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Why do narcissists NEVER ADMIT to cheating on you? · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  What is going on, beautiful people?
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  Today we're going to be talking about why narcissists rarely
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  ever admit the cheating. Why they never admit the
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  cheating. Even when you have evidence,
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  even when you have proof. Why do they fight it?
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  If you're new here, my name is Lee Hammock.
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  I'm a self aware narcissist and welcome to another episode of
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  the Narcissist Code. Boom.
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  Welcome back folks, welcome back, welcome back.
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  Yes yes yes. Why on earth do narcissist and
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  toxic people? Why do they just refuse to admit
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  the cheating when you have proof, when you have evidence,
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  when you have screenshots, even when you corner your
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  narcissistic partner or ex or whatever in a room, you have the
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  affair partner in the room with you.
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  You have them surprise them, whatever, right?
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  And they still don't admit to it.
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  They'd have made tape videos they own, they own, they own OF
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  you notice the OFOF sighted have made OF videos their face look,
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  face tattoos all in it, the necklace you got them and
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  they're just like, that ain't me.
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  Why do they do that? Why?
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  Why do they refuse to just give you Peace of Mind and tell you
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  the truth about this cheating situation and whatnot?
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  Why, why, why is it so hard for them to do that, right?
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  Well, easiest thing, the first thing that pops into my mind is
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  that it gives you you you you power and control over them,
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  right? It gives you power to leave
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  them. I mean you can leave them
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  anyway. Like you don't need the proof or
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  whatever I tell people. This is why I always tell people
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  like you don't need proof. You don't need, you don't need
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  proof. You don't need a confession.
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  You don't need a confession, you need proof.
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  You don't need a confession from a narcissist in order to move on
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  for them, from a toxic person in order to move on for them.
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  You don't need that. You want that confession, but
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  you don't need the confession. Like I tell people all the time,
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  the police will convict your ass without a confession if they
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  have enough evidence. I'll be at circumstantial
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  evidence. They still will convict your ass
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  in the front of a jury of your peers.
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  They will with the jury of your peers, by a jury by with the
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  jury will convict you. The police will press charges
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  and prosecute your ass even without a confession.
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  So why do you? You ain't, You don't need a
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  confession from them. Because when like in the mind of
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  a narcissist, as long as I have this, as long as I don't admit
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  to it, I'm in control. And I refuse to give you that
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  satisfaction of releasing you or letting you go or letting you
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  free by telling you the truth of what has happened, by telling
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  you the truth of what has, you know, what has transpired and
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  things like that. By giving you, you know, by just
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  unleashing and just telling you, oh, this is what happened, you
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  know, and this, this, this is what went down right here.
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  This is what happened. This is what went down.
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  Like most narcissists are not going to give you that.
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  Y'all, most of them don't want to give you that because it
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  gives you the power again, it transitions and it shifts all
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  the power to you. And if I could have this
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  deniability, I feel like I can go about my day, I can go about
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  my life, I can keep my life together as long as I don't
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  admit to it. And also, I'm afraid that if I
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  admit to it, I'm always, look, this is my mind, This is just me
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  personally, but I feel like a lot of narcissists can think the
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  same way. Like you could expose me if I
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  admit to it on camera or on a recording.
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  You can expose me, can't you? Like, you can put me out there
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  in the public eye and embarrass the hell out of me, can't you?
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  You absolutely can. You can do that.
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  You can make, like I said, you can make me look silly as hell.
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  You can bring a lot of shame into my life by, just like I
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  said, by being able to get get a confession for me on tape, on
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  camera and whatnot. So I'm not going to admit that
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  to you. Like most of them not.
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  But yeah, most of them are going to keep it close to the cuff,
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  like instead of admitting that they cheated on you and possibly
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  just rectifying a remedy of having a relationship still be
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  somehow, you know, the relationship might be damaged,
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  but it'll still be intact in some way, shape or form, right?
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  Like y'all might can work it out.
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  Instead of doing that, that narcissistic person in front of
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  you might just start yelling and screaming at you, right?
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  They might start yelling and screaming.
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  They might start getting rageful and losing they damn mind with
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  you. They might start doing things
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  like that literally. Like literally it's, it's crazy
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  how their mind works. They might start raging out on
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  you for catching them cheating or going through their phone or
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  even reaching out to this crazy person.
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  Who is this person right here that my my doppelganger made OF
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  videos with? Who is this you know?
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  Who is this person? Who is this he then that you
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  brought into my house? Who are they?
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  I don't know why you don't trust me.
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  You know who you going to believe me or your lying eyes?
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  Because this is the way narcissists work right here.
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  This is the way a lot of narcissists work.
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  I want to try to convince you that I know more than you do.
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  If I can somehow get you to doubt your reality, if I can
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  somehow get you to doubt the truth, if I can somehow dissuade
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  you from holding me accountable and maybe just cast a little bit
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  of doubt, I win. It's a it's it can be very game
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  like to a lot of narcissists. It's just like, I know that I
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  can win in these circumstances, In this situation right here, I
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  feel like I can take this to the top.
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  Like if I never admit to it, it's like it never happened.
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  And hopefully we can go about our lives because the Yeah.
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  And just being real. And this is just me being real.
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  It's not be trying to pick on anybody.
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  I've talked to a lot of people that have gotten cheated on have
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  proof the that the narcissist cheated on them.
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  The narcissist never confessed and they would never left.
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  Like they never broke up. It was it was as simple as that.
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  Like they never admitted anything.
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  They had proof. Had the had the other person
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  there, they still didn't confess.
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  And the relationship is still going on.
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  Now some people still don't leave even if they have proof.
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  So the narcissist in my mind, if I can hold, if I, I'll take this
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  to my grave. If I can hold this in and my
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  life not changed, like, yeah, you might be mad at me for a
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  little while, but eventually you get over.
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  If I promise to not talk to this person again, I promise I'll
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  leave them alone. I promise to leave them alone.
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  That's what will happen right there.
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  That's the type of stuff that will happen behind the scenes.
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  And just like, because this is what happened, it's like this is
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  what I've heard before happened. Actually, you confront, you
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  confront the narcissist with evidence with the other person.
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  The other person is on board with you to help you confront
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  the narcissistic person. Guess what happens?
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  The narcissist never missed anything.
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  They threatened to leave you and they end up with the other
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  person, the other person. So that what the narcissist will
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  do is try to just convince you they're lying to you because
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  they want to be with me. They want me to leave you alone.
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  They want you to leave me alone so they can have me all to
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  themselves. And I told them I would never
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  leave you. I care about you more.
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  And guess what happens? People still stay.
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  Again, this is not me trying to pick on anybody.
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  This is just me trying to lay it out that this is the type of
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  stuff that does happen. Like they will absolutely do
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  this type of stuff to you. It's just the mentality.
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  It's just the mindset they in. Like they will convince you that
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  the other person is just here trying to ruin y'all's
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  relationship, right? And one of y'all, you know, and
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  this is the this is the the doubt that they try to cast
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  right here. They'll try to cast the doubt
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  and say, hey, look, one of y'all going one of y'all.
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  It's kind of like playing, you know, those bachelor games,
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  Bachelorette games, whatever those TV, the reality TV shows,
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  one of you guys instead of instead of instead of roses,
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  right, instead of instead of a rose, they give it our instead
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  of roses to make to the next round, they give it our red
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  flags. It's like one of you, you'll be
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  getting the red flag. Ding, Ding, Ding, Ding.
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  You. You went through my phone.
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  I didn't like that you showed up at my house.
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  I don't like that either. I don't know who to pick.
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  There's only two red flags left and there's two of you.
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  So both of you get red flags. You're both going to be my
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  affair partners. I'm going.
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  I have another new supply. It's like the red flag, the oh,
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  the red flag bachelor. Oh, that's a good skit.
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  Oh, I got to write that down. The red flag bachelor.
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  Oh, that would be a good one. That would be a good skit right
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  there. The red flag bachelor.
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  But this is the type of behaviors that happen, y'all.
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  This is the type of mindset that happens.
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  I want y'all to win like, and This is why I do all these
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  videos because I want be be wanting y'all to win.
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  I'll be wanting y'all to understand what you're going
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  through because the more you understand, the more you win.
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  Understand this, that most narcissists are not going to
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  ever admit to cheating on you. Are there are.
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  Are there some that will admit to it?
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  Yes, there's. There's some that will admit to
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  it. When a bag is against the wall,
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  when they're going to be homeless, they don't have
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  anywhere else to go. Yes, there are some that will
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  admit to it, but they are always trying to somehow play the
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  victim. They were coerced into it.
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  This happened, that happened. They were.
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  Very rarely would they take full accountability for what actually
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  happened, what they act, what role did they actually play.
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  They will still try to blame the other person.
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  They will still try to put it on the other person.
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  This is the type of stuff that they will do.
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  They will still do this stuff because it works.
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  I'm just telling y'all this when I say it works.
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  This is not me trying to pick on y'all.
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  This is me just saying that open your eyes and understand that
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  this type of manipulate, manipulation, these type of
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  manipulative behaviors do work on people.
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  And you might not be exempt. You might think right now that
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  you're exempt from it, but when you get in that moment and you
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  don't know what the hell to believe, even when you have
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  proof, but that narcissistic partners denying this
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  emphatically saying that this is AI, this is made-up, all this
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  stuff is fake. That person just wants to be
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  with me. And when all this type of stuff
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  starts happening and they start going into that diatribe and
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  they just start changing their minds and things of that nature,
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  you going to feel a certain type of way.
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  You going to feel like, well, maybe they, they are telling the
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  truth. Maybe they can't do what the
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  hell. My, my, my voice like country
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  Twain did them. Maybe, well, maybe, maybe, maybe
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  well, maybe they are telling the truth.
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  Maybe, but it's crazy. But they will get into your
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  head. Don't judge your book by its
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  cover. Just understand that you don't
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  need a confession. I know you want one, but again,
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  just think, just think. Well, legal is right.
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  The cops, the cops put people away all the time without a
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  confession. So maybe I don't need one
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  because the narcissistic person is not going to admit the
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  cheating on you unless there's some type of benefit in it for
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  them because they think you're going to leave.
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  But if I if I admit the cheating, then you're going to
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  leave me, right? If I admit to this, then you're
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  going to leave me. You're going to break over me.
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  So they're not going to admit to it because they think their life
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  is going to be blown up and they don't want to give you the
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  satisfaction and power over them either.
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  Yeah, Anyway, I do have to hop off and do a one-on-one.
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