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Do they still think about you after the discard · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  Have you ever wondered if a narcissist ever thinks about you
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  after the breakup? After the relationship ends?
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  If so, this is the video for you.
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  Of course, if you're new here, my name is Lee Hammock.
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  I'm a clinically diagnosed narcissist myself.
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  And welcome to another episode of the Narcissist Code Y'all,
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  where we give you the inside look at the mind of a
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  narcissist, right? If a diagnosed narcissist
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  myself, Mr. Lee Hammock, right? Better known as mental illness,
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  for all intents and purposes. So let's get right into it,
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  Y'all? Do narcissists ever think about
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  you when the relationship ends? Yes, most do.
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  Now, could there be? I say most, Yeah.
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  I try not to speak in absolutes because I know No2.
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  No two narcissists think the exact same way.
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  There are no two narcissists on this planet who act and behave
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  exactly alike. There are going to be some
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  subtle differences here and there, right?
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  Most do think about you. Are there some that can never,
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  ever think about you? They can move on and forget
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  about you. Yeah, some, some of those people
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  probably do exist, right? But most do, most will
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  continuously think about you, right?
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  And the, the, the degree to what they think about you is going to
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  depend on a few different factors.
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  Of course, one of the main factors is the longevity of the
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  relationship. It's most times it's important.
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  It's not always important, right?
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  Because I've talked to people who have been in three-week
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  relationships with narcissists, not even real relationship,
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  three weeks of dating and getting to know each other and
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  they feel like, OK, this is relationship is going.
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  This isn't the best for me. I need the 86.
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  I need the exit stage left out of this relationship.
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  So they just you, you want to leave the relationship, right?
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  You want to escape the relationship but you have an
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  obsessive, horrible, evil person that just refuses to leave you
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  alone. It becomes more and more
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  difficult to get out of it because they're crazy.
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  Even after three weeks, right then, I know a lot of y'all will
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  will vibe with that. Even after three weeks, there's
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  some of these narcissistic people will come.
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  Some of them will refuse to leave you alone.
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  Some don't care that what what has been going on.
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  Some do not care what you've been through.
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  How long y'all been together. They think that you belong to
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  them. So of course you're going to
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  always be on their mind. And again, that might not be in
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  a good way. I know some people you, you're
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  asking the question, do they ever love you?
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  They ever care about you. It might not be in a good way.
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  I know everybody. Most people on this planet want
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  to know that they matter in some way, shape or form.
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  That's one of the one of the main questions I get.
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  Did I ever matter to them? Yeah, you probably did, right?
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  But some people will refuse to leave you alone if you keep.
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  The more you go back into these toxic relationships, the worse
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  it will absolutely get. The more you go back into the
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  toxicity, the worse it may get for you.
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  Like that's why I tell people, like, I know it's hard to leave
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  some of these relationships, but the more you go back and forth,
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  the more obsessive this person could become and the more
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  dangerous they can become. You know, 'cause they're going
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  back and forth stuff, they start to agitate their souls and some
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  of them can snap and just think, OK, you going to go be with
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  somebody else, You're done for good this time.
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  And they take you and or your family out of here.
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  These family annihilators do exist.
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  These weirdos out here do exist. But if you break up with them,
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  they will come back to unalive you and your family.
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  And then sometimes themselves. Those people do.
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  I actually saw one of those pop up on TikTok the other day
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  watching TikTok and like this woman's running down the street.
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  She's like my boy, my ex-boyfriend came back and he
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  unalived my family. He unalived my whole family.
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  She barely escaped. He he came back like she broke
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  up with him. They, they've been going back
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  and forth. He finally came back, snapped,
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  shot at her, but her dad came downstairs, he shot her dad shot
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  her mom shot her friend that he was over there shot, went
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  outside and shot. I think their uncle was living
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  in a camper in the backyard. He just peeked out what was
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  going on, shot him and he tried to run off to Mexico, but they
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  messed around and found him in Mexico and and brought him back.
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  I think he's serving a lot of four life settings right now and
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  deservedly so. But you said how some of these
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  bastards, it wasn't even that long of a relationship.
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  They just had been back and forth for a little bit.
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  He snapped and took a whole family out of here.
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  You know what I said one and done.
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  Everybody doesn't deserve a second chance y'all.
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  And it's not me trying to victim blind.
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  No, people like you leave. You sound like you blame her.
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  No, it's their fault for snapping.
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  I'm just telling you, you want to protect yourself.
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  Don't do the back and forth for some of these psychos, which you
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  might not know as a psycho, you know?
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  So some of them thinking about you might absolutely be the
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  worst thing in the world. You know, some of them thinking
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  about you might absolutely be the most horrible thing that
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  could happen to you because they become obsessive.
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  And some of them can absolutely become dangerous to you.
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  They can become dangerous to you and your family members and
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  everybody else around you. That's why you want to be
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  careful as you possibly can because some of these bastards
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  will lose their minds on you. Let's keep it hot and ready like
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  a Little Caesar's Pizza, like I always say, right?
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  So them thinking about you might not be the best thing right?
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  You sometimes you want them to forget about you.
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  There's so many people in commentation like Lee.
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  How do I make them forget about me?
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  Please, And I tell them I'll do I'll do a separate video on
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  this. This is them thinking about you,
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  y'all. So after their discard, yes,
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  most of them will think about you even if they have someone
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  else because they if them having someone else could also be a
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  problem to I think most people think I get a lot of people my
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  comments to say I cannot wait till they find someone else.
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  So they will leave me alone and I have to burst their bubbles
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  out. Like look, just because they
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  find someone else does not guarantee that they will leave
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  you alone. Sometimes they will try to, they
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  will try to double or triple dip.
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  You'll just be they'll try to put you in their their little
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  narcissistic harem where they just keep keep you around and
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  start balancing multiple people. Now, are there some people out
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  there who are fine being in a narcissistic harem?
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  Yes, there are absolutely some people there that are fine being
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  a part of a harem. Now, I'm not saying that you are
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  one of those ones that'll be OK with being as part of this
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  harem, but there are a lot of people who are.
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  And a lot of times the narcissistic person will
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  convince you that it's OK to be part of a harem.
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  It will, they will convince you that it's OK to, for them to
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  deal with multiple people while you remain faithful to them.
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  Look, I, I know I started talking to this other person
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  while we were broken up, but guess what?
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  I don't. I want you, I want to be with
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  you, but I don't want to be mean and let them down so hard.
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  So give me time. I need time to break up with
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  them. I need time to release this old,
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  this new relationship. I need time, time, time, time,
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  time. They're always asking for more
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  time but have very little to offer you forward.
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  You know they're always asking for extra time or new.
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  You know, they're asking for more and more and more from you
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  while getting less and less and less.
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  And that's why so many people, you have to be prepared to deal
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  with this person, right? Because again, they still, just
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  because they have someone else does not mean that they will
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  unequivocally leave you alone. Does not mean that they will
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  just disappear on you and walk out of your life for good.
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  That does not mean that, right? So they might absolutely think
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  about you after the discard. Now here's the main question
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  that people ask. It's not really about thinking
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  about them, right? It's just like they are they
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  thinking about me? Do they still love me?
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  Do they do they miss me? Do they regret what they've
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  done? Yeah.
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  Could they still love you? Yeah, they could possibly still
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  love you to to the ability that narcissists can love.
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  Right now, most of y'all will think that narcissists can't
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  love at all. I truly believe that there are
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  some narcissists who can love, but it's just not that deep
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  emotional connection that most people crave.
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  You might not get that deep emotional connection that you
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  might be craving from your narcissistic partner or friend
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  or whoever. This is right?
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  You might not have that deep connection that you're searching
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  for. You're seeking.
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  They might tell you that they love you.
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  They might y'all might have been through a lot.
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  They might have put you through a lot, but in all actuality, is
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  it something that y'all, is it going to be this deep Cinderella
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  type story? Probably not, right?
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  You're probably not going to get that, that deep emotional love.
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  Do they regret that they've done to you when they're thinking
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  about it? Sometimes, sometimes they do
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  absolutely regret it. Y'all, they do regret it.
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  But will they reach out to you? Some might not.
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  Their egos might be so big that even if they regret it or if
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  they miss you or they still care about you, it doesn't mean that
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  they will reach out to you. And don't let that I got to say
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  this. Don't let me saying that make
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  you reach out to them. Well, Lee, you said they they
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  regret it, but they were afraid to reach out to us.
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  So maybe I should reach out to them.
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  That's not what I said. Just because they might regret
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  what they've done to you or miss you does not mean that they will
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  treat you better or that the going back into your and going
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  opening your life back up to this person is a good idea.
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  That's not at all what I said. That does not make y'all.
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  That's not true. It will.
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  It doesn't work that way. It doesn't work that way.
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  Please believe me when I say it. It doesn't work that way.
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  If they have broken your heart or done something horrible to
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  you, they will keep doing this type of stuff.
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  They will keep putting you through this type of shit
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  because this is who they are. So don't let a couple of words
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  that I said in this video just saying yeah, they might miss
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  you. Yeah, they might love you.
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  Don't let don't cut. I hope you didn't cut the video
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  off right there, Angela. I'm about to call them.
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  No, why would you do that? I'm going to call them Lee say
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  call them. No, the hell Lee didn't.
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  Lee did not say call them. Lee said leave them alone.
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  Leave them alone. Lee did not say call them.
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  Don't. Don't welcome toxicity back into
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  your life thinking that this person is going to change their
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  behaviors because you heard me say it in a video.
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  Possibly, right? You hear me?
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  Hear me open my mouth in the video and say something like
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  that. Don't do that because just
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  because they might think about you, just because they might
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  miss you, just because they might regret something here and
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  there, does not mean they will treat you better if you go back.
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  Especially, especially if you're the one that reaches out to
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  them. If you are the one that reaches
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  out to them, in their minds you are OK with how they treated you
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  previously. So it's like, if you're OK with
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  how I treated you previously, why would I change to be better
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  in it? Why would I change to try to
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  treat you better in any way, shape or form?
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  If you're OK with what I put you through, why would I treat you
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  any better now? If you're calling me, if you're
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  texting me, if you're trying to get in contact with me, why
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  would I do you any better? Best with how narcissistic
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  people think right there. Are they just thinking like I I
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  have no reason to treat you any better because you called me?
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  If it's so bad, why are you reaching out to me?
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  If it's so bad, why are you texting me?
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  You know what I mean y'all? Anyways, y'all know you hear
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  that beep, but I got to hop off to a Zoom call.
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