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My best friend is secretly fixated on her ex, and it’s way out of hand! | Reddit Stories | EP3094 · ok storytime

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  Speaker 1: Hey, this is Dakota.
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  Speaker 3: My best friend is secretly obsessed with her ex, and
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  Speaker 3: it's way out of hand. Oh no, what is she doing? I,
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  Speaker 3: 24 female, have a best friend, Kimberly, 23 female, that
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  Speaker 3: I've known since preschool.
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  Speaker 1: Kimberly?
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  Speaker 2: Sure it's not Nikki?
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  Speaker 3: Kim.
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  Speaker 1: Oh, Kimmy.
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  Speaker 3: Inseparable ever since. She's like the sister I've never had, etc.
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  Speaker 3: You get the picture. Anyways, Kimberly has had a few
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  Speaker 3: boyfriends over the years, but her first serious one, first love,
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  Speaker 3: was Kyle. They met senior year in college. They were
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  Speaker 3: nuts so crazy about each other. I became friends with
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  Speaker 3: Kyle by association. He's a pretty good dude and I
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  Speaker 3: liked him for my friend. They were together for almost
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  Speaker 3: two years when Kimberly broke up with him.
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  Speaker 1: No!
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  Speaker 3: It wasn't over anything scandalous or terrible. It was just
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  Speaker 3: basic but insurmountable incompatibility.
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  Speaker 1: Wow.
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  Speaker 2: That's a big word for middle schoolers.
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  Speaker 3: Insurmountable incompatibility.
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  Speaker 1: Crazy. Were they in middle school? I thought they met
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  Speaker 1: in college. No, college.
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  Speaker 2: Wow, that's a big word for college.
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  Speaker 1: That's why I never went.
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  Speaker 3: One wants kids, the other is child-free, and they both
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  Speaker 3: have very different spicy sleep drives. Even though Kimberly initiated
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  Speaker 3: the breakup, she was absolutely crushed and devastated. Welcome to
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  Speaker 3: the club, girl. She had wanted to marry Kyle, and
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  Speaker 3: he wanted to marry her, but realized it would never
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  Speaker 3: work in the long run, and better to end it
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  Speaker 3: now than drag it out for years or get married
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  Speaker 3: and then get divorced. I was proud of her, but
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  Speaker 3: I hurt right along with her. It was just a
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  Speaker 3: sad and crappy situation because both of them are good people,
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  Speaker 3: just not right for each other. It messed her up
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  Speaker 3: bad and took her a very long time to recover from.
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  Speaker 3: Almost a year later, Kimberly cautiously decided to go on
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  Speaker 3: a date with the guy she met at a rock
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  Speaker 3: climbing gym.
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  Speaker 1: Someone finally take our advice and go to the rock
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  Speaker 1: climbing gym. Let's see where this leads.
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  Speaker 2: Rock climbing gyms and running clubs.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: Except for the ones of the running clubs might get away.
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  Speaker 1: Too quick for you.
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  Speaker 3: The other ones climb away. They climb just to.
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  Speaker 1: Get away from you. Yeah, one can sprint and one
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  Speaker 1: can scramble.
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  Speaker 3: One can parkour.
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  Speaker 1: They hit it off.
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  Speaker 3: Sparks flew, and they have now been dating almost three months.
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  Speaker 3: I am very happy for my friend. I haven't met
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  Speaker 3: her new boyfriend yet, but he seems to be very
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  Speaker 3: good for her. It's the first time since the breakup
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  Speaker 3: that I've seen her truly happy and smiling again, and
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  Speaker 3: I thought, at long last, she was finally over Kyle.
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  Speaker 3: Until three days ago. By the way, this comes from ToodlesMcGee93,
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  Speaker 1: I'm Dakota. I'm Riley.
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  Speaker 3: And we're here to talk about some stuff, give some advice,
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  Speaker 3: but we don't have all your answers.
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  Speaker 1: We're only going to tell you.
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  Speaker 3: What we would do. But let us know what you
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  Speaker 3: would do in the comments. As Opie says, we were
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  Speaker 3: having a girls' night, drinking wine, watching horrible chick flicks,
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  Speaker 3: playing Mario Kart, and having lots of girl talk.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah!
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  Speaker 3: Honestly, sounds like a fun night.
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  Speaker 2: We should do that.
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  Speaker 3: I'd be down.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, no one's ever asked me. Aw, that's because
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  Speaker 1: you're not a girl. Yeah. Aw, dang it.
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  Speaker 2: But we had a gas night and got comedy and din-tin-fung.
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  Speaker 1: And din-da-who?
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  Speaker 2: Din-ting-fung.
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  Speaker 1: Din-ting-fing.
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  Speaker 3: That's crazy. Din-tai-fung? Din-tai-fung.
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  Speaker 1: Din-tai-fung. He went din-ti-fing.
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  Speaker 3: Din-ti-fing is what he just said.
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  Speaker 1: Din-ting-fing. Din-tai-fung.
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  Speaker 3: And she mentions, after a couple glasses, how even though
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  Speaker 3: she is super happy with her new boyfriend, she just
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  Speaker 3: can't stop logging into Kyle's Facebook account. He has his
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  Speaker 3: Facebook account? I was like, eh. What are you talking about?
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  Speaker 3: Kimberly says she still has Kyle's Facebook password and she
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  Speaker 3: has been logging into his Facebook. I can't remember if
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  Speaker 3: they blocked each other or just unfriended each other after
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  Speaker 3: the breakup for a year sometimes to see what he's
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  Speaker 3: up to.
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  Speaker 2: Oh my gosh. I'm going to see when this was posted.
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  Speaker 3: I know people who are like this, truthfully.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, this was nine days ago.
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  Speaker 1: It doesn't end well.
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  Speaker 3: Nine days ago.
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  Speaker 1: Wait, wait, wait. That's bad. Wait, wait, wait.
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  Speaker 4: So the original post was 2017.
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  Speaker 3: Oh.
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  Speaker 4: Were a lot of people on Facebook in 2017? Because
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  Speaker 4: if it was Instagram, I would feel.
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  Speaker 2: A certain way.
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  Speaker 1: A lot more, for sure, than are now. Yeah. But Facebook, eh, okay. No,
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  Speaker 1: it's more just the principle of like, what? Like, what?
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  Speaker 3: What?
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  Speaker 1: Like, why are you doing that?
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  Speaker 2: But are you on Facebook at all?
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  Speaker 3: No. See?
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  Speaker 1: No, but it's... For her, it's like, why would you
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  Speaker 1: do that to yourself? Exactly.
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  Speaker 3: That's what I'm saying. It's like, yeah, now you know.
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  Speaker 3: Now I can obsess about it for another three hours.
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  Speaker 1: Right.
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  Speaker 3: Like, it's just... Don't get into that habit. Of course
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  Speaker 3: you're interested and... Or interested.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, yeah, interested. And it's like you log into
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  Speaker 1: his Facebook just to see what he's up to, but
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  Speaker 1: it's like you could look at all of his messages.
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  Speaker 1: You're seeing who he's talking to. Like, what are you checking?
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  Speaker 1: You're just checking his photos? Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: He's not on Facebook, though. Not a lot of guys are. Now,
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  Speaker 2: if it was Instagram, a whole different story.
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  Speaker 3: Well, he is on it.
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  Speaker 2: Is the Facebook connected to the metaverse?
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  Speaker 1: No, this is when Facebook was still, like, more alive
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  Speaker 1: than it is now.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, okay.
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  Speaker 1: For, I guess, people in our age range. I see.
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  Speaker 1: I see.
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  Speaker 3: I immediately told her what she's doing is super shady
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  Speaker 3: and creepy for one, and two, is kind of disloyal
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  Speaker 3: to her current boyfriend. Kimberly got kind of defensive and
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  Speaker 3: said she didn't agree, that it's harmless, and she just
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  Speaker 3: wanted to see what is going on with Kyle sometimes
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  Speaker 3: without having to talk to him directly. So stalking him
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  Speaker 3: is better.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, so there's nothing wrong with that. What do you mean?
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  Speaker 3: I just want to know what he's doing, but I
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  Speaker 3: don't want to talk to him.
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  Speaker 1: It's not like I still have cameras in his house.
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  Speaker 1: I took those out. You know?
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  Speaker 2: I would be checking every teddy bear she gave me.
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  Speaker 3: She also said that in the beginning, she was logging
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  Speaker 3: in way too much, almost daily. But over time, she
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  Speaker 3: has slowly scaled back, and ever since she met her boyfriend,
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  Speaker 3: he only logs in a few times a month. Girl,
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  Speaker 3: you have another guy! Like, you got another boyfriend.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, get his Facebook.
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  Speaker 1: I just don't understand. Like, I don't know.
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  Speaker 3: You just gotta know when you're over someone, that's the
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  Speaker 3: time to reach out. You can't, you know, what do
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  Speaker 3: they say, like, Get under someone to get over someone.
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  Speaker 1: Dang. Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: I don't really believe that that works.
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  Speaker 1: Me neither.
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  Speaker 3: Because it's like you can't really heal.
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  Speaker 4: To get over someone, you must first get under a
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  Speaker 4: tree and self-reflect near a body of water.
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  Speaker 1: Well, I would agree with that. It's not bad advice.
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  Speaker 3: I told her it's still wrong and she needs to
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  Speaker 3: stop it now. How would she feel if her boyfriend
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  Speaker 3: was logging into his ex's social media? How would she
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  Speaker 3: feel if Kyle was logging into hers? She got flippant
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  Speaker 3: and said she wouldn't care. And speaking of which, why
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  Speaker 3: did I care so much? Oh my god, this is
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  Speaker 3: my sister. Like she does something like stupid and then
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  Speaker 3: you call her out and she's like, why do you
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  Speaker 3: care so much? Maybe I should mind my own business. Yep,
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  Speaker 3: the night was kind of ruined after that. And because
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  Speaker 3: Kimberly had been drinking, I told her she could crash
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  Speaker 3: on my couch, but I was going to bed. She
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  Speaker 3: left in the morning. So here it is three days
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  Speaker 3: later and I'm wondering what to do. I'm actually still
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  Speaker 3: friends with Kyle on Facebook, and I've been thinking of
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  Speaker 3: sending him a private message saying something about this. I
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  Speaker 3: haven't really figured out the right words, though. On the
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  Speaker 3: other hand, I feel disloyal to Kimberly for going behind
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  Speaker 3: her back and talking to her ex and ratting her out. Plus,
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  Speaker 3: I'm worried that Kyle will rat me out to Kimberly,
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  Speaker 3: and our friendship will be jeopardized. It's the last thing
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  Speaker 3: I want. Or that Kyle will be weirded out by
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  Speaker 3: me or not believe me. We haven't really talked since
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  Speaker 3: the breakup, just the occasional, like. on some of each
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  Speaker 3: other's statuses and pictures. I'm wondering if this is really
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  Speaker 3: even any of my business and if I should just
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  Speaker 3: stay out of it altogether and that I'm completely out
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  Speaker 3: of line to say anything. There are some relevant comments.
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  Speaker 3: It's truthfully, it's up to her. But if you want
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  Speaker 3: to get in the middle of it, there is going
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  Speaker 3: to be some backlash.
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  Speaker 1: Like, what does she do? Like, no, like, no, no. don't, don't,
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  Speaker 1: don't be the one who's like, by the way, did
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  Speaker 1: you know she's logging into her ex's Facebook? Yeah. Okay.
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  Speaker 1: Is she leaving? Is she leaving him love letters? Like what?
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  Speaker 1: I mean, that would be so messy of you to do.
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  Speaker 1: That's insane.
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  Speaker 3: I just, I don't think that you should say anything
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  Speaker 3: to anyone. I mean, you've already had the conversation with her.
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  Speaker 1: It's her life.
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  Speaker 3: She has to be the one to decide, you know, okay,
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  Speaker 3: I'm done with this and whatnot. Yeah.
• 8:34
  Speaker 1: You, Keep telling her it's a bad idea and that
• 8:37
  Speaker 1: when he finds out, it's going to be a mess. Okay.
• 8:41
  Speaker 1: All right.
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  Speaker 3: All right.
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  Speaker 2: Look, you know how many Facebook scams happen every day?
• 8:47
  Speaker 1: No, I'm sure a lot.
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  Speaker 3: A lot.
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  Speaker 4: In the year of 2025, $ 794 million.
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  Speaker 2: Were scammed out of people from Facebook.
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  Speaker 3: That's crazy.
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  Speaker 1: Wow.
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  Speaker 2: Now, let's think a little bit. Who knows Facebook a lot?
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  Speaker 1: OP.
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  Speaker 2: OP's friend.
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  Speaker 3: Kim. Kim.
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  Speaker 1: Kimberly.
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  Speaker 4: Kimberly is saving her ex-boyfriend's Kyle money.
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  Speaker 1: Hmm.
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  Speaker 2: Simple as that.
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  Speaker 1: Kind of like the Pythagorean theorem.
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  Speaker 2: Yes, exactly like that.
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  Speaker 1: You get C squared from A squared and B squared.
• 9:20
  Speaker 1: Or you get B squared from A squared, C squared. Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Or no, is that?
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  Speaker 3: No, wait.
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  Speaker 2: No, no, it's not exactly.
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  Speaker 1: No, it was the transitive property. Oh, God. Yeah, it's
• 9:30
  Speaker 1: been a while. no that's been a while my bad.
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  Speaker 3: No but that green theorem was a square plus.
• 9:35
  Speaker 1: Yeah but i was thinking of i was not i
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  Speaker 1: was anyways transitive property.
• 9:39
  Speaker 4: Money is being saved and i don't think we should
• 9:42
  Speaker 4: give kimberly such a hard time.
• 9:44
  Speaker 3: I think she's being really obsessive and obnoxious but thing
• 9:48
  Speaker 3: is it's going to catch up with her anyway yeah
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  Speaker 3: i mean honestly if if you if op were to
• 9:54
  Speaker 3: be like i'm telling your boyfriend it's like you're an
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  Speaker 3: idiot like that's not the line that needs to be
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  Speaker 3: drawn there.
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  Speaker 1: It'd be different if she was like, and I still
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  Speaker 1: am obsessed with them. I think about them every day
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  Speaker 1: and I'm in love with them. It's like, just whatever.
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  Speaker 1: You keep telling her it's dumb. Don't make the mess yourself. Crazy.
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  Speaker 3: There are some relevant comments. Drinky on martinis, says if
• 10:17
  Speaker 3: you message him, it's very likely she could intercept the
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  Speaker 3: message or delete it, and then things will be effed
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  Speaker 3: between you guys anyway.
• 10:24
  Speaker 1: That's true.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, because you might just be sending it to her. Like,
• 10:28
  Speaker 3: he might not even see it. If I were you,
• 10:30
  Speaker 3: I'd sit her down and try again while you're both
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  Speaker 3: sober to convince her what she's doing is wrong and
• 10:36
  Speaker 3: that she should stop. OP responds, that's true. I didn't
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  Speaker 3: think about that. I think I still have his number somewhere.
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  Speaker 3: It's just buried deep since we don't talk anymore. I'll
• 10:44
  Speaker 3: see if he's in my contacts or on WhatsApp. I
• 10:47
  Speaker 3: think I will. Both of us had been drinking and
• 10:50
  Speaker 3: emotions were a bit high. I probably could have used
• 10:53
  Speaker 3: a more tactical approach. I kind of just blurted out
• 10:57
  Speaker 3: what I was thinking and may have come across as
• 10:59
  Speaker 3: harsh and judgmental, which probably wasn't productive. I'll shoot her
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  Speaker 3: a text and try to have her over for coffee
• 11:05
  Speaker 3: instead of wine and talk about it.
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  Speaker 1: I don't know.
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  Speaker 2: You don't have to be very.
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  Speaker 4: Ooh, let me say this in the right way to
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  Speaker 4: my friend who's acting insane.
• 11:15
  Speaker 3: But the thing is, the people who are acting insane,
• 11:17
  Speaker 3: you do have to freak them kind of like children, though, because.
• 11:20
  Speaker 1: They don't see it. Really? It's the silly baby technique. Yeah. Oh.
• 11:25
  Speaker 3: It's like if you just keep yelling at them, obviously
• 11:27
  Speaker 3: she's going to get defensive. I mean, her main thing
• 11:29
  Speaker 3: was also like instead of arguing with her about the
• 11:33
  Speaker 3: actual subject, she always goes back to, well, why is
• 11:35
  Speaker 3: it any of your business? Why do you care so much?
• 11:37
  Speaker 1: You know?
• 11:38
  Speaker 3: And then it's like, you're right. Maybe I shouldn't care
• 11:40
  Speaker 3: about my best friend.
• 11:41
  Speaker 1: Yeah. Oh, you know, it's like a little kid being like,
• 11:44
  Speaker 1: I don't brush my teeth, but it's OK because it's
• 11:47
  Speaker 1: my teeth are fine. They're stronger than everyone.
• 11:50
  Speaker 3: And then I'm like, well, no, you have to brush
• 11:51
  Speaker 3: your teeth.
• 11:52
  Speaker 1: And they're like, shut up, mommy. Why do you even care?
• 11:54
  Speaker 1: They're not your teeth. They're my teeth. Exactly. That's OK.
• 11:57
  Speaker 1: That's great. No, sure.
• 11:59
  Speaker 3: I've been in this argument so many times.
• 12:01
  Speaker 2: Oh, my gosh. I know a kid that doesn't brush
• 12:03
  Speaker 2: his teeth and his parents have let him down.
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  Speaker 1: Sad. Yeah.
• 12:07
  Speaker 3: Air Aqua says, just give Kyle heads up to log
• 12:10
  Speaker 3: out of And yeah, you really should reconsider being friends
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  Speaker 3: with this girl. I mean, this is a huge invasion
• 12:25
  Speaker 3: of privacy. Your friend has serious issues. What she's doing
• 12:29
  Speaker 3: isn't fair towards Kyle nor towards her current boyfriend. OP responds,
• 12:35
  Speaker 3: I'm not going to stop being friends with her and
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  Speaker 3: end a 20 plus year friendship because of this one thing.
• 12:41
  Speaker 3: He's like my sister. He probably needs help not being ghosted.
• 12:44
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I love how that's just like, yeah, I don't know.
• 12:48
  Speaker 1: This person doesn't seem like they're absolutely perfect. Seems like
• 12:50
  Speaker 1: they're fallible. You should really consider whether or not you
• 12:53
  Speaker 1: want to associate with someone like that. It's like, oh, I've, oh, okay.
• 12:57
  Speaker 1: My best friend of 20 years. Someone on the internet
• 12:59
  Speaker 1: told me I can't like you anymore. Because you did
• 13:02
  Speaker 1: something that's like so, it'd be different if she was like,
• 13:05
  Speaker 1: sending him like, you know, like, like, like explosives in
• 13:10
  Speaker 1: the mail or something. Like she's like trying to ruin
• 13:13
  Speaker 1: his life. Like that's different. But this is just like
• 13:16
  Speaker 1: what she's doing is only really hurting her.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, exactly. And she doesn't see it in that way.
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  Speaker 3: She's like, well, it's just like, I just like to
• 13:23
  Speaker 3: keep up with him. Like it's, it's routine now.
• 13:25
  Speaker 2: It's a part of her week.
• 13:27
  Speaker 1: Yeah, it is.
• 13:29
  Speaker 3: Air awkward response. People judge you for the friends you keep.
• 13:33
  Speaker 3: And what your friend is doing is extremely effed up.
• 13:36
  Speaker 3: I mean, you've seen how she reacted to you calling
• 13:39
  Speaker 3: her gently out on it. If she can't see that
• 13:43
  Speaker 3: she's clearly in the wrong, what are you going to do?
• 13:46
  Speaker 3: Just ignore it? OP responds, yeah, and she's been an
• 13:49
  Speaker 3: awesome person for the time I've known her. I can't
• 13:52
  Speaker 3: get into the wonderful things she's done for me and
• 13:54
  Speaker 3: others because that's not what the post is about. I
• 13:57
  Speaker 3: don't disagree what she's doing is wrong, but she didn't
• 14:00
  Speaker 3: unalive his dog. Basically what you were saying. I actually
• 14:03
  Speaker 3: have hope for her because she got defensive. That means
• 14:06
  Speaker 3: she knows she's in the wrong. If she was totally apathetic,
• 14:10
  Speaker 3: then I'd be worried. And I don't know what I'm
• 14:13
  Speaker 3: going to do. That's why I wrote this post. At
• 14:15
  Speaker 3: this junction, I'm not sure it's my business to do
• 14:19
  Speaker 3: anything except try talking to her again. Thanks for your advice,
• 14:21
  Speaker 3: but I'm not ending a relationship with someone who is
• 14:23
  Speaker 3: basically my family for one bad thing they did. If
• 14:26
  Speaker 3: you could throw away a 20-year friendship for that, well,
• 14:29
  Speaker 3: that's on you, but I'm not. Thanks.
• 14:31
  Speaker 1: Yeah, agreed. Agreed.
• 14:33
  Speaker 3: Mermaid Tail Blanket says, Technically, and correct me if I'm wrong,
• 14:38
  Speaker 3: but it's not something she did. It is something she does.
• 14:42
  Speaker 3: I wonder how you would feel if this were done
• 14:45
  Speaker 3: to you or your significant other. In my opinion, let
• 14:48
  Speaker 3: him know anonymously that he needs to change passwords this second.
• 14:52
  Speaker 3: No need to tell him why. He'll probably be alarmed
• 14:54
  Speaker 3: enough to oblige. OP responds, I wouldn't feel good at all,
• 14:57
  Speaker 3: but I haven't made the best decisions in life before.
• 15:00
  Speaker 3: In fact, people would easily call Kimberly the goody two-shoes
• 15:03
  Speaker 3: out of both of us. If I was doing something
• 15:06
  Speaker 3: like this, I would hope, and no, Kimberly wouldn't just be,
• 15:10
  Speaker 3: you suck, peace out, knucklehead. She'd try to help me first. If, however,
• 15:14
  Speaker 3: I kept being a knucklehead, didn't listen, and mistreated our
• 15:18
  Speaker 3: trust and friendship, then she'd rightfully start reconsidering. That's the
• 15:22
  Speaker 3: boat I'm in. I'll cross that bridge if I come
• 15:24
  Speaker 3: to it, but for now, I only have this one
• 15:26
  Speaker 3: piece of information. I'm going to try and help her
• 15:28
  Speaker 3: or convince her to get help. If she keeps being unreasonable,
• 15:32
  Speaker 3: I'll reconsider the people we've both become.
• 15:35
  Speaker 1: Dang. Or just like, you know, keep telling her you're
• 15:39
  Speaker 1: only hurting yourself. But until she starts like being like,
• 15:42
  Speaker 1: I want him back. I still love him. Like, blah, blah, blah.
• 15:45
  Speaker 1: And then even when that happens, you shouldn't just go
• 15:47
  Speaker 1: to her boyfriend and be like, yeah, she said that
• 15:49
  Speaker 1: with her ex. You should tell your friend of 20
• 15:52
  Speaker 1: years like, hey, dude, like this is clearly like you're
• 15:55
  Speaker 1: not ready to be in a relationship right now. You're
• 15:57
  Speaker 1: still really caught up over your ex. So you should
• 16:00
  Speaker 1: just not be with anyone right now.
• 16:02
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 16:02
  Speaker 1: I mean, the best thing you could do is just
• 16:05
  Speaker 1: like let her ex know, like you should change your
• 16:07
  Speaker 1: Facebook password. Yeah. And that's all literally. And then what?
• 16:11
  Speaker 1: Now she can't log back in. Oops. Yeah.
• 16:14
  Speaker 3: But it's actually doing her favor, but she doesn't know that.
• 16:17
  Speaker 3: She thinks that's like an attack on her.
• 16:21
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 16:21
  Speaker 4: Or you can log into the Facebook account a lot
• 16:24
  Speaker 4: of times and it, and it gives them that email like, Hey,
• 16:28
  Speaker 4: This person's tried to get into your account.
• 16:30
  Speaker 1: That's happened. Yeah, just get his password wrong.
• 16:32
  Speaker 2: You could do that.
• 16:33
  Speaker 3: There is an update. Two days later. Oh. So I
• 16:37
  Speaker 3: decided I was going to talk to Kimberly first, sober,
• 16:41
  Speaker 3: before I did anything. I did actually end up finding
• 16:43
  Speaker 3: Kyle's number as a last resort backup in case Kimberly
• 16:46
  Speaker 3: decided there was no way she'd stop. Though Kimberly and
• 16:49
  Speaker 3: I had not talked much since the incident. Very awkward
• 16:52
  Speaker 3: and stiff. So I texted her, hey girl, I miss you.
• 16:55
  Speaker 3: I got this awesome new coffee and creamer flavor. You've
• 16:58
  Speaker 3: got to come over and try it. He jumped on
• 17:00
  Speaker 3: it and I had her over. Once we got settled
• 17:03
  Speaker 3: with her coffee, I took the plunge and started by
• 17:05
  Speaker 3: apologizing for coming across as abrupt and judgmental the last
• 17:08
  Speaker 3: time we talked. He seemed really embarrassed and sad and
• 17:10
  Speaker 3: apologized for getting an attitude with me. But I also said,
• 17:13
  Speaker 3: with that being said, while I am sorry about the
• 17:15
  Speaker 3: tone I took, I wasn't sorry about saying what I said.
• 17:18
  Speaker 3: She was just really quiet and looking at the floor.
• 17:21
  Speaker 3: I told her I loved her to pieces and wanted
• 17:23
  Speaker 3: what was best for her and that good friends don't enable.
• 17:26
  Speaker 3: They call each other out if they are doing something wrong.
• 17:30
  Speaker 1: Exactly.
• 17:32
  Speaker 3: Thank you.
• 17:33
  Speaker 1: Exactly. And that is not... Notice how she did not
• 17:36
  Speaker 1: say real friends tattle on each other and create big messes. Yeah.
• 17:41
  Speaker 1: They say they keep it real.
• 17:43
  Speaker 3: Yeah. They want what's best for you. If you're doing
• 17:45
  Speaker 3: something wrong and hurtful for yourself, then... You know, I
• 17:49
  Speaker 3: don't want to see you like this. I want to
• 17:50
  Speaker 3: see you happy with this new relationship you've been in.
• 17:52
  Speaker 3: I want you to give all your energy to that,
• 17:54
  Speaker 3: not to the past, you know? And what she was
• 17:57
  Speaker 3: doing was really, really messed up. And that I was
• 18:01
  Speaker 3: going to give her one chance, just one, to put
• 18:03
  Speaker 3: a stop to it. So if she did not message
• 18:05
  Speaker 3: Kyle telling him to change his passwords, I would do
• 18:08
  Speaker 3: it for her. At first, she got really upset with
• 18:10
  Speaker 3: me and started to get angry and rage, but I
• 18:12
  Speaker 3: told her there was a reason she told me her
• 18:14
  Speaker 3: secret because deep down she knows what she's doing is
• 18:17
  Speaker 3: wrong and I think she was asking for help but
• 18:19
  Speaker 3: didn't know how to because she can't stop. Ooh.
• 18:22
  Speaker 1: Philosophy. I know if she doesn't know the password anymore,
• 18:27
  Speaker 1: it can't continue.
• 18:31
  Speaker 3: She just starts crying and crying and crying. She said
• 18:35
  Speaker 3: she was so sick of I mean, for Kyle. She
• 18:37
  Speaker 3: was still in love with him. She couldn't stop thinking
• 18:40
  Speaker 3: about him, wishing for him, even though she knew they
• 18:43
  Speaker 3: were not meant to be. She just wanted to stop
• 18:45
  Speaker 3: having these feelings. That her boyfriend helped numb the pain
• 18:47
  Speaker 3: a bit or distracted her for it, but it always
• 18:50
  Speaker 3: came back. Dang. And she logged in just to be
• 18:53
  Speaker 3: near him again to see if he was happy, if
• 18:55
  Speaker 3: he missed her at all, etc. She knew it was
• 18:58
  Speaker 3: really bad, but I was right and she couldn't stop.
• 19:00
  Speaker 3: I just let her cry it out. Then I told
• 19:02
  Speaker 3: her if she wanted to make an anonymous account... or
• 19:05
  Speaker 3: text him from an anonymous number, she could. Or if
• 19:08
  Speaker 3: she wanted me to take care of it altogether, I would.
• 19:10
  Speaker 3: She said no. She was mortified and felt horrible, but
• 19:13
  Speaker 3: she wanted to. But could I please help her and
• 19:16
  Speaker 3: be with her as she did it? So she sent
• 19:18
  Speaker 3: Kyle the following message, helped worded by me. Hey, Kyle,
• 19:22
  Speaker 3: sorry to bother you. I just realized I haven't really
• 19:24
  Speaker 3: updated our passwords to our social media stuff since last
• 19:27
  Speaker 3: year and thought it might be a good idea to
• 19:29
  Speaker 3: change them for myself and that you might want to
• 19:31
  Speaker 3: as well. Basically, so she didn't have to come right
• 19:34
  Speaker 3: out and say it, but Kyle would have been a
• 19:37
  Speaker 3: fool not to pick up on what she was really
• 19:39
  Speaker 3: trying to say.
• 19:40
  Speaker 2: I wouldn't know what she was trying to say.
• 19:42
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I just heard it and I don't even know
• 19:45
  Speaker 1: what she was trying to say.
• 19:46
  Speaker 3: Well, she's saying like, hey, we both share each other's passwords,
• 19:51
  Speaker 3: but I feel like we probably shouldn't have them anymore
• 19:53
  Speaker 3: now that we're not together.
• 19:54
  Speaker 2: She should have just said that.
• 19:56
  Speaker 3: I got it.
• 19:58
  Speaker 2: I don't speak girl lingo, I guess. If my ex
• 20:01
  Speaker 2: sent me that, my direct thought is, oh my gosh,
• 20:03
  Speaker 2: there's a scammer out there. There's someone trying to get
• 20:05
  Speaker 2: my stuff. Someone's trying to hack into, okay, story time,
• 20:08
  Speaker 2: what's happening.
• 20:10
  Speaker 3: He texted back within 20 minutes. Hey there, duly noted.
• 20:14
  Speaker 3: Thanks for the heads up. I then told her to
• 20:16
  Speaker 3: delete the text and block the number. I took her
• 20:18
  Speaker 3: out shopping and while walking, I said there is no
• 20:20
  Speaker 3: shame in seeing a therapist to help with her grief
• 20:23
  Speaker 3: and could give her the start to the relief she
• 20:26
  Speaker 3: wants from hurting over Kyle. I offered to help her
• 20:28
  Speaker 3: schedule an appointment. Long story short, we found a sliding
• 20:32
  Speaker 3: scale therapist through our alma mater and she has an
• 20:36
  Speaker 3: appointment next week. That night, just to see if Kyle
• 20:39
  Speaker 3: got the hint, I sat with her as she attempted
• 20:42
  Speaker 3: to log into his account to see if he took
• 20:44
  Speaker 3: the hint. Password didn't work. She cried hard, but said
• 20:47
  Speaker 3: it was for the best and thanked me for helping her.
• 20:49
  Speaker 1: Yeah. All right. So I think girly pop might need
• 20:53
  Speaker 1: to be single. I don't know.
• 20:54
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I think she needs to break up with a
• 20:57
  Speaker 3: boyfriend because he truthfully is just a rebound. And I
• 21:00
  Speaker 3: hate that for people. I mean, there's Rodman.
• 21:04
  Speaker 1: Dennis Rodman, notorious rebounder.
• 21:07
  Speaker 3: Yeah, this guy is just a rebound. And I feel bad.
• 21:11
  Speaker 1: He's just a statistic. Yeah, I feel bad.
• 21:15
  Speaker 3: And I know, like, sometimes it takes, you know, someone else.
• 21:19
  Speaker 3: But truthfully, you only ever really... be completely happy if
• 21:24
  Speaker 3: you take the time to really figure out why you
• 21:26
  Speaker 3: feel the way you do and make it a whole
• 21:29
  Speaker 3: big deal to why this is going to connect you to,
• 21:32
  Speaker 3: you know, maybe some past trauma or whatever. I say
• 21:35
  Speaker 3: take the therapist way. They help. They know what they're doing.
• 21:38
  Speaker 3: They're there for a reason. Why not?
• 21:40
  Speaker 1: You know, get the help you need.
• 21:42
  Speaker 3: Why wouldn't you get the help you need and deserve?
• 21:44
  Speaker 3: Why not? Anyways, there's a little bit left. That pretty
• 21:47
  Speaker 3: much sums it up. I'm going to be there for
• 21:49
  Speaker 3: my friend and be a sounding board and support as
• 21:52
  Speaker 3: she starts to really process her grief. I'm really happy
• 21:54
  Speaker 3: that we both solved the Facebook crap and she has
• 21:57
  Speaker 3: an appointment with a professional to get a.
• 21:59
  Speaker 1: Start on things.
• 22:00
  Speaker 3: For my advice, she's going to take things one day
• 22:02
  Speaker 3: at a time with the new boyfriend and just enjoy
• 22:04
  Speaker 3: him in the moments she has with him. If she
• 22:06
  Speaker 3: finds herself using him as purely a coping mechanism, becoming codependent,
• 22:10
  Speaker 3: or she assesses in two to three months she doesn't
• 22:13
  Speaker 3: feel in love with him or she's not over Kyle,
• 22:17
  Speaker 3: She will let him go and give herself time being single,
• 22:20
  Speaker 3: trying a new hobby, and keeping up with the therapist.
• 22:23
  Speaker 1: No.
• 22:23
  Speaker 2: It needs to happen now. Love is a drug, and
• 22:27
  Speaker 2: she's just numbing the pain with this new drug.
• 22:29
  Speaker 1: I mean, if you went to your partner and you
• 22:32
  Speaker 1: just were, like, really transparent, like, hey, I gotta admit
• 22:36
  Speaker 1: that I've realized that I'm actually still not over my ex,
• 22:39
  Speaker 1: but I'm trying to really take the steps to be.
• 22:42
  Speaker 1: And I like you, and I don't know if you
• 22:43
  Speaker 1: still want to date me knowing that, but if you do...
• 22:47
  Speaker 1: You know, we can. But I also don't think it'd
• 22:49
  Speaker 1: be a bad idea to be single. It just depends
• 22:51
  Speaker 1: on what you want, what you think you want.
• 22:53
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I agree. Well, that's the end of that story.
• 22:55
  Speaker 3: And we got another one coming right up.
• 22:57
  Speaker 1: My boyfriend demanded I stop eating cucumbers because it's too
• 23:01
  Speaker 1: much for him.
• 23:03
  Speaker 3: What does that even mean?
• 23:04
  Speaker 1: This is perhaps the most bizarre am I the a-hole
• 23:07
  Speaker 1: post I've ever written, but I'm honestly so confused. Like
• 23:10
  Speaker 1: I feel like I can't possibly be the a-hole, but
• 23:14
  Speaker 1: then sometimes people are too blind to see their own flaws,
• 23:17
  Speaker 1: so maybe I really am. For as long as I
• 23:19
  Speaker 1: can remember, I've had this work, I guess you could
• 23:22
  Speaker 1: call it, that I never snack on anything other than cucumber.
• 23:26
  Speaker 1: I shouldn't say never, technically, since socially I'll get ice
• 23:28
  Speaker 1: cream or eat a few chips at a party. I'm
• 23:30
  Speaker 1: not a picky eater by any means, but my snack
• 23:33
  Speaker 1: of choice has always been cucumber. I think they have
• 23:37
  Speaker 1: a name for that. I can't, it's like, Like the
• 23:39
  Speaker 1: girl who, well, I guess she would only ever eat ramen,
• 23:43
  Speaker 1: but it feels like a variation of that.
• 23:46
  Speaker 3: Now I really want cucumber sandwiches. I gotta remember that.
• 23:51
  Speaker 1: I eat pretty healthy anyway, so a lot of fruits
• 23:54
  Speaker 1: and veggies are part of my diet. Since veggies are
• 23:57
  Speaker 1: lower in calories, I have to eat a lot of
• 23:59
  Speaker 1: them to eat enough, so I'll usually have some sliced
• 24:02
  Speaker 1: cucumber in my purse. that I munch on throughout the day.
• 24:06
  Speaker 1: And I'll always have a cucumber in my car that
• 24:08
  Speaker 1: I just eat whole when I'm driving. I go through
• 24:11
  Speaker 1: several cucumbers a day. I don't know.
• 24:15
  Speaker 3: I find that a bit strange.
• 24:16
  Speaker 1: Yeah, but it's probably really good for you.
• 24:18
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean, they're very low in calories, if any.
• 24:22
  Speaker 1: Has anyone heard the Cucumba song? No. Cucumba is this
• 24:27
  Speaker 1: guy he would sing. Cucumba. Vitamins, minerals, great hydrator. Don't
• 24:33
  Speaker 1: be a, like he had a whole cucumber like wrap. Yeah.
• 24:38
  Speaker 1: But it was more like a, it was more like
• 24:39
  Speaker 1: a jig, you know, like, I don't know. Cucumba. And
• 24:43
  Speaker 1: he called it Cucumba. Cucumba. That makes it better. Although
• 24:47
  Speaker 1: it's not healthy. I've had days where I felt really
• 24:50
  Speaker 1: depressed and overwhelmed and have binge eaten nothing but cucumbers.
• 24:54
  Speaker 1: Is that not healthy? It seems like the healthiest thing
• 24:56
  Speaker 1: you could ever binge eat, right? It's mostly water.
• 24:58
  Speaker 3: Read the next sentence.
• 25:00
  Speaker 1: I think I've eaten perhaps 35 on very extreme days.
• 25:02
  Speaker 3: 35 cucumbers?
• 25:05
  Speaker 1: I mean, if you space that out.
• 25:08
  Speaker 3: I mean, I guess it's better than eating like 35
• 25:10
  Speaker 3: bags of chips or 35 donuts.
• 25:11
  Speaker 1: But like.
• 25:15
  Speaker 3: Anything excessive, healthy or unhealthy is not good.
• 25:18
  Speaker 1: I mean, that's like. Moderation. Come on. That's like two
• 25:21
  Speaker 1: cucumbers an hour if you sleep for six hours.
• 25:25
  Speaker 3: That's crazy. Are they like the mini cucumbers?
• 25:28
  Speaker 1: Are they like big?
• 25:30
  Speaker 3: They have to be the big guys.
• 25:32
  Speaker 1: What's to say? I would have to.
• 25:34
  Speaker 3: It has to be the big guys.
• 25:35
  Speaker 1: By the way, this comes from a deleted user who's
• 25:37
  Speaker 1: too shamed of their cucumbering. And if you want to
• 25:40
  Speaker 1: submit your own stories, go to the r slash OKStoryTime subreddit.
• 25:42
  Speaker 1: I'm Dakota. I'm Savannah. I'm Riley. We're going to read
• 25:45
  Speaker 1: this cucumber caper. And we're going to have our delicious,
• 25:49
  Speaker 1: nutritious thoughts about it. And you can have yours, too.
• 25:52
  Speaker 1: Just know we don't know everything. So comment what you
• 25:54
  Speaker 1: think down below. Recently, this quirk has begun to drive
• 26:01
  Speaker 1: my 22 female boyfriend, 33 male.
• 26:04
  Speaker 3: Wait, I was waiting for those in the beginning and
• 26:07
  Speaker 3: now I'm getting them? Okay, wait, 22 female, and then
• 26:11
  Speaker 3: what was the boyfriend?
• 26:13
  Speaker 1: 33, which is a lot.
• 26:16
  Speaker 3: Which is just 11 years.
• 26:18
  Speaker 1: It feels like the difference between 11 and 22, if
• 26:21
  Speaker 1: I'm being honest. Ooh. Because it is the exact same
• 26:25
  Speaker 1: number of years. Oh, yeah. It's weird. We've been dating
• 26:28
  Speaker 1: for six months, and it's driving him insane. His words,
• 26:31
  Speaker 1: not mine. He says it's highly inappropriate to carry them
• 26:34
  Speaker 1: everywhere with me. Inappropriate? We spent last weekend at his parents'
• 26:38
  Speaker 1: lake house and I provided my own cucumber to snack on.
• 26:42
  Speaker 1: One night before bed, I was in my room gnawing
• 26:44
  Speaker 1: on a cucumber like a savage when his mother walked in.
• 26:47
  Speaker 1: Under normal circumstances, I would never eat like that around others.
• 26:51
  Speaker 1: I would slice it up. And she was puzzled, but
• 26:54
  Speaker 1: she chuckled and said, My, you do like cucumber.
• 26:59
  Speaker 3: His mom probably said something to him for sure. My
• 27:02
  Speaker 3: mom would.
• 27:03
  Speaker 1: My mom would be like, Oh my God, what are
• 27:05
  Speaker 1: you doing? My boyfriend later told me that I humiliated
• 27:09
  Speaker 1: him with my childish and immature eating habits.
• 27:13
  Speaker 3: I mean, well, for that instance, the mom comes into
• 27:16
  Speaker 3: the room and you're on a cucumber. Yeah, it is
• 27:20
  Speaker 3: a little weird, but I don't know.
• 27:23
  Speaker 1: What if they just was a what? What if it
• 27:25
  Speaker 1: was a carrot? And you're like Bugs Bunny. You just
• 27:27
  Speaker 1: eat a carrot.
• 27:28
  Speaker 3: Any nine on anything I feel like would be that's
• 27:32
  Speaker 3: like a very vulnerable moment.
• 27:34
  Speaker 1: I guess, in my head, I took gnawing as, like,
• 27:37
  Speaker 1: just kind of colorful language. But if we do take
• 27:40
  Speaker 1: that literally, and, like, she's in there eating the cucumber, like... And, like,
• 27:48
  Speaker 1: someone just walks in, like... And you're mid, like... Like, there's, like,
• 27:51
  Speaker 1: you know.
• 27:52
  Speaker 3: All the little pieces on you.
• 27:55
  Speaker 1: You've got, like, the evidence of your savagery all over, like,
• 27:59
  Speaker 1: your shirt.
• 27:59
  Speaker 3: You're deuce-growing your....
• 28:02
  Speaker 1: Like, yeah, then I can see, like, maybe. And she goes, my,
• 28:08
  Speaker 1: you do like it. Oh, my. Daughter. That's the only
• 28:14
  Speaker 1: way this could be a problem, dude. I told him
• 28:16
  Speaker 1: his mom caught me in a low moment and that
• 28:19
  Speaker 1: he was being ridiculous because he eats a bag of
• 28:21
  Speaker 1: chips every day and I don't bat an eye. He
• 28:23
  Speaker 1: told me that chips were a normal snack and whole
• 28:25
  Speaker 1: cucumbers were deranged.
• 28:27
  Speaker 3: Oh, well, that's just rude. And there was no need
• 28:30
  Speaker 3: for that comment at all.
• 28:31
  Speaker 1: I wonder if you just took like a random selection
• 28:33
  Speaker 1: of people. You showed them the process that it takes
• 28:35
  Speaker 1: to make a chip versus the process it takes to
• 28:39
  Speaker 1: make a cucumber. Which one is actually more deranged of
• 28:43
  Speaker 1: a snack, right? He told me I needed to stop
• 28:46
  Speaker 1: eating cucumbers and that my behavior was becoming a deal
• 28:48
  Speaker 1: breaker for him. I feel really bothered, but I think
• 28:51
  Speaker 1: cucumbers are a weird hill to just you know, make
• 28:54
  Speaker 1: my last stand on. I don't want to lose my relationship.
• 28:57
  Speaker 1: Am I the a-hole? Hmm.
• 28:59
  Speaker 3: I think it is a little obsessive. I don't think
• 29:01
  Speaker 3: that makes you an a-hole, though. It's not like it's,
• 29:03
  Speaker 3: you know, becoming an issue where, like, you know, like,
• 29:08
  Speaker 3: it's not like you're, like, leaving them anywhere or there's, like,
• 29:10
  Speaker 3: a mess or, like, you're doing it in inappropriate places. Like,
• 29:15
  Speaker 3: you are, like, literally... in your room and the mom
• 29:17
  Speaker 3: walked in.
• 29:18
  Speaker 1: So it's like, you know, it's it's less of a
• 29:21
  Speaker 1: thing about like the cucumbers being like where you make
• 29:24
  Speaker 1: your last stand. But it's more like the principle of
• 29:26
  Speaker 1: if you widen the you widen the umbrella and it's
• 29:29
  Speaker 1: not just you don't eat. But cucumbers are too weird
• 29:32
  Speaker 1: is what he said. You eat cucumbers and it's weird.
• 29:34
  Speaker 1: You have to stop I can't take it. And I'll
• 29:38
  Speaker 1: apply that to, oh, your favorite music. Why don't you
• 29:41
  Speaker 1: like normal music? Your music's so weird. If you keep
• 29:43
  Speaker 1: listening to that music, I don't... And it's like, that's
• 29:46
  Speaker 1: the principle. It's just, you like cucumbers. Yeah.
• 29:50
  Speaker 3: And it's not like it's becoming a problem to where
• 29:52
  Speaker 3: you need to... Like, constantly, like, be nine on one
• 29:55
  Speaker 3: or something.
• 29:56
  Speaker 1: If you were eating 35 every day, I'd say, okay.
• 29:58
  Speaker 5: Yes.
• 29:59
  Speaker 3: I'd be like, hmm.
• 30:01
  Speaker 1: Let's examine. First, let's go to a doctor. Make sure
• 30:04
  Speaker 1: that's not actually bad for you. Because it just might be. But, yeah, dude.
• 30:09
  Speaker 3: It is a little weird.
• 30:10
  Speaker 1: Not gonna lie. If you were, like, dipping, like, pickles
• 30:12
  Speaker 1: in caramel, I'd be like, he's got a point. Okay?
• 30:16
  Speaker 1: That's maybe, save that.
• 30:18
  Speaker 3: Sounds delish.
• 30:19
  Speaker 1: Make that a little treat every now and then. Yummy.
• 30:22
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• 30:23
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• 30:25
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• 30:28
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• 30:29
  Speaker 1: From our sponsors. I'd just like to add that my
• 30:32
  Speaker 1: boyfriend has never expressed any issue with my cucumber habits
• 30:34
  Speaker 1: before now. The incident in question was because around 8 p.m.
• 30:38
  Speaker 1: I was getting really hungry and I don't know his
• 30:41
  Speaker 1: family super well, so I didn't want to go rummaging
• 30:43
  Speaker 1: or ask for a snack. And I didn't want to
• 30:45
  Speaker 1: bother them by asking for a cutting board or something
• 30:48
  Speaker 1: to cut up my cucumber because of, well, mild social anxiety.
• 30:51
  Speaker 1: So I shut myself in the guest room and figured
• 30:54
  Speaker 1: I'd just snack on a cucumber quickly. I don't usually
• 30:56
  Speaker 1: go hide and eat cucumbers. Sounds like you do, though.
• 31:01
  Speaker 1: Sounds like you would.
• 31:02
  Speaker 3: Sounds like you are currently.
• 31:04
  Speaker 1: Exactly what someone who doesn't want people to know they
• 31:07
  Speaker 1: hide and eat cucumbers would say. But then his mom
• 31:11
  Speaker 1: walked in looking for my boyfriend, presumably, and she was
• 31:13
  Speaker 1: a little surprised, but seemed amused and not upset or anything.
• 31:17
  Speaker 1: I honestly didn't think it would turn into such a
• 31:19
  Speaker 1: big deal for him. And there is an update. So
• 31:22
  Speaker 1: you were caught eating the cucumber in shame.
• 31:25
  Speaker 3: And mommy noticed. And now I'm like the whole thing
• 31:29
  Speaker 3: with this. He probably was like, oh, that's weird. You know,
• 31:32
  Speaker 3: but now that someone else has seen it, he feels
• 31:35
  Speaker 3: the need to correct it. But it's like, you know, truthfully,
• 31:38
  Speaker 3: if you don't have a problem with it, this is
• 31:40
  Speaker 3: what she's doing. It's not affecting your life in any way.
• 31:42
  Speaker 1: Fine. She just likes cucumbers. Yeah. What I'm more confused
• 31:46
  Speaker 1: about is why you so like you harbor such a
• 31:49
  Speaker 1: deep hatred for cucumbers. Yeah. Like what? Like, are you
• 31:53
  Speaker 1: secretly a cat?
• 31:54
  Speaker 3: Yeah. They do hate cucumbers.
• 31:58
  Speaker 1: You've seen that, right? No, no, no. The cats despise...
• 32:06
  Speaker 1: Cucumbers scare them.
• 32:07
  Speaker 2: They love rectangles.
• 32:08
  Speaker 3: They think it looks like snakes.
• 32:09
  Speaker 1: And they hate cucumbers.
• 32:11
  Speaker 3: You put a cucumber and the cat will walk in
• 32:14
  Speaker 3: and jump and sprint.
• 32:16
  Speaker 1: You should do a test. Put a big square of
• 32:19
  Speaker 1: tape on the floor and see if your boyfriend instinctively
• 32:23
  Speaker 1: sits in it. If he does... You're secretly dating a cat.
• 32:31
  Speaker 1: There is an update. To those of you who expressed
• 32:33
  Speaker 1: concern for my cucumber intake, or implying I may have
• 32:39
  Speaker 1: an ED, I can assure you I am perfectly healthy.
• 32:41
  Speaker 1: I won't consider myself as having a problem, nor do
• 32:46
  Speaker 1: I have any EDs. I just really enjoy my cukes.
• 32:50
  Speaker 1: My cukes. I can go days without eating them, and
• 32:53
  Speaker 1: I don't. eat my cukes. It's just that if I'm
• 32:57
  Speaker 1: going to snack, I prefer to eat a cuke.
• 33:00
  Speaker 3: Stop calling it a cuke. Not you giving it a
• 33:03
  Speaker 3: pet name. Cukies. I need my cukies.
• 33:06
  Speaker 1: I call the small ones cukies because they sound like cuties.
• 33:10
  Speaker 1: I would consider the amount I snack on cucumbers proportional
• 33:13
  Speaker 1: to the amount my boyfriend or any normal person would
• 33:16
  Speaker 1: snack on chips or other junk food. I've had a
• 33:18
  Speaker 1: few cucumber binges and I'm well aware that those are
• 33:21
  Speaker 1: not healthy. Just like binging on junk food isn't healthy.
• 33:25
  Speaker 1: That's extremely uncommon for me, and for the most part,
• 33:27
  Speaker 1: I eat a well-balanced, healthy diet. However, I will talk
• 33:30
  Speaker 1: to my doctor about it to make sure that it's
• 33:32
  Speaker 1: not worrisome. As for my boyfriend, we ended up calling
• 33:36
  Speaker 1: it quits. Wow. Chalker. Dang. I was pretty hurt at first,
• 33:40
  Speaker 1: but I think perhaps this huge reaction to cucumbers was
• 33:44
  Speaker 1: indeed a red flag for controlling behavior. I think that
• 33:47
  Speaker 1: he was trying to call my bluff, expecting me to
• 33:49
  Speaker 1: give up my cukes for him. So the breakup took
• 33:53
  Speaker 1: him by a bit of a surprise. How it went
• 33:55
  Speaker 1: down was that I told him we needed to have
• 33:58
  Speaker 1: a chat, and I told him that it was unacceptable
• 34:00
  Speaker 1: to tell me what I was allowed to eat. I
• 34:03
  Speaker 1: added that if listening to me chow down on cucumbers
• 34:06
  Speaker 1: was what bothered him, as some of you in the
• 34:08
  Speaker 1: comments noted, I would avoid eating them when he was around. Apparently,
• 34:12
  Speaker 1: the very idea of me eating so many cucumbers was
• 34:14
  Speaker 1: driving him nuts, not the noise. I decided to try
• 34:18
  Speaker 1: and compromise. He's a pretty heavy drinker and will intoxicate often.
• 34:23
  Speaker 1: I know that it's very bad for his health, and
• 34:26
  Speaker 1: I've expressed that concern in the past. I told him
• 34:30
  Speaker 1: that I'd give up cucumbers if he stopped drinking, and
• 34:34
  Speaker 1: he declined my offer. Threw out a few uncreative insults
• 34:38
  Speaker 1: and expletives, and I'm now writing this from my mom's
• 34:41
  Speaker 1: couch with a cucumber in hand and a cucumber in heart.
• 34:47
  Speaker 3: This is so funny.
• 34:49
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I think good on you. You're a free-spirited cucumberist.
• 34:56
  Speaker 3: Yeah, you don't need people to tell you that you
• 35:00
  Speaker 3: can't eat a healthy snack.
• 35:02
  Speaker 1: You just had a brief six-month window where you accidentally
• 35:05
  Speaker 1: dated a horrific 11 years older than you man.
• 35:11
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 35:12
  Speaker 1: And you know what? Six months well-earned, right?
• 35:15
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 35:16
  Speaker 1: You'll never make that mistake again.
• 35:18
  Speaker 3: Don't let anyone talk you out of your kukes, girl.
• 35:21
  Speaker 1: These kukes are for keats.
• 35:22
  Speaker 3: Kukes in my heart.
• 35:23
  Speaker 1: I've never known a man so anti-vegetable before now. I'm
• 35:27
  Speaker 1: still unclear on why the cucumbers were such an issue
• 35:30
  Speaker 1: and why I could never eat them again and why
• 35:31
  Speaker 1: me suggesting you give up drinking was such a big deal,
• 35:34
  Speaker 1: among other things. But I guess I'll never know. And
• 35:37
  Speaker 1: there's an edit. No, I did not eat 35 of
• 35:39
  Speaker 1: those mammoth cucumbers. My eating habits may be odd, but
• 35:42
  Speaker 1: I'm not completely insane. I think My last cucumber binge,
• 35:45
  Speaker 1: which occurs super rarely and was quite a while ago,
• 35:47
  Speaker 1: I have maybe three or four big ones, and the
• 35:49
  Speaker 1: rest were the mini-cukes.
• 35:51
  Speaker 3: Mini-cukes.
• 35:53
  Speaker 1: Sometimes we need mini-cukes. We've got some further edits here.
• 35:58
  Speaker 1: Edit two. Just for some added clarification for those who
• 36:01
  Speaker 1: think my boyfriend is completely justified in his cucumber hate
• 36:05
  Speaker 1: and that I'm a lunatic, I agree. Sort of. If
• 36:07
  Speaker 1: he had been bothered by the chewing or concerned about
• 36:10
  Speaker 1: my health, I was ready to talk about it and
• 36:12
  Speaker 1: work something out. I didn't enter into the discussion for
• 36:15
  Speaker 1: a fight or with the intention of breaking up. His
• 36:17
  Speaker 1: attempted grasp for control over my food wasn't even the
• 36:20
  Speaker 1: reason why I broke up with him. But when he
• 36:22
  Speaker 1: started shouting at me and called me a witch, which
• 36:24
  Speaker 1: he had never done before, I decided to end things.
• 36:27
  Speaker 1: Like doctor's notes? Oh, okay. No, I don't know. It was...
• 36:31
  Speaker 1: I don't know. It was like a... That was like
• 36:34
  Speaker 1: something on our end that ended up in here accidentally.
• 36:37
  Speaker 3: Oh, a production note. Uh.
• 36:42
  Speaker 1: That is weird. Yeah, okay. No, we didn't really need that.
• 36:45
  Speaker 1: She kind of acknowledged that. I don't know.
• 36:48
  Speaker 2: I don't know what that is.
• 36:49
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I think that's like... I don't think it's... It's
• 36:52
  Speaker 1: not from us. Well, sometimes when you... I've seen these
• 36:56
  Speaker 1: recently at the bottom of some of the notions. It's
• 36:59
  Speaker 1: like whatever the agent we're using to scan the stories
• 37:04
  Speaker 1: will sometimes leave a note. I don't know. Maybe... It
• 37:07
  Speaker 1: doesn't really matter. That's the first time I've ever seen
• 37:10
  Speaker 1: that happen.
• 37:11
  Speaker 3: Of the story don't let anyone take the kukes and
• 37:14
  Speaker 3: don't let them talk you out.
• 37:16
  Speaker 1: Yeah and don't let them yell at you and call
• 37:17
  Speaker 1: you names uh that's yeah that's bad that's also pretty
• 37:22
  Speaker 1: much uh Deal breaker for me. Gotta love, like, the
• 37:25
  Speaker 1: super cool, like, strong-jawed guys in the comments being like,
• 37:29
  Speaker 1: you didn't even give him a chance. He probably had, like,
• 37:32
  Speaker 1: sensory auditory issues, and you just didn't. It's like, no, actually,
• 37:35
  Speaker 1: I broke up with him because he screamed at me.
• 37:37
  Speaker 3: Yeah, and started calling me names.
• 37:39
  Speaker 1: And called me names over me eating cucumbers. No, I
• 37:42
  Speaker 1: think that's actually, don't worry about it. I think it's okay.
• 37:46
  Speaker 3: That's a reflection on him.
• 37:47
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 37:47
  Speaker 3: More so. But that's the end of that story, and
• 37:50
  Speaker 3: we got another one coming on it.
• 37:52
  Speaker 1: Yes, we do.
• 37:54
  Speaker 3: My boyfriend has a tattoo dedicated to his ex, and
• 37:57
  Speaker 3: I cannot deal with it.
• 37:59
  Speaker 1: Well, get you some lasers. Get it removed.
• 38:03
  Speaker 3: My boyfriend, 25 male, and his ex, 23 female, were
• 38:08
  Speaker 3: together for a couple of years, a few months, before
• 38:11
  Speaker 3: he and I, 20 female, got together. He'd gotten a
• 38:15
  Speaker 3: tattoo symbolic of her name a year into their relationship.
• 38:19
  Speaker 3: He told me he'd kind of designed it himself, but
• 38:21
  Speaker 3: had to make some tweaks because the one he'd originally
• 38:23
  Speaker 3: designed was too intricate. I am very, very uncomfortable. I
• 38:28
  Speaker 3: know this happened before I was in his life and
• 38:30
  Speaker 3: that I shouldn't let it bother me and blah, blah, blah.
• 38:32
  Speaker 3: But I can't help how I feel. I can't just
• 38:35
  Speaker 3: suck it up. I really need some advice on how
• 38:37
  Speaker 3: to start working on getting over this.
• 38:40
  Speaker 1: Thank you. There are some relevant comments. Honestly, I think
• 38:44
  Speaker 1: you should not date him because he dated someone for
• 38:47
  Speaker 1: years and then started dating you like a month later.
• 38:50
  Speaker 1: Like he's not ready. They've got matching tattoos. I don't know.
• 38:54
  Speaker 1: I don't know. I see.
• 38:56
  Speaker 3: The thing is, I don't know. I wouldn't like if
• 38:58
  Speaker 3: I was dating someone and they had like a tattoo
• 39:00
  Speaker 3: of like someone like someone's name or whatever on them.
• 39:04
  Speaker 3: I'd be like, OK, I wouldn't have them get it.
• 39:08
  Speaker 1: I mean, I don't know.
• 39:09
  Speaker 3: It's like I would.
• 39:09
  Speaker 1: You don't even know me.
• 39:11
  Speaker 3: It's not like you knew and you did something that you,
• 39:13
  Speaker 3: you know, wanted in the moment and whatnot.
• 39:15
  Speaker 1: And cool.
• 39:16
  Speaker 3: Now it's permanent. You can always get it removed if
• 39:18
  Speaker 3: you want. But also, it's on your body. You do
• 39:23
  Speaker 3: what you want with your body. I don't know. Unless
• 39:26
  Speaker 3: it's like, you know, a love letter on your back
• 39:27
  Speaker 3: that's just like.
• 39:29
  Speaker 1: I will never.
• 39:30
  Speaker 3: Be in love with anyone else unless they are this person.
• 39:34
  Speaker 1: I mean, yeah, I wouldn't date someone who had that
• 39:36
  Speaker 1: tattoo just because of how stupid of a tattoo that is.
• 39:39
  Speaker 3: Exactly. There are some really big comments. Deleted says, this
• 39:43
  Speaker 3: is why you never get tattoos for other people except
• 39:46
  Speaker 3: maybe your kids slash parents slash siblings.
• 39:48
  Speaker 1: No love interest.
• 39:50
  Speaker 3: Is it a design with her name or their anniversary
• 39:52
  Speaker 3: date or something? OP responds, I completely agree. It's foolish
• 39:55
  Speaker 3: to get something so transient tattooed on your body. Even
• 39:59
  Speaker 3: mentioned how he wasn't very deeply in love with her
• 40:03
  Speaker 3: while getting the tattoo. No comment on why he got
• 40:05
  Speaker 3: it anyway. What the F? Her name is that of
• 40:09
  Speaker 3: a flower's. He has that flower tattooed on his bicep.
• 40:12
  Speaker 3: I would have laughed if I hadn't felt my heart
• 40:14
  Speaker 3: shatter when he told me about it. It's also his
• 40:17
  Speaker 3: very first tattoo ever. He's gotten a few since then,
• 40:20
  Speaker 3: but it still effing stings that his first ever tattoo
• 40:24
  Speaker 3: is dedicated to this woman. Thank you for not dismissing
• 40:26
  Speaker 3: my feelings about it. He mentioned getting it covered up
• 40:29
  Speaker 3: after he saw my reaction, but he's mentioned it only
• 40:32
  Speaker 3: a couple of times since then, and he always says
• 40:34
  Speaker 3: it in a tone that implies that he's going to
• 40:36
  Speaker 3: get it covered up only because I'm so bothered by it.
• 40:39
  Speaker 3: Like he's doing me a favor.
• 40:41
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• 40:51
  Speaker 3: We are here to talk about some stuff, get some advice.
• 40:54
  Speaker 3: But we don't have everything you seek. We're only going
• 40:57
  Speaker 3: to tell you what we would do. But let us
• 40:58
  Speaker 3: know what you would do down in the comments. Before
• 41:01
  Speaker 3: I move on, I was going to say something.
• 41:03
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't.
• 41:05
  Speaker 3: So it's not even her name. It's just a flower.
• 41:07
  Speaker 3: And her, but the girl's name. So say her name
• 41:10
  Speaker 3: is like Lily.
• 41:10
  Speaker 1: It's just a tattoo for his ex. And it was
• 41:13
  Speaker 1: about the ex. And it'd be different if they didn't
• 41:15
  Speaker 1: break up a month ago. But yeah, I don't know.
• 41:19
  Speaker 3: It's also just not even her name.
• 41:20
  Speaker 1: It's just a flower.
• 41:21
  Speaker 3: So, like, for example, her name's Lily. He got a
• 41:23
  Speaker 3: lily tattooed on, like, his shoulder. No one would know
• 41:28
  Speaker 3: that that is, like, you know, unless he said. And
• 41:31
  Speaker 3: obviously that's what he said. And then you're like, oh.
• 41:34
  Speaker 1: Yeah, but OP knows. Then it doesn't matter.
• 41:36
  Speaker 5: Yeah.
• 41:37
  Speaker 1: OP knows.
• 41:38
  Speaker 3: To me, I don't really think it's that big of
• 41:40
  Speaker 3: a deal.
• 41:41
  Speaker 1: But, sure.
• 41:42
  Speaker 3: Deleted says, I realize this is a tough love post,
• 41:46
  Speaker 3: but here goes. I'm afraid you'll have to get past it.
• 41:49
  Speaker 3: I also have to agree with that.
• 41:51
  Speaker 1: I mean, yeah, if you're going to date him.
• 41:52
  Speaker 3: Yeah. Like, you can't just be like, you have to
• 41:55
  Speaker 3: take you have to get that off your body. You
• 41:57
  Speaker 3: have to get it removed because you're with me now.
• 41:58
  Speaker 3: And I want no remnants of her.
• 42:01
  Speaker 1: I wouldn't date anybody who said they've been dating someone
• 42:04
  Speaker 1: for years and then they broke up a month ago.
• 42:07
  Speaker 1: If I wanted to date someone seriously, I wouldn't date
• 42:09
  Speaker 1: that person. Yeah. I'd be like, sure, I mean, we
• 42:12
  Speaker 1: can mess around, but like, I don't want anything serious
• 42:14
  Speaker 1: with you because you just got out of a multi-year relationship.
• 42:16
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 42:17
  Speaker 1: And I refuse to believe a month is enough time
• 42:19
  Speaker 1: to move on from that. So whatever. Yeah, you're not ready.
• 42:23
  Speaker 3: OP responds, I have no problem with his spicy related past. Really,
• 42:27
  Speaker 3: I'd be a fool if I did. He's half a
• 42:29
  Speaker 3: decade older than me.
• 42:31
  Speaker 1: Five years. That's, yeah, that's, you could just say five years.
• 42:35
  Speaker 3: He's half a decade older and has obviously had more
• 42:38
  Speaker 3: experience than I have. I just have a problem with how,
• 42:40
  Speaker 3: despite him initiating conversations about the tattoo, it is still
• 42:44
  Speaker 3: right there. And it's not like he's being lazy. He's
• 42:48
  Speaker 3: gotten two tattoos after telling me he is getting that
• 42:50
  Speaker 3: one covered up. I'm not insecure because I know he
• 42:53
  Speaker 3: won't cheat. All I'm worried about is how attached I
• 42:56
  Speaker 3: am to him and how my feelings keep growing each
• 42:58
  Speaker 3: day and how it is entirely possible that he is
• 43:00
  Speaker 3: not overheard despite what I think. So let me tell you,
• 43:04
  Speaker 3: that's insecurities. That is insecurity. You're insecure that he's not over,
• 43:13
  Speaker 3: that you're not good enough, that he's still thinking about
• 43:16
  Speaker 3: her because, you know, you aren't good enough, per se,
• 43:20
  Speaker 3: and whatnot. And it's like, does he have to get
• 43:22
  Speaker 3: a tattoo with your name on it now to make him,
• 43:26
  Speaker 3: you know, to make you feel better? Like, this is
• 43:28
  Speaker 3: just to make you feel better. And you're like, he's
• 43:31
  Speaker 3: just still... He's gotten two other tattoos and still hasn't
• 43:34
  Speaker 3: gotten that one removed. Like, I'm just... he's really beating
• 43:37
  Speaker 3: around the bush with this one. And it's like, because
• 43:39
  Speaker 3: he does not see it as a huge priority. Like
• 43:42
  Speaker 3: he's got other things going on in his life. You know,
• 43:45
  Speaker 3: just you have a problem with it doesn't mean all
• 43:47
  Speaker 3: of a sudden he's got to do it for you.
• 43:49
  Speaker 3: You know, you've only been dating for, I don't even
• 43:51
  Speaker 3: know how long, but like not that big of a deal.
• 43:54
  Speaker 1: All of this is.
• 43:55
  Speaker 3: Being manifested in my discomfort and downright hatred for that tattoo.
• 43:59
  Speaker 3: Is OP's boyfriend still in contact with his ex? Does
• 44:01
  Speaker 3: he plan to cover up the tattoo? They still talk sometimes.
• 44:05
  Speaker 3: He's called me by her name twice, okay? And you know,
• 44:08
  Speaker 3: without that context.
• 44:10
  Speaker 1: Again, this is why you don't date someone a month
• 44:12
  Speaker 1: after they broke up with a years-long partner.
• 44:14
  Speaker 3: Yeah, it is weird. I don't want.
• 44:16
  Speaker 1: Because it does make sense. You're not crazy. It makes
• 44:19
  Speaker 1: sense to be insecure. Exactly. It's like, it's only been
• 44:21
  Speaker 1: a month. Yeah. But you knew what you were doing.
• 44:24
  Speaker 1: You got into it.
• 44:26
  Speaker 3: Yeah. I don't know. My ex would text his ex sometimes,
• 44:31
  Speaker 3: but he also was... Like she lived in Italy, so
• 44:34
  Speaker 3: it's not like they were ever see each other or whatever.
• 44:36
  Speaker 3: But he would talk to me like or he would
• 44:40
  Speaker 3: talk about me to her when we were having issues.
• 44:42
  Speaker 3: And I'm like, that rubs me the wrong way. Didn't
• 44:44
  Speaker 3: like that. As soon as we broke up, what does
• 44:46
  Speaker 3: he do?
• 44:46
  Speaker 1: Calls her.
• 44:47
  Speaker 3: So it's just weird. I don't like when people do that.
• 44:51
  Speaker 1: Hey, it's Dakota, your favorite good time boy host here.
• 44:54
  Speaker 1: We're going to get back to the stories, but here's
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  Speaker 3: I could safely say he doesn't hate her, but it
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  Speaker 3: doesn't seem like he's still in love with her either.
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  Speaker 3: He does respect her and has sometimes complained about her,
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  Speaker 3: but she's not a regular fixture in our conversations by
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  Speaker 3: any means.
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  Speaker 1: Exactly.
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  Speaker 3: It's really, really hard to see it every day so
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  Speaker 3: many times. I've spoken to him about it. He's very noncommittal,
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  Speaker 3: has mentioned getting it covered up, but hasn't acted upon it.
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  Speaker 3: He mentions he's going to get it as if He's
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  Speaker 3: doing me a huge favor and is covering it up
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  Speaker 3: only because it bothers me. No follow through. Well, yeah,
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  Speaker 3: that is the only reason he's getting it covered up
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  Speaker 3: because you have a problem with it. Is that the
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  Speaker 3: end of the world? He doesn't have a problem with
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  Speaker 3: it because he got it and he likes the tattoo.
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  Speaker 3: But you're the one with the problem. So obviously, yeah,
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  Speaker 3: he would be doing you a favor because you're the
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  Speaker 3: one with the issue. Is that like the end of
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  Speaker 3: the world?
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  Speaker 1: I don't get it.
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  Speaker 3: And LP mentions in the comments other times their ex
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  Speaker 3: has come between them. Yes, other issues as well. She
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  Speaker 3: kept up with his social media well after they broke
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  Speaker 3: up and well after he and I got together. I
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  Speaker 3: posted something on his Facebook wall and the next day
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  Speaker 3: she instant messaged him to say that I look like
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  Speaker 3: a kid.
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  Speaker 1: What the F?
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  Speaker 3: He tells me this and I laugh it off. He
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  Speaker 3: then says that she's just projecting because everybody tells her
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  Speaker 3: that she has a baby face. I asked him if
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  Speaker 3: he replied with that. He said no. I got curious
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  Speaker 3: and asked him what he replied with. He stuttered for
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  Speaker 3: a good five minutes and said, he said, yeah, she
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  Speaker 3: kind of does, but she's really smart and blah, blah, blah.
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  Speaker 3: So he didn't stand up for you. This isn't working.
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  Speaker 3: I'm going to tell you right now, it's just not
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  Speaker 3: going to work. He's still in contact with his ex.
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  Speaker 1: What are you talking about? That's not him. He didn't
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  Speaker 1: stand up for her. Does she have a baby face?
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  Speaker 1: She's five years younger than him. Maybe she does look
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  Speaker 1: a little young, but it's like, If he then goes
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  Speaker 1: on to say, but she's smart and this and blah, blah, blah.
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  Speaker 1: I don't know, dude. This is just, don't date this man. Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Don't date this man. You feel like this about a man.
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  Speaker 3: I don't know.
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  Speaker 1: Don't date that man.
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  Speaker 3: One of my boundaries is that you don't talk to
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  Speaker 3: your ex about the current relationship that you're in. That's
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  Speaker 3: just so messy. So, so messy.
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  Speaker 1: It doesn't even sound like that's what it was. She
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  Speaker 1: shot a comment over. And he was like, yeah, maybe.
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  Speaker 1: But if anything, he was flexing and being mean to
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  Speaker 1: his ex. He'd be like, yeah, but she's smart and
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  Speaker 1: funny and blah, blah. It's not like he was like, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: and you look so much hotter than her, babe. I'll
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  Speaker 1: miss you.
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  Speaker 3: I mean, I guess so.
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  Speaker 1: I don't know.
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  Speaker 3: Rubbs me the wrong way. Don't talk about me with
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  Speaker 3: your ex.
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  Speaker 1: Don't like that. OP is just being like, and this
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  Speaker 1: is his fault. It's like, actually, it's both of your fault.
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  Speaker 1: Why would you date this man?
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  Speaker 3: So I asked him if her opinion really matters that
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  Speaker 3: much to him. More stuttering. I just gave up and
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  Speaker 3: went to sleep. This is just one of at least
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  Speaker 3: a hundred petty issues which have built up over time.
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  Speaker 3: I never sit down and dissect them because I'd go insane.
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  Speaker 3: But this tattoo, coupled with his attachment to, is really
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  Speaker 3: making me question if I have enough pride.
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  Speaker 1: There's an update. I don't know.
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  Speaker 3: I think, truthfully, everyone kind of sucks here. I think you, OP,
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  Speaker 3: are not ready for this relationship, and I don't think
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  Speaker 3: he's ready for this relationship either. And I think you
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  Speaker 3: both have things that you need to work out separately
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  Speaker 3: from each other in order to make it work together.
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  Speaker 3: It just seems like you already say, I have so
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  Speaker 3: many things that are just swept under the rug. That's
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  Speaker 3: not good. You just started dating this man. What is
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  Speaker 3: the biggest issue? The biggest issue is that he has
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  Speaker 3: a tattoo of a flower that was for his ex
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  Speaker 3: on his arm that he won't find the time to
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  Speaker 3: get rid of. That's a little controlling, in my opinion.
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  Speaker 3: Just my opinion, though. What do you think?
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  Speaker 1: I think this is why you don't date people too soon.
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  Speaker 6: I mean, yeah.
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  Speaker 1: It's that simple, dude.
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  Speaker 3: And that's all he wrote.
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  Speaker 1: There's an update.
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  Speaker 3: Okay, I got a lot of crap. Nice to read
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  Speaker 3: through all of that after the kind of night I had.
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  Speaker 3: Last night, my boyfriend got back home to tell me
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  Speaker 3: that he found the post. He's an avid Redditor, so
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  Speaker 3: I should have seen this coming. He said he had
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  Speaker 3: no idea that the tattoo was bothering me this much.
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  Speaker 3: We talked till about three in the morning because I
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  Speaker 3: had college at eight. He woke me up at six
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  Speaker 3: and said he wanted to talk.
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  Speaker 1: Uh-oh.
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  Speaker 3: Uh-oh. You think it's Breakup City? or i hope so
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  Speaker 3: i i just feel like there were problems that weren't
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  Speaker 3: resolved going into this new relationship and now it's you're
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  Speaker 3: in muddied waters You never cleared a path for everyone
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  Speaker 3: to take. So it's kind of, you're still struggling against
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  Speaker 3: the current. You guys paint that picture.
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  Speaker 1: In your mind? Because I did. I see it. I'm
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  Speaker 1: swimming in it.
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  Speaker 3: Just swimming upstream.
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  Speaker 1: I'm swimming in it.
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  Speaker 3: Long story short, he's still in love with her.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah. Who would have thought that? Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: Even though he's like, no, I wasn't really like deeply
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  Speaker 3: in love with her. You're still talking to her.
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  Speaker 1: Who could have imagined that?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: He really likes me and wanted to make it work
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  Speaker 3: and thought that moving close to me and away from
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  Speaker 3: her will help him sort his feelings out and be
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  Speaker 3: with me wholeheartedly. So, yeah. Thanks to those who actually
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  Speaker 3: tried to help me and didn't call me names.
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  Speaker 1: Dang.
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  Speaker 6: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Is that us? Are we those people then?
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  Speaker 3: I don't think I called you names.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah. I think it was very clear that this was
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  Speaker 1: a misguided attempt at a relationship, but I didn't call
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  Speaker 1: you any names. Yeah. So we're the good guys.
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  Speaker 3: And truthfully, I think you were his rebound, which sucks.
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  Speaker 3: And that's like a horrible thing to do to someone. But,
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  Speaker 3: you know, sometimes you live and you learn. And it's
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  Speaker 3: just that's why.
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  Speaker 1: Maybe he just genuinely didn't know that it was a rebound. Right.
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  Speaker 5: Because he's like, I thought maybe if I got closer
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  Speaker 5: to you, I because I did like you. Maybe I'd
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  Speaker 5: be able to pull away from my ex and then
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  Speaker 5: we could really actually work. And it's like, well, no, no,
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  Speaker 5: you just know that just the first half of that.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah. First half of that probably.
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  Speaker 3: I mean, he tried and it sucks that you were
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  Speaker 3: caught in the middle of it. But, you know, water
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  Speaker 3: under the bridge, I guess. And now you don't ever
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  Speaker 3: have to worry about him. And also now you can
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  Speaker 3: just keep that tattoo and be reminded of her all
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  Speaker 3: the time. But that's the end of that story. And
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  Speaker 3: we got some comments.
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  Speaker 1: All right. We've got some comments from the video. My
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  Speaker 1: grandpa married a bruja after her ex passed suspiciously. And
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  Speaker 1: that was posted August 5th, 2026. TLDR for story one
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  Speaker 1: is OP's grandfather was a respected military leader who built
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  Speaker 1: a family legacy full of memories and heirlooms. After his
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  Speaker 1: wife died, he married a younger woman who slowly cut
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  Speaker 1: him off from his family. When he passed away, OP's
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  Speaker 1: family discovered that many heirlooms, photos, and valuables were gone,
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  Speaker 1: leaving them fighting to recover what was left of their
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  Speaker 1: grandfather's legacy. If you want to know how that whole
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  Speaker 1: story unfolds, you can go watch the full video. And
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  Speaker 1: we have some comments in my hand. First coming from LucarioMew358.
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  Speaker 1: You know what really frustrates me about the first story
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  Speaker 1: is so many people, especially men, if we're being honest,
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  Speaker 1: have a habit of falling for this when they marry
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  Speaker 1: the much younger partner that isolates them from their family.
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  Speaker 1: Yet society never learns this lesson. It's so common. Well,
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  Speaker 1: that's why we're here, to teach people the lesson, I suppose.
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  Speaker 1: Second comment from Misha Monroe. If someone already has children
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  Speaker 1: and strong family obligations, it's wise to make sure their
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  Speaker 1: children and existing responsibilities are legally protected before entering a
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  Speaker 1: second marriage. Estate planning, wills, trust, and clear financial agreements
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  Speaker 1: can help prevent future conflicts or exploitation. Yeah, I agree.
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  Speaker 1: Usually contracts prevent exploitation, lest the contracts are exploitive. in
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  Speaker 1: which case the contract is an exploitation. I'm basically a lawyer.
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  Speaker 1: Final comment from Shimmyalot. The grandpa's totally gonna haunt her,
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  Speaker 1: and as totally cool as he was alive, I will
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  Speaker 1: bet he will be one force to be reckoned with
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  Speaker 1: as a ghost. Way to go, Grandpa. Yeah. Yeah, Grandpa!
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  Speaker 1: Haunt her! Grandpa, vengeful veteran ghost? Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: I mean, I read this story, and it was pretty sad.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, imagine being haunted by the ghost of the man
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  Speaker 1: that you married and isolated from his family.
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  Speaker 3: Sounds like a pretty good storyline if anyone wants to
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  Speaker 3: make that into a movie.
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  Speaker 1: That could be pretty good. But that is the end
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  Speaker 1: of those comments and the end of this episode. So
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