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Breakfast Bonus: Time off school · Toni, Jase & Sam - Breakfast Catchup

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  Speaker 1: The Coast Breakfast Bonus Podcast with Tony Jason Samhi.
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  Speaker 2: Thanks for having listened to our Breakfast Bonus podcast. Today,
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  Speaker 2: days off.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, we need to talk about days off and what
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  Speaker 3: you are expected and what you think is allowed as
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  Speaker 3: a parent, because I've got a bit of a dilemma
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  Speaker 3: on my hands at the moment. Okay, so i just
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  Speaker 3: want to paint the picture for you. So both my
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  Speaker 3: girls at the moment are in full noise. Matilda rehearsals,
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  Speaker 3: which is the professional show coming to Auckland. It is
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  Speaker 3: in six weeks time now that rehearsals are ramped up
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  Speaker 3: to a point now where we will have three consecutive
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  Speaker 3: school days Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday where they are rehearsing from
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  Speaker 3: seven till ten pm at night, getting home at about
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  Speaker 3: half ten and then getting to bed right.
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  Speaker 2: On a school night.
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  Speaker 3: On a school nights are nine and eleven.
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  Speaker 2: It's outrageous.
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  Speaker 3: And look, all of the other kids in the show
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  Speaker 3: are doing the same thing and they are used to
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  Speaker 3: this because this is what theater is, because you have
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  Speaker 3: to be able to practice when the adults can practice
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  Speaker 3: after their jobs, right, So that's how it rolls. And
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  Speaker 3: quite often before Matilda rehearsals. I'll take the last week
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  Speaker 3: for example, my eldest had her big netball semi final
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  Speaker 3: where she played nearly an hour of netball, full noise,
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  Speaker 3: and then went straight to Matilda ate dinner in the
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  Speaker 3: car on the way there. And my other daughter plays
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  Speaker 3: hockey too, so that gets in the way of it
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  Speaker 3: as well. So what I'm asking. What I'm asking is
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  Speaker 3: as a parent, how much leeway do you give them
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  Speaker 3: when it comes to having days off school, taking a
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  Speaker 3: rest date, taking your mental health day. Bearing in mind,
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  Speaker 3: you also don't want the academics to slip. And at
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  Speaker 3: school Term three, for all its glory, has things like
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  Speaker 3: cross country, they are saying their speeches, so that's really
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  Speaker 3: important in their world as well. So how would you
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  Speaker 3: play this.
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  Speaker 4: I'm not one to take my kids out of school,
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  Speaker 4: I mean until recently for a.
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  Speaker 1: Month, So why did you say that.
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  Speaker 4: I have a complete turncode on this. I think if
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  Speaker 4: the experience experience exceeds what school can provide, I think
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  Speaker 4: then I think it's the right decision to have them
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  Speaker 4: trying to find balance between the two. But there has
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  Speaker 4: to be a balance. School is so important as well.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, school is important. I totally get there, and I
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  Speaker 2: think the lessons they learn are great. But also I
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  Speaker 2: take a bit more holistic approach to this. It's like, yes,
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  Speaker 2: they're learning academically at school, and I get there. But
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  Speaker 2: if you can somehow come to an agreement, you can
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  Speaker 2: make that stuff up and I don't know when that
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  Speaker 2: would happen. That's again that's a balance. But if they're
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  Speaker 2: getting rounded as a character that I don't have too
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  Speaker 2: much of a problem with that. And they're doing if
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  Speaker 2: they're doing what they love totally, they're learning things like
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  Speaker 2: now they're interacting with adults and an adult world, doing
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  Speaker 2: theater right, and they're also doing things like the sport,
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  Speaker 2: which we know is important for kids. I yeah, I
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  Speaker 2: don't know if there's a chance where you can make it.
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  Speaker 2: I don't know whether it's an afternoon thing or one
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  Speaker 2: of the days they're not at school for maybe half
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  Speaker 2: a day. I don't have too much a problem with
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  Speaker 2: that if they catch up.
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  Speaker 4: You know how it works in the real world though,
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  Speaker 4: Like think about any kind of extra currection curricular things
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  Speaker 4: with a job. You have to kind of make that work.
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  Speaker 3: And you know, we come down on the gen zs
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  Speaker 3: here do have a function till late and then can't
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  Speaker 3: come until late the next day. It's like, suck it up.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, maybe that sounds you know you compare to me
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  Speaker 4: when I was growing up. You know, I'd wake up
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  Speaker 4: at three thirty most days, milk the cows, do the paper, run,
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  Speaker 4: then go to school.
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  Speaker 2: That's right, marathon and then you've been there in class.
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  Speaker 3: Just the guy that doesn't know what HERD testing is.
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  Speaker 3: It's just amazing whole heart of that.
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  Speaker 2: How are you doing the interney? How are you doing
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  Speaker 2: managing the juggle?
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  Speaker 3: Well, the reason I'm asking is because I haven't really
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  Speaker 3: dipped my toe in yet. So my eldest who's playing Matilda,
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  Speaker 3: with which she's had one day off and that was
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  Speaker 3: from sheer exhaustion. But she also wasn't a kid that
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  Speaker 3: has days off willing only ever, so she hasn't had
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  Speaker 3: a single dow for a holiday this year. She hasn't
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  Speaker 3: had a single Like maybe I could count two days
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  Speaker 3: where she's been sick the entire year. So I think
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  Speaker 3: I'd have a different view if she'd already had time
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  Speaker 3: off for being you know, like if she'd had a
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  Speaker 3: week off because she had a bad flu, And then
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  Speaker 3: I'm like, oh, already had that day off.
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  Speaker 4: She slipping behind in anyway?
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  Speaker 2: No, that's amazing, that's pretty good. That's comparenting.
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  Speaker 4: That's that's your hurts, isn't it.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah? I'll be given another week and you know she
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  Speaker 3: might be spelling words wrong.
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  Speaker 2: What would you do on the sharing ship? What will
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  Speaker 2: you do if she does start sloping there? You're going
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  Speaker 2: to knock something on the head.
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  Speaker 3: How can you I take a bit of a view
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  Speaker 3: of if you've got a good student that tries their
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  Speaker 3: hardest and is achieving pretty well, then I think the
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  Speaker 3: odd day occasionally is actually okay. As long as they're
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  Speaker 3: not slipping behind.
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  Speaker 4: That's the key.
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  Speaker 3: And I also think agent stage of their life, right,
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  Speaker 3: she's not sitting school seat exams or n CEA as
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  Speaker 3: it is now. If it was n c A, you
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  Speaker 3: might start to go, oh, you can't miss that class
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  Speaker 3: because that's when you're finding out what the topic for
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  Speaker 3: your essay is or whatever.
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  Speaker 4: What would the thing the X Party say about that?
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  Speaker 4: Wouldn't they be trying to find you within this coalition
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  Speaker 4: now if your kids are at school.
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  Speaker 3: Just for debating this, David Seam was probably going to
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  Speaker 3: knock on my door.
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  Speaker 2: So the handcuffs to see that.
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  Speaker 1: Thanks for listening to the Coast Breakfast Bonus podcast, Get
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  Speaker 1: your days started with Coasts Fear Good Breakfast Tony Street,
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