Why We Defend People Who Don't Deserve It

Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Podcast · May 9, 2026 · 13m

Ever notice how quick we are to defend people who've done nothing to earn it? Not just in private—loudly, publicly, with our whole chest. Even when we know better.This episode explores the mass loyalty paradox: that cultural pattern where people line up to defend leaders, partners, and institutions that have genuinely let them down. And here's what most people miss: this loyalty doesn't come from nowhere. It was taught to you. Systematically. Through thousands of small moments designed to make you believe that your role is to hold the system together—not question whether the system serves…