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Mary Elizabeth Kelly: Comedy, Content and Creativity as a New Mom · Mommywood

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OK, I am definitely fangirling out for this episode.
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Today's guest is someone you've definitely seen online and
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probably sent to a group chat at least once.
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Mary Elizabeth Kelly is a writer, actor, comedian, content
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creator, and one of the most spot on celebrity voice
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impersonators on the Internet. And now she's also a brand new
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mom. We are talking in this episode
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about building a creative career across multiple lanes, So what
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it's really like to keep showing up online while navigating new
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motherhood and how becoming a parent shifts your voice and
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your work and your priorities. And sometimes those might be in
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ways you don't expect. This episode is very funny.
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It's very honest and very if you know, you know, especially for
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after moms trying to stay visible without losing their
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minds. Please enjoy.
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I know you will. I am so excited, so happy, so
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honored, grateful that Mary Elizabeth Kelly is on this
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episode of Mommy Would Yay. I'm saying you're full name.
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And that's what it is in SAG so. I'm so excited to chat with you.
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I've been following your content on Instagram and so I'm I am
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fanning out a little bit. I'm.
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Very excited to chat with you so thank you for being here.
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Can you start by telling us your son's name and age?
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Yes, his name is Teddy Theodore and he's 6 1/2 months.
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Yeah. Is he like like a pudge six
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months or is he a skinny 6? Yeah, I know.
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I know what you mean. He's tall.
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He's really long. He's very long.
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And like he's like a big, he's like a big boned boy, but he's
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not. He doesn't have a lot of like
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chub. So yeah, but I can sense he's
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going to be kind of be, I don't know, He's like a strong, a
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strong six month old he's. Got a He's got a Midwest man in
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him. Yeah, I think so.
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Yeah. He's a little brawny.
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I would say are. You now where are you originally
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from? I'm from Connecticut.
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OK, wait, we're at Connecticut. From Fairfield County.
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My sister lives in Wilton. Really.
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Yes, and. I'm from.
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Fairfield because she works at, Well, I guess I won't say it,
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I'm here, but she works at a shop and the Fairfield where I
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get actually I can say it 'cause I share it on Instagram all the
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time, Jane and Mercer. Okay.
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I get lots of things, treats from there which are.
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That is such a small world. Yeah, yeah.
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I mean, it's so small that anytime I meet, I went to France
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in September, met someone from Connecticut who was also from
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Fairfield, and she was like, I go to that store all the time.
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Oh my gosh. Well, it does.
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Yeah. There are a lot of a lot of
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people concentrated into like the Fairfield County area in
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terms of like working in New York and stuff.
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But now my family lives like in the center of the state, like
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out in the country as they say it's.
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It's so beautiful there. It's really beautiful and that's
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that. I was going to say city, but
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it's more like a town. Yeah, yes.
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So cute. Yeah, actually took May my
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daughter on a solo trip there to visit my so it was really nice.
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Give us your little like your journey from Connecticut out to
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LA and like how you got into comedy and acting and.
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You know, just. Like life story?
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Nation of the past decade plus. OK, so yeah, I, so I went to
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Northwestern for college out outside of Chicago and studied
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theater there. And when I graduated I was like,
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oh, I'm just going to go to New York.
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And because I did theater in school, but I also was really
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interested in comedy and TV and commercial stuff.
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And so I was like, oh, New York, Best of both worlds, and started
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doing UCB there, got really into comedy, got really into UCB, did
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a lot of improv and started booking commercials and
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television and getting like a lot of interest there.
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And I was auditioning for plays and musicals, like I'm a singer
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as well. And it just wasn't like hitting
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and, and the process of auditioning for theater is so
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hard. It just, I just was like, I
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don't know if this is sustainable, but I was getting a
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lot of traction TV commercial comedy wise.
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So I was like, let's lean in that direction.
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Got married in New York to my college sweetheart and then in
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2019. Out there together, is he?
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He's a couple years. Older than me.
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OK. Yeah.
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But industry at all? So we studied.
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We met doing a play in college, and he's an incredible actor.
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But he was like, as soon as he started auditioning in New York,
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he was like, I need a consistent paycheck.
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And he studied business at Northwestern as well as theater.
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So he was like, let's use that degree.
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Smart, yeah. Yes.
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So he's, it's kind of the best of both worlds though, because
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he is such a great reader for me and like really understands the
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industry and so many of his friends and my friends are all
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in the biz. But he, you know, works in
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digital ad sales, so. Yeah, no, that's kind of
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perfect. Best of both worlds.
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Yeah. Exactly what years were you in?
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When were you in New York? 2013 to 2019.
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OK, so we might have we overlapped.
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Oh no, we just missed each other.
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I was here 20 10/20/12 something.
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OK. OK, wait.
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So side note, actually, do you know Jessica Morgan by chance?
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No. Did she go Northwestern?
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No, she did a lot of UCB in New York.
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OK, OK. Figured I'd ask.
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I feel like, you know, with I'm so much better with faces than
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names. I always remember her face, but
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names her Instagram. Yeah.
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Send me her. Send me her thing.
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And I'm sure I've seen her. There is.
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Yeah. OK, great.
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You're in. New York till 2019.
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Yes. So then, yeah, I moved here a
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little less than a year before COVID and yes, and it was great
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for that first year. And then, yeah, everything shut
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down and everything got very quiet.
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And I was like, OK, what do I do now?
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Like I'm fairly new to the city. Like I only had a commercial
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agent at the time that I kind of held over from New York.
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And I was like, all right, why don't I just start putting stuff
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on the Internet? I think a lot of people were
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doing that at the time. I was like, what are my
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marketable skills? And started doing just like
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accents and impressions and comedy things, literally just
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whatever would pop into my brain.
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And yeah, it gained traction. And yeah, started kind of like
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snowballing and getting bigger and bigger and yeah, kind of as
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so. Just always did you know that
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you could do celebrity impressions and like, how did
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you even get started? Like was that?
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3rd It's funny. UCB or like, yeah, how did you
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Yeah, you're so it's not like you can't, you're not just doing
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one. You're so well at so many.
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So like, how did that? Happen.
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You know, I have been doing impressions since I was a kid,
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like since I was like 6 or something.
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Like forever. Like just as entertainment for
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family and friends. My grandpa was really good at
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impressions. My mom's dad and he used to do
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like bird whistles and stuff. Like truly like, like just
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clearly a mimic, like was able to hear something and just
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immediately repeat it. And I think it's kind of
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hereditary I think sometimes. And it was like normal for me as
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a kid to be doing like wacky impressions and stuff all the
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time. But then, you know, when you go
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to theater school, people aren't like, let's let's teach you how
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to be a different person. You know, it's like very much,
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you know, you're doing Chekov and Shakespeare and whatever
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you're not really doing like, oh, let's figure out what style
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of comedy you are good at. So yeah, I literally just was
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like, I've always, I've always done this for fun, like almost
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like a party trick kind of. And then I put it on the
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Internet. Yeah.
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And then other people were like, oh, you're good at this.
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I was like, oh, OK. Like I had no no concept
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whatsoever that it could be like a.
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Thing. A lucrative thing for me, yeah.
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That's so interesting. So, you know, so do you hear
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that you sound like the person because you know, when you
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listen to yourself, like if I listen to back to this podcast.
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I'm like that's. What I sound like, but you sound
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different in your head. Do you have like a?
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How do you this is so know that you're?
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That I'm doing it. Do you have to do like play it
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back for yourself or is it just off of people telling you how
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much you sound like them? How do you?
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I just, I think I have like, you know, an ear.
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Like, I think, yeah, like, I think I just have like, like,
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'cause I also, I do think it's a singer thing too.
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Like when I was in college, I was in an acapella group and
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there was a lot of sort of, oh, you'd have to listen to this
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thing really quick and then learn it really quickly and know
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that you were doing it right. And I think maybe I, I'm always,
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everyone's always like, oh, how do you get started doing
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impressions? And I'm like, I really do think
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that a lot of it is inherent. Like there is kind of a thing, a
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mimic thing. But then I think it's also a
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muscle, obviously, like you really kind of hone it over
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time. And frankly, like some of these
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impressions, I've done them so often that they just sit in me
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now, like, like they're a role, you know, that I can kind of
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like drop into. It just becomes sort of muscle
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memory. So.
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Yeah. How do you decide which
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characters, or I guess not even characters, which actors and
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characters that you want to impersonate or just like people
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you like and just give it a try. Oh.
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Totally. I mean, a lot of times it's
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people that frankly, like feel good to do, like people with
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really fun and good energy, people with a, with a lot of
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like weird idiosyncrasies, things that are identifiable
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kind of that you can kind of like latch onto.
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But also, you know, a lot of times people request things like
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people are like, oh, I really feel like you would be good at
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so and so. So I'll give it a try.
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But yeah, there are some I just keep coming back to just 'cause
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they feel they feel good to do. Yeah.
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Do you get people to ask you to impersonate them?
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Yeah, well, it's funny. It's mostly like the common
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person like like followers of mine will be like, I wonder what
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it would be like if you did an impression of me and I'm like,
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well, I don't know you so. But I've never had like a an
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actor or celebrity be like, do me next.
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No. Have you ever run into someone
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that you've done an impersonation of?
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I have that go. Yeah, it was good.
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I mean, a lot of times they are very sweetly like fans, like
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they like Melanie Linsky follows me on Instagram and I've done
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I've done her I think once or twice.
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But I met her recently at an event and she was lovely.
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Sweetest. I mean, she's just so sweet.
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But I haven't really like like a lot of times people that I do
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impressions of follow me or have sent me a message or whatever,
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but I've not run into too many in real life.
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That's so interesting, Melanie Linsky, especially because she
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is New Zealand, but like does so like, but you're impersonating
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her as herself and as. Herself.
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Right. Exactly.
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Yeah, yeah. You like, almost only acts as an
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American. Yeah, he's actually really good.
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He's amazing at at accents. Yeah.
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I mean I have a couple videos that are like.
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Yeah. Oh, yeah.
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Oh, she's right. I mean, she's a chameleon in a
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lot of ways. Like, and she's so just like
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such a like sweet, normal, down to earth person, which I just, I
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love. See, I love that.
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I just love when you meet someone, meet an actor that you
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love and they are just so like normal and kind.
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It really makes you like, OK, you know, there are, there are
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good people in this, in this industry.
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Where are they exist? Yes.
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I hope so. When did you like obviously you
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were saying you didn't realize that putting this stuff on the
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Internet will like kind of snowball and then become
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lucrative. How has that been?
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Because I, I feel like, I feel like we're similar ages, but
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like that's somewhat new to be making money on the Internet or
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like through things like that. So you found that as a from like
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kind of a business perspective, like did you, do you have a like
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social media manager who does that stuff for you and like
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what? And like how did you decide, OK,
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it's time? Like I can't I, I can't handle
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the contracts or. XY Yeah, yeah, it's, I think
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like, I don't know, six months after or a couple months after I
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had had like a couple viral videos.
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I got a call from my commercial agent at the time and this was
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like 2020. Yeah.
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So it's pretty quick that, yeah. It was quick and she was like,
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hey, I don't really know what to do with this.
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Like Netflix wants to do, wants you to like do impressions for
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their new show or movie and like, you know, whatever.
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And I was like, Oh, that's fun. I literally was like, didn't
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even think about the fact that they would be paying me to do
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that. I was like, oh, that's so fun.
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Sure, I'll do it. And she was like, OK, great,
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this is the, this is the rate. And I was like, oh, and it
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because it was such a new thing to have influencer marketing.
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Like it just wasn't a thing that you, I knew anything about.
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And that my, my commercial agent at the time was like, I don't
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really know. Like what, you know, the
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contracts were all very new. So after that I was getting like
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somewhat consistent offers to do these kinds of things and my
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commercial agent was just fielding all of them because
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they're not really a specific market for that quite yet.
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Like they're, I feel like 2021 maybe was when I started getting
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reached out to by actual like influencer marketing managers,
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agents. And I was with Abrams at the
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time, which formerly Abrams. And then they started moving
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into some influencer like digital marketing stuff.
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And then Abrams, you know, went the way of the dodo, as I say,
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yeah, RE was reborn and I left them completely.
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And now I have a commercial agent and then separately a
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digital marketing like manager. So and the digital marketing
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manager reached out person you. She did.
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Yeah. Yeah, there's.
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A lot about even your reach where like, you know, cuz as
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actors we're always like trying to get like the next rapper,
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yeah, whatever. So yeah.
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So that says a lot about just your reach in general.
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I mean, I have to say, like the the great thing about having
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being an actor and having an online presence is like, you
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know, your body of work is just online like it, you know, like
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your, your portfolio, your reel is kind of just this whole page
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that you've built. So it's kind of nice.
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Yeah. People really can find you
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pretty easily, which is helpful in many ways.
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Has. There ever been something that
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like you put out and then you're like, oh, that actually wasn't
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good and then deleted yes, all the.
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Time. Oh my God, all the time.
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I can't imagine you doing anything that's not great, but
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Oh yeah. Well, you know, it's not even
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necessarily like, oh, is, oh, this was bad.
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I need to delete it cuz, cuz, you know, while I'm doing
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things, sometimes I'll sit down to shoot something and I'll
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start doing it and I'll halfway through I'll go, oh, this is
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actually like not a good idea. Or like this is kind of won't
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make sense or this won't, this doesn't pan out or whatever, but
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I'll delete things if you know someone I don't know.
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I mean, often times it's just sort of like if the algorithm
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doesn't pick it up and I'm kind of going like, Oh, I don't
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really love this anyway. And you know, or I'll.
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You know, delete it and repost it another time or something.
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But it takes so much like there's so much editing and
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writing and, you know, vetting basically that I do before I
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post it, that pretty much everything I post, I'm like, OK,
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this needs this. This has taken this has gone
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through many rounds. Which is so funny.
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And I guess it's, you know, it's the, it's similar to, I guess
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any art where it's like, if you're good at it, you make it
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look easy because you know, obviously like watching,
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watching your content, watching like professional people to like
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their content. And you're like, oh, but it
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looks like just, it's like a video.
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Like it seems like, oh, how are they making money?
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Like it seems so easy. And then you're like, oh, wait,
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no, you had to write it. You had to edit it, which also
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seems like. Oh well, when you're good at
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yeah. Like it should be easy.
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Yeah. Yeah, You know, it's just
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really, it's time consuming. It really is.
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And you really can get into the weeds of it.
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And especially when you know, like my videos in general are
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pretty heavily edited in terms of, you know, like a lot of
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people will do kind of oh, like I have a lot of comedian friends
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that do like a one take kind of little monologue type thing and
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then just post that. And I'm sure they have to do it
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multiple times to get exactly what they want.
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But like, the actual physical act of editing something on my
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phone is like, surprisingly, it takes a a very long time.
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It's, and that's not to say that it's, yeah, I mean, like, and,
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and I'm very grateful for the fact that like, it's so flexible
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and I can do it anytime. But it is funny because now as a
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parent, I'm like, I really got to carve out the time to edit
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these videos. I was going to say, so now being
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a new mom and you don't have time in the world that you used
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to. I mean, at least hopefully he's
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a good sleeper. We know he's sleeping now.
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In case everyone's wondering, where are your babies?
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Mine is a school, she's a baby and yours is napping.
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So we are, you know, for the moment.
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Yeah, well, it's funny. Yeah.
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He. No, he's a good sleeper.
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He he is. Yeah.
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He naps consistently, which is great.
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Right now he's teething and has a cold, and so he's Lord knows
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how long he'll sleep right now. But yeah.
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But even then, I mean, you know, like, as soon as they go down,
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especially when they're babies, you're like, all right, the
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timer is starting. And now I need to, you know,
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clean his bottles. I need to put the laundry in.
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I need to do this, this and this and.
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Can they sleep OK? Yeah, right.
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You know. Oh.
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Lord no, I don't think I've like.
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Maybe when he was like a fresh newborn I would nap when he
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napped but like. Have to to survive.
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OK, that's right. Exactly.
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But no, I mean, I end up doing a lot once he goes down for the
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night because I know for sure he'll be down.
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But yeah, I mean, and right, Lord knows if I have a self tape
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that's taken up the whole nap time plus, so yeah.
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Yeah, it's it's not it's not the same.
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It's hard. I've found because I always hate
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it, you know, it's annoying before you have kids when people
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with kids are like, you just don't understand.
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You don't have the, I don't have the time that you have.
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And we're like, we only have 24 hours.
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And it's like, no. No, no.
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I don't want to say and obviously we've chosen to become
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and I don't regret it, but we're allowed to complain.
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Yeah, totally. Look.
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I can't count this. I don't.
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It's hard, yes. It's not easy.
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It's not. It's not easy.
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That doesn't mean we don't want to do it.
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Yes, it's true. But it's the same as our.
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It's the same as acting or anything that's worthwhile.
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It's like it's hard. That doesn't mean you don't do
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it. Right.
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Yeah, It's so fun. I still love it.
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Yeah. But it's, yeah, it's, it's, it's
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not easy. Yeah, I've always said I
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somebody else said this recently and they said it better than me.
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But fact that it's like you always hear there's so much
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stuff out there with like parents complaining about, you
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know, the lack of sleep and just like all the things that there
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are to complain about. Like the mess isn't a million
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things, but it's like because that's so much easier to explain
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I think then the joy of it. Because the joy of it I'm like,
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I'm already going to cry just saying the joy.
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It's you. You can't explain with enough
25:04
exaggeration how, like, seeing them smile or laugh, like,
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literally makes you want to die. Like, in the best way, Like, Oh
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yeah, I think that makes sense. Besides.
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And then you're like, OK, well, I can talk about how cleaning
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bottles and not sleeping is horrible like that.
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Right. But well.
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Right. It's, that's the relatable part,
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right? For people who don't have kids
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yet or are choosing not to have kids.
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Like I think, right, you're kind of like, oh, well, you get this
25:35
mess that's tough and like not sleeping well, that's hard.
25:39
But right. The, the, the sort of
25:43
unexplainable parts are the best parts are the unexplainable
25:49
parts. It's like those parts are the
25:52
kind of like you really, you don't know until you know.
25:55
And then once you know, oh, my God, it's a doozy.
25:58
Yeah. It's really.
26:00
Yeah. It's unbelievable.
26:02
But right. Like I, I tell my friends with
26:07
kids all the time, I'm like, I wish I knew.
26:09
Like, I wish I understood, you know, obviously the difficult
26:13
things that you were going through, but also like how it
26:18
euphoric it can be. But also, I think weirdly,
26:23
especially people who don't have kids, I don't know, I feel like
26:27
sometimes people don't want to hear the whole like, oh, it's
26:29
amazing. I love these, you know, They're
26:32
like, I want you to feel, you know, I think people want to be
26:37
validated sometimes in their decision not to have kids, which
26:40
I feel like stunning if kids aren't for you.
26:43
Great. Not for you.
26:43
Because right, it's. It is.
26:47
Yeah. Really start to finish.
26:49
Really, really hard. And also emotionally devastating
26:55
pretty much all the time. I mean, what do they say?
26:58
It's like motherhood is a series of little heart breaks, you
27:01
know? And it's true.
27:04
Yeah. But but right, It's like
27:06
outweighed for me, outweighed by God, just the beauty of the
27:10
whole thing. But yeah, what?
27:13
Was it I was watching something literally I think this this like
27:18
yesterday or today and somebody was saying about how they they
27:24
didn't want kids and obviously great, sure, but they were like
27:28
the idea of having something that needs me all the time and
27:32
is just covered in shit. Like it's not sound appealing to
27:36
me. And I'm like, if that's what you
27:38
think, having a. Yeah, yeah.
27:40
Right. Then don't.
27:41
Definitely don't. But also I'm like.
27:45
What is the baby covered in? Shit, right?
27:47
What parents have you been? It's like.
27:50
Parents, have you been talking to or your baby's just covered
27:53
in shit? But it's because I do think that
27:56
though of people with dogs, I'm like, I don't, I don't know how
28:01
you do it. I'm like, I don't know how you
28:03
do it. You have to walk them outside to
28:05
use the bathroom. Then you have to actually pick
28:09
up their poop like for the rest of their life.
28:12
Emily imagine having a dog and a baby, which I can't, I have.
28:15
I can't. I don't know how you do it.
28:17
I know. It's it's it's over stimulating,
28:22
I'll say that much. It is.
28:25
There's a lot going on at all times.
28:27
This is my dog here, Maple. She's a little, she's like a
28:31
doodle Maple. Yeah, she's, she's very, very,
28:37
she's a great dog, a very sweet dog.
28:38
But she's, you know, it's when you have a kid it it's tough
28:42
because your dog does have to sort of take a, a bit of a back,
28:46
a back seat. But yeah.
28:50
No, I cannot. I cannot imagine elites were in
28:54
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Yeah, it's not too bad in the grand scheme of things.
30:18
So now has since you've become a mom, has like your the like
30:23
content that you want to share. Has that changed at all?
30:27
I mean, as an outsider, it seems like you've stayed pretty
30:30
consistent, but has has anything shifted for you in just like
30:37
what you want to share and want to do and not just with your
30:43
content, but just like overall I guess?
30:47
Yeah, you know, it's funny, I think my, my, my first and major
30:51
instinct was I want to share less about my personal life
30:56
because I am, I feel very obviously protective of Teddy.
31:01
And so I don't really want to show much about him or, you
31:07
know, his situation or anything like that.
31:11
So that is interesting because I feel like previously I was,
31:14
like, posting all these kinds of things on my story.
31:16
And I've always, I've always really tried to maintain like a
31:19
separation in terms of my personal life and social media.
31:23
But obviously, when you have a baby, it like, UPS the ante in
31:27
terms of like, OK, I want to make sure he is safe.
31:32
But in terms of, like, comedy content, Yeah.
31:34
I mean, my whole life has changed.
31:36
It's been a complete 180 shift and so and like, so the way my
31:41
brain works is different now and the way that I think about
31:46
comedy, the things I think are funny, the things I think are
31:51
worth sharing is all different. So yeah, I mean, you know, I'll
31:56
be playing with Teddy and I'll think of something funny and
31:58
I'll go, oh, you know, obviously that's something I would never
32:02
would have thought of pre baby. And yeah, I've been, I've also
32:07
just, I really found, especially in the last couple weeks now
32:12
that I have, I'm kind of like feeling a bit more like myself
32:18
and like, you know, I'll never be my pre pregnancy self,
32:22
obviously. But like she's kind of becoming
32:25
a little bit clearer to me lately.
32:28
All I really want to do is just like connect with other moms and
32:32
like help other moms, help other pregnant people.
32:37
You know, I just like want to share the wealth now and because
32:41
I feel like, I mean, you know, the the mom network is
32:46
unbelievable. I mean, it's like just I could
32:49
cry talking about it. It's like the I have found it to
32:54
be like some of the most like supportive, like incredible
32:58
relationships that I've ever been in is with other other moms
33:02
or friends of mine that are that are moms.
33:04
So I have found that I wanna be like, these are all the baby
33:08
items I like. And do you have any postpartum
33:11
questions? Do you wanna talk to me about
33:14
your birth experience? I just really am like, I wanna
33:18
talk to people about it. Yeah, it's surprising how much
33:22
you can just open up. And almost I'm like almost
33:27
immediately TMI. When I meet other moms, I'm
33:30
like, oh, sorry, are you are you cool?
33:33
With this, yeah, there's there aren't that many spaces to talk
33:40
about that stuff. And like, as we said before,
33:42
it's such a like, like when I gave birth, I remember my
33:46
friends being like welcome to the mom club.
33:47
And I was like, ha, ha. But it is like a real, it's like
33:51
you've opened a curtain into a completely different world in a
33:57
really amazing way. And so I'm almost sort of in awe
34:01
of that and like am marveling at it, especially since I'm a new
34:04
mom. Like, you know, I'm like, oh,
34:06
cool, this is so amazing. And I don't know, I think you
34:12
had a lot of stories about like, sorry, I was just going to say
34:15
I, you, I before I had a baby, I would hear a lot of stories of
34:18
like, oh, moms are so judgmental of each other or like, you know,
34:21
whatever, whatever. I and I just have, I mean, you
34:26
encounter a couple people that sometimes you're like, oh, maybe
34:29
you're not. Maybe your style of being a
34:32
parent is not for me. Or even just like our friendship
34:36
styles are different. But I mean, overwhelmingly it's
34:40
been like just amazingly supportive people.
34:45
So anyway, I'm just like, I really, I'm like, I have this
34:48
platform. I really would love to connect
34:50
more with people about that. And then, you know, I like, have
34:54
married some of my comedy stuff with mom stuff.
34:59
So yeah, it's changed. Yeah, it's like you said what
35:03
you know, you don't know what you don't know.
35:04
So if your friends or you have had babies before you and then
35:10
being like, oh, I didn't know you were going through this.
35:13
Like I wish I could have helped in this way.
35:16
But now all we can do is really like, pay it.
35:19
Forward so exactly. I know.
35:22
I wish I could go back. Yeah.
35:24
But there's, I think almost every person that I've talked to
35:29
that's that's a parent. It's like, Oh, I wish I would
35:34
have done this for my friends when they had a baby because I
35:39
look back on even my sister has two kids and she had two littles
35:44
during the peak of COVID. And I'm like, Oh my God, I
35:50
didn't like send you dinner once.
35:52
Like I didn't do anything because I was like, oh, you seem
35:56
like you got it so. Right, well, and I think.
35:59
I'm so good at like having it all together.
36:02
Yeah, well, and I, I I think there's also this.
36:07
Sorry, what were you, you just. I was just like, we're all just
36:10
keeping it, trying to hold it together is what we're actually.
36:14
Yes, right, exactly. And I feel like yeah.
36:17
And I it's so interesting. I feel like even parents that
36:22
are are actually very good at keeping kids together,
36:25
everything's on, you know, like not even just seeming that way,
36:29
like very capable on IT. Parents.
36:33
I think even those parents, it's like things help of any kind is
36:40
just so meaningful, especially when you have kids because I
36:45
have friends who are like, you seem great.
36:47
You seem like everything's great postpartum.
36:50
I'm like what? I'm like, sure, nothing.
36:52
You know, I, I'm not like my head's not underwater.
36:55
Like I feel relatively good and I'm very lucky in that way, But
37:01
it doesn't mean that I don't appreciate like how are you or
37:05
like can I help you or like, you know, it still is, it still is
37:10
really hard as we said so. As in you, your like your family
37:14
is still in Connecticut. Do you have a family or how have
37:19
you found support out here? Like do you do have you found
37:25
like a babysitter? Does your like?
37:28
Does your do you and your husband like?
37:32
Yeah. Team together.
37:33
I don't know if he works from home or how that works.
37:36
How have you found your support? Yeah, so I, I do have family out
37:43
here. I, my, a lot of my cousins live
37:46
out here. My aunt lives out here.
37:49
My husband's like godmother essentially lives out here who
37:54
we see a lot. But I, I have, I'm so lucky.
37:59
I have like 10 of my closest friends from college live here.
38:04
Like I have. I'm.
38:07
So lucky and we see each other all the time.
38:09
Like my one of my very very best friends from college has a 2
38:13
year old and lives up the street from me.
38:15
So like, oh. I'm so jealous.
38:19
I, I literally, I mean, every time I see, every time I see
38:22
them, all of us are like, we are so, so lucky that we have this
38:26
group. Of people 2 year old a boy or
38:28
girl, a boy even better. Yes, yes.
38:32
So. But yeah, yes, all of my best
38:35
friends have boys. It's so funny.
38:38
Yeah, we all kind of are boy moms together, but my husband
38:43
does, he does work from home, but he's in, he's just in
38:46
meetings all day. So like.
38:48
You know. Yeah, if there's an emergency or
38:51
something, or if, you know, I have often like a last minute
38:55
audition or something, he he can usually, you know, pop in and
39:01
hang out with Teddy for a little bit.
39:03
But we do have a babysitter that comes twice a week for a couple
39:07
hours. To find your babysitter.
39:09
I'm always curious where people are finding friends or like her.
39:14
She's a friend of a friend. I posted to my close friends on
39:18
Instagram actually, and I just was like, do you know anybody
39:21
who anyone know anyone? And she went to Northwestern,
39:24
but after my time and it's just like an awesome, lovely, smart
39:32
training to be a, a therapist in school to be a therapist.
39:35
So yeah, she's awesome. So we got lucky there in terms
39:39
of like she knows people we know and, you know, she's very highly
39:44
qualified for a, a position like this.
39:49
But yeah, every other day. So she's here twice a week, but
39:53
every other day it's it's me. Pretty much, yeah.
39:57
That's that's a lot. How so going back a little bit
40:03
with like the time situation, how do you find that?
40:08
I mean, I can only assume that the the fact that like you.
40:14
Are making an income out of out of this career and your content
40:21
but like how do you continue? To.
40:28
Get be motivated. I don't that's all the only word
40:32
I can think about. But to stay motivated to post
40:36
things like that you're not getting paid for or just like is
40:43
that I mean, for me, I'm like, I don't know, like how you stay
40:50
creative and motivated and just like to do it without getting
40:56
paid. And I say that and I have not
40:57
made a dollar off of mommy woods.
40:59
So I guess I do know, but maybe the the the hope to someday.
41:07
Yes. Well, and you know what, and you
41:09
are, I mean, I think you're helping people.
41:12
I mean, you're connecting with people.
41:13
I mean, there, there are definitely a lot of like, you
41:17
know, benefits obviously to posting on online in general.
41:21
But you know, frankly, it's really hard nowadays to get sort
41:29
of enough energy revved up to do videos.
41:34
And I think what I've sort of shifted towards is, but now I
41:37
really am just trying to make things that are fun for me to
41:41
make. I think previously I would go
41:43
like, oh, what will you know, what might be trending or like
41:47
what, what did well before and maybe I'll do a Part 2 or
41:50
whatever. Now I'm sort of just like,
41:52
because I have to really be excited about it to get the
41:56
energy to do it, frankly. And, you know, I've really, now
42:00
that I do, I am lucky enough to like, you know, do brand
42:03
partnerships and like make a living off of social media.
42:06
Like I, I really see the unpaid videos as sort of feeding the
42:12
beast, basically like kind of watering, watering my little
42:17
plant and you know, keeping. And also like I have this
42:23
audience of people and they're kind of like, all right, where's
42:27
the stuff? You know, like they really they
42:30
have they have gotten me to where I am like I would not be
42:34
able to make a living off of social media if not for people
42:38
following along. So, you know, got to keep keep
42:42
them happy do. You have any tips for creative
42:46
people when for like the that balance of like doing things for
42:59
the likes and the views versus doing things that kind of tickle
43:05
you? Yeah.
43:07
Yeah, I mean, that's my number one piece of advice when people
43:10
say how do I go viral? And I'm like, the algorithm is
43:15
so fickle and it changes all the time.
43:18
There's no pleasing it basically like there's no secret formula
43:22
for like going viral. I really, I really am a huge
43:25
believer in like if you think something is funny, if you think
43:29
something is interesting, if you're drawn to subject matter
43:33
of some kind, someone else is going to be interested in that
43:36
too. Like it's going to find its
43:37
audience somehow. So even if you posted it, like
43:41
there have been videos that I've posted that are so niche and
43:44
random, like impressions of, you know, I think I did something
43:50
that was like impressions of like Dame Maggie Smith and like
43:54
other dames, like having tea, which was like a series, like a
44:01
like Auk series of like tea with the dames or something.
44:04
And I thought it was so funny and I love everyone involved.
44:08
And so I made a video about it. It got very little engagement,
44:12
but it was so fun to make. And there are people that still
44:16
reference that to this day of like, I loved when you made the
44:18
Dames video or I found you from the Dames video or whatever.
44:21
And so I go, OK, yeah, like even if it's not a huge influx of
44:28
followers or likes or, you know, you don't get that big serotonin
44:31
burst of like, Oh my God, this is going viral.
44:35
I think if you think something is fun, absolutely other people
44:39
are going to find it fun too. So and then and then you have
44:42
fun doing it. And then if it doesn't do well,
44:44
oh, well, like you had a good time.
44:46
Versus if you really try to cater towards your audience too
44:49
much and say like, oh, what will they like?
44:52
And then if it doesn't do well, then you're like, OK, well, I
44:54
sacrificed something. Like now I'm just bitter.
44:58
Yeah, exactly. Have you found that?
45:02
Because we've been hearing for so long about, you know, when
45:06
you audition for things that people casting directors are now
45:10
looking at Instagram followers and things like that when it
45:13
comes to casting for acting jobs.
45:17
Have you found that to come up for you at all?
45:23
I think so. I mean, it's hard because I
45:25
think a lot of times it's happening behind the scenes.
45:30
Like rarely. Like there have been a couple of
45:33
auditions actually for commercials specifically where
45:38
they're like, we want real people with social media
45:41
presences for this, like, and the subject matter is like being
45:47
an influencer or doing social media or something.
45:49
So there is that real like 1 to one thing of like, oh, you're on
45:53
social media and this is about someone on social media.
45:55
So we're auditioning you. But I think the, the way it's
46:02
most benefited me, frankly, is just having some notoriety when
46:08
I walk in the room, like, I think it's almost less about
46:12
like, oh, how many followers do you have?
46:13
And it's more like, oh, hi, I've seen your thing.
46:17
Yeah. Like, and I've had some, you
46:20
know, directors before be like, Oh yes, you did the whatever.
46:25
You know, I love your impression of Drew Barrymore or whatever.
46:28
You did the James team. You did the James, didn't you?
46:33
That was you. Yeah.
46:35
So it's more almost that where it's like, so maybe I don't know
46:39
if it was between me and one other person and I had that
46:44
connection because they've seen my videos.
46:47
Then I go, Oh yeah, let's do her.
46:48
We whatever, you know, I have no idea, but it at least makes me
46:52
feel kind of like also warm in the room when people are like,
46:56
Oh yeah, we've seen you or whatever.
46:59
How do you feel when people recognize, because I assume that
47:03
people will recognize you in person to Do people ever come up
47:07
to you and like ask you to do impersonations?
47:12
Yeah, you know, people, people are going.
47:15
To be $20. Please.
47:16
Yeah. I'm like, if you want to pay me
47:18
for it's funny, like I most of the time everyone's so sweet and
47:23
it's just sort of like, oh, I love your videos and like, oh,
47:26
thanks. And we chat for a little bit or
47:28
whatever. But yeah, once in a while I'll
47:29
get someone who just really kind of goes for it and is like,
47:35
wait, wait, do can you just do a little bit of Jennifer Coolidge,
47:38
please? Just just for me.
47:40
And I'm like, it's just so funny.
47:42
I'm like, I don't think you would ever go up to like,
47:44
Leonardo de Capte. Not that I'm nearly anywhere.
47:48
I know what you mean. They'll be like, can you just do
47:50
that? Right, right.
47:51
Like could you can? You pretend you're funny.
47:54
Yeah, do a little wolf at all, right?
47:57
I'm like so. But, you know, I think there's
47:59
something about the Internet where people feel like, oh,
48:03
she's just like me, Like she's just this normal person.
48:06
And I am, it's true. Like, you know, everybody,
48:09
everybody with an iPhone can or anybody with any kind of phone
48:12
can make content. So But yeah, people are for the
48:16
most part, very, like, sweet and respectful.
48:19
And it's great. I mean, I love, I love
48:21
connecting with people in real life because you know, people
48:26
online can be kind of, if you're kind of hiding behind your
48:29
phone, you can say all kinds of weird things, but in person, you
48:34
know, it's almost always like people who are just being really
48:37
kind, so. Yeah, I actually, I didn't even
48:40
think about that before, but I guess because I was like, well,
48:44
what could they possibly say that would be you.
48:49
But I'm sure people will always find a way, won't they?
48:52
How do you deal with that if somebody says something negative
48:55
or you're just like? I try to ignore it.
48:59
Yeah. I mean, I think, I think.
49:02
Sometimes, I guess, yeah. Well, it's hard because
49:04
sometimes people really will. Like when I was pregnant, I
49:08
hadn't announced it or anything yet, but, you know, I was
49:11
pregnant. So I was starting to kind of
49:13
like fill out a little bit, look a little bit different.
49:15
And someone commented, well, somebody's gained a little
49:20
weight. And I was like, oof.
49:24
I just was like, you know. Let's find that person.
49:26
See what? Well, I what's funny is that of
49:30
course the. White man, I'm sure no, it's a
49:34
it's, you know, it's like a. Fitness instructor person who
49:38
was I think probably wanted to be like, Oh yeah, I'm gaining
49:41
weight. I can I buy your whatever, you
49:46
know, stuff like that. So I, I try in those instances
49:49
to just be like, you know, how sad is it that they're spending
49:53
their day going to people's profiles and making, trying to
49:56
make other people feel like shit like that is such a bummer.
50:01
Yeah. And I'm out here trying to like
50:03
be joyful and make people laugh. And I'm going to just focus on
50:07
that and not on like, you know, but I get mostly what I get is
50:10
like, you know, keep your day job and stuff like that.
50:15
Which is funny because I'm like, this is my day job.
50:18
I'm like I hate to break it to you but your comment is actually
50:23
helping me, you know, keep my day job which is this.
50:28
That's weird too, because right, Isn't it kind of like a comment
50:31
as a comment, We're oh. Yeah, yeah, engagement is
50:35
engagement. So yeah, if you don't like
50:37
someone, don't comment on their stuff because you'll just keep
50:40
getting their stuff. But also do comment because.
50:46
Right. Always comment on my stuff.
50:48
Please always like share, subscribe.
50:51
Let me know. Literally, you know, all over
50:54
the comment section. Yeah, yeah.
50:57
At a time please. Yeah, literally.
50:59
I mean, look, there's no pleasing everybody.
51:01
So like, I know when I post something like not everyone is
51:04
going to be like, you're amazing.
51:07
So you know, I just tried to take it all with a grain of
51:09
salt. But I will say for everyone, you
51:11
are amazing. That's very nice.
51:14
Thank you so much. It's.
51:16
It's great to have to just have your feed, whatever it is you
51:24
see. I'm so good at this for content.
51:27
Your feed that's like, that is just fun and something that we
51:33
can all just like, get a chuckle at and be impressed by.
51:39
And there's no like, because, I mean, you know, the Internet,
51:45
especially like Instagram, there's so much like, not good
51:50
stuff that it is fun. It is nice and refreshing to
51:53
have something that's just nice and fun and yeah.
51:58
You don't have to think too hard about it.
52:00
Yeah, think about it. It's a dark, it's a dark time.
52:04
It really, really is. And yeah.
52:07
And it's really, definitely easy to especially online, like fall
52:10
down into just rabbit holes kind of of despair.
52:15
So yeah, honestly, that that's all I've been trying to do my
52:18
whole life. I mean, it's why I'm an actor
52:19
like, and it's why I love comedy because it's so powerful.
52:25
I think to make people laugh. Like comedy is so joy is so
52:31
powerful. And so it's cool.
52:35
It's very cool that I get to kind of, I think what's hard
52:39
about being online and being a comedian, the one of the only
52:41
things that's hard really is that you don't get the like, I
52:46
love doing live comedy because you get the laugh, like you get
52:49
the immediate feedback and you get to connect with people.
52:55
So online, you're kind of like, is anybody out there?
52:59
But you reach such, you know, so many more people, which is which
53:04
is great. Yeah, yeah.
53:07
But well, I know we are. I don't want to take your his
53:11
entire nap away from you. So I'm going to do a few quick
53:15
rapid fires and then I'll I'll let you go and hopefully you'll
53:18
have like a minute to pee and get a drink for coffee or
53:21
something. OK, Who is your favorite person
53:26
to do an impression of? Drew Barrymore, it's good.
53:31
It's a good. He feels good.
53:34
What coffee or wine? I mean, I'm a matcha girl, so
53:41
here you go, matcha. Surprise third choice.
53:48
OK, would you OK when he's down if you're not doing a podcast?
53:54
Well, I guess we kind of already talked about this, but sleep or
53:56
scroll, those are your only two choices.
53:58
You can't do other work. Oh, sleep.
54:01
I mean, I wish I should. What is a parenting hack that
54:11
you have found? Or like parenting advice that
54:14
you wish you? Let's just start with the hack.
54:18
What's it? Do you have a good parenting?
54:20
Oh gosh, I mean I'm fairly new at it, so I'm learning, learning
54:25
things everyday. I would say like, I mean, as
54:30
hard as it is, like get outside if you can.
54:34
Like I do really feel like that seems to turn everybody's kind
54:38
of day around mine and the babies.
54:42
So yeah. But I'm sure check back, you
54:45
know, in a while and I'm sure I'll have much better, much
54:48
better tips. Have you had any parenting fails
54:55
that you can laugh at now? Oh man, Oh yeah.
54:59
I mean, I don't even know if it this is a fail, but I do think
55:03
back and laugh about how when Teddy was first born, I, I cried
55:10
and look, I obviously postpartum you're very hormonal and I don't
55:14
I don't regret this. I'm not embarrassed, but I laugh
55:17
thinking about this. But I cried for I think 3 days
55:20
straight. Like I could not stop crying
55:22
about the fact that he would one day get married.
55:30
Like I just was like I could not even fathom the thought of him
55:35
like loving someone that wasn't me.
55:38
And I was like this is toxic boy mom shit Like I need to have a
55:43
reality check. But I do think back on that
55:46
because I really was like so heartbroken over that.
55:48
But now I'm like, OK, you know, this is life.
55:52
It's very real in the moment, but yeah, it's very.
55:54
Real in the moment, yes, but in hindsight it'll be OK.
56:00
OK, but what's a parenting win that you've had?
56:05
Oh, oh, Oh my gosh, I'm going to cry.
56:09
I feel like I making gosh making Teddy laugh is like.
56:16
The best, right? I feel like a superhero when I
56:20
make him laugh. So yes, that's.
56:23
Good, yes, it's that's one of the explainable where you're
56:27
like their laugh is like. I crave it.
56:32
So good. Yeah, it's so good.
56:34
Like May was a hard 1. I feel like she didn't.
56:37
She was a hard nut to crack away.
56:40
A tough audience. But now she because she's 3 1/2
56:47
now, so she is a chatterbug. So she But now she is the one.
56:52
If she says something and you laugh, she is like.
56:56
She's like. I am all in and I'm like Oh no.
57:02
She's a little ham. We have a ham on our hands.
57:06
I. Love it.
57:08
It's so funny though. Yeah, once they get talking.
57:11
Oh God. So Speaking of though, if you're
57:15
if Teddy could talk, what do you think he would roast you about
57:19
first? Oh my gosh, I mean, yeah, how
57:22
much I cry. Probably.
57:24
Like sometimes I'll just be looking at him and be like, you
57:27
know, and he's like, Oh my God, like, get over it.
57:31
Yeah. Or honestly, like I, I will say,
57:34
because I'm so obsessed with getting him to laugh, There's a
57:36
lot of clowning that's going on. Like, there's a lot of, you
57:40
know, I'm really going for it. I'm working hard.
57:45
Yeah. Literally.
57:46
He's like, take it down a notch. Yeah.
57:49
I think he'd be like, we can turn the dial down a little bit
57:51
on the on the on the comedy. What is the worst advice you've
57:58
ever gotten for comedy and for motherhood?
58:03
Parenting. For for comedy, Oh gosh, the
58:07
worst advice. Or just acting in general, I
58:10
guess, yeah. You know, I would say anytime
58:14
someone's been like, oh, you need to change for any reason.
58:22
I think what I've come to find is like uniqueness and being
58:28
yourself is like actually the biggest commodity, like the best
58:33
thing you can do for for yourself and your career and for
58:35
your like self worth, frankly, and it's all connected.
58:40
The worst parenting advice. Oof.
58:43
I mean, I think anybody who's like, I mean, kind of the same
58:49
advice, like anyone who's like, you will never be able to do
58:54
this anymore. You'll never be able to do that
58:56
anymore. Like you're going to be stuck at
58:58
home with your baby and blah, blah.
59:00
It's more like that's the worst. Kind of like there's a lot of
59:03
fear mongering that I was given of like just wait, you'll never
59:07
sleep again and you'll blah, blah, blah.
59:08
All the negativity because I feel like each parent is
59:13
different and you get to make the rules like you get to decide
59:18
how your house is going to, you know, how you, how you get to
59:21
decide what kind of parent you're going to be.
59:23
Your, your baby doesn't necessarily get to decide that
59:26
for you. Sometimes you're kind of like,
59:28
well, I'm, you know, got to do what they want to do, but you're
59:33
the captain of your own ship, you know, so.
59:36
Yeah, I always, I always feel like like parenting does gets a
59:43
bad rap. You're like, wait, there is so
59:46
much good, yes. There's so much good.
59:49
Well, and there's like there is, there's more, there's much more
59:54
within your control than people make you think.
59:59
I think because I, I think when I got pregnant, I was like very
1:00:02
excited because it was a, you know, very desired pregnancy.
1:00:05
But I did worry like, oh God, like.
1:00:08
My husband and I will never be the same.
1:00:09
Our life will never be the same. We'll never be able to do this.
1:00:11
We won't be able to do this. And it's like, you know, I'm,
1:00:16
when he was like 6 weeks old, I was like sitting having a
1:00:19
Margarita, like chatting with my friend, you know, like life, I
1:00:24
think that's what it is. It's like, I would often hear
1:00:26
like life kind of ends when you have a baby.
1:00:30
And I feel like, sure, life changes a lot, but it's, it kind
1:00:35
of begins, you know, life kind of begins in an interesting way
1:00:39
once you have kids. So yeah.
1:00:42
Yeah, yeah. I'm like, I'm going to movies by
1:00:45
myself. I'm doing all.
1:00:48
That, yeah. And look like it's not going to
1:00:50
hit the same. It's not.
1:00:51
It's certainly not. I am not the same person living
1:00:54
the same life as I was before pregnancy.
1:00:58
But it's it's certainly full of much, much, much more joy and
1:01:03
freedom than people led me to believe.
1:01:07
OK, and you're fine. My final question what advice
1:01:10
would you give an an actor who's thinking about becoming a parent
1:01:17
or trying to? Do I would say like, first of
1:01:25
all, everything will be OK. No one's going to forget about
1:01:28
you. I think that was my biggest fear
1:01:30
is like, oh, everyone's going to forget about me and whatever,
1:01:33
whatever. No, I and like, I think I just
1:01:38
always think about when I'm on my deathbed one day, I think I
1:01:41
will be thinking like I am surrounded by these wonderful
1:01:46
people that I love that I made rather than like, oh, I really
1:01:52
wish I had gotten that guest star on that procedural.
1:01:58
You know, like, I think really follow your instincts, like in
1:02:05
terms of what you want in your personal life and the goals that
1:02:09
you have in your personal life and in terms of like having
1:02:12
children, starting a family, let that take priority and your
1:02:17
career will be OK. It'll be fine.
1:02:20
You'll figure it out. Yeah, I love that.
1:02:23
Yeah. It's like you kind of have to
1:02:25
look at big picture as opposed to like, which is hard to say in
1:02:30
the moment because of course I'm like, can I get a coaster?
1:02:33
Yeah. I know, no, I know, but.
1:02:36
But yeah, grand scheme where you're like, I also don't want
1:02:40
to be, you know, 60 and being like, oh, I wanted to have kids
1:02:46
and now I don't have a coast I don't have.
1:02:49
AI don't have either, right? Yeah, like you have to just do
1:02:53
like you really have to just do it, do it not, not worry that
1:02:59
somehow this is going to like screw up your career or
1:03:02
whatever. Like you have to do what you,
1:03:06
what you feel called to do in your private life.
1:03:09
And the rest will will follow. And also, frankly, I mean, as
1:03:12
we've discussed on this call, like motherhood, parenthood, as
1:03:17
people always say, like your heart cracks wide open and your
1:03:21
and your emotions are just like, right here, you know, like
1:03:25
they're right there, right on the surface.
1:03:27
And you're experiencing things like, and, you know, being an
1:03:32
actor is basically just pulling from your own life, your own
1:03:37
experiences and parts of your brain and your heart open up
1:03:41
that just you never thought were possible.
1:03:44
And I think it it feeds into acting.
1:03:48
And like, I think it could make you a better performer, a harder
1:03:51
worker. Like, there are a lot of
1:03:54
benefits to it, too. Yeah.
1:03:57
You love. That well, thank you so much for
1:04:02
being a Bobby one. It was so great to chat with you
1:04:06
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1:04:09
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