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JJ DiGeronimo - Seeking · Postcards to the Universe

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Welcome to Postcards to the Universe with Melissa Capria. Do you believe in magic?
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What if you were told that all you had to do was get a
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little creative and work a magic spell to bring anything you can imagine into your
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life. Here on Postcards to the Universe, we will share manifesting tips,
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postcards, creativity, abundance, and prosperity. Here's your host, Melissa Caprio.
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Hey everyone, and welcome to Postcards to the Universe with Melissa creating the
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life you crave. Today's Wednesday, my show day. I love doing my
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show. How is everyone doing? I hope you're doing well. For those
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who are in the path of the hurricane, I hope that you guys are
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faring well. I'm in South Florida, so we're about five hundred I'm about
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five hundred miles from where the hurricane made landfall. And those things are no
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joke. I've been through a few of them now living growing up here in
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Florida. So I hope everybody stays safe and is faring well. And maybe
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collectively we could all say a little prayer to everyone who is experiencing that it's
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not fun. I can tell you that they're not fun, but we you
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know, the show still goes on down here, so we have a great
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show today and we're going to lift our vibes. So that's really cool.
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I have light Worker who amplifies the energy of energy practitioners JJD Geronimo, and
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she's going to join me in just a few minutes and she's said a lot
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of stuff, so when you guys meet her, she gets to tell us
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all the stuff that she does, which is really cool. To all my
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regulars who listen to me each week and keep coming back, thank you so
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much. I really appreciate it. It means a lot that you keep tuning
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into my show and that you're enjoying it. For those of you who are
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tuning in for the first time, I want to say welcome, thank you
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so much for joining me, and I hope that you keep returning. Just
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so you know, if you are listening live today, we do always replay
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the show, so you can always find the replay in the archives, and
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also I put the show up on my podcast on Postcards to the Universe dot
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com, so there's always a way to find and listen to shows. Okay,
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so a little about me. I am an author, I'm a photographer.
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I find our background. That's really where where my love is photography.
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And I created a book and it's called Postcards to the Universe. Harness the
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Universe's power and manifest your dreams. And I talk about manifesting in the book,
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and I had people create a manifesting postcard, which is kind of like
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a little mini vision board. A lot of people know what vision boards are,
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so I have people create a postcard about something they want to bring into
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their life. Then they sent me the postcard and I photograph it, and
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when their manifestation becomes their reality, we share their stories. And that's basically
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what the book is about in a nutshell. So there's thirty stories and manifesting
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postcards in the book, along with exercises on how to manifest in love and
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money and health, career so much. And I have all these writing exercises
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and all these tips and fun little manifesting games that you can play in the
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book. So if you're interested, you know, check it out. You
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can find it at Barnes and Noble, Amazon dot com. And I've decided.
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So the book came out at the very end of twenty nineteen, right
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before COVID hit so it's been a few years now, but what I decided
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to do is I'm going to start doing live readings from my book, so
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you're going to see that on all my social media's and I've actually already prerecorded
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a few. So I think I'm going to release the first one. No,
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I'm going to say it because that's going to make me do it,
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because I'm holding myself accountable. I'm going to release at least the first one
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tomorrow. So if you go on any of my social media Instagram, I'm
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on TikTok, now you're going to find a reading me start reading from the
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book. So I hope to see you over there. And each week I
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ask people to send me a manifesting postcard. If you don't know how to
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do that or what I'm talking about, if you go to postcards to the
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Universe dot com, I tell you exactly how to create a manifesting postcard and
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where to send it. The address is listed on there, and if you
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sign up for Join my movement, you get a free gift in the newsletter
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and it also tells you gets in a little bit more depth about creating a
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manifesting postcard. So yeah, I hope that you're interested. Okay, so
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I started this, I don't know, it's been like over a month now.
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I'm doing a workshop on Thursday evenings six to eight pm Eastern Time.
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It's called Manifesting through Gratitude, a visual journey, and it's a workshop that's
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going to be on going on a continuous basis. It runs from start to
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finish five weeks, and it's from the comfort of your home. Because I
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have found the quickest, most powerful week to manifesting is by using gratitude.
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Sometimes we take for granted the things we already have in our life, so
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we're going to really tap into the energy of gratitude and how that can create
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so much more abundance in our lives. So we're going to focus them down
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each week. Week one focuses on worthiness and self love. Week two covers
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health and wellness, Week three looks at our money story and our financial abundance,
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and Week four we go into our personal relationships romantic, family, friends,
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co workers. And there's going to be a Q and A at the
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end of each class, but the final week is going to be a personal
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check in. We're going to be sharing our experiences and doing an open Q
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and A. So I hope that that sparks your interest because I'm telling you
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it's so powerful. It really really is in manifesting those things that we want.
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So what makes it my workshop a little bit different with gratitude is since
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I'm a photographer, I am going to help instruct you how to use your
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camera phone as one of the tools in manifesting, So we're going to be
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using our camera phones. I have everybody make a manifesting postcard each week in
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that specific area that we're working on. So it's going to be a lot
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of fun. It's an intimate group. We cap the class at twenty,
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so it's going to be a really really cool thing. So I hope that
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this is sparking your interest, and you can also find out more information on
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my website postcards to the Universe dot com. But if you go to find
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Uniquely You with the letter U dot com Melissa Caaprio, that is where the
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workshop is being hosted. But of course you can get there through you can
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get to everything through my website. So I hope that you're interested and you're
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going to have a beautiful visual gratitude journal at the end of this course.
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All right, Okay, I also share a magical message. It's either an
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affirmation that I like or a postcard somebody sent in it's an image that I
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photograph. And I love affirmations. I use them on the daily. I
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think they're very powerful. Also another powerful way to using the law of attraction.
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So this week's message is be love. I mean, one of the
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best ways to have more love in your life is to be more loving.
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So be what it is that you want to manifest. So if you want
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love, be love, be present love everywhere you go, and just watch.
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You'll be amazed at how things will shift in your life. Okay,
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So now I'm excited to talk to my guest, jjd Geronimo. She is
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the president of Tech Savvy Women is one of the most highly regarded speakers,
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authors, and executive strategists to attract, retain and advanced professional women. She's
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navigated her way from entry level positions to top level leadership roles within leading technology
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companies, and now she shares her strategies and insights that helped her accelerate her
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career with her audiences. As a featured columnist for Smart Business Magazine and Thrive
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Global, JJ has been quoted in numerous publications including Forbes, The Wall Street
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Journal, Fox Business, The Glasshammer, and Work Women Magazine. She shares
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her insights and discoveries with many corporations and women's organizations across the nation, tapping
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into her experience to forge a meaningful connection with every audience. So if you're
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asking yourself, what is this all for? Or now what? Or is
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there more than you're ready to embark on your next step of self discovery.
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JJJ Geronimos knows these feelings all too well, and in her book Seeking seventy
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four Key Findings to raise your Energy, sidestep yourself doubts, and align with
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your life's work, jj unpacks the strategies that helped her infuse more purpose and
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meaning into her work and life with short chapters, relevant stories, and specific
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questions. These pages create a space where you too can elevate your choices,
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dig through your stories, embrace your gifts, and elevate your energy. For
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more, you can go to her website, which I'm going to a spell
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out for you since we're on radio, so you can check her out while
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you're listening. If you go to J J. D I G E.
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R O NIMO dot com you can find out more about JJ. Welcome JJ.
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Thanks so much for being here with me today. Oh my goodness,
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thank you for the invitation. I'm excited. You do a lot, you
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really really do. I love what you're doing, especially helping women. So
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I'm going to turn it over to you and you can let us know how
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you kind of got into this work and what inspired you to want to do
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this to help out other women especially. I mean, I know you help
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everybody, but I know your focus is with women. So what made you
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decide to get into this kind of work. Well, like many of us,
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when you go through things yourself, you want to find your tribe.
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You want to get the best practices. So everything that I do is really
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out of my own desire to continue to enhance my journey and to really really
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create a life. I love m It's so important. It's so important to
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be finding something to do that where you feel some joy in your life.
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Not doesn't always have to be a career. We know that, but you
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still want to tap into that. I call it a creative energy, you
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know, where you get to do something that you enjoy that you can share
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with other people. So what's your work like about Yeah, I think that's
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a great point. And you know, the book Seeking was actually supposed to
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be named off the side of her death because many of us do things off
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the side of our desk that really fill us up, but also we don't
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know how to monetize it or really make it our main thing. And sometimes,
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you know, it really is a training ground for what is ahead.
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So if I look back on my life, you know, there were many
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milestones and key intersection points in my life that I think have brought me to
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the point I'm at right now. And I think for many of us,
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we realize that the journey, as many people say, as corny as it
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is, you know, the journey has a lot to offer us. If
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we're always focused on the destination, sometimes we miss our biggest lessons or the
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most beautiful opportunity. Oh my god. You know that's funny that you said
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that, because there's this happens quite a lot. So if you're in process
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of creating something whatever it is, right, and you're like talking about going
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through the journey, and then what happens is is you get what it is
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that you've created, right, then there's almost this A lot of people have
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told me that this has happened to them. Then there's almost this now what
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I got it? Now what do I do? Like the going for it
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sort of feeds you and now you've you've changed it, and you're like okay.
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So there's almost like a little bit of a letdown, Like okay,
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so now what do I do with myself? Right? I achieve that big
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thing that I wanted? What would you say to that? Well? I
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think for many of us, we don't you know, you know, I
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think we don't often know where our life is going to take us. And
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if we have situations that we like, oh I should have done this or
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I should have done that. I think trust that the universe has your back
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and that you are perfectly orchestrated where you're supposed to be right now, and
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maybe shift your focus on what is the lesson I need to learn in this
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part of my life? Yeah, do you ask yourself a lot of questions
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like that, are you? Oh my gosh? The book Speaking is full
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of questions. Almost the workbook is you know, almost past the size of
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the book because it's you know, the stories I share in the book are
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really how I got to move through my life where I could clear out some
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stuff that was over longer serving me because I got to a point where I
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was overworked, over committed, I had so little joy and I still was
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so danged busy that I wasn't really leaning into what was calling me. In
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fact, I was leaning into what I thought I should be doing. Yeah,
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I think a lot of us do that. I definitely believe a lot
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of us do we have that, Oh I should do this, I should
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do this. Running in the background, I know you talk a lot about
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being a successful businesswoman and working with other successful women, but you also call
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yourself, which I thought was really interesting, a light worker. So what
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do you mean when you say that you're a light worker. M that's a
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great question. I've been on this journey for a long time, and this
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is my third book, and I've been really ushering people through. You know.
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My first book is really about women with young children with demanding responsibilities in
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it or a demanding job, and how to maneuver that landscape without losing yourself.
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My second book is about how do you get promoted, how do you
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get invited to a board, how do you get to that executive suite?
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And through each of those books, I really had to dig deep into who
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I am, like what do I believe in? How did it manifest for
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me? And what are the lessons that I learned? And then in twenty
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sixteen, I was like, oh my gosh, I've hit all these milestones
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I thought I was going to get to you, and I'm not feeling what
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I thought I would feel. I'm not really enjoying the life I created,
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right. And then of course that you know, a lot of things started
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happening right within my family, my parents, I work like things should started
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crumbling around me, and I was like, what is going on? It
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was like things are falling through my fingers, And I think it was kind
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of the Univers's way of saying, yeah, we're going to rock your world
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right now, because you need to shift lanes and you're not going to do
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it on your own unless we rock your world. And so I had to
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kind of sit there and be like, Okay, who am I really and
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what am I really supposed to be working on? Because what I thought I
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was supposed to be running towards really didn't bring me the fruitfulness or even the
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joy or experience or momentum I thought it was going to be and it happened
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back in twenty sixteen, and so I really take readers to a journey of
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like how I worked from the inside out, which was a totally new concept
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for me. Yeah yeah, well yeah, because we're always taught to work
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from the outside in. But it's really that's what all the real changes happen,
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is you do the inner work and then and then it manifests on the
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outside. Right, So that's that's what you really have to figure out,
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Like what is it that is sparking you? What is it that you want
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to go? Where do you want to go? And what is it that
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you want to do? And I know you, you know, you have
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some things that you like to talk about. You talk about mindfulness and using
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mindfulness as a superpower, And what do you mean like mindfulness? Because I
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know a lot of people hear the word it's a buzzword, but they might
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not really know exactly what it is that you mean by that. Yes,
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And I think it's important to talk a little bit about Like I had to
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do a lot of things to work through the stories that were holding me back,
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the self doubt that popped up all the time, that really kind of
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drove a lot of my decisions and just really how I moved through life.
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And I realized I was obviously, you know, in my work profession things
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were going well, but I really beat myself up a lot, and I
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kind of seet other people up a lot, whether I said it or not.
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And I even was so hard on myself that I really stifled myself in
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a lot of ways. And the energy work that I did, self discovery,
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the solo trips, the experience with different energy practitioners allowed me to move
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a lot of that heavier energy out of my body and create room for light
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and love. And one of the most instrumental things that I learned is mindfulness
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and mindful This was not something I was running towards, if I was totally
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honest, Like, mindfulness seemed to me like, oh god, that's such
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a ridiculous thing to do, you know, and it's right like, oh,
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there goes those woo woo people, right, Yes, absolutely, to
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be productive, I wanted to, you know, really kind of get things
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done all the time. And my mindfulness teacher was just not having it.
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She was like, JJ, you have to put the notebook away. I'm
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like, no, I might have a good thought or I got a plan,
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my grocery list, or and it took me weeks to realize that I
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was basically living in the future or reflecting on the path. I was not
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in the present moment, and mindfulness really taught me how to be in that
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present moment. Oh my god, No, it's I think most of us
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are there. We're easier, like thinking about everything that we have to do
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or going over everything that we've already experienced. Right, we were not very
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We're not present very often. So what does your mindfulness practice look like?
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Do you have a daily practice? Oh, I've thought about myself in the
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last eight years. You know, I really I really had a lot of
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work to do because I was so leaning in the masculine energy. I was
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so driven, and it took me a long time to unwind that. You
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know, I'm fifty now, so I've been working in that energy and that
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like productivity rat race for so long. And all of us have masculine feminine
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energy. But when you're in high tech, which I was, or many
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demanding careers, you mean so far in the masculine that you completely detached yourself
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from your knowing, your connection and your inner wisdom. Oh God, yeah,
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I mean totally. But what, like do you do a meditation,
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do you do like a ground being, a breathing exercise, like like what's
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see because because mindfulness can be very difficult for some people who is mind you
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know, goes in a million directions. So I like to give people who
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practice it, like what it is that they do that helps them get into
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that present moment. I love that. So one of my biggest one of
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the easiest things I do just to remind myself how easy it really is,
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is I either look out my window or I go outside and I find twenty
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things, recognize twenty things. And that's just things I see, but things
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I hear mal feel, and I really put myself in the present moment outside
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or even if I have to just look outside, right, I just really
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just put myself in the present moment. And it's amazing because when you were
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in the present moment and you're just recognizing everything that's happening around you, it's
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hard to be worried, it's hard to be fearful, it's hard to have
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anxiety because you're in the present moment. You're not thinking about what you already
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did or what you're leaning into next, and so that's the first thing that
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I do. That's obviously super easy. Oh yeah, that's actually that is
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really easy to just go outside and look around and say, oh, there's
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that you know here here it would be there's the lizard that I see,
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there's the palm trees, you know. But just like hearing the wind blowing
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through the trees, because it really does it forces you to be present.
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And that's that's actually a very good and I never even thought about it before,
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but that is a very good and easy way to get right into the
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present moment is to just get out of your office or your home, go
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outside for a few minutes and just experience what everything that you see smell here
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around you. Yeah, that is that's a really good tip. I think
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something easy for it for us. It's yeah, it's super easy. You
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mentioned something before, you said that you were super hard on yourself, and
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that if you had to be honest, you were hard on other people.
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A perfectionist or you a perfectionist? Would you consider yourself that? Yes,
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I did, and I pride myself on that too. But you know,
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I have a whole chapter, as you know, in the book it says,
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you know, it's the trap of perfectionism because it is a trap.
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It is very much a trap, and the trap is pretty insightful when you
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start to learn, like how much you lean on that to tell people who
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you are? Why do you think that? I mean you said you're like
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that with other people? And do you mean other people that you like?
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Your co workers, your friends, your family relationships. You sort of have
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that same energy energy with them, like you expected them to be perfect in
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certain situations. You think a lot of us are like that. I know
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a lot of us are like that with ourselves, but trying to think about
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with us, well, it's not necessarily that you force your perfectionism on others.
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When I think about it was hard on others, you know, the
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way I beat myself up inside, I often carried that over to others,
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and whether I said it out loud or not. So like if the coffee
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machine was empty, I'm like, who the heck would not make coffee when
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they took the last cup? Or I can't believe you cut me off,
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Or I can't believe the bank doors closed even with a minute ago, Like
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I'm actually a victim in my life in a lot of ways, and it
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really took me a lot of unwinding to realize that life was happening for me.
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Yeah, I have said that before. We always think life is happening
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to us and haven't switched over to looking at things as life is happening for
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us. I could see that now the way that you just said it,
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like, yeah, I have to admit that I've done that myself. I've
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about myself, you know, I don't really think about it is I never
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really thought about it as much as being hard on others or other situations.
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I always looked at it it is not having patience, But maybe that's just
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another way of saying the same thing, you know. And so with them,
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yes, and with the mindfulness, what I had to do is I
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really had to teach myself how to have gratitude. And gratitude is not about
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the great trip. Well, it could be about the great trip, the
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promotion, the extra vince, but gratitude is about you know, the smallest
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things in your life too, And if you can find nothing to be gratitude,
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have gratitude for that is exactly where you need to start. So gratitude
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for your legs, gas and you the car, money for lunch, or
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wherever you're starting from, because your frequency, from what I've learned, or
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your energy your level of energy which I call frequency, which I can go
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into later, but your energy attracts similar energy. And so if you are
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swimming in the mud puddle, which I have been there, you were going
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to attract other people in the mud puddle. Mm. No, That's why
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I created the course because I've learned that, and that's what I want to
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the workshop. I mean, that's what I wanted to That's why I want
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to do that with other people and help them tap into it, because it
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is just looking around our environment and what's already in our environment, the small
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things, the people in our environment, the experiences that we have on the
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daily basis that we take for granted, and once we tap into that,
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the shift is phenomenal. It's unbelievable how it shifts, and energy frequency exactly.
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So yeah, I'm glad that you mentioned that about gratitude because you know
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you're right. Yes, of course, Oh I'm so grateful I just had
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that wonderful vacation. Yes, it is that too, but is it I'm
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so grateful that when I open up my refrigerator, I can feed myself,
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feed myself. Well, you know, we take those things for granted,
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right, we do because it's just in our everyday environment, and many people
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don't have a lot of the things that you have or I have. So
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it's time that we utilize that and really tap into it because it does change
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your frequency. It totally shifts your vibration, and you do you bring more
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things off level of frequency or energy into your life. So that's that was
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my thought process because I've been working with Gratitude for years on what I wanted
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to create. Okay, so let's hold our thought right now because we'll talk
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more about this and so much other stuff that you're doing. Let's take our
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break here, we'll come back in just a few minutes, and then we'll
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jump right back in. So guys, stay tuned and be back in just
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coolest guests, trailblazers, mystics and creatives who enrich our lives. Hey,
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and welcome back if you're just joining me. I have authored jj D Geronimos
30:07
me today and we are talking about, you know, raising our frequency and
30:14
tapping into abundant energy. And her book is titled Seeking seventy four Key Findings
30:19
to raise your energy, sidestep yourself doubts, and align with your life's work.
30:26
So, J, how would you define your life's work? This is
30:33
a great question, And you know, I've been doing a lot of work
30:37
on this because I've had the opportunity to do a lot of different things.
30:41
And I wouldn't say that anyone's thing is my life's work, but all the
30:45
things that I've been touching, all the things that I've been creating, create
30:49
us thread for us. She moved through the different experiences that we create,
30:56
and as we raise our frequency, as we gained the lessons, new work
31:00
comes to us. And I feel like now with all this research of these
31:06
three books and all this self work that it had to do to really figure
31:10
out who I am and sort of why am I here on the planet,
31:14
I've learned that your life's work is an evolution of things that you focus your
31:21
energy and attention on. M Yeah, I think it has to. You
31:29
have to do the work like we touched on earlier, because you know,
31:33
when when you're listening to somebody. The people who are listening to our show
31:36
right now, right, they want to hear from somebody who's gone through it
31:41
and has done the work, you know, to help guide them if they're
31:45
stuck. Right, You know, you don't want to hear from somebody who
31:49
you know, no offense, but somebody who's all bright and shiny and everything's
31:53
always been perfect and given to them, has done no work trying to say
31:56
that, oh, well, I can help you with this, And you're
31:59
like, have you been through the the you know, the mass, And
32:02
they're like, no, I haven't, but I know what I'm talking about.
32:06
No, you want to talk to somebody who's like I have been in
32:08
the trenches. I have done the work, I have experienced the pain.
32:14
I've had to go through it. I know what I'm talking about. Right.
32:16
So, you know, so many of us have so much negative a
32:25
negative loop, like I'm trying to think about the right word I'm using for
32:29
like a negative loop in our head of self doubt, of self doubt,
32:31
of self doubt. And I know you talk a lot about self doubts.
32:36
So how do we go and move through that? You know, coming from
32:42
somebody who's had it herself and has done the work. Oh my gosh,
32:46
I had as much. I mean I had self doubts today. He's even
32:51
like last week or you know, to your y was like today. And
32:55
you know, I've been fortunate enough to spend a lot of time with scripts.
33:00
I've been in a lot of different rooms around the country and also Googly
33:05
online. And I will tell you you can teach, share, provide step
33:10
by step actions, steps that gets you from point A to point B.
33:21
But it doesn't matter if you are beating the crap out of yourself on a
33:24
regular basis. And I talk about even like the experience with my mother and
33:30
my experience with some friends that they talk a long time about what they're going
33:36
to do, but they're still on the side of the pool. They haven't
33:40
jumped in yet because they don't believe they're ready. Right. Well, we
33:46
do have to be ready right to do to jump to make the leap.
33:52
So how can you help anybody listening right now who's thinking I feel I'm ready,
34:00
but I'm scared. I don't know, you know, should I do
34:04
it? Like? What advice would you offer those listening? Well, I
34:08
definitely would like to ask you, how ready do you think you need to
34:12
be? Because research shows that most women feel even let's just take a job.
34:17
Let's not even talk about something they're creating something from scratch, but let's
34:21
just talk about either a job and your existing company or a job that you're
34:24
striving for. Research shows that most men feel comfortable applying at forty to sixty
34:30
percent. Men are women. You know, women have to apply. Most
34:35
women apply at a one hundred percent. And yes, so it's like,
34:42
if you're waiting to be a one hundred percent ready for something you've never done
34:45
before, you're probably never going to move off the mark. And the reality
34:51
is is they've done a ton. So I've done a ton of research with
34:53
women in STEM and I've done a lot of work with women in tech and
34:58
the National Center for in Technology Research women as stayed in STEM careers. And
35:04
the major differentiator is self efficacy. Now, self efficacy is not something that's
35:10
that you're born with. Self efficacy is something that you grow and expand.
35:15
Self efficacy is having a vision for where you want to go, which most
35:19
of us have a vision. But the second part is you have to believe
35:24
you can achieve it and you can only grow your self efficacy bucket. You
35:30
can only fill it up when you strive before you're one hundred percent ready.
35:37
So you're sitting waiting to be one hundred percent ready. Not only are you
35:40
not leaping in the direction you desire, but you're missing the opportunity to fill
35:46
up your self efficacy bucket. And so after my own research of doing this,
35:52
I've learned it's not because women are not capable. It's not because women
35:57
haven't pulled it across the finish line before. It's because how women talk toself.
36:01
And it wasn't until I took these mindfulness classes that I even could understand
36:07
how I was talking to myself because it creates The mindfulness class that took was
36:09
eight weeks long, three hours each class, So twenty four hours I had
36:15
to take this class, and I really didn't even get it until hour eighteen
36:20
because I was so busy trying to mastermind my participation. Oh yeah, it
36:29
makes sense, I mean it really really does, because I can see how
36:32
women would want to be like, well, I can't. I can't approach
36:37
that until I feel like, yeah, one hundred percent, I can handle
36:40
that job, I can handle that move, I can handle that thing.
36:45
Yeah, I think as I've gotten older, you know, and had more
36:49
experience behind me, I've gotten to the point where, truthfully, I'm just
36:52
like effort. I'm just gonna do it if it works. If it works,
36:55
it works. If it doesn't, it doesn't, you know, because
36:59
I don't care are as much what other people think of me any longer where
37:04
I used to do. You see, like that was also part of why
37:07
personally I held back, what is this so and so going to think?
37:10
What are these people going to think? Now? I'm like, what do
37:14
I think? It doesn't matter what anybody else thinks. It doesn't matter.
37:20
And I feel like for many of us, it might be other people for
37:23
sure, but it's really ourselves. Because I have a whole chapter on fears,
37:28
and a specially of fears of snake, fears of how, fears of
37:30
this, fears of that. But that's not the fears I'm talking about.
37:34
I'm thinking about the fear of looking stupid, the fear of being embarrassed,
37:40
the fear of not knowing the answer. Like, those are fears that we
37:45
struggle with every single day. And there's so many times in my life and
37:49
I talk about this where I wanted to do something, but my voice in
37:52
my head was so strong that I was so afraid of looking ridiculous that I
37:59
chosen not to lean in. Yeah, oh yeah, And I'm sure everyone
38:04
listening can resonate with that. Now, now you said something, men are
38:10
slightly different in their approach. Now do men have that same voice that makes
38:16
them feel, you know, like, oh, I'm afraid to try this
38:21
because I don't want to look ridiculous, or is a stronger component in women?
38:25
Men also have it. So I did speak with Pauline and decorated the
38:31
self imposter syndrome. I did speak with her about it, and men and
38:35
women have it equally, but women can pay a lot more attention to it.
38:39
We have a lot more self doubt than men do in the sense because
38:43
we are kind of often taught as a young child to kind of stay behind
38:45
the scenes, right, And I think for many of us that it can
38:51
be really daunting, depending on what our parents has said to us, depending
38:54
on how our moms show it up in the relationship. It's just it can
38:58
be really daunting. And I think for many of us, there's a lot
39:01
of things we have to work through, and many of those things I've included
39:06
in the book because I'm a three in human design, and my three is
39:09
like, let me go out and try every single thing I could figure out,
39:13
and then I'm going to bring back the best things that really work to
39:15
help you too. Okay, yeah, that makes a lot of sense.
39:22
But so for those who want to learn how to work around their self doubt,
39:27
what would you recommend? Well, I think first you really need to
39:31
understand what is your primary stories in your head? What do you what happens?
39:36
And if you start to say I'm going to check this out or I'm
39:38
going to start this, I'm going to do that, are what are the
39:42
first things you say to yourself? You know? Is it is it you
39:46
know in no way? Or is it oh yes you can or is it
39:51
maybe not now? Or let me just see what I can do. And
39:53
I think really monitoring your stories is such a critical piece because you're going to
39:59
have it and I still have the stories. They come up all the time,
40:02
and the self doubt comes up all the time. But now, because
40:06
of mindfulness, I actually can compartmentalize that, or I can trick myself and
40:10
be like, let me just see what I can do. As Jensen Cyril
40:14
would say, let me just see what I can do, because then there's
40:16
not as much pressure you have it all figured out before you get started.
40:23
Yes, now that's really really good advice. Yeah, let me just see
40:29
what I can do. Let me just Yeah. I think that is something
40:31
good because we do. We all have self doubts. And the more you
40:35
do work on yourself, the more you're going to start to see your stories,
40:38
whatever story you have about whatever, your story about relationships, your story
40:43
about money. I talk about money stories all the time, your story about
40:46
your career, your story about your body. Right, we tell ourselves these
40:50
stories, and the story is what's leading our lives, not the things,
40:54
not what we really want. So it's good to find out what your story
41:00
is. And if you have something that keeps coming up for you that you
41:05
don't like, it might be a good time to actually do the work and
41:08
say, why is this keep coming up? What am I telling myself about
41:12
this? Right? I'm sure that you've discovered so many of those in your
41:15
work when you started doing the work. Oh, and I had to write
41:19
them down. And I also work with a lot of energy practitioners because form
41:22
new energy practitioners are people that help you remove the energy that's not working for
41:28
you, and through that removal, you find more opportunities to have gratitude,
41:34
more opportunities to raise your energy and be really kind of participate in the evolution
41:42
of your experience. And I think that's really where the light comes from.
41:46
When you can take your frequency. If you think of frequency like a radio
41:50
station, right, FM radio is frequency modulation. So if you could take
41:53
your frequency from a ninety two point five to a ninety seven point three or
41:58
even a ninety eight point for that takes a lot of practice and self discipline
42:04
to get to that level, but there's a lot of beauty in that journey
42:07
and a lot of things you can let go of that are no longer serving
42:09
you. Oh yeah, oh my god. Definitely. That's everything that that
42:17
I'm doing. That's why I do the show. That's why I have talked
42:21
to people who are doing the work that you're doing. And I have so
42:22
many energy healers onto because I love to work with energy healers myself energy practitioners
42:30
because I do think that there's a lot of stuff that is self imposed that
42:35
keeps us from living the life that we really desire. So you know,
42:38
That's why I love to share the messages som somebody's listening right now and they're
42:45
thinking, it's time. I gotta I gotta do something. I gotta I
42:50
gotta shake up my life. I gotta shift some things, I gotta make
42:52
some changes. How what is the first step? Like, what would you
43:00
tell somebody like should they seek out a professional, should they start with,
43:05
you know, mindfulness practice, just breathing exercises, Like what would be the
43:07
first step in moving their life forward? I think for many of us,
43:14
I mean this is essentially like I wrote the book so that I could basically
43:17
give people a tool kit to figure out where to start. So if the
43:22
chapters about mothers, your relationship with your mother really calls to you, then
43:28
that's the chapters you should start on in the book seeking If you have money
43:31
issues where you can't get started because they cost too much money, or you
43:35
don't have the money, or money just isn't available to get it going,
43:38
then you should start on chapter twenty four. You know, money is a
43:42
fertile for many like you need to sort of open the book and find some
43:45
of the struggles that you may be experiencing so you can have that on need
43:51
some insight, but some tools to start thinking. Okay, because in the
43:53
appendix, I've included not only all the articles and books, but all of
43:58
the practitioners I've worked with, all the websites I've visited, all the just
44:04
great resources and people in my community that have helped me work through some really
44:09
challenging times in my life and stories I had to move through. So the
44:14
appendix is what people say they love so much because I just put it all
44:17
out there. I just give every contact that I've ever worked with in each
44:22
chapter so that you two can create the benefits for yourself. Yeah, and
44:28
you also include questions, which are always great because sometimes we don't know how
44:34
to name what it is we're feeling or what we want unless it's written out
44:39
in a question, and then it causes us to sit down and think and
44:43
see what comes out when we answer the questions. So you've geared your questions
44:46
to help guide us in making some decisions about some of the things that we
44:53
need to work on in our lives. Absolutely, and I think for many
44:59
of us, it's just about having an organized way to kind of figure out
45:04
how to move forward. I think like we all have the ability and if
45:07
you're listening right now. I really find that there are no accidents and that
45:12
there's something in our conversation that is here to guide, help, be a
45:16
resource for you. And I'm always watching and listening to see what the universe
45:22
brings across my path. Yeah, yeah, do you how do you handle
45:30
let's just say, a bad day. You wake up and some of the
45:34
old subconscious programming is running. You're having a really bad day. Things aren't
45:38
going the way that you would hoped. What helps you get right back into
45:44
yourself? Is it the mindfulness practice that you started doing? Well? Definitely
45:49
like having gratitude, but sometimes it's just things are just not going. I
45:52
mean, I have teenagers, and I have a business, and I do
45:55
a lot of everything that everyone else does, and so I have triggers often,
46:00
but I have teenagers. All you even say is I have teenatures right
46:05
right? Yeah? Okay and those surly teenagers. Oh god, okay,
46:10
exactly. So I find that for me, I use my phone as a
46:15
tool. I have I follow people on YouTube that have inspiring content. I
46:21
have audibles where I have books I listen to and books that I never take
46:25
off that I could pop into any chapter. I have a dog. So
46:30
going for a walk without my phone and finding twenty things is often like,
46:36
Okay, life is bigger than me. I will move through this. Life
46:40
is happening for me. What is the lesson? Like? I have to
46:43
talk myself through that, because our relationships are often our biggest triggers. And
46:47
so if you're getting triggered by relationships, you know, starting to really think
46:52
about why are they triggering me? Where is this in my body? How
46:58
did this story start? Because often you'll see repetitive behavior from people when you
47:04
were growing up to people that are now. So I took to a woman
47:07
the other day. She was so upset at work and she was telling me
47:10
about this person that was driving her bananas, And I was like, who
47:15
else has driven you crazy like this in your life? And without a beat,
47:21
she said, my brother. Is it possible that there was a lesson
47:25
you had to learn with your brother that's not finished and maybe it's coming forward
47:30
in this coworker? Yeah, now, I'm glad you brought that up.
47:35
That's a really good point. So what do you do if you have a
47:40
person who you have to sort of have a relationship with in some shape or
47:45
form, like your children, let's say, or your parents or your siblings,
47:50
and they trigger you. How to work through that? And you don't
47:53
want to give up the relationship Because we're not talking about abuse or where something
47:58
is so toxic that sometimes you have to away. I'm just talking about the
48:00
triggers. But they really get under your skin and trigger you. How do
48:05
you handle that? Well, I'm listening to The Vortex right now by Esther
48:08
Hicks and Jury Hick, and I have listened to that many times in the
48:14
past. It's been a while, but I love that book. What does
48:15
they say? So? Esther says that everything that is happening outside you is
48:22
happening inside you. So if somebody is triggering you, there is something inside
48:28
you that you have to work through. So again, what is the lesson?
48:31
What is the lesson? And this is how I use energy workers.
48:34
I say, I go to them and I share all my energy workers inside
48:37
my community. Together we seek and I just share them all because I want
48:40
everybody to have easy ways to work through their practice, no longer serving them.
48:45
And I say, okay this. You know when a Kathy is someone
48:47
I work with, Okay, so Kathy, she's in Cincinnati, and I'll
48:51
say Kathy, this is my trigger. Or you know there's a woman I
48:53
work without at Colorado and I'm like, okay, how you know how why
48:58
is this triggering? She does by and Katie work, so she's I'm like,
49:00
why is this triggering me? And I think finding people to help you
49:05
work through your triggers is so powerful. Yeah, yes, because truthfully,
49:14
excuse me, I'm joking. Truthfully, you want to work through it because
49:22
it makes you a happier person inside. And that is the more of us
49:27
that do that kind of work, the better the world will be right because
49:31
people will be in more joy, gratitude and love. And you want to
49:37
be around those kind of people. You don't want to be around surly,
49:39
miserable, angry people all the time. Well, and the reality is this,
49:46
we need more women at more tables. And so the why I do
49:51
the work i'm doing is because I'm trying to share my best practices with other
49:55
people they are primarily women, to say, hey, this is how I
50:00
started working from the inside out, and my outside changed because I did the
50:05
work on the inside. And I want women to feel empowered enough to do
50:08
that work wherever it makes sense to start, so that they can lean into
50:14
what is calling them. If they're supposed to open a farm, or they're
50:16
supposed to be on a board, or maybe they're supposed to head the PTO
50:20
or run for a political office, or you know, maybe start a business.
50:23
It doesn't matter to me what is calling you. But what I want
50:27
you to do is I want you to have tools so that you feel strong
50:30
enough and supportive enough to lean into what is calling you. Oh, we
50:37
definitely need more women at the table, that is for sure. Oh my
50:40
god. So I'm happy to hear that you're doing this kind of work and
50:46
more women are coming to the table, you know. I mean, it's
50:51
happening. We're seeing it happen. Not as fast as I would like,
50:53
but it is happening. What about, Sue, with men, are you
50:58
finding more men are interested in doing some of this internal work? I sign
51:06
that, met. Yeah. I mean this last week I had an event,
51:08
a women's event for lawyers, accountants and financial women that was organized by
51:15
men for the women clients and women in their office. So I feel like
51:21
men, you know, are ready, you know, are ready to engage
51:27
in new ways. Not all men, you know, not all men,
51:30
and not all women either. And I always tell women if you're looking for
51:32
a sponsor or somebody to kind of help, you, look for people that
51:37
support other people in their life. So whether that's a significant other, their
51:40
kids, other co workers, people that report to them. Generally you know
51:45
people you can see people that are supporting other people's journeys, and those are
51:49
the people you want to work around. Yes, those are the people that
51:53
you want to work around, for sure. And there's so much support out
51:58
there for all of us. We just have to seek it out and look
52:00
for it. So I wanted to share. I wanted you to talk a
52:04
little bit about this because I have spoken about this in the past and I
52:07
have learned to do it, and it's very powerful. And the power of
52:13
no. What is the power of no? Because I love it. I
52:16
love the word no. Yes. So yeah, I have taught myself and
52:22
consequently taught many many other people how to sort of think about what you're saying
52:30
yes too, because your time is one of your most valuable assets. And
52:35
if you're giving it away so freely because you feel guilty, you think you
52:38
should, you want to be liked, you're not going to have a lot
52:42
of time to lean into the work you need to do inside or the work
52:46
that's calling you, and so I worked. I share this chart, the
52:52
sixth column chart called the power of note. I share questions. A book
52:54
chapter from my second book was anybody who wants it, that wants to have
52:59
a more impactful life, And it really starts with where you align your time.
53:05
God, saying no is become so freeing. I can't even begin to
53:12
tell people who are listening it really is. And it's especially hard for people
53:15
pleasers to say no. Right, we know this, so it's a good
53:21
practice to start saying no more two things that you're not interested in doing.
53:25
It really is very powerful. We only have, like I can't even believe
53:30
it. We only have like a couple of minutes, a few minutes left.
53:31
So is there something that you want to share that you think it's important,
53:36
Something I didn't get to with you today or didn't get a chance to
53:39
ask you that you feel that could be a benefit. Well, I would
53:45
say that you know where you are right now is no accident. Whatever you're
53:50
going through is perfectly orchestrated for you. And if you happen to be listening
53:54
to our conversation, it's really the universe's way to get you a life jacket
54:01
to say, hey, we can help you get out of this. You
54:05
need to do some inside work. You need to understand who you are,
54:08
what you talk about, where you spend your time, and what you're focusing
54:13
on. So really see this as one of the lessons or tools if the
54:17
universe is putting across your path right now as a way to kind of move
54:22
to the next step of your journey. Yes, exactly, you're right.
54:28
It is no accident. If you're coming across this show and you're listening to
54:32
us today, then that was a message that you needed to hear for some
54:37
reason, So pay attention to that. So JJ the best way for people
54:40
if they want to connect with you, or do you work with people one
54:44
on one? Can you can tell us a little bit about that. Yes,
54:47
So I actually do a lot of live work right inside my community.
54:52
Together. We speak dot online and then I speak at a lot of women's
54:57
converss, so people usually find me there. But I getting ready to help
55:00
women that have books on their heart and on their mind, or maybe they've
55:05
eve been written it. I'm getting ready to sort of teach how do you
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publish an award winning book? So I'm getting all the details together for that.
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Oh that's exciting. Yeah, because as an author myself, you put
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a book out there and then what right? Or maybe you just have an
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idea and you're like, I need help, somebody help me put this book
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together. But what happens once the book is burst? And then you're like,
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Okay, well what am I going to do with it? Now?
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How do I get it in front of people? So that's going to be
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very beneficial. What is the best website or social media that you like people
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to connect with you on? Well, YouTube, I'm on a lot.
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I'm starting to do a lot more interviews than videos on YouTube, so that's
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a great social platform. And then of course LinkedIn being a businesswoman, and
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then Instagram. Perfect. All right, guys, check her out. Thank
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you so much, JJ, with such a pleasure having you here with me
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today. All right, everybody, thank you for listening to Postcards to the
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Universe with Melissa creating the life you crave. And I'm wishing everyone a wonderful
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week filled with joy, abundance and love. Stay safe, everybody. Peace,