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Sometimes narcissists get other people to help gaslight you · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  What is going on, Beautiful people.
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  Today we're talking about group gaslighting with narcissists and
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  toxic people. If you're new here, my name is
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  Lee Hammock. I'm a clinically diagnosed
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  narcissist and welcome to episode 991 of The Narcissist
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  Code. Boom.
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  Welcome back. Got the I got the the gas
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  lighting guns blasted there. The the guns are a blasting
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  today. Welcome back, Welcome back,
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  Welcome back. Y'all.
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  Yes, yes, yes. Group gas lighting.
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  Woof. I know I tell people that about
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  group gas lighting and I don't. I don't think a lot of people
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  talk about group gas lighting. You know, everybody thinks
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  gaslighting. I mean, not everybody, but a lot
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  of people think gaslighting is just from one person to another.
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  Like I guess like you. You guys like me, I guess like
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  her, you guys like him. Everybody's gaslighting 11
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  singular person. But to me, what what I've seen a
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  lot of times in narcissistic Relationship Dynamics that there
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  is a such thing that I refer to as group gaslighting.
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  Yes, there's one main antagonistic narcissistic person
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  here, right. That is the like the lead gas
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  lighter, like gas lighting, the gas lighting supervisor, the CEO
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  of the Gas Lighting complex is the CEO of Gas Lighting
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  Incorporated. You know what I mean?
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  Look, Gas Lighting is gas Lighting Incorporated is a
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  corporation, yes, because it's group gas lighting.
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  You see what I'm saying? But this happens because you
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  have a main gas lighting antagonistic person.
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  Let's just say it's me in this situation.
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  I'm targeting you. I want to gaslight you.
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  I want to make you. I want to make you question your
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  own reality. I want to make you question
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  whether or not what you experiencing is real.
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  I want you to question your own eyes, your own ears.
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  I want you to question your five senses, right?
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  If I want you to question that, how do I get you to question
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  that right? How do I do?
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  How do I do that effectively? How do I get you to question
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  things effectively? Sometimes I'm not enough.
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  Sometimes my voice is not enough.
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  A lot of times it is, but sometimes my voice is not
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  enough, so I need to get other people in on it.
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  So as the CEOI start to employ other members of this gas
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  lighting corporation, and this is the craziest thing about it
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  is y'all they are they these, these employees could also be
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  victims of my gas lighting because they might not even know
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  the truth. They only know what I've told
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  them and I could have been planting this.
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  I could have been planting the seed for a long time.
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  You see, I could have been telling this person bits and
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  pieces for a long time, and I'm just now ready to come out with
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  it. I'm just now ready to speak
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  about it. Right?
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  So now, in order to gaslight you, I'm targeting you, right?
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  And I just can't. I I don't know if you believe me
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  or if you if you think I'm lying to you.
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  You think I'm trying to manipulate you.
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  So I employ other people to tell you the same thing.
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  I I have other people that are on my side.
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  They can include, like I say, I use the term employees, but this
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  could be my friends or my family members that you are close to or
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  maybe you're not close to. You know, this could be your own
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  friends and family members that you are close to and I might be
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  close to your friends and family, right.
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  They might love me so they believe me, right?
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  They trust me. So I tell them this gas lit
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  version of the story. They believe me because I'm I'm
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  telling them already. I've told them already before
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  you had a chance to tell them. So they believe me into you when
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  you I'm calm, cool and collective and I'm telling them
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  this story. You might be hysterical.
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  You might be out. Like you might be just like, I'm
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  just so confused. I don't know what's going on.
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  I don't know if I'm going crazy. You use that language.
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  You say I don't know if I'm going crazy to your friends or
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  family, my employees. And they like, look, you know
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  you like you're not crazy. Lee Toto.
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  Lee Toto, what's going on? Lee said this is what happened
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  and you know it sounds true. It's like, so you're not really
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  crazy. I think Lee's telling the truth
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  and I think you just, oh, you're just questioning you.
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  You're just questioning yourself too much.
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  You're overthinking it. Boom gotcha.
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  Now your friends and family are in on it.
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  So now you're the only person on the outside looking in.
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  So we're everybody else is thinking you know everybody else
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  is already have the same thought process that I do.
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  Everybody's thinking what I my story is the truth.
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  So you told them your story and they think you're overthinking
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  it. So the group has successfully
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  gastled you. Now you believe me or or or.
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  You don't even have to believe me.
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  You're still questioning yourself.
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  So gaslighting doesn't even necessarily have to have a
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  victor. It doesn't have to.
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  When you get a gas lit to to successfully gaslight somebody,
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  you don't necessarily have to get them to make get them to
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  make choose A or B. Sometimes you can just make sure
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  they don't choose anything at all.
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  Like, they don't choose anything at all.
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  Like in this space right here, like, so you still think you're
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  crazy. So you don't hold me accountable
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  for whatever I've done. Because I have other gaslighted
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  employees around that have helped me out, that have helped
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  me perpetuate this story, this lie.
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  And now you're questioning your reality, right?
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  And they don't know any better. So guess what else happens to
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  them? You told them your story.
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  So even though they might believe me or might lean towards
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  me, they might actually believe you.
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  So they are also being gaslit. I told you that.
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  They're victims. The only person who really knows
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  the truth is me is the lead gas lighter.
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  Sometimes the the flying monkeys know I'm lying.
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  Sometimes. My employees, my gas lighter in
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  my Gas Lighting Inc employees, sometimes.
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  They already know that my story is BS, but they love me so much.
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  They are my family and my friends.
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  They're not going to turn on me, so they're going to perpetuate
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  any lie I tell them. Hey buddy.
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  Hey, bro. Hey, bro.
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  Look, my girl. I was cheating on a girl last
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  night. You know, you know how we do.
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  We cheat. We cheat together, right?
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  I've. I've never told her you.
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  Hey, so I told her this right here.
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  I just need you to cooperate the story for me, OK?
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  Like, you know I'm lying, though, right?
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  You OK? Go.
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  Cool, cool, cool. I just, like, don't call her
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  right now. That's too obvious.
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  Like if she calls you, I'm going to talk to her tonight.
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  So if she calls you, then you bring it up.
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  I like we haven't we haven't even talked to Y'all.
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  I haven't talked to you in a couple weeks.
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  Right. I haven't talked to you.
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  I haven't talked to you in a couple days, you know, since
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  this happened, so she'll believe you.
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  Just act surprised. OK, cool.
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  Got it. Boom.
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  See my homework and seeing y'all I'm back.
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  My homeboy or my home girl, whoever this is right here, They
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  know I'm a liar, manipulator, cheater.
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  My mom. This is my mom or my dad too.
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  You know, this could be my family member.
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  This could be your family member.
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  That's cool with me. We cheat together.
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  You know, we quote each other cheating.
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  So we know we we locked in on this cheating game.
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  So he knows my gaslighting story.
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  I didn't told him this big elaborate lie.
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  He's going to, He's going to fill in the blanks for me.
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  So even though so he's not a victim.
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  He knows, you know, he knows I'm lying.
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  The only person the victim here is you.
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  So now it's a successful group. Gaslighting.
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  There's multiple people gaslighting you.
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  You know, there's multiple people cooperating.
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  This crazy ass story that I've told, this, this fabrication
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  that I've created in my mind. You see what I'm saying?
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  That's what happens in these stories right here.
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  Like people will lie. That's why I just tell you truck
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  like don't argue the truth. Y'all like Lee, how do we
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  counteract group gaslighting? Because it's if it's coming from
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  multiple angles and multiple people, it makes it more
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  confusing. That's the point.
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  Write down the truth. Write down the truth of what you
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  know. That's not influenced by anybody
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  else, not what anybody else has told you.
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  Write down the facts of what you know.
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  Write them down. Don't just tell yourself out
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  loud. Don't say them out loud.
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  Write them down. Record them if you want to.
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  But like, write them down is so much better.
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  Write it down so you can see it, so it's in front of your face
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  because it's hard to deny what you wrote down.
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  Write down the truth. Write it down.
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  You know, Write down the truth. Look at the truth.
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  Don't let anybody. This is no outside influence
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  unless you have the write down the truth.
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  Put all your evidence in like a pile, screenshots, video
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  recordings, whatever you have, put it together.
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  Tabulate it without any outside influence and use the principle
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  or the theorem of Occam's Razor. I don't know if Occam's Razor is
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  a principle or theory. If y'all don't know what Occam's
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  Razor is, it is a It's pretty much saying the simplest
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  solution is the solution. You know the simplest.
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  What is Occam's razor? It says it said the syphilis of
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  Occam's razor. So Occam's razor.
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  I know what it is, I just don't know what it what it actually
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  is. Occam's Razor Occam's Razor is a
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  it's a problem solving. It's a problem problem solving
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  principle. They recommend searching for
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  explanations constructed with the smallest possible set of
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  elements. So it's a The principle of
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  Occam's Razor is saying what seems true.
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  It what seems true. The most logical thing is the
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  truth. They went out, didn't pick the
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  phone up, and they cheated on you.
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  You see what I'm saying? They didn't come home until 6:00
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  in the morning. They their they turn their phone
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  off. You couldn't.
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  Their location went missing and they come home, hickeys on their
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  neck, scratches on their back or, you know, hand prints on
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  their butt cheeks or something like that, you know, And they so
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  and they but they say they got into a fight in the alley and
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  somebody like instead of you just believing, just like OK,
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  you went out, turned your phone off and cheated on me.
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  You had some rough cheek clap, a rough cheek clapping session.
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  You know, instead of believing that, which is the simplest
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  explanation, I choose to believe you instead.
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  Like a bum stole my phone, ran off, I chased them down.
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  They when I chased them down, I ran into a group of a group of
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  bums. You know what I mean?
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  A group of of not, not necessarily homeless people,
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  y'all just bums, like outside the people just standing outside
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  the club with no money or whatever, they just hate you.
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  You know, they just say, yeah, whatever, yeah, whatever.
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  I'm not trying to be disparaging because anybody else but a group
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  of, you know, a group of Martian, a group of Martians,
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  let's just say Martian. Let's make it crazier.
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  A group of Martians, a group of people outside the club, they
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  had a Martian suits, grabbed your phone, took off running,
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  And then when you finally caught up with them, it was a bigger
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  group of Martians, A Martian dressed people, right?
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  And they took your phone and took you to a sex dungeon and
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  they tied you up and made you slaps, made you clap some
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  cheeks. And then they only released you
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  at 5:30 in the morning because they you told them that you had
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  to get home to your significant other and they were going to be
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  upward. Which one do you believe?
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  The simplest, the simplistic explanation of them cheating on
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  you or the the chasing the the alien, The Martian dressed
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  people outside the club. Occam's razor says believe the
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  what you believe. Believe what you saw first.
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  You may believe the cheating because that's the simplest
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  explanation. Y'all maybe with y'all Group
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  Gaslighter is a thing. What do you think about y'all?
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  This is something I created. This is somebody I came up with.
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  This is this is the top of my head.
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  So what do you think about group gaslighter?
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