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Ep 58. Manifesting Soulmate Energy: Real Advice for Attracting Love · The Manifestation Station

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Music.
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You're listening to the Manifestation Station podcast.
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I'm your host Holly Edwards and together we can help create your magic.
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Hello you gorgeous manifestors and welcome back to another episode of the Manifestation Station.
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happy february everyone we made it,
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well done we dragged ourselves through
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january we made it into february we are almost in the year of the horse if you
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have not listened to my last week's episode where it was something like the
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end of the year of the snake and welcome in the year of the horse i can't actually
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remember what the episode was called. I think it's number 57.
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If you haven't listened to that, take a listen because, oh my goodness, you are not behind.
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If you are feeling a little bit slack so far in 2026, that's the episode for
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you because just a reminder, we are coming into the year of the horse.
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We are stepping into it on February the 17th. So there is still some time to
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shed from year of the snake, whatever it is we're leaving behind and step into
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our beautiful selves, our beautiful future yourself shoes and our new energy,
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our new powerful, free, abundant energy from February the 17th.
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So with Valentine's Day just around the corner, yes, oh yes,
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it is Valentine's Day coming out.
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Now, if any of you are single or in relationships where you're not very happy
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at the moment, you might be going, oh, this impending doom of Valentine's Day.
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I totally, totally get it. I I have to say.
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Personally, I love Valentine's Day.
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Now, before you switch me off, yes, I'm in a very happy relationship.
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I manifested love. I manifested my soulmate.
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But please do not leave me. Do not switch me off because I will tell you about
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my love story, my manifesting love journey.
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But also, I was single for years and years and years and in a couple of relationships
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as well that I just was not thriving in. They were making me unhappy.
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I've been through it all. And throughout my 30s, for a lot of my 30s, I was single.
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And I hear you. I feel you. If you are dreading Valentine's Day,
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please stay with me because I'm going to give you some hope today.
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There's no better time to talk about love.
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And honestly, for me, actually, a lot of my one-to-one clients,
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One of the biggest things that I get asked on social media or with a lot of
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my clients is people wanting to manifest love.
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It's amazing, isn't it? Yes, of course, we want money and we want the most amazing job ever.
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But actually, most of us are just wanting to manifest love. And it's one of
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the biggest things in our life.
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And I think it's also one of the things that people feel most emotional and
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vulnerable and sometimes actually heartbroken about.
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I think it is the thing that takes precedent in a lot of focus on our lives, isn't it?
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Love. And if we don't feel fulfilled in love, then we feel rubbish about it.
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If we're lonely, you know, it just, it kind of becomes the dominant thought, doesn't it?
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And like I said, I feel you, honestly. For me, I've been manifesting for 20
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years and I've manifested a dream career in TV and film and various things along the way.
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But the biggest thing for many, many years that I was trying to manifest and
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one of the biggest things I really wanted to sort was to attract love into my
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life, to attract not just love, but my soulmate.
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So when I talk about this, I'm not talking from, you know,
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like a life coachee, like I'm going to stand on
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my pedestal and tell you all what you should do I'm genuinely
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talking from someone I have cried about it I have been heartbroken I've overthought
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the text messages I've been obsessed with it I've lost hope then I've gained
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hope I've been through all of those emotions and honestly like eventually with
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things and steps and you know.
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So manifesting hacks that I took on and I adopted and ultimately smothering
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myself in self-love, I eventually learned how to shift it.
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And also, if you're listening and thinking this isn't for me because I've already
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found love, so you're going to skip me on, we're also going to talk about how,
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manifesting can improve relationships, existing relationships already.
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So there is something for all of us today.
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Now also my most downloaded episode ever was way back when and it was a manifesting love episode.
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It's had thousands of downloads so I was kind of figuring right we're approaching
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Valentine's Day and my most downloaded episode ever was about manifesting love.
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My most frequently asked questions are about manifesting your soulmate.
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So you may be thinking ah, I get it.
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This is something that seriously resonates with so many of us.
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And this is why it was the perfect decision today, I think, to introduce another
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episode to manifest love, to manifest wholesome, fulfilling love.
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Now, we're going to talk about it really realistic today. It's not like really
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fluffy and I don't want you to feel like you have to go off and do all of these
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things and change your life.
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This is realistic chat here, guys.
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Think of me as like your manifesting bestie. I'm giving it to you real.
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It's not just a, oh, think positive and your soulmate will arrive on a white
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horse or me telling you there's plenty of fish in the sea. Don't worry.
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I honestly, please remember, I totally get it.
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And whatever headspace you're in right now, if you're happy and thriving and
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in the most amazing relationship ever, then good for you.
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We wish you love and light. If you are lonely and you are yet to meet your soulmate, do not panic.
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Do not fear. Firstly, you are not alone.
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There are thousands, millions of people in the world who are feeling exactly
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what you're feeling. If you've broken up with someone, oh my God,
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is that not just the rawest pain ever to be felt?
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So we feel you. We're all here. We're a lovely community here. I've got your back.
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That heartbreak is real, isn't it? Or if you are just searching and you feel
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like you're losing a bit of hope and maybe you're worried that maybe you're
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too old to find love and what if you never settle down?
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Wherever you're at, I just want to gently remind you that your life does not
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begin when someone enters it.
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Honestly, I promise you I'm going to give you tips and
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tricks today to manifest love but also it's
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about finding your confidence and settling
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into your flow and trusting in the universe that
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you're exactly where you're meant to be to trust
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your own timeline and to trust that
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whoever is meant to enter your
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timeline will enter at the exact right
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moment and honestly I cannot I cannot
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bang on about this enough and I will tell you about my
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own journey but I was in a long-term relationship
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when I was in my 20s and had a.
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Very very lovely relationship with a really lovely guy
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but I just felt like we weren't aligned
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and I needed more and I took the
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bold step to enter 30
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I must have had a midlife crisis at 30 I ended
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that relationship and I was single for
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many years in my 30s and I dated
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and I had relationships or situationships but
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I got to a point mid-30s and I thought I don't
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know if it's going to happen to me when is it going
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to happen I was I went through heartbreak again about 35
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and I thought I can't do this again how how can I start over again at 35 and
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I was in a really bad place actually I was in a really bad place I was working
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really hard to pay my bills and to just scrape through month by month.
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Even though I was earning an amazing wage.
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As any of you know, if you're single and you're paying the bills yourself or
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a mortgage or rent yourself.
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It's a lot, isn't it? It's a lot. And I was just, I just felt lonely.
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I felt like I'd been knocked back again.
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And I think that relationship as well, he wasn't a terrible guy,
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but it really made me, I was, I didn't feel valued.
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I didn't feel appreciated or loved all the time or much of the time.
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So again, I took the bold decision to leave that relationship.
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Now I could have stayed there and just kind of floated
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along and just thinking well in my mid-30s at
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least I'll be with someone I won't be single and I'm really pleased
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looking back that I got to breaking point and
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I didn't think it at the time I didn't have any gratitude for that
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at the time but I did look back I do look back
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now and I think thank goodness that I kind
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of I don't know put my big girl pants on
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and force myself out of that relationship back into
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single life again because it was honestly the best thing I could have ever done
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and I had to go through that pain of heartache I had to go back through the
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pain of hopelessness of starting again and slowly but surely I concentrated on me.
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I started enjoying my life
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taking care of my flat and making that homely
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thinking that because I think I had it in my head that I
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would probably be moving out with my partner and once I came
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to the realization that actually that wasn't happening
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I ended up just making that flat that I was in my home I made it my absolute
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safe place my haven the place that I longed for when I came home from work and
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that I loved and it took me some time to groove that relationship and that single time again.
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And I found my feet and I began dating again and some of them were good and
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some of them were terrible and some of them were hilarious and some of them
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turned into something and some of them didn't.
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But what I always try to do when I went on a date, because I've got a friend
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who goes out on dates and she goes, oh, I've got this date. I've got this date on front.
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I don't want to go. Never materializes.
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I'm not good at dating. There's no one good on dating sites.
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And I kind of just want to stop her and go wait a
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minute we need to reframe reframe
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this dating process because it had
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become and I get it because of maybe regular kind
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of disappointments or just never feeling like you're meeting anyone of course
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you're kind of getting used to this habit of I don't meet anyone or these dates
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are wasting my time now I definitely had some moments when I I thought,
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oh my God, that was a tragic date.
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But what I generally tried to do to reframe is that when I went on these dates,
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I did what I could to not dread them or to not kind of go with my full energy and giving my best self.
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And what I did instead was I thought, do you know what? Every date that I go on,
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at the very least, is an opportunity to hang out with a new person,
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get to know someone get to know someone's life
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story and just you know pass
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through this life having had maybe lovely conversations and
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then walk away and if nothing more came from it I was kind of content with that
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and it doesn't mean I didn't have dips I want you to know that I came home sometimes
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like oh god you know if I wasn't feeling it but most of the time I would say
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80 to 90 percent of the time I was reframing and saying you know what.
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I met an interesting person. They worked here and we've got some mutual contact.
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Not for me, but great night out. I experienced a new bar. I tried to make dates
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a little bit more exciting.
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I would try and kind of say, right, let's go here. Or I would try and influence
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them to say, I like this kind of thing. I like the theatre.
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I like going to bars. I like to go into festivals.
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And I try and be a bit out there, like, let's go a little bit crazy rather than
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just having a coffee date.
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Now, I know some people love a coffee date. That's absolutely fine. Whatever works for you.
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But this just helped with my reframing that I would try and look at it as a
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kind of a day out or a night out.
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And it had to be, it didn't have to be any more than that. So that was the first thing I did.
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And secondly, I really focused on myself.
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Now I'd been single for a while once I'd
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broken up with that relationship and I spent some time single and
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a bit down in the dumps and I've mentioned this story before but
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I thought you know what I need I felt really stagnant I felt really stuck and
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I was finding it really hard to shift that very heavy negative energy that seemed
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to be weighing me down you know when you're just deep in the trenches of heartbreak and feeling lost.
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You just feel absolutely weighed down by this gray cloud.
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And I was chatting to my sister and she said, maybe you need to kind of set yourself a challenge.
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And I said, maybe I want to do like a walk or a 5k or something like that.
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Let me tell you this, within an hour of getting off the phone to my sister,
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within an hour, I had inquired about the London Marathon.
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I had inquired and a charity that I'd inquired to rang me back and they said,
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so why do you want to do the marathon?
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And I was like, oh, I've just, you know, don't really know. I didn't tell her
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that. I just went, oh, I don't know. I'm kind of interested.
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Within an hour, I had booked a spot in the London marathon. Now,
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When I tell you I wasn't a runner, when I put that phone down,
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I actually thought, well, that's it. I have had a mental breakdown.
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That is what has happened to me.
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But you know what? All of a sudden, I had to switch my energy.
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I had to switch my energy from this kind of heartbreak, moping central to I've
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got something I need to do here.
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I've got something I need to focus on. I have got something that I
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need to work on and achieve now what
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happened the next few months blew my mind because
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now firstly that ex that I had ended it with we were he would check in with
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odd messages I feel like it was breadcrumbing you could say a bit of breadcrumbing
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but I couldn't quite shake it or shake him off now when I decided to do the
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marathon I thought no more.
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No more. Do you know what? You didn't treat me that well when we were together.
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No more. Why would I be letting you have any kind of part in my life or my mental health or my energy?
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So out of nowhere, I just stopped replying. I didn't block because that wasn't
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very me. I just stopped replying.
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And I was focused on running a marathon. I began
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training I watched marathon videos every
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weekend I was doing a long run to complete and you know what happened I built
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my body my body became strong my confidence became strong and the most important
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thing was that my focus shifted it shifted into a new perspective and
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onto something positive and exciting.
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And do you know what? It was just for me, me and the road, me and those long
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runs that I was doing, nothing else mattered.
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And what was amazing on the sideline of that, because we're going to talk about
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exes and how if you keep letting exes back into your life, the side effect of
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that is that my ex then wouldn't leave me alone.
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He constantly would send me letters or emails.
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And do you know what? I became uninterested because that was so insignificant to me then.
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Now, this isn't the story of my love life. I just wanted to kind of give you a little bit of.
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Groundwork on what happened to me and how
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that I've been there and how it ended up but what
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I also did do which I kind of love when
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I think back to this story is that when I was
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running I visualized the kind of person that I wanted to spend my life with
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the kind of person I wanted my soulmate to be and I kind of started dating again
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and I was visualizing this guy that I quite liked and I thought he'll be at
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the finish line and I'll be there and it'll be like a movie and I'll run into
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his arms and it'll be amazing.
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Now, that kind of just filtered and flitted away to nothing.
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Now, when it came to race day, I ran this marathon and it changed my life.
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Now, there was no one, there was no soulmate waiting for me at the finishing
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line. There was my family.
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There was so much love. It wasn't a soulmate.
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And I realized as I crossed that finish line alone with no soulmate waiting
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at the end, I realized this was never about love.
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It was never about visualizing that person at the finishing line.
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This journey was about me finding myself again and starting to love myself again.
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Now, I'm not suggesting you have to go and run a marathon, although let me tell
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you this, it will change your life if you do.
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But by shifting your focus onto something that you can do for you will really
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help, particularly if you're in a breakup, but also if you're just feeling lonely,
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like what can you do for you?
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Now, I did manifest my soulmate in the end, and I'll talk about that again in a little bit.
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But for right now, one thing that I do want you to know,
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Now, if you are single, if you are heartbroken, if you are lonely,
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actually, if you're in a relationship as well, but unfulfilled,
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what I do want to say is that love can change tomorrow.
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Your whole life could change tomorrow. You could meet the love of your life tomorrow.
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You can improve your relationship with your partner tomorrow.
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And this is one of my absolute favorite things to remind people of when they
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feel absolutely hopeless about love.
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Your entire love story could change tomorrow.
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So when you're saying, oh my God, it's never going to happen for me,
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you could go to Tesco's tomorrow.
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You could be in the queue. You could meet someone in a cafe or someone new comes into your workplace.
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You could meet the love of your life tomorrow.
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You must walk around with that hope in your heart you must walk around with the expectation.
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That you can meet the love of your life tomorrow because if you are constantly saying,
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love doesn't work for me there's nobody good out there I never meet anybody
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I have a friend and I tell this to regularly I'm like your life could change
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tomorrow your love life could change tomorrow and they go no but I never meet
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anybody out it's like they've already put a block on now I know that's disappointment talking.
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I know it's habit of being let down. I totally get it. But,
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no one but you can shift that energy. And if you shift that energy and have
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an expectation and a hope that actually my life could change tomorrow,
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I could meet my soulmate tomorrow, your energy will shift.
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And I guarantee you, you will be giving off this different energy within your
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invisible energy field.
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I always talk about this invisible energy field of whatever it is that you're
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putting out, you know, people, events and experiences get sucked back to you that match that energy.
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So if you're putting out, I never meet anybody, nothing good happens to me,
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there's nobody out there.
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Even if you think that you could meet someone, realistically,
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you're putting this energy out that you could be missing the love of your life
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when you walk past them at the bus stop.
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You could be missing out on having a conversation with someone on the tube,
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the really hot guy on the train that you would love to chat you up.
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You could miss out on all of those kind of.
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Circumstances just because your energy is
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tuned off to love now I
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do realize that it's easier said than done again please
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remember that I've been there but just think
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like you maybe like a friend might introduce you to someone maybe actually that's
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a really good way to meet people isn't it if there's any people listening to
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this please reach out to your friends and say hey I'm single do you know any
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good people you can set me up with now I have got another client who is single.
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And they have a really massive friendship group
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and I always say to her do you talk
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to your friends about she's slightly she's she's slightly older and she's I
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said do you talk to your friends about meeting someone or wanting to meet someone
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she says oh no no I'm too embarrassed to talk about it I don't I open up about
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that and I'm like but you are again putting this block on love,
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just show that vulnerability who knows you
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might say to your friend have you got any hot guys that
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you can set me up with and she's thinking I never
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knew you wanted me to set you up with someone absolutely let me
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set you up so don't put a block on love just because you've been hurt in the
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past or you're feeling disappointed or that you are protecting yourself and
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we do that a lot we protect ourselves by going I'm probably not going to meet
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anyone anyway and it's a form of protection so as not to get our hopes up.
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I get it, but it's time we shifted that energy.
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Now, life changes all the time.
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A lot of people just think it's not happening for me or that there's no one good on dating sites.
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And I think the introduction of online dating, I think for some people,
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some women in particular, I think it has dampened the experience of dating for some people.
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I definitely feel like I reframed it and I have to say I got to a point where
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I was really enjoying dating but I know for a lot of people that it's become a swipe culture and just,
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you know, are there any good people online dating? Can I just say to you,
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all of the single people that I know in my life, really handsome guys,
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really successful, beautiful women, they are amazing and they are all on the dating site.
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So I always say, yes, you might have to shift through some people that are no
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good or that are catfishers, but I guarantee you, I promise you,
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remember, hear my voice when I say this, I promise you there are good people on there as well.
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Now the truth is that love is one
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of the most unpredictable manifestations there is
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and this is why we have to hold that hope in our heart you
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don't need 10 years you don't need to be perfect you don't need to have everything
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figured out you just sometimes need to stay open to stay hopeful and stay energetically
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available because the worst thing that we can do is close ourselves off completely
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emotionally because we think nothing is coming.
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Hope is magnetic.
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Openness is magnetic. Believing that it could happen any day keeps your energy alive.
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And actually, is that not a better energy to walk around with rather than it's
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never going to happen for me?
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Is that not more exciting to walk around with a bit of a spring in your step and say,
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it could happen any day that's already
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a huge energy shift now the
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other thing I say to my one-to-one clients all the
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time it's something I bang on about is that love is not something we chase it's
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something that we become now I know it sounds a bit deep but actually it's very
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incredibly practical if you want to become no if you want to I always say to
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my clients if you want to attract to your dreams.
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Your dream soulmate. I always say, make a list of all of the things,
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the traits that are absolute non-negotiables that you want in a soulmate.
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That could be that they are fiercely loyal, passionate, thoughtful,
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whatever it is that you want to attract.
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But what happens a lot of the time is that.
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You're not radiating those traits yourself.
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So in order to attract the love that you want, you have to become that love and those traits.
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You have to become that dream person with those traits that you are looking to attract in.
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So for example, if you want to attract an adventurous partner.
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Start becoming adventurous yourself.
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Go out there, seek adventure, create your own fun and excitement.
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If you want to attract someone affectionate, start expressing affection to people already in your life.
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Now, I've got another client who is desperately looking for love.
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She is such a lovely human.
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She wants to attract love into her life.
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She's been very, she would say she's been very unlucky in love.
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I wouldn't. I would just say she had a disappointment with
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someone and she's let it go on and on and on and on now we've
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all been there haven't we I totally get it she wants
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to attract someone really affectionate into her life but
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she wholeheartedly outright says kind
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of I don't give affection anymore until someone gives
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it to me I'm not showing affection I'm not chasing it I
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always say to her it's like you're you're creating this
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block of ice around you that someone has to melt but actually they're not seeing
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that warm exterior that affection she's like no I'm not giving affection I don't
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I don't get it back I'm not putting it out I'm like just become affectionate
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in your day-to-day life expressing affection to people that are already in your life.
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There are other people that you love in your life. Show them affection and the
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love that you want to attract into your life.
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If you want someone emotionally open, now I hear this from women particularly
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a lot, that a lot of guys that they're meeting, they're not like emotionally
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available or emotionally mature.
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Start practicing emotional honesty yourself. Open
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up to those close to you rather than just
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telling the story and feeding the narrative
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that you feel like you have kind
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of created for yourself be very honest
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emotionally honest about yourself it's like that client that I said doesn't
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tell her friends openly you don't have to go and blurt it out to everybody but
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when she's like no I don't tell anyone about dating she doesn't tell anyone
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when she goes on a date because she gets embarrassed that it's going to not
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materialize and then she has to explain herself,
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yet she wants to attract someone emotionally open.
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So I always say stop practicing that emotional honesty yourself.
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Manifestation works through energetic matching, remember. So we don't attract
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what we wish for, we attract what we are aligned with.
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If you are affectionate, you are loyal, you are honest, you are thoughtful,
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you're adventurous, then you are likely going to match a partner,
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attract a partner that matches that energy.
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And do you know what? That's actually really exciting because you are going
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to grow yourself as a human and as a potential lover.
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But also it means that that hope can ignite that you are going to attract the
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most perfect partner for you.
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And actually that means that you have an influence over the love life that you
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are going to attract right now.
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So it's kind of time that you take notice and go, ah, actually,
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I have a way of weaving this and influencing my own love life.
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Now, my next big headline is one of the biggest one.
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I want you to please make sure you're doing this. It's to stop putting your life on hold.
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I see this all the time. I felt like I've been there.
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People are waiting to start their life until love arrives.
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I'll travel or I'll go to Bali or Thailand when I meet someone.
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I will go to that nice restaurant when I meet someone. I'll try new experiences
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when I've met my partner.
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And honestly, that delays your manifestation because manifestation responds
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to embodiment and what you're doing and what you are doing.
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Aligning yourself with now if you want romance create
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romance in your life now do not wait for someone
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in the words of Miley Cyrus do not
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wait for someone to buy yourself flowers you can go and
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buy yourself flowers it is that simple if you want excitement go and seek excitement
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go on solo dates buy the nice underwear not for someone else but just for you
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so wear things now that make you feel confident and sexy.
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Take yourself for solo dates. Now, I love, love, love, love a solo date.
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I'll go to the cinema. I'll go for dinner. I'll go for lunch.
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Take yourself on a solo coffee date. If that's too much for you,
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just a simple coffee date.
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Book a trip. There is another client of mine who says, I want to go to Italy.
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I want to go to Scotland. I want to go to all of these places, but I can't do it alone.
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She's got a block. She's like, I cannot do it alone I'm not going
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until I meet someone but you are putting your
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life on hold you can book the trip
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you can dress up for no reason you can romanticize
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your own life you can light candles and make your home romantic honestly you're
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not having to pretend that someone is there but actually you're showing the
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universe and more importantly you are showing yourself that you are someone
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who lives in love and enjoyment.
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You are showing yourself that self-care and that self-love and you're showing
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the universe that you're serious. I love myself.
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Now bring me someone who loves me as much as I love myself.
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It's not in a big headed way at all, but we need to all learn to love ourselves.
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Now, one thing that you can do, and it's a practice
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that I did when I was single and
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looking to meet my soulmate and I wrote
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this list of traits that I really really wanted my soulmate to embody but I
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also wrote and thought about the way that I wanted to feel so I wrote things
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like yeah I wrote things like thoughtful protective looks after me.
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Charismatic and then I also wrote things of how I wanted to feel so I said I wanted to feel chosen,
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wanted to feel like he chooses me. I want to feel really fulfilled and I want to feel safe.
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Write the things down. So write a list of traits on the left-hand side of a page.
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Write down all of the traits that you are looking for in your relationship.
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Now, if you are with someone already and you're in a relationship,
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write down the traits that you want to see in your partner.
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And then on the right when you're seeking someone write down a few things of
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how you want to feel in that relationship now I did this about a year before
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I met my soulmate and it was the first first time that I really really sat and
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thought quite clearly about what I wanted.
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Now the reason I did that at that time was because because I'd had a few failed
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relationships by them and had a lot of time single and dating experiences,
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I really felt, you know, at the time I just felt a bit behind and I had to really
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go, it's fine, it's my timeline.
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When I look back now, I don't think I would have been able to write that list
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with such clarity in the way that I did if I hadn't received disappointments
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in previous relationships or dates.
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So there were those relationships that I told you about.
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They really taught me a lot about myself and what I wanted and what I didn't want.
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Now, it's important on your list of traits that you're looking for,
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don't write down what you don't want.
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You have to remember that what you put out into the universe is what you attract back in.
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So if you say, and a lot of people actually, sidebar here, a lot of people write
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this on their dating profiles and they'll put,
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I don't want a time waste. I don't want a cheat. I don't want a workaholic.
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And actually remember that what we are focusing on is what comes back.
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So if we're going to work and we go, I don't want to be late.
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I don't want to be late. I don't want to be late. Chances are you're going to be late.
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So do not focus on what it is that you don't want, but instead reframe that
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and turn it into what you do.
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So for example, my previous partner that I broke up with in my early thirties,
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he never had time for me so he was
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a busy man and he had lots of businesses and lots of
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various things going on that was fine but at the
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time I always got cancelled on I didn't feel like I was a priority and so when
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I came to writing that list of what I wanted to attract in my dream partner
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I wrote down you know someone that works hard but has time for me who makes
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time for me who makes me a priority.
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So make sure they're personal to you. I know a lot of people who write down
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a list of traits, but actually they're quite generic in just to what they think
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might be good to write down.
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But actually, I want you to dig deep and really think about what it is and how
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someone will slot into your life and what it is that you really, really value.
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And try not to make them too superficial because you don't know who your dream soulmate is.
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You might go, oh, I want them to do this is a job or, but there could be someone
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out there with the most amazing job that you've never even heard of before.
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So you kind of just have to be a little bit flexible, but just write down what
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your absolute deal breaker is.
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And pop that list away somewhere. Now I actually did pop that on my vision board.
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Now this is my vision board that completely came to life because there were
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such things that jumped off of this vision board including a year later meeting
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my soulmate on a dating app.
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We met on Bumble and do you know what? He possessed every
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single quality on my
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list that I had written about a year before every single
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one down to the fine honestly the
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finer details the only thing he didn't possess which was
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something that I put on my list
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at the very end was tall and it makes me howl with laughter now because he's
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not that tall and you know what I wouldn't change him for the world so that
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really makes me laugh and that was kind of my superficial thing that I had on
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there So look at that list and put it away somewhere or put it on your vision board.
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But part of the key here is to gain clarity.
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And I always say the universe, your brain cannot move forward with a blurry target.
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So until you get really clear on who you want to attract, then the universe
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is going to keep bringing you random people off of Bumble and Tinder going,
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does this guy work? Does this guy work?
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Oh, no. Okay, I'll bring you back an ex-partner.
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So get clear, write your list and write down how you want to feel in that relationship.
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The next thing you can do now, remember my favorite saying, where your attention
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goes, your energy flows.
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So what we give attention to, what we give our focus to, it grows and it magnifies.
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Now, this part is huge and honestly, it's life changing when you get it because
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so many people say that they want love,
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but they completely overlook the love that already exists around them and instead
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they hone in on disappointment, they focus on loneliness and all of the things
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that they don't have by not having a partner.
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Now, when we ignore existing love in our life,
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we reinforce the belief that we are unloved, which
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becomes the dominant emotional frequency so instead
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what I want you to do is focus on the
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love that already exists around you start noticing the friend who checks in
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on you the parent who offers you support a sibling who constantly makes you
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laugh maybe you send each other memes me and my sister they we always send each
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other these really funny memes like you know when you're out of your sister and all your,
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you know, everything bad goes away, whatever it is.
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Maybe a neighbor doing something kind for you, a pet, even a pet showing unconditional
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love, nieces or nephews that light up when they see you.
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Let me tell you guys, that is all love.
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And when you acknowledge it, you start training your brain to recognize,
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I am someone who experiences love.
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I am someone who is surrounded by love.
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Now, whenever you recognize love, it will expand and the universe can only,
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only match your frequency and bring you back more loving situations.
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Now, I know that loneliness is real, like especially around Valentine's Day. And if you feel that,
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I want you to know you're not being dramatic. You are definitely not alone.
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But from a manifestation perspective, if loneliness becomes your dominant internal
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story, it can unintentionally block what you desire.
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If your mind is constantly repeating, I'm always alone, it never works out for
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me, everyone else finds love except for me, then your brain starts collecting
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evidence to support that narrative.
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And as you know, what we put out into the universe is what comes back to us.
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So time for you to look out and seek the love that already exists in your world.
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And it's also time now to show the universe that you are serious.
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And it might be slightly tough love,
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You have to show the universe you are serious about the love that you want.
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And one of the biggest ways we accidentally
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block love is by entertaining people we know are wrong for us.
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How many people do we know? And I've been there. I've been there. I hear you.
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How many people do I know? Do we know that they have exes come back who breadcrumb?
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They maybe text you at night at one in the morning, go, hey,
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how's it going? in, what you're up to.
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Keeping these emotional attachments to situations, they drain us.
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And I can speak from experience here.
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When I said about doing my marathon, I just stopped replying to that ex.
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I don't know what it was. I thought, well, do you know what?
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Why am I replying to you? You don't offer me any value.
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You're not in my life as my partner. So you don't get to have me in your life
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as a friend, at least not right now.
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And I know that you're no good for me. It's not because he wasn't a good person.
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It just, he didn't align with what I needed. So why was I hanging on and showing
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the universe that by constantly going back, you're showing the universe that
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you don't take it seriously.
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You don't trust that you deserve better and that you will attract better.
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And when I stopped replying, I grew with power, with confidence.
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Honestly, I cannot tell you what it did to me. It was mind blowing.
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And then I just started not replying to all of the guys, you know,
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the people that I dated a little bit here and there. I just stopped replying.
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It wasn't for me. It drained my energy.
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So if you've got an ex that keeps showing up,
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you know, cut it off. Cut it off and let go.
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I know a lot of friends who feel amazing if they block, they mute,
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they silence, they remove.
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Now, it can feel a bit brutal, but you're just choosing yourself.
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And energetically, it is huge. And you're also basically saying to the universe
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and yourself, I am not available for half love anymore.
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That's not me anymore. I'm moving on to greener pastures.
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You are moving on to someone who respects you, who loves you, who makes you feel safe.
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And remember that manifestation will respond to the standard that you set for yourself.
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So the other thing that is so important, I cannot drum on about this enough, it's self-love.
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Now, you know that famous saying they used to say, oh, you must love yourself
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before someone else can love you. And I kind of used to go, yeah,
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yeah, yeah, I totally get it.
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I did not get it. Now I do. Now self-love, self-love is the biggest manifestation hat ever.
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It's not just about running yourself a bubble bath or doing your self-love affirmation.
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Self-love is not abandoning yourself to keep someone else.
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So it's not staying in a relationship just because it's easier.
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It's not tolerating mixed signals the person that is a bit flaky or they flake
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on your date it's self-love by setting boundaries it's not shrinking your personality
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in the hope to be chosen by someone.
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It's taking your boundaries and setting your standards clearly and that is the
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biggest form of self-love.
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Now, that also does lead me on to the niceties that you can do and provide yourself
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to offer yourself self-love, buy yourself flowers, run yourself a bath,
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buy yourself something pretty,
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do all you can to show yourself love.
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You are the most important person that you will ever have a relationship.
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So you must, I was just about to say, you must buy yourself things.
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That's not all I was saying. You must offer yourself self-love.
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If you are in a relationship already, manifestation still massively applies.
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And one of the most powerful tools is gratitude.
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Now we hear gratitude banded around all of the time, don't we?
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Like give gratitude, it will make you feel better.
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Let me tell you how powerful giving gratitude is in a relationship.
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You know, if you're going through a tough time in a relationship,
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if you are constantly bickering or you're fighting, what happens is that we
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can constantly focus on everything our partner isn't doing or everything they're doing wrong.
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The way that they just spoke to you, the way that they're not taking care of
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you, the way that they didn't thank you for doing the washing or for cooking their dinner.
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Whatever it is, what we can do is we end up focusing on all of the bad bits.
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And what happens is what we focus on, it magnifies and it grows.
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So try this and it will blow your mind and it will blow up your relationships
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in the most positive way ever.
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So rather than focusing on flaws just for seven days, try to look only at the
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gratitude for your partner.
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So just kind of make a mental note of all of the things that they are good at,
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all of the things that they do do, and something magnificent will happen.
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Firstly because you are focusing on gratitude more
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gratitude will appear so that
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they will do or they will say more gratitude things that
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will that will make you give gratitude and it
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will it's amazing what happens because
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more appear now whether they were there before and you
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weren't noticing them or whether you are attracting more
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because it's this is now the frequency so you're on the
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gratitude frequency it's mind-blowing either way
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so amazingly the best part about the giving gratitude to your partner so one
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you see more gratitude and two they genuinely improve and I swear it's to do
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with your invisible energy field now that you're giving out gratitude they start going oh.
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She appreciates me. Maybe you've said thank you for something that they did
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or that they said, and they go, oh, I'm going to do more things to make her feel that way.
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And I guarantee you, it will shift your energy and it will shift your perspective.
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And that goes for giving gratitude as well for your dating game.
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And that's also why we're there and talking about gratitude.
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Let's also give gratitude for things that you can do when you're single.
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You don't answer to anyone. you have freedom whatever it
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is look at and know all of
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the positives about being single for now and I
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guarantee you gratitude dissolves negativity and
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it will massively surcharge your manifestation game the biggest message that
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I want to leave you with today is that you do not need to wait for someone to
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arrive to start enjoying your life it's that simple you are allowed to feel joy now romance,
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connection, and fun now.
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And honestly, that is often when love arrives.
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When you start enjoying yourself and loving yourself and solo dating,
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that is when your dream partner will arrive.
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So this week, I want you to ask yourself, where is love already in present?
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Where is love already present in my life? It's that simple.
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Make a note of it, journal it. Where is love already present in my life.
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Note down all of the things that kind of provoke love within your life and how
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can I become the type of love that I want to receive and just take regular small
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steps to become the kind of person that you are looking to attract.
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That's all you need to do, guys. And I want to wish you a really wholesome,
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fulfilling Valentine's.
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Now, if you're still not feeling it and you're down in the dumps, that's OK, too.
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If you just have to get through it and not watch the TV and not go past the
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restaurant and see all the loved up couples, that's OK, too.
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Can I also please remind you if you're on
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social media and looking at all the loved up pictures of
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the cute families and the couples and the partner that's
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whisked his girlfriend away to the most beautiful restaurant
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he's given her red roses and a three-course meal
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and there's a sunset this is just a snapshot I guarantee you we don't wish bad
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on anybody else but there are always things going on behind the scenes so please
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just stay neutral stay kind to
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yourself and we can just get through it together. And it is that simple.
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Now, if this episode has resonated with you, if you have a single girlfriend.
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Send them this for Galentine's and say, Happy Valentine's.
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Listen to Holly Edwards and listen to the Manifestation Station.
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I will help you get through Valentine's, but
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also I will help you attract your dream partner
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and I will help you fall in love with
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yourself most importantly so please do
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share this with anyone you feel may
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need it and please I would love it if
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you could rate you and subscribe onto the podcast
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so that I can carry on delivering podcasts to you I really really honestly I'm
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sending each and every one of you so much love and just to let you know that
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you are already surrounded in love you are enough and to trust your own timeline.
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And I will see you next week. Goodbye.