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#421 I'll Do Better This Christmas · Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families

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  Speaker 1: It's the Happy Families Podcast.
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  Speaker 2: Be really intentional about the way you engage with one another.
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  Speaker 2: Connection is the heart of relationships, it's the heart of happiness.
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  Speaker 3: And now here's the stars of our show, my mum
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  Speaker 3: and dad.
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  Speaker 2: I'm feeling a little bit emotional. I'm very, very excited,
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  Speaker 2: but I'm a little bit sad. This is our last
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  Speaker 2: podcast episode of twenty twenty one.
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  Speaker 1: It's over.
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  Speaker 4: It's been a big year, it really has. We've had floods,
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  Speaker 4: we've lost of dog.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, well that's the living room, Mother's Day, Mother's Wow.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, now we've shared it with you all.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, it's been wonderful to be able to enjoy twenty
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  Speaker 2: twenty one on the podcast and do what we can
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  Speaker 2: to help make your family happy. Out by the way,
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  Speaker 2: We're Justin and Kylie Coulson. I'm the parenting expert on
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  Speaker 2: Parental Guidance Channel Lines, reality TV show about families and parenting,
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  Speaker 2: and the founder of Happy Families dot com dot and
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  Speaker 2: Coylie and.
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  Speaker 1: I are the mum and dad of six kids.
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  Speaker 2: And as we wrap up the year with our podcast,
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  Speaker 2: we're going to keep this one really simple and really short.
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  Speaker 2: Three things to help you have a very merry Christmas.
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  Speaker 3: Number one, We've got to check in with our own
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  Speaker 3: value systems. I think so often we get caught up
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  Speaker 3: in what Christmas should or is supposed to look like by.
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  Speaker 2: Some I don't know everybody's expectations.
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  Speaker 4: Of what it should look like.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, and we lose ourselves in the process. So I
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  Speaker 3: think checking in and just realigning with our own value
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  Speaker 3: systems will make such a difference to how Christmas feels
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  Speaker 3: this year.
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  Speaker 2: Can I ask you, honestly if you were to tell
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  Speaker 2: me your top three things in terms of values for
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  Speaker 2: you this Christmas?
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  Speaker 1: Because we haven't had this conversation. I mean, this is
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  Speaker 1: really important.
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  Speaker 2: What would you say will help Christmas to go well
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  Speaker 2: based on your top three values around this time of year.
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  Speaker 4: Connecting with our family with our children.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, so not extended family, just connecting with you,
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  Speaker 2: me and our kids.
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  Speaker 1: That's Number one.
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  Speaker 3: A simple day where we just we're actually not worried
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  Speaker 3: about all of the details. We're actually just able to
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  Speaker 3: spend time together.
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  Speaker 2: So subtract and reduce. Except for the food. I want
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  Speaker 2: an abundance of food.
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  Speaker 4: Are you cooking?
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  Speaker 1: I'll be involved. What's your third one?
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  Speaker 4: It's not about the gifts.
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  Speaker 3: The three things will kind of lead to to the
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  Speaker 3: one thing we don't need stuff.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, well, I'm going to add faith. I really want
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  Speaker 2: to have a faith full Christmas as well. But this
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  Speaker 2: is the purpose of the conversation, and you can see,
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  Speaker 2: I mean I've done that right now with you, to
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  Speaker 2: help anyone who's listening to recognize how easy it is
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  Speaker 2: to just zero in on what are our top three
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  Speaker 2: things for Christmas. If we can just get those three
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  Speaker 2: things right, everything else will be fine. So to help
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  Speaker 2: you to have a very merry Christmas, number one, check
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  Speaker 2: in with your values. Number two I'm going to recommend,
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  Speaker 2: as an extension of that, be really intentional about the
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  Speaker 2: way you.
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  Speaker 1: Engage with one another.
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  Speaker 2: Connection is the heart of relationships, It's the heart of happiness.
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  Speaker 2: Minimize screens.
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  Speaker 4: I can even go on a screen sabbatical.
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  Speaker 1: I don't think that we're going to have the capacity
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  Speaker 1: to do that.
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  Speaker 4: Oh I plan on making that happens.
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  Speaker 2: Well, I guess there's a fourth value that needed to
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  Speaker 2: come into number one there. But we know that screens
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  Speaker 2: can be in some circumstances brilliant for bringing the family together,
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  Speaker 2: and other times it can be just devastating for what
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  Speaker 2: a family looks like. And Christmas is a time for connection.
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  Speaker 2: So get the balance right when it comes to screens
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  Speaker 2: and books and any other distractions.
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  Speaker 1: Be together.
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  Speaker 2: It's just so important, and I know that not everyone
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  Speaker 2: gets to have that, and there's a level of privilege
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  Speaker 2: associated with saying, let's be together with the people we love.
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  Speaker 1: Some people can't well.
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  Speaker 3: And sometimes screens play a huge part in being able
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  Speaker 3: to be together.
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  Speaker 4: This last two years we've seen.
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  Speaker 3: Well with COVID, Yeah, boost in zoom and face time,
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  Speaker 3: face time, all of these other ways that we can
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  Speaker 3: connect with families and it makes such a difference. But
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  Speaker 3: utilizing it for those things and not for other things
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  Speaker 3: that would distract us and take us away from people.
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  Speaker 2: And the third thing to help you have a very
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  Speaker 2: merry Christmas. Don't get sunburn or frost bite. Oh yeah,
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  Speaker 2: for anyone who's in the northern hemisphere. Avoid the cold
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  Speaker 2: or avoid the heat so that you can be healthy
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  Speaker 2: and happy. You don't drink too much if you're a drinker,
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  Speaker 2: look after the people around.
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  Speaker 1: You, and have a wonderful Christmas.
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  Speaker 2: Hey, right after the break, one more quick thing that
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  Speaker 2: we need to mention, and then that's it for the year.
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  Speaker 1: It's the Happy Families podcast. Are Screens Creating Tension at home? Tweens?
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  Speaker 3: Teens and Screens is a webinar to guide families to healthy,
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  Speaker 3: safe super screen solutions.
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  Speaker 2: Bye today at happy families dot com dot au slash shop.
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  Speaker 3: It's the Happy Families podcast, the podcast with a time
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  Speaker 3: poor parent who just wants answers. Now, I just almost
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  Speaker 3: forgot what I was going to say.
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  Speaker 1: You're so relaxed.
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  Speaker 4: Well I am.
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  Speaker 1: It's almost over happy Christmas.
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  Speaker 2: I love it when it's been a long time since
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  Speaker 2: I've worked in an office, But I used to love
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  Speaker 2: the last couple of days in the lead up to
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  Speaker 2: Christmas in the office because everyone was just so relaxed.
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  Speaker 1: And that's kind of where you are.
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  Speaker 2: I mean, you're reclining in the chair right now where
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  Speaker 2: we're recording the podcast.
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  Speaker 4: It's behind my bag.
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  Speaker 2: I just need to drink rancho relax. So I'll go
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  Speaker 2: and get you a soda what do you call it?
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  Speaker 2: Or so you really forgot what it's called. I'll go
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  Speaker 2: and get you a soda stream in just a second.
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  Speaker 4: As long as there's a wedge of line with a.
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  Speaker 2: Wedge of line off our lime tree, it's coming right
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  Speaker 2: up as soon as we finish the podcast. Hey, I
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  Speaker 2: just want to mention a couple of things in relation
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  Speaker 2: to the podcast.
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  Speaker 1: This year, we've closed.
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  Speaker 2: In on two million downloads of the podcast two million,
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  Speaker 2: So can I just say a tremendously big thank you
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  Speaker 2: to everyone who has been a Happy Family's listener during
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  Speaker 2: twenty twenty one. We hope that you've enjoyed the podcast,
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  Speaker 2: and we're so grateful that you do listen and give
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  Speaker 2: us an opportunity to have a little bit of a
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  Speaker 2: little bit of reach, a little bit of influence in
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  Speaker 2: your homes, to make your family happier. It's why we
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  Speaker 2: do what we do, and we're so, so very grateful.
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  Speaker 2: We also really appreciate the work of JR. Our brilliant
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  Speaker 2: producer who makes the podcast come alive and sound as
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  Speaker 2: good as it does, because if I was in charge
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  Speaker 2: of doing all that work, it would not sound.
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  Speaker 1: Nearly as good. And Craig Bruce, our executive producer. Craig
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  Speaker 1: is just wonderful.
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  Speaker 2: It keeps us on track, but he's a great listener
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  Speaker 2: and a really thoughtful creative guy who helps the podcast
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  Speaker 2: to come alive with the ideas that we have. I
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  Speaker 2: don't think that the podcast could sound anything like it
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  Speaker 2: sounds now if it wasn't for Jr.
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  Speaker 1: And Craig.
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  Speaker 2: So, gentlemen, we really appreciate both of you for the
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  Speaker 2: great work that you do, and to a Happy Family's
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  Speaker 2: team who help people to actually get access to the
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  Speaker 2: podcast by loading it up and by promoting it and
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  Speaker 2: by sharing links and all the social media stuff.
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  Speaker 1: And everything around it. We have a great team who
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  Speaker 1: make this podcast work.
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  Speaker 3: You know. One of the things that I just am
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  Speaker 3: so grateful for when I think about all of the
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  Speaker 3: people that we have surrounded us in the Happy Families team,
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  Speaker 3: is just this amazing group of people who not only
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  Speaker 3: are doing the very best in their own sphere, but
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  Speaker 3: they have such a belief in what we are trying
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  Speaker 3: to achieve here at Happy Families.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah. They really biny into the mission of Happy Families.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, and we couldn't do it without them.
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  Speaker 1: So JR.
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  Speaker 2: Craig, Happy Family's Team, and to all of our Happy
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  Speaker 2: Families podcast listeners, thank you, Thank you so very much.
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  Speaker 2: We hope that you have a wonderful Merry Christmas and
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  Speaker 2: a fabulous festive season, and we'll see you again in
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  Speaker 2: twenty twenty two.
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  Speaker 4: Merry Christmas,