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Who You Are Now: Midlife Reinvention & Movement as Medicine with Olympic Coach Randi Strong · The Body Pod

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  Speaker 1: Are we gonna get to five rotations? Are we gonna
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  Speaker 1: get to six? Richids? I don't know, like the amount
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  Speaker 1: of rotations? There is a ceiling, right, So then what
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  Speaker 1: is going to be the differentiator? What's gonna make you
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  Speaker 1: stand out? And you can take this to life in general, like,
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  Speaker 1: how are you gonna stand out if you're all doing
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  Speaker 1: the same thing? Yeah, what is it that's gonna give
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  Speaker 1: you that? Ed?
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  Speaker 2: Hi?
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  Speaker 3: Everyone, my name is Haley and this is Lara, and
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  Speaker 3: welcome to the Body Pod.
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  Speaker 4: Randy, my beautiful, hilarious dear friend. Thank you for being
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  Speaker 4: on the body Pod.
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  Speaker 1: Of course, Hi, I'm so excited to be here.
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  Speaker 4: I'm so excited too. And because Hailey does not know
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  Speaker 4: you the way I know you, and for all of
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  Speaker 4: the listeners, will you take us back to the beginning
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  Speaker 4: and tell us how you got in to dance and
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  Speaker 4: perform me.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, We're have so many Yeah, all of it. I'll
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  Speaker 1: tell you all the things. I'll tell you all the things.
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  Speaker 1: Anything you want to know, the good, the bad, and
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  Speaker 1: you know all of it. I'll tell you that, you know,
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  Speaker 1: kind of kind of big picture story. I started dance
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  Speaker 1: in Utah when I was very young, three or four
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  Speaker 1: years old. I knew very young, like eleven twelve, that
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  Speaker 1: I this is what I wanted to do. I knew
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  Speaker 1: at a very young age. I was like, dance is
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  Speaker 1: going to take me places. And I was so excited
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  Speaker 1: about that. My entire but junior high, high school life
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  Speaker 1: was just dedicated to training and dance. I then went
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  Speaker 1: on to I had some amazing jobs. I danced at
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  Speaker 1: Radio City. My first job was on a cruise ship.
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  Speaker 1: You know, I feel like everyone has to do that
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  Speaker 1: once in their life, you know, eighteen years old on
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  Speaker 1: a cruise ship. And then yeah, I ended up on
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  Speaker 1: So You Think you Can Dance in two thousand and nine,
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  Speaker 1: so season five, and that really helped kick my professional
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  Speaker 1: career off. I was living in LA and that really
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  Speaker 1: helped build my resume and get my name out there.
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  Speaker 1: So from there, you know, I was a professional dancer
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  Speaker 1: living in LA And ultimately I started a production company
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  Speaker 1: in twenty twelve because I wanted to. I wanted to
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  Speaker 1: produce entertainment. I wanted to stay in the dance and
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  Speaker 1: entertainment space. Even though I was, you know, getting older.
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  Speaker 1: Hips were not working like me like they did. But
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  Speaker 1: I was twenty, you know, and so I ended up
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  Speaker 1: getting into choreography and producing entertainment in the corporate world,
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  Speaker 1: which when I tell you, I mean we can get
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  Speaker 1: into this later. But when Google and I started this company,
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  Speaker 1: because I didn't know anything, I didn't know anything business,
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  Speaker 1: I was just like, what are what are we doing?
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  Speaker 1: What's a W two for? You know, like how how
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  Speaker 1: are we doing this? So yeah, so that was kind
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  Speaker 1: of one avenue. So so production was taking on a
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  Speaker 1: life of its own, and I was doing all these
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  Speaker 1: big corporate shows and I loved it. It was hiring
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  Speaker 1: my friend and you know, super fun. So kind of
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  Speaker 1: around this, you know, I don't know, late twenties, I
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  Speaker 1: end up not even late twenties. Honestly, in my thirties.
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  Speaker 1: Let's be honest. I was in my thirties. I do
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  Speaker 1: this job, I get hired to do this dance job
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  Speaker 1: in Tokyo, and in this show are a bunch of
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  Speaker 1: these ice skaters. Now I was like, okay, cool ice skating.
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  Speaker 1: I mean it's like I followed figure skating, you know,
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  Speaker 1: I was a dancer, and they were like, hey, do
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  Speaker 1: you like you know, you're really helping us with our
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  Speaker 1: off ice Like dance and movement would you want to
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  Speaker 1: work with other ice skaters, and I was like, yeah, sure, absolutely, yes,
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  Speaker 1: where when how you know? And this ended up taking
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  Speaker 1: on a life of its own. I started working with
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  Speaker 1: all these Olympic ice skaters. I was doing dance and
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  Speaker 1: movement coaching for them. I started doing choreography for them,
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  Speaker 1: and here we are, like, you know, it was a
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  Speaker 1: side hustle that I was like, I'll do anything for
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  Speaker 1: twenty dollars, you know, because of and I yeah, So
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  Speaker 1: I started doing it and it has taken on the
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  Speaker 1: life of its own. And now you know, here we
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  Speaker 1: are working with working with ice skaters, and I have
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  Speaker 1: an online studio that you know, that teaches them all
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  Speaker 1: all the things they need to know for off ice.
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  Speaker 4: In your fresh, fresh laid home from the Olympics.
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  Speaker 1: Oh my goodness, did you watch Did you watch the Olympics? Yes, yes,
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  Speaker 1: I did not.
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  Speaker 3: I have to fess up, I did not, but but
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  Speaker 3: I want to know because I'm sure there's lots of stories.
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  Speaker 1: So this was your first Olympics, my very first Olympics.
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  Speaker 1: And when I tell you, like, you know, dance isn't
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  Speaker 1: in the Olympics, right, Yeah, So going to the Olympics
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  Speaker 1: that wasn't even like in the year. It's not like
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  Speaker 1: like I wasn't like one day I'm going to make
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  Speaker 1: it to the Olympics, you know, and so yere I
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  Speaker 1: am with this opportunity to go, and because I had
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  Speaker 1: several people that had my choreography in, you know, in
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  Speaker 1: the Olympics, including Ilia Mallanin's show program, the gallap program
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  Speaker 1: I worked on with him, and so I was just
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  Speaker 1: stoked to be there. And it was this it was
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  Speaker 1: almost this culmination of all of these things that you've
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  Speaker 1: been working towards your entire life, and you didn't know
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  Speaker 1: like how it was going to come together. And then
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  Speaker 1: all of a sudden, I had this moment. I was
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  Speaker 1: on the plane, like on the way there, and tears
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  Speaker 1: just started rolling down my face because I was like,
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  Speaker 1: you realize, oh my god, I have been working my
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  Speaker 1: entire life for this moment, even though I didn't even
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  Speaker 1: realize that that was you know, that was what happened.
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  Speaker 1: And so yeah, it was just the most incredible experience.
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  Speaker 1: It was, you know, I was in Milan, the most
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  Speaker 1: gorgeous city, and yeah, epic, epic experience for sure.
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  Speaker 3: Okay, I want to take you back. I want to
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  Speaker 3: rewind a little bit. So you're on, so you think
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  Speaker 3: you can dance? Do you win or do they just
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  Speaker 3: like take a certain number of people? Like how did
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  Speaker 3: you get noticed from that?
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  Speaker 1: I will tell you it took me. It took me
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  Speaker 1: three years to get on the show. Three years. The
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  Speaker 1: first year I didn't even make it past the producer cut.
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  Speaker 1: The second year, I make it to Vegas and I
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  Speaker 1: get cut in the most humiliated. I was just humiliated
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  Speaker 1: when I got cut, honestly me and Michaels was the
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  Speaker 1: one who cut me. She's a pretty famous choreographer. And
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  Speaker 1: I was like so humiliated right now. And you know,
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  Speaker 1: I wasn't going to go back a third time. And
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  Speaker 1: I was just like I have to do this. I
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  Speaker 1: have to do it. I know I can do it.
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  Speaker 1: I know I I know I can be on the show.
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  Speaker 1: And so I went back for the third time and
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  Speaker 1: I made it, and I end up making it all
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  Speaker 1: the way to the top five girls of that season,
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  Speaker 1: followed by an international tour like forty something seasons, but
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  Speaker 1: international tour. It was so fun and so yeah, top
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  Speaker 1: five girls? Were you famous for? Like the what what
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  Speaker 1: did they call it? Like the butt dance or something.
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  Speaker 1: What was it? Yes, it was cold what dance? It
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  Speaker 1: was literally and the whole number was about my butt.
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  Speaker 1: I am not joking. That was what it was about.
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  Speaker 1: And I had to wear it.
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  Speaker 3: I know.
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  Speaker 1: It was like the I mean at the time, I
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  Speaker 1: was just like what is happening? You know? And then
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  Speaker 1: looking back, I'm like, oh my gosh, it's kind of
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  Speaker 1: iconic in the best way. Not not that I made
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  Speaker 1: it iconic, but just a yeah. But I remember so
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  Speaker 1: Meo Michael's Corey Rot said she ended up winning an
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  Speaker 1: Emmy that season for her choreography on that season of
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  Speaker 1: So You Think She Wants an Emmy? And I had
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  Speaker 1: to wear these fake red bottom shoes. I mean they
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  Speaker 1: were like this tall. Seriously, I got the most ridiculous
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  Speaker 1: shoes and she goes, okay, so you're gonna walk out
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  Speaker 1: and start in these mind you. I am like this,
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  Speaker 1: you know, little meek twenty two year old streak from Utah,
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  Speaker 1: And I was like, what what is that? You know?
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  Speaker 1: I put it on when I looked so ridiculous walking
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  Speaker 1: across this page like this, you know, and I'm like,
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  Speaker 1: oh my god, I've got forty eight hours to like
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  Speaker 1: pull this together. So it ended up yeah, ended up
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  Speaker 1: being good like that.
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  Speaker 3: Not really like catapulted you to and really another place
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  Speaker 3: as far as.
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  Speaker 1: Your career, Yeah, yeah, give your name.
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  Speaker 3: I'm gonna totally like be really naive because I don't
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  Speaker 3: know that much about dance.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, I was a cheerleader. I did like dance.
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  Speaker 3: But I look at Utah dance now and when I
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  Speaker 3: have friends that live there and their kids are in dance,
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  Speaker 3: it's like all consuming and really expensive. That wasn't the
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  Speaker 3: kind of dance that that I was doing. Mine was
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  Speaker 3: much more chill. When you were thinking I want to
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  Speaker 3: do this, Were you thinking I would dance like on
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  Speaker 3: a cruise ship or were you thinking I'm gonna have
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  Speaker 3: my own dance studio?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah? What did that look like? That dancer? Yeah? Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: of course. So you know what's so funny. I so
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  Speaker 1: my parents sat me down when I was like ten
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  Speaker 1: or eleven, you know, and they were like, Okay, if
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  Speaker 1: you want to do this, we will commit with you
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  Speaker 1: to do that, like to be just know that like
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  Speaker 1: on the days that you don't want to go too bad,
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  Speaker 1: you're going at You're going like if we're doing it,
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  Speaker 1: you're doing it, you know. And so I was so committed.
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  Speaker 1: And the funny thing is is that I was like,
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  Speaker 1: I want to grow up and be a professional dancer. Well,
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  Speaker 1: to answer your question, I I didn't even know what
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  Speaker 1: that meant. Like the first thing I did, I moved
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  Speaker 1: to New York City right after high school because I
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  Speaker 1: was like, I'm going to go be a professional doing
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  Speaker 1: what what does that even mean? But I didn't even know.
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  Speaker 1: I had no idea. I was so naive. I was
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  Speaker 1: just like I just wanted to be a professional dancer,
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  Speaker 1: you know, because I was like, oh, how cool, Like
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  Speaker 1: I love this and I can get paid to do
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  Speaker 1: it now. Also, at the same time, like Britney Spears
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  Speaker 1: was so hot, and I was like, whatever it takes
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  Speaker 1: to be Brittany. Yeah, yeah, I can't sing. I cannot sing.
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  Speaker 1: It was yeah, it became this like I have to
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  Speaker 1: be a professional dancer now. I quickly found out, you know,
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  Speaker 1: because I went to New York City first, that you
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  Speaker 1: have to be all to sing to like be successful
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  Speaker 1: in New York. I don't know why I didn't know
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  Speaker 1: that prior to right, so kind of the biggest job
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  Speaker 1: that I did out in New York was Radio City,
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  Speaker 1: and that was a massive goal. Of mine. I wanted
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  Speaker 1: to be in the Christmas show. I did it. You
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  Speaker 1: were in the show? I love it, I love yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I was Okay, two thousand and five is when I
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  Speaker 1: did it. And you know that the show changes like
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  Speaker 1: every so often, but during my season, they had these
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  Speaker 1: big Bears, like the big I mean, the costumes are massive,
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  Speaker 1: and I was the center bear and pink point shoes,
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  Speaker 1: point shoes in a bear costume. Okay, it was. It
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  Speaker 1: was the hardest and most awesome job I've ever done,
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  Speaker 1: you know, because we're doing a gazillion shows a week.
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  Speaker 1: I quickly found out that the West Coast was the
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  Speaker 1: place for me. It was much more of a commercial dancer,
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  Speaker 1: and that's where you go and get booked for like
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  Speaker 1: what you're saying, like music videos, backup dancing, commercials, TV,
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  Speaker 1: all that kind of stuff. But again to your point,
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  Speaker 1: like so you think it helped like put me on
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  Speaker 1: the map so that I was getting in these auditions
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  Speaker 1: and then be like oh you okay, oh we know you,
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  Speaker 1: We've we've seen you, and it's almost like you get
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  Speaker 1: this extra little like pass. Yeah, it give me.
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  Speaker 4: Me this credibility of you made it on there.
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  Speaker 1: So I mean, do we know she can move Yeah, exactly, yeah, exactly.
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  Speaker 1: Now the show was taken on a completely different life form,
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  Speaker 1: you know, since I was on it, but forever grateful
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  Speaker 1: that it was on my resume. It is on my resume.
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  Speaker 1: You can't take it, no one, No one's taking it
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  Speaker 1: from me.
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  Speaker 4: So you really it kind of morphed from you being
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  Speaker 4: a dancer into you being a choreographer. Had you always
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  Speaker 4: choreographed or is that a talent that you realized later
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  Speaker 4: on that you were just really good at.
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  Speaker 1: I started choreographing when I was pretty young, like when
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  Speaker 1: I was still at the studio training, because I was choreographing,
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  Speaker 1: like you know, young kids solos and stuff like for money.
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  Speaker 1: I was. You know, it's like a side job, you
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  Speaker 1: know What's funny though, now I don't like in the
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  Speaker 1: corporal space, in live entertainment space, I'm not the choreographer.
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  Speaker 1: I'm the producer, and I prefer it that way. I
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  Speaker 1: prefer it that way now as far as my space
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  Speaker 1: within ice skating, yes, I'm the choreographer. And also it's
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  Speaker 1: it's heavily and it's heavily based around movement quality, So
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  Speaker 1: I wouldn't say it's like dance choreography. It's it's movement
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  Speaker 1: and presentation and texture and pictures and things like that.
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  Speaker 1: So it's a different it's different, it's different than like
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  Speaker 1: dance choreography.
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  Speaker 4: So do ice skaters generally have a choreograph like a
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  Speaker 4: dance choreographer and then obviously an ice skating Yeah, like
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  Speaker 4: a coach, but also someone that understands the choreography on
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  Speaker 4: the skates.
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  Speaker 1: Does that make sense? Yeah, yeah, it makes sense. It
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  Speaker 1: makes sense. Okay, So I'll tell you there's there's different
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  Speaker 1: disciplines within ice skating. So you've got singles like men
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  Speaker 1: and women's singles, and then you've got pairs, which is
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  Speaker 1: the you know, the big throws and the big lifts
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  Speaker 1: and stuff like that. And then you have ice dancers.
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  Speaker 1: So ice ancers have a different set of requirements and
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  Speaker 1: elements that they do. Now, what was so interesting to
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  Speaker 1: me when I first started working with them They didn't
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  Speaker 1: dance off the ice. They're not training dance off ice.
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  Speaker 1: And I was like, well, then what do you what
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  Speaker 1: do you mean You're an ice dancer, but you can't
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  Speaker 1: dance like you're not dancing right, And so I don't think, no, no,
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  Speaker 1: they don't have I mean, now it's kind of turning
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  Speaker 1: into this. I will say, I think that I really
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  Speaker 1: created my own position, my own space. There are not
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  Speaker 1: a lot of people who do what I do, and
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  Speaker 1: I think that that, you know, I'm really proud of that.
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  Speaker 1: It's something that I I had to really form myself.
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  Speaker 1: I was like, Okay, I have this skill set, I
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  Speaker 1: have the opportunity. I'm in front of these people. How
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  Speaker 1: can I bring value to what they're already doing even
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  Speaker 1: though I can't skate. I don't know how to skate.
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  Speaker 1: I can understand it, but I don't skate. So it
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  Speaker 1: was really an interesting position that I created as a
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  Speaker 1: professional dancer coming into the space. And once I started
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  Speaker 1: working with ice dancers, then the coaches were like, oh, well,
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  Speaker 1: can you work with like my single skaters now, And
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  Speaker 1: so that's how I started working with like Alyssa and
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  Speaker 1: Elia Amber, like all these single skaters. So it really
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  Speaker 1: kind of became this create your own path, like create
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  Speaker 1: the position because it didn't exist, it really is.
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  Speaker 4: And Alyssa's the one that just won the gold.
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  Speaker 1: Yes, Alyssa's killer, She's the so she's the single woman
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  Speaker 1: skater that she has the striped hair.
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  Speaker 4: They don't consider and consider themselves skaters. They I mean,
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  Speaker 4: they don't. Sorry, yeah, which I never even thought about that.
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  Speaker 1: That is really interesting.
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  Speaker 4: But I saw this interview with you, and you were
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  Speaker 4: talking about like how you help them like finish the
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  Speaker 4: moves and the eye contact and really like pronunciate their moves.
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  Speaker 1: Almost.
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  Speaker 4: I don't know how else to say.
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  Speaker 1: So here's here's what's interesting. If you watched a performance
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  Speaker 1: a lot of times, you're not gonna understand why you
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  Speaker 1: love it. You're just gonna you're just gonna feel it.
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  Speaker 1: You're just gonna be like, oh my god, that was amazing.
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  Speaker 1: If you break it down to okay, why was that amazing,
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  Speaker 1: it's because they have eye contact, they have presentation, they
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  Speaker 1: know how to emote, they're finishing lines, they're they're giving
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  Speaker 1: great newscality there. You know, that's all these little nuanced
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  Speaker 1: things that you don't even realize that they're doing. You
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  Speaker 1: as an audience member, are just feeling it. You're just like,
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  Speaker 1: oh my god, it's so good. So that's my job.
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  Speaker 1: That's that's how I felt. Get there.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, that's what I felt when I watched your YouTube
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  Speaker 3: like intro video or something.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean I I can't tell you what you
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  Speaker 1: really did.
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  Speaker 3: I mean you, yeah, did some cool moves and stuff,
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  Speaker 3: but it was just like this grace and flow.
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  Speaker 1: So that's what you're trying to bring.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, like an actress has to be like on screen
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  Speaker 3: and win over their the crowd.
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  Speaker 1: It's it can It can literally be as simple as
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  Speaker 1: and this is what I explained in it in another
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  Speaker 1: interview that I did. It can literally be like, well,
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  Speaker 1: I'll do it to you and anybody listening can try it. Okay,
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  Speaker 1: bring your shoulders off to your ears, and then put
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  Speaker 1: your shoulders back, and then put your shoulders down, and
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  Speaker 1: then like, how much better do you feel like you have?
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  Speaker 1: Like this presentation? And and so it becomes this these little,
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  Speaker 1: these tiny details that you're like, okay, now drop your
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  Speaker 1: chin and stare over there to the right right. It
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  Speaker 1: can it can be like little things like that, and
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  Speaker 1: then on the ice in the performance you're like, oh,
• 18:24
  Speaker 1: oh my god, that was so good. Why was it
• 18:25
  Speaker 1: so good?
• 18:27
  Speaker 3: So it's kind of acting too, I mean like a
• 18:30
  Speaker 3: little bit of an acting coach. I mean you have
• 18:33
  Speaker 3: to play that role as well. Yeah, yes, So like
• 18:37
  Speaker 3: nonverbal communication.
• 18:40
  Speaker 1: Well, here's what here's what I always said at some
• 18:43
  Speaker 1: point we're gonna stop. Are we gonna get to five rotations?
• 18:47
  Speaker 1: Are we gonna get to six riches? I don't know,
• 18:49
  Speaker 1: like the amount of rotations, there is a ceiling, right,
• 18:53
  Speaker 1: So then what is going to be the differentiator? What's
• 18:56
  Speaker 1: gonna make you stand out? And you can take this
• 18:58
  Speaker 1: to to life and general, like, how are you gonna
• 19:01
  Speaker 1: stand out if you're all doing the same thing? What
• 19:04
  Speaker 1: is it that's gonna give you that edge? And I
• 19:09
  Speaker 1: believe that that is the performance. I believe that that's
• 19:13
  Speaker 1: where the artistry comes in because you you you're all
• 19:18
  Speaker 1: doing the same steps, you're all doing the same footwork,
• 19:20
  Speaker 1: you're all doing the same element. So at some point
• 19:24
  Speaker 1: you're gonna have to say, like, Okay, what's gonna make
• 19:27
  Speaker 1: me stand out? And I think it's Oh, it's artistry.
• 19:31
  Speaker 3: I do too, And I'm a newbie to all of this,
• 19:35
  Speaker 3: but I'm flabbergasted that there's that these people are not dancers.
• 19:42
  Speaker 3: Clearly they can move on skates, So have you ever
• 19:45
  Speaker 3: had to interact with someone that can move on skates?
• 19:47
  Speaker 3: But they do not have body like it's they're just
• 19:51
  Speaker 3: not good at first.
• 19:54
  Speaker 1: Yes, okay, you'll get I name names no, it's it's
• 20:04
  Speaker 1: it's so interesting because yeah, if you take off their
• 20:06
  Speaker 1: skates and then all of a sudden you get on
• 20:07
  Speaker 1: the on the floor and you're like, okay, let's try
• 20:11
  Speaker 1: a head roll, and they're like And for those of
• 20:15
  Speaker 1: you listening, that was like a you know, a a
• 20:17
  Speaker 1: in a in a net cast head role. And so
• 20:21
  Speaker 1: so here's what's here's what's so interesting. At a foundation level,
• 20:26
  Speaker 1: at a base movement, foundation, body awareness level, it is
• 20:31
  Speaker 1: all the same whether you are in the Olympics or
• 20:33
  Speaker 1: you are just starting skate. I teach the same fundamentals
• 20:38
  Speaker 1: to uh, you know, a beginner and to ilia. So
• 20:42
  Speaker 1: at a foundation level, that's all the same, right, And
• 20:47
  Speaker 1: and the reason the that I even started my online
• 20:50
  Speaker 1: studio was because I realized really fast that I was
• 20:54
  Speaker 1: saying the same things over and over and over to
• 20:57
  Speaker 1: different level skaters. So I'm like, oh my god, okay,
• 21:01
  Speaker 1: you all need foundational dance and movement training. Like because
• 21:05
  Speaker 1: you can bring me in for choreography, but if I
• 21:08
  Speaker 1: say roll your right shoulder and you don't know how
• 21:12
  Speaker 1: to move your right shoulder, like, we got to back up,
• 21:17
  Speaker 1: we gotta go back to the beginning, to the basics
• 21:20
  Speaker 1: back to the foundation. So I have seen a lot
• 21:23
  Speaker 1: of improvement. I mean, I've been working with these skaters
• 21:25
  Speaker 1: now for the last seven eight years, and it is
• 21:29
  Speaker 1: like my mission in life to drive home how important
• 21:33
  Speaker 1: it is for them to be practicing off ice dance
• 21:37
  Speaker 1: and movement. It's not about just all of a sudden
• 21:41
  Speaker 1: magically being able to do it once you step on
• 21:44
  Speaker 1: the ice.
• 21:45
  Speaker 3: Who was doing your job that you invented before you?
• 21:49
  Speaker 1: What were they doing? They were dancing as I'd say, No,
• 21:53
  Speaker 1: I don't I don't know, I don't think. Okay, you
• 21:56
  Speaker 1: know what's something crazy that I found out? And I
• 21:59
  Speaker 1: was like, oh, oh my god, I don't know how
• 22:00
  Speaker 1: you're doing it. The head coach is doing everything choreography,
• 22:08
  Speaker 1: skating lessons, music production, costume design, creative direction. I mean
• 22:15
  Speaker 1: it was like, I'm like, how how how was how
• 22:19
  Speaker 1: was one person doing all of this? And so I
• 22:23
  Speaker 1: think that I stepped in. I was like, okay, let me,
• 22:26
  Speaker 1: let me do the dance choreography part of it, because
• 22:29
  Speaker 1: if you're not a dance choreographer, you don't know dance
• 22:32
  Speaker 1: or you don't know how to choreograph those moves, like
• 22:36
  Speaker 1: hire me to do it. Right, okay, and that's how
• 22:38
  Speaker 1: that's how my position got invented, invented. I love invented positions.
• 22:44
  Speaker 3: So I feel like gymnasts could use someone helping more
• 22:50
  Speaker 3: with dance choreography because sometimes it's.
• 22:54
  Speaker 1: Choppy. Yeah, it just doesn't. It doesn't have that same
• 22:58
  Speaker 1: Their moves are cool and you're into them, but most
• 23:01
  Speaker 1: of the time there isn't this like true casts and
• 23:06
  Speaker 1: body movement. Yeah yeah, so you know what's so in
• 23:11
  Speaker 1: I completely agree, So shout out to the to the gymnasts,
• 23:14
  Speaker 1: go ahead and give me a call. It's it really
• 23:19
  Speaker 1: is the same. Like you could. You could break it
• 23:20
  Speaker 1: down to fundamentals again, and what I what I think
• 23:23
  Speaker 1: you're saying, and what the way that I would translate
• 23:26
  Speaker 1: what you're saying is I find a lack of transition.
• 23:30
  Speaker 1: So you can have a really cool move A and
• 23:33
  Speaker 1: a really cool move B, but how you get there
• 23:36
  Speaker 1: that's what creates the choppiness. That's what that's what takes
• 23:40
  Speaker 1: you out of the performance. So I'm not watching you like,
• 23:43
  Speaker 1: oh damn girl, like you are moving, You're you're almost
• 23:46
  Speaker 1: like look, oh you know, And I don't want to
• 23:50
  Speaker 1: feel like that when I watch it. I want to
• 23:52
  Speaker 1: be like, oh my god, you're so good. Why is
• 23:55
  Speaker 1: it so good? I don't even know why it's so good?
• 23:57
  Speaker 1: And transibity.
• 24:00
  Speaker 3: The music probably matters too, the music choice. Yeah, you
• 24:04
  Speaker 3: can tell the ones like the gymnasts that have Russian
• 24:06
  Speaker 3: like Russian coaches and things like that, because it just
• 24:10
  Speaker 3: isn't as I mean, I'm I'm coming again, total newbie here,
• 24:14
  Speaker 3: but when I watch a gymnastics routine, it doesn't have
• 24:17
  Speaker 3: that same feeling as a figure skater or a dance
• 24:21
  Speaker 3: ice dancer routine.
• 24:23
  Speaker 2: Yeah, as far as it's the transitions, it's the transitions,
• 24:27
  Speaker 2: and it's musicality, it's details, and I know that I
• 24:32
  Speaker 2: know that gymnasts are a little bit different because like
• 24:34
  Speaker 2: when they're getting ready for a tumbling pass, I don't
• 24:36
  Speaker 2: think they're thinking about five six seventy eight.
• 24:38
  Speaker 1: I think they're thinking of going to go where they
• 24:40
  Speaker 1: two times in the air and you know, so, yeah,
• 24:45
  Speaker 1: it's the same. You're you're you're not wrong, you are correct.
• 24:50
  Speaker 1: Do you think that you can teach?
• 24:52
  Speaker 4: Now?
• 24:52
  Speaker 3: I just asked you this and you said, yeah, there's
• 24:54
  Speaker 3: some people that don't have this natural ability, but they
• 24:57
  Speaker 3: can skate. Do you you think that you could take
• 25:01
  Speaker 3: like teach say Laura and I.
• 25:08
  Speaker 1: Like, okay, I I definitely I could not teach you
• 25:10
  Speaker 1: to skate. I for sure couldn't teach you to skate.
• 25:13
  Speaker 1: I can absolutely teach anybody to move. Here, I'm gonna actually,
• 25:18
  Speaker 1: can I give you one more thing and if you're listening,
• 25:20
  Speaker 1: you can try. Okay, I'm gonna teach you how to
• 25:24
  Speaker 1: roll your like do like a body roll. Okay, like
• 25:27
  Speaker 1: with your head a snake. Take your chin, Take your
• 25:31
  Speaker 1: chin and put it on your chest. So drop your
• 25:33
  Speaker 1: chin to your chest. Now take your left ear and
• 25:36
  Speaker 1: put your left ear on your left shoulder. Yeah, roll
• 25:41
  Speaker 1: and now listen to the left like you're listening for
• 25:44
  Speaker 1: a secret. Yes, put those three movements together, so you
• 25:50
  Speaker 1: go down ear to shoulder and listen. No, that's it.
• 25:58
  Speaker 1: That's it. And so all of us setting you like
• 26:01
  Speaker 1: can like snake your body. So it's I think it's
• 26:04
  Speaker 1: just cues. It's it's cues that I'm giving over and
• 26:07
  Speaker 1: over and over again to help you become more aware
• 26:12
  Speaker 1: with your body. Like you know how to put your
• 26:13
  Speaker 1: chin on your chest, you know how to put your shoulder,
• 26:16
  Speaker 1: you know how to listen like a secret. I'm totally
• 26:18
  Speaker 1: practicing that. No question, She's gonna be walking down like
• 26:22
  Speaker 1: the grocery aud be like yes, hippies in the car,
• 26:26
  Speaker 1: I'm going, yes, let's go.
• 26:29
  Speaker 4: So do you miss being center stage because in a sense,
• 26:34
  Speaker 4: you're behind the camera now.
• 26:36
  Speaker 1: I I love to perform. I will tell you that
• 26:40
  Speaker 1: I love it so much and I love being on stage.
• 26:43
  Speaker 1: And that was something that as I started getting older.
• 26:47
  Speaker 1: You know, I'm in LA, I'm auditioning, and now I'm
• 26:50
  Speaker 1: like finding myself like the oldest one on the audition,
• 26:53
  Speaker 1: and I'm like, oh my god, this is what am
• 26:54
  Speaker 1: I going to do? What am I going to do
• 26:57
  Speaker 1: to fulfill this need? Yes to like to perform. And
• 27:04
  Speaker 1: so I had started my production company, and you know,
• 27:08
  Speaker 1: I did all the creative and the first time I
• 27:12
  Speaker 1: ever saw something I created on the stage, like it
• 27:15
  Speaker 1: was an opening number for a corporate convention, I remember
• 27:19
  Speaker 1: sitting in the back of the room and I just
• 27:21
  Speaker 1: watched it and I was like, I'm gonna be okay.
• 27:25
  Speaker 1: I'm gonna be okay because I had this massive sense
• 27:29
  Speaker 1: of fulfillment. Even though I wasn't the one on the stage,
• 27:33
  Speaker 1: I was still being creative. I was still part of
• 27:36
  Speaker 1: the process. I was still directing. I was still in
• 27:40
  Speaker 1: this space of entertainment, and that was the moment that
• 27:44
  Speaker 1: I knew like I was gonna be okay. And I
• 27:47
  Speaker 1: still you know, I still get to I'm still producing
• 27:50
  Speaker 1: and I'm still directing and then working with the Skaters.
• 27:53
  Speaker 1: It's still a creative outlet. I mean, give me a
• 27:58
  Speaker 1: microphone at all. Like, maybe I need to go on
• 28:04
  Speaker 1: a speaking tour now, because I I love to be
• 28:08
  Speaker 1: on stage, but I also just love I love being
• 28:13
  Speaker 1: true to myself and I think that myself as a
• 28:16
  Speaker 1: person like I like to interact, I like to talk
• 28:20
  Speaker 1: to people, I like to laugh, I like to have
• 28:23
  Speaker 1: and that, to me, that's all like it's kind of
• 28:26
  Speaker 1: performative in the most authentic way. You know, So I
• 28:31
  Speaker 1: don't need to be Yeah, that's a good point.
• 28:34
  Speaker 3: Well if you are, so you've started this business, and
• 28:40
  Speaker 3: I think that it's really it's easy for people to
• 28:44
  Speaker 3: just see the highlights.
• 28:45
  Speaker 1: Randy is doing all this cool, She's going to the Olympics.
• 28:48
  Speaker 3: You know, she was on Dancing with or So you
• 28:51
  Speaker 3: think you could dance blah blah blah blah blah. But
• 28:54
  Speaker 3: I'm sure there's been some setbacks there some harder times
• 29:00
  Speaker 3: that come with just entrepreneurship and business in general.
• 29:05
  Speaker 1: Have you had any of those times? Or was always
• 29:08
  Speaker 1: just easy peasy? I've had none of those times. My
• 29:11
  Speaker 1: life is easy and everything's happen. I don't know what
• 29:15
  Speaker 1: you're talking about them. Oh my god. Yeah, the wave,
• 29:22
  Speaker 1: the wave is the wave is real big. Yeah. Of course,
• 29:26
  Speaker 1: of course you get down. Of course I get sad.
• 29:30
  Speaker 1: Of course you know all those things. I think what
• 29:33
  Speaker 1: I am learning and I'll probably continue to learn my
• 29:38
  Speaker 1: entire life is to really ride the wave and not
• 29:43
  Speaker 1: get stuck down for too long, because it's all part
• 29:48
  Speaker 1: of it, you know, it's all. You can't possibly live
• 29:52
  Speaker 1: up here otherwise you won't know how good you have it.
• 29:57
  Speaker 1: I'm very conscious of burnout well, and I used to,
• 30:02
  Speaker 1: like in my late thirties, I was burning, and I'm
• 30:06
  Speaker 1: talking like burnout, I'm in bed, I'm not functioning. Burnout.
• 30:11
  Speaker 1: That would happen probably like two or three times a year,
• 30:15
  Speaker 1: and I would just slip back. I'm like, what, okay,
• 30:18
  Speaker 1: what is it that's causing me to get to this moment?
• 30:22
  Speaker 1: What happened that that really tipped the scale, And a
• 30:26
  Speaker 1: lot of it was I wasn't happy in either the
• 30:29
  Speaker 1: work I was doing or a client that I was
• 30:31
  Speaker 1: working for. I wasn't getting enough sleep. It was just
• 30:35
  Speaker 1: it was things that were very much in my control,
• 30:38
  Speaker 1: and I have taken a lot of steps and it's
• 30:41
  Speaker 1: very you know, top of mind. That burnout is. I
• 30:45
  Speaker 1: don't I don't want to burn out. If I'm tired,
• 30:48
  Speaker 1: I will go take a nap. If I don't want
• 30:49
  Speaker 1: to work with a client, I can't do it. I
• 30:51
  Speaker 1: don't have time for new skaters right now. You know
• 30:54
  Speaker 1: things like that where it's like I used to just
• 30:56
  Speaker 1: say yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, this fear of like
• 30:59
  Speaker 1: not having enough work to finally being able to say,
• 31:02
  Speaker 1: you know what, for my own health and for my
• 31:05
  Speaker 1: own sanity, the answer has to be no. Thank you
• 31:07
  Speaker 1: so much for thinking of me. One of my books open,
• 31:10
  Speaker 1: I'll let you know. Type of type of mentality. So yeah,
• 31:15
  Speaker 1: the burnout, the burnout is is something that I'm very
• 31:19
  Speaker 1: conscious about, you know, because I have a very full life.
• 31:22
  Speaker 1: I love it. It's by design. I'm we're very busy,
• 31:25
  Speaker 1: and I don't I don't think like that word like,
• 31:28
  Speaker 1: oh I'm so busy, so busy we are that the
• 31:31
  Speaker 1: schedule's packed in the best way. So yeah, right, just
• 31:37
  Speaker 1: riding the wave, writing it when it's up and writing
• 31:40
  Speaker 1: it when it's down, and knowing that it's going to
• 31:42
  Speaker 1: change either way.
• 31:43
  Speaker 4: You know, how often would you say that you're traveling
• 31:47
  Speaker 4: because it seems like you're gone like seventy of the year.
• 31:54
  Speaker 1: Or is it eighty or is it ninety? I think
• 31:58
  Speaker 1: last year we trive. I was the road like one
• 32:00
  Speaker 1: hundred and forty thousand miles last year. Oh so yeah,
• 32:04
  Speaker 1: it's a lot, it's a lot. I have a very
• 32:06
  Speaker 1: expensive storage unit here in Salt Lake City.
• 32:09
  Speaker 4: It's so how do you manage that kind of schedule
• 32:13
  Speaker 4: while maintaining like your help, your energy, your creativity and
• 32:19
  Speaker 4: to not avoid that burnout? Is it just the boundaries?
• 32:22
  Speaker 1: Is it just saying no?
• 32:24
  Speaker 4: Because traveling in itself is amazing, but it's exhausting.
• 32:28
  Speaker 1: Yeah, it's exhausting. It's exhausting. Well, a couple of things.
• 32:33
  Speaker 1: I am openly a snob about the way I travel,
• 32:39
  Speaker 1: and I am not sorry about it. You know, we
• 32:43
  Speaker 1: can't be traveling Spirit Airlines on the six am. You know,
• 32:46
  Speaker 1: I'm thirty two eight, you know, so I am a
• 32:51
  Speaker 1: snob about the way I travel like, you know, I
• 32:54
  Speaker 1: want to fly Delta and I have the seat preference,
• 32:57
  Speaker 1: and I'd like to go the lounge and I want
• 32:59
  Speaker 1: a nice cardig get to the airport. Because it is hard.
• 33:04
  Speaker 1: It is very hard to live on the road, and
• 33:06
  Speaker 1: I wish that I could be like yep, I have
• 33:08
  Speaker 1: it all figured out. But I think the hardest thing
• 33:13
  Speaker 1: while I'm on the road is continuing to move my body.
• 33:17
  Speaker 1: For me, so like in the morning, waking up and
• 33:21
  Speaker 1: moving first thing, even if it's for five or ten minutes,
• 33:24
  Speaker 1: just like moving my body and feeling where I'm at
• 33:28
  Speaker 1: so that I'm able to go out and do my
• 33:29
  Speaker 1: job with my full self, if that makes sense. Yeah,
• 33:34
  Speaker 1: something I am normalizing and I don't care because it's
• 33:37
  Speaker 1: not performative. It is so selfish, it's very self serving.
• 33:41
  Speaker 1: Is I stretch all the time in the airport before
• 33:44
  Speaker 1: I get on planes. I'll always go find a corner,
• 33:47
  Speaker 1: you know. Yeah, but I'm I'm like touching my toes
• 33:51
  Speaker 1: and stretching out my hips and continuously moving. Obviously, I
• 33:59
  Speaker 1: mean I'd love to say like, yeah, I'm stone cold
• 34:01
  Speaker 1: sober when I don't drink. That is like a guaranteed
• 34:04
  Speaker 1: you're gonna fill so much more amazing. But you know,
• 34:08
  Speaker 1: sometimes the glass of wine just gets you like to
• 34:13
  Speaker 1: say no. Sometimes it's something that it's not easy and
• 34:18
  Speaker 1: you have to put the effort in. You have to say, like, Okay,
• 34:21
  Speaker 1: how many glasses of water if I drink today? It's
• 34:23
  Speaker 1: nine pm, winding down? I need sleep. No, I'm not
• 34:27
  Speaker 1: doing a six am flight if I don't have to. No,
• 34:31
  Speaker 1: I'm not doing two layovers either. And you know what,
• 34:34
  Speaker 1: actually I just got home, so I'm not gonna be
• 34:36
  Speaker 1: able to do that this weekend either. So yeah, boundaries,
• 34:40
  Speaker 1: all the boundaries.
• 34:41
  Speaker 4: Do you think it's taken you to be forty years
• 34:45
  Speaker 4: old to have those boundaries to like really stand strong
• 34:49
  Speaker 4: in them?
• 34:50
  Speaker 1: Oh? Yeah, you know. You know what's It's so interesting
• 34:53
  Speaker 1: because I feel like, first of all, I love getting older.
• 34:58
  Speaker 1: I love it. I thought my thirties were the best,
• 35:00
  Speaker 1: and now I'm like, no, my forties are forties are
• 35:02
  Speaker 1: the best. I think like knowing myself more and coming
• 35:10
  Speaker 1: to understand who I am as a person has allowed
• 35:13
  Speaker 1: me to create the boundaries. Because when you're young and
• 35:17
  Speaker 1: people pleasing, I had no boundaries. I was just being
• 35:20
  Speaker 1: taken advantage out of and walked all over and because
• 35:24
  Speaker 1: you don't. I don't want to hurt your feelings and
• 35:25
  Speaker 1: I don't want to see no one. I don't want
• 35:26
  Speaker 1: to make you feel bad, and I don't want to
• 35:28
  Speaker 1: Now I'm like, I'm not in control of your feelings.
• 35:31
  Speaker 1: I am sorry if you feel that way. Those were
• 35:34
  Speaker 1: not my intentions or whatever. But yeah, it's it's like,
• 35:37
  Speaker 1: the more I come to know myself, the better I
• 35:41
  Speaker 1: can treat myself. And that is that's being able to
• 35:45
  Speaker 1: say no or no that's not for me, or uh no,
• 35:50
  Speaker 1: i'd rather be alone right now, or no, I can't
• 35:52
  Speaker 1: do that tonight. But it's not easy, right, Like, I
• 35:55
  Speaker 1: don't think that. I don't think that setting boundaries and
• 35:59
  Speaker 1: keeping boundaries are easy. I think it becomes that, Okay,
• 36:03
  Speaker 1: if I don't do this, then I'm gonna hit burnout.
• 36:07
  Speaker 1: So what's more important Maybe hurting someone's feelings not on purpose,
• 36:12
  Speaker 1: or taking care of myself so then I can then
• 36:15
  Speaker 1: show up for you one hundred percent the next day. Yeah,
• 36:19
  Speaker 1: we're gonna choose myself.
• 36:22
  Speaker 4: Your husband travels also quite a bit, correct, So how
• 36:28
  Speaker 4: has your relationship with their like what's been the most
• 36:33
  Speaker 4: difficult part about both of you traveling. Has it been
• 36:37
  Speaker 4: hard on your relationship? Have you guys figured out how
• 36:40
  Speaker 4: to manage that.
• 36:41
  Speaker 1: Yeah. When we when we first started dating, we did
• 36:44
  Speaker 1: we dated long distance. We were like, you know, we're
• 36:46
  Speaker 1: in the thick of our careers, we're building, and we're
• 36:49
  Speaker 1: very focused on our career, and so when we started dating,
• 36:52
  Speaker 1: it was like I love you and also I'm building,
• 36:55
  Speaker 1: you know. So so it was a kind of a
• 36:57
  Speaker 1: known thing that we were very used to spending a
• 37:01
  Speaker 1: lot of time apart. And then COVID hit and then
• 37:06
  Speaker 1: all of a sudden, we went from being apart all
• 37:08
  Speaker 1: the time to being together all the time, and that
• 37:13
  Speaker 1: in itself taught us both a lot. It was like,
• 37:15
  Speaker 1: oh my god, you were driving me nuts, like get
• 37:18
  Speaker 1: out of my space. Right. So then so then we
• 37:22
  Speaker 1: go to that extreme and then and then you know,
• 37:23
  Speaker 1: we learn a lot about each other and it ended
• 37:24
  Speaker 1: up being great. It was, you know, unfortunately fortunately and
• 37:28
  Speaker 1: unfortunately a great time in our life to actually like
• 37:30
  Speaker 1: get to know each other on a on a deeper level.
• 37:34
  Speaker 1: And then you know, the entertainment industry came back like
• 37:38
  Speaker 1: with a fury cost COVID and all of a sudden,
• 37:42
  Speaker 1: we went from together twenty four to seven to on
• 37:44
  Speaker 1: the road again apart. That was very difficult because we
• 37:49
  Speaker 1: didn't know how to manage. It was like this ping
• 37:52
  Speaker 1: pong of how are we managing our relationship, our businesses,
• 37:59
  Speaker 1: our careers, our travel. It was, it was so much
• 38:02
  Speaker 1: and that was not an easy time for us. That
• 38:05
  Speaker 1: was that was very difficult of like, okay, what are
• 38:09
  Speaker 1: what do we want and what are we doing because
• 38:10
  Speaker 1: this isn't working? So what are we changing? And what
• 38:14
  Speaker 1: we ended up coming to the conclusion of is we
• 38:18
  Speaker 1: didn't want to spend more than two weeks apart. So
• 38:21
  Speaker 1: any time a job came up or anything, any travel
• 38:25
  Speaker 1: or anything, it was like, okay, it's yet, like obviously yes,
• 38:29
  Speaker 1: and and also if it's more than two weeks, then
• 38:31
  Speaker 1: better figure out how we're going to see each other.
• 38:33
  Speaker 1: Either I'm coming to you or you're saying you know,
• 38:37
  Speaker 1: no in the contract, or I have to go home
• 38:39
  Speaker 1: every two weeks or whatever. It was like we were,
• 38:41
  Speaker 1: you know, we were very focused on making this work
• 38:44
  Speaker 1: because we knew that we were more than some of
• 38:47
  Speaker 1: our parts, more than the some of our parts, and
• 38:50
  Speaker 1: and we knew we wanted to make that work. So
• 38:55
  Speaker 1: you know, from that from what you could say was
• 38:59
  Speaker 1: the dark. It's the hardest time of our relationship to
• 39:03
  Speaker 1: now where we are. I'm so grateful that we stuck
• 39:06
  Speaker 1: through it, and because now now I just I feel
• 39:09
  Speaker 1: like we're We're always learning about each other and we
• 39:12
  Speaker 1: give each other space to grow as individuals. We're both
• 39:16
  Speaker 1: you know, like I said, we're heavy in building our careers.
• 39:19
  Speaker 1: I don't think it's going to stop anytime soon. And also,
• 39:24
  Speaker 1: you know, we've recently started doing more shows together, so
• 39:28
  Speaker 1: now we get to travel a lot more together. So yeah,
• 39:33
  Speaker 1: when you want to make something work, you can make
• 39:35
  Speaker 1: it work, like we just both wanted it and we
• 39:38
  Speaker 1: figured out how to do it.
• 39:43
  Speaker 4: So you and Haley have something in common, and that
• 39:46
  Speaker 4: is your husbands are your it.
• 39:52
  Speaker 1: Guys.
• 39:52
  Speaker 4: They're your tech geniuses in your businesses. They're kind of
• 39:57
  Speaker 4: like your CEOs, like the husband. And so I know
• 40:03
  Speaker 4: because I work with a Lea how that goes and
• 40:06
  Speaker 4: Steve her husband's amazing, just like Iggy. I know both
• 40:11
  Speaker 4: of your guys is incredible husbands. How has it been
• 40:15
  Speaker 4: hard for you to work with your husband?
• 40:19
  Speaker 1: We work so well together, and I think we lucked
• 40:22
  Speaker 1: out in the fact that, like we are so different.
• 40:26
  Speaker 1: I am very much like I don't know technology at all.
• 40:31
  Speaker 1: And even though Iggy, like Iggy's not really an it guy,
• 40:34
  Speaker 1: He's actually just a genius creative director and designer who
• 40:37
  Speaker 1: knows it. So but here's what I'll say. I really
• 40:43
  Speaker 1: had this desire to be with someone that I could
• 40:49
  Speaker 1: build with. I wanted to build, and I kept telling
• 40:52
  Speaker 1: myself this, I want to build a life with someone
• 40:54
  Speaker 1: I want to build. And what I meant was I
• 40:57
  Speaker 1: not only do I want to build a life, I
• 40:59
  Speaker 1: want to build companies, I want to build careers. I
• 41:02
  Speaker 1: want to build you know, this amazing relationship, like I
• 41:05
  Speaker 1: just wanted to build, and I think I ended up
• 41:09
  Speaker 1: getting more than I more than I even asked for,
• 41:11
  Speaker 1: because he does all of the back end of my websites.
• 41:16
  Speaker 1: He you know, make sure my computers are updated and
• 41:19
  Speaker 1: all my devices are charged, and they, you know, make
• 41:22
  Speaker 1: sure that I have the best microphones and the best cameras,
• 41:25
  Speaker 1: and even for my online studio. He films and edits
• 41:30
  Speaker 1: and publishes, and he does it all. I'm just the
• 41:32
  Speaker 1: on camera talent, you know. So so I really lucked
• 41:36
  Speaker 1: out in having a true partner, and he truly is
• 41:44
  Speaker 1: like the definition of like my partner in life, business, relationship, travel, career,
• 41:51
  Speaker 1: all of those things. And I will say, because we
• 41:55
  Speaker 1: tell this to people all the time, it's very interesting
• 41:57
  Speaker 1: that when we're on site, when we're on a job,
• 42:00
  Speaker 1: he's the creative director. Don't ever hand me a length
• 42:03
  Speaker 1: piece of paper and say tell me your ideas, because
• 42:05
  Speaker 1: it will remain blake. I I'm the producer, Like, you
• 42:11
  Speaker 1: tell me what you want to happen, and I will
• 42:12
  Speaker 1: make it happen. I will. I will make all of
• 42:14
  Speaker 1: those things happen. So on site he's like, are the
• 42:18
  Speaker 1: shade of blues, and I'm like, okay, we'll get what.
• 42:21
  Speaker 1: We're behind schedule and we need this and this and this,
• 42:23
  Speaker 1: and so we're moving like let's pick up face. And
• 42:26
  Speaker 1: when we get home he is like money and investments
• 42:30
  Speaker 1: of technology and a computer and then book. And I'm like,
• 42:33
  Speaker 1: you know, I'm not really feeling that we should go
• 42:38
  Speaker 1: feel more like, you know, like I'm much more that
• 42:40
  Speaker 1: person at home. So we are the opposite people and
• 42:44
  Speaker 1: then we get to switch on on jobs and stuff.
• 42:48
  Speaker 1: So I think that keeps it interesting that I'm not
• 42:50
  Speaker 1: always just in like one role. You know, we really
• 42:54
  Speaker 1: do switch roles all the time. Yeah, that's great. How
• 43:01
  Speaker 1: old were you when you met him? You met him
• 43:03
  Speaker 1: later in life? I say, this is my second marriage, yep,
• 43:07
  Speaker 1: so uh yeah, I didn't meet him until I was
• 43:10
  Speaker 1: thirty thirty three maybe, thank god, thank god I met
• 43:16
  Speaker 1: him later. I mean, I don't know, do you guys
• 43:19
  Speaker 1: feel like you've transformed, like different lives at different period
• 43:23
  Speaker 1: nine one?
• 43:27
  Speaker 4: Yeah, listen, accidental marriages, like, it's just something that sometimes happens.
• 43:35
  Speaker 1: I know, I know, I look back and I'm like,
• 43:37
  Speaker 1: who was she?
• 43:39
  Speaker 4: Huh?
• 43:41
  Speaker 1: But I'm really glad that we met when we did.
• 43:43
  Speaker 1: It's been it's been such a blessing to be able
• 43:45
  Speaker 1: to meet someone when you have figured yourself out a
• 43:48
  Speaker 1: little bit more. You know, when you know yourself a
• 43:51
  Speaker 1: little bit more, you know what you want, you know
• 43:53
  Speaker 1: what you don't want, and you're able to express it.
• 43:56
  Speaker 1: You know, when when I was younger, like, you don't
• 44:01
  Speaker 1: even know yourself, so how can you know you're still
• 44:04
  Speaker 1: trying to figure it out. You know, I don't even
• 44:07
  Speaker 1: know what I want. I don't even know who I am.
• 44:09
  Speaker 1: So it's really grateful that we got to meet each
• 44:11
  Speaker 1: other later in life, and then from there you know,
• 44:16
  Speaker 1: you still grow and you still change, and also we're
• 44:19
  Speaker 1: doing it. I feel very blessed that we're doing it together. Yeah,
• 44:25
  Speaker 1: it's so true.
• 44:27
  Speaker 4: Do you believe success comes from more traying, discipline or creativity?
• 44:34
  Speaker 1: Ooh, discipline? Discipline for sure. I mean, and I say
• 44:40
  Speaker 1: that because I mean this sounds so cliche. It's the
• 44:45
  Speaker 1: little things that you do every single day that end
• 44:49
  Speaker 1: up making the biggest impact. And if you don't have
• 44:53
  Speaker 1: the discipline to do the little thing every day, then
• 44:58
  Speaker 1: I don't think it matters. If you're creative. We're not
• 45:01
  Speaker 1: because you're not gonna have you know, you're not gonna
• 45:03
  Speaker 1: have discipline to do anything with Even if you had creativity,
• 45:07
  Speaker 1: I can't even do anything with it because I'm not
• 45:08
  Speaker 1: disciplined enough to do the small things. And I say
• 45:13
  Speaker 1: that like it's easy, it's not not you. Now, I
• 45:20
  Speaker 1: will say one thing that has has helped me kind
• 45:24
  Speaker 1: of like keep that mind strength and to do the
• 45:27
  Speaker 1: things that some Sometimes I don't want to work out.
• 45:30
  Speaker 1: Sometimes I'm tired and I want to nap, and I
• 45:33
  Speaker 1: need to know the difference between are you being lazi
• 45:35
  Speaker 1: or are you actually needing rest? But I liked it,
• 45:40
  Speaker 1: like get up and work out is the if I
• 45:43
  Speaker 1: want to work out every day, just get up and
• 45:44
  Speaker 1: work out. That's how I get it done every single day.
• 45:47
  Speaker 1: And having the discipline to you know, get on the
• 45:49
  Speaker 1: bike or get in the class or do whatever it is,
• 45:52
  Speaker 1: like first thing in the morning. That is like my
• 45:56
  Speaker 1: personal road to success.
• 46:01
  Speaker 4: Anyone that's listening that might be in this position that
• 46:07
  Speaker 4: wants to start a new career or in their midlife
• 46:10
  Speaker 4: and maybe they've just been a mother, but they're passionate
• 46:14
  Speaker 4: about things or want to start something. I mean, you
• 46:17
  Speaker 4: literally created this incredible position and business. What advice would
• 46:24
  Speaker 4: you give to anyone listening and how to find your
• 46:30
  Speaker 4: passion or create something in your life.
• 46:33
  Speaker 1: Well, here's what I believe. I believe that everyone is
• 46:38
  Speaker 1: special and no one is special, which means kind of
• 46:42
  Speaker 1: the same like if I can do it, you can
• 46:44
  Speaker 1: do it. Like I truly believe that. I think that
• 46:49
  Speaker 1: one thing that really helped me find direction of like
• 46:53
  Speaker 1: what I what I was meant to do, is I
• 46:58
  Speaker 1: heavily got into meditation and found answers that came from
• 47:03
  Speaker 1: me and not from other people or what like what
• 47:09
  Speaker 1: I thought that I should be doing. And just because
• 47:12
  Speaker 1: you're good as something doesn't like I would be a
• 47:14
  Speaker 1: great slight attendant. I probaysly could be a flight attendant,
• 47:20
  Speaker 1: you know, like I'm not meant to do that, and
• 47:21
  Speaker 1: I'm as but my bad like my you know, my
• 47:24
  Speaker 1: my sister was appli attenant, They're amazing. I found I
• 47:29
  Speaker 1: spent a lot of time and energy and resources listening
• 47:35
  Speaker 1: to me, like finding my self confidence and finding my
• 47:40
  Speaker 1: self worth. And then that is what kind of led
• 47:44
  Speaker 1: the path to what I should be doing. I felt
• 47:47
  Speaker 1: like I when I was more connected to myself, I
• 47:50
  Speaker 1: felt more. I felt like I had more intuition. I
• 47:54
  Speaker 1: felt like I was guided more from me, not from
• 47:58
  Speaker 1: anybody else. So who should I call today? What should
• 48:03
  Speaker 1: I focus on today? Where should I go? What conversation
• 48:06
  Speaker 1: should I have? You know? Who should I take this job?
• 48:11
  Speaker 1: Should I not? Like? I just felt more guided because
• 48:13
  Speaker 1: I was connected to myself. So finding I think connecting
• 48:19
  Speaker 1: to yourself is the first thing, because if I don't
• 48:21
  Speaker 1: feel connected to myself, I can't I don't feel guided
• 48:25
  Speaker 1: to do anything, you know, to really go there. And
• 48:31
  Speaker 1: then the second thing I would say is is I
• 48:34
  Speaker 1: think I spend a lot of time at first, early
• 48:38
  Speaker 1: in my career. And you know, even even when I
• 48:41
  Speaker 1: was like starting starting some of the companies, is like,
• 48:44
  Speaker 1: how am I going to do that? How? I don't
• 48:46
  Speaker 1: I don't understand how. I don't understand how. And the
• 48:50
  Speaker 1: more I let go of the how, and the more
• 48:54
  Speaker 1: I focused on, Okay, well, what is what is my purpose?
• 48:57
  Speaker 1: What is the purpose? What is the what the am
• 49:00
  Speaker 1: I bringing?
• 49:02
  Speaker 2: What?
• 49:02
  Speaker 1: I won't want this to feel like, uh, you know,
• 49:06
  Speaker 1: things that were a little more ethereal the how to
• 49:10
  Speaker 1: do it? It just kind of showed up. And if
• 49:14
  Speaker 1: you're I mean, I guess that I am really spiritual
• 49:18
  Speaker 1: in the way that I believe that things do show
• 49:20
  Speaker 1: up when I meet them. And so I kind of
• 49:24
  Speaker 1: let go of the how and was just really more
• 49:27
  Speaker 1: focused on the why, like why am I doing this? Oh?
• 49:31
  Speaker 1: Because it makes me feel good. I want to do
• 49:33
  Speaker 1: more things that make me feel good. And then all
• 49:35
  Speaker 1: of a sudden, I'm having conversations in rooms and doing
• 49:39
  Speaker 1: jobs where I'm like, oh my god, how did that happen?
• 49:41
  Speaker 1: I don't know how, because it wasn't worried about it,
• 49:44
  Speaker 1: you know, I was just focus on the on the
• 49:48
  Speaker 1: the wise. I don't know if that answered your question,
• 49:50
  Speaker 1: but that that's been has been my that's been my
• 49:52
  Speaker 1: experience of anything. I will say too, Like on a
• 49:55
  Speaker 1: more practical level, there's a book. I recommend this book
• 49:58
  Speaker 1: to everybody. It's called The e Myth and it is.
• 50:04
  Speaker 1: It's a book that changed the way that I look
• 50:06
  Speaker 1: at business, especially when you turn a talent into a
• 50:12
  Speaker 1: career instead of just as a hobby. This book really
• 50:17
  Speaker 1: helped me understand how to actually run a business, Like
• 50:21
  Speaker 1: just because I was a good dancer doesn't mean that
• 50:23
  Speaker 1: I should have a dance business like whatever that meant, Like,
• 50:29
  Speaker 1: this isn't show fun, it's show business. And it helped
• 50:31
  Speaker 1: me put it into perspective of what is the business
• 50:36
  Speaker 1: of the show? How do I run the contracts? How
• 50:39
  Speaker 1: do I talk? How do I communicate? What does my
• 50:42
  Speaker 1: back end look like? How are my emails? You know,
• 50:44
  Speaker 1: like things that run the business and not just the
• 50:50
  Speaker 1: the oh i'm a talent, I'm the dancer, you know.
• 50:54
  Speaker 1: So I would I would highly recommend that book to
• 50:57
  Speaker 1: anybody who is considered taking a talent and or a
• 51:02
  Speaker 1: hobby and turning it into a business.
• 51:07
  Speaker 4: I love that advice. Are you still doing your meditation
• 51:12
  Speaker 4: practice daily?
• 51:14
  Speaker 1: Oh? Absolutely absolutely? I mean of course there are days
• 51:17
  Speaker 1: when my kid get skipped, you know, And I can't
• 51:22
  Speaker 1: tell you the difference of the way of the way
• 51:26
  Speaker 1: that I feel about my day, about the way I
• 51:28
  Speaker 1: feel about myself, right, And then in turn, the way
• 51:32
  Speaker 1: I feel about myself is how I'm going to show
• 51:34
  Speaker 1: up for other people. So if I don't feel good
• 51:37
  Speaker 1: about myself, how am I supposed to show up for
• 51:41
  Speaker 1: a client, a meeting, this conversation, my husband, my parents?
• 51:46
  Speaker 1: You know. Yeah, it's really changed change the way that
• 51:50
  Speaker 1: I look at things for sure.
• 51:52
  Speaker 4: Hailey just started a meditation practice and committed to sixty days,
• 51:56
  Speaker 4: right or was.
• 51:57
  Speaker 1: This sixty days six? Sixty six? My nose?
• 52:02
  Speaker 3: But I'm like not giving up, and so I'm just
• 52:05
  Speaker 3: going to keep doing as many as I can.
• 52:07
  Speaker 1: That's it. That's it's just showing up. It's totally just
• 52:11
  Speaker 1: showing up. Can I tell you when I first When
• 52:14
  Speaker 1: I first I was living in LA and I didn't
• 52:17
  Speaker 1: know anything about meditation, and one of my best friends
• 52:19
  Speaker 1: is like, mindy, you have to meditate, you have to meditate.
• 52:22
  Speaker 1: I'm like, okay, whatever, Like I wasn't. I was like,
• 52:27
  Speaker 1: it's like that's other people do. I don't do that.
• 52:30
  Speaker 1: That's what I That's what I thought too well. And
• 52:33
  Speaker 1: and so what I would do is I would like
• 52:35
  Speaker 1: turn on in grot, turn on to meditation, and I
• 52:38
  Speaker 1: would take a nap and be like, oh, I felt
• 52:41
  Speaker 1: crazy like I'm meditated today. I was just nappy, like
• 52:44
  Speaker 1: I didn't really understand. And I think that I think
• 52:48
  Speaker 1: meditation is misunderstood. That's what I think. Yeah, And it's like, oh,
• 52:54
  Speaker 1: I don't have time to meditate. It's like red flag
• 52:58
  Speaker 1: that means you should meditate even more. You know, you
• 53:01
  Speaker 1: definitely have time for anything you want to make time for.
• 53:06
  Speaker 1: But yeah, I think I think it's just misunderstood of
• 53:09
  Speaker 1: like I'm not going to be good at it or
• 53:11
  Speaker 1: I don't get it. It's like that's your brain talking.
• 53:16
  Speaker 1: Turn that off and and find what works for you,
• 53:21
  Speaker 1: whether it's like insight timer or I don't know if
• 53:24
  Speaker 1: there's a thousand apps for it, or just like that's
• 53:27
  Speaker 1: what I'm saying, you know. Also I will say, like
• 53:30
  Speaker 1: deciding the night before to plan my morning, like like
• 53:35
  Speaker 1: setting myself up for success in the morning is also
• 53:39
  Speaker 1: has been a major game changer because when you get
• 53:43
  Speaker 1: up and you're like, I think I'm gonna meditate, but
• 53:45
  Speaker 1: I don't know which one. So then you open the
• 53:47
  Speaker 1: app and then you're scrolling and you're like, I just
• 53:50
  Speaker 1: don't know. Oh, you know what, I gotta getut my coffee,
• 53:52
  Speaker 1: and then all of a sudden, you're like takes over.
• 53:54
  Speaker 1: You'd ever meditated, right, So it's like the night before Okay,
• 54:00
  Speaker 1: here's the one. Start to say cute up, Okay, done, Erica.
• 54:05
  Speaker 1: I don't even have to think about it. There. No
• 54:08
  Speaker 1: energy is spent about thinking about what I'm gonna do.
• 54:12
  Speaker 1: I just already know no, so much more successful in
• 54:16
  Speaker 1: the morning.
• 54:18
  Speaker 4: I saw that goes with everything, the workout, the meditation, yeah,
• 54:23
  Speaker 4: the coffee.
• 54:24
  Speaker 1: All of it. Yeah, I know. Are you here exactly?
• 54:30
  Speaker 1: Although I was have you seen that? Have you seen
• 54:32
  Speaker 1: that video? It's like I'm on a zoom meeting. But
• 54:35
  Speaker 1: if I just put wine in my coffee mug, then
• 54:37
  Speaker 1: I can just like but it really get coffee in here.
• 54:40
  Speaker 1: But as I was pouring it, like getting ready for
• 54:42
  Speaker 1: getting ready to meet with you guys, I was like, uh,
• 54:45
  Speaker 1: there could be anything in there. That's a good boy,
• 54:49
  Speaker 1: I have mine too, you have knowing this could be
• 54:51
  Speaker 1: whiskey okay near you though it's in here.
• 54:55
  Speaker 4: So yeah, bro, Randy, for anyone that's listening, where can
• 55:01
  Speaker 4: people find you?
• 55:02
  Speaker 1: Yeah, my Instagram yep, my handle is just my name,
• 55:06
  Speaker 1: Randy Stronk, Randy with an eye. Yeah, come follow along
• 55:11
  Speaker 1: the crazy journey. Or if you want to dance and
• 55:14
  Speaker 1: move like a like a figure skater, like an Olympic skater,
• 55:18
  Speaker 1: you can check out my studio. It's studio strong Ice
• 55:21
  Speaker 1: dot com.
• 55:22
  Speaker 4: I definitely think everyone should google the So you think
• 55:26
  Speaker 4: you can.
• 55:26
  Speaker 1: Dance, I know, go check out the bet dance and see, like,
• 55:29
  Speaker 1: you know, back when it was like and I'm not
• 55:32
  Speaker 1: just saying this because I was on season five. The
• 55:34
  Speaker 1: season five was legit, like the best season. It was
• 55:38
  Speaker 1: like at the height of you know, all the you
• 55:42
  Speaker 1: can dance and it's it's a really good season. And
• 55:45
  Speaker 1: I'm get one on Emmy that says something, you know, Yeah,
• 55:51
  Speaker 1: I go trick it out. Go check the red bottom
• 55:53
  Speaker 1: shoes that I wore, the fake ones. Randy.
• 55:57
  Speaker 4: Thank you so much for being here with Haley and I.
• 56:01
  Speaker 4: It's been such a joy you to your story is
• 56:06
  Speaker 4: so fun. I said, I miss you and my life
• 56:09
  Speaker 4: on the daily.
• 56:11
  Speaker 1: I know. Thank you guys, and you're both killing it
• 56:13
  Speaker 1: and keep killing it and doing all the things because
• 56:17
  Speaker 1: I love what you're doing. So thanks for listening everyone.
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