211 - Your Future Is Not In Someone Else's Hands

Stop Sabotaging Your Success · Mar 26, 2026 · 23m

Cindy Esliger challenges the habit of treating a career like a group decision in this episode, emphasizing that outsourcing choices to managers, mentors, and colleagues is a subtle but powerful form of self-sabotage. She describes how high performers often fall into the trap of seeking permission, especially in environments where their instincts are questioned and their contributions go unrecognized. Over time, this creates self-doubt and disconnects them from their own goals. Cindy introduces the idea of the curse of competence, where being reliable and indispensable leads to invisibility…