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The Choice To Befriend Your Children Plus The Words But And That Why Do We Use Them · Arroe Collins Like It's Live

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  Speaker 1: How many times have you been in the car You're
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  Speaker 1: at a red light for just a brief moment, and
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  Speaker 1: it wasn't enough time to switch podcasts. Because I am
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  Speaker 1: a podcast listener, I know what it's like to be
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  Speaker 1: so involved in a story and then from out of nowhere,
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  Speaker 1: it's like, I'm bored, I'm bored. I gotta get out
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  Speaker 1: of here. How can I find the next podcast? Like
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  Speaker 1: right now? Well you have to go searching. How many
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  Speaker 1: platforms for it? How about this? Aro dot net, Arrie
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  Speaker 1: dot net. Enjoy your exploration when it's extremely difficult to
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  Speaker 1: make up your mind. Ugh, we've all been there. Having
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  Speaker 1: the power of choice can actually weaken a person's heart.
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  Speaker 1: On this episode, we're going to put focus on making
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  Speaker 1: the choice to befriend your children. Really, Dad, are you listening?
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  Speaker 1: Is this a positive decision? Plus? Are we choosing to
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  Speaker 1: overuse the words that end? But my name is Erro.
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  Speaker 1: Life is a series of choices. Who decides when you're
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  Speaker 1: not making the right choice? And is it a fear
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  Speaker 1: out of thing's going wrong? The greatest lessons in life
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  Speaker 1: are often lost inside hidden away attempts and concepts. Well,
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  Speaker 1: it's time to reopen your heart. Having that power of
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  Speaker 1: choice is your daily gift. On this highway, we're gonna
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  Speaker 1: learn how to trust mirages. What is the choice? How
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  Speaker 1: about making the choice to befriend your children? Is that
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  Speaker 1: even a positive decision? And I hope my father is listening.
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  Speaker 1: Mental health experts are nodding their heads up and down,
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  Speaker 1: and you know what that means? A very positive decision.
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  Speaker 1: But wait, it only works best when the friendship comes
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  Speaker 1: after parenting, not instead of it. You still have to
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  Speaker 1: be mom and dad first. Children still need us to
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  Speaker 1: set their boundaries for them, you know, to tell you
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  Speaker 1: the truth, to protect you, and to do the ultimate
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  Speaker 1: tell them, know what? It seems unpopular, this sort of relationship,
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  Speaker 1: It works really, really good when you start at a
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  Speaker 1: very early age as kids, and then they grow older,
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  Speaker 1: the relationship naturally relaxes into a mode of friendship with
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  Speaker 1: the parents. Deep inside, you've still got to realize that
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  Speaker 1: that kind of family relationship requires years of respecting as
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  Speaker 1: well as listening plus plus plus plus plus. As parents
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  Speaker 1: slash friends, you have to show up consistently. There's a
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  Speaker 1: huge question that you're going to have to be asking yourself.
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  Speaker 1: Can I be warm? Can I be approachable? And most importantly,
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  Speaker 1: can I be supportive while still being that parental figure
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  Speaker 1: the elementary years versus the teen years, Oh, those teens
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  Speaker 1: who think they're twenty one to twenty five already. If
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  Speaker 1: you say yes, and we question the things that we're doing,
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  Speaker 1: that relationship can either become stronger, deeply, more meaningful, or
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  Speaker 1: one hundred percent the exact opposite. Just to be a favor,
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  Speaker 1: collect as many pictures as you possibly can. Hey, coming
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  Speaker 1: up next, Do we choose to use the words butt
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  Speaker 1: and that way, way, way, way, way too much? Hey?
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  Speaker 1: Thanks for coming back to the choice. Do we choose
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  Speaker 1: on a daily basis to use the words but and
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  Speaker 1: that way too much in our speaking and our writing?
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  Speaker 1: But and that? I am so guilty with this, Believe
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  Speaker 1: it or not, It's actually part of the brain's natural
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  Speaker 1: way of connecting our thoughts together. It's not cheating the
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  Speaker 1: vocal rule book. But and that are recognized as being
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  Speaker 1: tools for building meaning and flow in verbal conversations. The
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  Speaker 1: word butt is actually looked upon as being a connection word.
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  Speaker 1: And if you use that a lot, that acts like
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  Speaker 1: a bridge. It connects many, many, many thoughts together. So
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  Speaker 1: why do we even tend to use but and that
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  Speaker 1: as much as we do. Speech is spontaneous. We are
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  Speaker 1: endlessly building sentences. I mean the brain, Oh my god,
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  Speaker 1: it is a huge connector. This is how we lock
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  Speaker 1: in on rhythm and structure. Here's probably the real reason
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  Speaker 1: why we're biting into that word that and but buying words,
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  Speaker 1: oh yeah, we love to buy bye bye, bye bye.
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  Speaker 1: And it's not always with Amazon. We are trying to
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  Speaker 1: buy some building time so that we can create and
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  Speaker 1: connect our thoughts together. It is a huge problem if
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  Speaker 1: you start your sentences with butt or that, it comes
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  Speaker 1: across as being muddy and meaningless. But and that instantly
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  Speaker 1: become words of vocal crutches for speakers, authors, pastors, politicians,
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  Speaker 1: and yes, even pesky podcasters. It's not cheating the system.
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  Speaker 1: It's part of our human language behavior and it holds
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  Speaker 1: our thoughts together. It is a choice. I'm marily and
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  Speaker 1: that's what I was writing while the sun was waking
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  Speaker 1: up on a brilliant new day.