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The Right Way to Discipline · Men's Morning Devotional

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SPEAKER_00: Gentlemen, every day is a battle.
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SPEAKER_00: A battle for your faith, your family, and your purpose.
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SPEAKER_00: The men who stand drawn don't prepare when the battle arrives.
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SPEAKER_00: They prepare before beginning.
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SPEAKER_00: Welcome to the men's morning devotion.
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SPEAKER_00: Let's get into God's word.
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SPEAKER_00: It's time to man up.
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SPEAKER_01: Good morning, gentlemen.
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SPEAKER_01: I'm Chris Muinya, and it's time for another man up moment.
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SPEAKER_01: This week I'm continuing in Proverbs chapter 13, with today's devotional being about spanking your kids.
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SPEAKER_01: I encourage you to share this devotional with someone who you think would benefit from it.
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SPEAKER_01: Now, this topic I'm sure every father listening has an opinion on or an experience in.
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SPEAKER_01: So listen up.
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SPEAKER_01: Proverbs 13, verse 24 says, Whoever spares the rod hates their children.
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SPEAKER_01: But the one who loves their children is careful to discipline them.
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SPEAKER_01: Discipline is one of the hardest things about being a dad.
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SPEAKER_01: I'm sharing this wisdom with you currently as a father of three.
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SPEAKER_01: It's easy to love your kids when they're laughing, behaving, and doing what we ask, but real love shows up when correction is necessary.
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SPEAKER_01: Proverbs 1324 reminds us that discipline is an expression of love.
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SPEAKER_01: A father who refuses to correct his child may think he is being loving, but he can actually be withholding something his child needs boundaries, correction, wisdom, and direction.
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SPEAKER_01: The goal of discipline isn't making our kids afraid of us.
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SPEAKER_01: The goal is to help them become the men and women God has called them to be.
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SPEAKER_01: And that means discipline should never come from uncontrolled anger.
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SPEAKER_01: There's a difference between discipline and punishment driven by frustration.
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SPEAKER_01: Discipline says, I love you too much to let you continue down this path.
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SPEAKER_01: Anger says, you made me mad, so I'm going to make you pay for it.
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SPEAKER_01: As fathers, we have to learn the difference.
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SPEAKER_01: And I want to set you free by letting you know if you've disciplined your children out of anger in the past, it's okay.
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SPEAKER_01: You have not destroyed your kids' future because of one or two times.
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SPEAKER_01: If you've crossed the line, go and talk to your kids and let them know, hey, dad's not perfect.
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SPEAKER_01: I'm sorry for acting out of anger.
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SPEAKER_01: Then tell them what they did that you did not approve of.
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SPEAKER_01: Because the reality is that if it hurts you whenever you have to discipline your kids, then you're in a good place.
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SPEAKER_01: Our children need fathers who are willing to say no when necessary, establish boundaries, enforce consequences, and correct wrong behavior.
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SPEAKER_01: But who also hug them afterwards, explain why they were corrected, forgive them, and remind them that they are loved.
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SPEAKER_01: Our kids are watching how we lead.
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SPEAKER_01: They're learning from the way we respond when they mess up.
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SPEAKER_01: They are learning whether authority means fear or security.
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SPEAKER_01: They're learning whether correction can coexist with love.
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SPEAKER_01: And here's something important.
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SPEAKER_01: We can't expect our children to have self-control if we don't have self-control.
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SPEAKER_01: Before we correct our kids, we need to ask God to correct us.
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SPEAKER_01: A man who wants to lead his family well must first allow God to lead him.
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SPEAKER_01: Your children don't need a perfect father.
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SPEAKER_01: They need a father who is present, consistent, loving, and willing to lead.
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SPEAKER_01: So don't be afraid to discipline your children, but don't discipline them simply because they embarrassed you, frustrated you, interrupted your day.
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SPEAKER_01: Discipline because you love them.
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SPEAKER_01: Correct them because you see who they can become.
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SPEAKER_01: Lead them because God has entrusted them to you.
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SPEAKER_01: That's what it means to man up.
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SPEAKER_01: So here's your man-up challenge.
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SPEAKER_01: Today, look for one opportunity to intentionally lead your child.
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SPEAKER_01: Instead of simply correcting them, when correction is needed, pause before you respond and ask yourself, Am I correcting my child because I love them or because I'm angry?
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SPEAKER_01: Then correct with calmness, consistency, and clarity.
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SPEAKER_01: Explain what's wrong, establish the consequence, and remind them afterward, I love you too much to not correct you.
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SPEAKER_01: And if you lose your temper, Dad, man up enough to apologize.
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SPEAKER_01: Your kids need to see that Dad can be strong enough to lead and humble enough to admit when he's wrong.
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SPEAKER_01: Let's pray.
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SPEAKER_01: Father, thank you for your children you have entrusted to me.
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SPEAKER_01: Give me wisdom to know when to correct, patience to know how to correct, and self-control when I'm frustrated.
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SPEAKER_01: Help me discipline my children from a place of love, not anger.
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SPEAKER_01: Let my home be a place where truth, grace, boundaries, forgiveness, and love are all present.
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SPEAKER_01: Help me become the father my children need and the man you have called me to be.
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SPEAKER_01: In Jesus' name.
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SPEAKER_01: Amen.
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SPEAKER_00: All right, gentlemen, you've heard God's word.
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SPEAKER_00: Now go live it.
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SPEAKER_00: Lead well, stand strong, honor God in everything you do.
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SPEAKER_00: Share this devotional with another brother.
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SPEAKER_00: Remember, every day is another opportunity to man up.