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Episode 20: "It Could Be Worse" · From My Planit to Yours...

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  SPEAKER_00: Hey, I'm Blizzard Planet.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is the Self-Friendship Podcast, where playfulness meets self-reflection.
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  SPEAKER_00: Picture this.
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  SPEAKER_00: You hopped on the band rocket, and now you're on planet butter.
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  SPEAKER_00: A world made of delicious,
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  SPEAKER_00: sparkly,
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  SPEAKER_00: nut butter volcanoes and an adorable disco ball of self-reflection is whirling
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  SPEAKER_00: around in her transforming convertible.
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  SPEAKER_00: Today,
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  SPEAKER_00: I'll be sharing my answer to last week's question,
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  SPEAKER_00: a party of one story,
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  SPEAKER_00: timing and meeting people,
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  SPEAKER_00: a note on preconceived notions and drugs,
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  SPEAKER_00: why curiosity is not confrontation,
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  SPEAKER_00: why many of us do our best thinking in motion,
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  SPEAKER_00: a new mantra,
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  SPEAKER_00: an unlikely place to speak up for yourself,
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  SPEAKER_00: a perspective dance with the phrase,
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  SPEAKER_00: it could be worse,
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  SPEAKER_00: a note on creative seeds,
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  SPEAKER_00: a note on Stockholm Syndrome at work,
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  SPEAKER_00: and a brand new question for all of us to self-reflect,
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  SPEAKER_00: self-connect,
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  SPEAKER_00: and email me if you desire,
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  SPEAKER_00: selffriendshippodcast at gmail.com.
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  SPEAKER_00: Last week's question was,
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  SPEAKER_00: what's a piece of your inner world,
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  SPEAKER_00: your planet,
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  SPEAKER_00: that you wish more people could experience in their world,
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  SPEAKER_00: their planet?
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  SPEAKER_00: For me, it's my playfulness.
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  SPEAKER_00: The ability to make light of everything makes for much more pleasant experiences
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  SPEAKER_00: and interactions with the world around me.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, my party of one story for this week.
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  SPEAKER_00: As a reminder, party of one means having fun with oneself, for oneself, as oneself.
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  SPEAKER_00: Anywhere, everywhere, no matter who's there.
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  SPEAKER_00: We become our party of one by consistently practicing self-friendship.
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  SPEAKER_00: Each episode,
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  SPEAKER_00: I share little stories from my life that happened thanks to me showing up in my
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  SPEAKER_00: world as my party of one.
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  SPEAKER_00: So last week I shared with you guys this magical,
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  SPEAKER_00: miraculous villa appeared for me 24 hours within needing a new place to stay.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then this same villa had a series of problems.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then the owner said to me that they were so grateful for how understanding I
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  SPEAKER_00: was of all of the issues that they decided to gift me a free massage.
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  SPEAKER_00: Woo!
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  SPEAKER_00: And again, that is because I practice self-friendship and show up as my party of one.
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  SPEAKER_00: I make problems fun and light, even when it's really frustrating and inconvenient.
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  SPEAKER_00: People who don't practice self-friendship definitely don't get free massages.
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  SPEAKER_00: All right, now timing and meeting people.
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  SPEAKER_00: The timing of when we meet people is fascinating to me.
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  SPEAKER_00: Consider it,
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  SPEAKER_00: for a second with me,
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  SPEAKER_00: from the lens of the amount of different versions of ourselves that have existed
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  SPEAKER_00: and will exist.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now consider it from what our self-friendship practice looks like and who we connect with and when.
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  SPEAKER_00: Rather than thinking about the other person of who we're meeting,
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  SPEAKER_00: think about which version of ourselves is showing up that allowed for us to meet
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  SPEAKER_00: that person.
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  SPEAKER_00: And do we want to continue to express that version of ourselves or not?
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  SPEAKER_00: Dun, dun, dun.
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  SPEAKER_00: Moving on.
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  SPEAKER_00: A note on preconceived notions and drugs.
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  SPEAKER_00: I wish I could have tried mushrooms and weed without any preconceived notions about them.
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  SPEAKER_00: Such a pure and magical experience, I bet.
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  SPEAKER_00: I mean, inevitably.
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  SPEAKER_00: How cool is it that people literally just wandered through nature,
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  SPEAKER_00: ate some plants that created an entirely new perspective of the world around them
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  SPEAKER_00: and within them?
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  SPEAKER_00: I've tried doing that and one time the plant was super bitter and it just made my tongue feel semi-numb.
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  SPEAKER_00: I think that's the best way I could explain it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Some people these days would call eating random plants in nature dumb, but I call it exploring.
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  SPEAKER_00: To be clear, that is not to say I'm not cautious of which plants I've tried in nature.
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  SPEAKER_00: But anyway, the point is, preconceived notions about anything can be problematic.
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  SPEAKER_00: But especially with drugs, it's like, it creates this whole expectation and...
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  SPEAKER_00: For something as great as weed or mushrooms, I mean, wow.
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  SPEAKER_00: To have no ideas about them in advance of doing them, that's probably so cool.
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  SPEAKER_00: All right.
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  SPEAKER_00: Why curiosity is not confrontation.
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  SPEAKER_00: My curiosity is regularly mistaken for challenging or questioning people as if it's a negative thing.
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  SPEAKER_00: Example.
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  SPEAKER_00: I was out to dinner with a friend and the owner of the restaurant came over to us
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  SPEAKER_00: to tell us about the parties that the restaurant hosts every other Friday.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now this place is known to be a hotspot every Friday.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I genuinely was curious and asked the difference between the party that he's
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  SPEAKER_00: talking about every other Friday and just Friday nights in general,
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  SPEAKER_00: being that they're always so busy.
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  SPEAKER_00: And he thought I was giving him attitude.
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  SPEAKER_00: Friendly reminder that says more about him than me.
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  SPEAKER_00: And this is something that happens to me a lot, like I mentioned.
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  SPEAKER_00: So my goal in sharing this is to simply appreciate that it says so much about society.
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  SPEAKER_00: What is it about society that we interpret curiosity as something offensive?
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  SPEAKER_00: As if asking questions is loaded with negativity, judgment, threats, attitude, doubt?
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  SPEAKER_00: Question mark?
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  SPEAKER_00: If we all practice self-friendship,
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  SPEAKER_00: we would equally embrace,
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  SPEAKER_00: understand,
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  SPEAKER_00: and enjoy the world and the people in it because we would approach it with the same love,
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  SPEAKER_00: openness,
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  SPEAKER_00: and curiosity that we approach ourselves with.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, food for thought.
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  SPEAKER_00: Again, food, more food.
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  SPEAKER_00: Onward.
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  SPEAKER_00: Why many of us do our best thinking in motion.
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  SPEAKER_00: And mind you, this is just a theory, but hear me out.
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  SPEAKER_00: I think you're going to like it.
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  SPEAKER_00: I do my best thinking on a plane or so I thought.
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  SPEAKER_00: Well, I do.
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  SPEAKER_00: I love flying and I love working on planes.
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  SPEAKER_00: I also started realizing though,
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  SPEAKER_00: that I also have been having really creative thoughts,
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  SPEAKER_00: similar to while I'm flying,
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  SPEAKER_00: while being a passenger on the scooters here in Bali.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that realization had me thinking, self-reflecting, if you will, and
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  SPEAKER_00: And hear me out a little while ago, I was out to dinner again, different dinner, different friend.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I did not love where I was sitting mostly because I was facing a wall and I
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  SPEAKER_00: kept feeling a need to turn around.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I thought maybe my intuition was telling me to like look at something or someone,
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  SPEAKER_00: but then my friend asked me if I had ADHD and I was like,
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  SPEAKER_00: well,
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm not diagnosed,
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  SPEAKER_00: but if I were to be tested,
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  SPEAKER_00: I'd pass quote unquote.
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  SPEAKER_00: My friend in that moment said something that will stick with me forever.
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  SPEAKER_00: ADHD is basically your mind trying to multitask at all times.
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  SPEAKER_00: Wow, doesn't that just hit?
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  SPEAKER_00: So I think in conclusion,
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  SPEAKER_00: a big reason that I work so well and think so clearly while I'm flying or on a scooter,
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  SPEAKER_00: AKA in motion,
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  SPEAKER_00: is because my brain is being proportionally stimulated in the ways that I need.
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  SPEAKER_00: The motion is stimulating some part of my brain,
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  SPEAKER_00: which allows the other part of my brain to really easily pump out all my creative
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  SPEAKER_00: juicy bits.
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  SPEAKER_00: Fascinating.
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  SPEAKER_00: Anyone else?
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  SPEAKER_00: Email me, selffriendshippodcast at gmail.com.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, a new mantra.
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  SPEAKER_00: The spirit of excitement is guiding me.
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  SPEAKER_00: The spirit of excitement is guiding me.
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  SPEAKER_00: I made this one up while I was reviewing the final, final, final version of
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  SPEAKER_00: my coffee table book with a lesson,
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  SPEAKER_00: party of one,
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  SPEAKER_00: self-friendship in action for the hard copies specifically.
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  SPEAKER_00: The ebook is on Amazon.
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  SPEAKER_00: Anyway, the mantra literally just came out of my mouth out loud.
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  SPEAKER_00: So then I wrote it down.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's literally how creativity works, by the way, if you didn't know.
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  SPEAKER_00: Something in the universe says, here, send this one to that human over there.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then that human spills it out of you, yourself, somehow in some form.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then that human decides what to do with it.
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  SPEAKER_00: So this time I received that and I decided to share it with you guys.
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  SPEAKER_00: Next, an unlikely place to speak up for yourself.
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  SPEAKER_00: I went to my gifted massage from the villa, as I previously shared with you guys, and it was lovely.
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  SPEAKER_00: During the massage, I popped my little head up a few times to kindly ask for the pressure to change.
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  SPEAKER_00: And for the focus to be moved to a more,
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  SPEAKER_00: another area of my body,
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  SPEAKER_00: because there was a few times where it was just like the same one over and over and over.
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  SPEAKER_00: I was like, okay, thank you.
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  SPEAKER_00: Next.
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  SPEAKER_00: Anyway,
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  SPEAKER_00: I thought nothing of my self advocacy until I was on my way out and overheard
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  SPEAKER_00: another woman complaining about the quality of the pressure and pace of her massage.
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  SPEAKER_00: That was when I realized, I bet she did not advocate for herself while it was happening.
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  SPEAKER_00: Had I not spoken up, maybe I wouldn't have been as pleased too.
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  SPEAKER_00: It all comes back to self-friendship,
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  SPEAKER_00: which is taking ownership and responsibility for ourselves,
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  SPEAKER_00: even in a massage.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, a perspective dance with the phrase, it could be worse.
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  SPEAKER_00: When I injured my foot in my little scooter incident,
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  SPEAKER_00: as I shared with you guys a couple episodes ago,
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  SPEAKER_00: 99.9% of people said it could be worse or at least it's not worse.
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  SPEAKER_00: And while that's true in my perspective dancing ways,
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  SPEAKER_00: framing it as saying,
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm so grateful this is all it is,
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  SPEAKER_00: keeps what happened and the degree that it happened relevant to what actually
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  SPEAKER_00: happened and does not compare to anything else.
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  SPEAKER_00: It could always be worse or better.
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  SPEAKER_00: Saying that just takes away from whatever experience is happening.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now a note on creative seeds.
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  SPEAKER_00: Following your intuitive creative impulses with a greater intention of expansion in
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  SPEAKER_00: mind without being on a mission to a destination.
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  SPEAKER_00: I think that's really valuable because the nature of this is essentially when we
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  SPEAKER_00: simply act on our creative impulses,
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  SPEAKER_00: we are
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  SPEAKER_00: basically planting a seed of creativity.
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  SPEAKER_00: And with the intention of expansion,
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  SPEAKER_00: the more times we follow planting that creative seed,
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  SPEAKER_00: then the more expansive we become,
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  SPEAKER_00: even if the seeds aren't sprouted yet,
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  SPEAKER_00: they're still planted.
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  SPEAKER_00: So by default,
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  SPEAKER_00: you are expanding whatever it is your intentions are set toward when you act on the
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  SPEAKER_00: creative impulses in relation to expansion and expansion.
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  SPEAKER_00: connecting with yourself.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now for a note on Stockholm syndrome in relation to jobs.
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  SPEAKER_00: Someone recently told me that they noticed that there are a lot of people that will
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  SPEAKER_00: stay in jobs because of the perks that they get from that job.
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  SPEAKER_00: When they told me this,
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  SPEAKER_00: they gave me the example of someone who worked for a private jet company who was
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  SPEAKER_00: flying private regularly.
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  SPEAKER_00: Another example that they gave were people who are celebrity adjacent.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I just want to remind everyone that as nice as some perks can be,
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  SPEAKER_00: the universe only shows us what we can have.
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  SPEAKER_00: So if you're experiencing something because of a job or because of another person,
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  SPEAKER_00: that is a form of you experiencing it.
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  SPEAKER_00: But if you're not directly providing it for yourself, although you could argue that you are providing
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  SPEAKER_00: Anyway,
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  SPEAKER_00: just know that your experience of it is the universe showing you that you could
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  SPEAKER_00: provide it for yourself.
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  SPEAKER_00: So it's up to you to take ownership in your own life and not stay somewhere if it's just for perks.
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  SPEAKER_00: Go elsewhere, move forward so you can give yourself those perks.
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  SPEAKER_00: The only person you're stuck with is you.
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  SPEAKER_00: Ta-da!
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  SPEAKER_00: And lastly, the question for the week.
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  SPEAKER_00: Have you ever been offended by someone else's curiosity?
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  SPEAKER_00: Or have you offended anyone with your curiosity?
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  SPEAKER_00: And what did you do when that happened?
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  SPEAKER_00: Think about it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Let me know.
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  SPEAKER_00: Email me if you'd like.
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  SPEAKER_00: SelfFriendshipPodcast at gmail.com.
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  SPEAKER_00: And loving reminder, Planet Butter, party of one, self-friendship in action.
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  SPEAKER_00: The updated art looks incredible and is officially updated on Amazon KDP.
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  SPEAKER_00: You can access it at the link in my Instagram bio.
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  SPEAKER_00: Planet Butter, P-L-A-N-I-T, the I is for individualism.
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  SPEAKER_00: and the hard copies will still be available so soon on planet butter.com i'm super
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  SPEAKER_00: excited and i hope you guys are too the updated art is seriously like i'm so proud
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  SPEAKER_00: of it it's so fucking cool the world really comes to life there's so much sparkling
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  SPEAKER_00: nut butter volcanoes everywhere and other cool stuff make sure you check it out and
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  SPEAKER_00: i will see you guys next week