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- 0:04Welcome to Save Democracy.
- 0:06We have a very special guest today.
- 0:08Jay Garfield is Doris Silbert Professor in the Humanities and Professor of
- 0:12Philosophy and Buddhist Studies, Emeritus at Smith College, Visiting
- 0:16Professor of Buddhist Philosophy at Harvard Divinity School, and Professor
- 0:20of Philosophy at Melbourne University.
- 0:22Professor Garfield's research addresses topics in the philosophy of mind,
- 0:27metaphysics, the history of modern Indian philosophy, epistemology,
- 0:32ethics, the nature of normativity, and topics in Buddhist philosophy.
- 0:36He's the author or editor of over 30 books and over 200 articles.
- 0:40Firstly, Jay, can I just say hello.
- 0:42Hello.
- 0:42It's very nice to meet you, Katherine, and very nice to have you with me.
- 0:46I'm really honored to be on your show.
- 0:48Oh, it's an honor to have you here.
- 0:50Thank you, Jay.
- 0:51So just to explain a little bit of an understanding as to why
- 0:55we're having this conversation.
- 0:56So the journey of mindfulness that I've been on for some time, off and on, has
- 1:02led me to get a bit more decluttered around how I see the world, and to
- 1:07also become calmer about how I engage in the world, and also to kind of get
- 1:12a bit of an understanding what's the next best thing for me to focus on.
- 1:16So it helped to get greater clarity.
- 1:19And underneath a lot of the issues in the world are the foundations of
- 1:25what we're all walking on and standing upon, which for many of us is democracy
- 1:31in various states of disrepair.
- 1:34And so I thought I should really turn to this, and to offer an invitation
- 1:38to be on a journey to understand what democracy's really all about, why
- 1:43it's so important, why it's important to the quality of our lives, and if
- 1:48we're not careful, it can slip away.
- 1:50And then also to understand, how to calmly and constructively engage in
- 1:56the world without, you know, getting too knocked sideways by the noise and
- 2:03the fear and the rapid pace of change.
- 2:06and so Jay, just wanted to give a general introduction as to why we wanted
- 2:12to go down this journey with you, and I'm really grateful that you're here.
- 2:16Whatever you'd like to explore.
- 2:18Wow, that's a really interesting set of questions, and a
- 2:21interesting set of problems.
- 2:24I suppose it's worth recalling that when we think about democracy,
- 2:29a lot of people think about democracy in terms of elections.
- 2:33You've got a democratic country if you hold a bunch of elections,
- 2:37and I honestly think that's really mistaking, a minor feature-- Well,
- 2:42not a minor feature, but a feature of democracy for what democracy is.
- 2:47Elections are a mechanism.
- 2:48They're not democracy, in effect.
- 2:51And it's more important, I think, to recognize that democracy means
- 2:55that we're organizing our societies together by the demos, by the people.
- 3:03And it's also important to recognize that what that means is we do that
- 3:07because we think that that form of organization has a legitimating function,
- 3:12and if we lose sight of that process of legitimation, we really start losing
- 3:17sight of what democracy is all about.
- 3:20So for instance, when we have people who are holding public offices and they
- 3:26perform certain kinds of actions, we think those actions are legitimate if
- 3:30they're in accord with laws and statutes, illegitimate if they violate them.
- 3:35But we can also ask a question about laws and statutes.
- 3:38Are they legitimate or are they themselves anti-democratic or somehow, venal?
- 3:46When we do that, we often measure them against the Constitution,
- 3:49either an implicit constitution as in Great Britain or an explicit
- 3:52written constitution such as here in Australia or in the United States.
- 3:56And we think that the function of a constitution, something that we've
- 3:59all kind of assented to, is that it can legitimate or determine the
- 4:05illegitimacy of laws and actions.
- 4:08But then if we ask the question, the very deeper question, what
- 4:11legitimates that constitution?
- 4:14Then we're really up against it.
- 4:16I mean, we could try to tell a sort-- the sort of mythology of the social
- 4:20contract tradition and say that once upon a time, our forebears got
- 4:24together in a jungle and organized a meeting to, to ratify a constitution.
- 4:31That doesn't do very much because, of course, the very fact that some people
- 4:34some time in the past agreed to or might have agreed to something doesn't
- 4:38bind us or legitimate anything now.
- 4:41A constitution gets its legitimacy because of common consent, because we have enough
- 4:47solidarity that we're all behind it.
- 4:50And what that means is that human solidarity is really what's at
- 4:54the base of democratic legitimacy, and we often lose track of that.
- 4:59And I think that when we see democracy in decline, what we're really
- 5:02seeing is solidarity in decline.
- 5:05And sometimes the decline of that solidarity is, we might say, accidental,
- 5:10maybe things are happening so that some people start distrusting others.
- 5:15But it may also be that it's intentional, that those who think that they can benefit
- 5:19from a decline of democracy actually sow divisions and break solidarity.
- 5:24And I think that's what we're seeing in the rise of kind of divisive
- 5:29populism, racism, anti-immigrant sentiment, and so forth, that we're
- 5:34seeing in so much of the decline of democracy around the world today.
- 5:39Anyway, that's just something that I've been thinking about quite
- 5:41a bit lately, and thinking that when we really ask what's at the
- 5:44basis of a democratic society, it's not a bunch of laws, it's trust.
- 5:50It's mutual trust that builds solidarity, that allows us to think that we're
- 5:54all roughly in the same project.
- 5:56And trust can allow us not only to agree, but it can also allow
- 6:01us to disagree with civility.
- 6:04You and I might disagree about a policy, or we might disagree about the value of
- 6:08a work of art, or we might disagree about the wisdom of a certain kind of practice.
- 6:16We might even disagree about matters of etiquette.
- 6:18But if we trust one another, then we trust one another to engage in
- 6:23discussion and disagreement thoughtfully, responsibly, charitably, and with the
- 6:29goal of resolving problems rather than with the goal of exacerbating them.
- 6:33When trust erodes, democracy erodes.
- 6:36And so very often what we have to ask ourselves if we're trying to
- 6:38preserve democracy or to strengthen a democracy is how we build trust
- 6:43and how we build social solidarity.
- 6:46So you're really pointing to trust and solidarity, and there's just this sense in
- 6:53the way things are for many of us in urban life, in online life, that there's a sort
- 6:58of increasing atomization, and there's less of an inclination towards solidarity
- 7:04in the way our lives operate today.
- 7:07Yep.
- 7:07The way we go about our daily life.
- 7:11There's a sort of epidemic of loneliness, and people exist
- 7:16within bubbles online and offline.
- 7:19People live in gated communities.
- 7:21There seems to be social forces at play that really exacerbate this atomization-
- 7:28Yep
- 7:28… and go directly against what you're talking about of solidarity and trust.
- 7:33A lot of the people I've spoken to talk about the importance of civil
- 7:36society for the health of a democracy, and that it starts in the church
- 7:41hall, and the community center, and forming a group locally, and building
- 7:45networks and, and this again speaks to solidarity and trust because you're
- 7:50mixing with your local community, and they're all different types of people.
- 7:53You're no longer in a bubble, and there's a gradual sort of increasing trust and
- 7:58solidarity by the nature of that effort, no matter how challenging it can be
- 8:02sometimes, you've got a single mission, and you're doing some endeavor together
- 8:07and learning to disagree agreeably.
- 8:09And so I just wanted to speak to this question of how do we rebuild
- 8:16trust and solidarity in the context of an increasing… all the forces
- 8:20going the other way, or at least it seems that way sometimes.
- 8:24I think some of that involves something to which you adverted at the very beginning
- 8:29when you used the word mindfulness, which I'm hearing in part as a kind of
- 8:34attentiveness, and it requires being attentive to what is valuable in our
- 8:40own lives, but also to what is being done to erode trust and solidarity
- 8:47so that we can better resist it.
- 8:49Because a lot of what happens happens below a level of reflective attention
- 8:57and affects us very deeply even though we don't notice what's going on.
- 9:01That's when it's most powerful.
- 9:03An eighth century Buddhist philosopher who I like to work
- 9:06on a lot, Shantideva, argued that moral vice always begins in fear.
- 9:14And so what he was particularly concerned with was fear of death, which leads us
- 9:19to try to strengthen our own egos, to try to find a way to live forever, which
- 9:24leads us to gate our community so that nobody can come in and harm us, which
- 9:30leads us to try to amass as many goods as we can for ourselves and to see life
- 9:35as a zero-sum game, that leads us to make sure we undermine others so they
- 9:40don't become our rivals and so forth.
- 9:42And that fear can be extraordinarily powerful, and that's what
- 9:47really erodes solidarity.
- 9:49And if you pay attention to populist rhetoric, the kind of rhetoric that really
- 9:54is aimed at undermining democracy, a great deal of it, if not almost all of
- 9:59it, is devoted to raising levels of fear.
- 10:02Fear of immigrants, fear of crime, fear of change, fear of the decay of
- 10:10a particular kind of moral order or family arrangements, fear of what equity
- 10:16might mean for people who have enjoyed privileged positions and so forth.
- 10:21And it's the cultivation of fear that is the mechanism by means of which opponents
- 10:27of democracy really undermine it.
- 10:29If we don't notice that, if we think that, for instance, a debate about immigration
- 10:35policy is simply a neutral debate about how to manage our borders or a neutral
- 10:40debate about, who should get visas and who shouldn't and that's being engaged in a
- 10:46dispassionate way, we've missed the point.
- 10:48The point is that what's happening is somebody's trying
- 10:51to stoke fear and divide us.
- 10:53If we think that a debate about parental leave and whether we should be offering
- 10:59parental leave to young parents is simply a debate about employment policy
- 11:05rather than an attempt to raise fear about women entering the workplace,
- 11:12then we've missed the point completely.
- 11:14And so I think that it's really important to raise our level of attentiveness to
- 11:20when our emotions are being manipulated and to when our fear is being aroused
- 11:25so that we can say, "Wait a minute, you don't have a right to make me afraid.
- 11:30I'm not going to be afraid of this." And to engage in a kind of resoluteness
- 11:35and a kind of banding together with those who are victimized in various ways
- 11:40by that fear-mongering, to recognize that we are in a common position, all
- 11:45the victims of that sort of rhetoric.
- 11:48I think that's really important.
- 11:49I mean, it sounds, in a way, kind of obvious or kind of silly, but
- 11:54that's really the root of it.
- 11:55When we understand that the root of democracy is in trust and solidarity, and
- 12:00that the fundamental way to attack that is to inspire irrational fear, we've got to
- 12:05be attentive, to the nature of that fear.
- 12:08And so in response to that, we have to cultivate alternative attitudes,
- 12:12attitudes of genuine friendship and solidarity, attitudes of care, for
- 12:18those who are immediately suffering as a part of that, attitudes of a kind of
- 12:24impartiality that doesn't kind of take our own position as somehow privileged.
- 12:29And if we can't do that, then we kind of deserve to lose our democracy
- 12:33because those are the foundations of a democratic order, our very
- 12:38deep psychological attitudes and shared psychological attitudes.
- 12:41That's what really generates this.
- 12:43Doesn't mean agreement about everything, but it does mean the sense that
- 12:48whatever our disagreements, our unity is far more important than that.
- 12:54So when you take the, for instance, the official motto of the United States,
- 12:58something al- almost nobody even reflects on anymore, 'E Pluribus Unum'.
- 13:03It's not that there was one nation out of 13 colonies when that slogan was coined.
- 13:08It was that you get one populace out of diverging views if you've
- 13:14got a basis for unity, and that unity is a sense of shared purpose.
- 13:19That's not to say that there was a shared purpose at that time.
- 13:22A lot of people were enslaved.
- 13:23But it is to say that that was an ideal, and an ideal, I think, worth fighting for.
- 13:29Yes.
- 13:30And you mentioned a key word, which is not easy, impartiality.
- 13:35Yes.
- 13:36And I'm thinking especially in terms of people in the community who may not
- 13:41be consciously spreading fear, may not be consciously trying to manipulate
- 13:46others, but are perhaps being manipulated themselves, and are kind of spokespeople
- 13:52for the fears you talk about because the people behind them, or at least stoking
- 13:58the fear, know which buttons to press.
- 14:02And so there might be this sort of unintentional,
- 14:05unconscious spreading of fear.
- 14:08And if you're facing that in your community, and it's, it's
- 14:14something I'm scared about, frankly.
- 14:17You know, how do I… I mean, it's nice in theory
- 14:21. Yeah.
- 14:22But how do I kind of really try to bring that energy of solidarity
- 14:28underneath all of the noise?
- 14:31When I'm meeting somebody face to face who has very strong views that are
- 14:35very fearful, and I'm trying to kind of find, not privilege my own view-
- 14:41Right
- 14:43… and try to find this impartiality and try to find a kind of meaningful moment where
- 14:49we both see each other's humanity, and perhaps it diffuses any negative energy
- 14:56that may have arisen, and there's this sort of base of solidarity going forward.
- 14:59It's interacting with people who are maybe less conscious than, the
- 15:04fear mongers, but are in effect spreading fear without really
- 15:08realizing that, if that makes sense.
- 15:11Yeah.
- 15:12I think there's a few things to say about that.
- 15:13Quite a few in fact.
- 15:16One is that- Oftentimes what we're looking at in circumstances of that
- 15:21kind are the deliberate cultivation of what Marx felicitously called false
- 15:25consciousness, so that people are being told, that their interests lie in one
- 15:31place where they in fact lie in another.
- 15:33Ex-President of the United States, Harry Truman, once said that you
- 15:37can always count on the American working class to vote against their
- 15:41own interests, and that was because people carefully educated members of
- 15:47that class to misalign their interests and to believe that their interests
- 15:51were always aligned with capital.
- 15:53And sometimes what's necessary in order to begin to build the basis of a conversation
- 16:01is a conversation about what our interests are, what we hope for, what our goals are,
- 16:06and to begin by finding whatever shreds of common ground there are, because it's in
- 16:14discovering those shreds of common ground that you can begin to then address the
- 16:20questions that divide, that divide us.
- 16:24It only makes sense
- 16:28to begin a conversation where we disagree, if we can find out where we agree so
- 16:35that there's some premises that we share.
- 16:37And also, again, to always be aware, as you pointed out, that when we enter
- 16:42conversation, whether it's political conversation, moral conversation,
- 16:47conversation about art, conversation about the weather, that we begin that
- 16:53by suggesting that the conversation is a joint practice, not I giving
- 17:00a lecture to somebody, and not an attempt necessarily to convince
- 17:04anybody that they need to agree.
- 17:06Sometimes when we begin a conversation in the context of disagreement,
- 17:12each party comes in with the view that I win the game if I get the
- 17:17other person to agree with me.
- 17:20And then the goal doesn't become building a relationship, the
- 17:25goal becomes winning a debate.
- 17:28It's extraordinarily important, again, to use your idea about mindfulness, to be
- 17:34attentive to our own tendency to do that.
- 17:37And if I find that I'm in a conversation and what I'm trying to do is win, it might
- 17:42be a good time to take a long, deep breath and say to the other person, "Look," and
- 17:47to say it honestly, "It's not important to me that you agree with me, what I want
- 17:53to do is to understand your perspective, and I'd like you to understand mine"
- 17:57and if we can come away with an understanding of how two people
- 18:01who agree about so much disagree about some particular points,
- 18:05then maybe that will allow us to reflect more deeply on those points.
- 18:10And to continually bring the point of the conversation back to mutual
- 18:15understanding and discovery of common ground rather than trying to win a debate.
- 18:22And I have to say that in much of the world, our politicians, our
- 18:28leaders, even our religious leaders don't always set a good example,
- 18:35for that kind of conversation.
- 18:37Very often, public discourse is set up as debate, whether it's question
- 18:42time in parliament or a debate between candidates or the editorial pages
- 18:48of a newspaper where we find one conservative and one liberal and have
- 18:51them fight about a particular issue.
- 18:55It just goes on again and again and again, and we valorize that kind of
- 19:00gladiatorial approach to discourse.
- 19:04A gladiatorial approach to discourse is a way of generating divisions,
- 19:08reifying them, and perpetuating them rather than a way of, of repair.
- 19:14Repair requires attentiveness and humility, and if we
- 19:18can't speak with humility and attentiveness, then we're hopeless
- 19:27It's worrying
- 19:30because where I sit, in the UK and where I'm from, Australia, if you
- 19:37approach, say, politics for example, with anything other than, "Oh, I've
- 19:43got alligator skin and, you know, I can handle the robustness of the fight, the
- 19:50gladiatorial combat." If you have anything less than that, it's a deficiency.
- 19:56It's perceived as you're unsuited to politics.
- 20:00Yeah.
- 20:03I wanted to speak too about the noise, and I have learnt through my own journey
- 20:12how to cultivate peace in my day, even if I'm in the middle of a lot of demanding,
- 20:19activities, or I'm in a big urban environment or whatever the different
- 20:24contributions are to the noise, or maybe personally I'm going through something.
- 20:28And so I've been able to
- 20:31cultivate that so that I can be very selective about news sources,
- 20:36very selective about what I'm 'consuming', as the Buddhists would
- 20:40say in all the ways that's meant.
- 20:43And I just wondered if you could speak to that, because a lot of our listeners
- 20:47are worried about democratic decline, but they're also affected or part of
- 20:54this modern world, and you constantly hear it again and again, "I just need
- 20:59to, you know, get in a rowboat and snip the rope and drift away because
- 21:05I, I can't cope with this anymore." And especially listening to geopolitics
- 21:10and how things are changing so rapidly, it's so discombobulating for people.
- 21:15And I wondered if you could just speak to the kind of ways
- 21:19in which you can cultivate actual calm and that's a much more
- 21:26nourishing way to look after yourself as you engage, rather than retreating,
- 21:33and just saying, "No thanks. I'm not having anything to do with it."
- 21:35Because we actually need people to be calm and constructive and contribute.
- 21:40So just, yeah, whatever you can share on that front, that'd be great.
- 21:43Yeah.
- 21:43I think one of the things to think about in that context is anger, versus patience.
- 21:52I
- 21:55think anger is the most destructive attitude and the most destructive
- 21:59emotion that we can have.
- 22:01And again, a lot of political discourse is shot through with
- 22:03anger, and anger is often valorized.
- 22:07And anger is often valorized not only, by people in power, but
- 22:11by people whose hearts are, in a
- 22:15certain sense, in the right place.
- 22:17People who are involved in liberation movements, people who are involved in,
- 22:22the defense of the downtrodden will sometimes argue that if you're not angry
- 22:26at injustice, then you really don't care.
- 22:30Now, it's worth thinking about what anger does to us.
- 22:35For all of the people who are listening to this, ask yourself when the last
- 22:38time you said to yourself, "God, I was so angry, I completely lost it.
- 22:42I was really at my best.
- 22:44I was thinking so clearly.
- 22:45I'm so proud of what I did then." Anger is one of those emotions
- 22:49that's always destabilizing.
- 22:51It decreases our ability to think rationally.
- 22:53It causes us to do things that we later have to apologize for.
- 22:58It dims our perception so that we can't hear and see as well.
- 23:03Even if we were to turn to domains of conflict, when you think about,
- 23:08say, somebody studying martial arts, the first thing they're taught is
- 23:12get your emotion out of the conflict.
- 23:14Get your anger out of the conflict, because when you're angry, you
- 23:17don't perceive well, you don't react well, you don't think rationally.
- 23:21We're often encouraged to get angry, sometimes for bad reasons,
- 23:24sometimes for good reasons.
- 23:26I would say always resist that, and if there are stimuli that you know
- 23:30are going to make you angry, then as long as you know they're gonna make
- 23:33you angry, stay away from them or think carefully and slowly, in another
- 23:39frame, about how you could engage with those without becoming angry.
- 23:44Now, that doesn't mean you have to approve of injustice and that
- 23:48you have to approve of wrongdoing.
- 23:51It does mean that your disapproval should take the form of what I like to call
- 23:55righteous indignation rather than anger.
- 24:00The great sixth century Buddhist scholar Buddhaghosa, when talking about the
- 24:06cardinal Buddhist virtues, that we've mentioned earlier, friendship, care,
- 24:15equanimity, being able to rejoice in the welfare of others, pointed out that each
- 24:20of these virtues, and any virtue you can mention, always comes both with a far
- 24:25enemy and a near enemy, to use his terms.
- 24:27So when we talk about friendship, the far enemy might be hostility,
- 24:32but the near enemy is partiality, wanting good for somebody else
- 24:38because it makes me feel good.
- 24:40And one of the things that Buddhaghosa points out is that genuine
- 24:44virtues, whether these are moral virtues, civic virtues, political
- 24:48virtues, are always non-egocentric.
- 24:51But there are always vices lurking around the corner that feel just like
- 24:57they're virtues, but are egocentric.
- 25:00So if I get really angry because injustice makes me feel bad, then
- 25:07the reason for my action is my feeling bad, not the injustice.
- 25:12If I can have indignation with regard to injustice and know that regardless of
- 25:17whether it makes me feel bad or not, it's wrong and ought to be countered, then I
- 25:22can think rationally and dispassionately.
- 25:25So kind of the moral of this story that begins with thinking about anger is to
- 25:31begin by thinking about anger, but then end up thinking about egocentricity.
- 25:36Because the more our moral life is governed by our egocentricity, by how
- 25:41we ourselves feel and react, the less effective we're going to be as agents,
- 25:46whether political agents or moral agents.
- 25:49And the more non-egocentric we can be, the more we can really take others'
- 25:54interests as reasons for action, or more general principles as reasons for
- 25:59action rather than our own interests, the more effective we're going to be.
- 26:04So I think that calm is best found in a kind of relinquishing of egocentricity.
- 26:11Agitation comes when I start thinking too much about my own situation.
- 26:16Shantideva
- 26:19has a beautiful line in Bodhicharyavatara where he says, "All of the ills in the
- 26:24world are caused by people pursuing their own happiness, and all of the
- 26:28happiness in the world is caused by people pursuing others' happiness."
- 26:32And I think that's really important.
- 26:33It says, "Stop being egocentric and you can be an agent for change. Be egocentric,
- 26:38and you're going to be an absolutely incompetent moral agent and an incompetent
- 26:43political agent." And when we think about the politicians we all despise
- 26:47the most, they're the most egocentric
- 26:54I love how you pointed to - many things you just said
- 26:59- but one I just pull one thread is the, the state it puts you in, and you just
- 27:09become less efficacious.
- 27:10You lose clarity.
- 27:13Yeah, that's beautiful.
- 27:15I just wanted to ask you a question.
- 27:17This is a little self-indulgent and, uh… But there may be listeners out
- 27:20there who know what I'm talking about.
- 27:23when you're a person who is a bit of a visual person and you envision different
- 27:29futures for society and community and humanity and the planet and, but you dare
- 27:36not say them out loud sometimes because,
- 27:41they can be quite positive because you can see and you can perceive human potential.
- 27:48But you just become a subject of ridicule if you put them to paper, unless you turn
- 27:55it into a fictional story of some kind.
- 27:57Yeah.
- 27:57Or a song.
- 27:58And I just wondered if you got any kind of tips for us, you know, people who are
- 28:04like that and have this desire, strong desire to project positive visions for
- 28:09humanity, but, whoa, it's a hostile environment for that kind of thing.
- 28:14Yeah.
- 28:15Barack Obama called that the audacity of hope.
- 28:18Yes
- 28:19… and, when he said that, I thought "you nailed it", right?
- 28:23Hope seems audacious.
- 28:25It seems to take an enormous amount of courage.
- 28:28But I would say we need to have the courage to hope.
- 28:33without that, there's really not much point.
- 28:37And there are reasons to hope.
- 28:40I think that even though we right now live in a point where things have been turning
- 28:46pretty bad, if we look at the broad arc of human history, it is a story of progress.
- 28:53It's not a story of monotonic progress.
- 28:55It doesn't keep progressing all the time.
- 28:57It goes up and it goes down.
- 28:59But the arc, as Martin Luther King said, even though it's
- 29:04long, it bends towards justice.
- 29:06And if we can help it bend in that way and have enough hope that
- 29:11to think that what we do makes a difference, I think that's useful.
- 29:16It's worth remembering that everything we do does leave effects.
- 29:23Sometimes the effects seem very local, but ripples that can
- 29:26be local can spread very far.
- 29:29And if we simply remember that every action we perform, every word that
- 29:35we say, every thought that we have is going to have effects, and we can become
- 29:41forces for good and forces for progress, or we can become retrograde forces.
- 29:48And that's a choice we each have.
- 29:52You might sometimes be ridiculed for being audaciously hopeful or, for being,
- 30:01generous even.
- 30:03But those are things that it's worth being ridiculed for, because when you
- 30:07demonstrate those qualities, somebody
- 30:10else is looking and says, "I could do that, too." And I
- 30:13think that's really important.
- 30:15I think that's just extraordinarily important.
- 30:18Aristotle puts it beautifully when he says, "How we raise our
- 30:21children makes a big difference
- 30:24or rather all the difference."
- 30:26And he had in mind the examples that we set.
- 30:31Well, that's beautiful, Jay.
- 30:35That's a beautiful moment, to end on and, really it's been
- 30:39very inspiring talking to you.
- 30:40Thank you so much for your time.
- 30:41Well, thank you, Katherine.
- 30:42It's been wonderful speaking with you.
- 30:46Bye for now.
- 30:46Bye.
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