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Vocal De Frag Episode 208 Stop Stepping In Your Own Pile Of Crap · Arroe Collins Like It's Live

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  Speaker 1: The greatest thing about podcasting is getting the opportunity to
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  Speaker 1: back to vocal d Frag. Vocal d frag.
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  Speaker 2: It is asking yourself the questions and questioning the answers.
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  Speaker 2: It's physically taking the time to get to know who
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  Speaker 2: you are. And I mean physically, not those moments when
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  Speaker 2: you stare at yourself in the rearview mirror in the car,
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  Speaker 2: or you go into the bathroom and you put on
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  Speaker 2: that little cranky s smile, which I call the candy
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  Speaker 2: code of plastic bathroom mirror smile. No, no, no, I'm
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  Speaker 2: talking about real, live, physical moments in your life life
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  Speaker 2: and when you ask yourself the questions and you question
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  Speaker 2: those answers. You're not leaning on the experiences of others
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  Speaker 2: because none of those people have ever walked in your shoes.
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  Speaker 2: It's not that I don't trust them, it's not that
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  Speaker 2: I don't like them, it's not that I don't see
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  Speaker 2: them as being great leaders. That they are. But the
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  Speaker 2: thing about it is, until they put their stinky ass
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  Speaker 2: foot in your shoes, they only offer you their perspective
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  Speaker 2: of maybe some things that you should try. And then
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  Speaker 2: when it doesn't work, what do you do? You keep
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  Speaker 2: on walking, You keep on putting yourself in a position
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  Speaker 2: of making decisions after decisions after decisions, and the circle
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  Speaker 2: just digs itself deeper into the soil. This is vocal
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  Speaker 2: d frag. Okay, so we've all had one of those
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  Speaker 2: moments where the day is I'm just unbelievably out of control.
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  Speaker 2: You have no control, and you know, the preacher people
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  Speaker 2: will tell you, know, to keep it to God, give
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  Speaker 2: it to God. God will take care of it. God
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  Speaker 2: will take care of it. Well, the one thing I've
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  Speaker 2: learned about God is that God is on God's time.
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  Speaker 2: And you might be living in a situation where you
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  Speaker 2: need help now, and even triple A, it's going to
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  Speaker 2: take them a couple of hours to get to where
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  Speaker 2: you are, to get you out of your moment of now,
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  Speaker 2: and so we are put in positions of decision making
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  Speaker 2: where we've got to really embrace the moment instead of
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  Speaker 2: focusing in on well, what am I going to do
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  Speaker 2: in the future. Why has this never happened to me
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  Speaker 2: in the past? Yoh, sure, those are great questions if
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  Speaker 2: you're defragging, But you aren't defragging when that stuff is
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  Speaker 2: melting in your reality, When your world is caving in
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  Speaker 2: on you and you can physically see it and you
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  Speaker 2: know what it's doing to your anxiety, your fear, your doubt,
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  Speaker 2: you start shaming yourself. Oh, it's heavy as hell. Now
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  Speaker 2: here's the reality of the entire picture. And if I
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  Speaker 2: step on your toes, I'm sorry. It's reality and we
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  Speaker 2: need to speak more reality about this. It's during those
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  Speaker 2: times where it feels like everything that you are doesn't
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  Speaker 2: matter to not even your soul. You are in a
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  Speaker 2: world without a face, without an identity, without anything going
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  Speaker 2: on but the plight that you have stepped into. You know,
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  Speaker 2: when you step into a pile of dog crap, you
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  Speaker 2: can kind of shuffle your feet along and get it off,
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  Speaker 2: but the smell, for some reason is still there. And
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  Speaker 2: you know what, there's other things in our life that
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  Speaker 2: we step in where we think we've got it off
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  Speaker 2: the path, but the smell is still there. So here's
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  Speaker 2: the reality part. I did ask myself the question yesterday.
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  Speaker 2: So you're having a really bad day. I mean, it
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  Speaker 2: is what other people would say, I'm glad he's going
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  Speaker 2: through it, not me. I wouldn't know what to do.
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  Speaker 2: So you have one of those really bad dark moments
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  Speaker 2: and you ask yourself, when and if I get home,
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  Speaker 2: do I have your permission self to drink, to take drugs,
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  Speaker 2: to find another escape so I can bring this body
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  Speaker 2: back into shape. Well, here's the thing. You're not really
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  Speaker 2: bringing your body back into shape. And are you really escaping?
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  Speaker 2: I don't think so. You might be mentally lightening up
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  Speaker 2: the load, but you're not escaping. So that was my question.
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  Speaker 2: I'm being very open transparent with you right now. That
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  Speaker 2: was my question. Do I have permission, after having this
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  Speaker 2: kind of an experience to go ahead and find myself
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  Speaker 2: any alcohol? And you want to know what that self said?
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  Speaker 2: Ask me when you get home what you see? Ask
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  Speaker 2: yourself the questions question the answers. You don't have to
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  Speaker 2: have a journal in front of you, you don't have
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  Speaker 2: to have a recording device. I asked myself the questions
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  Speaker 2: verbally in the rearview mirror of that car, because it
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  Speaker 2: was all fallen apart, if it hadn't already fallen apart,
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  Speaker 2: and I did ask, do I have your permission to
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  Speaker 2: have alcohol? And it said, ask me when you get home?
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  Speaker 2: And do you want to know what? I didn't have
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  Speaker 2: the alcohol when I got home. I didn't need it.
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  Speaker 2: But if this would have happened to me while I
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  Speaker 2: was at home, now, the bigger question to ask myself
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  Speaker 2: is and then I'll ask the next question, and then
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  Speaker 2: I'll ask the next question. If I would have been
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  Speaker 2: at home, would I have ended my extremely long streak
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  Speaker 2: of being sober all because the world felt like it
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  Speaker 2: was crashing around me. In fact, I'm not going to
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  Speaker 2: say it was thinking about it. It was flat out
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  Speaker 2: putting it to shame. Learning how to ask yourself questions
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  Speaker 2: isn't just a journal thing. It's an every day moment.
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  Speaker 2: Because I did ask myself, do I have your permission
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  Speaker 2: to drink? Knowing that I have been dry since September
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  Speaker 2: of twenty twenty five. Ask me when you get home.
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  Speaker 2: Ask yourself the questions, then question the answers. It's vocal
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