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EP21- Life Skills Middle-Aged Style · Oh And One More Thing

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Some old friends facing our fears, laughing through the
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chaos and drinking some beers. So here's to the laughs, the
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crumbs and the cheers. All the awkward moments and
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we're still here 'cause in the end, we're just doing our thing.
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It's our crazy life. 01 more thing.
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One more thing. Welcome to Oh and one more
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thing, a podcast where 2 long time friends try to figure out
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what the heck is going on with this crazy thing called middle
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age. It's a mix of stories of how we
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navigate our lives and maybe some questionable advice.
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Some days we're wise, other days we're just trying to remember
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where the heck we left our phone.
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So join us as we laugh, groan, and maybe even learn a little
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something about surviving in the second-half of life.
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Oh, and one more thing. Hey, I'm Rob, welcome to one
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more. Thing.
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Hey everybody, I'm Brian. What is happening today,
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brother? It is a gorgeous fall day.
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Yeah, weather's getting a little crisp.
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Leaves are changing. Leaves are changing.
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I love it. Gorgeous out there gorgeous.
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How was how was your day today that.
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Was good. Yeah, a slow day at work, but it
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was OK. That's OK.
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That's OK once in a while. Did some laundry.
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Yeah, yeah. Made good.
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Made dinner tonight. Nice, what'd you make?
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We made a citrus chicken cutlet salad.
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It's amazing. That sounds wonderful.
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Is good. Not nearly as good as my dinner.
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No. What was your dinner?
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Well. My wife's out of town, yeah, so
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I had the classic Spaghettios. No, the peanut butter sandwich.
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That's so gross. Awesome.
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Not the peanut butter, the Spaghettios.
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Do you know which protein is in that?
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Yeah, I don't care because it's just gross.
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Not, not so good. I can't believe it's almost
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middish October. Crazy, right?
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Where has it gone? I know, yeah.
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Did you know that tomorrow is my wedding anniversary?
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I. Did know that?
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Yeah, do you know how many years?
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I don't know that. 30. 8 get out.
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Yeah, really. 3838 years. My God, that's forever.
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Don't you have a wedding anniversary coming up too?
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I. Do yes, it is.
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Well, I I do know this. It's 10 years.
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OK, good. So I'm very excited about that.
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Ask me what the day is. What's the day?
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I don't remember. Yeah, you do too.
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It's the week after mine it. Is week after years I'm I'm
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pretty sure it's October 17th. That would be correct.
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See Why Do you know that's on my calendar?
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OK, honey, if you're listening to this, just ignore this like
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10 seconds. Yes, Yeah, it is.
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The 17th is 10 years. We're super excited.
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I think we might try and do something special for our 10
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year anniversary. That's good.
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Might try and do some family pictures again, 'cause we got a
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whole bunch of family pictures at our wedding 10 years ago
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without me. We'd try and recreate that.
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Well, that'd be great the. Problem is all the kids are
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growing up now, so getting them all in one place is a challenge.
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So. They'll do it for you.
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Yeah, we'll figure it out. But yeah.
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Yeah. But 30-8 years, that's awesome.
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I mean, I think you guys are finally figured out the secret,
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right? Yeah, of course we did.
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Yeah, she's always right. And when she's wrong, she's
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still right. Rob, you're gonna get hit us in
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trouble. OK again honey that ignore the
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last 30 seconds of the. Podcast, go on with you like.
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So do you remember a couple of weeks ago we did a podcast.
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We were talking about the English language.
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Yeah, I remember. And towards the end, we talked
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about discussing the the current slang by today's youth.
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Yep. And it's funny.
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So on the radio this morning on my way to work, they're talking
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about the exact same thing. Really.
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I couldn't believe how timely we are.
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We are. Totally in in the know.
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We are totally on topic, right? Cool.
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Until I listen to what they're talking about.
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Oh, what? Are.
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They saying so you remember they're talking about, you know,
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Riz and no Cap and yeah. Then I heard.
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Standing on Business Today, I'm like, what's that one?
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Standing on business. That's apparently a term.
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I I don't know what that is. But here's the deal, they're all
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already outdated. So.
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So us last week thinking, Oh yeah, we're still on top of it.
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Yeah, last time we brought it up there already out of the
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lexicon. Ohh, wow.
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See, And then there's us. So.
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Bra is not a thing in bra. I'm sure I still hear Bra, but
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like, like, seriously, we use dude for like 10 years.
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Yeah, yeah, these last a week. Well, I think you just heard me
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say, cool, Yeah. So you know, I'm stuck in the
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80s. Absolutely.
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Absolutely. But today we're going to talk
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about life. Skills.
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Oh, life skills. I need some.
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Right, so specifically life skills that every man should
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have by the time they are middle-aged.
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Oh no, that's us. This sounds like something I'm
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not going to be able to measure up to.
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Oh, you'll be fine. OK, I'll give it a try.
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All right, Ready. Don't worry too much.
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I'm not going to judge you. Like, oh, I know you're going to
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be judging me. Not all the.
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Time, but yes, I, I will not. But seriously, it's it's things
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you should already know, or at least kind of know by now.
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Well, we'll soon find out, won't we?
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All right, here we go. OK wait, I just read this on
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Facebook today and I want to read it to you.
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OK, so perks of reaching old age.
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Oh, so I thought this was pretty funny.
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Right back up. I thought this was middle age.
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I'm sorry, perks of reaching middle age.
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There you go. #1 Yep, kidnappers are not very interested in you.
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It's. So true.
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They get careless about us. #2 In a hostage hostage situation,
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you're likely to be the first one to be released.
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Right. He can't run very fast anymore.
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Get rid of him. Right, he's old #3 no one
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expects you to run anywhere. Ever.
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True. True.
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Number four, people call it eight, 8:00 PM and ask did I
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wake you? That is true. #5 people no
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longer view you as hypochondriac.
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Everything is wrong. Everything is wrong.
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You know the first thing you talk about a coffee is.
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So what's wrong with you today, right?
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Exactly. Yeah, there were six.
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There's nothing left to learn the hard way.
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We've learned it all. We've learned it all.
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Well, we hope. We hope we have.
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Yeah #7 things you buy now won't wear out.
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True. OK. #8 You can eat supper at
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4:30. Yes you can.
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I love eating at 4:30. And get a discount.
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I put mostly right. It's happy hour somewhere. #9
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you can live without sex, but not your glasses.
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That's yeah, that's that's not true.
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And #10 your your supply of brain cells is finally down to a
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manageable size. I do agree with.
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So that's kind of like reaching middle age.
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Well, that's funny. So middle age is not just about
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creaky knees and reading. Creaky knees and reading.
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Classes. That's right.
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It's about finally knowing a few things every guy should have
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figured out by now. So here is a list of a few
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essential skills. Cool, let's go.
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All right #1 negotiation. Or more like the art of
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negotiation. OK, right.
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So the art of negotiation isn't about winning every battle.
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It's about finding common ground, reading the room, and
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walking away with respect still intact.
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OK. So that's like an appropriate
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definition, right? But do you really leave the room
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intact? Oh God no.
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No, God no. We're in the middle of at work,
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We're expanding our, our, our space and we're in the middle of
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a lease and negotiation. And it's, it's just that whole
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process is awkward. Like when you buy a house or buy
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a car. Yeah, that whole process, I
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just, I hate it. It drives me.
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I'm so nervous all the time. Yeah, crazy.
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I I don't know. I don't negotiate.
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Well, right. My wife though, yeah, she's
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amazing at negotiation. Right.
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I think women in general are better at that than we are, are
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they? I, I think, I truly believe
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that. I think.
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Well, I know in my case it is. Yeah, yeah, in my case, my wife
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used to be a realtor and she's really good at negotiating.
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Right, And it's really just about, Hey, say your, your Peace
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of Mind and say what you need, right, and then see where you go
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from there, right, right. And that's my problem with being
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in Minnesotan, Minnesota. Nice.
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I was like, I never want to say what I want.
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No, you're just very quiet and and fine.
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I'm fine. So the wrong answer, you know,
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honestly, I'll even say I'm fine when I truly I'm fine.
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Like I have no opinion. I'll say, yeah, that's good, I'm
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fine. Yeah, but it's not taken that.
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Way no, it's still the wrong answer.
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And truly, you're fine. Truly am, truly am.
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I have no issues but. It's OK #2 basic home repair.
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Oh yes, absolutely. Every man should know the basic
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home. Home repairs, how to stop a
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leak, patch a wall, fix a squeaky door.
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Because calling a handyman for every little thing isn't always
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an option. That is so true.
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That is so true. And for me, I just learned trial
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by fire. I mean, I started early and then
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had had a couple different houses early through my career.
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I had to move a bunch of time. So I was always in new houses
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and had to figure things out because I'm in a new city.
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Don't know. A lot of people just got to
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figure it out. So I just I kind of had to,
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right and kind of same thing with my business.
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When I started my business, it was just me working out of my
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house in a truck. And, well, then you were fixing
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trucks and you were doing everything.
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Fixing everything, fixing the equipment, fixing the machines.
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I didn't have anybody to turn to.
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I had to learn how to do it. Now, I'm not going to fix my
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truck. Yeah, and I don't know anything
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about vehicles, and I really don't have a desire to learn it
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right. And I got a great mechanic and I
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trust them, so it gets my work. I think cars nowadays are a
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little different though. It's basically a computer on
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wheels, right? So it's harder to do things than
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my dad's, you know, 68 olds. It just, yeah, I can change oil,
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I can change spark plugs. It's easy, right?
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But now, now it's like you've got to do 35 different things to
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do that. Well, it comes to the home
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repair though. I mean, yeah, if you knock a
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hole in the wall you can patch that no problem.
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Looks like it's never happened. I've taught myself how to be an
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electrician, how to be a plumber.
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So understanding the basics of electricity, understanding the
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basics of plumbing, that's the stuff you just need to know
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because you can do a lot of those things yourself.
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And a lot of this was before YouTube was a thing.
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Now you can YouTube everything. Oh yeah, for sure.
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And I went all this before YouTube, just had to kind of
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figure it out as you go. Yeah, and putting like IKEA
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furniture together. You can't read the actual
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directions, so you got to go find YouTube to show you how to
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do it. OK, I'm kidding.
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I. Think those are a little bit
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easier directions. There's little pictures.
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Little pictures, but they're so specific.
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Are they are all right #3 finance management?
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Yes. So everyone should know the
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basic financial management, how to budget, save and invest,
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because a strong foundation with money makes life challenges a
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lot easier to handle. OK, so do you know where your
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money is going beside Amazon? And I do, but I think a lot of
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people don't. That's that.
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Especially with my kids, you know, I watch how they spend
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their money and where they buy things and everything just goes
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on a card. Yeah, Yeah.
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And I think you brought this up in a couple of podcasts ago,
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Girl Math. Girl math.
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If you got cash in your pocket, it's basically free.
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Right, right. And I think that's true.
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Like it's very common nowadays, right?
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That's just kind of how it is. And that's probably why we're
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more in debt now than we ever have been as a country.
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What's weird though, and because my finance management has really
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come a long ways, until I got on a really true budget, I was
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terrible at finances and now stick to my budget and things
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are moving along really well. Right, right.
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How are you like when you just I honestly just shopping like
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grocery shopping, but like, like we just recently bought a new
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washer and dryer. Yeah.
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Are you just OK, I need one, go buy one.
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Or are you like, research the heck out of it?
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You know me, Rob. OK, but our audience doesn't.
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I would research the heck out of it, My wife and I both would
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research the heck out of it and then make the decision and go
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purchase after that. Right.
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Yeah, I I do a fair amount of research.
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I don't think I'm quite as detailed as you, but here's 1
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trick I did find. What's that?
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So we just had to buy a new washer and dryer because I was
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crapped out. I found the same pair at all the
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places. They're all it's all the same
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price. But here's what my digging found
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me is everybody has a different thing in there.
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They're going to throw in free delivery or free installation
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and blah, blah, blah. I want to buy my first appliance
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ever at Costco. Yeah, we go there if we shop
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there all the time, we see their appliances.
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I've never even thought about it, but I'm like, mom's going to
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check there. Here's what's funny with them.
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They cover everything. They cover the install, the
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tall, the way, the, the delivery.
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They they cover everything. Where every other place you go
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to there, they nickel and dime, you know.
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Oh. I didn't know that Costco did
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all that. Yeah, and it's all covered.
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It's all. Free or I guess I would never
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thought. Of it, I never did either.
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So to go to Costco, yeah. So here's our tip for our future
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listeners. Check out Costco before you buy
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an appliance. And second tip, get get a budget
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early on in life and work towards things because you know,
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I learned late in life to have a budget and really handle your
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money wisely. And I'm trying to teach that to
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my kids now, is to build your budget.
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You know what you're working with and then know what you can
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spend. Absolutely, Yeah, savings early,
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saving early is key. If I so I started my business
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using part of my Target 401 Ki got a 401K right away when I
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started working with Target, right And I left Target, that's
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what I used to help fund my business to start it up.
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If I hadn't done that since when I started at 18, I never could
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have financed my business to start it out of the gate, right.
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The earlier you can start with things, it just it, it's such a
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huge win. Yeah.
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And I guess, you know, if you think about it, if you're in
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your early 20s and you just do a $100 a month into an account, by
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the time you retire, you're a millionaire.
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Yeah, even like a high yield savings or just something basic,
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right? It's huge.
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Yeah. So sock away the money, people.
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Do it all right, all right #4 emotional intelligence.
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What I don't know that I have that right.
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Emotional intelligence for men means knowing when to talk, when
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to shut up sometimes, and when to just hand over the remote.
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That's, that's very true. It'll save the arguments.
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It will. It'll save friendships and maybe
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even your marriage, right? But seriously, knowing how to
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listen, managing your temper. Temper and understanding what
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others are really feeling. Because strength isn't just
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physical, it's how you handle yourself and the people around
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you. Yeah, yeah, absolutely.
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I totally agree with that. I like that statement.
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That's really good, yeah. I do too, and that's only as
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I've gotten older. I think I my people may disagree
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with me. I think I've gotten better at it
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though, just being more compassionate and listening a
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lot more. I know that when I wasn't
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younger in my 20s and 30s, like I, it was my way or the highway
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and I was very stubborn and this is just the way it is and that's
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how I feel. No, you weren't stubborn.
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I'm still stubborn but I think I'm a lot more open than I have
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been and I'm I'm learning as I is it get older.
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You learn all the time. Absolutely, constantly have to
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keep learning. OK #5 critical thinking is
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knowing how to separate facts from nonsense, because by this
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age you've heard enough nonsense to fill the garbage.
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I, I think maybe I do some critical thinking, but I do, you
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know, a lot of nonsense comes out of me.
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And it's critical thinking is hard doing your like it says
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about doing your research, separating the facts from
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nonsense that's so hard to find now.
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Well, right. Because everything you, you
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don't know what is true when that you know.
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And so I choose to believe everything.
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Right. It's all.
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It's all the Internet, Brian, It's true.
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It's all true if it's on the Internet.
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Right, Yeah, it's very hard to discern now and it's it's, it's
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hard to do your research. So you really have to take
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everything in and then make it informed, educated decision
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that. Works well, I think that's why
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we do so much research because there's so much information.
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Yeah, you know, and you don't know what to believe.
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You can if you read reviews of a product, but there's so many
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good and bad, so you have to just let's make a judgement
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call. Yeah.
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So I don't know. It's hard to do it.
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Yeah. There's no bots on Amazon
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reviews whatsoever of. Course not Stop.
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Ruining my pitching. Time management by middle-aged
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Mastering time management means knowing how to prioritize what
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really matters. Saying no without guilt.
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That's my an issue. And realizing that not
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everything needs to be done today.
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Right, let's start with the same no without guilt part.
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Well, come on, I'm a Minnesotan. I know, right?
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That's not possible. You say no when it comes with
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guilt. That's what we do.
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It absolutely it does, right? Yeah.
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Not everything needs to be done today.
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It's good to prioritize what has to happen and what doesn't, and
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things you can put off and things you can't.
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That's why we work on the list. Yeah.
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Yeah. I always have a list going on
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things that have to be done right.
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And then there's still that the issue of I really don't want to
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do that. Yeah.
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So it's on the list, but I'm just sort of ignoring it.
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Right. Sorry, honey.
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Yeah, but I'm sort of ignoring those things on the list.
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I just don't really want to do them right.
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That's loud. I know.
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Yeah, exactly. OK, so it's that time again.
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What time is it? Time for our spring green
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minute. Yes, it is.
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And it's fall time. So this time we're going to talk
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a little bit about lawn rust. What do you know what that?
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Is no. I don't know what lawn rust is.
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Have you noticed your lawn turning a little bit orange?
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Well, yeah. Brown and crispy orangish, Yeah.
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And when rust after you mow and on your do you see it on your on
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your shoes and on your mower? On on the tires on your mower.
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I'm sorry, but I don't. OK, so you might.
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You don't always, but you might. But if you do, it might be lawn
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rust. So what it is, is it's a common
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fungal disease that can make your lawn look tired, thin and
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patchy. It often shows up during the
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late summer, early fall when grass growth slows due to stress
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from drought, heat, humidity, or excessive rain.
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So it can be either drought or too much rain.
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Oh, interesting. Yeah, 'cause it's a fungal
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disease. So here's how you can help your
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lawn recover and prevent lawn rest.
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You want to water a lot, you want to water deeply, and you
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want to water early. OK, so give your lawn a good
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soak in the early morning to promote healthy root growth and
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reduce overnight humidity. So early is the key on this one.
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So if you always get home from work and turn your sprinkler on,
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what happens is that water stays on your turf all night and the
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lawn stays wet all night. Never dries out, and that's when
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you get that. Term disease.
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That's not good. That's.
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Not good. So you want to do it in the
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morning? It's always, always water in the
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morning. Yes.
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I mean, in a pinch, once in a while it's fine, but yeah, I
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definitely want to do it in the morning.
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You're 1 inch of water that you told me I have one. 11 inch a
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week. Includes on my lawn including
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rainfall. OK all.
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Right. You want to mow on a regular
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basis, so keep your mower blades sharp to avoid cutting your
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grass too short. And we recommend 3 to 4 inches
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in height during the summer. So do you know how to measure
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that without getting out a ruler?
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Super easy. No.
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So go in your garage and bring your mower in there and then
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take a pop can or in my case a beer can.
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Turn it on, turn it on its side, and you should be able to barely
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slide that can under the mower that's at 3 inch height.
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That is really. Yeah, that's a fun little way.
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I didn't know that. So when you're getting ready to
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mow, pound that beer because you need to turn it on its side to
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measure the height of your mower.
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Got it? Every time you mow.
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Every. Time.
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No, I just look at the inches that are marked on my.
18:16
Well, those aren't inches. OK.
18:17
The the numbers marked on my wheel levers, yes.
18:20
And I just adjust them up and down.
18:22
Yes, those are just random numbers.
18:23
So yeah, those aren't inches. OK, so I don't, I would never
18:27
say they're inches. They're just random numbers that
18:30
I mark right? So I just choose one randomly
18:34
and here's what I'm going to mow at.
18:35
So when you mow this week, just pound a beer and then sideways
18:38
got it all right, fertilizing properly.
18:41
Lawn rust thrives in nutrient poor soil.
18:43
Supplying the right for the fertilizer helps your grass grow
18:46
stronger and resist disease. So fertilizer, the nitrogen in
18:48
that fertilizer actually really, really helps with the turf
18:51
disease, so. OK, maybe that's why I don't
18:53
have it in my my lawn right now, because you fertilize my lawn.
18:56
We have a. Fantastic lawn service at.
18:57
Fertilizer. I do have a fantastic lawn
18:59
service named Who Spring Green. You want to reduce your thatch
19:04
as well so thatch build up, holds moisture and creates the
19:06
perfect environment for fungus. So this one is a little
19:08
misleading because some thatch is good and people think thatch
19:11
in the yard and I got to get rid of it.
19:12
I got to rake it up, I got to power rake it.
19:14
It's got to go away. Not the case.
19:16
Some thatch is good, you just don't want it so thick where it
19:20
starts to smother the grass. That's the problem.
19:22
OK, so that's why you want to cut on.
19:24
Cut it on a regular basis. You want to mulch it when you
19:26
can, but if it's too long, beg it.
19:28
OK, OK and got it and I will follow every direction.
19:32
And we've got one more for you. Oh, shoot.
19:33
And the last one is liquid aeration, a great follow up
19:36
treatment after fungal diseases like rust.
19:38
It loosens compacted soil, improves root development, and
19:41
boosts. Recovery.
19:42
You're all about that liquid area.
19:43
I am because it is phenomenal. I got to get that done the.
19:47
Results are amazing. So cool.
19:48
There you go, That's our spring green minute.
19:51
Now back to life skills, middle age style.
19:53
Here we go #7 networking. Networking of this age isn't
19:58
swapping business cards at a bar really.
20:00
It's not. I have a business card, lots of
20:04
them. They.
20:04
Don't go anywhere. It's it's knowing who to call.
20:07
Would you need a job lead, a good mechanic, or a discount on
20:10
a lawnmower? Building real connections, not
20:12
just contacts, is key to building a great network.
20:15
I just call you Rob. I know.
20:18
And you're my guy. Well you know call just me but
20:20
you have other people you call like if you need your give
20:22
mechanic for your car. I've got a mechanic, right?
20:25
Yep, I have a small engine repair guy.
20:27
I've got everybody. We have a Jeff Hoxie who knows
20:30
about home building we. Have home builders?
20:32
Yep, we have dumpsters. Got them all, yeah.
20:36
Got them all. Actually, I had to.
20:37
I had to send a text to Jeff this weekend because we had the
20:40
city came out and did some stuff to our house and I had to patch
20:43
in some holes in our new siding. So I had Jeff.
20:45
What kind of caulking do I need? And he immediately.
20:48
Told me and he told me. What a guy.
20:50
Not about what you know, it's about who you know.
20:51
OK. Is that that's the networking
20:53
we're talking about? Absolutely.
20:54
It's who you know. Who you know?
20:56
Yep. And and keep up those
20:57
relationships because you never know when you you could have
21:01
some help. Absolutely.
21:02
So coffee on a regular basis helps.
21:04
Coffee. Hey you guys, everybody come and
21:05
join us for coffee. Right, just show up just.
21:09
Show up #8 self-defense as As we enter our middle age years,
21:15
there's a unique perspective that emerges regarding
21:18
self-defense. It's not about becoming a
21:20
martial arts master. Isn't it?
21:22
Really no, but more about having the awareness and skills to
21:26
navigate potentially dangerous situations.
21:31
That's why knowing some basic self-defense moves is important.
21:34
Yeah, yeah, for sure, for sure. I luckily, I'm hope I'm not
21:38
going to curse myself by saying this.
21:39
I haven't had to use any self-defense in quite a long
21:42
time. Yeah, not to.
21:43
I don't really enjoy that situation.
21:46
No try to run from it, right? I don't want to get a black.
21:49
Guy, no, not so much. Pain hurts.
21:52
I've had a lot of pain in my life.
21:54
Speaking of pain, once you do get pounded, first aid in CPR,
21:58
Yeah, Yeah. So understanding basic first aid
22:00
in CPR becomes increasingly important at our age.
22:03
It's not about being a medical professional, but having the
22:06
skills to act quickly and potentially save a life in a
22:08
critical situation. Everyone should consider getting
22:11
some training. Yeah, that would be really good.
22:13
I can just do CPR. Yeah, So I, I don't think I know
22:16
anybody who doesn't know basic CPR.
22:18
Like they almost teach that at every job I've ever been at.
22:21
Yeah, well, not every job. I said not.
22:23
I said almost every job. Yeah, clarify.
22:26
I take that back. I think every job I bet at I've
22:28
had to take ACPR course. I'm thinking yes, yes and yes.
22:32
Every job I've been at, I've had to take a good.
22:33
Course I've not had to take an every job, but I was at a job
22:39
part of the emergency emergency response team.
22:42
OK. So we had to go through lots of
22:44
classes, lots of courses. And then you were basically on
22:47
call to be the EMT or person that would come to their aid for
22:52
the company. OK.
22:54
And it was a two year deal. Wow.
22:56
So for two years I was nervous. I would, I mean, do you do you
23:01
feel that you were trained well enough to do basic first aid?
23:04
I. Think I was because you learn
23:06
about, you know, stroke victims, you learned CPR, you learned all
23:09
these things, how to, you know, bandage and all that sort of
23:12
thing. Sure.
23:13
So next time we take a, a, you know, plane ride somewhere and
23:17
they say, is there a doctor on the plane you can set up and
23:19
say, I'm not a doctor, but I have been trained an emergency
23:22
response. But I played a doctor on TV.
23:24
Right. No, but I did learn how to to do
23:28
CPR and how you, you know, you don't push the back of the neck
23:31
up anymore. You actually lift this, the
23:33
bottom of the the chin, you know, the jawline, you lift it
23:37
up. Yeah.
23:37
So it's all interesting to me. And and I always think it could
23:40
I save somebody? I hope I could, but I've never
23:43
been in this situation. Yeah, and you don't do the
23:45
breathing anymore, did you know that?
23:46
Right, because it's supposed to damage your lungs.
23:49
And COVID had pretty put a kibosh on it too.
23:51
Right. Well my brother-in-law used to
23:53
be a cop and he gave me a mask. You used to put over someone's
23:57
face so you don't actually write them.
23:58
Yeah. Well, an upcoming episode.
24:00
We're going to talk with Nurse Nikki.
24:02
We are. We are.
24:02
We're going to have a full episode about her and she's
24:04
going to tell us all of our fun ER stories because she's an ER
24:06
nurse. Oh, that'll be crazy.
24:08
And she'll fill us in with some basic first aid and stuff and
24:10
whatever we want for one from her, I think.
24:11
But yeah, she'll go. She has some great, ER stories.
24:13
So OK, yeah, that's another podcast.
24:15
All right, next one, Basic Coding and Technology.
24:18
Did you actually write this? Basic coding.
24:20
Basic coding. Oh good Lord this comes all
24:23
comes from a website I didn't write it and of.
24:26
Course it's true, it's on, it's on the Internet of.
24:28
Course. Basic coding I'm here's the only
24:30
coding I have is. My read the definition, working
24:32
on it. The only coding I have is like
24:35
from Apple 2C and playing Oregon Trail.
24:37
That's all I know. There's more to it.
24:39
Alright, so everybody should have a basic understanding of
24:41
coding and technology, enough to navigate this digital world,
24:45
troubleshoot simple problems and stay relevant in this
24:48
increasingly tech driven world. OK.
24:50
So that's the key, OK. That's technology, yeah.
24:53
Simple problems. OK, that's not coding.
24:55
Come on, if you're trying to fix something on your phone that's
24:57
basic coding, It's it's, I'm not asking you to create a website,
25:03
which by the way, I can do. Yeah.
25:04
And I know some basic coding. So when I wrote that I'm like,
25:07
oh, I know basic coding OK. We're happy for you.
25:10
Yeah, I do not. I mean, basic coding for me is
25:15
like, just turn the damn thing off and start it over.
25:17
It's a computer. Your first number one thing,
25:20
turn off the computer and. Turn it on exactly itself fixes
25:22
both problems, right? How about basic car maintenance?
25:25
Yes. Yeah, not for me.
25:27
Basic car maintenance isn't about turning into a mechanic.
25:30
OK, that's good. Cause not it's about knowing
25:33
enough to keep the ride running, your wallet happy, and your ego
25:37
intact when the check engine light comes on.
25:40
That the truth. Don't freak out like I used to
25:42
do. Things like changing the oil,
25:44
checking the fluids, or swapping a flat tire so you're not
25:47
stranded waiting for help every time something goes wrong,
25:50
right? That's why I have AAA.
25:52
Exactly, that's why I tell everybody get AAA 'cause you
25:55
don't have to, you know, change your flat tire.
25:58
You don't have to do any of that stuff.
26:00
You can call it tow. Yeah.
26:02
The problem comes when you're in the middle of a snowstorm and
26:05
like you go into a ditch or something.
26:06
Then you're literally waiting for like hours.
26:08
You're waiting a long time because they're busy.
26:10
And that's a little different though, But I think like a flat
26:12
tire, everybody should know how to change a flat tire.
26:15
Yes, and I could if I needed to, but I'm not going.
26:18
I'll check my oil. I'm not changing my.
26:21
Oil, No, I'm not changing it. Yeah, and I do check the fluids.
26:24
I do top off the washer fluid. I can do that.
26:27
I do change the wiper blades. I can change the wiper blades.
26:30
I have a diesel truck that requires a fuel filter to be
26:34
changed on a regular basis. I've only had to do it once and
26:36
I didn't do it. I had the dealership do it the
26:38
first time. But I've looked in the manual
26:40
and it looks fairly easy because they charged me like 80 bucks
26:44
for the part and then 80 bucks to do it.
26:46
Yeah, I bought the filter on Amazon for like $10.
26:49
And you did it yourself. Well no, I'm going to the next
26:51
time because at pay 160 for them to do it or I can do it for
26:53
myself for 10 bucks cha. Ching.
26:55
Yeah, and it looks fairly simple, so we're gonna and see
26:57
how that. Works.
26:57
Where's the sound effect of the dollar sign?
26:59
It's on a different screen that I don't have access to right
27:02
now, so here you go. There you go.
27:08
That's us actually as mechanics. All right, right, next one, how
27:11
to cook. Okay, now why am I reading this
27:12
one? Because you need to learn to
27:15
cook. For those that don't know, Brian
27:18
is an excellent chef and I had spaghettios for dinner so.
27:21
I did not. That's my role.
27:23
All right, learning basic cooking skills empowers you to
27:25
lead a healthier, more financially secure and more
27:28
confident life. Empowers you.
27:30
I will agree with that. It's about taking initiative and
27:33
experiencing the profound satisfaction of nourishing
27:35
yourself and those you care about with your own hands.
27:38
You don't need to be a gourmet chef.
27:40
Just start with simple recipes to build your confidence in the
27:42
kitchen, all right? OK, we got to get you a simple
27:44
recipe. Here's the deal.
27:45
OK, you're. A great griller, OK.
27:48
Yes, thank you. But here thing I I can cook all
27:51
right. I I've cooked asked my wife.
27:53
I've made some wonderful dinners.
27:55
If you give me a recipe and you I have all the ingredients
27:58
handy. I can follow directions.
28:01
I can make dinner good for you. I have 0 desire to do it.
28:06
I just that's. The difference?
28:07
I have a lot of desire to cook. Yeah, I just.
28:09
It's just not my thing, man. Just not my.
28:12
Thing I like cooking. And you're very good at it, I.
28:14
Think I should have been a chef. I think so too.
28:17
OK, we're at #13 leadership skills.
28:20
I don't know about that. Developing leadership skills in
28:23
mid midlife extends beyond career progression.
28:28
That's hard for me to say. It's about strategically
28:31
navigating complex environments, leaving a positive legacy
28:35
through mentorship, and fostering continuous personal
28:37
growth and well-being. That sounds.
28:41
Good. Sounds great, right?
28:42
By embracing these aspects, middle-aged men can become
28:44
impactful leaders who inspire and empower those around them,
28:48
shaping a brighter future for themselves, their families, and
28:52
their organizations. OK, you didn't edit this for.
28:54
You put this in here because. This sounds great, I'm going to
28:56
use it in my next write up. I, I, I, I'm, I'm more focusing
28:59
on the middle-aged men part, so. Middle-aged.
29:01
People, there you go. So I overlooked.
29:06
That that's OK. That's OK.
29:08
I, I agree. I agree.
29:09
I think that leadership is a learned skill.
29:13
It is. I think there's, there's some
29:15
people that are put in leadership positions that really
29:17
have no idea what they're doing. They may be really good worker
29:19
bees and think, oh, they'll be a great leader.
29:21
And once you pop them in, like no.
29:23
Well, they didn't get the. Training.
29:24
They get the training, or they don't have the desire, or they
29:26
just honestly don't know or don't care.
29:28
They just want to do a really good job, right?
29:30
And they like the extra paycheck.
29:31
I I really like mentoring. I do too in my career, my chosen
29:34
career path being graphic design.
29:36
Mentoring a junior designer. Here is one of my top things I
29:39
love I love to do. Yeah, that's cool.
29:41
That's cool. All right, next one,
29:42
organizational skills. So every person should master
29:47
basic organizational skills, keeping their space, schedule
29:50
and priorities in order, because a little structure saves time,
29:53
stress and headaches. Yeah, I should be more
29:56
organized. Yeah, I I think that's actually
29:58
one of the things I excel at. I'm I'm a little OCD if you are
30:02
very if you haven't noticed, yeah, I have.
30:04
Yeah, I talk about it all the time.
30:07
I know. So some some call the strength,
30:09
some call the fault, but I'm I'm going to go strength.
30:11
It's a strength. Yeah, yeah, I I'm kind of a
30:13
messy person, but I know where all my stuff is.
30:16
Yeah, I don't get that. The same thing in our in our
30:18
shop, our mechanic is extremely messy, but he could go.
30:21
If I ask her something, he'll go right to it, right where I'll
30:23
sit there and look for 30 minutes.
30:24
I'm like, I have no idea what this is and he'll walk right to
30:25
it. So my problem is with being
30:27
organized is if I put something away, I can no longer see it.
30:31
If I can't see it, I don't know I have it, I don't remember I
30:34
have it. So tell this to my wife all the
30:36
time. I've got to be able to see what
30:38
I need, Sure. And it's right there.
30:40
Or in my case, I just know where I put it because it's all it's
30:42
it's organized home so I can go right to.
30:45
It OK where on this list was memory?
30:47
I don't think I can remember where I put it.
30:50
We're. Not done yet.
30:52
OK #15 Master the art of being confident.
30:56
Confidence at this age isn't about impressing anyone, it's
30:59
about walking into a room knowing you've got your stuff
31:02
together and handling lifes ups and downs without second
31:06
guessing yourself. Okay, I can do some of that,
31:08
yeah, but no, I pretty much usually am not confident and
31:12
that's based on my upbringing, self esteem issues, right,
31:15
Right. But I think just doing this
31:17
podcast, we're working on that. We are working on it.
31:19
I do tend to talk a lot. You should hear how many times I
31:22
mess up. You never mess up.
31:23
I edit them out all the time. There's there's no proof.
31:29
No, I think, I think you're more, I think you are more
31:31
confident than you realize. And I think it's, it's your
31:35
introspect isn't the same as my, I guess outrospect of you.
31:38
Yeah. I think you.
31:40
Got more confident than anything.
31:41
You don't give yourself enough credit, I believe.
31:43
I think Rob likes me. So those of you that don't know
31:46
Brian is an exceptional artist, you should go check out his
31:49
website at briandotancreative.com.
31:51
Oh, thanks for the plug. And his paintings are amazing.
31:54
We have three of them in our house.
31:55
Yeah, you're probably my best customer.
31:57
Yeah. And it's.
31:58
Not not just because we know you and you're my very good buddy
32:00
and and we love you. They are phenomenal.
32:03
So yeah, check it out, people. They're great.
32:05
Well, thank you. Right, All right.
32:06
I got a couple more, just want to hit on really quick.
32:08
We're not going to go into too much detail, but a couple more
32:10
that I liked Have a firm handshake.
32:13
I totally agree. Yeah, I think that's necessary
32:15
in life for making a great first impression of everyone you meet.
32:18
And I don't know if everybody knows this, but if you do a
32:20
solid grip, if you both do a solid grip, like it doesn't
32:24
hurt. Like people are afraid.
32:25
They're very light and loosey goosey handed, right.
32:28
If you both have a very solid handshake, it doesn't hurt at
32:30
all. And that's confidence.
32:32
And what I what I dislike about when you go in for a handshake,
32:35
if you either get too early or too late and you miss the the
32:38
grasp, yeah, then you're like, oh, limp fish, I missed it, man.
32:43
I feel bad about. That I didn't go quick to the
32:45
fifth form. I want to do it over.
32:46
Let's do it overhead. Yeah, but that leads on to
32:49
another one that always accepts an outstretched hand.
32:52
Sure. Yeah, absolutely.
32:53
Yeah, if anybody offers your hand, just just shake it.
32:56
You can always go time. You can always go put Purell on
32:58
it later. I do.
32:59
That I know, right? I am not afraid of germs.
33:01
No, not at. All.
33:02
OK, here's another one. OK, look, people in the eye.
33:05
Oh yes, looking people in the eye establishes a great
33:07
connection with the person on the other end and it shows you
33:10
you're serious, you're enthusiastic, etcetera,
33:13
etcetera, etcetera. And you can look into their
33:15
soul. So I always had a problem with
33:18
looking in the eye because I that kind of goes along with the
33:21
whole self esteem thing that I had growing up.
33:24
And so it's hard you, you are burying your soul when you look
33:27
in the eye and and you're talking to them.
33:28
But it does make that connection.
33:30
And I've learned that over time, do.
33:31
You feel like a sense of awkwardness if you're like,
33:33
stare too long. Is that kind of why?
33:35
Yeah. That's why you always see me.
33:36
What? We're sitting across from each
33:38
other right now and you see me constantly pushing my eyes down.
33:42
Oh, I see. I thought you're looking at your
33:43
notes. Oh, I was.
33:46
Well, that's what I was doing, right?
33:48
All right, last one I got own a great stereo system.
33:52
Yes, music is one of our biggest influences on our emotions that
33:54
lists your spirits, motivates you and contributes to your
33:57
overall mood. Yeah, I just streamed my music
34:00
now, so. So here's my my little story.
34:03
So back in the day, my buddy Tom, back in the 20s, he would,
34:07
he always did the car stereos. Whatever car any of any of us
34:10
got, he would install the new upgraded car stereo.
34:14
That's cool. So I learned a lot from watching
34:16
him. I learned how to do it and I
34:19
also learned how to go get Taco Bell for him while he does it.
34:23
But that was the thing. But what's funny is I I've never
34:26
did one myself until a couple years ago.
34:27
My daughter got a we got her a car at at 2012 Ford Focus.
34:31
And then the stock stereo, which sucked, had no Bluetooth.
34:34
It was horrible. I went online to Crutchfield and
34:36
bought myself a new head unit and followed the instructions
34:39
and plopped her in and I I learned all that from watching
34:41
Tom. That's amazing you are a
34:43
mechanic. Yeah, So that was fine.
34:45
So all right. So I think that's kind of it for
34:47
now to round it out. I mean, middle age, isn't it
34:49
about slowing down? It's about knowing what actually
34:51
matters and handling it without losing your mind.
34:54
So by picking up the basics, fixing a leaky faucet, changing
34:57
your own oil, Brian. Not going to happen.
35:00
Not going to happen. Cooking a decent meal, Rob?
35:02
Yep, keep your finances in check and even understanding what the
35:05
heck your teenager is talking about.
35:07
No idea. You've got the tools to survive
35:09
and maybe even enjoy the chaos. And a little emotional
35:13
intelligence, networking, and tech smarts and you'll not only
35:17
handle life's curveballs, but do it with a bit of style, a sense
35:21
of humor, and And enough know how to keep your friends and
35:25
family wondering how do you got so good at the whole?
35:28
Adulting. That's right, you are an expert.
35:30
I try to be yes, I think that's it.
35:32
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35:58
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