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Biblical Boundaries After Heartbreak: How to Love From a Healed Heart · Girl, Date the Good Guy ™ | Healing After Heartbreak & A Toxic Relationship

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Hey sis, welcome to Girl Date the Good Guy podcast, the space where we strip
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away the noise and get real about toxic cycles, healing, and stepping into the love God has for us.
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I'm your host, Emily Jordan, and I've been where you are, heartbroken,
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confused, and chasing love that didn't come,
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Hey sis, welcome back to the show. I am so happy that you're here today in this
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space with me as we continue to journey along,
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as we heal and step into the seasons that God has for us so that we can find godly love.
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Today, I wanted to do something a little different. I just wanted to read you
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something about how to love from a healed heart.
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Because I think sometimes because we've been so hurt in our lives and because
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we've experienced heartbreak after heartbreak, loving from a healed heart can be hard.
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And so I just want to speak life into you and wisdom and knowledge into you today. And so here we go.
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You know, there's a big difference between loving from pain and loving from peace.
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Between loving because you're afraid to lose someone and loving because you
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finally know who you are in God.
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When your heart has been broken before, love can feel like a battlefield.
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You either overgive to feel safe or you hold back because you're scared to trust again.
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But when God heals your heart, something changes.
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You stop loving for validation and start loving from identity.
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You stop saying, please choose me, and start saying, I already know I'm chosen.
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Loving from a healed heart means you're no longer performing for affection.
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You're overflowing from connection.
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You've been with God long enough to know that your value isn't on trial anymore.
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You don't have to chase love. Love starts to chase you.
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When your heart is healed, you learn that boundaries are not rejection. They're wisdom.
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You're not cold or guarded. You're discerning.
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You've learned that not everyone deserves access to the most tender parts of
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you until they've proven they can handle them with care.
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A healed woman doesn't settle for potential. She honors her peace.
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She knows that peace is the language of God, and confusion is the language of compromise.
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You also communicate differently. You don't react from old wounds.
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You respond from a new wholeness.
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You can say, that hurt me, without shutting down or lashing out.
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You can love honestly and still protect your heart because you've learned that
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you can be soft and strong at the same time.
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And the most powerful shift, you stop idolizing people and start honoring them.
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You don't need them to be perfect. You just need them to be present.
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You're not looking for someone to complete you anymore, because Christ already did that.
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Now you're looking for someone who complements what God has already made complete.
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That's healed love, sis. That's grown love. That's kingdom love.
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So if you're in a season of healing right now, don't rush it.
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Let God sit with you in the quiet places.
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Let him touch the part of your heart that still flinches when someone tries to get too close.
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Because he's not just preparing you to be loved. He's preparing you to love well.
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And when that healed heart meets the right person, it won't feel like striving.
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It'll feel like peace.
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Because love from a healed heart doesn't beg, chase, or prove.
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It simply becomes. and that's when you'll know.
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You've learned how to love from wholeness. You've learned how to love from God.
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Thank you for tuning in to Girl Date the Good Guy. Until next time,
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keep your heart soft, your standards high, and your faith.