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Season 2 - Episode 293 - Relationships help us be better people · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the Good Morning From the Chicken Coop Podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and mastermind set
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  coach. Filled with inspiration,
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  distinctions, perspectives, and possibilities, we help you to
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  cultivate a mindset that leads you to create the best version
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  of yourself you could ever imagine.
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  Join Kim every morning from one of her favorite happy places,
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  her chicken coop along with all her chickens.
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  Hey everybody, good morning from the chicken coop.
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  So today we are going to talk about relationships and how they
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  relate to our well-being. You know, a lot of people have
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  challenges with relationships. You know, dealing with other
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  humans is hard. Let me just say this it it
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  doesn't matter. Who you are, myself included in
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  this dealing with other humans can be hard.
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  And it. I mean it's just part of our
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  growth. I mean, I am convinced that the
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  universe and God do this to us, to put us out there to help us
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  grow. I know that I every single point
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  in my life where I have felt frustrated by other humans.
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  When I have gotten out of my ass backwards, thinking in my head
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  in the moment, I could pull it together and say, you know what?
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  There's something in this even, you know every.
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  Everyday life. Being in a couple.
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  Being in a relationship with your children.
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  Relationship with your dog. Your dog might be the one that
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  irritates you. Your relationships with certain
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  coworkers, whatever it is, they can.
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  They bring us real joy or they can bring us real pain.
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  But what they all bring to us is opportunities for learning and
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  cultivating better things within ourselves.
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  Because when we start to think about what they bring to us,
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  when we start to actually say, OK, if I choose to move past
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  anger and I get that character and that emotion out of the
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  driver's seat and I say, OK, I'm going to put in my curiosity
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  driver, I'm going to put. That driver there, because I
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  know that that driver will ask the right questions.
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  What can I take away from this? What is the thing that I need to
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  learn the most in this so that I can be a better human and do a
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  better job being a better human? So I know for a fact, and I love
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  to use myself as an example because I'm my biggest worst
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  enemy and my biggest. You know, a point of being able
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  to teach you guys because I feel like we are all interconnected
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  when it comes to this stuff. So I know my one of my biggest
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  people in my life, one of the biggest pushes in my life is my
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  husband because we are very different people.
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  We are very, very different people and we have different
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  points of view in the world. I don't agree.
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  I'm. Absolutely proud to say to him,
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  I disagree. I, you know, I have no problem
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  being that person that says those things to him because I
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  don't have to agree. I'm a grown woman and I can say
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  I don't agree and I don't with a lot of his views, but there are
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  a lot that I do agree with and I have to remind myself of that.
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  I also have to remind myself of the fact that in relationships,
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  I'm here to learn something. The relationships are here to
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  teach us something. And with him, my biggest thing
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  is that I have to recognize and I will stand by this 1000%.
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  He teaches me ways to not be argumentative because I can't
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  argue with him. When I argue with him, it never
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  goes well. So rather than doing that, I
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  have to change my approach, I have to try different
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  strategies, I have to think differently, and I actually have
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  to have patience. And I kid you not, when they
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  handed out patience. Before I got here, I did not get
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  in that line. I I did not get in that line.
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  And I and there was a point in my life you guys have heard me
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  talk about before. I like, you can't put a seed in
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  the ground and dig it up to see where it is.
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  But that was me. I did those things when I first
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  started gardening. I remember standing there and
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  sticking a toothpick down into the little seed things to see if
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  the seed had stuck out its little hook root first.
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  I'm like, oh, is it in there? Is it in there?
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  Because I didn't have damn patience.
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  I don't have patience in general, I cultivate them.
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  My clients will say God, you have enduring patience with me.
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  And I'm like, no, it's it's a cultivated skill and I use
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  curiosity as my factor to help me past it because the
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  relationships are supposed to teach us something, so.
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  When you recognize this and when you can find that piece inside
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  of you and say, you know what, this is more important than
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  that. And it is more important to me
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  to be the person that can always be up leveling myself.
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  It's more important to me to be the person that says I'm pushing
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  past everything. And you may have heard me say
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  this before on the podcast, but my true definition of hell is
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  when the person you are meets the person you could have been.
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  And yes, you heard me say that correctly.
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  My definition of hell is when the person you are meets the
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  person you could have been that to me.
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  I don't want to have that discussion with God.
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  I don't want to have him say, well listen, I gave you all this
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  stuff and then you did nothing. I mean, wow, that would be a
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  horrible thing. I want my relationship with the
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  universe and with God to be on point and I want to be able to
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  know that I came here and not only did I play and use it all,
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  but I used it at 150% because the relationships.
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  Matter to me. So I'm going to allow the
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  buttons to be pushed so that I can get rid of the buttons.
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  It's not just about avoiding the buttons, it's about utilizing
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  them so you know you can do better.
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  So I hope this was helpful. I hope you go and look at your
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  relationships and get real curious with them because
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  they're here to help us. And I hope you have a blessed
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  day and I will see you tomorrow. Bye.