine Lou Cartas

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  SPEAKER_00: Legacy leaders, my heart is so full.
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  SPEAKER_00: I just finished doing the most incredible best retreat I've ever held, or I should say co-create because it wasn't just me, it was my retreat manager, my team, my clients.
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  SPEAKER_00: It was just the most magical experience that I've had.
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  SPEAKER_00: I know I say this after every single retreat, but I just feel like with each iteration, I just also grow.
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  SPEAKER_00: So in this episode, I'm sharing my five retreat reflections after being in two glorious days with seasoned business owners and corporate executives.
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  SPEAKER_00: And let me tell you the diversity of what they all do.
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  SPEAKER_00: One is the number one real estate agent for her area.
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  SPEAKER_00: I have another client that attended, a Fortune 500 founder, another client who's a yoga meditation teacher who's writing a book.
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  SPEAKER_00: We had a sold out retreat.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's actually double than what we usually receive.
• 1:10
  SPEAKER_00: And I just, gosh, it was just incredible.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I know you couldn't be there, but in this episode, I want to share some takeaways, reflections, and strategies that occurred when I was with these powerhouse women.
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  SPEAKER_00: So if you're an established leader or corporate executive who values conscious conversations, holistic leadership, and wants to lead a life led by fulfillment and self-trust, well, then let's drop the beat.
• 2:11
  SPEAKER_00: Because our ancestors sacrificed so much so we can have this life of choice.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, grab your coffee, tea, andor boba, and let's call your dreams to create your legacy.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yes, I'm gonna continue to brag about them.
• 2:36
  SPEAKER_00: Don't worry, I'm gonna share with you my five retreat reflections where you're going to get action items and strategies.
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  SPEAKER_00: But my intention also, it's it's fascinating because the unfortunate thing in the past three years since I've recorded, I'm recording this 2023, April 30th, pandemic started in 2020, three years of isolation and the importance of community.
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  SPEAKER_00: And let me tell like let me just share with you some of the individuals that were in this room, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: We have a contemporary Muslim artist who's building out a Muslim woman's retreat center in DC.
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  SPEAKER_00: She's already working on getting a$250,000 grant.
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  SPEAKER_00: In fact, she just turned an application.
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  SPEAKER_00: Another client who helps provide jobs to highly functional autistic adults into the workplace.
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  SPEAKER_00: She has a team of about 20, and she's outgrowing her office space right now to look for a new location.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I have another client who actually is an old college friend who got a PhD at MIT and now helps female surfboarders from the boardroom to surfing.
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  SPEAKER_00: And at this time, I think she's heading to Ecuador right now to get more surf lessons.
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  SPEAKER_00: But beyond these work identities are women who are daughters, sisters, mothers, and grandmothers.
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  SPEAKER_00: And beyond their work and familial roles, they are human beings.
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  SPEAKER_00: So let's get to it.
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  SPEAKER_00: The first takeaway, I kind of hinted it a couple minutes ago, is the importance of connection and community versus being in isolation.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's crazy.
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  SPEAKER_00: I mean, with my clients, since I've been in business for the past six years, so often they always say, Am I the only one that's thinking this?
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  SPEAKER_00: Am I crazy?
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  SPEAKER_00: I even go through that too, by the way.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's not just my clients, but me as well.
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  SPEAKER_00: And even the homework I did, well, the homework I made my clients do prior to the retreat.
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  SPEAKER_00: I always have my clients do homework.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I'm really intentional about the retreat that I'm posting for them.
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  SPEAKER_00: The number one thing people wanted was being in community and connection.
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  SPEAKER_00: Right.
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  SPEAKER_00: There's like these thoughts in our head where we're the only ones that were going through it, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: The challenges that we go through, not just in our career, but even in our personal lives.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm not a mother yet.
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  SPEAKER_00: But it was even so inspiring to be in a room where I had a couple mothers there.
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  SPEAKER_00: One of them has two kids under the age of five and was sharing vulnerably how challenging it is to balance having an incredible career while being there, sharing the pain of hearing her daughter knock on the door at 8 a.m., but can't be there because she's at a meeting.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it was amazing seeing other mothers who have kids who are older, when I mean kids that are older, like 18 or in their 20s, providing that support, letting the younger mom know, hey, I've been there.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is normal.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is what we've done.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that community.
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  SPEAKER_00: I mean, I even think about when we were younger, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Remember back in the day when we were in school and how we were going through things, especially in high school, going through the hormonal changes and how it was nice being with other friends and sharing those challenges with them, sharing our challenges when you start dating, going through heartbreak, going through family issues or problems when we are younger.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then we get older.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then I mean, this was not meant to happen or planned out.
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  SPEAKER_00: Then the pandemic happens, and then everything's in isolation.
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  SPEAKER_00: We're in front of our computer screens, numbing ourselves out, looking at memes or videos.
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  SPEAKER_00: Well, that's what I do.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm just being honest.
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  SPEAKER_00: When the reality is that we could help each other out by connecting with one another.
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  SPEAKER_00: And just in case you need a science behind it, Stanford did a study that shows social connections actually help increase longevity by 50%, strengthens immune systems, and lowers anxiety and depression.
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  SPEAKER_00: So what am I trying to tell you?
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  SPEAKER_00: Yes, go have friends, go connect with other people, but not just in a sense of connecting with other people for your career.
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  SPEAKER_00: But you know, I have a client, for example, who does social media and also co-owns a restaurant, and she's part of a local Los Angeles hiking group.
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  SPEAKER_00: The hiking group has nothing to do with a career, but it allows her to connect with other people and share challenges of just being a human.
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  SPEAKER_00: So my action for you is what can you do to connect?
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm not saying you have to be part of a group and be married to that group and go out with that group once a week for the rest of your life, but what can you try?
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe one of my clients, for example, joined this workshop where she would just crash plates and she did it three times in a row.
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  SPEAKER_00: So that was something that she joined.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, what is a community that you could join?
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  SPEAKER_00: Just try.
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  SPEAKER_00: The second big takeaway with these powerhouse women was the most important relationship is the one you have with yourself.
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  SPEAKER_00: I've shared this quote before, but at every new level, there's a new devil, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: When we're becoming more aligned to who we want to be next, there tends to be blocks or challenges.
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  SPEAKER_00: So be honest with yourself.
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  SPEAKER_00: Is there something you still need to heal?
• 8:15
  SPEAKER_00: This happened last year.
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  SPEAKER_00: I knew something needed to shift in my own business.
• 8:20
  SPEAKER_00: So I went back to going to EMDR therapy.
• 8:23
  SPEAKER_00: And if you want to learn more about EMDR therapy, you could listen to actually my 25th episode where I talk about the difference between coaching and therapy.
• 8:32
  SPEAKER_00: And I talk about EMDR therapy there.
• 8:34
  SPEAKER_00: But EMDR just has changed my life, really getting to the root of my trauma.
• 8:40
  SPEAKER_00: I've been doing EMDR, I want to say for the actually since I started my business for the past six years, and then I went deep dive last year.
• 8:47
  SPEAKER_00: And I will say the most important thing when it comes to finding a therapist is finding the right therapist for you.
• 8:55
  SPEAKER_00: I've met so many people who have stopped, unfortunately, going to therapy because they didn't have the best experience.
• 9:00
  SPEAKER_00: But just know there's always a light and shadow side for every industry, right?
• 9:04
  SPEAKER_00: There's great coaches, there's bad coaches, there's great lawyers, there's bad lawyers, there's great therapists, there's bad therapists.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it's also like dating.
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  SPEAKER_00: Find the right person for you.
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  SPEAKER_00: And within having that relationship with yourself is what are you doing to take care of yourself?
• 9:23
  SPEAKER_00: There's an incredible book, Restless Resistance by Trisha Hersey.
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  SPEAKER_00: I hope I pronounced her name last name correctly.
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  SPEAKER_00: And if I didn't, I apologize.
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  SPEAKER_00: And there's a quote that she wrote in her book, and I'll read it to you right now.
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  SPEAKER_00: Loving ourselves and each other deepens our disruption of the dominant systems.
• 9:46
  SPEAKER_00: They want us unwell, fearful, exhausted, and without deep self-love, because you are easier to manipulate when you are distracted by what is not real or true.
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  SPEAKER_00: What I took away from it is when we're in this hamster wheel of doing, doing, doing, working, and not just working, but going through the hamster wheel of like, okay, I need to wake up, drop off my kids, go to work, okay, soccer practice, I need to cook dinner, then going over and over it.
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  SPEAKER_00: We never get a time to breathe and ask ourselves, is this working or is this not?
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  SPEAKER_00: Do we need to always just buy the quick remedy of fast food when we know that it is not healthy for our bodies, but it's easy because we just don't have the time and we're too exhausted.
• 10:42
  SPEAKER_00: And there is a power to rest because we get to question things, right?
• 10:49
  SPEAKER_00: The reason why a lot of my clients come to work with me is because they realize they have an identity crisis in their career and business.
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  SPEAKER_00: They realize that they've been working or doing their career business in for the same fashion for years and realize this is just not working.
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  SPEAKER_00: It is not fulfilling.
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  SPEAKER_00: I've looked, I do not trust myself on what the next step is.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you just pause and rest, you get to unwind and look through all that trash and realize, okay, what is important to me and how can I start trusting myself?
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  SPEAKER_00: So, how can you rest?
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  SPEAKER_00: And within this most important relationship with you is what is what are you doing in your own time and energy?
• 11:34
  SPEAKER_00: What is your energetic cadence?
• 11:36
  SPEAKER_00: What are you doing with time and energy management?
• 11:39
  SPEAKER_00: I deep dive this in episode five of the Color Dreams podcast, but I want to suggest doing an energy audit of what's training you, what can you delete, decrease, delegate, or delay?
• 11:52
  SPEAKER_00: How can you create themes in your days?
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  SPEAKER_00: So, for example, on Mondays are my CEO days.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's when I look at what I'm doing for the rest of the week, making sure I'm planning out my workouts and rest, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Looking at my numbers, looking at my profit margins, looking at my PL reports, looking at my sales reports, looking even at my marketing stats.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's kind of like when we're driving and we're looking at the dashboard of our car, making sure it functions.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I'm doing the unsexy things of a business, or even if you have a full-time job.
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  SPEAKER_00: See, the thing with being successful in your career, it's doing the service or product, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: We tend to love doing that, creating the service, creating the product.
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  SPEAKER_00: But to be equally successful, we need to learn how to manage it and looking at the numbers.
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  SPEAKER_00: So those are my CEO days on Mondays, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursdays are the three days where I do client calls, meet with my team.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then on Fridays is my free Fridays.
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  SPEAKER_00: Sometimes I might want to do calls.
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  SPEAKER_00: Usually I have the days off.
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  SPEAKER_00: But in that way, it also creates boundaries for my clients where they know.
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  SPEAKER_00: I actually had a client share this.
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  SPEAKER_00: Hey, Elaine, I need to reschedule.
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  SPEAKER_00: Can we do it Monday?
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  SPEAKER_00: Oh, wait, I know you don't do calls on Mondays.
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  SPEAKER_00: So what Tuesday, Wednesday, or Thursday are you free?
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  SPEAKER_00: And this allows your team, your clients, even family members to know when you're available.
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  SPEAKER_00: I even also do my CEO days on Mondays.
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  SPEAKER_00: I do want to share personally because that's usually when my parents have their doctor appointments and I go with them to their doctor appointments.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, how can you start shifting and changing your schedule?
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  SPEAKER_00: I just want to remind you the most relationship is the one you have with yourself.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, what are you gonna one do to heal?
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  SPEAKER_00: Two, what are you gonna do to rest?
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  SPEAKER_00: Three, what are tweaks you could do in your own time and energy?
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  SPEAKER_00: So the third retreat reflection is being unattached to the results.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yes, I'm all about having and creating a plan, but plan with a margin of magic.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you get so attached to the plan, you may not know what abundance is gonna come your way.
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  SPEAKER_00: I loved what one of my clients shared at their cheat.
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  SPEAKER_00: She shared how she was just disappointed that she wasn't gonna get something, or she was disappointed that she was planning to get something and then found out she didn't get it, but then she realized, hey, that's something that she thought she was gonna get came out of nowhere.
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  SPEAKER_00: And now that same idea is gonna go back to nowhere.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I want to share a success of another client where she submitted and pitched an idea of an article to LA Times, was unattached to the result, and is a featured author for LA Times.
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  SPEAKER_00: So it's about trying things and seeing what may come out of it.
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  SPEAKER_00: I had another client this past quarter who left an incredible tech job, but it was just so toxic for her.
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  SPEAKER_00: And ever since she left, she's had these opportunities where now she's building and creating her own type of luxury travel experience that her friends are asking her to plan these like bachelorette parties in these other cities.
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  SPEAKER_00: And when it comes to being attached to the results, I said earlier how I've had the most people at this retreat than I've ever had my six years in business.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it is the least amount that I have marketed.
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  SPEAKER_00: On average, I had about six people.
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  SPEAKER_00: And literally the week before the retreat, I sold out to 13.
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  SPEAKER_00: I sent several emails and posts, but I didn't promote it as much as I used to.
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  SPEAKER_00: I remember I used to promote retreats where I was advertising it, like interviewing people, showing who made it.
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  SPEAKER_00: I just didn't have that time and energy.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I sold out, which is incredible.
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  SPEAKER_00: And because of the popularity of it, I've even been getting messages from people during the retreat from other people that couldn't make it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like, hey, what's your next retreat?
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  SPEAKER_00: And just in case you're wondering, the next retreat is Thursday, October 5th, Friday, October 6th.
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  SPEAKER_00: And you can attend by going to Elainelew.com forward slash retreat.
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• 16:40
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• 16:41
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• 17:20
  SPEAKER_00: All right, let's get to the fourth retreat reflection.
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  SPEAKER_00: The beauty and importance of diversity and backgrounds, culture, religion, and even industries and careers.
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  SPEAKER_00: I mean, I shared the diversity in what they were doing, from having an artist to yoga meditation teacher to realtor.
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  SPEAKER_00: We had Catholics, Christians, Muslim, Jewish religions there.
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  SPEAKER_00: And the different cultures, it was just incredible.
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  SPEAKER_00: It is one of the top compliments I receive about my events and retreats, about how diverse it is.
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  SPEAKER_00: And the reason why it's so healing to be in a diverse group is realizing that we're not alone in our challenges.
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  SPEAKER_00: And how we could actually support and create more success for one another.
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  SPEAKER_00: One of the exercises I had my clients do was say out loud their goals and what they need support in, which kind of gets to my fifth goal.
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  SPEAKER_00: But, anyways, going staying on track on the fourth, the fourth retreat reflection of the beauty and importance of diversity is a client just asked, I need a connection to the United Nations.
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  SPEAKER_00: She just claimed it.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then another client was like, I got a connection for you.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because there was so much diversity in the industries that they all did, they were able to support one another.
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  SPEAKER_00: I mean, I had also another client who shared her challenges where her and her sibling, they're older, and then she has other siblings that are younger that have a different experience with their parents.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then another client shared that they had a similar experience.
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  SPEAKER_00: I shared earlier in this episode how I have a couple of mothers, one who is a mother of six from the age of 22 to two, and is also a grandmother.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then another client who has two kids under the age of five, and how they were helping each other out when it came to parenting, despite having different cultures, was Latina, another one is Asian.
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  SPEAKER_00: And despite the different cultural backgrounds, we were able to support one another.
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  SPEAKER_00: It was just beautiful.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know, it was I know one of my clients was asking for connection in the United Nations, if they like the United Nations in the retreat.
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  SPEAKER_00: So the fifth retreat reflection, which I was alluding to, is the power of manifesting it by saying it out loud and sharing it with other people.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because the more you talk about it, you can't believe what happens.
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  SPEAKER_00: And here's a science behind it.
• 19:54
  SPEAKER_00: So in our brain, I don't know if you guys know this, but I was a psychology major in cognitive sciences.
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  SPEAKER_00: So understanding the brain science behind it.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I'm always fascinated with understanding the science behind things.
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  SPEAKER_00: So the science behind manifestation, there's the reticular activating system.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's a part of your brain.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's like if you notice when you're driving, you see more of your favorite car.
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  SPEAKER_00: Or maybe you don't live in a car type of city.
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe you live in a place like New York, but you notice people wearing your favorite types of shoes, you notice that.
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  SPEAKER_00: Or if I told you right now, okay, count how many things you see is white.
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  SPEAKER_00: You would start looking around and counting that your brain, when you tell it or ask it, hey, I'm looking for this or I want this, your brain will be focused on it to get that.
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  SPEAKER_00: Or you might just see it everywhere.
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  SPEAKER_00: So when you proclaim things, you never know what may come.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm not saying you're gonna say it to everybody, say it to people you trust.
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  SPEAKER_00: But like I said earlier, I had an exercise for my client to share what are their three goals and what support they need from the other women of color and allies that were in the room.
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  SPEAKER_00: And one client was asking for help because she's oh my God, she's incredible.
• 21:15
  SPEAKER_00: She, when we first started working together, she was making about 60K three years ago.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now she's bringing in 300K every year.
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  SPEAKER_00: And now she wants to open up a nonprofit for women who have encountered domestic violence.
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  SPEAKER_00: And she was asking for support.
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  SPEAKER_00: And another client used some funding for her that could help with her nonprofit.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because you never know who might have that connection, right?
• 21:40
  SPEAKER_00: You've heard the seven degrees of separation.
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  SPEAKER_00: Well, we were in a room, right, full of people from vast industries that you never know what their connections may be.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like when I think about when I first started my business almost six years ago, I started telling people how I wanted to help women of color in their careers.
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  SPEAKER_00: I didn't even post.
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  SPEAKER_00: I was just talking, having conversations.
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  SPEAKER_00: My first client was a client I met at a higher education conference because I used to work in higher ed.
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  SPEAKER_00: My second client was my middle school friend's cousin.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because I told my middle school friend what I was doing.
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  SPEAKER_00: And she was like, wait, my cousin needs you.
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  SPEAKER_00: And even now, I'm going to say it out loud to you.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm manifesting that I want 25 people at my next retreat on Thursday, October 5th and Friday, October 6th.
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  SPEAKER_00: Just because I just see the power of diversity and community and connection, learning from one another.
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  SPEAKER_00: One of the compliments I got, or actually a compliment I got from every single one of my clients, is how I was able to hold space.
• 22:45
  SPEAKER_00: Because yes, we did, I did teach them strategies in terms of time and energy management.
• 22:51
  SPEAKER_00: But we learn a lot more when we were just given the space so we could reflect, refine, and realign to be our best selves.
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  SPEAKER_00: So gonna manifest this out loud to you.
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  SPEAKER_00: So if it's you or maybe you know someone else who, if you're a business owner or corporate leader who needs support in creating a more sustainable career, business, or life, then join us.
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  SPEAKER_00: Join us by going to Elainelew.com forward slash retreat.
• 23:18
  SPEAKER_00: And since it's gonna be October, we're gonna help you reflect on the past year and create a sustainable plan for 2024.
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  SPEAKER_00: So let me quickly summarize the five retreat reflections.
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  SPEAKER_00: One, the importance of connection community.
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  SPEAKER_00: Two, the most important relationship is the one you have with yourself.
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  SPEAKER_00: I mean, if you want to be a better partner, a better parent, a better leader, you focus on that relationship with yourself, you'll see how it's going to improve relationships elsewhere, both professionally and personally.
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  SPEAKER_00: Third, be unattached to the results.
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  SPEAKER_00: Plan with a margin of magic.
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  SPEAKER_00: Fourth, the beauty and importance of diversity from backgrounds, culture, religion, and even industries and careers.
• 24:11
  SPEAKER_00: And then fifth, the power of manifesting by saying it out loud.
• 24:18
  SPEAKER_00: So y'all know I can't end a podcast episode without an action item or takeaway for you.
• 24:24
  SPEAKER_00: So I'm just going to combine both.
• 24:26
  SPEAKER_00: I want to go back to the most important relationship is the one for yourself.
• 24:30
  SPEAKER_00: So today, what can you do to honor yourself?
• 24:33
  SPEAKER_00: Like, I'll tell you what I did.
• 24:35
  SPEAKER_00: So today it's a Sunday.
• 24:37
  SPEAKER_00: I'm recording this episode.
• 24:38
  SPEAKER_00: I went to Fogo de Chow for my aunt's birthday.
• 24:41
  SPEAKER_00: Fogo de Chow is an all-you-could eat Brazilian barbecue steakhouse.
• 24:46
  SPEAKER_00: So obviously, it got really full.
• 24:49
  SPEAKER_00: And I live in the LA area.
• 24:51
  SPEAKER_00: So right after my boyfriend and I walked around the Rose Bowl because we were full, right?
• 24:57
  SPEAKER_00: We were feeling a little stuffy and we wanted to walk around.
• 25:01
  SPEAKER_00: And one of the things I love about my relationship with him is that even though, yes, we do live together, we also do our own things.
• 25:08
  SPEAKER_00: So the Rose Bowl is kind of like this one big loop.
• 25:11
  SPEAKER_00: So instead of us walking together, we actually walk in opposing ends.
• 25:15
  SPEAKER_00: I know you're like, what?
• 25:17
  SPEAKER_00: It's weird.
• 25:17
  SPEAKER_00: No, it's actually cute because we give ourselves time.
• 25:20
  SPEAKER_00: So he listens to his AirPods.
• 25:22
  SPEAKER_00: I listen to my AirPods.
• 25:23
  SPEAKER_00: We listen to whatever music and podcast episodes.
• 25:25
  SPEAKER_00: And then we eventually like bump into each other somewhere in the middle.
• 25:28
  SPEAKER_00: And it's kind of cute because he does like the little phone signal, like, hey, call me.
• 25:32
  SPEAKER_00: And then I'm like, hey, you call me.
• 25:34
  SPEAKER_00: And then like we kiss each other, and people are like, wait, did you guys see see that we are two people?
• 25:38
  SPEAKER_00: And they realize, oh wait, they're a couple.
• 25:41
  SPEAKER_00: Because usually couples walk together in this loop, but we walk separately.
• 25:45
  SPEAKER_00: And how I honor the most important relationship with myself was giving myself time to just be by myself in nature to walk around.
• 25:56
  SPEAKER_00: So what is one thing you could do to honor yourself?
• 25:59
  SPEAKER_00: Maybe if you're listening to this, you're like, you know what?
• 26:01
  SPEAKER_00: I want a nap.
• 26:02
  SPEAKER_00: Go go have that nap.
• 26:03
  SPEAKER_00: Or maybe you're like, I want some Starbucks.
• 26:05
  SPEAKER_00: Go get some Starbucks.
• 26:07
  SPEAKER_00: Or if you're like, I don't know what to do because I am so burnt out, Elaine.
• 26:12
  SPEAKER_00: Then what if you just chilled and just gave yourself five minutes to just not to think and just lay there or sit there or starfish, whatever it is.
• 26:23
  SPEAKER_00: So go honor yourself.
• 26:27
  SPEAKER_00: So if you want to join the next retreat with fellow business leaders and corporate executives on Thursday, October 5th and Friday, October 6th in Los Angeles, go to Elainelew.com forward slash retreat.
• 26:43
  SPEAKER_00: We're going to help you create a more sustainable business, career, and life.
• 26:50
  SPEAKER_00: Oh, and did I share?
• 26:52
  SPEAKER_00: We also do sound bowl healing with Reiki and yoga and meditation.
• 26:56
  SPEAKER_00: This is a holistic retreat.
• 26:59
  SPEAKER_00: And because I'm Filipino, you are going to be fed.
• 27:03
  SPEAKER_00: So don't worry.
• 27:04
  SPEAKER_00: We got you.
• 27:06
  SPEAKER_00: And if you're like Elaine, I can't wait until October.
• 27:09
  SPEAKER_00: I need help with my business or career in life right now.
• 27:14
  SPEAKER_00: Well then schedule a call with me to see if it's a good fit to work together.
• 27:19
  SPEAKER_00: You could schedule a 30-minute legacy business and career review call where you will receive three action items towards your business or company.
• 27:30
  SPEAKER_00: So go to elanelew.com forward slash call.
• 27:35
  SPEAKER_00: If it's a great fit to work together by the end of the call, great.
• 27:38
  SPEAKER_00: We could talk about how it looks like to work together.
• 27:41
  SPEAKER_00: And if it's not a great fit, great.
• 27:43
  SPEAKER_00: I can refer you to other people and resources.
• 27:45
  SPEAKER_00: So go to elanelew.com forward slash call to schedule a call now.
• 27:53
  SPEAKER_00: Legacy maker, if you love this call your dreams episode, we would love it if you can leave a rating and review on Apple.
• 28:03
  SPEAKER_00: So more women of color and allies can benefit too.
• 28:08
  SPEAKER_00: And if you have one or two friends that would get so much from this particular episode, please share.
• 28:15
  SPEAKER_00: The intention behind the Color Your Dreams podcast was to contribute and give back to our people.
• 28:22
  SPEAKER_00: All right.