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What steps help manage challenging behaviours? · Wellbeing Solutions - Ask A Counsellor

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  SPEAKER_00: Managing challenging behaviours in a child with additional needs is one of the hardest parts of caring for them.
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  SPEAKER_00: Challenging behaviour, things like tantrums, hitting, throwing objects, or the drawing, is often a child's way of communicating that something feels overwhelming, painful, or confusing.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it's usually a sign that a need isn't being met or that something in their environment feels like it's too much.
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  SPEAKER_00: And when things escalate, the first step is regulating yourself as you can't help your child come back down if you're already dysregulated.
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  SPEAKER_00: So just try box breathing, breathing in for four counts, hold for four and out for four, and you repeat that a few times.
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  SPEAKER_00: And when the frustration rises, which it will, and that's okay, simply just place a hand on your chest and remind yourself that the child is struggling, not being deliberately difficult.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that small shift in perspective can change how you respond in those really hard moments.
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  SPEAKER_00: And you can start paying attention to what's happening just before the behaviour.
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  SPEAKER_00: So is it a change in routine, a sensory trigger, a particular environment, or even physical discomfort like hunger or pain?
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  SPEAKER_00: Because when you begin to spot those patterns, you move from constantly reacting to getting ahead of it.
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  SPEAKER_00: And alongside that, focus on finding ways your child can express themselves, whether through visuals, gestures, or professional support, as the more ways they have to communicate, the less they need behaviour to do it for them.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, practical ways to support with this is by making small changes to the environment which can make a real difference.
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  SPEAKER_00: So reducing sensory overload where possible, keep routines predictable, and make space for your child to do things they genuinely enjoy.
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  SPEAKER_00: Also, you don't have to manage this by yourself, so sharing what works and what doesn't with family members, school staff, and support workers can help create the consistency your child needs and take some of the weight off you as well.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, if the behaviours are becoming more frequent, more intense, or putting your child or others at risk, then please do reach out for extra support.
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  SPEAKER_00: You can start with your GP who can refer you to specialists such as a pediatrician, psychologist, or behavioural support team.
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  SPEAKER_00: There are organisations like the Challenging Behaviour Foundation and the Mencap Learning Disability Helpline that can also offer some support and guidance.
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  SPEAKER_00: And for further support, you can explore the resources on the app around caring for a child with additional needs.
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  SPEAKER_00: And if you are thinking about harming yourself or feeling safe, then please seek urgent help by contacting your local emergency number or a crisis helpline.