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The One About Jessica’s Jiu-Jitsu Obsession with Black Belt Dawna Gonzalez & An Update from Lala · Untraditionally Lala

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  Speaker 1: Welcome to they give Them Laala Podcast. I'm your host
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  Speaker 1: for the day, Lala. It's me Jessica. I'm here with
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  Speaker 1: our Oh thank you, thank you, thank you so much,
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  Speaker 1: thank you so much. I am here with our.
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  Speaker 2: Guy Easton burning Hand.
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  Speaker 1: Hey, everybody, good to be back, be back. Oh my gosh.
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  Speaker 1: And I'm so excited, so excited you guys.
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  Speaker 2: It is the jiu jitsu episode, and we have my girl,
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  Speaker 2: My girl, the first black belt woman I've ever met.
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  Speaker 1: She's a black belt, a tenth Planet black belt under
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  Speaker 1: Eddie Bravo. She does so many things.
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  Speaker 2: She is a huge proponent of getting women into jiu jitsu,
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  Speaker 2: huge proponent of self defense for everyone, I think, not
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  Speaker 2: most importantly, but very specifically catered to women's self defense.
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  Speaker 1: She's a badass. I'll let her tell you guys what
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  Speaker 1: she does.
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  Speaker 2: But Donna Gonzalez, ladies and gentlemen, Hi, how.
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  Speaker 1: Are you today? Donna fantastic? How are you good? I'm good.
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  Speaker 2: Let me tell the listeners really quick because I know
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  Speaker 2: this is our first actual episode. Well lisays was the first,
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  Speaker 2: but then us airing without Lalla. As you know, we've
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  Speaker 2: mentioned this before, but I keep wanting to look at
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  Speaker 2: this camera, so I'm gonna look here, right, Producer John, Okay,
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  Speaker 2: we're learning, you guys.
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  Speaker 1: So I really wanted to bring a lot of the listeners.
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  Speaker 2: Ever since I've started jiu jitsu, a lot of our friends,
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  Speaker 2: a lot of you guys have written in really great
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  Speaker 2: fun questions like people who know nothing about jiu jitsu,
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  Speaker 2: like Jessica, why are you so obsessed with it?
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  Speaker 1: Isn't this weird? Isn't that weird?
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  Speaker 2: And I purposely did not answer them, knowing we'd be
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  Speaker 2: doing an.
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  Speaker 1: Episode like this.
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  Speaker 2: So with all that said, I'm going to pass it
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  Speaker 2: over to Donna to intro herself and then we'll get
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  Speaker 2: into some exciting questions.
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  Speaker 3: Thanks everybody. So my name is Donna Ganzalz.
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  Speaker 4: I'm kind of sad that Lisa Mom isn't here. I know,
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  Speaker 4: because I also wear daily contacts, but I have to. Yeah,
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  Speaker 4: they fall out of my eyes when I do jiu
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  Speaker 4: jitsu a lot, so I have to change them every
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  Speaker 4: day because I infections. Yes, So anyway, I just wanted
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  Speaker 4: to say that.
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  Speaker 3: I was like, where's Lisa.
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  Speaker 4: You can't you can give yourself pinku you and give
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  Speaker 4: yourself sties.
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  Speaker 1: Give yourself well It's like.
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  Speaker 4: If the contact falls out and you put it back
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  Speaker 4: in your eye, it's a dirt contact.
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  Speaker 3: Can't put a dirty contact in your eye.
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  Speaker 1: He said, do you wear contacts?
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  Speaker 3: Okay?
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  Speaker 4: At when I do jiu jitsu a lot, which we'll
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  Speaker 4: talk about in a second, But my contacts like they
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  Speaker 4: get knocked out sometimes because you know contact, Yeah, and
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  Speaker 4: there's no punching them, right, there's no punching, but we're
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  Speaker 4: like we're making contact with each other.
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  Speaker 2: Heavy cross face baby, and.
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  Speaker 3: I have a stigmatism and so my my come out easily. Anyways,
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  Speaker 3: that I was driving up listening to that.
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  Speaker 4: Episode today and I was like, yeah, contact, I get
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  Speaker 4: it mean same right?
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  Speaker 2: Oh, which speaking of will put a pit in this
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  Speaker 2: you guys. But Donna has some very strong opinions on
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  Speaker 2: Trigger Warning where I talk about almost getting abducted and
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  Speaker 2: then where Lisa talks about the girl putting the bill
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  Speaker 2: in her hair.
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  Speaker 1: Yes, but that being said, Donna, let's go back. I'm
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  Speaker 1: so sorry.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, I know you're gooding. I digress. My name is
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  Speaker 4: Donna Gonzalez.
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  Speaker 3: I am a jiu jitsu coach.
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  Speaker 4: I am a women's self defense coach. I call myself
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  Speaker 4: an empowerment coach. My whole focus is helping women find
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  Speaker 4: that badass space inside of them.
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  Speaker 3: I also teach men how to do jiu jitsu children.
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  Speaker 4: I live inside a little jiu jitsu bubble, but yeah,
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  Speaker 4: that's my whole thing is I'm all about like bringing
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  Speaker 4: the ladies together and like having them find their power
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  Speaker 4: and doing this really cool sport that Jessica is obviously
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  Speaker 4: obsessed with now. So I'm here to help feed her
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  Speaker 4: obsession and hopefully answer some questions for you guys about the.
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  Speaker 5: Sport and get some more people upsessed, get.
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  Speaker 3: Some more people oubsessed.
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  Speaker 4: Hopefully come, yes, come join Michael in the Colure's the thing.
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  Speaker 6: I love jiu jitsu and I've always been interested in it.
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  Speaker 5: I don't think I got the knees for it. My
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  Speaker 5: knees popped.
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  Speaker 4: My ligaments are held together by Hope's dreams and bubble guns.
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  Speaker 6: But I've mine were two and it popped and I
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  Speaker 6: had to get how many surgeries here?
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  Speaker 1: I know? I just walk it off. Oh my god.
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  Speaker 2: People ask we're getting into this because people ask about injury.
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  Speaker 1: But really quick, How I met Donna was?
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  Speaker 2: I started jiu jitsu in October of last year, and
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  Speaker 2: there is there is for me. There was not a
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  Speaker 2: lot of women around in my immediate circle at Tenth
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  Speaker 2: Planet Burbank.
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  Speaker 1: That is slowly changing.
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  Speaker 2: But so I was desperate to find any organization, any
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  Speaker 2: seminar that was taught by a woman in jiu jitsu,
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  Speaker 2: and Donna was the first I saw. Like it's called lockdown,
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  Speaker 2: but it was a seminar where basically Donna was teaching
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  Speaker 2: some jiu jitsu and I was like, I think it
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  Speaker 2: was an hour away and I was like, I'm going.
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  Speaker 2: I went and we immediately clicked, and I was like,
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  Speaker 2: I'm obsessed with this person. Did you are you technically
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  Speaker 2: the founder of tenth Planet Women or no?
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  Speaker 1: How does that work?
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  Speaker 3: Okay? So tenth Planet is its own system, right.
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  Speaker 4: I was one of Eddie's first female students there, Eddie Bravov.
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  Speaker 4: So there's a there's a handful of us, and I'm
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  Speaker 4: I'm me. So I'm like, I'll do that, I'll do this,
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  Speaker 4: you know what I mean. Like I'm always like let
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  Speaker 4: me take yeah over. I'm like take charge type of gal.
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  Speaker 4: So when I became a purple belt, which is so
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  Speaker 4: if we're going by belt rings, you guys are white congratulations, everybody.
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  Speaker 1: Here, I'm a white u.
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  Speaker 5: I have no idea, So.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, so everybody here's a white belt.
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  Speaker 4: Then you get your blue belt, so that makes you
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  Speaker 4: like a freshman, right, and then you get your purple
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  Speaker 4: belt and that's like sophomore brown belt, junior, black belt, senior.
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  Speaker 5: I've seen belts with like black and then red in them.
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  Speaker 5: Is that higher?
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  Speaker 4: Well, that's just because you needed to be able to
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  Speaker 4: They give stripes and gi jiu jitsu they give stripes,
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  Speaker 4: so every four stripes you get to rank up in
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  Speaker 4: tenth planet.
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  Speaker 3: We don't give stripes.
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  Speaker 4: Some schools do, but for the most part, we don't
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  Speaker 4: give stripes. It's just like you kinda hang out for
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  Speaker 4: a couple of years until you get your you know
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  Speaker 4: what I mean, Like children get stripes. As a coach,
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  Speaker 4: I give children stripes because they need the motivation.
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  Speaker 3: But as an adult, like just shi three four years,
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  Speaker 3: how like that's.
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  Speaker 5: Up to you or four years to get a belt.
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  Speaker 4: On average, ten years to get a black belt in
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  Speaker 4: jiu jitsu. So then what you're asking about, like the
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  Speaker 4: red stripe, then that's where you see the stripes.
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  Speaker 1: So as a black belt, every three years.
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  Speaker 4: According to how we do it in tenth Planet, which
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  Speaker 4: is according to how Jean Jaques Machado does it Eddie's coach.
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  Speaker 4: Every three years if you are still training, if you
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  Speaker 4: are still a ruppers any ten planet, if you are
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  Speaker 4: still involved, you get a degree.
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  Speaker 3: So I'm the first degree black belt.
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  Speaker 5: Okay A, So she congratulations on that you.
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  Speaker 1: Got that this year, right?
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  Speaker 4: Or yes, yes, I got my first degree in December,
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  Speaker 4: in December, because I got my black belt in up
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  Speaker 4: right here in December of twenty twenty.
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  Speaker 1: Oh my god, that's so exciting.
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  Speaker 5: Before Mark, So going to jiu jitsu is like becoming
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  Speaker 5: a doctor. So here's the story that.
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  Speaker 4: My brother, who is in fact a doctor, got me
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  Speaker 4: into jiu jitsu while he was in medical school. I
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  Speaker 4: am now a first degree black belt. He is still
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  Speaker 4: a white belt, but he's a doctor. Asked, which one
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  Speaker 4: of us strives a better car?
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  Speaker 1: Is it him?
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  Speaker 5: I want to.
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  Speaker 2: Surgery Before we hop into the questions, I really quickly
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  Speaker 2: want to say we're going to do an update from
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  Speaker 2: Lalla and hop into the questions. But I wanted to
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  Speaker 2: say really quickly, how long have you been in jiu jitsu, Donna,
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  Speaker 2: and why did you get started?
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  Speaker 4: I have been in jiu jitsu for sixteen years and
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  Speaker 4: I got started by ACCIDENTE.
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  Speaker 5: Okay, how does that happen?
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  Speaker 3: Well, the brother that I mentioned, what's up?
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  Speaker 1: DJ?
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  Speaker 5: Hey?
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  Speaker 1: DJ?
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  Speaker 4: He So he was taking kickboxing classes. I've always been
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  Speaker 4: a gym rat. My first gym, my first job was
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  Speaker 4: in a gym. You know, always been a gym rat.
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  Speaker 4: And it was circ at the time that it was
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  Speaker 4: two thousand and eight, and that was when UFC was
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  Speaker 4: getting really like commercially popular. So my brother was taking
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  Speaker 4: kickboxing classes near his school. He's going to ASU and
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  Speaker 4: then I guess he heard somehow about a gym in Hollywood.
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  Speaker 3: So he was like, hey, you should go take kickboxing
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  Speaker 3: classes there. It'll be really fun.
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  Speaker 4: And I had taken a few kickboxing classes with him,
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  Speaker 4: and I'd done a little bit of boxing even before that.
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  Speaker 4: But I was a massage therapist, so in like earlier,
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  Speaker 4: I was a massage therapist and then I found boxing.
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  Speaker 4: I used to go take classes at Wildcard over here
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  Speaker 4: in Hollywood, but mass therapy and boxing not a great combination.
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  Speaker 3: Hands yeah, Like my wrists were like pick one right right.
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  Speaker 4: So my brother was like, hey, go go take kickboxing
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  Speaker 4: classes because I got a new job and I wasn't
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  Speaker 4: having to massage as much, and I'm like, cool, I'm in.
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  Speaker 4: So I walk in and I signed up for just
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  Speaker 4: the kickboxing and cardio classes and they were like, oh,
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  Speaker 4: we're gonna like, we're gonna give you a whole membership,
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  Speaker 4: like that's everything, including jiu jitsu.
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  Speaker 3: And I was like, oh, no, no, thank you. I
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  Speaker 3: don't know what that is.
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  Speaker 4: But they're like, oh, it's the grappling and I was like, yeah,
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  Speaker 4: no idea.
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  Speaker 3: But I was like, nah, I'm good.
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  Speaker 4: But they're like, you were just gonna go to you anyway,
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  Speaker 4: so you can take classes, and I was like cool.
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  Speaker 4: So I was taking the kickboxing classes and I was
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  Speaker 4: young and single and he's not out and about in
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  Speaker 4: the evenings. But then I was like, wait, this is
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  Speaker 4: way healthier than going to clubs. And then yes, what
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  Speaker 4: happened was afterwards, I was like, wait, how come all
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  Speaker 4: the dudes are showing up to the class after kickbox.
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  Speaker 1: And they were they were cute, like high and you
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  Speaker 1: were like I could roll. Okay you guys, because I
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  Speaker 1: know that's one of the questions.
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  Speaker 3: So yes, yes.
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  Speaker 1: They're they're athlete.
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  Speaker 4: Yes, there's a lot of good looking men who did
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  Speaker 4: ju jitsu when I was young and paying attention at
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  Speaker 4: the time.
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  Speaker 2: So I was like, in, that's why you don't who's
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  Speaker 2: why you should know.
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  Speaker 1: I'm just kidding.
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  Speaker 2: We do not sexualize jiu jitsu here, ladies and gentlemen,
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  Speaker 2: but you.
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  Speaker 1: Can if you do it right, says Okay, I'm learning.
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  Speaker 4: That's That's essentially what happened. Is like one of my
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  Speaker 4: girlfriends who was taking kickboxing at the time, she was like, yeah,
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  Speaker 4: you know Eddie, the guy that teaches, He's like famous.
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  Speaker 4: People come from all over the world to train with him.
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  Speaker 4: And I was like that dude, yeah, And I was
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  Speaker 4: like all right, and then I was like, oh, dudes, okay.
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  Speaker 4: So then I showed up and I remember one guy
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  Speaker 4: showed me how to do a sing a double leg,
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  Speaker 4: which is how you like you drop down on somebody
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  Speaker 4: and you grab both of their legs a double leg,
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  Speaker 4: you pull them in and you knock them on their
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  Speaker 4: I didn't know.
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  Speaker 3: I don't know what you want, you know, I'm not I.
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  Speaker 1: Didn't okay, yeah until this year anyway.
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  Speaker 5: I was about the sexualized version. You can talk about we.
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  Speaker 1: Can talk about it.
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  Speaker 3: I don't know, so that I I.
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  Speaker 4: Remember he showed me that, and I go, I go,
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  Speaker 4: that is information I will never need any time in
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  Speaker 4: my life.
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  Speaker 3: And now I teach those things.
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  Speaker 2: Yes, you teach it, you end up you She ended
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  Speaker 2: up using it once.
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  Speaker 1: Maybe we'll get into that story. Maybe we'll save that Donna.
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  Speaker 2: You guys were not going to be able to get
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  Speaker 2: into it on this episode. Donna has the wildest story.
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  Speaker 5: I do have some stories of all I like some
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  Speaker 5: come with the questions.
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  Speaker 2: Where she's used her jiu jitsu in bars needing to
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  Speaker 2: Oh my god, anyway, Okay, so before.
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  Speaker 7: I mean, she sometimes given one example, one quick example
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  Speaker 7: of where you had to use ju outside of it, where.
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  Speaker 3: Did I have to use I'll give you a very
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  Speaker 3: safe one, very like family friend, get.
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  Speaker 5: Charged with I know.
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  Speaker 3: That's what I'm saying.
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  Speaker 4: A dog, A dog attacked my dog, so I jumped
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  Speaker 4: on it, rer naked, choked and pulled off my what that's.
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  Speaker 5: What you can do.
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  Speaker 1: Not expect that because you don't. You're not hurting them,
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  Speaker 1: You're just that.
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  Speaker 3: Okay, here's my spiel.
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  Speaker 4: If you guys ever come to one of my self
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  Speaker 4: defense someone ours, you're gonna hear me say this. This
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  Speaker 4: is why jiu jitsu is so good for self defense
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  Speaker 4: because you can hurt somebody, but you also have the
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  Speaker 4: ability to just neutralize the situation without hurting somebody. And
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  Speaker 4: that's why it's so good for women, because even though
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  Speaker 4: I hear stories of men doing horrible things to women,
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  Speaker 4: women always like, I don't want to hurt anybody.
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  Speaker 3: And I'm like why but right, But I'm like.
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  Speaker 4: Okay, cool, I'll teach you how to like shut it
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  Speaker 4: down without hurting somebody.
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  Speaker 2: Quote right, Donna is a very she loves dogs, so
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  Speaker 2: let's not get it twisted you guys. She's not I
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  Speaker 2: would hear reg unless I had to, but you can
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  Speaker 2: show of course. So before we have a lot of
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  Speaker 2: great questions from you guys. We won't be able to
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  Speaker 2: get to them all today, but maybe we'll do, you know,
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  Speaker 2: another another thing with Donna. But before we jump into
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  Speaker 2: the questions, we have another update from our boss, our girl,
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  Speaker 2: miss She's going to give us an update on how
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  Speaker 2: she's doing, how baby Sosa is doing.
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  Speaker 1: So here we go, Hello, my.
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  Speaker 8: Love, I'm here with my babe. I will say, although
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  Speaker 8: we are thriving, I have no complaints. I'm on cloud nine.
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  Speaker 8: I am living for this two kids kind of life.
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  Speaker 9: I'm ready for number three, although my mom tells me
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  Speaker 9: to chill out on that, but I feel like right
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  Speaker 9: after I gave birth, I was like, oh my gosh,
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  Speaker 9: I have so much energy. Look at this new glow.
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  Speaker 9: Oh my gosh, I'm bright out of bushytail. The exhaustion
• 13:39
  Speaker 9: has sunk in. I am a little tired. I had
• 13:42
  Speaker 9: a night nurse three days a week. I am now
• 13:44
  Speaker 9: at seven. That is right, I have one seven nights
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  Speaker 9: a week. Shout out to all of my moms doing
• 13:52
  Speaker 9: the damn thing because you guys are superheroes. Here's my update.
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  Speaker 9: I love and miss you, and I'll be back on
• 13:59
  Speaker 9: the pod so soon and I can't wait.
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  Speaker 1: All right, thank you for that, Lala, thank you so
• 14:04
  Speaker 1: much for that update. We love you, we miss you.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, you guys, So listeners, friends of the pod have
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  Speaker 2: DMed me this past year?
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  Speaker 1: Have we wrote a prompt the other day?
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  Speaker 2: Have written in with some questions for fairness purposes, I'll
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  Speaker 2: start with a couple that I've gotten the past year,
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  Speaker 2: and then we'll hop into the ones that you guys
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  Speaker 2: wrote last night. Again, thank you guys for writing in.
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  Speaker 2: There's a lot and we'll get to as many as
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  Speaker 2: we can. Let's do this number one. This was asked
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  Speaker 2: a lot, and we'll keep these anonymous because there's some
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  Speaker 2: spicy ones. Do you have to do the close contact
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  Speaker 2: rolling around with other people if you join jiu jitsu?
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  Speaker 1: If so, can you pick and choose who you do
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  Speaker 1: it with?
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  Speaker 8: So?
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  Speaker 4: Yes, and yes, Okay, it's a grappling sport. There's no
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  Speaker 4: way you can and there's no way to do jujitsu
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  Speaker 4: without touching other people because the sport is attacking joints
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  Speaker 4: and strangling.
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  Speaker 3: That's the whole sport. So you need other people's joints
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  Speaker 3: to do that.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, but yes, of course everybody has bodily as autonomy,
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  Speaker 4: So you can choose not to roll with anybody for
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  Speaker 4: whatever reason. If it's just because you're scared, As a coach,
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  Speaker 4: I'll probably push you to roll with people. But if
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  Speaker 4: it's like, you know, here's some certain bad at that.
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  Speaker 4: But in that situation, I'd pull them off and be like, hey,
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  Speaker 4: we gotta address this.
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  Speaker 5: I have to.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, so this might follow it like you tell people
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  Speaker 1: when they smell.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, it's kind of uncomfortable sometimes, but it's more uncomfortable
• 15:39
  Speaker 4: to have your face stuck in somebody's eyes.
• 15:40
  Speaker 3: That's where the comes from.
• 15:43
  Speaker 4: So yeah, but like there are circumstances that for religious
• 15:47
  Speaker 4: purposes people can't roll with the opposite sex, or you know,
• 15:50
  Speaker 4: there are circumstances with somebody's like, hey, my partner doesn't
• 15:52
  Speaker 4: want me rolling with somebody from the opposite sex. That
• 15:55
  Speaker 4: is a that is a boundary that you've set in
• 15:57
  Speaker 4: your life. That's that's fine, Like you know what I mean,
• 16:00
  Speaker 4: everybody has bodily autonomy, not just people that I feel
• 16:02
  Speaker 4: like I need to protect, you know what I mean?
• 16:04
  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, yeah, Okay, So the answer is yes, you guys, yes,
• 16:09
  Speaker 2: but you do have to come in close contact. But
• 16:13
  Speaker 2: if you have a coach like donnat or like the
• 16:14
  Speaker 2: coaches at my gym, Tenth Planet Burbank, they're very respectful.
• 16:18
  Speaker 3: And here's the thing.
• 16:19
  Speaker 4: If you're doing it for self defense, and there's a
• 16:21
  Speaker 4: lot of other reasons that women do jiu jitsu, and
• 16:24
  Speaker 4: some men only do it for self defense, So just
• 16:26
  Speaker 4: to say that, but if you are there for the
• 16:29
  Speaker 4: sake of self defense, I would highly encourage you to
• 16:33
  Speaker 4: build yourself up to the point where you are willing
• 16:35
  Speaker 4: to roll with man or else you're never going to
• 16:36
  Speaker 4: fill it realistically.
• 16:37
  Speaker 2: Right right, I'm going to say, I'm going to ask
• 16:42
  Speaker 2: two more that people wrote into me, and the third
• 16:45
  Speaker 2: one I will trigger warning now is a question, and
• 16:49
  Speaker 2: I'll just trigger warning SSA, which is sexual assault. Okay,
• 16:54
  Speaker 2: this next one, I'm a forty six year old woman.
• 16:57
  Speaker 1: Am I too old to start jiu jitsu?
• 16:59
  Speaker 5: Now?
• 17:00
  Speaker 3: No?
• 17:00
  Speaker 1: No, no, why though? Because jiu jitsu is adaptable for everybody.
• 17:05
  Speaker 5: Okay, how many stretches do you gotta do before you
• 17:07
  Speaker 5: see a lot?
• 17:07
  Speaker 4: I mean at forty six, you have to stretch a
• 17:09
  Speaker 4: lot more than everybody else, and you have to maybe
• 17:11
  Speaker 4: pace yourself a little bit more.
• 17:12
  Speaker 1: But absolutely it's available to everybody.
• 17:14
  Speaker 6: Okay, there's no age I have too high to learn
• 17:19
  Speaker 6: self defense?
• 17:19
  Speaker 5: Right yeah? In jitsu? Yeah? See all right?
• 17:23
  Speaker 6: I would say, do you teach them different than you
• 17:25
  Speaker 6: would teach like a twenty five year old or is
• 17:28
  Speaker 6: it all the same?
• 17:28
  Speaker 4: I think it's all that's there's just going to be
• 17:30
  Speaker 4: different levels of gas pedal, you know what I mean,
• 17:33
  Speaker 4: but all.
• 17:33
  Speaker 5: The same moves? Yeah, yeah, obviously, Okay, yeah, I.
• 17:37
  Speaker 4: Mean I probably wouldn't teach somebody in their late fifties
• 17:41
  Speaker 4: with who's never done anything athletic to I probably wouldn't
• 17:46
  Speaker 4: start them off with heavy wrestling, right, which you know,
• 17:50
  Speaker 4: I would definitely teach them defense.
• 17:52
  Speaker 3: But then I don't know.
• 17:54
  Speaker 4: Sometimes we'll have like ex athletes who are on the
• 17:57
  Speaker 4: older end of things will come in and we'll.
• 17:59
  Speaker 1: Be like, let's go.
• 18:00
  Speaker 4: Yeah, it's this is an individual sport. You definitely need
• 18:03
  Speaker 4: other people's bodies to do it. But everything in jiu
• 18:05
  Speaker 4: jitsu is individual.
• 18:06
  Speaker 1: So there are people who.
• 18:07
  Speaker 4: Train that have they don't have use of their legs.
• 18:09
  Speaker 4: There are people who train who only have like a
• 18:12
  Speaker 4: one limb or something like that. So it's adaptable to everybody.
• 18:15
  Speaker 6: Oh yeah, okay, okay, dainty, but I'm very interested in this.
• 18:20
  Speaker 1: You should everybody should be doing interesting.
• 18:22
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 18:22
  Speaker 6: I just have a feeling there's gonna be acls gone,
• 18:25
  Speaker 6: it happens, and it happens.
• 18:26
  Speaker 1: Wait, producer John's flagging me down.
• 18:28
  Speaker 7: We could just trains this one to ask who is
• 18:29
  Speaker 7: the oldest person you've trained? Or how old was the
• 18:31
  Speaker 7: person you trained?
• 18:32
  Speaker 5: Old?
• 18:32
  Speaker 3: How is how old is the oldest person that I
• 18:34
  Speaker 3: have trained?
• 18:36
  Speaker 4: I believe that I've had men in my class in
• 18:38
  Speaker 4: their sixties, and I want to say.
• 18:43
  Speaker 3: I don't generally.
• 18:45
  Speaker 4: Ask people their ages, but I've had women probably yeah,
• 18:48
  Speaker 4: also in their sixties and my self defense classes.
• 18:50
  Speaker 5: Yeah, what is a good age to start teaching kids?
• 18:53
  Speaker 1: Oh, that's a good.
• 18:53
  Speaker 4: It's a great question. Well, the answer to every question
• 18:57
  Speaker 4: in the world is it depends. So I have four
• 19:00
  Speaker 4: year olds that come to our class. I do think
• 19:02
  Speaker 4: that they it's a little bit of a struggle we
• 19:04
  Speaker 4: have to make things age appropriate for them. But I
• 19:07
  Speaker 4: think kids as long as they have the ability to listen,
• 19:11
  Speaker 4: pay attention.
• 19:12
  Speaker 1: Follow instruction my sweet spot age.
• 19:16
  Speaker 4: And if if I got to be the boss of everything,
• 19:19
  Speaker 4: I would have kids do gymnastics and only wrestling up
• 19:22
  Speaker 4: until seven. I would start kids in gymnastics around three ish.
• 19:25
  Speaker 4: I'm not a gymnastics expert. I don't know ask one
• 19:28
  Speaker 4: of them, but I would start kids in gymnastics around
• 19:31
  Speaker 4: three or four. I would have them do that and
• 19:33
  Speaker 4: then start wrestling around five or six, and then have
• 19:36
  Speaker 4: them start jiu jitsu at seven.
• 19:38
  Speaker 5: Okay, Okay, I can argue it.
• 19:40
  Speaker 2: I will say before I get into this next question
• 19:44
  Speaker 2: really quick, because I want to know if you agree.
• 19:46
  Speaker 2: A lot of women asking me they were like it
• 19:48
  Speaker 2: seems overwhelming there's so many terms that like this woman
• 19:52
  Speaker 2: who's forty six, I am someone who deals with anxiety.
• 19:58
  Speaker 2: So for me seeing class a jiu jitsu class and
• 20:01
  Speaker 2: being like, I don't know the terms, I don't know
• 20:03
  Speaker 2: this for my brain, I thought, before I even start class,
• 20:07
  Speaker 2: I'm going to and a lot of gyms offer this,
• 20:09
  Speaker 2: most gyms, I'm going to take a few privates. So
• 20:13
  Speaker 2: I contacted tenth Planet Burbank. I said, I'm not comfortable
• 20:16
  Speaker 2: jumping right into class. What is the price of like,
• 20:19
  Speaker 2: I would like to take a few private lessons before
• 20:21
  Speaker 2: I jump into class. And it was great because I
• 20:24
  Speaker 2: had coached Josh Kubera, who's great, and he said, what
• 20:28
  Speaker 2: are you looking to sort of do before class? And
• 20:31
  Speaker 2: I said, honestly, like you guys are doing these warm ups,
• 20:33
  Speaker 2: I just want to know how to warm up in terms,
• 20:36
  Speaker 2: and he's like, great, we're going to go over that.
• 20:38
  Speaker 2: I did, I think three privates with him, and then
• 20:41
  Speaker 2: in each gym has different pricing. But and then when
• 20:45
  Speaker 2: I jumped into class, I at least knew like the
• 20:48
  Speaker 2: terms he was using, I knew, So what do you
• 20:51
  Speaker 2: think do you think, like do you suggest that to
• 20:53
  Speaker 2: most people if they feel that way.
• 20:55
  Speaker 4: Yes, I think it's a great idea to do that
• 20:57
  Speaker 4: and doing approaching it the same way that you did,
• 20:59
  Speaker 4: like give me terms just so I understand what's going on.
• 21:01
  Speaker 4: But also a good fundamentals class should cover that if
• 21:05
  Speaker 4: you stick around, you know what I mean, because we
• 21:07
  Speaker 4: should be only covering the same four to five things
• 21:10
  Speaker 4: over and over and over and over and over again.
• 21:12
  Speaker 4: So if let's say you want to join jiu jitsu,
• 21:15
  Speaker 4: but that's where your budget is and you can't afford
• 21:17
  Speaker 4: the extra lessons, focus on the fundamentals class and it
• 21:21
  Speaker 4: will come. Also, remember this is learning a language with
• 21:24
  Speaker 4: your body. It takes ten years to get a black
• 21:26
  Speaker 4: belt in jiu jitsu. Nobody expects you to know shit
• 21:28
  Speaker 4: for your first year. So that's the coaches know that,
• 21:32
  Speaker 4: the people who you are training with know that it's
• 21:35
  Speaker 4: a very long term project.
• 21:39
  Speaker 5: Mm hmm.
• 21:39
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 21:40
  Speaker 2: But it's really fun and it's frustrating, and anyway I
• 21:43
  Speaker 2: can go out and it's a blast.
• 21:44
  Speaker 1: I can go on and on. This next question is
• 21:46
  Speaker 1: the one I did the trigger warning for.
• 21:48
  Speaker 2: Okay, So I'm a survivor of sexual assault and I
• 21:52
  Speaker 2: really want to take jiu jitsu classes to get over
• 21:54
  Speaker 2: my fear responses and trauma and learn self defense. But
• 21:59
  Speaker 2: I also don't want to just get thrown into a
• 22:02
  Speaker 2: class environment where others don't understand that I will be
• 22:06
  Speaker 2: triggered at first.
• 22:07
  Speaker 1: What are my options?
• 22:09
  Speaker 5: This is only private lessons first.
• 22:10
  Speaker 3: Private lessons are a good way to go.
• 22:12
  Speaker 4: If there's the luxury of a woman's class, that's a
• 22:14
  Speaker 4: really good place to start. Also, tell people mm hmm.
• 22:16
  Speaker 4: You take away power when you tell your story. So
• 22:18
  Speaker 4: if you're like, hey, I'm super nervous, because all you
• 22:21
  Speaker 4: have to say is I'm a survivor of something, I
• 22:23
  Speaker 4: get triggered easily. I'm working my way through it. How
• 22:26
  Speaker 4: I work with women in my classes are we do
• 22:28
  Speaker 4: like the two second rule. So if you start to
• 22:31
  Speaker 4: get triggered to stay two seconds longer then you want to,
• 22:35
  Speaker 4: then you can tap, get up, go wash your face,
• 22:37
  Speaker 4: get some air, take a drink of water, walk it off,
• 22:40
  Speaker 4: come back. The next time, I want you to stay
• 22:41
  Speaker 4: four seconds longer, then you want to tap, get up,
• 22:44
  Speaker 4: go out, walk away, same thing. And pretty soon after
• 22:47
  Speaker 4: those four seconds, six seconds, eight seconds, ten seconds, we
• 22:50
  Speaker 4: work our way up two minutes and then the next
• 22:52
  Speaker 4: thing you know, you are sparring against guys for five
• 22:55
  Speaker 4: to eight minute rounds.
• 22:56
  Speaker 1: Wow.
• 22:57
  Speaker 6: Yeah, because I'm the I'm the type of per I
• 22:59
  Speaker 6: get anxiety and I'd rather lay it out like all
• 23:01
  Speaker 6: out so everybody can who I am.
• 23:03
  Speaker 4: Communication judgment, and I would say that that's a huge
• 23:06
  Speaker 4: thing when women are like, hey, what should I look
• 23:08
  Speaker 4: for in gyms? Like should it be a certain level
• 23:10
  Speaker 4: of competition or whatever? And the first thing I always
• 23:12
  Speaker 4: tell people to look for is how comfortable are you
• 23:14
  Speaker 4: with the coaches and how comfortable are you with the
• 23:15
  Speaker 4: people in the room. That's the most important thing. Gee, no, gee,
• 23:18
  Speaker 4: whatever what team it is, make sure you are comfortable
• 23:21
  Speaker 4: with the people surrounding you. And if you can't look
• 23:23
  Speaker 4: at the person next to you and be like, hey,
• 23:25
  Speaker 4: I might have an anxiety teck if I if I tap,
• 23:27
  Speaker 4: I need you to get off of me.
• 23:29
  Speaker 1: If I cry.
• 23:30
  Speaker 4: There's also been moments I personally have been like, if
• 23:32
  Speaker 4: I start crying, keep going.
• 23:34
  Speaker 1: Really, I've never cried in jiu jitsu. I've cried.
• 23:37
  Speaker 5: I can't. I just can't. I'm sorry, I'm sorry.
• 23:44
  Speaker 4: Yeah, I wouldn't do it to a white like I
• 23:45
  Speaker 4: wouldn't do it to another new person, But like if
• 23:47
  Speaker 4: you have a person or a purple belt brown, but
• 23:49
  Speaker 4: like somebody that you trust, somebody that you've been training with,
• 23:51
  Speaker 4: if you're like, hey, working through some things. This is
• 23:53
  Speaker 4: what's coming up for me, and then whatever your whatever
• 23:56
  Speaker 4: your thing is, Like I might start crying. Keep going
• 23:59
  Speaker 4: if I start crying, and can you please just not
• 24:01
  Speaker 4: make a big deal about it, I'm gonna get up
• 24:02
  Speaker 4: and leave.
• 24:03
  Speaker 2: Oh I like this a lot communication, baby, communication, in
• 24:07
  Speaker 2: jiu jitsu, in life.
• 24:09
  Speaker 1: Okay, I love thank you for that. I love this.
• 24:11
  Speaker 2: Okay, we're getting into the more recent questions.
• 24:14
  Speaker 3: Spicy questions, this spicy.
• 24:17
  Speaker 2: Oh goodness you guys, well you know what. I got
• 24:21
  Speaker 2: a few of these, so this isn't too spicy. This
• 24:23
  Speaker 2: will be a quick answer.
• 24:25
  Speaker 1: Can overweight people do it?
• 24:26
  Speaker 2: I'm chubby, but I want to try, girl, girl, It
• 24:29
  Speaker 2: isn't whatever.
• 24:30
  Speaker 4: In yes, absolutely, jiu jitsu is the most body positive
• 24:36
  Speaker 4: sport I've ever been a part of. Like it's we
• 24:39
  Speaker 4: never go you can't do that at your size. The
• 24:41
  Speaker 4: question is, all right, what weight are you? What weight
• 24:43
  Speaker 4: do you want to compete up?
• 24:44
  Speaker 2: Let's go okay, yeah, and you don't have to compete correct,
• 24:48
  Speaker 2: you don't have to compete, But this is what I'm saying, like,
• 24:50
  Speaker 2: you absolutely can do it.
• 24:52
  Speaker 5: Sure? What do they call it? Rolling?
• 24:54
  Speaker 8: Yea?
• 24:55
  Speaker 3: Rolling and sparring.
• 24:57
  Speaker 4: If we're talking about weight, usually it's like what do
• 24:58
  Speaker 4: you walk at? Meaning what do you walk around at?
• 25:01
  Speaker 4: And what can you cut to? Those are really the
• 25:02
  Speaker 4: only conversations about what we're having until you get to
• 25:05
  Speaker 4: the pro level, then it's where are you going to
• 25:07
  Speaker 4: perform the best? But if it's just somebody coming to me,
• 25:09
  Speaker 4: all right, what do you walk at?
• 25:10
  Speaker 1: Cool?
• 25:10
  Speaker 4: Are you comfortable competing there? Which I suggest wherever you
• 25:13
  Speaker 4: walk at is what you do in the beginning, then yeah,
• 25:15
  Speaker 4: let's go love it.
• 25:17
  Speaker 2: Okay, are people in your gym allowed to date each other?
• 25:21
  Speaker 4: Well, adults can do whatever the hell they want, right,
• 25:24
  Speaker 4: I would say that I'm not allowed to date anybody.
• 25:27
  Speaker 1: Donna is a coach at South Bay. Just what is
• 25:34
  Speaker 1: the coach is dating students? Yeah?
• 25:36
  Speaker 4: Like, okay, every school is going to have their own
• 25:39
  Speaker 4: rules set by the owner. It is pretty explicit among
• 25:43
  Speaker 4: our coaches that we do not condone condone them dating students.
• 25:46
  Speaker 5: Okay, coaches day, coaches.
• 25:50
  Speaker 3: Don't think any where coaches d coming only girls. That's
• 25:54
  Speaker 3: not true.
• 25:55
  Speaker 4: I mean, hey, look, I don't I honestly don't know
• 25:56
  Speaker 4: what's going on in their personal lives and it's not
• 25:58
  Speaker 4: in my business. But I would say that they're like
• 26:01
  Speaker 4: the the stereotype of the coach dating their white belt
• 26:05
  Speaker 4: is laughable because it's.
• 26:06
  Speaker 3: Real, you know what I mean.
• 26:08
  Speaker 1: It's round of course.
• 26:10
  Speaker 4: But that being said, I know so many couples that
• 26:12
  Speaker 4: met in jiu jitsu. So my attitude towards it is,
• 26:16
  Speaker 4: it's two students that are dating each other, Like, be
• 26:18
  Speaker 4: an adult, be prepared if there's a breakup, Like, how are.
• 26:21
  Speaker 3: You going to handle this?
• 26:22
  Speaker 4: Find any one of my coaches dated a student, that'd
• 26:25
  Speaker 4: be a different conversation.
• 26:26
  Speaker 1: Really yeah, Okay.
• 26:28
  Speaker 5: Well if I was a student, I just.
• 26:29
  Speaker 2: What if one of your coaches dated If a coach
• 26:33
  Speaker 2: from another gym dates a student from another gym, that's.
• 26:37
  Speaker 4: Less, that's not of our business. And their adults okay,
• 26:39
  Speaker 4: okay adult adults.
• 26:40
  Speaker 5: Well yeah, at that point you can DATESE are.
• 26:43
  Speaker 3: Just people within the community dating each other.
• 26:45
  Speaker 4: The thing that is the is where where I come
• 26:48
  Speaker 4: from with it is the power dynamic, you know what
• 26:50
  Speaker 4: I mean. So if it's a higher ranked let's go,
• 26:54
  Speaker 4: it's let's use the stereotype that is usually the problem.
• 26:58
  Speaker 4: A higher ranked older man dating a younger ish, lower
• 27:03
  Speaker 4: ranked woman. That's a that's a heavy power dynamic.
• 27:07
  Speaker 5: So you got to date your belt, that is what
• 27:09
  Speaker 5: you're saying.
• 27:10
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I have to date your belt.
• 27:11
  Speaker 4: But like, let's say it's it'd be less of a
• 27:14
  Speaker 4: like a a dangerous power dynamic.
• 27:17
  Speaker 1: If it's like a blue belt girl who's.
• 27:20
  Speaker 4: I don't know, thirty and she's dating a white belt
• 27:22
  Speaker 4: dude who's twenty eight, that's that's less of a power
• 27:26
  Speaker 4: dynamic there than a thirty nine year old black belt
• 27:29
  Speaker 4: dating his twenty three year old white belt student.
• 27:32
  Speaker 3: I see the difference there, almost to.
• 27:34
  Speaker 7: Give it like a senior dating a freshman.
• 27:35
  Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, yeah, so much of a power dynamic that like,
• 27:39
  Speaker 4: but adults can do what adults. Adults can do whatever
• 27:42
  Speaker 4: they want to do. But we're also running over business
• 27:44
  Speaker 4: and there's a power dynamic. Sure, absolutely, And there's a
• 27:47
  Speaker 4: power dynamic, so it's definitely something that we need to
• 27:49
  Speaker 4: be a whole.
• 27:50
  Speaker 5: Like look at like he's for sure, okay, I hear you.
• 27:54
  Speaker 1: I agree. Every gym, I'm sure treats it differently.
• 27:58
  Speaker 2: But I like going back to just making sure which
• 28:02
  Speaker 2: you've you. I've dropped into ten Planet itself Bay multiple times.
• 28:06
  Speaker 2: It's feels so safe, just like ten Plane and Burbing,
• 28:09
  Speaker 2: just like HQ. Any gym I've dropped into so far
• 28:11
  Speaker 2: has felt so safe. It is you are in awkward
• 28:15
  Speaker 2: situations and positions, sometimes with the opposite sex. So making
• 28:20
  Speaker 2: sure it feels like a safe space and I'm doing
• 28:21
  Speaker 2: stuff like that is going to help that.
• 28:24
  Speaker 3: But of course people in jiu jitsu date each other.
• 28:25
  Speaker 1: Well, it's like the people at work.
• 28:27
  Speaker 2: It's like when you're surrounded by this person and you
• 28:29
  Speaker 2: start to know people, and people start to and also
• 28:32
  Speaker 2: a lot of.
• 28:33
  Speaker 1: Jiu jitsu men are yeah, I'm not. I can't even
• 28:35
  Speaker 1: talk about it.
• 28:36
  Speaker 5: It's that's you freak. I got one for you real quick.
• 28:42
  Speaker 7: Don Have you ever coached or had a couple in
• 28:44
  Speaker 7: your class and know that they're fighting when they come in,
• 28:47
  Speaker 7: Because I've had a summer school class in college. I
• 28:49
  Speaker 7: sat next to a couple and there was one day
• 28:51
  Speaker 7: you could tell they were fighting. One sat next week,
• 28:53
  Speaker 7: the other one sat on the opposite end of the road.
• 28:54
  Speaker 7: Can you just tell that awkwardness when a couple's fighting
• 28:56
  Speaker 7: in your class?
• 28:57
  Speaker 3: Of course, we've had breakups, you pull, most people.
• 29:02
  Speaker 4: Can can handle their shit, like it's it's been a
• 29:04
  Speaker 4: minute since there's been like she can't train here, you
• 29:08
  Speaker 4: can't train her on one of the maronas.
• 29:10
  Speaker 3: You know what I mean? Like, most people can handle it.
• 29:12
  Speaker 4: We have a couple at our gym, a formal couple
• 29:14
  Speaker 4: that they broke up, but they and they didn't train
• 29:17
  Speaker 4: together for a while and now they're friendly.
• 29:18
  Speaker 3: So it's like, oh, well that's nice.
• 29:20
  Speaker 2: Right, right, they'll be dating against We'll see.
• 29:26
  Speaker 1: Okay, this is one, and there was quite a few
• 29:29
  Speaker 1: of these.
• 29:30
  Speaker 2: Have you ever gotten aroused while rolling around with a
• 29:33
  Speaker 2: partner and wanted to take it further?
• 29:36
  Speaker 1: I could not feel stronger about this, but I want
• 29:38
  Speaker 1: to hear.
• 29:39
  Speaker 6: You in your When I saw your question, I turned
• 29:41
  Speaker 6: into a little fifteen year old boners.
• 29:45
  Speaker 4: I think it happened in two different ways. Okay, you
• 29:49
  Speaker 4: obviously you are going to look at athletes in the
• 29:52
  Speaker 4: sport an objectively be like that is a good looking
• 29:54
  Speaker 4: human being?
• 29:54
  Speaker 1: Right? I would say that it goes away the better
• 29:58
  Speaker 1: you get a jiu jitsu?
• 30:00
  Speaker 3: Do you know what I'm saying?
• 30:00
  Speaker 4: Like in the very beginning, when you really don't know
• 30:02
  Speaker 4: what's happening. Like all you're like, oh my god, this
• 30:03
  Speaker 4: man is touching.
• 30:04
  Speaker 5: You know what I mean.
• 30:06
  Speaker 4: But when you get better jujitsu and you're playing the
• 30:09
  Speaker 4: game and you're doing the thing, I'm trying to kill you.
• 30:12
  Speaker 1: Yes right, I don't care how good looking you are.
• 30:15
  Speaker 3: I'm trying to kill you.
• 30:16
  Speaker 1: And she does too.
• 30:17
  Speaker 2: Like the second I rolled with Donna last weekend, I
• 30:19
  Speaker 2: mean she puts one hand in me, I'm like, oh
• 30:21
  Speaker 2: my god.
• 30:21
  Speaker 5: Out okay.
• 30:25
  Speaker 2: I have a completely different viewpoint you guys at first,
• 30:31
  Speaker 2: and I'll probably again. I'm literally a white belt. I
• 30:33
  Speaker 2: know nothing about jiu jitsu. I know a few things.
• 30:36
  Speaker 2: I could not have been less aroused, even if the
• 30:40
  Speaker 2: guy was so hot, Like I could look at them
• 30:42
  Speaker 2: and be like, oh my god, so hot. I'm so
• 30:45
  Speaker 2: like not good at jiu jitsu and clumsy and like
• 30:48
  Speaker 2: bad at the movements and positions. The second I'm rolling
• 30:51
  Speaker 2: with a hot guy, I'm like, I'm dry as a
• 30:55
  Speaker 2: bone down there.
• 30:56
  Speaker 1: I am not turned on. I am not aroused.
• 30:58
  Speaker 4: Here's how you the analogy of that, Like, let's say,
• 31:01
  Speaker 4: like your type the best looking person in the world
• 31:05
  Speaker 4: is you're in a pool. You're in a pool and
• 31:07
  Speaker 4: they're off to the side of the pool and all
• 31:09
  Speaker 4: of a sudden, something from underneath grabs your feet and
• 31:12
  Speaker 4: is trying to drown you in the pool.
• 31:13
  Speaker 1: Are you are you like like you're trying, You're trying
• 31:18
  Speaker 1: not to die.
• 31:18
  Speaker 3: You're not like, oh my.
• 31:19
  Speaker 1: God, that person has you know what I mean? Like, like,
• 31:22
  Speaker 1: how do I look? How do I look?
• 31:23
  Speaker 3: You're like, don't die, don't die, don't die.
• 31:25
  Speaker 4: And that's that's usually the inner dialogue from year one
• 31:28
  Speaker 4: to about year three.
• 31:30
  Speaker 1: Don't die, don't die, don't die. Defense get on top,
• 31:34
  Speaker 1: get on top, don't do that, don't do that.
• 31:36
  Speaker 2: Literally no, but that is my that is my and
• 31:41
  Speaker 2: like this second and I can like really look and
• 31:43
  Speaker 2: be like damn there hot this second, I'm rolling with them.
• 31:46
  Speaker 2: Not only am I trying to survive. Yes, I literally
• 31:49
  Speaker 2: have never looked uglier.
• 31:51
  Speaker 1: In my life. I will see videos and be like,
• 31:53
  Speaker 1: who is that monster? Oh my god, that's me.
• 31:56
  Speaker 3: I've never.
• 31:59
  Speaker 5: Contact and you're rolling with the guy or girl.
• 32:01
  Speaker 1: Okay, so I ask you because it's different for me.
• 32:04
  Speaker 2: Okay, So for me, I never weird thing, never make
• 32:08
  Speaker 2: eye I never make eye contact with them in my head.
• 32:11
  Speaker 2: But I saw my first competition video footage, and for
• 32:14
  Speaker 2: some reason, I am staring these girls in the.
• 32:17
  Speaker 1: Eyes like I looked at myself with a blackout girl.
• 32:20
  Speaker 1: Look away, look away. You are embarrassing yourself. What about you, Donna?
• 32:24
  Speaker 3: It depends.
• 32:24
  Speaker 4: It depends on who I'm rolling with. If it is
• 32:26
  Speaker 4: somebody with you're attracted to, No, it's somebody with my
• 32:30
  Speaker 4: equal skill level and we're having a fun roll.
• 32:35
  Speaker 3: I will make eye contact with you to fuck with you.
• 32:36
  Speaker 4: The same thing they will make eye contact with me
• 32:38
  Speaker 4: to fuck with me and like talk shit. If it's
• 32:40
  Speaker 4: somebody I don't you know you don't look at.
• 32:43
  Speaker 3: People when you compete?
• 32:44
  Speaker 5: Can you wear goggles?
• 32:46
  Speaker 3: Goggles?
• 32:46
  Speaker 5: I would I didn't mind, so they couldn't see my eyes.
• 32:50
  Speaker 4: So I would say I only look at people in
• 32:51
  Speaker 4: the eye for two reasons. If we are talking, we
• 32:54
  Speaker 4: are collectively in a fun way talking shit to each other.
• 32:57
  Speaker 3: Or what was the other one there was working?
• 33:00
  Speaker 5: Fucking's he read?
• 33:01
  Speaker 3: No, it'll come to me. I don't know. There's another reason.
• 33:05
  Speaker 2: Maybe no, Ethan's really trying to push this like jiu
• 33:11
  Speaker 2: jitsu a track.
• 33:11
  Speaker 5: I couldn't do it because I'd just be rolling. I'd
• 33:13
  Speaker 5: see him in the eyes and i'd be like, you
• 33:15
  Speaker 5: think that.
• 33:15
  Speaker 2: I thought that when I first started. I told my
• 33:18
  Speaker 2: coach I called believe it.
• 33:19
  Speaker 4: Looking at it like you can be like, oh my god,
• 33:22
  Speaker 4: they're like practically sitting on your chest is kind of hot.
• 33:25
  Speaker 3: No, it's not, I promise.
• 33:27
  Speaker 1: And people smell and their swell perfect.
• 33:30
  Speaker 3: And you're trying to drown and break their limbs. I promise.
• 33:33
  Speaker 3: When somebody's trying to break your arm, you're not like
• 33:35
  Speaker 3: they're so good looking.
• 33:36
  Speaker 8: No.
• 33:37
  Speaker 2: In fact, I'm like, Okay, I thought this guy was hot,
• 33:39
  Speaker 2: and now fuck this guy.
• 33:40
  Speaker 1: I'm pissed. Now you really want it?
• 33:43
  Speaker 2: Okay, So we're gonna because I want to get into
• 33:47
  Speaker 2: the Liasa story and then we've got some things to
• 33:49
  Speaker 2: get into.
• 33:50
  Speaker 4: So well, and you have a spicy thing to say
• 33:52
  Speaker 4: about let's hear it. Give us a spice again. Once
• 33:55
  Speaker 4: you get good at jiu jitsu, it's not the same
• 33:59
  Speaker 4: when you're having spike see time. However, you can use
• 34:01
  Speaker 4: jiu jitsu moves incorporated.
• 34:04
  Speaker 1: In the bedroom.
• 34:04
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I've done it, ladies and gentlemen, and by golly,
• 34:08
  Speaker 2: it's a game changer. Yeah, lockdown comes and help you lockdown, guys.
• 34:13
  Speaker 2: Lockdown with your legs. Is Don is the queen of lockdown.
• 34:16
  Speaker 2: I tried to put her in it last weekend and
• 34:17
  Speaker 2: she was like, you're really gonna try and lockdown me.
• 34:20
  Speaker 4: Lockdown is when you lock down somebody's legs, how to
• 34:23
  Speaker 4: trap their leg in between your legs and so if
• 34:25
  Speaker 4: you think about the positioning, usually.
• 34:27
  Speaker 1: It's butterfly hooks, Like you can use butterfly hooks.
• 34:29
  Speaker 4: Butterfly hookses when you take the top of your foot
• 34:31
  Speaker 4: and you can clamp onto somebody, so moving them around,
• 34:34
  Speaker 4: and then like if you've been tossed by somebody.
• 34:36
  Speaker 3: My husband's a.
• 34:37
  Speaker 1: Purple belt, so like he can toss me pretty easily.
• 34:39
  Speaker 1: He's at.
• 34:42
  Speaker 3: All I'm saying is uh.
• 34:44
  Speaker 1: I've used the phrase sex jujitsu before.
• 34:46
  Speaker 3: Stop.
• 34:47
  Speaker 1: Have you ever done jiu jitsu naked? Or you can
• 34:50
  Speaker 1: say no? Comment uh?
• 34:51
  Speaker 3: I mean pretty much.
• 34:53
  Speaker 2: Yes.
• 34:53
  Speaker 4: I can say that my husband and I have incorporated
• 34:56
  Speaker 4: sex jiu jitsu into sex.
• 34:58
  Speaker 1: Okay and choking Chuck, I'm not You're not into choking?
• 35:02
  Speaker 4: No, I do violence for a living. I don't want
• 35:04
  Speaker 4: you know what I mean? Like, right, I welcome.
• 35:07
  Speaker 1: Sweeps, Okay, sweeps are it would be.
• 35:09
  Speaker 3: When I go from the bottom to the top and
• 35:11
  Speaker 3: it's done in a very like it's.
• 35:12
  Speaker 5: Like with your tongue.
• 35:13
  Speaker 3: No, if I'm.
• 35:17
  Speaker 4: Asshold of giant, if you are underneath me and I'm
• 35:20
  Speaker 4: on top of you, A sweep is a very quick
• 35:23
  Speaker 4: motion where you would switch the positions.
• 35:25
  Speaker 2: But it's like it's like so smooth and beautiful. And
• 35:29
  Speaker 2: I will say you, guys, I was never into Let
• 35:33
  Speaker 2: me preface when I say choking, I mean very light,
• 35:37
  Speaker 2: no pass it. I was never into choking. In the bedroom,
• 35:40
  Speaker 2: you put your hand on my neck, I'm like, get
• 35:41
  Speaker 2: away after jiu jitsu though, because I'm comfortable with that
• 35:44
  Speaker 2: stuff now, I'm like, oh.
• 35:46
  Speaker 1: Baby, put it around my neck.
• 35:51
  Speaker 4: If you do get you build up a tolerance to
• 35:54
  Speaker 4: last week of the invasion, that little girl jumped on
• 35:56
  Speaker 4: my back and at one point I was having a
• 35:58
  Speaker 4: conversation with her mom. She started choking me and they
• 36:00
  Speaker 4: were like, that doesn't phase you, and I was like,
• 36:03
  Speaker 4: oh yeah, no, yah do for.
• 36:06
  Speaker 2: A living Okay, let's for question wise. We're gonna end
• 36:10
  Speaker 2: on ahead. How has or it says has jiu jitsu
• 36:15
  Speaker 2: helped with your mental health?
• 36:17
  Speaker 1: And if so, how so?
• 36:19
  Speaker 3: Yeah?
• 36:20
  Speaker 4: It helps you stay present in a way that nothing
• 36:23
  Speaker 4: else I've ever experienced. Can you can't be worried about
• 36:26
  Speaker 4: did I pay my phone bill? Or oh my god,
• 36:29
  Speaker 4: you know there's a leak in my bathroom, because you're
• 36:31
  Speaker 4: trying to survive death. You are trying to fight off
• 36:33
  Speaker 4: somebody trying to break your arm or choke you, or
• 36:37
  Speaker 4: grab your foot.
• 36:37
  Speaker 3: Or you know, take you down.
• 36:38
  Speaker 4: So it helps you stay present in a way that
• 36:41
  Speaker 4: nothing else I've ever experienced does. And yeah, that and aggression,
• 36:47
  Speaker 4: like it's a really sick we welcome it. We welcome aggression.
• 36:49
  Speaker 4: So you get to come and get all of the
• 36:52
  Speaker 4: aggression that you fill out in the world. You get
• 36:54
  Speaker 4: to come fight off death for a couple hours, and
• 36:57
  Speaker 4: there's no way you don't walk out of that.
• 36:58
  Speaker 6: Like, but I feel like it takes the anxiety away
• 37:01
  Speaker 6: of like if something does happen, then you don't know
• 37:03
  Speaker 6: how to defend yourself, so now you do, so that
• 37:05
  Speaker 6: anxiety's gone of the day.
• 37:08
  Speaker 1: One hundred percent.
• 37:09
  Speaker 2: It helps you with First, Yes, for me, I'm sitting
• 37:14
  Speaker 2: there sometimes and you're under I'm under a one hundred
• 37:17
  Speaker 2: and eighty pound man, and I'm getting choked, and I'm like,
• 37:20
  Speaker 2: and I tell myself, just breathe you don't have to
• 37:22
  Speaker 2: tap out right now, just breathe. And then I take
• 37:24
  Speaker 2: it into life where I'm like so stressed and I
• 37:27
  Speaker 2: feel like I'm going to lose my mind, and then
• 37:29
  Speaker 2: I'm like, just breathe, like relax, breathe, move on to
• 37:32
  Speaker 2: one thing at a time, stay present.
• 37:34
  Speaker 1: It has truly helped me every day.
• 37:36
  Speaker 4: I went scuba diving for the first time. You did
• 37:39
  Speaker 4: Scooba lesson, and I put my head under and immediately
• 37:42
  Speaker 4: I went into jiu jitsu mode. I was like, oh,
• 37:44
  Speaker 4: like I wanted to panic because my heads under the water,
• 37:46
  Speaker 4: and like, you know what I mean, I've never done that,
• 37:48
  Speaker 4: And all of a sudden, I was like, oh jujitsu mode,
• 37:49
  Speaker 4: and I was fine, and I came back up and
• 37:51
  Speaker 4: the guy was like, oh, you've done juj You've done
• 37:54
  Speaker 4: this before, and I go, no, I do jiu jitsu,
• 37:55
  Speaker 4: and he goes, oh yeah, yeah, it.
• 37:57
  Speaker 1: Was like you saw it. Yes.
• 37:59
  Speaker 2: It very much helps Easton when at some point I
• 38:02
  Speaker 2: want to get you to take a class.
• 38:03
  Speaker 6: Even though I would be down, because I like the
• 38:05
  Speaker 6: mental point of it as well.
• 38:07
  Speaker 5: That's the thing you can kind of goose fraba in
• 38:10
  Speaker 5: very goose. Guys have never heard that in Anger Management.
• 38:14
  Speaker 6: No, yeah, n no, Jack Nicholson, Nicholas Jack nickl.
• 38:21
  Speaker 1: Jack Nicholson, Anger Management.
• 38:24
  Speaker 6: And the guy's freaking out and he goes goose fraba.
• 38:28
  Speaker 1: Oh my god.
• 38:31
  Speaker 6: Yeah, but yeah no, I like that's where I like
• 38:34
  Speaker 6: that mental where you're getting number one, you learn to
• 38:37
  Speaker 6: defend yourself, and then number two you're getting like longevity
• 38:41
  Speaker 6: of mental, pushing yourself to four eight.
• 38:45
  Speaker 4: Not to bite too much off. There's a small podcaster
• 38:48
  Speaker 4: name Joe Rogan.
• 38:49
  Speaker 3: Ever heard him?
• 38:50
  Speaker 1: I've never heard of that.
• 38:51
  Speaker 3: Joe little tiny. But Joe is also a tenth on
• 38:53
  Speaker 3: a black belt.
• 38:54
  Speaker 2: I don't know if you know, I do know got
• 38:56
  Speaker 2: he got his black belt at tenth ave.
• 38:59
  Speaker 3: Hover but not to fight off him too much.
• 39:01
  Speaker 4: But it's a very accurate statement that Joe is like,
• 39:04
  Speaker 4: you learn to be comfortable being uncomfortable. You also because
• 39:08
  Speaker 4: jiu jitsu is like driving a car downhill with no
• 39:11
  Speaker 4: breaks while wrestling a baby bear.
• 39:14
  Speaker 5: Fun.
• 39:15
  Speaker 3: That's the quote.
• 39:17
  Speaker 1: Yeah, it's true, it's true, but you can manage.
• 39:20
  Speaker 4: It, but you learn to be like, yeah, I got it,
• 39:22
  Speaker 4: that's fun.
• 39:23
  Speaker 1: Oh my god, Oh my god.
• 39:25
  Speaker 2: Okay, so you guys, before we get in to I Donna,
• 39:32
  Speaker 2: I just want you to mention a couple organizations you're
• 39:34
  Speaker 2: part of, and then I would like you to get
• 39:36
  Speaker 2: into before we get into ach and relief. You have
• 39:39
  Speaker 2: a very strong feelings on me almost getting abducted by
• 39:43
  Speaker 2: the guy in the van and Lisa's bow tying incident.
• 39:46
  Speaker 1: So can you tell us a few of the.
• 39:47
  Speaker 2: Organizations you're part of and sort of our listeners are
• 39:50
  Speaker 2: amazing in fars as far as they're like, oh my god,
• 39:54
  Speaker 2: I want to help, I want to look it up,
• 39:55
  Speaker 2: I want to share.
• 39:56
  Speaker 1: So yeah.
• 39:57
  Speaker 4: So the organizations that I have directly under me, I
• 40:02
  Speaker 4: certify coaches, self defense coaches under tenth Plant, Women's Self
• 40:06
  Speaker 4: Defense or the Women's Self Defense Network. I started the
• 40:08
  Speaker 4: Women's Self Defense Network as a way of women anywhere
• 40:12
  Speaker 4: for them to be able to find a coach near
• 40:14
  Speaker 4: them that is safe to train with. Okay, so women
• 40:16
  Speaker 4: come to me and they're either certified under me or
• 40:18
  Speaker 4: I've done a background check on them, and I can say, yes,
• 40:20
  Speaker 4: this is a safe woman for you to go train with.
• 40:22
  Speaker 1: All over the US, over the world, all of the world.
• 40:25
  Speaker 2: So if someone wants to is there would they hit
• 40:28
  Speaker 2: you up on Instagram?
• 40:29
  Speaker 1: What if they're like, I want to find a coach,
• 40:31
  Speaker 1: Ye I can.
• 40:32
  Speaker 4: So I have a website called the Women's Self Defense Network.
• 40:34
  Speaker 4: I think I have about thirty something coaches, most of
• 40:38
  Speaker 4: them in the United States, but coaches from other places too,
• 40:41
  Speaker 4: and my goal is to build that yeah and have
• 40:43
  Speaker 4: it just be a huge database of self defense coaches
• 40:46
  Speaker 4: for women. And it's not just jiu jitsu, it's other
• 40:48
  Speaker 4: types of martial arts that we have a firearm instructor
• 40:51
  Speaker 4: on there. So it's women's self defense. It is how
• 40:54
  Speaker 4: can I find a woman to train with near me?
• 40:56
  Speaker 4: And hopefully I will get enough women listen on that
• 40:58
  Speaker 4: the women anywhere can find somebody. We also have ten
• 41:00
  Speaker 4: Planet Women's Self Defense, which is mainly it's me and Lilah.
• 41:04
  Speaker 4: We started it as like self defense coaches, and we
• 41:06
  Speaker 4: teach seminars all over everywhere, and Lilah's co owner of
• 41:10
  Speaker 4: ten Planet Paspacity, and I've worked with Generate Hope, which
• 41:15
  Speaker 4: is an organization that saves women from human trafficking. I
• 41:19
  Speaker 4: also work with Mayor's House in La Joya, which helps
• 41:23
  Speaker 4: women in substance recovery.
• 41:25
  Speaker 3: And so how that relates is a.
• 41:29
  Speaker 4: Huge amount of women who are have addiction issues, have
• 41:33
  Speaker 4: also been sexually assaulted. And also it's the empowerment. It's
• 41:37
  Speaker 4: getting back in touch with your body. It's like learning
• 41:40
  Speaker 4: to be present in your body. So all of those
• 41:42
  Speaker 4: things are relevant.
• 41:43
  Speaker 1: That's incredible, thankful for women like you, truly.
• 41:47
  Speaker 2: So if anyone, I mean obviously, reach out to Donna
• 41:49
  Speaker 2: over Instagram, check out her websites.
• 41:53
  Speaker 1: All of that.
• 41:54
  Speaker 2: Let's quickly before our aches and reliefs, can you please
• 41:57
  Speaker 2: tell us why you felt so strongly about me and
• 42:00
  Speaker 2: the guy in the van. Reminder you, guys, this was
• 42:03
  Speaker 2: a couple episodes ago, but I basically he came up
• 42:06
  Speaker 2: to me. He said he needed a jump, and Lisa
• 42:08
  Speaker 2: was like, absolutely not and then the guy zoomed off. Yeah,
• 42:12
  Speaker 2: so what do you feel about? Do you think I
• 42:13
  Speaker 2: was actually almost taken.
• 42:15
  Speaker 3: Or one thousand percent?
• 42:17
  Speaker 1: Donna?
• 42:18
  Speaker 4: Okay, here's the thing, ladies, ladies and children listen up
• 42:21
  Speaker 4: and people with children. Men don't ask women for help,
• 42:24
  Speaker 4: especially not in public.
• 42:25
  Speaker 5: That is so fucking true.
• 42:27
  Speaker 3: I know, Oh my.
• 42:27
  Speaker 1: God, I just gotta spell.
• 42:29
  Speaker 4: Yes, men don't ask women for help. And if you
• 42:31
  Speaker 4: want to know the somebody, the intention that somebody has
• 42:35
  Speaker 4: towards you, give them an immediate boundary and if they
• 42:37
  Speaker 4: cross it, then you know that you can. I call
• 42:40
  Speaker 4: it switching the bitch switch. My bitch switch is on
• 42:42
  Speaker 4: a hair trigger. So you have to figure out where
• 42:44
  Speaker 4: you're comfortable with your bitch switches. But something that you
• 42:47
  Speaker 4: can do in the situation where you are in Jessica
• 42:49
  Speaker 4: is immediately bring in another person, probably a man. Oh,
• 42:52
  Speaker 4: I would be more than happy to give you a jump.
• 42:54
  Speaker 4: Let me go get rab my boyfriend. He's right around
• 42:56
  Speaker 4: the corner. And if the guy was like, oh, thanks,
• 42:58
  Speaker 4: that'd be awesome, then he actually needed help. And if
• 43:00
  Speaker 4: he was like, no, he doesn't want your.
• 43:02
  Speaker 5: Help, because here's it.
• 43:03
  Speaker 6: And it's not like I would never ask a woman
• 43:05
  Speaker 6: for help because I know that asking them puts them
• 43:08
  Speaker 6: in such an awkward position, like I don't want to
• 43:11
  Speaker 6: put them so I feel like that and I feel
• 43:13
  Speaker 6: like I'm a good dude. But I would never ask
• 43:15
  Speaker 6: a girl unless I fucking needed it to help me,
• 43:18
  Speaker 6: not because I don't think they can do it. I
• 43:20
  Speaker 6: don't want to put them in a fucking weird position.
• 43:22
  Speaker 6: Are aware, Like I don't even ask for your help.
• 43:25
  Speaker 6: I would say do you have a boyfriend or do
• 43:27
  Speaker 6: you know that's usually hot.
• 43:28
  Speaker 4: Yeah, men, and he's just to your children. Adult men
• 43:31
  Speaker 4: do not ask children for help, your.
• 43:35
  Speaker 5: Parents if you're fucking alone. But other than that, like no.
• 43:38
  Speaker 4: Most adult men will be like, where's your adult Like please?
• 43:43
  Speaker 4: Fucking men don't ask women for help. So that's a
• 43:46
  Speaker 4: red flag. And if somebody, if you're if you ever
• 43:48
  Speaker 4: want to know somebody's intention, like, let's say a man
• 43:50
  Speaker 4: is walking towards you and all of a sudden, your
• 43:52
  Speaker 4: your gut kicks in, do one of these stop right there?
• 43:56
  Speaker 1: If he stops, he's at least.
• 43:58
  Speaker 4: Willing to listen to what you have to say, and
• 44:00
  Speaker 4: you can set some boundaries with him. If he walks
• 44:02
  Speaker 4: right through that.
• 44:03
  Speaker 5: You you need to.
• 44:05
  Speaker 1: It's a red flag. It's a red flag.
• 44:07
  Speaker 4: You know, obviously can't speak for every single situation, but
• 44:10
  Speaker 4: it's a red flag. If you set immediate boundaries with
• 44:13
  Speaker 4: somebody and they do not respect them, they will continue
• 44:16
  Speaker 4: to like cross lines with you.
• 44:18
  Speaker 1: Right.
• 44:19
  Speaker 2: Damn, that is so important to hear And the fact
• 44:21
  Speaker 2: that it hit me so hard that you said that,
• 44:24
  Speaker 2: and I'm thirty three years old. Yeah, like hear that, women, children,
• 44:29
  Speaker 2: all of it.
• 44:30
  Speaker 1: Yeah, what about the most yea at least a story.
• 44:33
  Speaker 3: Same thing with the boundaries.
• 44:34
  Speaker 4: Your mom did a great job with it by not
• 44:36
  Speaker 4: giving them something to argue about. That doesn't really make
• 44:38
  Speaker 4: me comfortable? Can you remind us? So it was a
• 44:40
  Speaker 4: woman who asked her to put a bow in her hair.
• 44:44
  Speaker 4: All you have to be is that doesn't really make
• 44:45
  Speaker 4: me comfortable. You just gave an adult person a boundary. Okay,
• 44:48
  Speaker 4: watch how they respond.
• 44:49
  Speaker 1: To it, and if they keep pushing, then that's.
• 44:52
  Speaker 4: Something if you like, go back and look at some
• 44:53
  Speaker 4: of my Instagram things. I do like these little one
• 44:55
  Speaker 4: minute motivations. One thing that I wish women would learn
• 44:59
  Speaker 4: how to say is you are making me uncomfortable, because
• 45:01
  Speaker 4: a decent person will listen to you say that and
• 45:04
  Speaker 4: immediately acknowledge it. I'm sorry, right.
• 45:07
  Speaker 1: Damn oh, I love you.
• 45:10
  Speaker 2: Okay, wait you guys, before I can relieve Donna, what
• 45:14
  Speaker 2: are you gonna.
• 45:14
  Speaker 1: Teach Easton or me? By the way, I'm a dummy.
• 45:18
  Speaker 2: So he can do if you're teaching rear naked choke,
• 45:20
  Speaker 2: he can do it to me. Or is there something
• 45:22
  Speaker 2: you're like everyone should know how to do this?
• 45:24
  Speaker 1: What are you thinking? I don't think there's a move
• 45:26
  Speaker 1: that like is like I don't.
• 45:28
  Speaker 4: That's a that's a big thing. Okay, that's the one
• 45:30
  Speaker 4: thing that I need to know. You need to know
• 45:32
  Speaker 4: all of juice, all of it.
• 45:33
  Speaker 3: I don't know, Easton, What is there a body part
• 45:35
  Speaker 3: that you want to learn how to break?
• 45:37
  Speaker 1: Oh my god, I'm.
• 45:40
  Speaker 5: Like, I don't know. Like, could we see if you
• 45:43
  Speaker 5: get jokes.
• 45:45
  Speaker 3: A wrist? Okay?
• 45:47
  Speaker 1: So okay, so.
• 45:50
  Speaker 3: The cameras on.
• 45:51
  Speaker 4: Okay, So look, here's Eastern bigger and stronger than me.
• 45:54
  Speaker 4: He's always going to be bigger and stronger than me.
• 45:56
  Speaker 1: I will probably never get.
• 45:58
  Speaker 4: I will probably never get to win in a size
• 46:01
  Speaker 4: I probably I'm five ft one, so trust me. Okay,
• 46:07
  Speaker 4: if I'm never going to be able to be stronger
• 46:09
  Speaker 4: than you, but I can be smarter than the structure
• 46:12
  Speaker 4: of your body.
• 46:13
  Speaker 3: Fair. So let's say I'm just gonna let's.
• 46:16
  Speaker 1: Say you just grab it.
• 46:17
  Speaker 5: I'm coming to grab you.
• 46:18
  Speaker 3: Can you guys see this?
• 46:19
  Speaker 5: Okay?
• 46:19
  Speaker 1: So all girls, ladies.
• 46:22
  Speaker 4: People, if you've ever been like at a night clever
• 46:24
  Speaker 4: or a party or whatever it needs to get let
• 46:27
  Speaker 4: me talk to you. Let me talk to you the camere,
• 46:29
  Speaker 4: let me talk to you group. Right, So if we
• 46:31
  Speaker 4: just get into a tug of war.
• 46:32
  Speaker 3: You're gonna win. You're gonna when you're because you're bigger
• 46:34
  Speaker 3: and stronger than me.
• 46:35
  Speaker 4: But if I can turn my thumb towards the opening
• 46:39
  Speaker 4: of your fingers and I can take my elbow and
• 46:42
  Speaker 4: put it on your watch, what's gonna happen is I
• 46:44
  Speaker 4: am going.
• 46:45
  Speaker 3: To go for the weak part of your wrist. Then
• 46:48
  Speaker 3: you won't be able to hold on to me.
• 46:49
  Speaker 1: So you're gonna bop hold on to me.
• 46:53
  Speaker 5: And I really am.
• 46:59
  Speaker 4: No that fuck, because the human wrist only been so
• 47:01
  Speaker 4: far no matter how big and strong you are.
• 47:03
  Speaker 3: Now, if you're standing up, can we stand up?
• 47:05
  Speaker 5: Can you? Yeah?
• 47:05
  Speaker 3: You got something?
• 47:06
  Speaker 1: Okay, you can know you can take them off?
• 47:09
  Speaker 3: Okay, so come here. See I'm a midget.
• 47:13
  Speaker 1: Wait they can see. Oh my god, look how Georgie.
• 47:18
  Speaker 3: No, stand up? That's fine.
• 47:20
  Speaker 5: So I'm coming to take.
• 47:22
  Speaker 4: You and no, it's like I will let me talk
• 47:24
  Speaker 4: to your situation, right, So just stay right there.
• 47:26
  Speaker 3: If I can.
• 47:27
  Speaker 4: Close the distance between your wrist and your body, I
• 47:30
  Speaker 4: can take away how strong you are. So I'm just
• 47:32
  Speaker 4: gonna keep walking towards you until I can put my
• 47:34
  Speaker 4: elbow on your watch.
• 47:36
  Speaker 1: And then you're gonna what and then I'm gonna I.
• 47:39
  Speaker 3: Call that the excuse.
• 47:42
  Speaker 6: Yeah.
• 47:42
  Speaker 4: So, like if you've ever come to any of myself
• 47:44
  Speaker 4: seminars self defense, seminars Defense seminar, I call this the
• 47:50
  Speaker 4: excuse me, sir. You gotta hey, let me talk to you. Right,
• 47:53
  Speaker 4: I'm gonna move closer. I'm going to put my elbow
• 47:57
  Speaker 4: on your watch.
• 47:58
  Speaker 10: Oh, she though, And I like that because if they
• 48:03
  Speaker 10: think they got you, and then once you do that,
• 48:05
  Speaker 10: it's almost like a switch where you're like, oh my god,
• 48:07
  Speaker 10: she's kind of crazy, where you don't want to go
• 48:09
  Speaker 10: back and go, well, no.
• 48:10
  Speaker 5: Fucking came here.
• 48:11
  Speaker 4: Like if you turn around and like you're happy with
• 48:14
  Speaker 4: what you're saying, that also kind.
• 48:15
  Speaker 1: Of works in your favor.
• 48:17
  Speaker 3: Have ever told you how I met my husband?
• 48:18
  Speaker 4: I'll leave you guys on this because it'll give you
• 48:20
  Speaker 4: a good idea of my personality. I met my husband
• 48:25
  Speaker 4: at a bar because I kicked him.
• 48:28
  Speaker 1: What do you mean walk past me?
• 48:30
  Speaker 4: Yes, karate, he walked past me and I saw him
• 48:32
  Speaker 4: and I was like, yes, and so I just I
• 48:34
  Speaker 4: reached over and I just I like, I like, I
• 48:38
  Speaker 4: kicked him pretty hard and he turned around. My husband's
• 48:40
  Speaker 4: like he's a beefy guy. He is big, and he
• 48:43
  Speaker 4: turned around.
• 48:44
  Speaker 3: He goes, excuse me, miss, you just kicked me.
• 48:47
  Speaker 1: I know.
• 48:49
  Speaker 5: I would have.
• 48:52
  Speaker 6: Oh, I would have needed to change my shirts. I
• 48:55
  Speaker 6: don't like this is the one I just walked through.
• 48:58
  Speaker 5: Nobody touches me.
• 49:00
  Speaker 1: That's cute. I got that.
• 49:03
  Speaker 5: That's a good meat story.
• 49:04
  Speaker 6: Thank you.
• 49:05
  Speaker 1: That is so okay.
• 49:06
  Speaker 2: So before we get into ake and relieve you guys,
• 49:08
  Speaker 2: I want to mention, well, I need to do another
• 49:11
  Speaker 2: thing with you, Donna.
• 49:12
  Speaker 1: This was so fun.
• 49:12
  Speaker 2: But she you host the Femvasions, so keep up with
• 49:16
  Speaker 2: I always share them. The Femvasians is basically just like
• 49:19
  Speaker 2: a well you quickly say what it is.
• 49:21
  Speaker 4: The Invasion is a three day women's jiu jitsu camp
• 49:25
  Speaker 4: and you are going to come and train with some
• 49:27
  Speaker 4: amazing women. It's always taught by tenth Planet black belt women.
• 49:30
  Speaker 4: There's only twenty six women in the world that have
• 49:32
  Speaker 4: tenth Planet black belts. So each camp we have we
• 49:35
  Speaker 4: feature different coaches and it's three days. But the most
• 49:38
  Speaker 4: important part is the sisterhood that comes out of it.
• 49:40
  Speaker 4: You come like you were there last weekend. It's just
• 49:42
  Speaker 4: like this amazing vibe of like doing jiu jitsu all
• 49:45
  Speaker 4: weekend and meeting girls and like because most of the
• 49:47
  Speaker 4: time women start jiu jitsu and they're the only one.
• 49:50
  Speaker 4: There's like three or something like that, and it's really
• 49:53
  Speaker 4: lonely when you're like the white belt girl. And it's
• 49:56
  Speaker 4: really also hard when you're when you're tiny because you
• 49:58
  Speaker 4: don't have a lot of training partners. Myself, Leilasmanja, and
• 50:02
  Speaker 4: Heather Joe Clark all started this camp so that we
• 50:05
  Speaker 4: could provide a place for the community of women. And
• 50:08
  Speaker 4: it was really a very selfish way to bring the
• 50:10
  Speaker 4: tenth Planet of black belt women together. We were just like,
• 50:12
  Speaker 4: how can we get everybody together in so we can
• 50:15
  Speaker 4: hang out. And we were like, let's let's create the
• 50:19
  Speaker 4: space for all the women of tenth Planet and all
• 50:20
  Speaker 4: the women of jujitsu, Like women can come who don't
• 50:22
  Speaker 4: train a tenth Planet, just so.
• 50:24
  Speaker 1: That we have the like this cool sisterhood club.
• 50:26
  Speaker 2: It's beginner friendly, like I said, right, I mean you
• 50:30
  Speaker 2: can all the teachers and the coaches are amazing, so
• 50:34
  Speaker 2: beginner friendly for sure.
• 50:35
  Speaker 1: It was a lot of fun. We'll keep you guys updated.
• 50:38
  Speaker 2: We're gonna pop into the aches and reliefs of the week.
• 50:42
  Speaker 2: I gave Donna heads up. She's I mean, she's a
• 50:44
  Speaker 2: listener obviously, so she knows. But Easton, Well, we usually
• 50:50
  Speaker 2: do our guests last, so you guys can have a
• 50:52
  Speaker 2: beat to think, so we can start with you me,
• 50:54
  Speaker 2: and then we'll do Donna.
• 50:55
  Speaker 6: Okay, my ache has been this heat. I can there's
• 50:59
  Speaker 6: just nothing that I can do. I walk outside, I'm tired, the.
• 51:03
  Speaker 5: Sleeping is hot.
• 51:04
  Speaker 6: So this heat has really stuff, a whole lot of stuff.
• 51:07
  Speaker 6: I just got no energy.
• 51:09
  Speaker 5: So that's my egg. But it's getting cooler, so here
• 51:11
  Speaker 5: we go. And then my relief is baby.
• 51:14
  Speaker 6: Oh baby, we can say it right, So yeah, it's
• 51:19
  Speaker 6: so Sosa, so so her name, so she's the best.
• 51:24
  Speaker 5: That's my relief.
• 51:25
  Speaker 2: Stunning, Okay, I love that. My ache of the week.
• 51:30
  Speaker 2: You guys, it's the twenty fifth, so I will be.
• 51:33
  Speaker 1: Competing again on Sunday.
• 51:35
  Speaker 2: Yes, who grappling eggs temeculate it's fart but so that's
• 51:39
  Speaker 2: not an ache. But I'm assuming by now I will
• 51:43
  Speaker 2: be maybe a little achy. So hopefully I just take
• 51:47
  Speaker 2: my gummies and I can chill and I'm excited.
• 51:50
  Speaker 1: Donna, it can relieve.
• 51:52
  Speaker 4: Just to be clear, the eggs are like super first
• 51:54
  Speaker 4: worldy problems right, oh one hundred.
• 51:56
  Speaker 1: Oh, I'm just making sure usually, so.
• 52:00
  Speaker 4: My ache is I am I'm so exhausted because there's
• 52:03
  Speaker 4: so many amazing things happening, Like like.
• 52:10
  Speaker 3: I'm all puppy right now.
• 52:11
  Speaker 1: I'm so because you've just been doing so many fun.
• 52:14
  Speaker 3: Things, so many things going on.
• 52:15
  Speaker 4: I had to drive up for this podcast to buy
• 52:18
  Speaker 4: a new car this week, but I am puffy because
• 52:24
  Speaker 4: of that.
• 52:24
  Speaker 8: So.
• 52:26
  Speaker 3: Thank you. So that's.
• 52:30
  Speaker 4: My god, all those things too, Like there's I am
• 52:37
  Speaker 4: so grateful. There's so many amazing things happening in my
• 52:39
  Speaker 4: life right now. Invasion happened. My husband and I got
• 52:44
  Speaker 4: a new car. He was by drunk driver, so the.
• 52:46
  Speaker 1: Bad, bad bad, but he's okay.
• 52:48
  Speaker 4: He's okay, but we got a new car, so I'm like,
• 52:52
  Speaker 4: don't drink and drive you days, don't And then you know,
• 52:55
  Speaker 4: I got to come in here and hang out with
• 52:57
  Speaker 4: you guys today and were sitting in the world, so
• 52:59
  Speaker 4: like good.
• 53:00
  Speaker 3: Yeah, but I'm just so puffy because of it.
• 53:02
  Speaker 1: You're not.
• 53:04
  Speaker 2: She's like, I'm so puffy because they just got massages
• 53:06
  Speaker 2: all day and I'm exhaust so hard. Oh my god, Well,
• 53:12
  Speaker 2: thank you so much for coming on Donna, We love you.
• 53:14
  Speaker 1: This has been fun.
• 53:16
  Speaker 2: We've had so many with just like a couple, you
• 53:20
  Speaker 2: know how it is. You get a couple of trolls
• 53:22
  Speaker 2: and then the freaking sweethearts flood in and say all
• 53:25
  Speaker 2: the nicest things.
• 53:26
  Speaker 1: So thank you all. I'm not great at getting back
• 53:29
  Speaker 1: to d ms, but just know I'll see them and
• 53:31
  Speaker 1: they make my day.
• 53:33
  Speaker 5: Yeah, it's really because it opening it ruin my day.
• 53:37
  Speaker 1: Yes, exactly.
• 53:39
  Speaker 5: Rude.
• 53:40
  Speaker 4: Yeah, when I had I had a podcast and like, yeah,
• 53:42
  Speaker 4: you know, you know where the worst people live.
• 53:45
  Speaker 3: Comments, You.
• 53:47
  Speaker 2: Guys proved Donna wrong. Get in those YouTube comments and
• 53:52
  Speaker 2: give us all the nice stuff.
• 53:53
  Speaker 5: Everybody who's dm us nice things. Thank you. Try to
• 53:56
  Speaker 5: read it. If it was rude, you ruined my day,
• 53:59
  Speaker 5: you ruined.
• 53:59
  Speaker 1: No, don't get there, you are just be nice. We
• 54:03
  Speaker 1: love you. How does Lala usually sign off?
• 54:06
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• 54:08
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• 54:19
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• 54:32
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• 54:36
  Speaker 5: And everybody in the cold States that's getting.
• 54:39
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• 54:45
  Speaker 5: Live in a place that skips all the shitty seasons.
• 54:47
  Speaker 1: Can we love you? Signing off, have a good day.
• 54:50
  Speaker 5: Bye,