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No Sex Before Marriage is a Wicked Agenda - Nollywood Actress Eucharia Anunobi · DidiLawren

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  Hello and welcome back to my channel.
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  My name is Lorenzo who differ and this is Bandit.
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  Lawrence. Yeah, how are you doing today?
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  I hope you're. Well, I hope you're enjoying the
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  weather. So, for today's episode, I want
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  to talk about Nollywood actress Eukarya.
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  I don't know. Bees latest trending video on
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  social media, where she claimed that anybody or any church that
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  is against to engage couple engaging in sexual relation is
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  wicked. Or are wicked.
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  So basically, she's saying that, as long as people are engaged to
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  be married, we should allow them to enjoy themselves, we should
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  allow them to enjoy themselves and just, you know, because
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  they're going to get married in a few weeks, a few months,
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  whatever the situation is. Now let me give you a little bit
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  of background about you carry on.
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  Do not be Eukarya. Started her career in the early
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  90s. If you remember Glamour Girls
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  eukaryote was part of Glamour Girls.
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  She acted the scene With Nollywood actor.
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  Zachary G. It was a bad scene and they were
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  nude it was it was, you know, it was up there, I'm not time at
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  that time, it was shocking and that was how she became a
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  household name. She became the bad girl of the
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  industry. Everybody was and she carries
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  herself very well. She knows how to use her
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  sexuality. So Eukarya, became a household
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  name. She was acting movies different
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  kind of movies. He's especially, you know, bad
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  girl rules and all that. So, because of the character
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  that you carry, I was playing in the movie, everybody expected
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  how to get married to somebody that is high class.
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  He will hire Mighty, or very rich man, but elee2000 Eukarya,
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  got married, she got married too.
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  Is he somebody a coup and when she granted an interview about
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  her marriage about her husband? She literally said, well, she
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  got married, To this much work to the market to buy something.
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  She saw him, she liked him. They have so much in common, and
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  that was how it progressed, so she got married to him.
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  So everybody was wondering, how could you have married somebody
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  that with all your status? You literally, married, markets
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  seller? And she said, well, she was in
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  love with him. And that was it.
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  Nobody was happy for her. She was happily married.
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  She was still acting ball. The kind of The scenes, she was
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  no longer acting. Raunchy movies, basically.
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  Then sometime. She just disappeared from the
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  movie scene and everybody was wondering where is you carry on
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  movie? Why is she not acted what is
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  happening to her? So, when she finally granted an
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  interview, she said, she had a son and the child is sickle
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  cell. So people are wondering, how
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  could you have married somebody? You Ras this person.
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  Is it is, Why did you even get involved in that you do
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  relationship? Not to talk of getting married
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  to somebody? You know, that, you know, is it
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  as on your abs as a possibility. Big chance I went to get have a
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  Sickle Cell child and she said she was in love, she knew he
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  also knew at that point in time but they just felt Miracle could
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  happen. They could have a healthy child
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  and as it turned out, it was a sickler that they had The man
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  took off left the church is it was a son level song with you,
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  Karen Roby. And she single-handedly took
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  care of this. The boy until he died at the age
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  of 13. She buried us on.
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  Everybody was rooting for her every we everybody thought it
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  was over for you carry out because of the way.
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  She was so close to our son. You know, she met her husband
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  married. I was burned thinking this is
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  for, though, you know, for For was.
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  And when did I had a sickler? He just run off and she had to
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  be the one to take care of the child until his death, at the
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  age of 13. So you carrier has been through
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  a lot. She started ministry and she's
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  supposed to dr. Eukarya and do not be.
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  So she is a minister in her own, right?
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  She knows, you know, she pushed the Bible, she goes to church
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  some. She Minister, see young people
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  so recently you can Area was on the news again for dating a
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  younger man. So you cara is 57 years old and
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  the sky. Lucky he is according to report,
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  he is 27 years old and they have been flaunting their romance on
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  social media. A lot of people got involved in
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  distress talking about these things.
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  Some people said age is just a number.
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  Some people say you care is too old to be dating.
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  A 27 years old guy And the family, there's no way the
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  family is going to allow them to get married parts.
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  Hearing from the Grapevine. Multiple sources are saying that
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  these two people are now engaged.
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  Now, remember Eukarya is opposed to dr.
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  You carry on, you know, be so she preaches to the church, he
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  talks to the youth, she's she ministers basically, and now
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  that she is allegedly engaged to 27 years old died, of course,
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  they're going to get married Bots.
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  Maybe the church is telling them that you people.
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  Keep your hands off each other. You cannot touch each other.
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  Just, you know, once you get married and you carry is not
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  buying that. So she is coming out to say
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  that. Why would a church, you know,
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  these two people are engaged to get married.
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  Why would you tell them not to have sexual intercourse?
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  Why are they here? That is wicked to stop them from
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  basically enjoying each other. When you know that you're going
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  to get married. So this video has received a
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  whole lot of mixed reaction. On online.
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  Some people say, the reason why the church is stopping people
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  from engaging in sexual intercourse before marriage is
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  because, you know, things can happen, and they decide not to
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  get married to each other. And then somebody saying, Oh, I
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  thought you slept with me. Oh, after I got pregnant for
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  you, oh, you know, so many things can happen within
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  engagement period. I mean, it's not really about
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  engagement to be honest, you can You can get somebody and then
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  you realize that, okay, that is, when you don't start seeing
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  everything that the person is, or is not and then you decide to
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  draw back, but because you've already engage in sexual
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  intercourse, it becomes kind of a, you know, somebody who get
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  hot. Somebody will feel hurt.
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  Somebody will be used. So this is why the church is
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  saying, don't even engage in this at all.
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  A lot of people were saying, listen, you have to open the
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  package to see the size of the package or the content, because
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  sometimes you can see the size ball.
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  It's not really about the size, is how you use it.
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  So, people are saying, they want to test is just like before you
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  buy a car you how to test run the car, not me, according to
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  Social Media. So they're saying that's before
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  you buy a car. You have to test from that car
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  to know, you might see a color. It is really you.
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  Love the body. Walk you love everything about
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  this, you like the color, but when you drive that car, you
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  realize that it's making. Some kind of, you know, some
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  sound that you know, you know you don't like you just realized
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  that, you know, what this car is not for me.
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  Although I like the Bodywork or do I like the color, but I don't
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  like driving it. So people are saying that before
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  you get married, it is very important to test for sexual
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  compatibility because you can get involved with somebody who
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  Has a loose sexual appetite and you have a very high sexual
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  appetite and you these two people are not compatible
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  sexually. They may be compatible,
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  physically mentally, their core values.
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  Align Bots, are they compatible sexually because one of the
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  reasons why people get married is to have sex on Eater of the
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  Sexes. So if they are not getting
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  married because of that and then they get into that relationship
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  and they are not compatible. What do you do about Point.
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  This is why a lot of people according to the main they said,
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  this is why most of them the cheats because, you know, you
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  tell your wife, I want to do, she said no one of the most busy
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  food must be doing every day. But if they were in a
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  relationship and that happened, he can decide whether to go
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  ahead without marriage or not. So these are the arguments
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  that's going on on social media. Now, the question I want to ask
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  is Do you believe that sex before marriage is necessary?
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  Would you get married to somebody who your core values
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  are line? You like that person, you're
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  attracted to them physically attracted to them, mentally and
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  everything aligns ball, you don't know if you're sexually
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  compatible, would you go ahead with our marriage?
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  Oh, let's say you somebody you're compatible in every
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  single way but then you're not compatible sexually, or you
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  found out that before marriage, Would you still go ahead and
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  marry that person? Would you go ahead and marry
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  that person thinking? I'm going to get the side chick
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  outside. But if you're a one-man,
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  one-woman kind of person, would you say, you know, this is not
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  for me. I cannot get into a marriage
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  with you and then go out there to go and cheat.
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  I rather get somebody who I am sexually, compatible, with why
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  I'm physically incompatible with, who, at least we can.
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  I mean, For reason why you get married is to have fun.
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  So if you're getting married to somebody that, you know, that
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  that compatibility is not there. Would you rather find out before
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  the marriage or after the marriage?
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  What would that be? I want to know.
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  I think this is the whole thing that Eukarya is trying to
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  highlight in her video. She is basically saying that
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  these two people are engaged to be married.
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  They have come to the church. They have announced their
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  engagement and they are planning towards their marriage, would
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  the church stop them from having intercourse, you know, that this
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  whole argument is just like how would I even explain this?
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  The reality, is everybody, in Nigeria is having sex whether
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  married or not, that is the truth, but it's just like
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  releasing gas. If everybody does release gas,
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  but when you We will courts and that gas in the gas release
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  smells that is when people start looking at you like, you know,
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  what is wrong with this person? They start looking at you, like
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  you're strange or something, there's something wrong with
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  you, but the reality is everybody.
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  They mess now, who immersed smell my, they get problem or in
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  this sense who get hurt after a sexual encounter is the person
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  that He's always at the received, the short end of the
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  stick. So this is what I think this
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  whole you care are going to be. I'm not trying to justify her
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  statement that has been an extensive conversation about
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  this topic. A lot of people are saying it is
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  very necessary to find out compatibility.
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  Not just Financial compatibility, not just physical
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  compatibility, not just, you know, mental compatibility or
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  your core values. Aligning, you also Need to find
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  out your sexual compatibility because that is what will keep
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  you in that relationship. That is what will make you not,
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  you know, stray or go cheat on your partner.
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  But if you're doing church and you're saying, I don't want to
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  find out and you get married, you'll have a very highly video.
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  I will get married to somebody that maybe you won't sit once in
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  months, you're going to get frustrated.
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  No matter how much you like that person, you're going to get
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  sexually frustrated. You start having issues or
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  necessarily and at the end of the day, you can go out there
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  and cheats, you can go out there and get a side chick in the
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  church, is a whole lot of married people sleep around.
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  Not because they want to probably because they did not,
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  you know, maybe not check their sexual compatibility with their
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  wives before they get married to them.
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  And after marriage, everybody is sleeping with everybody, because
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  Cuz they're not compatible with the one that the married.
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  So my question is, would you rather marry somebody who you
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  are? Not sure, or you don't know if
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  you're sexually compatible with that person and because of the
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  church says, you cannot engage in sexual intercourse before
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  marriage. And you get married to them and
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  sexual libido is a natural. Yeah, you can take medication to
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  balance these things, Bots. Let's see.
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  That person is not even willing. They feel it is ungodly to seek
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  out help in these areas. They just want to be the way
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  that God has created them and your drive are not matching.
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  What would you do? Would you go out there and
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  cheat? Would you knew down every day?
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  I'm pretty to go home. And I would you wish that you
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  have found out before you got married to that person so that
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  you can make a more informed decision.
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  Because some people there are they have Deal-breakers, maybe
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  that is one of your deal breaker.
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  You would have made that decision before getting married
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  to that person. Or if that's not you do break,
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  how you can find ways. At least, you know, you've kind
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  of prepared your mind, getting into that relationship or
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  getting into that marriage on how you're going to manage the
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  situation, not getting into that and wishing you had known before
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  the marriage. What would you prefer?
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  So leave me a comment in the comment section.
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  Let me know how you handle it. Let me know.
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  What you think are you with the old school of no sex before
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  marriage? Or are you with the new school
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  of test run the car before you buy it?
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  Let me know your thoughts, let me know your views.
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  So thank you very much for watching.
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  Today's episode. Bye.