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Is there anyone that a narcissist will listen to? · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  What is going on? Beautiful people?
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  So today we're going to be answering the question, is there
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  anyone that a narcissist will listen to or respect?
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  If you new here my name. Is Lee Hammock I'm a diagnosed
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  narcissist and welcome to another episode of The
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  Narcissist Code. So boom.
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  Welcome back, folks, welcome back, welcome back.
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  Welcome back. Yes, yes, yes.
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  Is there? Anybody that a?
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  Narcissist will listen to Is there anybody that a narcissist
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  respects enough to pay attention to, to take guidance from?
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  And that's the question of today.
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  Isn't it? That's so many.
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  That's yeah. So many people ask me this.
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  Question because. It's like almost asking me, do
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  narcissists have role models? Like is there anybody in a
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  narcissist's life that they look up to they that they will
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  respect the opinion of? And the answer the.
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  Answer to. That question is going to be
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  it's not even. Complicated.
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  It it really depends. There are some narcissists.
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  Out here. That you cannot.
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  There's nobody on this planet they can.
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  Reach through to them. You know what?
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  I. Mean there, you know, there's
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  nobody on this planet. They can get through to them
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  like there's nobody. On this planet that carries
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  enough weight that they respect enough to listen to, there's no
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  one the president, the vice president, the the joint chief
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  of. Staffs, the attorney General,
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  the Mama, the daddy. There is.
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  No one. It's really it's pretty much in
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  a narcissist mind. It's.
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  Them against the. World.
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  It's me against the world, and there's no one on this planet.
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  That I can trust. You mean there's no one on this
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  planet that they will listen to and there's no and there's not
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  me being disrespectful? To you.
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  Or anybody. That's else is in a narcissist
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  life, it's just. The truth like there's no one
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  that they will listen to, that they respect enough.
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  To value the opinion of to just like try to.
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  Balance anything out, it's my way.
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  Or the highway with anybody that's involved in my life.
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  And that's typically. How narcissists feel like.
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  Very rarely are they going to value anybody else's perspective
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  or listen to anybody else, or listen what anybody else has to
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  say. Very rarely will that.
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  Ever. Happen.
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  So that's why I was just saying it's so tough.
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  When you're married to a person like this or you're engaged to a
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  person like this, or this is your parent, like it's, it sucks
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  when you have the narcissist in your life.
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  That nobody can reach out to nobody.
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  That they will. Listen to anybody.
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  You know, and and and as they. Climb I.
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  Feel like this is more true? As they climb the financial
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  ladder or the ladder in the business or in the world or
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  whatever the world of popularity, the popularity and
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  fame and fortune and things like that, the more.
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  Famous. And the more power that they
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  have, the less that they're all going to listen to anybody.
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  There are certain narcissists that have to be or have to feel
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  like that they are the smartest person in the room.
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  Like I'm the smartest person in this room.
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  I'm the most valuable person in this room.
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  I'm the most valuable person on the planet.
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  So there's no one that I will listen to.
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  And these are the these are the narcissists, right?
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  They have like the cult like followings like they have like a
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  cult like following and they like not only do.
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  I not. Listen to anybody else.
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  Everybody else. Values my opinion.
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  Above anybody else's because I. Have money?
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  Fame, popularity, power, whatever it is.
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  No matter even if I don't have education in that.
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  Sector people are going to respect what I say and listen to
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  what I say because I sound smart because they just you know,
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  sometimes they sometimes they're just brainwashed, sometimes
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  they're plebeians, sometimes they're just, you know, being
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  real, not people, just stupid, you know, and we'll just.
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  Listen to people who don't have any.
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  Experience or expertise in any in a certain type of area.
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  But narcissists love that type of power, y'all.
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  And. That's just.
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  Me keeping it hot and ready like a Little Caesar's pizza.
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  Which you're right, but those are the narcissists that are
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  extremely tough to deal with because you if they.
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  If they don't. Listen to anybody.
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  They think that they're. Above the law.
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  They think that they're. Above above above reproach.
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  They think that. They're like, there's nobody on
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  this planet they can tell them. What to do?
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  So you. Have this type of narcissist,
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  this type of narcissist that damn it.
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  Might be a psychopath because if.
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  They think they're above the law and there's nobody.
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  That they respect or listen to. They yeah, they will just do
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  whatever they want to. They'll put their hands on you,
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  they'll try to take your life. They will try to control you,
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  abuse you. They don't care because.
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  They think that they're above everybody else.
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  So in this case right here in the.
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  First case that there's in this this type of narcissist did.
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  They. No, there's the answer to the
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  very first question. Is there anybody that narcissist
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  will listen to or? Respect.
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  The answer to that question will be no, there's nobody.
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  Listen to or. Respect.
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  But on the other side of the dynamic.
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  There could be certain people. In a narcissist's life, that
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  they. Actually respect it.
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  Might, might, might. Listen to it might listen to
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  him, but like. This is the.
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  Very rare narcissist because like, there are some
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  narcissists, right? If they're.
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  Trying to climb the financial ladder as they're trying to
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  climb the ladder of success. And you know, the, the company,
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  the power in the company or the power in the country or
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  whatever. They might actually have people
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  that they mirror, you know, people that they mirror and
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  might take advice from, you know, have you heard you, have
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  you ever heard the saying don't take advice from somebody whose
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  lifestyle you wouldn't want to live?
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  That's how narcissists do. You know, it's just like if you
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  don't have. The lifestyle.
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  I want I'm not going to listen to you at all.
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  To hell with you. If you don't.
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  Have the lifestyle that I want or value or you don't like.
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  I'm not going to listen to you at all.
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  Even if this. Person is successful.
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  You know what I'm saying? It's wild how it works but.
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  There are some narcissists that do find people in.
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  Their life that they look up to and that they mirror, you know?
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  It's it's looking. Up to them like a narcissist has
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  a role model. They are jealous of them, the
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  not, not. The person being jealous.
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  Of the narcissist man. It could happen, but the
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  narcissist is jealous of the other person in this scenario.
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  Right the. Narcissist is jealous of the
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  people that they're dealing with.
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  The the the narcissist in this scenario is jealous of hell, who
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  they're dealing with, who they're battling.
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  You mean who they're mirroring Like they're jealous of the
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  person they're mirroring. They're jealous and want.
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  The life and. Envious of the person who their
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  Who is their? Role model Who has more than who
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  has more? Than what they have.
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  This is true y'all, and this is just one of the factual things
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  when you're dealing with narcissist.
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  This is one of the things that tend to be true right here.
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  They are absolutely jealous and resentful of the people.
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  That have more than what they. Have so you have to be very
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  careful and very, you know, strategic and dealing with this
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  type of narcissistic person because like it's very rare.
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  That you. You.
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  You. You.
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  Have the power to convince a narcissist to go to therapy to
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  convince a narcissist that they need to work on themselves for
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  in for some reason. You know what I'm saying?
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  It's very rare that you possess that type of power.
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  I'm not. Saying it's impossible, I'm
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  just. Saying it's rare, it's very rare
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  that you possess this type of power to help or assist with a
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  narcissist, right? So you have to find this balance
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  in your own life to deal with this type of people if they're
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  not going to listen to you or value your opinion.
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  They might have someone in their life that they do.
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  Value their opinion of somebody. In in these situations, they
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  could value. The opinion or the voice of
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  their parent, right or. One or both of their.
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  Parents. Typically it's the.
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  Parent It could be the parent the.
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  Who? Neglected them, the parent whose
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  validation that they've been. Seeking for most of their.
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  Life if they don't hate that parent, they're trying.
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  To get the respect of that parent.
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  You see what I'm saying? They're trying to.
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  Get the respect. Of.
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  That parent instead of like I said.
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  So they might listen to that that parent might be able to.
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  Breakthrough to them, but typically the.
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  Parent that neglected them. Is a narcissistic person
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  themselves. It's toxic.
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  Themselves so it's hard for you to even.
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  Try to breakthrough. To this narcissistic parent.
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  To get that narcissistic child to do what you want them to do.
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  You know what I'm saying? To help.
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  You out. It's hard in this.
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  Space as well. It's very, I know.
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  It's very. Difficult to deal with a person
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  who's not trying to listen to you at all.
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  It's very difficult to try to find balance or happiness with a
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  person who's trying to battle against you consistently.
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  Who's in a constant battle with you?
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  Who's trying to constantly and consistently put you down?
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  This is how it works. I know it's sad as hell to hear,
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  but this is typically. How it works when you're trying
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  to deal? With a narcissistic person.
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  They don't want to hear, you know what you're saying.
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  They don't want to hear from you.
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  They don't want to know what you have going on in life.
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  They are just typically trying to mess with you and trying to
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  just get inside of your head. They want to control every type
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  of person. They want to control every
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  person around them. They want to try to take the
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  power from every person that is around them.
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  So if I, if I'm, if my mindset is on power and control, if you
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  don't have power and control, why would I listen to you?
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  And I know. I know that sounds foul or
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  unfair. But why would I listen to you if
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  you don't have the power or control that I'm seeking?
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  If you don't have the ability to get that power.
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  In control. Why would I listen to you?
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  At all but. Yeah, I know it sounds mean.
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  But like. This is the.
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  Mind of a narcissist. Y'all narcissists?
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  Are not going to try to be nice to you.
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  Unless they're trying to get something from you.
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  If there's. If they can find something that
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  they can get from you, yeah, they might be nice to you.
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  But most times they're not going to be, they're not going to be
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  nice to you because there's no point in being nice to you.
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  There's there's nothing that I can get from you.
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  As long if it serves me, yes. I want something from you, but
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  there's some people, like I said, in certain situations
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  there might be a person who can get through to the narcissist.
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  It might be one of their best friend.
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  It doesn't have to be a parent, it could be.
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  Their best friend or their boss or there's somebody that they're
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  jealous of that. Or that that they are.
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  Mirroring You know, if you notice that the narcissist in
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  your life is mirroring a certain person, that person, they might
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  listen to that person that. They can, might, can guide them.
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  In a certain direction, but very rarely doesn't happen y'all?
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  And this is not me trying to give you all hope, this is me.
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  Me trying to just make you more. Observe it like you might make
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  you make you more observative of their narcissist in your life.
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  This view how they view other people in their life, how they
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  talk about certain people. You see?
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  What I'm saying? How they talk about certain
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  people, how they talk about their parents, how they talk.
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  About their friends, how they talk about you, you see what I'm
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  saying? How to talk to you about you
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  because it can help you in these situations.
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  It can help you in the scenarios to kind of.
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