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Why some narcissists go after single parents · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  What is going on beautiful people welcome to another
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  episode of the narcissist code. I'm your favorite self aware
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  narcissist. Mr. Lee have a better known as
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  mental illness across all social media platforms.
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  This is the first time I see my face or hear my lovely voice.
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  I'm a clinically diagnosed narcissist and I use my platform
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  on social media to raise awareness for NPD.
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  Get more people to do therapy like myself and also validate
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  the victim, survivors and thrivers of said disorder.
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  Said toxic people said toxic traits.
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  Today's episode is going to be about do some Narciss.
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  Why do some narcissist just go after single parents?
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  Why do they target single parents and whatnot?
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  Y'all. So before we hop into today's
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  every single video and podcast that I do.
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  But yes, y'all Yep Yep Yep. So why do some narcissist just
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  go after single parents? I know.
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  Are there single dads out there that some narcissistic women
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  target? Yes, absolutely.
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  But most of the times you see this happening is going to be
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  the single mom, the single the the, the narcissistic man or
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  narcissistic woman that goes after a single mom.
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  You know, because, you know, there's there's narcissists in
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  the L, GB, TQL, GB, TQ community and whatnot as well.
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  But one of my good friends, Lindsay, she is a single mom and
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  she got targeted by a narcissistic woman because she
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  was a single mom. So do not only do men do the
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  job, women do this as well. But yes, so it gets into that
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  space that some narcissistic people target you because they
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  feel like you need them. Narcissistic people at their
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  core want to be needed so they feel like you need them.
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  You lack this. You lack me.
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  So I want you to feel like you need me.
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  So when you get a narcissistic, toxic ass person, not only do
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  they love bomb you, sometimes they love bombing your children.
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  Most times they love bombing your children as well.
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  They want your kids to like them because they know the easiest
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  way to a single parent's heart is through their children.
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  They love bombing the kids, they buying them gifts, they doing
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  things like this. They love bombing your
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  grandkids. They had a video, They had a
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  live last night with a woman that said her this person, the
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  narcissistic in her life love bombed her grandkids as well.
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  So it wasn't just her that he was love bombing.
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  He loved bombing the grandkid, her children and her grandkids,
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  so in this space right here. So it's not so that happens all
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  the time when they see you as a single person and they feel like
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  they can target you because they think in their minds, like they
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  think you are super lonely. They think that you are just
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  like, oh, you need me. You're lonely.
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  You're vulnerable. You're probably tired.
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  You're probably overworked. So here I come.
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  You see what I'm saying? So here I come into this space.
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  Here I jump into what we what you have going on here I enter.
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  Here I interject myself into your life because you need me.
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  And so here they come and they make you feel like they they
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  attached to you really, really quickly.
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  They bond to you really, really quickly because they see that
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  you as vulnerable and look and a lot of times y'all.
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  Regardless of whether you have one kid or more kids or how many
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  people going around. Y'all.
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  No matter how many different parents that that parent, those
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  children. You have a you have a woman, you
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  you have three kids by three different men or you're a man.
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  You have three kids by 30 different women.
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  Whoever it is, they that narcissistic person is going to
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  play on that mindset right there that you think that nobody else
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  is going to want you. Hey, you know you got 4 kids,
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  nobody else is going to want you, right?
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  So you need to tolerate my You need to tolerate and be grateful
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  that I came into your life the way I did.
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  And I'm offering you this relationship space where nobody
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  else is going to do this because you have all these kids.
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  And is that true? Y'all No, that is not true.
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  I've talked to people y'all crazy.
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  I've talked to. I've talked to people.
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  They're not crazy, but I've talked to people.
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  I've seen it happen in real life where a woman had seven kids,
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  she was married twice and had kids by two different men.
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  So it wasn't a bunch of different dads.
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  It was like she had seven kids and she just got married to
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  somebody who didn't have kids at all.
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  She just got married. She fell in love and found
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  somebody that didn't have kids at all.
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  So it it's impossible. Don't let like yo.
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  So if you're a single parent out there, don't let people convince
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  you of your value or your worth because that's what narcissistic
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  toxic gas people would do. They will target you because
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  society a lot of times, especially with these red pill
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  weirdo alpha male people, they want to convince you that nobody
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  else is going to want you. They convince you.
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  They want to convince you that you should settle for less.
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  You should be settling for less because your value is tainted
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  because you have children. So they tell you you should
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  settle for less. So if you get this abusive,
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  cheating ass, narcissistic person, you should.
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  You should accept that. Because guess what?
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  Nobody else is going to want you.
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  Not only is the narcissist saying this, some of these
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  weirdos on YouTube and TikTok and Instagram are saying the
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  same thing over and over again. Nobody's going to want you
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  because you got kids. Your value was loyal because you
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  got kids and they convinced you of that.
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  So if you listen to this craziness, you might start to
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  buy into it and put up with it. So narcissistic people, some
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  narcissists play on that right there.
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  Y'all. Some of them were, absolutely.
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  Some of them will send you videos of other people, of
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  people saying that. Of people living, trying to live
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  their life, trying to live that mindset right there.
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  Just saying, hey, look, hey, look at this video right here,
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  what they just say. It's a it's a statistical fact
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  that people are not attracted to single moms or single dads.
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  You just carry you. You are more you, you just more
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  more problematic than you were or whatever your value is.
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  Lower the sexual, what do they call it?
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  The sexual marketplace. What campus say you just called
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  it the sexual marketplace value has been super tainted and and
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  why would somebody want you when you have kids and I can go out
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  here and get somebody younger that doesn't have kids.
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  Drive my ride my rabbit. Y'all.
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  Don't let people convince you that that your worth of value is
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  tainted because you have children, because that's how you
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  stay with toxic narcissistic people.
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  Or that's how you quote, UN quote, date down and give
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  somebody a chance that you normally wouldn't give a chance
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  to. Will you convince yourself?
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  Will you, this narcissistic person convinces you that, hey,
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  look, nobody else is going to want you.
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  I'm the best you're going to get.
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  So yes, my even though I'm treating you horribly, even
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  though I might be putting my hands on you, even though I
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  might be cheating on you, even though I might be stealing from
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  you or living off of you or mooching off of you or treating
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  your kids bad sometimes. Guess what?
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  They They they they you should accept this.
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  You should tolerate this. And what happens to y'all?
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  They get ingrained into your life like a toxic narcissistic
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  person that targets single parents.
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  They get ingrained into your life and they'll threaten to
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  abandon your kids that they have a good they might have a good
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  relationship with. See, if you leave me, you're
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  going to be hurting your own. You'll be hurting your kids
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  because nobody else is going to want you.
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  And you can be hurting your kids feelings because they.
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  I love your, I love those kids. You take it.
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  You take them away from me Right now.
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  You see what I'm saying? You taking the kids away, you
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  taking the you, you you run people away.
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  Nobody else is going to want you.
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  Nobody else is going to do this. Nobody's going to do that.
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  You know what I mean? So this happens all the time
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  with toxic relationship spaces, toxic relationship dynamics.
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  It happens all the time. Y'all.
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  Seriously. They target.
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  They will target you based on this, on this societal weirdness
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  that people are projecting onto the world.
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  You see single parents getting married all the time to to
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  people that are better than the original person that they had
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  kids by. You see this.
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  But that narcissistic person, they want to isolate you.
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  They want to target you. They they target.
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  They they specifically target people that they feel like are
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  vulnerable. Y'all.
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  If you have kid, if you have kids and you're a single parent,
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  especially if you don't get it, especially if the other parent
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  is absent, Especially if you have a deadbeat dad or dad beat
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  mom situation, you feel like you.
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  Hey, get tired of it by yourself.
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  Here comes this knight or this knight in shining armor to take
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  over and do this wildness to you and ruin your damn life.
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  Because that's what they do. They come in like a Wrecking
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  Ball and wreck your life. Y'all.
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  They establish some of the some of them establish these
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  relationships with your kids and they threaten to break that bomb
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  with your kids if you decide to hold them accountable.
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  You know what I mean? They do this all the time.
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  Y'all. They come in there and they see
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  that as leveraged pieces. They use kids that are not even
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  their own as leveraged pieces. You know, some narcissists use
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  their own kids as pieces of leverage when they're, you know,
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  trying to coparent or whatever or trying to manipulate the
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  other partner, the other coparent, They use their own
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  kids as leverage. They will absolutely use their
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  step kids or your kids as leveraged as well.
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  They just will. Y'all.
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  They just, they'll they'll threaten to abandon those kids.
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  But here is a telltale sign. Y'all.
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  If you are dealing with a narcissist or a toxic person or
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  whoever. If you are dealing with this
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  person, right, And you see that they have abandoned their own.
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  If they are not there for their own children, if they have
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  abandoned their own children, they're probably not going to be
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  suited to be suited and booted to take care of yours.
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  That isn't y'all. If that ain't a damn, what are
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  my red flags? They are.
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  They are not close by. Y'all lucky My red flags are not
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  close by me. Oh yeah, everyone right here.
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  There's one right here. There's red flaggy is hell
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  there's red flaggy. Y'all there's super red flaggy.
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  If they don't take care of their own kids, what makes you think
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  they deserve to be around? George, if you're a single
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  parent out there and you're watching this video and you're
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  thinking about getting back into the dating world.
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  If they do not take care of their own kids, I don't care
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  what this. I don't care what they tell you
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  to my my baby Mama won't keep it for my kids.
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  Like they're not going to take care of yours.
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  They will lie to you and try to get integrated into your kids
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  lives and will try to use your kid, their relationship.
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  They will try to use your relationship with your kids as a
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  tool. But if they don't take care of
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  their own biological children, if they have them, what makes
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  you think they're going to be suited to be around yours?
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  If they can abandon or discard their own flesh and blood, what
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  makes you think that they won't abandon or discard or treat your
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  flesh and blood badly? I feel like we have to look at
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  it in perspective. Y'all perspective is everything.
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  Don't let them like that. They will target you because you
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  have kids, but don't let them weaponize your your children
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  against you. Y'all, come on now, come on.
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  Single parents out there, single mom, single dad, whoever it is.
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  Mostly. I know it's geared more towards
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  single moms. I'm not trying to make, I'm not
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  trying to make. I'm not trying to be ignorant.
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  Just like Oh no, it's just that no, I understand the way the the
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  world works out. But I just also want people to
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  understand. Like this is the dynamic that it
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  goes to. Empower yourself.
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  Be as strong as you possibly can.
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  You know what I mean? Because that will that way, that
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  way, that's the way it goes a lot of the time.
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  Like they will target you because they think you're
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  vulnerable, They think you're needy, they think you're
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  desperate. They talk.
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  Some narcissists target single parents because they absolutely
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  think that you are desperate, think that you need them, think
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  that you need them into your life.
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  And they will. They will make themselves feel
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  like they are needed in your life.
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  I promise you. They will absolutely do that.
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  So control your peace, control your mind.
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  Because if you don't I'm telling you they're going to come into
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  your life and they're going to break blow it up like a damn
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  Wrecking Ball. To blow it like a Wrecking Ball
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  came in like a Wrecking Ball. Anyways y'all think I'm tuning
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