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Understanding how to transform darkness (S5) S5:E2 · Inspirations for Your Life

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Well, hey guys, welcome.
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It is John C.
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Morley here, Surreal Entrepreneur.
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So you're tuned in to Inspirations for Your
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Life.
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Again, today is Sunday.
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We're kicking off a, well, a brand new
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series.
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This is Series 5, Show 5.
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So the series kicked off this year, as
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you know.
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We're 25 days in, we're celebrating four years
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being on the air, and this is the
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25th day in the fifth year.
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So tonight, it's all about understanding how to
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transform darkness, okay?
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Hello, everyone, and welcome back to Inspirations for
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Your Life.
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This is the daily motivational show where growth
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becomes intentional and clarity becomes a lifestyle.
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I'm your host, by the way.
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I'm John C.
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Morley, serial entrepreneur.
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I'm an engineer.
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I'm a marketing specialist, video producer, podcast host,
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coach, keynote speaker, graduate student, and a passionate
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lifelong learner.
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And it is my privilege and pleasure to
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be with you guys here this evening or
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today.
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So today, I'm talking all about transforming darkness,
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not by denying it, but by actually understanding
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it.
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I think a lot of times, people go
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to block something because they don't understand it.
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They don't try.
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They just figure it's different.
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It's uncomfortable, so we'll just block it.
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Number one, you weren't unlucky.
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You were unaware of things.
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Maybe you've had situations in your life and
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things just didn't go the way you wanted.
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You weren't unlucky.
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You just weren't paying attention to the nuances.
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The nuances in our life, guys, are so
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very important.
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I cannot express that anymore because if we
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don't take the time to understand the nuances,
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we're going to be completely lost, all right?
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Number two, many people aren't cursed.
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They're repeating the same choices over and over
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and over again.
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Yeah, they're repeating those curses over and over
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again.
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And I think people feel that if they
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keep repeating them, that maybe they're going to
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go away.
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But I can do this to you guys.
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They're not going to go away.
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They're only going to get worse because the
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universe gets us to repeat things that we
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have yet to learn the lesson of.
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You might think I'm crazy, but I'm actually
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telling you the truth, all right?
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So that's a very important thing.
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I think a lot of people, they don't
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realize what that's about, all right?
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So that's key, guys.
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Number three.
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Number three is you're not lost.
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You're simply before the clarity.
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So before we can become successful, we need
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to fully understand something.
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We need to be clear about it, right?
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If you're reading something or maybe you're doing
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an assignment, how can you do it if
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you don't really understand what is being asked,
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right?
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Take a test, for example.
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How can you do well on that test
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if you really don't read the questions well?
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You know, 95% of people that don't
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do well on tests are not because they
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don't know the things.
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Basically, it comes from a half of people
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having anxiety disorder.
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And the other is people just don't read
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the question.
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And they answer the question in an entirely
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different context than the way it was asked.
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Number four, guys.
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One sign you're leaving darkness is when awareness
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starts replacing confusion.
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When awareness starts replacing confusion.
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Maybe it's like, I don't know what I'm
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supposed to do.
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I don't know what I'm supposed to say.
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But all I know is that something seems
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clearer.
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It's like a light bulb went on.
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A eureka moment, right?
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We've all talked about that before.
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Number five, sometimes one honest conversation turns the
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lights on.
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Like I said, the eureka moment.
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It's not about giving you a challenge that
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you can't do because we can solve the
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challenges that come at us.
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It's that we have to embrace those challenges.
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That's a very, very important thing.
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And when we embrace something, it seems a
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little bit easier for everyone to understand.
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Number six, darkness is often unhealed habits, not
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mystery.
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Maybe you're doing things over and over again
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the wrong way.
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And when you're doing things the wrong way,
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it's like, oh my gosh, how am I
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supposed to ever do this?
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And the reason that you're getting lost is
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because you're not clear on what it is
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that you're being asked to do.
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Maybe the directions are there.
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Maybe you don't understand the vocabulary being used,
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or you don't understand the context in which
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it is being presented.
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This happens a lot in math, happens a
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lot in technical subjects, because the context is
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taken out of the point.
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And it's like, well, I think that was
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the answer.
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I'll give you an example.
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In one class where it says, what's the
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value of a certain register?
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Well, you're thinking about it from the endpoints,
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and gee, the value of it after it's
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calculated.
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But no, they didn't ask you that.
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They asked you what's the value in the
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register.
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You're jumping to what it is afterwards.
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They never asked you what it was afterwards.
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They asked you what it is in the
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expression.
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So you can't jump to the end and
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say it is this.
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No.
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Number seven, guys, some friends keep you stuck.
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Others will bring light.
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We've talked about this before.
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Some people will bring you joy.
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Some people bring you peace and harmony.
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Other people will just, well, they'll give you
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a migraine.
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No pun intended there, right?
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Number eight, life often gets harder right before
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it gets clear.
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Right before the epiphany moment is when life
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gets clear.
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And I know that sounds very interesting, but
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it's something that I think we all need
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to realize.
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Real relief comes when you see your role
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and your power.
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Real relief comes when you see, when you
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recognize, when you feel, when you experience that.
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That's when the joy starts to release.
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Real relief comes when you see your role
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and your power.
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When you see that you can do something,
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you get this big boost of confidence.
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I think that's amazing.
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Number 10, guys, staying too long in outgrown
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spaces creates glue.
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Maybe you're at a job and you feel
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like you can't go anywhere.
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It's not because you can't.
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It's because maybe there's no room for expansion,
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right?
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Maybe.
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Maybe there's no support in the company.
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I'm just giving you for instances.
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So you have to realize that if you
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are in a space and you feel that
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you can't grow for a while, it's time
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to move on, right?
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What do snails do?
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They leave their homes and they find a
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bigger one, right?
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They can't stay in that small shell as
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they grow.
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They'll stifle their growth.
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Number 11, guys, writing things down reveals where
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you're still stuck.
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A lot of people I talk to don't
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want to write things down.
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You know why?
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Because then the reality is going to become
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clear.
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Huh.
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The reality is going to become clear and
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they'll be like, uh, uh, I guess the
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problem is not them.
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The problem is me.
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Because most people want to blame the problem
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on somebody else.
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They do.
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Not because they have to.
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They just feel it's the reason because of
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course I'm perfect, right?
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So the issue can't be with me.
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It has to be with somebody else.
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Successful people realize that most of the time
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it's us that needs to change, not someone
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else.
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So write things down, see where you're stuck,
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and be accountable for what you write down.
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Take action to change it.
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Number 12, guys, distraction feels bright, but growth
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actually eliminates.
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Let me say that again.
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Distraction can feel light just like this light,
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right?
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But growth actually illuminates us and allows us
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to move forward.
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Let's think of it another way.
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A car, right, that has gas can seem
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like one of the greatest things.
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But one that's actually moving is the one
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that'll get us to our destination.
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Number 13, guys, more information doesn't always mean
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more clarity.
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I think sometimes when people get so much
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thrown at them it's like, oh my gosh,
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what am I supposed to do now, right?
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We put in this tailspin and then it's
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like, what was I doing?
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What am I trying to accomplish?
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Number 14, you can be a calming light
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without preaching.
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Many people don't want to hear a preaching
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story, but they might be okay with you
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telling something that went wrong and how you
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changed it, but don't preach to them.
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You can be calm and they can be
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understanding.
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I think people get defensive when you try
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to become that preacher.
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Forget about whether it's religion or something else.
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People don't want to be preached to.
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People want to know that it's their idea
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that they're doing something, not your idea.
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That's how it works.
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Number 15, some people avoid clarity because responsibility
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scares them.
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Let me say that again.
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Some people will choose to avoid clarity because
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responsibility scares them.
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Why does that happen?
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Because it's different.
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It feels uncomfortable.
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I said to you before that uncomfortability is
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where success actually lies.
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It's where success lies.
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If we start getting a little uncomfortable, I'm
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not saying to be in pain, just a
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little uncomfortable, we'll start to grow.
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Then the next time we can grow a
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little more, just the same like you're lifting
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weights or something.
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You don't lift the same week weights every
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day.
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No, of course not.
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That's a powerful thing, guys.
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Number 16, awareness doesn't instantly erase old habits.
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Now, just because we have a perception doesn't
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mean we became the genius overnight.
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We had one perception and that perception allowed
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us to see something from a different angle.
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It allowed us to understand that maybe the
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way we're approaching it, it's not 100%
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right or it might be 100% wrong.
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The fact that we're able to get that
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feedback from ourselves or from others and we
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can adjust our course to get back on
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track, I think that's priceless, guys.
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Some people, when you give them advice, it's
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like they jump on you and then you
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never want to give them advice again.
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What I tend to do is I will
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offer a penny, like a two cents.
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I see that the two cents is not
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being welcome.
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I say, no problem.
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I don't have to give you my two
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cents.
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I didn't realize you weren't open to feedback.
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It's a nice way of saying it.
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Awareness doesn't instantly erase old habits.
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So because we're aware of something, let me
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give you an example.
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Because I'm aware of a temperature of, let's
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say I'm wearing socks right now, of the
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socks against my feet, because I'm aware of
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that temperature doesn't get me to change it
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by just being aware of it.
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Now there is a situation when you're aware
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of something, it does change.
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That's not it.
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When we focus on something that's bothering us
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with neuroplacement, neurolinguistics, I'm not going to get
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into that today, but we focus on it
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and we think about the object, the shape,
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the size, the color, the texture, the smell,
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starts to change, starts to become smaller, starts
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to not be that big problem anymore.
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Number 17, guys, the biggest glow up happens
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internally.
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Everybody wants the glow up to happen outside
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them, right?
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I mean, I think that's true.
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But when the glow up happens inside our
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body, it's like, wow.
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And then when it takes off by boosting
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out, we're like, oh my gosh, where'd that
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come from?
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It came from you that was working on
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it for a long time.
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That's where it came from.
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It's like you had been, you know, working
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on that creation, suddenly you launch it.
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And when you launch it, things just change.
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But yet we're still surprised because we're not
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aware of the amazing positive consequences.
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And I'm talking about consequences in a good
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sense here, positive consequences, not negative consequences.
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Number 18, guys, you can't force clarity on
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someone else.
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Don't even try.
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But Mike, but Joe, but Bob, don't you
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see?
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No.
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But Megan, can you see that?
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No.
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Tom, aren't you able to hear what's going
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on?
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No.
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And even if they are able to know
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what's going on, they're going to say to
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your face, no.
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You know why?
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That big three-letter word, ego, E-G
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-O.
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E-G-O.
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That's pretty powerful, guys.
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Very, very, very powerful.
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Number 19, guys, tiny habits can lift heavy
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gaze.
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Maybe it's a gratitude ritual you do in
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the morning.
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Maybe it's a little gym routine you do
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or a calisthenic can make your body feel
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better.
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You know, our body, when it's in motion,
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pretty much can't stay in a stagnant state.
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I think I've done this with you guys
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before.
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If you're in a state right now, you're
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not feeling good.
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And I tell you to move into a
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position where you feel good.
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Now, don't move and try to feel bad.
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And you won't be able to do it.
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Same thing happens the other way.
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So our physiology of how our body is
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affects our state.
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I learned that many years ago.
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And I was like blown away.
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I thought like somebody was giving me a
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story until I tried it myself.
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I was like, wow, that's incredible.
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So tiny habits can lift heavy gaze.
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Don't think because a habit is so small
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that it has no impact.
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No.
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Tiny habits compound.
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And all the changes may seem subtle.
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The end outcome can be game-changing.
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Just by taking a tiny habit or two
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every day, every day.
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Number 20, guys.
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Alignment feels like relief, not effort.
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When you're aligned in principles, when you're aligned
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in your core values, you feel grace.
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You feel peace.
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You feel amazing.
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You heard me say that right.
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When we're aligned, we're in relief.
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It's like no effort or very minimal effort.
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Let's think about in terms of energy, right?
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If let's say to stand, let's say use
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10% of your power.
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And let's say to walk, use 20%.
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Let's say to run, use 50%.
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But imagine just being in alignment.
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Or imagine walking while in alignment.
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You probably use very little energy because the
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world around you and the energy would recharge
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you.
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That's just something that blows me away.
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Our alignment and connection to source not only
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helps us manifest, but it helps us to
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feel good.
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I love that, guys.
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Number 21, low energy seasons need structure, not
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pressure.
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Let's say that again.
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Low energy seasons need structure, not pressure.
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So if we're not feeling a lot of
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good energy and we suddenly structure our life,
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we'll find that that low energy actually starts
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to grow without us even burning energy.
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It's like we get this natural recharge.
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It's like we took this cord from like
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our iPhone and we plugged it into ourself.
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You get my point, right?
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I think that's something that is so very,
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very powerful.
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Low energy seasons need structure, not pressure.
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Not pressure.
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I mean that, guys.
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You grow, number 22, the version of you
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that you feed.
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What we focus on, we become.
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Nightingale, Conan said it best, right?
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What we focus on, we become.
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Those thoughts become us.
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And we can't always figure out why, but
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it does.
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When you change your inside, your outside has
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to reflect to that.
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I won't get into that too deep today.
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But our thoughts affect our energy.
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Our energy is what people interface with.
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And the energy is what gets people to
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take action, whether it's a client or whether
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it's somebody giving us an opportunity for something,
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right?
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Number 22, you grow the version of you
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that you feed.
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So remember, however you see yourself, however you
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get that feedback, however you perceive yourself and
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keep thinking about yourself, that's the version that's
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going to grow.
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You focus on being a millionaire, you're going
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to grow being a millionaire.
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You focus on being broke, well, you're going
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to focus on being broke.
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You're going to bring about what you focus
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on.
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And this is not some hocus pocus, guys.
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Our psychology and our biochemical makeup actually attributes
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to the energy that we take on our
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body and that we give off.
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And that gives us some priceless things.
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Number 23, guys, old mindsets need closure.
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We've talked a lot of times about getting
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closure.
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When we get closure, we may not be
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happy with it, but at least we're able
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to move on.
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We're able to move on.
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When we get closure, we know that that
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part of our life has changed or maybe
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that part has ended.
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We've gotten closure on it.
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So we're not chasing a tailspin.
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We're not burning our energy on something that
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has no interest in us or doesn't need
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our product or services, whether it's business or
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whether it's personal or whether it's just a
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friendship.
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All right, that's important.
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Number 24, some blessings wait until honesty shows
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up.
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Whoa, that's a tough one.
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That's a mouth load.
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Some blessings wait until honesty shows up.
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Do you know why that is?
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People are on the fence many times and
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they're judging you.
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They're not sure whether they can believe you.
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But when you've been honest enough times and
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they see this, guess what they do?
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They bless you.
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This goes back to a show I did
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a long time ago.
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And that was about the thing, do the
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right thing even when no one else is
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watching.
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This makes me think of a social media
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clip I saw several weeks ago where it
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was for an airline.
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It was a made up airline.
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And when the camera was on or they
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knew they were being watched, taking the luggage
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off the plane and putting it onto the
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truck that's going to the conveyor belt, you
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had to see it.
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They were like taking the luggage off so
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gently.
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They were like patting it down, rubbing it
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like really nice and putting it right down,
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smiling.
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When they didn't think they were being watched,
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they took the luggage, they just chucked it.
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That blew my mind.
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So when people knew they were being watched,
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they act with a different attitude.
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They act like different people.
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When they knew they weren't being watched, they
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act like jerks.
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But why is it that people do this?
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Lazy.
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Yeah, lazy.
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Why should I put the effort in if
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no one's going to watch me?
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No.
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Put the effort on even if somebody isn't
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watching you, especially if somebody's not watching you.
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Because it's those times that shape our character.
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And you never know when one of those
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times might just come across somebody and say,
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you know what?
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I want to work with this person.
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I want to be friends with this person.
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All because of that perception they got.
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Number 25, one grounded person can shift a
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family dynamic, even a relationship dynamic.
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When somebody's grounded, it changes.
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There was a great movie that I watched
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a while back from this religious group.
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I think it was the Kittrick Brothers.
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And I think it was called Fireproof, without
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getting into the whole movie.
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But Cale was the husband and the lady,
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and they were getting ready to do a
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divorce.
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And he went to his church, and he
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finally went to his father, and he gave
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him a book of things to try.
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And it wasn't a magic book, but he
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kept doing the things in the book.
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And after a good month or so, his
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wife saw that that was really the person
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that she married.
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She changed.
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She went back.
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I think that was a very important thing.
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Number 26, clarity changes habits, schedules, and boundaries
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when we're clear.
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Number 27, sound and routine can clear mental
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fog.
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I love listening to music, okay?
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It kind of gives me an extra pop
27:24
to go do something.
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Number 28, choosing healing breaks the generational cycle.
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Number 29, chaos stops feeling normal once awareness
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arrives.
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Chaos stops feeling normal once awareness arrives.
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Last one, 30, you don't need a miracle.
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You need honesty with yourself.
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Start doing it now.
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Darkness isn't here to defeat you guys.
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It's here to teach you.
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And once you see clarity and being clear,
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you don't go back to pretending you're lost.
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