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Your New Year’s Power Hour! · The Wholehearted Enneagram Podcast

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  SPEAKER_00: I have always kind of typed her as being like the higher version of me, but not in a good way.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because most of the time she's not encouraging me to do bad things, but she's normally encouraging me to do good things or things that I want to do in a way that isn't particularly helpful or beneficial to me in the long run.
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  SPEAKER_01: Hello and welcome to the Simply Wholehearted Podcast.
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  SPEAKER_01: I'm your host, Amy Wicks, your wholehearted living coach.
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  SPEAKER_01: And I'm so glad that you stopped by to spend some time with me.
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  SPEAKER_01: Are you curious about the Enneagram?
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  SPEAKER_01: Do you want to learn biblical truths?
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  SPEAKER_01: And have you wondered if there are life rhythms that will help you thrive?
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  SPEAKER_01: Well, friend, then you are in the right place.
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  SPEAKER_01: For six years, this podcast has focused on sharing conversations with my friends about life, business, motherhood, faith, and all things Enneagram from a Christian perspective.
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  SPEAKER_01: I truly understand what it's like to juggle everything as a wife, mom to three teenagers, a pup, and all while building a growing business.
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  SPEAKER_01: And friend, I haven't always done things with clarity, peace, or joy.
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  SPEAKER_01: But still, the Lord has taken my broken-hearted pieces and healed them so I can live with whole-hearted rhythms to provide women like you with a step-by-step process so you can get free of anxiety, shame, and frustrations that might be holding you back from thriving.
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  SPEAKER_01: I pray that the Lord speaks to you as you listen today and that you would invite your friends and family to join the fun conversations.
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  SPEAKER_01: Are you ready to laugh a little and learn a whole lot?
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  SPEAKER_01: Alrighty, let's get to the conversation.
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  SPEAKER_01: Well, hey there, friend.
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  SPEAKER_01: Are you ready to welcome in a shiny new year?
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  SPEAKER_01: Can you believe the calendar pages turn and we're welcoming 2023?
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  SPEAKER_01: I know that I love a new year.
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  SPEAKER_01: I love exploring new rhythms, new goals, new dreams.
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  SPEAKER_01: And today I'm kicking off the theme of a wholehearted new year with a friend Carly Tazzano, who is an Enneagram one and a New Year's resolution coach.
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  SPEAKER_01: We're going to be talking about all things New Year's resolutions that also align with your values and personality.
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  SPEAKER_01: Now, Carly and I got to meet this last spring of 2022 when she did an interview for her podcast about what it looks like to set goals and resolutions for each Enneagram type.
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  SPEAKER_01: I'll be sure to link that episode here in the show notes, as well as all the ways that you can get to know Carly.
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  SPEAKER_01: Because not only is she a New Year's resolution coach, but she's also a certified weight loss coach and of course has a podcast of her own.
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  SPEAKER_01: So I'm curious, do you have some goals, dreams, or resolutions for 2023?
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  SPEAKER_01: Well, regardless if you are ready to hop in or go after those, I think you're really gonna love Carly's take on what it looks like to make goals that align with your values and personality.
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  SPEAKER_01: We're gonna talk about Enneagram, we're talking about New Year's and the wholehearted rhythms that you and I are going to go after in this new year and in the weeks ahead together.
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  SPEAKER_01: All right, I can't wait for you to meet Carly.
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  SPEAKER_01: Carly, welcome to the podcast.
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  SPEAKER_01: Thank you so much for having me.
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  SPEAKER_01: Yes, I'm thrilled.
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  SPEAKER_01: You invited me to be on your podcast this last year, 2022.
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  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, we'll link to that in the show notes so people can check that out because this is going to be a completely different conversation.
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  SPEAKER_01: But let's kick off this fun New Year's episode with a little bit about the Enneagram.
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  SPEAKER_01: Tell me about your Enneagram journey and a little bit about your personality type and how you've experienced it and maybe even in this process of being a New Year's coach.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, definitely.
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  SPEAKER_00: I have always been someone who, even growing up, I always loved to take all of the BuzzFeed quizzes, um, the American girl quizzes to find out like what Olive Garden entree I am or which American Girl character I most like loved taking any and every form of test.
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  SPEAKER_00: But for some reason, the Enneagram was never really on my radar um until a couple of years ago, when I think someone mentioned it in a book and I was like, well, that is one I have not taken.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, so I jumped right on it.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I think as opposed to other personality frameworks, the Enneagram can be a little bit less clear when you get results.
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  SPEAKER_00: Cause sometimes you get different numbers depending on the tests you take.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, and unless till you come to a certain level of knowledge about the Enneagram, you aren't entirely sure like what all of that means.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, so initially, after I got the results, I thought I was a two.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I started to read a bunch of material about it being a two, and it really resonated with me.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, and so I was operating on that framework for quite a while.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, but at one point I was working with a therapist and she began to kind of hint.
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  SPEAKER_00: She was like, I'm not entirely sure that you are a two.
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  SPEAKER_00: I think there might be some oneness here, um, more than just you tipping that direction.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so I started to read more about being a one and realize that that is actually what I am.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm a one and I have a two-wing.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, and I also have come to the realization that my values are very other people-centered and loving others is one of my life priorities.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so I think that is why I really leaned into that identity of being a two and being there for other people.
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  SPEAKER_00: But I really am doing it from the position of doing it to the best of my ability, to perfection if possible, as I live out my values, which is a really um very one trait.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, so with that realization, I was able to kind of look back, and everything in life made just a bit more sense from that perspective.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, and it has been really interesting just to discover and read more about how I can want to and can lean into the elements of um perfection and idealism and seeking to identify the things that I want to correct in the world and make right.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, and recognizing then when I am a bit too hard on myself or I beat myself up, or I hold other people to those standards of perfection that I have established that are really just for me and have nothing to do with them.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, and so it has been a really interesting journey recognizing that about myself.
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  SPEAKER_00: And in my coaching practice as well, it has helped me to realize and recognize those standards that I hold myself to in my own resolution setting or goal setting is very different and distinct from other people.
• 6:42
  SPEAKER_00: And I think my own journey with the Enneagram has helped me to recognize and empathize with other people as they are coming to recognize what their values are and how they most often align in some way with their Enneagram type.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then how from that position and perspective with that knowledge, they can best set goals and then work towards them.
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  SPEAKER_01: So good, Curly.
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  SPEAKER_01: I love how you articulated your journey.
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  SPEAKER_01: And even one thing going back to how you distinguish between the one and the two.
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  SPEAKER_01: It came from that the desire to help people came more from a desire to do the right thing by helping people.
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  SPEAKER_01: Yes, exactly.
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  SPEAKER_01: How does the inner critic sound to you?
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  SPEAKER_01: We talk about it sometimes sounding like the main girl, or some people have mixed it up between the voice of God and the inner critic, and others have just maybe given a gender attribute to it of what it sounds like for them.
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  SPEAKER_01: So I'm kind of curious to know what does the inner critic sound like to you?
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  SPEAKER_00: I have always kind of typed her as being like the higher version of me, but not in a good way.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because most of the time she's not encouraging me to do bad things, but she's normally encouraging me to do good things or things that I want to do in a way that isn't particularly helpful or beneficial to me in the long run.
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  SPEAKER_00: So it might be like, I should stay up late tonight, past my bedtime, work and build my business.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like, sure, that might be a good thing, but it's actually not in line with my values of taking care of myself and probably not going to do that great of work.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it's just not gonna benefit anybody.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so it may sound like a good thing, and it may sound like that version of me that I want to be, who is entrepreneurial and producing the things that I want to, but in actuality, she's pulling me away from what I really want and what's most in line with the person that I want to be.
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  SPEAKER_01: Oh, that is really good.
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  SPEAKER_01: We have a little joke in our house that came from oh, I don't, Sunday cool, and then he's he's a YouTuber, whatever.
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  SPEAKER_01: And I think there is some phrase or routine around the the phrase, do better.
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  SPEAKER_01: And that is what comes to mind for me is those who whatever that inner critic sounds like, at the end of the day, it's this push to do better.
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  SPEAKER_01: And the inner critic is never satisfied.
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  SPEAKER_01: They're always pushing, do better, do more.
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  SPEAKER_01: And that striving then will never cease if you continue to be guided by the inner critic.
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  SPEAKER_01: So uh anyway, I love that.
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  SPEAKER_01: Thanks for letting me just hear a little bit of what it sounds like for you.
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  SPEAKER_01: These are the kind of conversations while we're talking more about Enneagram.
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  SPEAKER_01: I know that our community enjoys listening because everyone's at a unique spot of where they are in discovering.
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  SPEAKER_01: And I think this just helps hearing story aids in the self-awareness process.
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  SPEAKER_01: And sometimes when we can find ourselves in that story, it brings a new level of understanding about how we are and how we operate.
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  SPEAKER_01: So anyway, so fun.
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  SPEAKER_01: Well, you are what you call is a New Year's resolution coach.
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  SPEAKER_01: Now that was a first for me.
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  SPEAKER_01: I also thought, brilliant, so fun.
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  SPEAKER_01: I am all about goal setting.
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  SPEAKER_01: We talk a lot about that in the rhythms of living wholehearted.
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  SPEAKER_01: But tell me, what does that actually mean?
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  SPEAKER_01: What does that look like for you?
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  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
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  SPEAKER_00: Well, as I was going through the process of becoming a coach, one of the kind of overarching business principles that they instill in you and that I've known through starting other businesses, like you really want to have a niche, that thing that you are specifically good at, specifically talented in.
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  SPEAKER_00: And as I reflected on what I feel like sets me apart as a person and my passions and wanting to lean into those, uh, New Year's resolutions is something that quickly came to the forefront because while I haven't always kept my resolutions, I've always set them.
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  SPEAKER_00: And over the years, I have learned the tools and tactics and strategies that have helped me become someone who does keep their resolutions.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I love that energy that you get at the end of the new year as you're reflecting and celebrating how far you've come since the last new year and you're looking ahead to the coming months and the person that you want to help yourself, help yourself become and the things that you want to do and check off.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so pretty quickly I knew that I wanted to lean into that and to help people set and keep their resolutions and to help them discover those tools and tips and tactics that I learned and that they could apply to their own lives to help them as we're working together and then every year after.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, and it has been so fun.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I get to lean into like the champagne and the confetti of it all.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, so it really is the business model and the clients and a topic that I'm so passionate about, all wrapped up together into one.
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  SPEAKER_01: Now, clearly, you're not just a coach around this New Year's season.
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  SPEAKER_01: And as we're sharing this conversation, it's January 2nd.
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  SPEAKER_01: Uh, I am still observing the advent rhythm because really advent lasts until the day of epiphany, which is January 6th, and the Orthodox Christmas is January 7th, just a little nerding out here on the calendar.
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  SPEAKER_01: Um, and I basically just like to spread out the celebration as long as possible.
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  SPEAKER_01: But for you, um, what does it look like to get into that rhythm of the new year planning or maybe goal setting in general?
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  SPEAKER_01: Because as I said, you're probably not just helping people around this time of year.
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  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, absolutely not, because that is the one of the biggest reasons people fail to keep their resolutions is because they set them this time of year and then all the other times of year, they're not thinking about them.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then we get back to this time of year and they think, oh, I wanted to do those things and I'll put them on the list again because I still didn't get to them.
• 12:12
  SPEAKER_00: And then a couple months or days later, they've forgotten about them again.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I love being able to come alongside people, whether for the whole year or for any portion of the year, to help them realign with those things, determine whether they really are the things they want to go after, um, and then help them figure out exactly how to do that.
• 12:29
  SPEAKER_00: And I, since I'm someone who fully leans into the New Year's resolution idea, uh, I really only set goals at this time of year.
• 12:38
  SPEAKER_00: Um, I normally spend the end of one year reflecting, celebrating, and considering in terms of my overall life shape, like what transitions I know are gonna be happening.
• 12:47
  SPEAKER_00: Occasionally there's none.
• 12:49
  SPEAKER_00: Um, but normally there's a couple, there's always the unexpected, right?
• 12:53
  SPEAKER_00: None of us saw COVID coming.
• 12:54
  SPEAKER_00: So there's always those unexpected wrenches that are gonna get thrown in our plans.
• 12:58
  SPEAKER_00: Um, but moving beyond that, it's helpful to come to that place of regardless of those things, what's gonna happen outside of me or that I know is just gonna happen anyway in my life, like a move.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, what are those things that I want to do or the rhythms that I want to establish for me?
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  SPEAKER_00: What habits do I want to get into?
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  SPEAKER_00: What people do I want to connect with?
• 13:17
  SPEAKER_00: Um, and so I really try to sink into that by imagining a year from now, December 31st, who is that person that I want to be?
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  SPEAKER_00: What attributes does she have?
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, what does her day-to-day look like?
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  SPEAKER_00: What is she celebrating on that day?
• 13:31
  SPEAKER_00: Um, and then working backwards, I'm able to determine now what goals I need to set um personally or professionally or in other aspects of my life in order to figure out what those steps are gonna be to become that person on December 31st.
• 13:44
  SPEAKER_00: Um, and I think that vision is such a fun way to really lean into it to think about what it is gonna take to embody that person.
• 13:51
  SPEAKER_00: Um, and that's something that you can do really any time of the year, regardless of what you're going after.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I know some people don't like resolutions, so they're still welcome in my club.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, but I think we can use a lot of the same tactics and ideas as we set goals at any time of the year.
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  SPEAKER_00: But resolutions in New Year's is so cool because we have that end-of-the-year reflection.
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  SPEAKER_00: We have the fresh start energy of the new year, and we know naturally we're going to be checking in again 12 months later.
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  SPEAKER_00: That is powerful.
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  SPEAKER_01: I do believe that you could call it whatever you want, call it a goal, call it a resolution, call it a habit, call it just trying something.
• 14:28
  SPEAKER_01: But I wholeheartedly believe, and that's why every year for the last six, maybe this is even our seventh year.
• 14:35
  SPEAKER_01: I should do the math, but we've been gone in this community this idea of three weeks to a new year, finding wholehearted rhythms and really engaging with what is it that we want this year to look like.
• 14:48
  SPEAKER_01: I believe that we have to set the stage or set the table for some of the things that we want to see happen in our life or have our life look, you know, a little bit more what we would want it to be.
• 15:03
  SPEAKER_01: So we continue to move in the direction of growth and and moving forward.
• 15:06
  SPEAKER_01: And that takes intentionality, which I beat that intentionality drives a lot over here.
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  SPEAKER_01: But that is what it takes.
• 15:15
  SPEAKER_01: Life will just happen to us.
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  SPEAKER_01: But do we want to happen to life?
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  SPEAKER_01: And I, at the end of the day, I'm all about in this reflection and looking forward process or partnering with the Lord.
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  SPEAKER_01: What does the Lord have for us?
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  SPEAKER_01: What is what is our the person who loves us most and has the best plan for us?
• 15:36
  SPEAKER_01: Well, he may not give us a crystal ball.
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  SPEAKER_01: So we, you know, we might not know what is coming, but he can also give us wisdom and insight that allow us to create the margin for what is to come, to to uh to engage in the rhythms and the habits that will serve us really well, no matter what's going on around us.
• 15:56
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, I totally agree.
• 15:58
  SPEAKER_00: Um, going to life coach training for me was the perfect example of that.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, it was something that I had started another business that I also still run.
• 16:06
  SPEAKER_00: And I was considering taking that next step of being trained as a life coach.
• 16:09
  SPEAKER_00: And I knew that the certification I wanted to do, the registration was open.
• 16:13
  SPEAKER_00: Um, and this was October 2019, and I had planned to do it years in the future.
• 16:17
  SPEAKER_00: But something in my spirit, and I give God all the credit, he was kind of nudging me, saying, No, I think you should do this.
• 16:22
  SPEAKER_00: Like you need to take that step of faith that you're gonna do it now.
• 16:26
  SPEAKER_00: And so sure enough, then March 2020, as the classes started, just days after the world went into lockdown, and I had all of this extra time at home to dig into the material and a whole new online community that I got to connect with as I was building my business.
• 16:39
  SPEAKER_00: And so it was amazing to see how he opened the doors at the right time, but also opened my heart to be willing to change my plan the way I thought things were going to work in the future, um, and just how all of the timing of that perfectly came together.
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  SPEAKER_00: Great testimony, Carly.
• 16:54
  SPEAKER_01: That is awesome.
• 16:56
  SPEAKER_01: It's so true.
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  SPEAKER_01: Being willing to pivot.
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  SPEAKER_01: I know that I've engaged into a huge step of faith in this year of 2023.
• 17:04
  SPEAKER_01: And it's something that I've tried to tap myself out of again and again.
• 17:07
  SPEAKER_01: And I just thought, no, maybe later.
• 17:09
  SPEAKER_01: And ultimately, it means I'm adding some coaches on my team, fellow Enneagram coaches who've gone through my program and who are certified and certified in different areas of spiritual direction.
• 17:20
  SPEAKER_01: And I kept thinking, well, I mean, I really liked these women and I wanted to keep them as clients just because they were great to me.
• 17:28
  SPEAKER_01: But ultimately, I knew even though it felt really scary, and I thought, oh, I need to be years down the road before I do something like this.
• 17:36
  SPEAKER_01: Um, the Lord has made it abundantly clear to take this step.
• 17:40
  SPEAKER_01: And so um, I just think into that, I just declare that, okay, the Lord's gonna show me why he asked me to take that leap of faith, and already it's proven to be a huge gift.
• 17:51
  SPEAKER_01: Um, but sometimes we do.
• 17:52
  SPEAKER_01: We just have to like surrender our plan to a a better, a better way, oftentimes.
• 17:59
  SPEAKER_01: Now, in that, I'd be curious to know as you're looking here at 2023, and I can't believe we're saying 2023.
• 18:05
  SPEAKER_01: I don't know, it just feels better than 2022.
• 18:08
  SPEAKER_01: But is there a new habit or rhythm that is on your resolution list that you're gonna be turning out?
• 18:14
  SPEAKER_00: I am.
• 18:15
  SPEAKER_00: So I mean, there's always a bunch, right?
• 18:17
  SPEAKER_00: But this year, I have spent 2022 was a year really focused on uh work and production and turning stuff out, uh, making progress on things.
• 18:28
  SPEAKER_00: I published a book, I went to grad school and graduated.
• 18:30
  SPEAKER_00: So my year of 2023 is gonna be much more focused on fun.
• 18:34
  SPEAKER_00: I came to the realization in 2022 that enjoying my life, which I totally do, is different and distinct from fun.
• 18:41
  SPEAKER_00: Um, and still being in a part of my life where I'm not encumbered by a spouse or children and having businesses that are flexible and allow me to do what I want to.
• 18:51
  SPEAKER_00: I really want to lean into that for right now.
• 18:54
  SPEAKER_00: Um, and so one habit that I want to get better at is once a month I want to go on some kind of an adventure.
• 18:59
  SPEAKER_00: I live near Seattle, so the weather is going to dictate a little bit of that.
• 19:03
  SPEAKER_00: But we have so many cool things around here that I've never done.
• 19:06
  SPEAKER_00: Um, and I want to take full advantage of that and bring my friends and family along to cultivate my relationships in those things.
• 19:13
  SPEAKER_00: So I'm excited to see how God can use that to to shape me and to bring more joy into my life and to connect with others.
• 19:19
  SPEAKER_00: Um, so who knows what all those adventures will be?
• 19:21
  SPEAKER_00: But 2023, I hope will be a very fun year.
• 19:25
  SPEAKER_01: Man, I am here for that, Carly.
• 19:27
  SPEAKER_01: I'm wholeheartedly supporting that.
• 19:29
  SPEAKER_01: You're your seventh friend, you're assessing the high side of the seventh way to go.
• 19:35
  SPEAKER_01: And this is such a great indicator.
• 19:37
  SPEAKER_01: The habits and the new rhythm should invite us to stretch something, to be indicative of the growth.
• 19:45
  SPEAKER_01: Just as for me, that line looks more accessing the high side of the five, which might mean more learning and studying and slowing, reading all of those things, taking time, pulling away a little bit, whereas yours is looking like going out there and pushing, pushing for that adventure.
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  SPEAKER_01: So I love it.
• 20:04
  SPEAKER_01: So good.
• 20:05
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 20:05
  SPEAKER_00: Well, and the planning part, like I can plan 12 adventures.
• 20:08
  SPEAKER_00: I have that down.
• 20:09
  SPEAKER_00: I can do the research, I can get it on the calendar, but getting myself out the door to go do the fun thing and enjoying it fully, that is the part that oddly is a little bit harder for me.
• 20:18
  SPEAKER_00: And maybe some other ones resonate with that.
• 20:20
  SPEAKER_00: So I'm excited to learn how to have fun better and more.
• 20:24
  SPEAKER_00: Um, so I can do better in that way too, I guess.
• 20:27
  SPEAKER_01: Oh, there we go.
• 20:28
  SPEAKER_01: There's my new niche.
• 20:30
  SPEAKER_01: I'm going to be the um fun coach.
• 20:32
  SPEAKER_01: Uh, keep you accountable to the fun.
• 20:36
  SPEAKER_01: Yao, that is so great.
• 20:38
  SPEAKER_01: Well, again, one of the questions or conversations that we're having again in this idea of whole-hearted rhythms is engaging in worship on a daily basis.
• 20:47
  SPEAKER_01: Now, that doesn't mean we're singing with the choir or we're getting in the car and heading to church to do corporate worship.
• 20:54
  SPEAKER_01: Worship is a state of the heart and the state of a being.
• 20:58
  SPEAKER_01: And so oftentimes for me, that is also supported by engaging in some favorite worship songs.
• 21:06
  SPEAKER_01: And it could be a worship artist, it could be an album and things like that that just kind of call my heart to that place and get me and just like singing over me and getting me in a place where I'm really engaging in worship on a deeper level.
• 21:22
  SPEAKER_01: So for you, is there a worship album or song that you that helps you with that?
• 21:26
  SPEAKER_01: And maybe that's even been new to this last month or so for you.
• 21:31
  SPEAKER_00: I love that question.
• 21:32
  SPEAKER_00: It's such an important one.
• 21:33
  SPEAKER_00: And I love to that nature and idea of looking at it like within context, like right now in your life, what are those songs that are speaking to you?
• 21:40
  SPEAKER_00: And as a New Year's resolution coach, I think about things a lot within the context of a year.
• 21:45
  SPEAKER_00: And so I have those songs like each year that really stand out.
• 21:50
  SPEAKER_00: And so over the last couple of months, um, and really this year, the song In Jesus' Name by Katie Nicole has really stood out to me.
• 21:57
  SPEAKER_00: Um, and I love it because it's very glorifying, but it's also that outward energy of praying over others.
• 22:04
  SPEAKER_00: And so even and especially if I'm in a difficult situation with someone or someone has irritated me a little bit, I keep coming back to this song and um just glorifying God for bringing those people into my life and praying these blessings over them.
• 22:18
  SPEAKER_00: Um because I don't know where they're at in life or what they're going through.
• 22:21
  SPEAKER_00: Um but he does.
• 22:23
  SPEAKER_00: And so that just puts me right back into the right frame and perspective and allows me to worship him for all of it.
• 22:29
  SPEAKER_00: Oh beautiful.
• 22:31
  SPEAKER_01: All right.
• 22:32
  SPEAKER_01: Now I know we're early on and I again I'm an advocate of taking a few weeks as we step into the new year.
• 22:39
  SPEAKER_01: You don't have to know all the things, all the resolutions at the beginning of your new year, but is there a word or scripture that has caught your attention as you're beginning this new year?
• 22:50
  SPEAKER_00: Well fun is going to be my word but I did have a verse really stand out to me in my Bible reading the last couple of nights.
• 22:58
  SPEAKER_00: And I'm reading through the Old Testament and so I was in Numbers and Numbers 923 um says at the Lord's command they encamped and at the Lord's command they set out.
• 23:07
  SPEAKER_00: They obeyed the Lord's order in accordance with his command through Moses.
• 23:11
  SPEAKER_00: And that verse really it jumped out at me.
• 23:14
  SPEAKER_00: And I loved that idea of like going when he says go and staying when he says stay.
• 23:19
  SPEAKER_00: And especially as I try to bring fun into bigger elements in my life this year, like making some big decisions about direction and purpose um and realizing that like right now I'm staying here while he guides the next step and then I will move forward.
• 23:33
  SPEAKER_00: And so I love that verse and how I can make the whole process as fun as possible.
• 23:38
  SPEAKER_00: But even just seeing him speak to me through verses like that, this alone is fun.
• 23:43
  SPEAKER_00: And so I'm so grateful and appreciative of of that and the reminder that verse offered me.
• 23:49
  SPEAKER_01: Shirley, that is so cool.
• 23:51
  SPEAKER_01: Thank you for sharing that and just being intentional preparing for that question as well.
• 23:58
  SPEAKER_01: That is blessing someone as they listen.
• 24:00
  SPEAKER_01: So beautifully said really as we wrap up here and this was my promise to my friends because it got a little long-winded at the end of last year with my podcast episodes is I was going to try to keep them tighter and faster.
• 24:16
  SPEAKER_01: So we're staying on track but I would love to hear what would be your wisdom and your insight as a New Year's resolution coach.
• 24:23
  SPEAKER_01: What is the next step or maybe there's two or three for a rhythm of regular goal setting and really at the end of the day following through with the things that we have we've decided we're going to be intentional for.
• 24:35
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
• 24:36
  SPEAKER_00: I think what I always say is the number one reason people don't keep their resolution is because they don't intend to a lot of people set resolutions in that energy of like, well, I said this last year, I'm going to set it again because it's something I'd like to do, but there's no intention there.
• 24:50
  SPEAKER_00: Like you were talking about intentionality is so important.
• 24:52
  SPEAKER_00: And so whether we're setting goals or resolutions or something else entirely, having that intention first and foremost to actually follow through is like the number one thing that we need.
• 25:03
  SPEAKER_00: But after that, if we have that intention to follow through, we're going to be able to so much better figure out all the steps to get there.
• 25:09
  SPEAKER_00: But more strategically keeping our goals front of mind, especially our resolutions, especially all throughout the year, that too helps so much just to remember in March, oh yeah, these are the things that I wanted to be working on to celebrate progress you've made, to identify whatever the next steps are that's so helpful.
• 25:25
  SPEAKER_00: And lately I've been really encouraging clients and other people in my life that whatever it is you want to do, there's someone else who's done it before you.
• 25:32
  SPEAKER_00: And so turn to them and their wisdom and their knowledge and their expertise because they've probably struggled in ways similar to the way you are now or that you will in the future.
• 25:40
  SPEAKER_00: And there's just so much knowledge that we can gain from other people who've done the specific thing that we want to before us.
• 25:46
  SPEAKER_00: And even if they haven't gone through that exact thing, just their knowledge and their inspiration is sure to encourage us and help guide us forward.
• 25:54
  SPEAKER_01: That is so great.
• 25:56
  SPEAKER_01: It is really true.
• 25:58
  SPEAKER_01: I think we get afraid to ask whether we're fearing the sense of competition or not looking like we know or will it be a silly question?
• 26:09
  SPEAKER_01: All of those different emotions that might go on and and we are here to say like there's no bad question.
• 26:16
  SPEAKER_01: And if you can't ask that person a question then you might need to rethink your guru.
• 26:22
  SPEAKER_01: Right.
• 26:22
  SPEAKER_01: There is someone else out there who is eager to help and I have found that for sure in this online space there is nothing new under the sun.
• 26:30
  SPEAKER_01: And you know you might as well just go ask hey how did it work for you?
• 26:34
  SPEAKER_01: You're going to have your own spin, your own take your way of doing something just go find out what worked and then do it the way that is going to work for you.
• 26:44
  SPEAKER_01: So in all of that I just thank you Carly for sharing your story your some of your personal journey in this and I know that you have probably a lot of resources if people are eager to get a little bit more help in being intentional for 2023 that you probably have.
• 27:03
  SPEAKER_01: So why don't you let us know maybe what we can expect when we hop over either on Instagram or on your webpage.
• 27:09
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah absolutely um plenty of posts on Instagram plenty of blog posts.
• 27:13
  SPEAKER_00: I think podcasting is one of my favorite mediums though.
• 27:16
  SPEAKER_00: So I have interviewed so many amazing people like you, Amy, um, who I think I've really tried to be intentional about that too and to interview people who have specific knowledge in specific areas or who have reached goals that I see people set all the time.
• 27:32
  SPEAKER_00: And so I of course share from my knowledge and experience but then I have tried to interview guests from all across the spectrum of every other kind of goal and achievement to share their personal knowledge and experience.
• 27:43
  SPEAKER_00: So that's the Resolve podcast and you can find all of the interviews and episodes there.
• 27:48
  SPEAKER_00: I like to say it's everything you need to know to keep any resolution ever.
• 27:52
  SPEAKER_01: So good.
• 27:53
  SPEAKER_01: That's a great tagline absolutely friends if you enjoyed this conversation and if you're a podcast listener go add it to the feed and get inspired to be intentional and not just setting but following through in your resolutions for 2023 and engaging in the wholehearted rhythms that ultimately you desire.
• 28:14
  SPEAKER_01: Thank you so much Carly for being here today.
• 28:17
  SPEAKER_01: Thank you so much for having me.
• 28:20
  SPEAKER_01: Now didn't you love Carly's practical tips for making and keeping your New Year's resolutions?
• 28:26
  SPEAKER_01: I know I took more than one tip away from her teaching in this episode.
• 28:30
  SPEAKER_01: Now you can email me at wholeheartedineagram at gmail.com and let me know what goal you are going to be working on towards these next 12 months.
• 28:40
  SPEAKER_01: I do encourage you to partner with the Lord and ask him for wisdom and insight of where he would like your focus to be on this year.
• 28:48
  SPEAKER_01: Now some goals I have for me personally are keeping the wholehearted rhythms that are working for me.
• 28:55
  SPEAKER_01: Some are new from last year some are ones that I've been doing for a long time.
• 29:00
  SPEAKER_01: I'm looking for more fun and creative ways to have dates with my kids on a regular basis.
• 29:07
  SPEAKER_01: We spend a lot of time together well it feels like a lot of time but it's not always deep personal connection time.
• 29:14
  SPEAKER_01: So I'm looking for ways to get to know better what is going on in that teenage brain of theirs.
• 29:21
  SPEAKER_01: I'm also excited because I have a couple of fun trips planned this year, including some in-person speaking events that might be coming near a location to you.
• 29:33
  SPEAKER_01: I'm excited to announce those as all the details come together as I'm looking for more ways to connect with you on a one-to-one basis or in a small group gathering.
• 29:43
  SPEAKER_01: I have all sorts of fun plans for the podcast whether it's topics and guests maybe some more fiction pieces if you listened to the end of last year's episodes you heard a couple of fun fiction pieces and I hope I can share more of those this year.
• 30:02
  SPEAKER_01: Gosh there's so many ideas that I have a course as a seven and a course as a business owner and I can't wait to share all the different ideas and hopefully the fruit of those ideas with you throughout the year.
• 30:16
  SPEAKER_01: Also as we do our wholehearted rhythms I want to invite you to three weeks to a new year or maybe it's even four years four weeks.
• 30:26
  SPEAKER_01: As I said with Carly, sometimes those ideas and those visions, those goals and dreams, they take time and it's okay that you aren't waking up on January 1 with a list full of ideas for the next year.
• 30:40
  SPEAKER_01: There is a way to go about that and that is through getting in the word worshiping the Lord and writing those ideas down.
• 30:49
  SPEAKER_01: And then we added on last year to our wholehearted rhythms in the new year idea of waiting sometimes we get in the word sometimes we worship sometimes we write and then it's about waiting.
• 31:01
  SPEAKER_01: Of course I have lots to say about that because this Enneagram 7 doesn't like to wait, but there is a lot that I've had to wait for.
• 31:09
  SPEAKER_01: But I'm so excited to bring you those conversations starting next week.
• 31:13
  SPEAKER_01: Jessica Matheson is going to share about her passion for the word and her unique journey becoming a mom first through foster care and then through beautiful pregnancies that have brought about life and of course additional responsibility as an author and Bible teacher.
• 31:31
  SPEAKER_01: And I can't wait for you to meet her and hear from her next week.
• 31:35
  SPEAKER_01: So until next time friend continue to pursue God's perspective purpose and plans for your wholehearted life