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Are Narcissists JEALOUS of everyone? · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  What is going on beautiful folks?
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  Today we're going to be answering the question, are
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  narcissists jealous of everyone? If you new here, my name is Lee
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  Hammock. I'm a self aware narcissist and
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  welcome to another episode of the Narcissist Code.
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  So boom, welcome back, welcome back, welcome back, folks.
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  Yes, yes, yes, yes, I'm shooting in the car.
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  No, I'm not living in the car. I'm at my mom's house.
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  I didn't get a chance to shoot my video earlier, so I was just
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  like, I got to get my video out and whatnot.
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  But yeah, yo, oh, narcissist, jealous of everyone.
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  I feel like that's the question so many people ask me.
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  I'll say this, most narcissist are jealous.
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  Most of them I can't. The reason I say most is because
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  I don't like speaking in absolutes.
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  I know most people, a lot of people will come out here and
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  say all narcissists are jealous of everybody, but not all
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  narcissists are jealous of everybody.
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  I feel like most narcissists are jealous of people, but you have
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  to have something that the narcissist wants in order for
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  them to be jealous of you. You know what I'm saying?
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  I know it sounds confusing, I know it sounds conflicting, but
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  bear with me right here. Y'all narcissistic people, toxic
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  people like want everything. They feel like they're entitled
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  to everything. Like we feel like we're entitled
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  to every single thing that we want just because we are us,
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  just because we are us. We feel like we're entitled to
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  every single thing on this plane just because I'm me and we, we
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  don't get it when somebody else gets it.
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  We, we, when we see somebody else what, what we feel like we
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  deserve not what we want, but we deserve that.
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  Yes, we can be jealous or envious of that person.
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  Absolutely yes. And this is a lot of narcissists
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  have the jealousy component right.
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  But I feel like it's not just jealousy, it's envy.
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  I will leave jealousy and EVO the same thing.
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  Not for me, not for me. I feel like jealousy is being,
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  you know, feeling wanting something, wanting something
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  that someone else has, right? I feel like envy is wanting
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  someone, wanting something that someone else has and trying to
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  take it from them. You know what I'm saying?
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  I feel like jealousy, OK? I want that.
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  You can keep it. I want it.
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  Envy is like, I want that. And you don't deserve to have
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  it. So I'm.
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  I'm going to try to take it from you type stuff right here.
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  You don't deserve it. I feel like I'm more entitled to
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  it than you are. So, yeah, there are a lot of
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  narcissists and toxic people out there, right?
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  Yeah. Y'all, they're absolutely just
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  incredibly jealous of you and y'all.
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  And jealousy doesn't always have to do with physical things.
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  Jealousy, them being jealous of you can have to do emote like
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  they can be jealous of your ability to to express emotions.
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  And I know that right there sounds weird to a lot of people.
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  Narcissist can be jealous of the fact that you can experience
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  emotions. I know that sounds ignorant.
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  Like they get jealous of the fact that you have the ability
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  to be happy like you have the ability to be happy.
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  So that makes them jealous of you.
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  I know that sounds ignorant because it is.
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  It is ignorant. It's crazy as hell to even have
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  to utter that out loud. Like they get jealous of you for
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  being happy because narcissists can't be fully happy.
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  And this is my belief y'all? I feel like most narcissists
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  don't have the ability to be fully happy for extended periods
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  of time. Like being content.
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  Being content with what we have escapes us, right?
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  Being content escapes most narcissists.
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  Like we can be happy in the moment, but we need something
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  major to make us happy. So when we are not happy, like
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  when we have a little spurts of happiness, that's when we lose
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  right there. That's when we lose it and
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  become jealous and envious of other people, right?
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  You can be happy like you come home from work, like you come
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  from home from work. You haven't like you and you're
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  just smiling. You had a, you had a rough day
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  at work, but you're just happy to be alive.
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  And the narcissist had a good day at work and they're just mad
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  as hell. They're depressed.
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  They're like, why the hell do you get to be happy?
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  And I don't they get jealous or envious of your happiness and
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  guess what happens? They try to take it from you.
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  You ever been happy around a narcissist?
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  And they just get angry as hell for no reason, Seemingly no
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  reason. Like you beat your happiness
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  seems to upset them. You being happy seems like it
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  just gets on their damn nerves. You like you can't explain you
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  like Lee, I don't know what the hell happened.
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  Like I didn't say. I haven't said anything
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  different. I haven't done anything
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  different. It's just like I came home one
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  day and my partner's angry as hell at me for no reason.
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  I came home, I was laughing, I was whistling in the kitchen,
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  'cause I was so happy. And then my partner, my husband
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  and my wife or whatever, my kids, my dad, my mom, whoever,
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  whoever the narcissist is in your life, your coworker, your
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  boss, whoever it is, they get upset and try to take the
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  happiness away from you. Y'all sorry y'all.
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  But yeah, narcissistic people, I don't think that we are jealous
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  of everyone. You have to have something that
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  we want. I feel like that's just the
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  truth to it right there. If you don't have anything we
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  want, we don't be. We can't be jealous of you, you
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  know what I'm saying? We're not too jealous of.
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  I mean, I feel like there is little things that can set them
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  off your success. They can be jealous of your
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  happiness. They can be jealous of your
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  property, your objects, your money, your finances, whatever
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  that is. Like that stuff that they might
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  feel like they want and they can be jealous of because you have
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  it and they and they, they themselves like it.
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  We lack it. I mean narcissist, I lack it as
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  well. You know what I'm saying?
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  I'm coming from a place of lack as well, but that's what
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  narcissistic people do. Like I'm in the crazy nobody
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  this. I'm a jealous narcissist, but
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  I'm not an envious narcissist. Like right, I'm jealous.
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  I like, damn, why can't I? Like even when I had like, even
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  when my platform was growing right on TikTok, I had a
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  million. Like, so when I hit a million, I
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  was happy that I hit a million, but I saw somebody else with 1.1
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  million. I was like, why the hell am I?
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  Why, why don't I have 1.1 million?
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  Why I don't have 1.5 million? I wasn't happy with what I had.
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  I was jealous of the people who were ahead of me.
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  What makes them better than me? I was making all kinds of
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  excuses in my head and being angry with people.
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  I still, I still harbor some of that right now.
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  And it sucks to harbor that, you know what I'm saying?
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  It sucks to harbor that type of stuff right there.
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  It sucks to harbor that type of stuff in your mindset and to
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  deal with it being a self aware narcissist.
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  Everyone said like I don't a lot of people.
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  Like I wish my husband and my wife could be self aware.
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  Yeah, self-awareness is tough sometimes, right?
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  Self-awareness, being a self aware narcissist can be
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  extremely tough as hell to deal with.
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  And no, no, no, no, I'm not trying to make excuses y'all.
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  I'm not trying to say, well leave making excuses for his
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  horrible behaviors. No, he's not.
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  Lee is emitting his horrible behaviors and his jealousy and
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  envy. He doesn't have to admit that
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  type of stuff. He can keep it in right?
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  I can keep that stuff in good night.
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  But I chose not to. I'm choosing not to.
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  But that's the mentality that so many people face.
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  We are dealing with an abusive narcissist.
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  It really is. There's something I'll be
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  rooting for everybody to do better, to feel better, to be
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  better. That's what I do.
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  I'm rooting for so many people to be better, to live better
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  lives and things of that nature. That's what I'll be rooting so
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  hard for y'all. I'll be cheering from the
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  rooftops for y'all to just be as successful as as possible.
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  But you have to realize if you're dealing with a jealous
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  narcissistic partner, they're going to try to pull you down.
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  If they're jealous of you, they're not going to cheer for
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  you. If they're jealous or envious of
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  you, they're going to try to pull you down to their level.
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  They're going to try to make you take major setbacks in your
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  life. They're going to try to hurt you
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  in any way that they feel like they possibly can and they can
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  get away with it. They're going to try to do a lot
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  of damage to you. So this is something that you
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  have to prepare for. It really is.
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  It's just one of those things like mentally, emotionally,
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  physically that you have to prepare for because if you
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  don't, they're just going to take advantage of you and pull
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  you down. It sucks to have a it sucks to
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  have a jealous narcissist as a partner that's rooting against
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  you and cheering against you cheer like praying for your
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  praying for your downfall instead of trying to help you
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  out. It sucks to have that, that
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  person. It sucks to have that as be a
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  possibility that goes on. It absolutely does suck.
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  It really does. So I'm telling so many people
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  like in this, with this mindset, with this mentality, this is the
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  type of stuff that you have to learn how to deal with.
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  This is the type of stuff you have to learn how to battle or
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  compete with combat with the narcissistic toxic people don't
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  want to see you win unless somehow they can take credit for
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  it. And just like when they see you
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  winning and they're able to take credit for it, it also means
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  that they still are jealous of you.
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  Sometimes instead of trying to pull you back from the being
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  jealous, if they can't stop you, they just try to take credit for
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  it in order to make themselves feel better.
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  They just try to take credit for your success.
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  They try to take credit for the thing that you have going on,
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  the victories that you're achieving.
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  They try to take credit for that type of stuff.
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  Like they try, Oh, you were you in the graduated from school?
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  If I would remember that the day your car you call right under
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  gas, you had a test. Well, if I would have came and
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  picked you up, you wouldn't have been able to graduate.
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  So it's kind of both of our degree.
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  See if they can see if they can put my name on a degree too.
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  See if they can put my name like see if they can give me like you
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  would have got that promotion if I would have helped you go to
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  work there one time. Like you see, they will try to
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  take credit for the stuff that you have accomplished because
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  they're jealous of it because they can't like internally we
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  can't handle the fact that you are moving forward.
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  And yes, the jealousy can start to provoke in a narcissist mind.
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  The jealousy can start to provoke the fear of you leaving
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  them. The jealousy can just like,
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  activate some abandonment issues.
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  Imagine you, you're your partner being so jealous that it
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  activates abandonment issues. You know what I mean?
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  How crazy? How crazy does that sound?
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  Like your partner is so jealous of you that it activates your
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  abandonment issues. I know that sounds ignorant as
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  hell, but yeah, there's a truth to it right there.
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  Your partner is so unbelievably jealous that it activates your
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  your abandoned that they're activates their abandonment
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  issues and they start treating you worse because they're afraid
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  that you're going to abandon them because you're becoming
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  more successful. And narcissists like it is, is
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  not limited to their partners. Narcissists can be jealous of
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  their children as well. You know, there are a lot of
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  narcissists that are absolutely jealous of their children, that
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  they're people that they themselves birth or contributed
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  to birthing or, you know, provided something for the birth
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  or whatever. They can be jealous of their
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  children, they can be jealous of their children's looks, how they
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  look, how they how smart they are, their successes, their
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  height, their weight, their bodies.
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  They they can be jealous of their children.
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  And if a narcissist is jealous of their children, they will
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  absolutely try to hold them back.
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  They just will just imagine you'll be a parent and it's a
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  lot of some of y'all have experienced is your parents
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  being so jealous of you that they try to hold you back from
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  being successful. They try to hold you back from
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  living the life that you deserve.
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  I know it sounds like absolute insanity, but so many people
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  face this y'all so many people face this and deal with this on
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  a daily basis. It is absolutely insane that so
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  many people have to combat this. So many people have to face
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  this. Y'all, it really is.
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