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Why You Should Block a Narcissist Instead Of Ignoring Them · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  So should you block or ignore your narcissistic partner?
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  What is the best in these situations right here, y'all?
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  Should you just go ahead and block them and cut them off or
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  just continue to ignore them? That right there is going to be
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  a tough question to ask, but that's what we're talking about
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  today, y'all. Of course, if you're new here,
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  my name is Lee Hammock. I'm a clinically diagnosed
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  narcissist and welcome to another episode of The
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  Narcissist Code. Let's get it.
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  Welcome back, folks. Yes, I love the intro.
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  I got to keep the intro going, y'all.
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  I know some of y'all prefer no intro, but y'all, I got to put
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  me first. I got to put me first.
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  I got to put me first. What's going on y'all?
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  Welcome to another episode of The Narcissist Code, Yo,
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  Seriously blocking or ignoring him.
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  This is a tough one for a lot of people to to come to terms with
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  right here because so many people get caught up in these
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  narcissistic toxic relationships where you don't know what to do.
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  Like the relationship is over and you are trying to figure out
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  what you should do next. You're trying to figure out what
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  comes next in these situations right here, right?
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  You really should, you know, you really have to figure out what
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  comes next. Like you're trying to heal,
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  you're trying to thrive, you're trying to feel better, like this
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  is what comes apart. This is what becomes a part of
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  it. Should you block them or should
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  you just continue to ignore they asses?
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  So my mentality and what I tell people in my one on ones over
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  Zoom, you can find those@mentalillness.net.
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  That's where you can find it at. I tell people if you can, you
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  should block them. Seriously.
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  I think that if you, if you have the ability to block them, you
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  should. But but Lee, why?
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  I just feel like if I just continue to ignore them, then
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  like if I just continue to ignore them, that sends a
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  message that I'm not falling for it anymore, that I'm in charge,
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  that I make the rules here. And I get this right?
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  I get that. But ignoring them, y'all, I'm
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  being real with you. Ignoring a narcissist requires
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  energy. It just does.
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  Now everybody can't block them. I understand that, right?
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  I understand that everybody cannot block the narcissistic
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  partner because the court and things like that, right?
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  I get it. Unless you have a well to do
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  third party intermediary or whatnot, everybody can't block
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  them. I completely understand that.
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  So sometimes you have to just ignore certain things, right?
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  But this is what I think right here, ignore, if you can't block
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  them, you should because ignoring them is going to take
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  your energy. Let's just say you have a lot of
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  energy and you want it. Like you have a lot of energy
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  that you want to keep. Like you, you have a lot of
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  other things going on in your life.
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  You have so many things going on in your life right now that
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  trying to give this you giving too much energy to this person.
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  Like I got kids, I got school, I got work, I got this, I got
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  that. I got book club, run club, gym.
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  I have 100 things going into my life, right?
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  You have 100 things going on in your life.
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  If they're sending you messages, reading those messages can throw
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  you off. They will be giving them too
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  much energy, right? That gives them too much of your
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  energy. Because I know everybody just,
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  well, Lee, I read it and I just ignore it.
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  But even like you could be having a great day.
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  They just say you having a great, great day, right?
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  And then all of a sudden out of nowhere, Bing, you get a message
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  from them that throws you off. Like the message throws you off.
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  The message that you get from them throws your whole entire
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  day off. It could be in the morning, it
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  could be late at night. That keeps you up now, right?
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  They're gonna say if you can block them or mute their
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  notification, whatever it is, right?
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  You should because it takes too much energy to just keep keep
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  even to read the messages is taking energy.
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  I know somebody, somebody said it up here, right?
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  Somebody sit right here, Leandra said.
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  I've been ignoring this fool. He gets mad.
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  Yeah, he he gets mad and then he starts texting other stuff.
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  Then he start calling you names. Then he start calling you out of
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  your name, start questioning your your the ability.
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  The parent starts lying to you, telling you how good that
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  they're, you know, talk about their new Boo, My new Boo way
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  better than yours, way better than you.
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  The cheeks, her cheeks clap way louder than your your cheeks
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  ever clapped. Y'all want to read stuff like
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  that right? You want to read that?
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  You want to read stuff like that?
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  No, I I wouldn't want to read anything like that just for me
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  in particular. Bridges says blocking the
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  narcissist takes so much energy. When I blocked my bio mom, she
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  started attacking me through my grandfather with lies You.
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  So yeah, blocking also takes up energy.
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  I said it there right there right.
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  I mean, I, I feel like thank you for sharing that Bridget.
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  Blocking does take up energy, but it's, it's like I said, it's
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  that one expenditure that you have to give right there because
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  then when they start going through other avenues and things
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  like that, you know what I mean? It just, it's just, it's just
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  focused. It helps you focus on certain
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  things in your life. Now, blocking a parent is going
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  to be different than blocking a boyfriend, right?
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  Blocking a parent, there's other avenues that they can reach out.
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  Grandpa, grandma, sisters, brothers, cousins, your kids
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  sometimes, right? Blocking a parent is going to be
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  different. So it's like I said, do what's
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  best for you. But I truly believe trying to
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  ignore them just gives up, takes up too much of your energy.
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  I'm telling you could be having an amazing day, an amazing day.
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  And then all the same, you, you can, yeah, you can feel it.
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  And I guess I said sometimes narcissists can feel it too,
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  right? You be like today.
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  It's been an amazing day today. God Bing, who texted me?
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  You lying stupid whore. I hate you.
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  My new Boo is way better than you.
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  I cheated on you the whole time. The kids hate you.
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  Nobody in your life likes you. You got to threw it off right
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  there. You said they could throw your
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  whole day off right there. You see, you just throw, it can
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  throw your whole entire day off. And who said that right there?
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  April said it removes the temptation.
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  It helps you shut off the narcissist TV.
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  Like, yeah, it helps you remove the temptation to respond
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  because this is what happens. And this is what I truly believe
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  happens sometimes when you're trying to ignore a narcissist.
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  Sooner or later they're going to send something that sets you off
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  that you have to, you feel like you got to respond to.
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  They going to say something about somebody in your life that
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  passed away. They going to say something
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  about your kids. They going to attack you.
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  Just they're going to attack you.
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  Just realistically, they will realistically attack you, right?
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  That's why I say you got to block them, because if you that
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  you just opened up the door for it, right?
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  Even if you don't block them, you open up the door for them to
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  keep doing this craziness, to keep doing this type of
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  insanity. And if you keep messing around
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  with you, you really, truly do you know that happens?
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  That really happens. Like ignoring takes up energy,
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  blocking takes up energy as well, just like Bridget said
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  earlier. But it just helps to be in that
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  space right there, right? It helps you be in that a good
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  space. And when when you like I say as
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  a narcissist, sometimes I'm trying to as a narcissist,
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  sometimes let me put my narcissist hat on Y'all do I
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  have a narcissist hat. Let me put my narcissist look,
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  here's my narcissist hat today, my UNC gloves.
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  Like as a narcissist, sometimes I'm just going to send you
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  things to try and get a reaction from you, right?
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  I'm going to send you stuff just because I want to see if I still
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  have if I can still get you to react.
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  But also sometimes I'm going to send you stuff just like
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  honestly, I'm going to send you stuff just to see if I'm
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  blocked, right? I'm going to test to see if I'm
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  blocked. Sometimes I need to I need to
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  test it to see if I'm blocked sometimes, right?
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  Am I right? So I'm going to send you things
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  sometimes just to see if my messages turn blue or green.
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  I might send you a hey or hello or just call you a whore.
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  Just magic one day. You just chilling, right?
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  You just chilling you like I am. I'm doing amazing whore.
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  Now you mad, now you upset. Now you have to send energy that
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  way, right? Then you have to send energy
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  that way. You don't want to do that
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  especially y'all, this could be in the middle of the night too.
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  You know what I'm saying? This is the type of stuff that
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  could happen. That's why I say I always, I'm a
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  huge proponent of blocking when you can.
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  I know everybody's situation is different.
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  There's kids, there's so many different things going on in
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  these situations, but I'm a huge proponent of just like block
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  they ass, of course, if you can, Right.
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  But block, you got to block they ass.
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  You really absolutely have to. What?
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  What if you call me a whore? I'll be turning.
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  Oh, Jesus. I was like, what did you, what
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  did they say? Yeah.
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  This is what goes on, though. You know, this happens.
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  You know, I'm just telling you, when you have these narcissistic
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  people in your life, sometimes they'll try to make it seem like
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  their lives are doing much better than they are actually
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  are. They'll I just did a video on my
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  reaction channel, right? There's AI did a video on my
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  reaction channel of this man calling his ex at 3:00 in the
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  morning just to say, yo girl, I just went to the club last
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  night. I bagged 40 girls.
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  There were so many girls on me. They was pulling me away at
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  like, come talk to me, come talk to me.
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  I was like, hey, hey, leave me alone.
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  Give me a few minutes. Let me talk to her first.
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  I'm going to come get you in a few minutes.
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  Hold your horses, Hold your horses, Boo.
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  I'll be open in just a few minutes.
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  Come on, let me talk to her and get her number.
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  I'm gonna come and get y'all and I'm gonna smash y'all
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  back-to-back. OK, cool.
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  He did that at 3:00 in the morning.
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  Y'all actually think that man was happy and get some getting
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  some ass? No, that man won't get no ass.
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  He called it 3:00 in the morning.
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  You not getting no ass at 3:00 in the morning?
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  You calling your ex? I'm doing way better without
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  you, just so you know. Just so you know.
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  And of course she answered the phone.
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  Like, girl, you got to block. You got to block them.
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  You see what I'm saying? You have to block them.
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  Bill for you, Mr. Strawberry, say block for four weeks.
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  Good job. Because I know it's I'm not I
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  know the way I've tried. I'm not I'm not trying to frame
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  it in a way that makes it seem like it's an easy thing to do to
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  block somebody that you care about and love, right?
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  But sometimes that's what you have to do.
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  Say new address from the change number.
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  New address going to be as are you.
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  You escaped you you you Jason Bourne you you Jason Bourne.
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  You disappeared on him. He's like you know that's
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  powerful though. I'm just telling y'all, blocking
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  sometimes is a power move. It helps you get away from
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  people like this who don't have any, like say, people who who
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  are not serving you in a positive way.
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  They just want to bring negativity to your life, which a
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  lot of narcissistic people want to do.
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  They want to consistently bring the negativity to your life
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  because they feel like it benefits them in a lot of
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  different ways. Right.
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  Yeah. He keeps showing up, lives in
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  the same building. What do I do?
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  He lives in I don't y'all live in the same building.
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  That's tough right there. I don't know what you what can
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  you do? You might have to move.
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  You know what I'm saying? If you if you same building,
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  it's kind of crazy. You know, it really is.
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  You know who said this? Phyllis says they can cause your
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  life to be miserable yes, ABS they can absolutely cause your
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  life to be miserable, absolutely.
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  You know, somebody said, I saw some BS online that said
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  ignoring is stronger than blocking.
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  But our piece is invaluable. So I can see why people say
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  ignoring is stronger. I can understand what the the
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  viewpoint of people that are saying that, right, Because you
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  think it takes, it takes a very strong person to ignore the BS.
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  Yeah, it can take a strong person to ignore it, but like,
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  it's making you making a choice to have to ignore it in like
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  block them. If you have the choice to block
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  them, I would block them. Of course, be safe.
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  You know, I always tell people you have to be safe.
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  Consider safety first, right? Because sometimes you block
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  people, they lose their damn minds and don't know how to act,
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  right? But sometimes you block them and
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  you, you get your piece, right. Your piece is absolutely
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  invaluable. You know, this is what goes on
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  in the mind of a narcissistic person.
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  Yeah, Yeah. Can't block them when you need
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  to keep in contact for the. Yeah, this is what I say.
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  If you cannot block them, you have to keep in contact for the
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  kids. What you want to do is funnel it
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  down to one or two forms of communication that work for you,
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  a parenting app if possible, because not, not all narcissists
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  are going to agree to a parenting that right.
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  They're going to make your life hard.
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  But you don't want to. Yeah, you want to funnel it
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  down. You don't want to like have them
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  be able to contact you in 15 different ways like you don't
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  want to be. You don't want to be able to
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  send you a Facebook message, a TikTok, a Instagram, real
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  comment on Instagram, WhatsApp, your phone number and e-mail
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  like text, like text message apps.
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  You don't want to have 8-9 forms of ways of reaching out to you.
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  Shut it down to one or two forms.
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  Hey, texting works better, e-mail work better.
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  Only call me during this time and what you like and you if you
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  have to deal with a very no, a very toxic narcissistic person,
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  right, you have to deal with them to Co parent with them.
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  Think about it like this as well, right?
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  Think about it like this. Get very good at skimming.
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  Get very good at skimming. You don't have to ignore.
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  You can skim like what I mean by skim is like, see this message
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  by April. I can already tell this is a
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  mess. This is a message that comes
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  from the heart. This is a good message right
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  here, right? I see the green hearts at the
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  end. I see the the tone at the
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  beginning, right? Get good at reading the very
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  first. If it's they if they send you
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  long messages, read the first sentence and or the last
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  sentence to gauge the tone of the message.
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  That way you know if they talk, if they own some bullshit, they
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  if they talking, they talking crazy.
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  You got to read it. If this message would start off
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  and say F you, I ain't reading the rest of it.
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  You know what I mean. If it starts off and says F you,
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  I'm not reading the rest of it. Or if it ends with a middle
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  finger emoji, I'm not reading that message.
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  I already know what I already know what time you own.
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  Then why would I read that? No, don't do that to yourself.
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  Or if you know your kids, you know your kids names looks skim
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  really quick for the word kids or whatever, right?
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  I don't see the kids. I see journal, right skim for
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  your kids name really quick. You're not reading the whole
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  thing. You're looking for your kids
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  names. You're looking for the word
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  kids, right? You're looking for that right
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  there. You're not reading the whole
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  damn thing. Hell no Anybody you start off
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  with FU or middle finger emoji. This is why Hell no.
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  Gauge the tone. I ain't reading all that shit.
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  No, my ex is acting. See, I'm reading the first
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  sentence. My ex is acting weird.
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  This is how it look. This is how skim comments.
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  If I see a loan coming and the first sentence is some some kind
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  of craziness, I'm gonna read it. You want some crazy timing,
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  right? I'm not saying she's on crazy.
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  I'm not saying Loretta's on crazy timing, but this is type
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  of stuff like is is. I'll come back to it in a
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  second. I saved it.
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  Did you have to learn how to read those messages like that,
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  right? You really had to have to.
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  Is that $0.50 on the wall? I'm in my son's room, so I don't
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  know over there. No, that's Michael Myers.
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  That's Michael Myers. Said 57.
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  Like, I don't think 57 on the wall.
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  He's a hard. He's a horror movie fan.
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  But yeah, get very good at skimming.
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  Yeah, I promise you that it'll save your life and help you out
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  so much. You can't fix it if we never
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  changed it. Hold on.
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  I just saw a message them through Ashley, you're backing
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  me Don't turn it down. I must have missed something.
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  Where'd it go? I'm trying to sorry y'all
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  finally caught a live Yup Yup Yup hair looking fresh.
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  I actually got to here take it out April.
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  I already get to get ready to take it out.
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  I saw the actually I saw it come through.
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  I don't know why I can't put on the screen, but it says you are
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  actually rose ago. Thanks for donation to China.
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  It says you are dead on my I left my narcissistic ex 20
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  months ago. We text because he has some
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  stuff of mine, but just found out the chick he was lying about
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  cheating on me with, he's been with her, he's been with her
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  done crying. There you go.
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  No, he has some stuff of mine. 20 months, Ashley girl, we got
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  to, we got, we got to talk about getting rid of this stuff now,
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  baby, we got to talk about getting rid of this stuff.
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  Now you know what I mean? We got, we got, we got to work
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  on getting rid of this stuff. Now we ain't, but we ain't no
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  like if I can see if it's important stuff, but if it's
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  like some little stuff that we got some that some things become
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  a tax write off, we got, we got to write off some things, right?
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  We got to write, we got to learn how to tax write off some stuff.
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  You know what I mean? We got to tax, we got, it's a
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  tax write off now asking, but thank you for sending that in.
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  Seriously, thank you. I don't know why it's not
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  popping on my screen, though. This is weird.
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  Seriously, I don't know what's going on with Stream Yard.
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  It's easy when I'm with you. It's not even popping on my that
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  I've responded to it on here. It's crazy, Jessica said.
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  I'm a big fan. My boyfriend broke up with me a
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  week before he was going to move in.
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  Reason was I don't know, I need time.
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  Is that a narcissistic move? Yeah, that's going backwards
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  right there, right. I'm not saying it's a
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  narcissistic move. That's that's absolutely
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  backwards. It's like, it's like your
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  relationship is not going, it's not going in the right
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  direction. I feel like in that situation,
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  right there is going in, it's going in a different direction,
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  right? It's not going in the direction
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  that you want it. It's not going in the direction
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  that you wanted to go in, so to speak, right?
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  It's going in the opposite direction.
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  Like if you're supposed to be moving in together with now you
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  need more time. How long have I been together?
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  You know what I'm saying? No, YouTube, let me do this for
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  you. Ashley says it's always a God.
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  OK, there you go See the name. It's always the guys that know
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  the Bible like the back of their hand that they'll work.
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  Oh yeah, yeah, I'm just telling that Bible.
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  I mean, y'all see me talk about the Bible stuff.
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  I I I'll be hitting the Bible stuff.
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  It's hard y'all 'cause I hate the religious manipulators.
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  I absolutely do. I absolutely hate religious
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  manipulators. Yeah, it So who said that?
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  CEO. Yeah, that's a good that's a
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  good word right there. It's regressing, right?
• 19:12
  It's regressing, yeah. How you see the wild people?
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  I I got good eyes. I got good eyes.
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  That's that's a LeBron and it's Michael Myers.
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  Yeah, Michael Myers and all. My son is a horror fan.
• 19:22
  I see our comments on the screen.
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  Yeah, I'm messing with the stuff in the on the back office now.
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  Yeah, do do do the narcissistic preacher.
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  Yeah, I'm telling you. That's why.
• 19:35
  That's why y'all see, like April say I go into preacher mode
• 19:37
  sometimes I start fake preaching because some narcissistic people
• 19:40
  be fake. Fake preaching to you.
• 19:42
  They absolutely do. They fake preach to you, they do
• 19:45
  all this weirdo stuff to you and they just continue to mess with
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  you. Y'all seriously?
• 19:51
  I see the wall. I want to be, oh, girl, do do,
• 19:57
  do, do, do. Mine moved into an apartment
• 19:59
  with me last month that he promised to pay rent and I do
• 20:02
  everything else. I had to pay $1500 because he
• 20:05
  walked out. No reason.
• 20:05
  And then it's demanding I bring your stuff, right?
• 20:07
  Bring your stuff back. So if his name is like, oh, see,
• 20:10
  that's so difficult. If his name is on the lease,
• 20:12
  there's so many different things that there's so many different
• 20:14
  ways they can go right there. Yeah.
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  Yeah. Also my work, my everything you
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  Everything is mental illness.net my coaching, my courses.
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  literally go to mentalillness.net into the code
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  mothers or fathers and my courses are they're pretty good.
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  His name isn't on the list. Oh no his name ain't on the list
• 20:45
  man. Keep his throat, keep his shit
• 20:46
  outside. He should be in this shit would
• 20:48
  be in in garbage bags. This would be in garbage bags.
• 20:53
  You know what I'm saying? That would be being garbage bags
• 20:56
  you don't keep. I got to pay the rent and keep
• 20:58
  you. This is not this is not free
• 20:59
  storage because this one is. You see what I'm saying?
• 21:02
  This is not free storage. This is hell now.
• 21:06
  Nope. This is what hell No, Hell no.
• 21:12
  This is not free storage. Sir, we are not playing these
• 21:14
  games. We're absolutely not.
• 21:19
  I have a degree in psychology, but I still got caught.
• 21:22
  Yeah. I mean, this is, this happens
• 21:23
  because degrees, degrees are one thing.
• 21:26
  Their real life is different. You know what I mean?
• 21:28
  Just being out here in real life is completely different.
• 21:30
  Well, I'm thinking about. So I'm actually looking to it
• 21:32
  right now. I'm actually, my oldest son is
• 21:33
  about to graduate from high school.
• 21:36
  I was selling on Craigslist. My oldest son is about to
• 21:40
  graduate from high school. So I'm actually thinking about
• 21:42
  going back to school and getting a degree in some type of
• 21:45
  psychology or something along those lines.
• 21:48
  So y'all might see me here with a a master's degree or something
• 21:50
  here pretty soon, like next year.
• 21:52
  It's getting started because my son is about to graduate from
• 21:54
  high school. I'm like, yeah, I got 2 younger
• 21:57
  ones. I have a little bit more time to
• 21:59
  do some stuff, you know, but I don't want to just take me going
• 22:02
  to school. I want to take time away from my
• 22:03
  my family just being in this situation.
• 22:06
  Anyway, y'all I do got to hop off this thing.
• 22:08
  I don't went out. I don't went alone, but I
• 22:10
  normally go on these lives y'all.
• 22:11
  I appreciate y'all tuning in with me.
• 22:13
  I'll be live again tomorrow. Just turn if you're on YouTube
• 22:16
  or Facebook, turn on those notifications and you'll see
• 22:19
  that you get a notification about the live tomorrow and when
• 22:22
  I'm I'm probably going to try to go live every day.
• 22:23
  I like doing these lives, interacting with y'all and
• 22:27
  whatnot. So I'm I like like doing these
• 22:30
  lives and whatnot with y'all. So I appreciate everything on
• 22:33
  one of y'all. I saw somebody earlier ask about
• 22:36
  the the workshops and the meet ups.
• 22:37
  I'm going to start back doing those the the summertime.
• 22:39
  I get caught up y'all. I've been doing so much stuff
• 22:41
  over the summer, I haven't had time to sit down and do anything
• 22:44
  and plan anything out with my, my, my old partner.
• 22:47
  So I'm going to start doing my more workshops and stuff like
• 22:49
  that in person here in North Carolina.
• 22:52
  My podcast and stuff is coming soon as well.
• 22:54
  Y'all, the mental illness podcast is launching here soon.
• 22:56
  I saw you asked about that April.
• 22:57
  So all this stuff will be coming on.
• 22:59
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  haven't, y'all, Y'all know, I'm super grateful for y'all.
• 23:07
  I'm super thankful for you. Like seriously, I'm just like my
• 23:10
  gratitude is unending for y'all. I'm so appreciative of every
• 23:14
  single one of y'all to trust me alone.
• 23:15
  You'll help y'all on this journey.
• 23:17
  I'm grateful to y'all. Trust me to allow y'all into my
• 23:19
  life and allow me into your life.
• 23:22
  As much as y'all learn from me, I learned even more from y'all.
• 23:24
  I'm super thankful for you. Be safe, take care of yourselves
• 23:28
  and as always y'all, as always into this is out peace.