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Romeo In The Morning 8-3-26 · Romeo In The Morning

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  Speaker 1: That was going on. Everybody, it's Romeo. We made it
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  Speaker 1: through the weekend. We're back.
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  Speaker 2: We talked about that one hundred degree heat that's happening
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  Speaker 2: in Bakersfield. Guy was asking about a girl he was dating.
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  Speaker 2: I guess she asked him a hypothetical question about if
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  Speaker 2: she broke up with him, would he chase her? And
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  Speaker 2: then we talked about living with someone. Never let someone
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  Speaker 2: live with you, right, could cause problems in your relationship.
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  Speaker 1: Let's check it out. The guy was asking me.
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  Speaker 2: He says, rome after ten years in a relationship and
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  Speaker 2: it ends after a year not being together, being with
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  Speaker 2: other people, is it possible to make it work again
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  Speaker 2: with that person?
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  Speaker 1: It is?
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  Speaker 2: I think it's absolutely. I think it's one hundred percent possible.
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  Speaker 2: And not only is it possible, it's probably pretty easy
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  Speaker 2: to do. Even with somebody for a decade, its long time.
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  Speaker 2: Alrighty four, two, five, four or seven to seven? How
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  Speaker 2: what's going on?
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  Speaker 3: Good morning? I was calling him a comments on the
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  Speaker 3: long relationship.
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  Speaker 1: Oh yeah, ten years.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, I just ended a relationship for fifteen years and
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  Speaker 3: I found out he was shooting on me the whole time. Yeah,
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  Speaker 3: this man begged for me back for two years. When
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  Speaker 3: I friend zowned him. So, yeah, man, a piece of work.
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  Speaker 2: Well, let's be honest. So your relationship will never work
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  Speaker 2: again with him.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, we just a break for the two years, and
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  Speaker 3: we were chess friends and I didn't want anything, like,
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  Speaker 3: I didn't want to get back into the relationship. But
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  Speaker 3: he beg for me back for two years. Told me
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  Speaker 3: how he changed chess right now, it was the same
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  Speaker 3: exact person.
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  Speaker 2: Wait wait, wait, you got back together with him for
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  Speaker 2: a little bit. Yes, Oh my gosh, Why are you
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  Speaker 2: girls so dumb?
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  Speaker 1: What is wrong with you?
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  Speaker 3: I don't know. I guess I want you to believe
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  Speaker 3: in the fairy tale love that's not real.
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  Speaker 1: Fifteen years is a long time, though. I got to
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  Speaker 1: give fifteen years a long time to be with somebody.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, all right, to deal with somebody.
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  Speaker 1: Was it was.
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  Speaker 2: It easy to get back in relationship with him after
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  Speaker 2: the two years or was it difficult?
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  Speaker 3: You know what for the two years when we were
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  Speaker 3: just by king now we were just friends. I honestly
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  Speaker 3: thought he changed. Oh god, I was like, you know what,
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  Speaker 3: everybody was rooting for him, So I was like, you
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  Speaker 3: know what, let me try, let me see things are
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  Speaker 3: going to work out. Let's try to move forward. But
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  Speaker 3: I just realized he just started pulling back right after
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  Speaker 3: he started to have all my attention again.
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  Speaker 2: And yeah, when whoever everybody was that was rooting for
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  Speaker 2: them for him, tell everybody they're stupid.
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  Speaker 3: They've had an airpool change.
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  Speaker 1: What good luck finding the new guy. If you're looking
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  Speaker 1: for one, you see later. Bye.
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  Speaker 2: But I see That's kind of my point is this
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  Speaker 2: guy was asking about, you know, ten years off, you know,
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  Speaker 2: being in a relationship for ten years and then being
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  Speaker 2: separated for a year. Is it possible to get back together?
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  Speaker 2: It is because it's easy because you've known that person.
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  Speaker 3: Now.
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  Speaker 1: Obviously the cheating, I don't know, why why did you? Guys?
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  Speaker 1: I guess i'd have to ask that question.
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  Speaker 2: After ten years of being together, why did you take
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  Speaker 2: a year off from each other?
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  Speaker 1: What happened?
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  Speaker 2: Cheating probably is one of those things that you're not
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  Speaker 2: going to be able to get back together.
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  Speaker 1: But if it was.
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  Speaker 2: Something else, job, I don't know. There's a lot of
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  Speaker 2: other things that could have caused you to split. So
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  Speaker 2: why did you split, you know, after ten years? So
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  Speaker 2: a guy texting me, he said, is it possible after
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  Speaker 2: being in a ten year relationship then breaking up for
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  Speaker 2: a year. Is it possible to get back together with
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  Speaker 2: that person and make it work again. I think a
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  Speaker 2: lot of people make try try again, right, I would
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  Speaker 2: think it would be yes, you can do it.
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  Speaker 1: I guess it.
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  Speaker 2: Depends on now that the last girl called and talked
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  Speaker 2: about she was in a fifteen year relationship and she
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  Speaker 2: broke up with a guy because he was a cheater.
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  Speaker 2: I guess the reason you broke up would have to
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  Speaker 2: play a huge and I guess before I could say one,
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  Speaker 2: it would be you could do it again.
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  Speaker 1: So I don't know.
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  Speaker 2: Already four two five four seven to seven. Hey, rome
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  Speaker 2: tell that girl that I'm the new guy for her. Well,
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  Speaker 2: I mean, I'm sure everybody's rooting for you, so, but yeah,
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  Speaker 2: already four two pip four seven to seven a Romeo.
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  Speaker 2: After ten years, if it doesn't work out and they've
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  Speaker 2: gone their separate ways and found out there's more out there,
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  Speaker 2: then I don't see how they can get back together.
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  Speaker 1: Well, that's the thing. I guess you're right.
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  Speaker 2: We were talking to one person whoever sent the text
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  Speaker 2: message saying we've been together ten years, why did you
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  Speaker 2: break up? And how does the other person feel about
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  Speaker 2: it is the other person that you're talking about.
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  Speaker 1: Do they want to try again?
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  Speaker 2: Or do you?
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  Speaker 1: Are you the only one that wants to try again?
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  Speaker 2: I mean, I guess there's a lot of questions that
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  Speaker 2: really need to be answered before could give you an
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  Speaker 2: accurate response. I mean, if you both want to try
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  Speaker 2: again after a year of being apart and found out
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  Speaker 2: that there isn't anything else.
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  Speaker 1: Out there, well that's the other thing.
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  Speaker 2: Did you guys find out there's just not anybody better
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  Speaker 2: than what you have out there? So now you're going
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  Speaker 2: back to each other because well that's what you know?
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  Speaker 2: Or did you give it a real shot during the
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  Speaker 2: year that you said you've been apart, did you give
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  Speaker 2: it a real shot to try to find something better?
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  Speaker 2: I mean that Yeah, I guess there's just too many questions,
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  Speaker 2: but I but just I guess in general, I would say,
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  Speaker 2: if you've been with somebody for a decade and maybe
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  Speaker 2: you got divorced, I mean, you got you broke up
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  Speaker 2: for I don't know any other reason than cheating.
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  Speaker 1: Or you know, any of the other things that you really.
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  Speaker 2: Shouldn't be together for, then you probably it would probably
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  Speaker 2: be real easy to make it work again. If you
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  Speaker 2: both wanted that right, you find out that life isn't
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  Speaker 2: really better without that person. Maybe I don't know already
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  Speaker 2: four two five or seven to seven, guy said, Rome.
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  Speaker 1: After ten years in.
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  Speaker 2: A relationship, if it ends and after a year being together,
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  Speaker 2: are not being together being with other people? As if
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  Speaker 2: possible to make it work again with that person, Like
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  Speaker 2: I said, there's some questions. So he did send me
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  Speaker 2: the answer to some of those questions. Access get back
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  Speaker 2: together all the time, by the way, that's just a
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  Speaker 2: lot of access. Figure out find out that it's harder
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  Speaker 2: to start over again, so they'll get back together with
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  Speaker 2: an ax just because it's easier and they don't want
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  Speaker 2: to put.
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  Speaker 1: All that work in.
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  Speaker 2: So I can see it working.
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  Speaker 1: Hey, Rome, it was a mixture of me.
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  Speaker 2: I'm the guy drinking too much of hating with hating, uh,
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  Speaker 2: hating or hanging with the bros, a little flirting with women.
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  Speaker 2: She caught me but never cheated physically. We have three
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  Speaker 2: kids together, but we're trying to work it out.
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  Speaker 1: But I don't know.
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  Speaker 2: Things are looking things looking great, but we've been with
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  Speaker 2: other people. Uh, things are looking great, but we've been
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  Speaker 2: with other people within the year. Okay, so you guys
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  Speaker 2: are gonna let sex hold. You know, the insecurity of
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  Speaker 2: having sex with somebody else when you're split up. Is
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  Speaker 2: that an insecurity for you or her? But if you're
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  Speaker 2: drinking and hanging, I mean that's cheating. By the way, flirting,
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  Speaker 2: mind you, Rome, we're still in love. She's always wondering
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  Speaker 2: where am I at, what am I doing? Show up
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  Speaker 2: to my pads sometimes to see what I'm doing as
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  Speaker 2: as me not much, but I but I do love her.
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  Speaker 2: I do ask her questions. Within the year we've broken up.
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  Speaker 2: I mean, sounds like you're made for each other.
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  Speaker 1: How old are you, guys? You guys young? How old
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  Speaker 1: are you.
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  Speaker 2: To me?
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  Speaker 1: I'm gonna be honest with you.
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  Speaker 2: Some of you guys might not like this answer, but
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  Speaker 2: I think y'all could be together. I think I think
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  Speaker 2: you've got a couple of things to work out. But
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  Speaker 2: I think with three kids, and I mean, you gotta
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  Speaker 2: stop flirting with women, She's gonna accept that and still
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  Speaker 2: stay with you. Just stop flirting with women, I mean,
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  Speaker 2: stop hanging out with your buddies.
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  Speaker 1: Sounds like you're a little immature.
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  Speaker 2: I don't know how you're immature with a with a
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  Speaker 2: woman and three kids, but you're still there. Sounds like
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  Speaker 2: you got to grow up a little bit. But yeah,
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  Speaker 2: I mean if you both still love each other and
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  Speaker 2: there's no real, real, real, real insecure infidelity there, then yeah,
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  Speaker 2: I think you can work it out. You just gotta
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  Speaker 2: just gotta grow up a little bit.
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  Speaker 1: Man.
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  Speaker 2: Stop hanging out with this. Stop hanging out with your friends. Man,
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  Speaker 2: hang out with your wife and kids. If that's what
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  Speaker 2: you you know, if you really want it. If you don't,
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  Speaker 2: then no, it won't work. If you're not willing to
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  Speaker 2: commit to the woman and the three kids, then it
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  Speaker 2: won't work.
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  Speaker 1: Okay. This guy sent me this text message. He was
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  Speaker 1: talking about how.
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  Speaker 2: Ten years in a relationship they separated for a year,
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  Speaker 2: can they make it work again? And I guess it
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  Speaker 2: was a mixture. The reason they broke up was he
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  Speaker 2: was drinking, hanging out with his friends. I guess, flirting
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  Speaker 2: with women.
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  Speaker 1: She caught him.
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  Speaker 2: I guess he never really cheated. If you if you
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  Speaker 2: don't consider flirting cheating. I guess they got three kids together,
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  Speaker 2: they both love each other, apparently, just he sounds like
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  Speaker 2: a child and needs Oh yeah, here, thank you for
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  Speaker 2: your answer, Rome, I look forward to your advice. We're
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  Speaker 2: both thirty five, So yeah, you're still young. I mean,
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  Speaker 2: thirty five is you probably. I hate to say this,
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  Speaker 2: and I know it's gonna sound funny, but I think
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  Speaker 2: thirty five is still you're still in that window of
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  Speaker 2: not being mature enough for a family, and it sounds
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  Speaker 2: to me like you're just you're not there yet. So
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  Speaker 2: thirty five does make more sense on why you're still
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  Speaker 2: drinking and hanging out with your friends and not just
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  Speaker 2: there for your family. I think thirty five is a
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  Speaker 2: little young for that.
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  Speaker 1: It doesn't mean.
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  Speaker 2: It doesn't mean you shouldn't have kids by thirty five,
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  Speaker 2: you shouldn't be married by thirty five. It just means
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  Speaker 2: I think there's still a lot of immaturity there, and
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  Speaker 2: you guys got to.
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  Speaker 1: Work through it. I think that's so hopefully you guys
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  Speaker 1: will work through it.
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  Speaker 2: Maybe you will, maybe you won't. Well, I guess we'll
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  Speaker 2: see what happens. But I hope you guys work through
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  Speaker 2: it for the kid's sake, for your relationship's sake. I mean,
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  Speaker 2: thirty five, I think with what you've said, thirty five
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  Speaker 2: makes a lot of sense. I think you guys can
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  Speaker 2: get through it. Just stop spend more time with your families.
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  Speaker 2: Stop flirting with women. I was texted about being in
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  Speaker 2: a relationship for ten years, got three kids with this woman.
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  Speaker 2: They've been apart for a year, he says. They've been
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  Speaker 2: with other people and now he's trying to figure out
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  Speaker 2: if they can make it work again. Absolutely you can.
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  Speaker 2: I mean one of the problems why he was was
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  Speaker 2: one of the problems with the relationship was he was
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  Speaker 2: hanging out with his friends too much, drinking, flirting with women.
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  Speaker 2: He said he never really physically had sex with anybody.
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  Speaker 2: So I guess if she's going to accept that and
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  Speaker 2: be okay with it, then why shouldn't you.
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  Speaker 1: And man up? Grow up?
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  Speaker 2: You know, that's all you really got to do is
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  Speaker 2: grow up. They did say, though. He did say they
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  Speaker 2: were both thirty five years old, so kind of young.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, not young, but kind of young.
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  Speaker 2: You know, you still expect childish antics out of a
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  Speaker 2: thirty five year old. And that's why I wanted to
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  Speaker 2: say that is because somebody said, hey, Romeo, did you
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  Speaker 2: just say that thirty five was kind of young to
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  Speaker 2: have kids and a wife. I started and my family
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  Speaker 2: are twenty two. I said, yes, I did say that,
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  Speaker 2: but because when what, uh, how old are you now?
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  Speaker 2: Times are different. A thirty five year old in today
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  Speaker 2: is far different than a thirty five year old, let's
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  Speaker 2: say in the nineties. They're different people. So that's why
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  Speaker 2: I said thirty five today is kind of young. Now
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  Speaker 2: a thirty five year olds are not all the same
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  Speaker 2: based on the decades. That's why I said they're kind
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  Speaker 2: of young. So you still expect those antics out of
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  Speaker 2: a thirty five year old, you know, hanging out with
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  Speaker 2: his buddies drink.
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  Speaker 1: Actually, I shouldn't say that.
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  Speaker 2: You probably still expect those antics out of a thirty
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  Speaker 2: five year old in the eighties and nineties too. You're
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  Speaker 2: not you still want to hang out with your buddies.
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  Speaker 2: You're still you know, thirty five. You should still be
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  Speaker 2: in great shape, look good, working hard, and you want
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  Speaker 2: to hang out. You don't really want a family tying
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  Speaker 2: you down, a wife and kids. And that goes for
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  Speaker 2: her as well. You know, she's probably tied down with
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  Speaker 2: three kids at thirty five. For she's not happy. She'd
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  Speaker 2: like to be out there, you know, holding it up
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  Speaker 2: at thirty five, having a good time, just like you were,
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  Speaker 2: you know, just like this guy was with his friends
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  Speaker 2: so yeah, you got to get that in line. So
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  Speaker 2: that's what I meant by thirty five, thirty five is
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  Speaker 2: still thirty five is rough to be married, to be married,
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  Speaker 2: or they weren't married, but to have kids, to have
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  Speaker 2: a wife and kids, or a husband and kids at
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  Speaker 2: thirty five is rough, you know, because you're still you're
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  Speaker 2: still in the prime of your life. You know, we
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  Speaker 2: made it to August. Man, summer is almost over. When'd
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  Speaker 2: you send me her?
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  Speaker 1: Oh?
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  Speaker 2: This must be gil Rod, right, he send me a
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  Speaker 2: picture Santa Cruz. Good morning, Rome, It's a beautiful day
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  Speaker 2: in Santa Cruz.
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  Speaker 1: Have a good day.
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  Speaker 2: I'm not gonna miss that baco. What it is going
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  Speaker 2: to be hot? What are you guys gonna do with
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  Speaker 2: this baco heat the next few days? I mean, it's
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  Speaker 2: gonna be what is I was gonna check the temperature
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  Speaker 2: right now and see what the heat was gonna be
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  Speaker 2: this week. I heard it was gonna be hot. Let's
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  Speaker 2: see one hundred and nine today, one hundred and eight
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  Speaker 2: or eight hundred nine on Friday, hundred eleven Saturday, hundred
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  Speaker 2: and ten on Sunday, and then one hundred and one
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  Speaker 2: on Monday.
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  Speaker 1: Whoa big boy it's gonna be hot. You guys better
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  Speaker 1: stay cool, right. I don't mind the heat. I'm not
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  Speaker 1: like the rest of y'all. I don't care. I don't
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  Speaker 1: care about the heat. It doesn't bother me at all.
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  Speaker 1: So I like going.
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  Speaker 2: I actually like when it's over one hundred and two
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  Speaker 2: three four five. That means I can go play golf
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  Speaker 2: with nobody out there. The rounds go a lot quicker.
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  Speaker 2: All right, Ay forour two five, four, seven to seven.
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  Speaker 2: We'll go, Rod, I'm glad you're sitting by the beach
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  Speaker 2: with a tall boy. Don't stay uh, don't get too cold,
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  Speaker 2: all right, already, four two five, four, seven to seven?
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  Speaker 2: All right?
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  Speaker 1: What'd you text me here?
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  Speaker 2: Yo? Roam?
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  Speaker 1: How about them six flags Hurricane Harbor? Please?
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  Speaker 2: You know, if I had some, i'd give you some.
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  Speaker 2: I mean, that's a good way to beat the heat,
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  Speaker 2: Hurricane Harbor. But I don't have any of those tickets.
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  Speaker 2: We got to just focused on backpacks right now and
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  Speaker 2: getting you guys ready for back to school, giving away
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  Speaker 2: those backpacks, yo. Room. As a mailman, we just keep
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  Speaker 2: on going. Everything feels the same after a hundred You know,
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  Speaker 2: how does that work as a mailman? Do you guys
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  Speaker 2: have air conditioning in those mail trucks or are they
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  Speaker 2: fans or what are they? Or does it even matter
• 15:36
  Speaker 2: because you got to be.
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  Speaker 1: What, well, you don't.
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  Speaker 2: I don't know how mailman works anymore, because now some
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  Speaker 2: neighborhoods have just those central boxes. Some neighborhoods you still
• 15:46
  Speaker 2: have to go house to house, right, So.
• 15:49
  Speaker 1: How does that work?
• 15:51
  Speaker 2: You want to talk about mailman's We used to have
• 15:53
  Speaker 2: a mailman in my dad's neighborhood, and he was an
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  Speaker 2: old ex hippie, and you'd see him some nights out
• 16:01
  Speaker 2: there with a flashlight putting mail in the mailboxes because
• 16:04
  Speaker 2: you'd find them asleep. Sometimes you just find them crashed
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  Speaker 2: out in the neighborhood, sleeping in his mail truck. You
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  Speaker 2: always got your mail, You just can get it always
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  Speaker 2: at the same time, every day. Already four seven to seven,
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  Speaker 2: But I'm with the mailman.
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  Speaker 1: Anything over one hundred, it doesn't matter.
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  Speaker 2: The heat is not The heat is bad for certain
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  Speaker 2: sensitive groups, of course, but for regular, old, healthy people,
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  Speaker 2: the heat stop bad.
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  Speaker 1: You guys need to stop.
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  Speaker 2: Already four two four seven seven, Yo, rom I'm out
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  Speaker 2: here in these fields in this hundred degree weather.
• 16:38
  Speaker 1: Man, it's hard to stay cool.
• 16:40
  Speaker 2: You gotta get lots of ice water, lots of salt
• 16:44
  Speaker 2: in that water to keep you hydrated. Sometimes, Rome I'll
• 16:48
  Speaker 2: be getting off work and not even a beer cools
• 16:51
  Speaker 2: me down. Ah well, you know, I do feel I
• 16:57
  Speaker 2: do feel for you guys out there, and though you know,
• 16:59
  Speaker 2: working up working those working in the patch, doing all
• 17:01
  Speaker 2: those working out in the oil fields or oil patch
• 17:06
  Speaker 2: or whatever you call it. But your cat's out there
• 17:08
  Speaker 2: building houses and all these cats out there working in
• 17:10
  Speaker 2: that hundred degree.
• 17:11
  Speaker 1: Weather, and yeah, it's tough to cool down, it really is.
• 17:16
  Speaker 2: Sometimes you gotta Yesterday, I just had I just roastated
• 17:20
  Speaker 2: tim tires. It took me about thirty minutes to do it.
• 17:23
  Speaker 2: And I had to jump in the pool just a
• 17:26
  Speaker 2: and now. And that wasn't even hardly any work at all,
• 17:30
  Speaker 2: but I still had to jump in the pool to
• 17:31
  Speaker 2: cool off. But yeah, man, it's tough. And that beer
• 17:34
  Speaker 2: didn't even hit. That beer didn't even hit. You know,
• 17:37
  Speaker 2: we had some beers afterwards, and it didn't even cool.
• 17:40
  Speaker 2: Sometimes you just need a nice cold drink. That's what
• 17:43
  Speaker 2: you need, you know, That's what you need that once
• 17:46
  Speaker 2: you get out that heat. Two things I've learned. That'll
• 17:49
  Speaker 2: help you as a nice cold drink. Or actually watermelon watermelon,
• 17:52
  Speaker 2: nice cold watermelon out of the fridge.
• 17:54
  Speaker 1: That'll cool you off too.
• 17:56
  Speaker 2: Yeah, the heat is gonna be it's gonna be nice today, right,
• 18:00
  Speaker 2: I mean, I don't know how real that's gonna hold up,
• 18:02
  Speaker 2: but we'll see.
• 18:03
  Speaker 1: What'd you send me here?
• 18:05
  Speaker 2: Hey, roam, I work outside when it's cold, and I
• 18:09
  Speaker 2: work outside when it's hot. Sometimes the winner is just
• 18:12
  Speaker 2: as bad when you're all wet and cold. My hands
• 18:16
  Speaker 2: are cold and I don't have gloves on. I mean,
• 18:18
  Speaker 2: winn could be just as bad.
• 18:19
  Speaker 1: Wet.
• 18:20
  Speaker 2: Nobody likes to be in the rain and the wet
• 18:22
  Speaker 2: and all that coldness. But the heat, I mean, the
• 18:26
  Speaker 2: heat can really get you. I mean a lot of
• 18:28
  Speaker 2: you guys do work. What about the guys that work
• 18:31
  Speaker 2: in the hvac. What about those guys who have to
• 18:34
  Speaker 2: crawl up in the attics, or guys that work in
• 18:35
  Speaker 2: the garages, you know, when you're putting in a garage
• 18:39
  Speaker 2: door or something like that.
• 18:40
  Speaker 1: I mean, we talk about all these guys that are.
• 18:42
  Speaker 2: Out there working in the you know, working in the
• 18:45
  Speaker 2: out in the oil fields, or working out there building houses, construction, gardeners,
• 18:50
  Speaker 2: whatever the case may be. There's some guys out there
• 18:54
  Speaker 2: working indoors that it's pretty hot as well.
• 18:57
  Speaker 1: That's hot. I'm sorry.
• 18:58
  Speaker 2: If you guys have ever known being in a in
• 19:00
  Speaker 2: an attic when it's one hundred and four outside, who
• 19:04
  Speaker 2: it is not comfortable.
• 19:07
  Speaker 1: I'm just saying you guys be careful. Hey, Rome, I
• 19:10
  Speaker 1: just wanted to tell you.
• 19:11
  Speaker 2: I think it's funny how people get so dramatic about
• 19:15
  Speaker 2: the heat here in Bakersfield. I've lived in Bakersfield fifty
• 19:19
  Speaker 2: three years, born and raised.
• 19:22
  Speaker 1: It's always been this hot.
• 19:24
  Speaker 2: People today are just so sad that they have to
• 19:28
  Speaker 2: make everything so dramatic, even though it's something we've been
• 19:33
  Speaker 2: dealing with my whole life.
• 19:36
  Speaker 1: I don't know about people. Rome just shaking my head. Ah,
• 19:39
  Speaker 1: you're right.
• 19:40
  Speaker 2: I mean I've only lived in Bakersfield for thirty years
• 19:42
  Speaker 2: and this he's nothing to me. It means nothing. But yeah,
• 19:45
  Speaker 2: you're right. Oh, the heat wave is coming, the most
• 19:48
  Speaker 2: dramatic thing ever. We've never seen this before, Yes, we have.
• 19:52
  Speaker 2: This is nothing new. I'm not saying that it's comfortable.
• 19:55
  Speaker 2: I'm not saying that, but I mean, at this point,
• 19:58
  Speaker 2: if you've lived here for ten years plus. You should
• 20:04
  Speaker 2: understand it and be used to it and stop crying
• 20:06
  Speaker 2: about it. It's not that big of a deal, you know,
• 20:09
  Speaker 2: it really isn't. You know.
• 20:10
  Speaker 1: We got It's not like we have to live outside.
• 20:13
  Speaker 2: We got air conditioners, we got cars with AC, we
• 20:16
  Speaker 2: got places to go to be inside where it's cold.
• 20:19
  Speaker 1: I mean, I remember.
• 20:23
  Speaker 2: We used to go to the movies when it was hot,
• 20:25
  Speaker 2: you know, when it was too hot for us and
• 20:28
  Speaker 2: we didn't have you know, our parents wouldn't turn the
• 20:30
  Speaker 2: AC on because they didn't want to pay the bill
• 20:33
  Speaker 2: or something to that effect. Or we had a swamp
• 20:36
  Speaker 2: cooler or something like that. We just go to the movies,
• 20:39
  Speaker 2: sit there and cool off. So I mean, yeah, I
• 20:43
  Speaker 2: think I think you're right. A lot of people are
• 20:45
  Speaker 2: being very dramatic about the heat. Do you send me here.
• 20:50
  Speaker 1: Good morn to Rome?
• 20:51
  Speaker 2: Hey room, what do you think about this? I'm taking
• 20:53
  Speaker 2: I'm talking to this girl dating. It's going great. We
• 20:56
  Speaker 2: were both catching feelings. I think she asked me on
• 20:59
  Speaker 2: Saturday if I would try to keep her if I
• 21:01
  Speaker 2: felt her drifting away, or if she decided to part ways.
• 21:05
  Speaker 2: She got upset when I told her no, I wouldn't
• 21:08
  Speaker 2: chase something isn't feeling that, isn't feeling me anymore going
• 21:12
  Speaker 2: into a losing battle doing that. What do you think
• 21:15
  Speaker 2: about that?
• 21:15
  Speaker 1: Rome? Yeah, dude, that's a red flag. That's a needy
• 21:20
  Speaker 1: She's just a needy person.
• 21:21
  Speaker 2: I mean, for her to even ask that question, a
• 21:24
  Speaker 2: hypothetical question about you know, when you guys are just new,
• 21:28
  Speaker 2: you're new the relationship. She wants you to she wants
• 21:31
  Speaker 2: you to chase her. I mean, you did the right
• 21:34
  Speaker 2: thing by saying no, But at this point in the relationship,
• 21:38
  Speaker 2: you might want to think about dipping out just because
• 21:41
  Speaker 2: what kind of narcissistic, needy woman is she?
• 21:44
  Speaker 1: If she's going to ask you that question.
• 21:49
  Speaker 2: I don't see any other way around it. To be
• 21:51
  Speaker 2: honest with you, eight four, two, five, four or seven seven,
• 21:54
  Speaker 2: you better very get out with plans before you were.
• 21:57
  Speaker 2: You're too deep in and then you're what kind of
• 22:00
  Speaker 2: life is that gonna be with a needy woman like that?
• 22:03
  Speaker 2: Already four two, five, four or seven the seven guys
• 22:06
  Speaker 2: sent me this, He says, Yo, room, what do you
• 22:08
  Speaker 2: think about this? And I'm talking to this girl. We've
• 22:10
  Speaker 2: been dating. Ben's going been going great. I think we're
• 22:13
  Speaker 2: both catching feelings for he set for each other. She
• 22:16
  Speaker 2: asked me on Saturday if I would try to keep
• 22:18
  Speaker 2: her if I felt her drifting.
• 22:19
  Speaker 1: Away, or if she decided to part ways.
• 22:21
  Speaker 2: She got upset when I told her, no, I wouldn't
• 22:23
  Speaker 2: chase someone isn't feeling me anymore, going into that as
• 22:27
  Speaker 2: a losing battle, don't you think? Yeah, I think you're
• 22:31
  Speaker 2: absolutely right. I just hope you're not staying with her
• 22:33
  Speaker 2: now already? Four two five four seven, that's seven?
• 22:37
  Speaker 1: Good morning? Hell, what's going on? Good morning room?
• 22:39
  Speaker 2: Chilli? Gilly?
• 22:40
  Speaker 1: What up?
• 22:41
  Speaker 2: Nah?
• 22:42
  Speaker 3: You know what? You're absolutely right, and I'm telling you.
• 22:45
  Speaker 3: In previous relationship and tapping like that with her before,
• 22:48
  Speaker 3: she wanted to guy to change her.
• 22:50
  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, you're right. Yeah, Yeah, you're probably right about that. Yeah,
• 22:57
  Speaker 1: well hopefully listen. Yeah, good thing to chase your number.
• 23:03
  Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, I mean, Gilly's absolutely right.
• 23:09
  Speaker 1: You can't.
• 23:10
  Speaker 2: Uh yeah, that's a that's a huge red flag. If
• 23:13
  Speaker 2: she asked you, would you chase me?
• 23:16
  Speaker 1: Would you? What did she say? Would you? Uh?
• 23:19
  Speaker 2: If I started we started to drift apart, or I
• 23:21
  Speaker 2: decided to part ways with you, would you try to
• 23:24
  Speaker 2: chase me? And it's a good thing. You said, no, bro,
• 23:27
  Speaker 2: I think I think you need to let her go.
• 23:29
  Speaker 2: That is uh, it's a little psychotic, to be honest
• 23:31
  Speaker 2: with you, I mean, that's a that's a huge, huge
• 23:34
  Speaker 2: red flag. I don't think there is a woman on
• 23:38
  Speaker 2: the planet worth chasing.
• 23:40
  Speaker 1: Okay, there's not. There's way too many.
• 23:43
  Speaker 2: There's way too many women on this planet for someone
• 23:45
  Speaker 2: to say you got to chase me to get me. Now,
• 23:49
  Speaker 2: there's a difference between being a little persistent to get somebody.
• 23:52
  Speaker 2: But if you're already dating her and she says that, then.
• 23:56
  Speaker 1: No, you got real issues. Man. You gotta let her go.
• 23:59
  Speaker 1: A ready four two five four or seven A seven.
• 24:02
  Speaker 2: This guy sent me this. He said, Hey, Roan, what
• 24:04
  Speaker 2: do you think about this? I'm talking to this girl.
• 24:06
  Speaker 2: We've been dating. It's going great. We're both catching feelings.
• 24:09
  Speaker 2: She asked me Saturday if I would try to keep
• 24:13
  Speaker 2: her if I felt her drifting away, or if she
• 24:16
  Speaker 2: decided to part ways.
• 24:18
  Speaker 1: Now.
• 24:18
  Speaker 2: She got upset when I told her no, I wouldn't
• 24:21
  Speaker 2: chase someone. Isn't that isn't feeling me anymore going into
• 24:24
  Speaker 2: a losing battle doing that. What do you think about that, Romeo,
• 24:27
  Speaker 2: I think that she's psycho I think she's an idiot.
• 24:30
  Speaker 2: I mean, what do you want me to think about?
• 24:32
  Speaker 2: I mean, why would you.
• 24:32
  Speaker 1: Even have that conversation? How does that? How does that
• 24:36
  Speaker 1: even cross your mind?
• 24:39
  Speaker 2: You know, what kind of narcissistic, insecure person do you
• 24:44
  Speaker 2: have to be to ask somebody, well, if I.
• 24:47
  Speaker 1: Was to not be into you anymore, would you chase me?
• 24:50
  Speaker 1: Would you try to? I mean, what is that all?
• 24:53
  Speaker 2: Especially since you said you're just starting to catch feelings
• 24:55
  Speaker 2: for each other. Maybe that's her way of I couldn't
• 24:59
  Speaker 2: even explain it. I don't even know where what kind
• 25:01
  Speaker 2: of cycle you have to be to come up with
• 25:03
  Speaker 2: that conversation, to be honest with you already four two.
• 25:06
  Speaker 1: Five, four or seven to seven? Hey, Romio, Oh, maybe.
• 25:10
  Speaker 2: The reason she asked is because she's catching feelings and
• 25:14
  Speaker 2: she wants to know what kind of guy she's getting
• 25:16
  Speaker 2: involved with because she doesn't know which way to go
• 25:19
  Speaker 2: at this point. I don't think it's a terrible question.
• 25:24
  Speaker 2: She just wants to know if he would chase her
• 25:26
  Speaker 2: if she You don't think that's a terrible question. You
• 25:31
  Speaker 2: think that's a You think that that's a legitimate question
• 25:33
  Speaker 2: to ask somebody. If I if we were to break
• 25:37
  Speaker 2: up or if we were I decided I decided to leave,
• 25:42
  Speaker 2: would you chase me? You think that's a normal question.
• 25:47
  Speaker 2: I don't.
• 25:48
  Speaker 1: I don't know about that. The guy sent me this.
• 25:50
  Speaker 2: He was talking about this date. I guess this girl
• 25:52
  Speaker 2: he's been dating. He's asked me what I thought about it.
• 25:54
  Speaker 2: I guess on Saturday. Well, he says they've been dating
• 25:57
  Speaker 2: and he feels like they're both catching feelings. And asked
• 26:00
  Speaker 2: him Saturday if he would keep trying keep her? Okay,
• 26:05
  Speaker 2: if he if she if he felt she was drifting away,
• 26:08
  Speaker 2: or if she decided to part ways, would he try
• 26:11
  Speaker 2: to keep her?
• 26:11
  Speaker 1: Would he try? You know? What would he do?
• 26:13
  Speaker 2: She got upset when I told her, no, I wouldn't
• 26:17
  Speaker 2: chase someone isn't feeling me anymore, going going into a
• 26:20
  Speaker 2: losing battle doing that.
• 26:21
  Speaker 1: What do I think? Well, I think you're absolutely right.
• 26:24
  Speaker 2: I think that's kind of nonsense for somebody to say
• 26:26
  Speaker 2: that to you, that's kind of that's really kind of stupid, to.
• 26:29
  Speaker 1: Be honest with you, who says that if I was.
• 26:32
  Speaker 2: Going to break up, but you would you try to
• 26:34
  Speaker 2: would you try to go out? You know, would you
• 26:35
  Speaker 2: try to stay? Would you try to go out?
• 26:37
  Speaker 1: Keep me?
• 26:38
  Speaker 2: Would you chase me? I mean, what kind of stupid
• 26:40
  Speaker 2: is that? How is that a healthy relationship or even
• 26:43
  Speaker 2: a healthy.
• 26:43
  Speaker 1: Question to ask? Already? Four?
• 26:46
  Speaker 2: Two, five, four or seven seven? Hey, roam, I think
• 26:50
  Speaker 2: you're wrong about that. I think you're being h I
• 26:53
  Speaker 2: think you're taking it a little too far. She's just
• 26:57
  Speaker 2: catching feelings for him, and she wants wants to know
• 27:00
  Speaker 2: how he feels. That's a legitimate thing to ask if
• 27:04
  Speaker 2: we were to break you chase me?
• 27:06
  Speaker 1: She wants to know how.
• 27:08
  Speaker 2: He feels about her, if he's really into her enough
• 27:12
  Speaker 2: to try to chase her. That's what every woman wants,
• 27:15
  Speaker 2: a man who wants her. Yeah, okay, I agree with that.
• 27:22
  Speaker 2: Every woman wants a man who wants her. But that's
• 27:26
  Speaker 2: a little toxic to say. Would you if I broke
• 27:29
  Speaker 2: up with you, would you chase me? Would you try
• 27:30
  Speaker 2: to keep me? Well? Why are we breaking up? That's
• 27:34
  Speaker 2: the question is, Well, why are we breaking up? If
• 27:37
  Speaker 2: you're in a position right now where nothing's going wrong
• 27:40
  Speaker 2: And they said they've been dating in a while, things
• 27:42
  Speaker 2: are going great, they're both catching feelings. It sounds like
• 27:45
  Speaker 2: they're in a great place right now. Why would you
• 27:48
  Speaker 2: bring up something so stupid. If we were to break up,
• 27:51
  Speaker 2: would you chase? I mean, I don't understand how you
• 27:55
  Speaker 2: can actually think that that is a legit legitimate question
• 28:01
  Speaker 2: to ask somebody you're dating.
• 28:04
  Speaker 1: Why would you ask something so negative to get what
• 28:10
  Speaker 1: he said?
• 28:11
  Speaker 3: No?
• 28:11
  Speaker 1: So what does that mean now that he said no?
• 28:13
  Speaker 1: They shouldn't be together?
• 28:14
  Speaker 3: Bro?
• 28:15
  Speaker 1: I think that's a huge red flag. I really do.
• 28:17
  Speaker 2: I think that you need to drop her and find
• 28:20
  Speaker 2: somebody who's not going to ask you stuff such stupid questions.
• 28:23
  Speaker 2: Hypothetical questions in a relationship are about the dumbest things
• 28:27
  Speaker 2: you could ever do, especially negative ones like that when
• 28:32
  Speaker 2: everything's going well. I mean, it's never a good you're
• 28:36
  Speaker 2: just trying to cause.
• 28:38
  Speaker 1: A problem that's not there. Yeah, you need to leave her.
• 28:42
  Speaker 2: He sent me a text message about some girl he's dating.
• 28:45
  Speaker 1: He said they've been catching feelings.
• 28:46
  Speaker 2: They've been dating, but she asked him on Saturday if
• 28:50
  Speaker 2: he would keep trying, if he would try to keep her,
• 28:52
  Speaker 2: if he felt her drifting away, if I felt her
• 28:56
  Speaker 2: drifting away, or if she decided to part ways with me,
• 28:58
  Speaker 2: would I try to keep her? She got upset when
• 29:01
  Speaker 2: I told her no, What do you think about that?
• 29:03
  Speaker 1: Rome?
• 29:04
  Speaker 2: I think that she's crazy. I think that's wild, you know,
• 29:10
  Speaker 2: all right? Eight four two, five four or seven to
• 29:13
  Speaker 2: seven A rome. From the way it sounds, it sounds
• 29:16
  Speaker 2: like a female that wants to play games. Because if
• 29:18
  Speaker 2: you're interested in someone, why are you talking about breaking up?
• 29:22
  Speaker 2: If this is somebody that you're interested in, you want
• 29:25
  Speaker 2: a relationship with them, exactly. That's what I mean. These
• 29:28
  Speaker 2: hypothetical questions if you ask each other in a relationship,
• 29:32
  Speaker 2: we're absolutely absurd for the most part, especially when they're
• 29:35
  Speaker 2: in negative like that one. Why why are we talking
• 29:37
  Speaker 2: about breaking up? But we're just now dating, We're starting
• 29:39
  Speaker 2: to catch feelings. Why are you what kind of insecure
• 29:42
  Speaker 2: woman are you.
• 29:45
  Speaker 1: To ask that? Now?
• 29:46
  Speaker 2: Maybe she likes it, Maybe she's maybe she's crazy and
• 29:50
  Speaker 2: toxic and likes that type of idea that, oh my god,
• 29:54
  Speaker 2: he wants me so bad.
• 29:56
  Speaker 1: If I break up on him, he's gonna do what
• 29:58
  Speaker 1: he got to do to try to get me back.
• 30:00
  Speaker 1: That is crazy, That is that is toxic.
• 30:03
  Speaker 2: Maybe she's like that and there's guys out there that
• 30:05
  Speaker 2: she can find, so yeah, already fourteen five four or
• 30:11
  Speaker 2: seven seven, Oh, this is the guy who sent the message, Yo,
• 30:13
  Speaker 2: rom I just wanted to let you know. I think
• 30:17
  Speaker 2: that you're right, but I have spent some time on
• 30:20
  Speaker 2: this relationship and I am starting to catch some feelings.
• 30:23
  Speaker 1: So it's not that easy just to leave then.
• 30:26
  Speaker 2: Uh so I kind of don't know what to do.
• 30:29
  Speaker 2: That's why I was asking you and the listeners. Well,
• 30:32
  Speaker 2: you gotta lead, you have to lead. There's plenty of
• 30:35
  Speaker 2: women out there. Why do you guys always think there's
• 30:37
  Speaker 2: only one woman out there? They didn't stop making them
• 30:41
  Speaker 2: A crazy chick is not worth it because there's the
• 30:43
  Speaker 2: sane one out there. So it's funny this lady or
• 30:46
  Speaker 2: this guy send me a message. He's been dating this
• 30:49
  Speaker 2: girl and apparently she has He says he's catching feelings,
• 30:54
  Speaker 2: she's catching feeling. She asked him if she was to
• 30:57
  Speaker 2: break up with him, would he chase her, would try
• 31:00
  Speaker 2: to keep her? And he said no. She got mad
• 31:02
  Speaker 2: about that. I mean kind of question is I have
• 31:05
  Speaker 2: to ask somebody a four five, four or seven to seven?
• 31:09
  Speaker 2: What's going on?
• 31:11
  Speaker 3: Whatever?
• 31:12
  Speaker 1: Hey, what's up? How you doing? I'm doing fabulous? What's
• 31:15
  Speaker 1: going on?
• 31:15
  Speaker 2: What you got outstanding? You know?
• 31:18
  Speaker 3: I'm here to time in on homegirl with an unexpected
• 31:24
  Speaker 3: with the unexpected crazy response, they had nobody chased it
• 31:28
  Speaker 3: after her before. If you ever had somebody a thing
• 31:30
  Speaker 3: you after a relationship, im off you don't want that's
• 31:34
  Speaker 3: a red flag. She needs to check herself.
• 31:37
  Speaker 1: She's on her mind.
• 31:38
  Speaker 3: She neither has an agenda. You already had somebody else
• 31:40
  Speaker 3: that wants to have her cake and eat it too,
• 31:42
  Speaker 3: or she's just out her mind and ain't had nobody
• 31:44
  Speaker 3: chasing you. You don't want nobody casing.
• 31:47
  Speaker 1: I'm glad you said that because.
• 31:48
  Speaker 2: I never thought about that anytimes, someone chasing you after
• 31:51
  Speaker 2: a relationship.
• 31:55
  Speaker 3: I know if EVE want off hand, you're like, I
• 32:00
  Speaker 3: did not know this. I didn't know it mattered so much.
• 32:03
  Speaker 3: I don't want to matter.
• 32:08
  Speaker 1: Oh that's awesome, that's great, that's great. I appreciate the phone.
• 32:12
  Speaker 2: Come yeah, I never even thought about what she just said.
• 32:20
  Speaker 1: She is so right. You don't want nobody chasing you
• 32:23
  Speaker 1: after a relationship. Now you've got a stalker. Now you
• 32:26
  Speaker 1: got to.
• 32:27
  Speaker 2: End up on Netflix with a a documentary about you.
• 32:30
  Speaker 2: You don't need all that. Hell, whatn't you got here?
• 32:35
  Speaker 2: If you want to text me a four four or
• 32:37
  Speaker 2: seven to seven? Hey, Romeo, I says Roam, just tuning
• 32:42
  Speaker 2: in I'm not sure the topic, so you might want
• 32:44
  Speaker 2: to save this for a later time. But am I
• 32:47
  Speaker 2: a bad guy for kicking out.
• 32:52
  Speaker 1: My man's twenty nine year old brother.
• 32:56
  Speaker 2: He was living with us since September thirtieth in our
• 32:59
  Speaker 2: back train, didn't pay anything, didn't even contribute, didn't get
• 33:03
  Speaker 2: a job until mid December. So we lived with you
• 33:06
  Speaker 2: September through December.
• 33:07
  Speaker 1: Okay.
• 33:07
  Speaker 2: Spent the first two months donating plasma and getting weed delivered.
• 33:15
  Speaker 2: And this month, when we went out of town for
• 33:18
  Speaker 2: five days, we asked him to watch our dog and
• 33:21
  Speaker 2: left poop and pee all in the bedroom because he
• 33:25
  Speaker 2: locked the dog away for twenty four hours. She chewed
• 33:29
  Speaker 2: up the dog gate, even though he was doing laundry
• 33:33
  Speaker 2: all day in the house using my soap. I've had it,
• 33:37
  Speaker 2: so we kicked him out, and now he's all mad.
• 33:40
  Speaker 1: I don't care. But were we wrong?
• 33:45
  Speaker 2: Picks of how the room looked whenman got home from vacation, Yeah,
• 33:50
  Speaker 2: I don't want to see those picks. Yes, that poop
• 33:52
  Speaker 2: went next to the water. He changed, let's see he changed.
• 33:59
  Speaker 2: Needs to hear this, but don't. Oh, I don't know
• 34:01
  Speaker 2: who needs to hear this? But don't let people live
• 34:03
  Speaker 2: with you. It's not worth the hassle. Sorry, room, but
• 34:07
  Speaker 2: had to get another opinion. People living with you don't
• 34:10
  Speaker 2: do it. I would never let people live with me
• 34:14
  Speaker 2: in my entire life of.
• 34:20
  Speaker 1: Living on my own. I let one guy live with me,
• 34:24
  Speaker 1: one of my best friends.
• 34:25
  Speaker 2: He was and it was only for a couple of months,
• 34:27
  Speaker 2: but I knew it was for a couple of months,
• 34:29
  Speaker 2: and I knew he didn't want to live with me either.
• 34:31
  Speaker 1: He wanted his own place, so it took he was
• 34:33
  Speaker 1: out real quick.
• 34:34
  Speaker 2: But uh, you were just talking about your brother in
• 34:39
  Speaker 2: law living with you, right, Yeah.
• 34:41
  Speaker 1: No, I would never let no family member.
• 34:43
  Speaker 2: I would never let anybody unless it's your your spouse
• 34:47
  Speaker 2: and your kids. I would never let anybody live with you.
• 34:50
  Speaker 2: How many stories have you heard about, you know, women
• 34:56
  Speaker 2: losing their husbands because they let their friend move in.
• 34:59
  Speaker 2: I mean you could talk about we could tell those
• 35:01
  Speaker 2: stories all day here in Bakersfield. Or something happening at
• 35:05
  Speaker 2: your house because you have a roommate who just doesn't
• 35:08
  Speaker 2: care about your personal property or care about your stuff,
• 35:11
  Speaker 2: so yeah, or or you know somebody coming over. I
• 35:14
  Speaker 2: mean I've heard stories of just like this woman where
• 35:18
  Speaker 2: she would say her brother in law moved in with
• 35:20
  Speaker 2: her with her you know, she was being nice, you know,
• 35:24
  Speaker 2: her and her husband were being nice, and the brother
• 35:26
  Speaker 2: in law bites a woman over and steals from them. Yeah,
• 35:29
  Speaker 2: you just never, ever, ever, that is one percent, without
• 35:32
  Speaker 2: a doubt. I would never let anybody live with me,
• 35:36
  Speaker 2: you know already four two five, four or seven to seven. Yeah,
• 35:42
  Speaker 2: I mean, I guess you could say your mom, if
• 35:44
  Speaker 2: you have to take care of your parents, you know,
• 35:46
  Speaker 2: you let them live with you. But that's that's a
• 35:48
  Speaker 2: different conversation than what we're talking about right here. So
• 35:51
  Speaker 2: this lady, she sent me a long, long text message
• 35:55
  Speaker 2: about her brother in law. Apparently she let her brother
• 35:58
  Speaker 2: in law stay with them for for a few months
• 36:02
  Speaker 2: and it wasn't working out. He didn't pay none, didn't
• 36:04
  Speaker 2: have no job, was getting you know, donating plasma, getting
• 36:08
  Speaker 2: weed delivered. I guess they were out of town for
• 36:10
  Speaker 2: five days. He didn't take care of the dogs, let
• 36:12
  Speaker 2: the dogs go to the restroom in the house, in
• 36:14
  Speaker 2: the bedroom, I guess he locked the dogs up, didn't
• 36:16
  Speaker 2: care for him. They kicked him out, and I guess
• 36:20
  Speaker 2: he's mad now because he got kicked out. Well, and
• 36:24
  Speaker 2: she's asking me how I felt about phil about it,
• 36:26
  Speaker 2: and just want another opinion. My opinion is you should
• 36:28
  Speaker 2: never let anybody live with you, especially if you're married. Now,
• 36:32
  Speaker 2: maybe if you're a single person and you want a roommate, okay,
• 36:38
  Speaker 2: I could see that, maybe you could work it out.
• 36:40
  Speaker 2: But if you're married and you have an actual life,
• 36:44
  Speaker 2: you should never let anybody stay with you. Already four two, five,
• 36:49
  Speaker 2: four or seven seven yo room. I just wanted to
• 36:52
  Speaker 2: jump in and tell you that's exactly what happened to me.
• 36:56
  Speaker 2: My husband and I we got married, we moved into
• 37:00
  Speaker 2: a three bedroom house. My friend a few months later
• 37:04
  Speaker 2: said she needed a place to stay for a couple
• 37:06
  Speaker 2: of months. She was moving back to Bakersfield. So my
• 37:10
  Speaker 2: husband and I said it was okay. My husband was
• 37:14
  Speaker 2: a little hesitant, but he said, because she's my friend.
• 37:19
  Speaker 2: Oh okay, So because that's your friend, it's okay. Rome.
• 37:23
  Speaker 2: They ended up sleeping together. I ended up divorcing him,
• 37:26
  Speaker 2: and now they are still together.
• 37:30
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 37:30
  Speaker 2: I mean, it's a common tale in Bakersfield. You should
• 37:35
  Speaker 2: not what happened when you let somebody stay with you.
• 37:37
  Speaker 2: You should never let anybody stay with you, he moan
• 37:40
  Speaker 2: to Rome. I've been in the doghouse. Uh oh, hypothesis,
• 37:45
  Speaker 2: hypothetical question. I'll get to that in just a second.
• 37:49
  Speaker 2: I'll say that and then i'll get to your question.
• 37:51
  Speaker 2: But right now we're talking about some of the things
• 37:53
  Speaker 2: that you know, when you let somebody stay.
• 37:55
  Speaker 1: With you, you.
• 37:56
  Speaker 2: Know, it's a bad idea. It's a bad idea to
• 37:59
  Speaker 2: let somebody with you. I'm sorry already four two five,
• 38:02
  Speaker 2: four seven seven yr roam. What if it's your mom
• 38:07
  Speaker 2: depends is your mom old, elderly and she needs help
• 38:12
  Speaker 2: or is she still out running the streets? Two different things,
• 38:15
  Speaker 2: two different scenarios, you know already fourteen five, four seven
• 38:19
  Speaker 2: to seven.
• 38:19
  Speaker 1: So a lady was asking me about her brother in law.
• 38:22
  Speaker 2: Her and her husband let her brother in law move in,
• 38:25
  Speaker 2: and I guess he was just a terrible person to
• 38:26
  Speaker 2: live with. He didn't help out, he didn't help out
• 38:29
  Speaker 2: around the house, always smoking weed. They went away for
• 38:31
  Speaker 2: on a trip, he didn't dogs, let the dogs go
• 38:34
  Speaker 2: to the restaurant.
• 38:34
  Speaker 1: The house kind of locked them up, and.
• 38:37
  Speaker 2: Uh so they finally had to kick him out, Which
• 38:39
  Speaker 2: is sure, you gotta do what you gotta do, man,
• 38:43
  Speaker 2: There's nothing wrong with that. I mean, she was just saying,
• 38:47
  Speaker 2: you know she won my opinion. She wanted your opinion
• 38:50
  Speaker 2: about letting people live live with you.
• 38:52
  Speaker 1: You should never.
• 38:52
  Speaker 2: If you're a if you're a married couple, you you
• 38:55
  Speaker 2: shouldn't let anybody live with you. It's not it could
• 38:59
  Speaker 2: be very your mental to your marriage, especially if it's
• 39:02
  Speaker 2: a sibling, because it puts you in a bad position sometimes.
• 39:05
  Speaker 1: And somebody just asked me.
• 39:06
  Speaker 2: About letting your mom or your dad, Well, it depends
• 39:09
  Speaker 2: on who your mom and your dad are, I mean
• 39:10
  Speaker 2: a lies or and have forever their mother and father
• 39:14
  Speaker 2: get older and you move them in to help take
• 39:16
  Speaker 2: care of them, you know, which there's nothing wrong with that,
• 39:19
  Speaker 2: But some of you have moms and dads that when
• 39:22
  Speaker 2: they live with you take advantage of you, never enough
• 39:25
  Speaker 2: to be out dating or out you know, doing what
• 39:28
  Speaker 2: they want, and they'll take advantage of you just like
• 39:32
  Speaker 2: any other family member.
• 39:33
  Speaker 1: Would you know, so I would never.
• 39:36
  Speaker 2: It just depends the scenario, just to you know, but
• 39:39
  Speaker 2: you probably shouldn't let anybody move into your house.
• 39:43
  Speaker 1: Don't let a friend move in.
• 39:44
  Speaker 2: Definitely, don't let a friend move in, because who knows
• 39:48
  Speaker 2: already four two four seven seven and Romeo, we let
• 39:54
  Speaker 2: my sister and her boyfriend move in and guess what
• 39:58
  Speaker 2: they did. They tried to their own WiFi, They tried
• 40:02
  Speaker 2: to get their own phone line, They tried to get
• 40:05
  Speaker 2: bills sent to our house like they actually live there.
• 40:09
  Speaker 1: Now.
• 40:10
  Speaker 2: We were just letting them stay for a couple of months.
• 40:13
  Speaker 2: They wanted to get their own cable. We had to
• 40:15
  Speaker 2: shut it all down, and we actually kicked him out
• 40:18
  Speaker 2: because we just couldn't do it. It just it just
• 40:23
  Speaker 2: seemed unsafe because of what they were doing.
• 40:29
  Speaker 1: My mom was very upset about it.
• 40:31
  Speaker 2: She said, you need to look out for your siblings,
• 40:34
  Speaker 2: but yet she didn't offer to let them live with them.
• 40:37
  Speaker 1: So you know how that goes wrong? I do?
• 40:39
  Speaker 2: I mean, I guess she let her brother in law
• 40:41
  Speaker 2: move in with him, and the brother in law was
• 40:44
  Speaker 2: not a very good roommate.
• 40:45
  Speaker 1: I was not a very good house guest.
• 40:47
  Speaker 2: He didn't help with anything. He didn't apparently, he didn't
• 40:53
  Speaker 2: take care of the animals. They went out of town
• 40:55
  Speaker 2: on a trip. You think that he would take care.
• 40:57
  Speaker 1: Of the animals.
• 40:58
  Speaker 2: He didn't help around the house. Basically, was not a
• 41:01
  Speaker 2: good person to move in. So they ended up kicking
• 41:03
  Speaker 2: him out and now he's mad like she did something wrong. Right,
• 41:09
  Speaker 2: and or the brother and the sister in law did
• 41:13
  Speaker 2: something wrong, and I don't think that's true. The roommates
• 41:16
  Speaker 2: are you should never have let somebody live with you.
• 41:18
  Speaker 2: I honestly believe no married couple should ever let somebody
• 41:21
  Speaker 2: live with them, regardless of who it is. Outside of Hey,
• 41:25
  Speaker 2: you're taking care of your elderly parents, okay, because what
• 41:28
  Speaker 2: else are you supposed to do?
• 41:29
  Speaker 1: Right, So it's a terrible idea, all right?
• 41:33
  Speaker 2: E fourteen five four seven to seven. Hey, Romeo, let
• 41:37
  Speaker 2: me tell you what happened in my situation. So me
• 41:41
  Speaker 2: and my husband let his brother stay with us while
• 41:45
  Speaker 2: his house was being remodeled. Now, this guy was a
• 41:48
  Speaker 2: professional guy. Rome had a real nice house, real good job,
• 41:52
  Speaker 2: didn't think anything of it. He was great at first,
• 41:57
  Speaker 2: helped out around the house, took care of everything, and
• 42:00
  Speaker 2: his brother actually did a lot. What happened though, I
• 42:03
  Speaker 2: went out of town one weekend and my brother in
• 42:08
  Speaker 2: law ended up bringing some girls back to the house,
• 42:12
  Speaker 2: and my husband ended up cheating on me with one
• 42:14
  Speaker 2: of those girls. Apparently there were two brothers just partying
• 42:18
  Speaker 2: like the good old days.
• 42:19
  Speaker 1: He ended up sleeping with one of them.
• 42:21
  Speaker 2: I didn't find out for a month or two later,
• 42:26
  Speaker 2: when the girls actually came back to the house with
• 42:29
  Speaker 2: my brother in law, that's when it all went down.
• 42:33
  Speaker 2: I found out the girl told me she had no idea.
• 42:37
  Speaker 2: He was married at the time and had no problem
• 42:41
  Speaker 2: telling me what went down.
• 42:43
  Speaker 1: Uh see what I'm saying. You just never know. You can't,
• 42:47
  Speaker 1: you just can't.
• 42:48
  Speaker 2: You know, I have a buddy, he his best friend
• 42:52
  Speaker 2: was a girl, and the wife knew it, and everybody
• 42:55
  Speaker 2: was cool with it. I used to work with this guy,
• 42:58
  Speaker 2: great guy, two kids, family man, and she moved in.
• 43:02
  Speaker 2: She lost her job, and so the wife, trying to
• 43:06
  Speaker 2: be a good wife, said, hey, she could stay with
• 43:09
  Speaker 2: us for you know, a couple of months until she
• 43:11
  Speaker 2: gets back on her feet. And what ended up happening.
• 43:15
  Speaker 2: Now he's divorced. He's been divorced for years though now,
• 43:18
  Speaker 2: but he got divorced because well, they ended up sleeping
• 43:23
  Speaker 2: together in his car in the front of the house.
• 43:27
  Speaker 1: So yeah, you just you can't. You can't do it.
• 43:30
  Speaker 1: You can't put your relationship in danger like that. Hey,
• 43:34
  Speaker 1: good morning, Rome.
• 43:35
  Speaker 2: I've been in the doghouse for about a week now.
• 43:38
  Speaker 2: For answers hypothetical question, she why do you people ask
• 43:42
  Speaker 2: stupid hypothetical questions in your marriage?
• 43:44
  Speaker 1: What kind of stupidity do you have to be?
• 43:46
  Speaker 2: What kind of stupid do you have to be to
• 43:48
  Speaker 2: do that, to put that, to bring that up, Just
• 43:51
  Speaker 2: like the last person to text it, She asked me,
• 43:55
  Speaker 2: if I were to die, would I remarry?
• 43:58
  Speaker 1: And who?
• 44:00
  Speaker 2: I said yes and said her best friend to the
• 44:02
  Speaker 2: fact we have been knowing each other for years and
• 44:07
  Speaker 2: I don't have to be in the dating scene.
• 44:09
  Speaker 1: Am I wrong?
• 44:09
  Speaker 2: You're absolutely not wrong, one hundred percent not wrong. If
• 44:14
  Speaker 2: she's stupid enough to ask you that question, then she
• 44:21
  Speaker 2: deserves what she gets. And that's probably the most realistic
• 44:27
  Speaker 2: answer you could give her, because the odds are that
• 44:30
  Speaker 2: when your spouse passes away, you're going to get together
• 44:35
  Speaker 2: with somebody.
• 44:37
  Speaker 1: Who's close to that spouse, because.
• 44:39
  Speaker 2: You're gonna feel You're both gonna feel sorry, You're both
• 44:43
  Speaker 2: gonna be upset, you're both gonna you know, emotionally, you're
• 44:45
  Speaker 2: both gonna be in this place where it's very common
• 44:50
  Speaker 2: for you to get together, almost to the fact of normal.
• 44:55
  Speaker 2: But here's the stupid and here's the stupidity of your wife,
• 45:00
  Speaker 2: and it is because in her mind, she wanted to
• 45:06
  Speaker 2: hear something different, and in her mind, she asked that
• 45:11
  Speaker 2: question thinking what now that you've answered her, she thinks,
• 45:17
  Speaker 2: now you want to sleep with her best friend. So
• 45:20
  Speaker 2: she created this whole problem for herself and tried to
• 45:25
  Speaker 2: blame you, when the reality is.
• 45:28
  Speaker 1: It's on her.
• 45:30
  Speaker 2: Your wife is the one who asked you the stupid question.
• 45:33
  Speaker 2: She should be in the doghouse, not you. You should
• 45:36
  Speaker 2: let her hang her out to dry, let her just
• 45:39
  Speaker 2: stew forever, because the stupidity for her to ask you
• 45:43
  Speaker 2: that is unbelievable.
• 45:46
  Speaker 1: To add.
• 45:47
  Speaker 2: And you know what, just in general, that question is
• 45:50
  Speaker 2: unbelievable to ask anybody.
• 45:54
  Speaker 1: There is.
• 45:55
  Speaker 2: Nobody wants to be alone forever, especially if you've been
• 46:00
  Speaker 2: with somebody. I don't know how long you guys have
• 46:02
  Speaker 2: been married, but I have a buddy of mine. He's
• 46:05
  Speaker 2: been with his wife since high school.
• 46:07
  Speaker 1: I don't even know how long it's been, you know,
• 46:09
  Speaker 1: forty years something. I don't even know how long it's been,
• 46:12
  Speaker 1: maybe longer, right, And we laugh, We laugh all the
• 46:15
  Speaker 1: time at him because he says, oh.
• 46:17
  Speaker 2: Don't let her ever get married again. Why she's been
• 46:22
  Speaker 2: with another person. You've been with another person for forty
• 46:25
  Speaker 2: years of your life.
• 46:27
  Speaker 1: There's only two options when you.
• 46:31
  Speaker 2: When your partner passes away. You're either gonna go because
• 46:37
  Speaker 2: you're gonna be so sad and heartbroken, or you're gonna
• 46:41
  Speaker 2: find somebody who understands you and you don't have to
• 46:43
  Speaker 2: live the rest of your life alone because you're not
• 46:46
  Speaker 2: used to being alone. It's funny. I ran into a
• 46:49
  Speaker 2: friend of mine. I hadn't seen him. I run him
• 46:52
  Speaker 2: to about every five, six seven years. Right, his wife
• 46:55
  Speaker 2: passed away and I ran into him a couple of
• 46:59
  Speaker 2: weeks with a new lady, and I thought he would
• 47:01
  Speaker 2: never their high school sweethearts.
• 47:03
  Speaker 1: You know, he was very distraught.
• 47:05
  Speaker 2: I had a great, amazing family and she passed away,
• 47:08
  Speaker 2: and I thought he would never get together. But he
• 47:10
  Speaker 2: did found a lady, very nice, lady, very nice. So
• 47:15
  Speaker 2: to ask that question hypothetically is just stupid. Why would
• 47:23
  Speaker 2: you do that? What is wrong with you people? So
• 47:27
  Speaker 2: a guy texted me and said that he was in
• 47:30
  Speaker 2: the doghouse for the last week because his wife asked
• 47:32
  Speaker 2: him if she ever passed away, would he get married again?
• 47:36
  Speaker 1: Who would it be?
• 47:37
  Speaker 2: And he answered, yeah, probably yes I would, and probably
• 47:40
  Speaker 2: your best friend. Well, it makes perfect sense because they
• 47:45
  Speaker 2: probably are the closest to people, to her, they would
• 47:48
  Speaker 2: find some sort of solace in being together. If you
• 47:51
  Speaker 2: passed away and you're mad about it and you asked
• 47:54
  Speaker 2: the question, You're the one that puts yourself in that
• 47:56
  Speaker 2: position for your husband to say that, why would you
• 47:59
  Speaker 2: even do that and be mad about it? As stupid?
• 48:01
  Speaker 1: He's getting together with your best friend.
• 48:03
  Speaker 2: Why wouldn't you want your husband to be happy if
• 48:05
  Speaker 2: you passed away with your best friend, who's going to
• 48:07
  Speaker 2: be sad that you're gone too?
• 48:10
  Speaker 1: Yeah, it's just it's logic.
• 48:12
  Speaker 2: Man.
• 48:13
  Speaker 1: You guys are crazy.
• 48:14
  Speaker 2: Don't ask questions you don't want answers to you know
• 48:18
  Speaker 2: already fourteen five four or seven to seven eight? Good morning, Rome.
• 48:22
  Speaker 2: I totally agree with you. And by the way, are
• 48:24
  Speaker 2: you doing another backpack? Yes, we're doing another backpack. We're
• 48:27
  Speaker 2: doing a couple of them, all right. But because I'm right,
• 48:31
  Speaker 2: people ask your spouses the most idiotic questions. You know,
• 48:34
  Speaker 2: relationships are hard enough. Why in the hell would you
• 48:39
  Speaker 2: make it harder by asking irrelevant, stupid questions? How relevant
• 48:43
  Speaker 2: is that question for you to walk in and to
• 48:45
  Speaker 2: ask your husband? If I die, would you remarry? And
• 48:50
  Speaker 2: who would it be? Why would you even ask that question,
• 48:56
  Speaker 2: how does that help your marriage?
• 48:59
  Speaker 1: You know? And I'm sorry, I hate to tell you this.
• 49:03
  Speaker 2: I really for those of you that are are are
• 49:07
  Speaker 2: so insecure even after they'll even in the afterlife. I
• 49:11
  Speaker 2: hate to tell you this, but your husband and wife
• 49:14
  Speaker 2: will hook up again. If God forbid you pass away,
• 49:19
  Speaker 2: he or she will get together with another woman or man,
• 49:22
  Speaker 2: and it will be somebody that they already know, somebody
• 49:26
  Speaker 2: that's already in your circle of friends right now.
• 49:29
  Speaker 1: Okay, so that's just the way it works.
• 49:34
  Speaker 2: M Yeah, okay, So what did you send me here?
• 49:41
  Speaker 2: Let's see you said. Oh my gosh, it a long one.
• 49:46
  Speaker 2: Oh I wanted to get to this real first. It
• 49:49
  Speaker 2: says my rule Rome is don't chase anyone because that
• 49:53
  Speaker 2: means they're running away from you. I think you're referring
• 49:58
  Speaker 2: back to the to the guy who was saying the
• 50:00
  Speaker 2: woman wanted him to chase him if she broke up
• 50:03
  Speaker 2: with him. Yes, but here's the problem with a lot
• 50:06
  Speaker 2: of you that don't believe, and you should believe this.
• 50:11
  Speaker 2: There's always somebody better. Okay, there's somebody better than you.
• 50:15
  Speaker 2: There's somebody better than me. We are not in a relationship, okay,
• 50:19
  Speaker 2: we're not the worst, but we're not the greatest. There's
• 50:22
  Speaker 2: gonna be always somebody better if you want it. Now,
• 50:27
  Speaker 2: the problem is, why would you chase something else? If
• 50:32
  Speaker 2: everything's great, If your relationship is great, then there's no
• 50:36
  Speaker 2: reason to find somebody better. But if your relationship is
• 50:39
  Speaker 2: not what you want it to be, there's somebody out
• 50:42
  Speaker 2: there that you can have that with. Ever, not one
• 50:47
  Speaker 2: person listening right now. There's somebody better than you, okay,
• 50:54
  Speaker 2: And that's not a dig at you. There's somebody better
• 50:58
  Speaker 2: than me. There's somebody better than all of us out there.
• 51:03
  Speaker 2: But when you talk about it, you go, well, I
• 51:07
  Speaker 2: don't need anybody better because this relationship is great.
• 51:12
  Speaker 1: Okay.
• 51:13
  Speaker 2: So yeah, you should never chase anybody because you don't
• 51:17
  Speaker 2: have to. There's somebody else out there that wants you
• 51:21
  Speaker 2: that you don't have to chase. Okay, already four two
• 51:26
  Speaker 2: four or seven to seven. Hey, roam, I'm laughing so hard.
• 51:29
  Speaker 2: About six or eight years ago, I told my man,
• 51:32
  Speaker 2: if I ever passed away, I would want him to
• 51:34
  Speaker 2: be with my bestie. He was like, why I would never,
• 51:38
  Speaker 2: I said, because I know and trust her, and if
• 51:41
  Speaker 2: it's gonna be someone or can't it can be her.
• 51:46
  Speaker 1: She looks good.
• 51:48
  Speaker 2: But now I'm like, no, just because she's gotten low
• 51:51
  Speaker 2: key crazy over the years. So I'm like, you can't
• 51:54
  Speaker 2: be Oh, you can't be my kid's step mom anymore.
• 52:00
  Speaker 2: But if it did happen, I'm dead. Why would I care?
• 52:04
  Speaker 2: At least they waited till I was gone. Oh my god.
• 52:10
  Speaker 2: I mean, there's a lot of alidities what she just said,
• 52:13
  Speaker 2: there is a lot of alidity to it.
• 52:15
  Speaker 1: I mean, what are you gonna do? Alright? E four
• 52:17
  Speaker 1: two four seven seven?
• 52:21
  Speaker 2: Hey, Romeo, I just heard what you said about there's
• 52:24
  Speaker 2: always somebody, uh, there's always somebody better out there. But
• 52:29
  Speaker 2: have you ever heard the saying the grass isn't greener
• 52:32
  Speaker 2: or the grass isn't always greener On the other side,
• 52:35
  Speaker 2: I know that saying, but you misinterpret what that saying means.
• 52:40
  Speaker 2: The grass is greener no matter how great of a
• 52:44
  Speaker 2: partner you are, whatever all the if you do, if
• 52:48
  Speaker 2: you do nine things, and but you won't do the
• 52:52
  Speaker 2: tenth thing, whatever that is, there's a partner out there
• 52:56
  Speaker 2: that will do all ten things, and they might not
• 52:58
  Speaker 2: do the eleventh thing, but but they'll do more than you.
• 53:03
  Speaker 1: So the grass is greener on the other side.
• 53:06
  Speaker 2: The problem is when you look at that statement, people
• 53:09
  Speaker 2: are out there looking for something better when they don't
• 53:13
  Speaker 2: have to. There's a lot of people in great relationships that.
• 53:19
  Speaker 1: Have no reason to look elsewhere.
• 53:22
  Speaker 2: Okay, so the grass isn't greener for them because they
• 53:24
  Speaker 2: have no reason to go that way. But if your
• 53:26
  Speaker 2: grass is getting a little brown, guess what. The grass
• 53:31
  Speaker 2: is greener on the other side. And none of you
• 53:33
  Speaker 2: want to admit it. As soon as you will admit
• 53:37
  Speaker 2: that there is somebody out there better than you, you
• 53:41
  Speaker 2: might be a better partner in your relationship. You might
• 53:45
  Speaker 2: try a little harder, all right, A four, two, five,
• 53:47
  Speaker 2: four or seven to seven. I do want to get
• 53:50
  Speaker 2: into I do want to talk a little bit about
• 53:54
  Speaker 2: some of the dumbest things you have at your house.
• 53:56
  Speaker 2: It's probably your husbands who brought it home, by the way,
• 53:59
  Speaker 2: but somebody sent me this. I thought this was funny.
• 54:03
  Speaker 2: She said, Hey, Romeo, can you do me a favor.
• 54:06
  Speaker 2: We're listening right now at work, and I'm guessing you
• 54:10
  Speaker 2: texted me because you don't want your coworkers to know
• 54:13
  Speaker 2: it was you. We're listening right now at work, even
• 54:16
  Speaker 2: though they're going to know after I tell them what
• 54:17
  Speaker 2: you told me. We're listening right now at work, Rome
• 54:20
  Speaker 2: and I have three co workers who are all on
• 54:23
  Speaker 2: the shot and they're losing weight, and they're over here
• 54:27
  Speaker 2: acting like we're the same.
• 54:29
  Speaker 1: Now.
• 54:29
  Speaker 2: I work out every day, I eat right, I am
• 54:31
  Speaker 2: in great shape.
• 54:33
  Speaker 1: But I did it the right way.
• 54:34
  Speaker 2: Can you please explain to them that we're not the
• 54:37
  Speaker 2: same and to stop acting like it?
• 54:40
  Speaker 1: Uh?
• 54:44
  Speaker 2: I I can't do that. Everybody's on the shot. From
• 54:48
  Speaker 2: what I understand, half of Baker's Field's on the shot.
• 54:51
  Speaker 2: I can't because I don't care. It's not I don't care.
• 54:57
  Speaker 2: You know, people lose weight, they want to lose weight.
• 55:01
  Speaker 2: And if and if and if you have the discipline
• 55:03
  Speaker 2: and the work ethic to get it done one way
• 55:06
  Speaker 2: and other people need to do it a different way.
• 55:09
  Speaker 1: Allah of the shot, then I just I don't now
• 55:13
  Speaker 1: what do you want me to say?
• 55:14
  Speaker 2: However, they get there, they get there now, if they're
• 55:16
  Speaker 2: gonna start, if they're actually acting like there, I don't
• 55:20
  Speaker 2: think they're acting like they're better than you. What I
• 55:22
  Speaker 2: think they're doing is just acting like they're skinny again. Okay,
• 55:26
  Speaker 2: And you're taking offense to that because you put in
• 55:29
  Speaker 2: the work. But that's on you, not them. I'm just
• 55:32
  Speaker 2: guessing unless they are. I'm just guessing that that's what's going.
• 55:36
  Speaker 1: On in your office.
• 55:37
  Speaker 2: Okay, but that's more of your insecurity than it is theirs,
• 55:42
  Speaker 2: you know, and I could be wrong, But anyway, who cares?
• 55:47
  Speaker 2: I mean, I don't care, but I've never cared, just
• 55:51
  Speaker 2: like all you haters out there who always when fake
• 55:54
  Speaker 2: boobs were in or or butts are in, you got
• 55:56
  Speaker 2: you got mad because people went and got surgery.
• 55:58
  Speaker 1: So what doesn't.
• 56:00
  Speaker 2: Matter just because you do it differently than they do it,
• 56:04
  Speaker 2: it doesn't matter the same results, the same result. Get
• 56:08
  Speaker 2: over yourself is what I would say. Relax, everybody does
• 56:12
  Speaker 2: things differently. Okay, what did you send me here? The
• 56:16
  Speaker 2: Kern County Child Support Services is doing a seventeenth annual
• 56:22
  Speaker 2: free community event and backpack giveaway.
• 56:25
  Speaker 1: It's going on Thursday August sixth. What is that s?
• 56:28
  Speaker 2: Thursday August sixth, nine am to twelve pm. Kern County Museum,
• 56:34
  Speaker 2: thirty eight oh one Chester Avenue. You guys know what
• 56:37
  Speaker 2: the current County museum is.
• 56:38
  Speaker 1: So there you go.
• 56:38
  Speaker 2: If your kids need some backpacks, you come out to
• 56:42
  Speaker 2: get faded barber and Beauty College on Wednesday.
• 56:44
  Speaker 1: Get your kids haircuts for free.
• 56:47
  Speaker 2: First ninety four kids haircut for free, and.
• 56:52
  Speaker 1: Then go out and get some backpacks.
• 56:57
  Speaker 2: Seventeenth annual free community Event Backpack Away Thursday, August sixth,
• 57:01
  Speaker 2: from nine am to twelve pm over at the Museum.
• 57:03
  Speaker 2: It's the Current County Child Support Services that's doing that.
• 57:06
  Speaker 1: Okay, so you guys got it. Everybody write it down.
• 57:09
  Speaker 1: Don't forget good money, Romo.
• 57:10
  Speaker 3: Is there any more backpack everyway this week?
• 57:13
  Speaker 1: Yeah, we're doing the mom.
• 57:14
  Speaker 2: Yeah, there's gonna be a lot this week because we
• 57:16
  Speaker 2: got to get get.
• 57:17
  Speaker 1: Rid of them all. Do you have an extra one?
• 57:20
  Speaker 1: Do not have an extra one? Sorry?
• 57:23
  Speaker 3: You're killing me.
• 57:25
  Speaker 1: I'm sorry, I'm sorry. Listen to win these things. I'm listening. Well,
• 57:32
  Speaker 1: good luck. I hope you win. Right.
• 57:35
  Speaker 2: Yeah, we're giving away backpacks Rodriguez and Associates.
• 57:38
  Speaker 1: Obviously we do it every year. If you don't know
• 57:40
  Speaker 1: about it, you should know about it by now. I
• 57:42
  Speaker 1: don't even know how many years we've been.
• 57:44
  Speaker 2: We just Daniel and Roriguez and Associates been doing it
• 57:47
  Speaker 2: every year. You hear a hall pass, you get a
• 57:49
  Speaker 2: backpack full of school supplies and there's some grand price
• 57:56
  Speaker 2: stuff in the backpacks, like I think there's some laptops, gift.
• 58:00
  Speaker 1: Cards, maybe iPads. I'm not airbuds. I'm not sure what's
• 58:06
  Speaker 1: all in them. But we do it every year.
• 58:09
  Speaker 2: So yeah, you got to listen for that Hall pass
• 58:10
  Speaker 2: to win a backpack, we only give away ninety.
• 58:13
  Speaker 1: Let's make sure you just keep listening, right already.
• 58:15
  Speaker 2: Four two, five, four seven seven, Hey Romeo, Oh, I
• 58:19
  Speaker 2: know I'm a little late for texting you this, but
• 58:22
  Speaker 2: I was driving on my way to work when I
• 58:23
  Speaker 2: heard you talk about the grass is greener and there's
• 58:26
  Speaker 2: always somebody better than your current partner. Yeah, I did
• 58:31
  Speaker 2: say that there's always somebody better if you want it,
• 58:34
  Speaker 2: you know. Anyway, she said there's nobody better than my husband.
• 58:40
  Speaker 2: He is a good family man, a hard worker, a
• 58:42
  Speaker 2: great husband, takes care of us and the kids.
• 58:46
  Speaker 1: We come first. I don't know how you could say that.
• 58:52
  Speaker 2: I can say it because, Okay, your husband's a good
• 58:56
  Speaker 2: family man. Your husband's a great husband, your husband's a
• 58:58
  Speaker 2: good father. But guess what, your husband can make more money. Okay, Now,
• 59:05
  Speaker 2: if you didn't want to work, and I'm not saying
• 59:07
  Speaker 2: you don't want to work because you said you were
• 59:09
  Speaker 2: going to work, and I'm not saying you don't. I'm saying,
• 59:11
  Speaker 2: but there's a guy out there who has all the
• 59:15
  Speaker 2: qualities of being a great husband, a great father, a
• 59:18
  Speaker 2: good hard worker. There's a guy out there just like
• 59:22
  Speaker 2: that who makes more money. So there's always something. The
• 59:26
  Speaker 2: point behind the conversation was not that you have a
• 59:31
  Speaker 2: bad spouse. The point behind the conversation was there's always
• 59:36
  Speaker 2: somebody better out there than you and your partner. Okay, now,
• 59:43
  Speaker 2: I'm not saying you need to go look on them
• 59:44
  Speaker 2: because you like you might have a great life. Could
• 59:48
  Speaker 2: you have a better life, yes, But why would you
• 59:52
  Speaker 2: look for one if you already have a great life.
• 59:54
  Speaker 2: There's just too many people in this world to go, Yeah,
• 59:58
  Speaker 2: you're with the best you can get at this point,
• 1:00:01
  Speaker 2: or you've settled because that person checks all the boxes
• 1:00:05
  Speaker 2: that you're looking for at this point, because you haven't
• 1:00:07
  Speaker 2: met the guy that's better, or you haven't met the
• 1:00:10
  Speaker 2: woman that's better. That's all I'm saying in
• 1:00:12
  Speaker 3: The morning, every morning morning ninety four point one